What’s going on guys?
Today I have a very special video for you.
I put a lot of thought into it and cover a ton of ground when it comes to texting your ex girlfriend.
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Hey guys I got this mystery box in the mail today and I thought I’d go through some of the items to see whats in here. Hmmm, Loofah. Rubber ducky. Oh wow, Three secret texts that you can send to your ex girlfriend that she can’t resist. Let’s begin.
So I’d like to start off today’s video by talking about the purpose of text messaging your ex girlfriend. Take a look to my left here.
This is what I like to call the value chain. This is your overall strategy to get your ex girlfriend back. The number 2 part after the no contact rule is texting and after text messaging is phone calls. Basically we are trying to move from no contact rule to text messages to phone calls.
What is the purpose of text messaging? The purpose of text messaging is simply to build attraction. The second purpose is to move from text messaging portion to phone call portion. Basically transitioning. Now how do you go about doing that?
I’m going to try to keep this as simple as possible for you. You have two goals with text messaging. Number one: Build as much attraction as possible. Number 2: transition from the text messaging phase to the phone call phase.
Ok so now that you have a firm grasp on the goal of text messaging. I’d like to talk about the ideal conversation you’d like to have with her. In a perfect world, what would a conversation look like if things are working.
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Let’s pretend that I’m your ex girlfriend and I’m going to text message you. “Oh Hi Baby.”
“Ugghhh, god that scared the crap out me.”
Anyways the ideal texting conversation with your ex girlfriend is relatively simple. Here is a few of the guidelines I want you to follow. There should be a 50/50 split on who should starts the conversation. You should start the conversation one day and then she should another day. Your a man so theres this idea that women have that you have to initiate things. And that’s ok. I’m going to allow you some leniency here. It’s kind of impossible 100% of the time to have an exact 50/50 split. But get as close as you can to it.
The second guideline I want you to follow is the fact that you need to be ending the conversations first. Now my recommendation is not to just end conversations whenever you want. Try to find the high point of that conversation. The point in the conversation where you think in your mind, wow I don’t want this to end. Well the second you think that thought, it’s pretty much the high point of the conversation where you end the conversation.
And finally the third guideline that you need to follow is build attraction. Build as much attraction as possible. But don’t do it all at once. Take your time with it. Slow and steady wins the race. Tortoise and the hare.
Alright I’ve never tried something like this before. And now I’m going to give it a shot.
And now we’ve reached the moment you’ve all been waiting for. The 3 secret text messages you can send to your ex girlfriend to drive her crazy. Yeaaaah.
Dude Chris that was lame.
Hey don’t judge.
Alright we’ve reached the moment where we will be talking about the three secret text messages that you can send to your ex girlfriend.
But really the three text messages fall into three phases of text messaging. Basically with one phase you get first secret text message, with the second text message you get the second secret text message, and finally as I’m sure you know with the third phase you will get the third secret text message.
Phase one: Building rapport
Ok so maybe that’s not the best example of building rapport. So here we go, so when it comes to building rapport of this entire phase the name of the game is to go slow. Basically get back on speaking terms with your ex.
Think of it like this, image you were going to meet a girl for the first time today. Well you wouldn’t ask her to marry you first, would you. No, you would kind of build up to it. You would start off slow and slowly speed up until enough attraction is build up to ask her to marry you. Same principle applies here.
To retract your ex girlfriend that probably isn’t thinking to highly of you at the moment you need to start slow and build rapport. The name of the game is not to go from 0-60 right off the bat. Again go slow. Let me give you an example of a secret text message that works wonders in the rapport building stage.
So take a look at this text message to my left
This is what I’d consider to be a perfect rapport building message. Notice that you stay away from talking about the relationship which is really important not to talk about your previous relationship if you don’t want to bring up any of those bad feelings but at the same time that text message is interesting. And it’s highlighted by a tactic I’d like to call pairing. When you pair a picture up with the text. Try it, pictures are incredible. And what’s even better than pictures? Videos.
Now I’m going to tell you a funny story. Pretty much the moment when I communicated with my wife for the first time, I knew she was definitely different than the rest. There was something about her but at the same time I knew she was a really beautiful woman.
And in order to get her I wouldn’t be able to use the normal “game tactics” that I usually used.
So lets say I opted to do something different to stand out from the crowd. So instead of sending her a generic text message the very first time I texted her, I sent her a video. The video was simple there was nothing to it. It was just me introducing myself saying “Hey I’m Chris Seiter” at a kitchen table at breakfast. There’s nothing to it but no one does that. When your competition zigs you need to zag. That’s the name of the game.
Phase Two: Attraction building Phase
We’re talking about the attraction phase here so lets just get right to it. The name of the game is to build attraction with your ex through text messages. So how do you do that? Well the first part is to emphasize the positive parts of your previous relationship. And anything negative you do not want to talk about. Anything positive you do. The only kind of advice I’m going to give you here is to not bring sex into it. Just keep it PG13.
Now building attraction there’s a lot of ways to do it but I’m just going to give you my favorite way and I like to call this the story telling method. Have you every noticed when someone tells an amazing story it just draws you in? Think of your favorite TV shows, Game Of Thrones for example. Have you ever noticed when something shocking happens or your really into the story you cannot wait to see the next episode. Binge watching on Netflix is really popular for this. The idea behind Netflix releasing every single episode at once like House of Cards or any of the other original series is that viewers like to binge watch. When they really get into a show they watch one episode after the other after the other.
Well, I want you to do something similar with your ex. I want you to build attraction like that. Treat every interaction that you have with him through text messages like a TV show.
End on a good note…
End on a cliffhanger…
Leave open loops…
Do everything you can to be mysterious or make her want more. That’s the name of the game. So I am going to teach you a text message right now that can accomplish this.
I want you to take a minute to look at the text message to my right here. This is a perfect example of something I like to call a funny text message. Basically the premise of this text message, even though it may not look like it right here, is to be funny.
But it’s going to tell a story through multiple texts and you will notice that I started the text here with an imaginary girl and the story is not over yet. You’ll notice that in the middle of the story I sent a text message that said,
“Hey are you still with me?”
This is what I like to call the check in text message. One of the big problems of telling a story though text is that you can kind of lose the girl if she is not really engaged.
So this check in text message, sort of saying,
“Hey are you still with me?”
Is check to see if she’s still listening or to keep her engaged. So the story goes that I had a friend and his girlfriend and him tricked me into thinking they were doing it when they really weren’t. That story may not be complete in there because I didn’t have enough room but the idea here is to continue the story.
Build attraction through this. Interest her.
Interest = Attraction
Always remember that.
Phase Three: Transition Text
There are a ton of positive aspects about text messaging but there are also some limiting aspects. For example, attraction can only be built so far via text messages. Which is why I recommend that eventually you will have to move from text messages to phone calls.
So when that inevitable time comes how do you do it?
Well that’s when I like to use the transition text message which just so happens to be our third secret text message!
This is a really easy text message to grasp.
Basically you are going to tell a story so interesting that it has to be finished over the phone and much like the story method that I was teaching you in the previous phase, the attraction phase, you want to build a story that is so interesting that she will have no choice but to finish it on the phone.
So you need to understand her interests.
What does she like?
What are some of the things that she will love to talk about?
For my wife it would be hot air balloons and Paris.
So lets pretend that I’m talking to my wife and I sent her this text message,
Notice how hot air balloons and Paris are mentioned in it. And then also notice how I stopped midway through telling the story and said,
Hey, do you want to finish this over the phone?
This is an ideal text message to send because it acts as a test to see if your ex girlfriend is ready to transition to the next phase of attraction building, phone calls or if she’s just comfortable texting.
In that case you still have more attraction to build.
And that’s it… That is the transition text message.