Is Your Ex Girlfriend Playing Mind Games With You? Let’s Find Out!

I have been doing this for half a decade now and have pretty much seen it all.

But I bet you have not seen a Guide as extensive as this one you are about to read.

It is all about how your ex girlfriend might be playing mind games on you. Have you become your ex girlfriend’s tool that she can grab a hold of and turn as she pleases?

And do you know something?

When your ex is playing mind games, she can tap into a wide range of emotions.

You can become her play thing, like putty in her hands.

Your Ex’s Mind Games Are Designed To Tap Into:

The Love you have for your ex which triggers you insatiable desire to get her back

The Lust that pours out of you for having her in your arms again is all you can think of

The Anger that rages inside you and only she can put out that flame

The Heartache that brings you to your knees which is where she wants you to be right now

The Cheating which is the thing you are deeply afraid she might do while the two of your are on the out.

The Loyalty which is that good place she knows she can go to to elicit the right response from you.

The loud Yelling  which is your ex girlfriend’s way to let you know you crossed the line.

And of course the Tears that can fall so easily when she calls upon her that vulnerable place.

The list goes on and on.

Heck, I dare you to come up with a situation that I haven’t seen.

Seriously, in the comments section let me know if you think you have a mind game situation that I have never seen when it comes to breakups.

My Definition of Ex Girlfriend Mind Games As Practiced By the Craftiest Girls Out There!

One of the most prevalent things that I have been seeing lately are men whose ex girlfriends are playing mind games on them.

Now, what is a mind game?

Is it some kind of physchological warfare that your ex girlfriend wages on you to keep the upper hand?

Would you desribe it as a way in which your ex girlfriend can win you over, whether you want her back or not?

Could it be when your ex pulls the rug out from under you largely for sport or the thrill of getting you back?

What about those times when you are literally at your ex girlfriend’s mercy.  Your ex has you eating out of her hands.

Well, for the purposes of this article we are going to first give you a very scholarly definition of a MIND GAME:

Mind Games: a largely conscious struggle for psychological one-upmanship, often employing passive–aggressive behavior to specifically demoralize or empower the thinking subject, making the aggressor look superior; also referred to as “power games”.


Now Are You Ready For the Regular Guy’s Definition of Girlfriend Mind Games!

  • It’s when your girlfriend has this special gift of keeping you off balance.  You may think you have the upper hand, only later to realize she has been gaming you the whole time.  And the crazy thing about it, you might actually admire her for her cleverness.


  • You know when you have been played by your ex girlfriend when she maneuvers you to a place where you are ready to beg and plead.


  • She becomes your master in those situations that are important to her.  While you may hate to admit it , it can happen and when it does, not only does your ex gets her way; she will have you crawling back, begging for forgiveness.


  • Another way your ex girlfriend is getting up inside your head is when she tells you things that you know you don’t want to do, but guess what –  you do it anyway because you are looking to please her.


  • Her Mind Games can have a devious slant to them.  So be careful, because if your ex girlfriend is really mad and upset with you, she might just leave you twisting in the wind.  And you may never see it coming.

What Are Your Ex Girlfriend’s Tricks of the Trade?

I want to pick apart the different types of mind games that your ex girlfriend is playing on you.

But it wouldn’t be very fun if I did what everyone else out there did.

You see, when I was coming up with the concept of this article I decided to do some research to see what my peers had already written about regarding the games your girlfriend might be playing.

I was not impressed.

Sure they talk about it, but they don’t really get into the nitty gritty of what she is up to and why she is screwing with your head.

It won’t serve you just to know the different head games your ex girlfriend might choose to play on you.  You need to learn why she is pulling these strings to mess with you.

I don’t want you to sit there and let her get her way.  What fun is that!

I am going to teach you her favorite mind game tricks.

Indeed, if you learn them well, you can spring them on her.

Getting Ahead of Those Games Your Girlfriend Might Be Playing

You need to not only recognize the psychological tactics she is employing so you can not just counter them, but if you can’t recognize that your ex girlfriend is climbing into your head, you leave yourself vulnerable for future attacks – possibly even more sophisticated game playing to leave you vulnerable to her clever tactics.

You don’t want to be the guy whose girl has you wrapped  around her finger.

You don’t want to be your ex girlfriend’s play thing do you.

Nope, that is not what you want at all.  You need to get into the game and come up with your on plays.

I have an entire Guide Book that deals with how you deal with whatever your ex throws at you.

How To Counter Your Ex Girlfriend’s Best Laid Plans!

Of course, I am assuming you want your ex girlfriend back and are willing to learn some tricks of the the ex recovery trade to win her over.

You wouldn’t be here, unless you had fallen prey to some clever scheme your ex girlfriend came up with.

Don’t Let Your Ex Turn You Into a Head Job!

One of the things that I like to do before I write any article is get in the same mindset as the people who will be reading it.

And the more I do this for you with this article, the more I feel that you would want to strip back those mind games your ex girlfriend is playing on you and break it down to its core components.

You stand a lot better chance of warding off her clever games, if you can see them coming.

But you have to be able to recognize all of the mind game ploys available to your ex.

Learn The Critical Strategies That Will Help You Get Her Back 

Chances are she may have learned to play them with great effect on you.

Which is something a lot of my peers out there failed to create.

Yes, they had created an article around mind games (some of them were even kind enough to list those mind games out.

But the mind games they talked about had nothing to do with exes.

They were just broad and general references to obvious things. And that’s probably not very interesting to you.

No, what you probably want is for someone to create something that covers the major mind games an ex girlfriend will play on you after a breakup.

And that’s where this article comes in!

I have spent countless hours studying all the mind games I have seen ex girlfriend play and have compiled that list for you below.

But like I said, I don’t want to be like my peers.

I want to go above and beyond.

So, instead of just telling you,

Hey, this is a mind game your ex girlfriend could be potentially playing on you

(Which if I am being honest is kind of easy and a little boring)

I figured I would make things a bit more interesting by dividing this article up into two parts,

PART ONE: Defining The Mind Game Tactics As Played by Some of the Craftiest Girls Out there

PART TWO: Explaining Why Your Ex Girlfriend Chose To Get Inside Your Head

In other words, I don’t just want to define “the mind game.”

I want to go way beyond that. I want to get into the “why?” and explain what she’s trying to accomplish by trying to get inside your head.

You see, the clever ladies know how to climb inside your head.  It’s not just that they know how to play you. The really accomplished girls out there know what turns you on and off and that my friend is the ultimate in Girlfriend Mind Games!

Oh, and as you may find out once we start really diving into some of her crafty mind games, it can rise to a sport.

She may not even be trying to accomplish anything. She could be doing it just because she can. And if your girlfriend plays you well, you will fall under her spell.

In fact sometimes I know I am getting played.  I sit back and watch her do her thing and marvel at her sheer brilliance.

(Women can be weird that way and so to are some of guys)

So, here’s how this article is going to function from this point on.

First I am going to list out all of the mind games that we are going to cover in this article and then after that I am going to start defining each individual “mind game” she might play to turn you into a head job.

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Of course, like I mentioned above that’s where most people end the article. But I want to explain the “why” behind why the mind game was played so immediately after defining the mind game I am going to explain what your ex girlfriend is trying to accomplish by playing that mind game.

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The idea here is that you gain a better understanding as to what is going on in her head.

Let’s get started!

Here Are The Mind Games Your Ex Girlfriend Will Play On You

I’m not going to lie to you.

What I am about to show you may be a little hard for you to digest.

However, I promise you that I am going to do everything in my power to make sure that in about twenty minutes or so you walk away from this article with a much better understanding as to what’s going on in your ex girlfriends mind.

So… mind games.

Let’s talk a bit about that.

Currently I have identified a total of 11 mind games that an ex girlfriend may play on you after a breakup.

They are as follows,

  1. Stringing You Along On Purpose
  2. Hot & Cold
  3. Friends With Benefits
  4. The Spy
  5. Trying To Make You Jealous
  6. Never Texting You First
  7. Ignoring You On Purpose
  8. The “Accidental” Text
  9. Acting Sad Or Depressed To Get Attention
  10. On Again/Off Again ON PURPOSE
  11. Staring At You Without Actually Saying Anything

Ya…. I really want this to be comprehensive so I am going out of my way to make sure that all of our bases are covered.

Let’s take this from the top!

Mind Game #1: Stringing You Along On Purpose

What does this look like?  What is going on when your ex girlfriend is stringing you along with a purpose in mind?  What is she up to?

Well, let’s pretend that we have two imaginary people who just went through a breakup together.

Let’s call them…..

Bob and Christina!

Oh, and let’s just pretend that Bob is my identical twin and Christina is my wife’s identical twin,

bob christina

So, what would happen if Christina was stringing “Bob” along.

Well, one thing that you have to realize is that a breakup has first occurred between Christina and Bob. Only after this breakup has Christina started “stringing Bob along” by bringing up old memories and hinting at the fact that Bob may still have a chance with her.

The truth is… he doesn’t.

But why would Christina do this?

Why This Mind Game Was Played

Breakups are among the worst things that a human being can go through in their personal lives. So, as a way to cope we can sometimes string our exes along knowing full well it’s what we intended to do all along.

It’s not hard to see the benefits.

Take Bob and Christina as an example.

During their time in a relationship there were certain routines that they both got used to and now that they are broken up those routines are gone.

Christina misses those routines.

She misses talking to Bob about her day and having someone be very caring.

So, in order to get those things back without a commitment being involved she resolves herself to string Bob along.

In other words, if she makes him believe that there are feelings still there he is going to remain interested and provide her emotional support.

It reminds me of that hilarious How I Met Your Mother episode that revolved around the phrase “right now.”

Tell me if this clip brings up any memories for you,

If you didn’t have the patient to watch the clip then allow me to expand a bit on whats going on.

Ted Mosby (the main character of How I Met Your Mother) falls for Carrie Underwood (who guest stars as some blonde bimbo.) And as a way of winning her over he does all these nice things for her.

Of course, when push comes to shove Carrie Underwood tells Ted Mosby that,

She’s just not into him…. “RIGHT NOW.”

Essentially leaving the door open for something to happen in the future.

This is the same thing as stringing Ted along because ultimately she wants him to keep doing all of these nice things for her without getting a commitment as a result.

She gives him a little hope and that’s all it takes for him to continue doing all these nice things.

The same principle applies here to why your ex girlfriend would string you along.

Let’s move on to the next mind game women tend to play on men,

Mind Game #2: She Is Hot & Cold With You

I feel like this is the one “mind game” that you probably want to hear about.

But before we get into the “why” we must first examine the “what.”

So, what does it mean when your ex girlfriend is hot and cold with you?

Well, for this purposes of this article we are going to use a method I designed to make determining “hot and cold” very easy.

It’s called…

The Actions Vs. Words Theory: In order to determine what a person really wants or means you must first look at their words and compare what they say to their actions (what they do.)

Think of it like this.

If your ex girlfriend is being “hot and cold” with you then her words and actions won’t match.

I’ll give you an example.

Let’s pretend that your ex sends you this text message,

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Getting a message like this would make you think that your ex girlfriend is starting to miss you again, right?

And it’s definitely a step in the right direction if you are trying to get her back.


Your exes actions don’t really back that up.

Whenever you see her in person she doesn’t act like someone who is really starting to miss you.

She doesn’t run up and hug you.

She doesn’t flirt…

Hell, she doesn’t even talk to you in person.

She is very standoffish and it’s confusing you.

She’s hot one moment (telling you that she misses you) and cold the next (not even talking to you in person.)

And all you have to really do to determine this is to look at what she says (her words) and see if they align with her actions.

But what are some examples of hot and cold mind games that an ex girlfriend may play on you?

  • Agreeing to a date with you and then at the last minute she cancels on you
  • She says that she misses you but her actions don’t exactly back that up
  • She gives off sign like she wants you back but when it comes down to it she refuses to commit
  • She will tell you that she isn’t ready for a relationship but she keeps acting like she is with you
  • You go on a date with her and things go well (hugging, kissing, etc) and then the next day she completely ignores you

Why Your Ex Girlfriend Is Hot & Cold

Notice how in most of the examples I gave you above the mixed signal started out with words or actions that were hot and then ended with words or actions that were cold.

I feel like this is an important phenomenon to understand because more than anything you are wondering why she acted “hot” with you in the first place.

As an ex boyfriend of hers I don’t think you can have any trouble understanding why she acted cold with you.

Your exes and exes fight.

It’s a law of nature, right?

But why would she act “hot.”

Could it actually mean for a moment that she wanted you back or that she was remembering a good time that you had together?


Let’s get scientific for a moment.

When your ex girlfriend remembers your past relationship together she probably remembers it as culmination of all the ups and downs, right?


Actually no.

Have you ever heard of the “peak-end rule?”

The Peak-End Rule: Is a psychological theory that basically states that human beings remember an experience based largely how they felt at it’s peak and at it’s end. This bucks the popular belief that human beings remember an experience based on the total sum of all of it’s parts.

So, in the case of an ex girlfriend who gives you mixed signals in the form of a hot and cold action I think you can turn to the peak-end rule to describe why it happens.

Take a look at the graph below,

Ex Girlfriend Graph

Let’s pretend this is the sum of how your ex girlfriend felt throughout your relationship.

According to the “peak-end rule” when she remembers your relationship she is going to remember it by two points,

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The peak… and the end…

So, what I think is happening when your ex girlfriend is hot and cold towards you is that she begins to remember the peak of your relationship and it makes her feel good.

So good in fact that she is willing to reach out to you in a positive way or embark on some action that makes you think that she is into you again.

Of course, eventually as time goes on she remembers that end.

And as you can see from the graph above the end wasn’t so pretty.

And that’s where the cold words or actions come into play.

Mind Game #3: Friends With Benefits

It sounds like a dream to you, right?

Sex without strings…

Except here’s the deal, it’s almost impossible not to attach strings to sex. I mean, it’s essentially the most intimate thing that a woman can give you. Now, before you get on my case about the fact that it’s extremely rare for a woman to initiate a friends with benefits type of relationship let me just tell you this one thing.

More people have sex with their exes than you would think.

I mean, if you were to sit me in a room, hold a gun to my head and say,

Chris, you need to guess a percentage of people who sleep with their ex after a breakup

Chances are that I would throw out some low percentage like 10 or 12 percent.

Would you like to know, on average, how many people sleep with an ex after a breakup?

Well, according to a recent poll conducted by the Associated Press,

36% of people admitted to having sex with their ex after a breakup


That’s a lot of people!

Now, why am I throwing statistics out at you?

Well, I want you to understand that women can enter into a friends with benefits type of relationship too. It isn’t just men. Keep that in mind because it’s going to be an important concept to grasp later on when we start talking about why your ex will enter one with you.

For now, let’s define what I mean when I talk about “friends with benefits.”

Friends With Benefits: Simply means that you and your ex girlfriend are having sex outside of being in a relationship. In other words, you are f*ck buddies.

Now, the thing I want you to understand is that when it comes to FWB it isn’t a one time thing.

In other words, you aren’t having sex just one time and then never talking to each other again (that’s a one night stand.) A friends with benefits scenario is one that is ongoing where you are continually having sex.

But let’s dive deeper and try to understand why an ex girlfriend would even want to enter into a FWB relationship with you.

Why Your Ex Girlfriend Is Playing Friends With Benefits On You

Do you remember that thing we talked about above?

You remember it…

It’s a little thing called “The Peak-End Rule.” Well, turns out that it’s applicable to friends with benefits too.

Look, when I was doing my research on this there was one thing that continually kept bugging me.

Your situation is different than the average guys out there.


Well, oftentimes when research is done on friends with benefits people are assuming that you hadn’t dated that person before.

That’s a problem for you because you have dated your ex girlfriend before and you have probably had sex with her.

But should that change things?

Absolutely, friends with benefits will probably have a little more meaning for your situation than for another situation.

Now, with that being said I want to be upfront and honest with you.

The odds aren’t in your favor of having things work out. Statistics do say that more often than not a FWB relationship will end disastrously.

But that’s not what we are here to get into. No, we are here to look at why they even happen. What compels your ex girlfriend to want to sleep with you after a breakup and then continue doing it.

Well, I think it has to do with the peak-end rule again.

Think of it in these terms.

Your ex girlfriend starts remembering your relationship and she starts remember how she felt during the peak of the relationship,

Ex Girlfriend Graph

It makes her feel good. So good in fact, that she wants to feel that way again.

It’s easy to see how she can sleep with you then, right?

But there’s a problem.

A little while after she does “the act” with you she starts remembering the end of the relationship and how nasty you were to each other,

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It scares her…

So much in fact, that she won’t commit to you.

But here is where things get really interesting.

Do you remember what I said about how a friends with benefits scenario is one in which the two people continually sleep together.

Well, that’s when this viscous cycle starts over again.

She remembers the peak…

Sleeps with you…

Then remembers the end…

Won’t commit to you…

And then remember the peak again…

And this goes on and on until eventually it becomes boring to her or she works it out of her system.

In the end her main motivation for playing this mind game is the fact that she wants to feel good. She wants to feel like she did during the peak of your relationship again but she can’t ever seem to get there.

Mind Game #4: The Spy

To be honest with you I am not entirely sure that this is a “mind game” but I felt like it was important enough for me to include in this article because it is something that a lot of women will do after a breakup.

So, what is “The Spy?”

Great question!

Alright, let’s pretend that after the breakup with your ex you decide that you don’t want to remain friends with her on Facebook,


You no longer have those conversations that last into the night.

You aren’t her “go to” call anymore.

Hell, the two of you don’t even talk that much anymore.

After some time a curious thing starts to happen in your exes mind.

She has a singular thought,

“Hmm… I wonder what he is up to?”

This thought consumes her for days until it reaches a point where she has to find out what you are up to.

But what’s the best way that she can do that?

She isn’t your friend on Facebook anymore and since you keep everything pretty private she isn’t getting the exact “up to date” information that she desires.

Well, her best bet is to get a spy.

A Spy: In this context it is someone who your ex enlists to keep an eye on you and report what you are up to.

Generally the perfect spy for your ex is someone who knows you but is loyal to her.

In other words, a mutual friend.

Why Your Ex Girlfriend Would Even Enlist A Spy

Let’s look at the facts.

We know “for a fact” that close to 90% of people “Facebook Creep” their exes after a breakup. So, it’s not out of the realm of possibility that your ex girlfriend is very curious to see what you are up to after a breakup.

It’s just that the only thing that is really stopping her is the fact that she either isn’t friends with you or you have her blocked.

Thus, she goes to a mutual friend, who is friends with you, and asks that friend to report on your whereabouts.

But why?

What is her motivation for wanting to see what you are up to?

Well, I think it boils down to one big thing,


She is curious to see what you are up to.

There are probably 10 or 20 little questions swimming around in her mind that she is dying to find out.

Is he dating someone else?

Is he held up in his house like a hermit depressed from the breakup?

How active has he been on social media?

Is he acting like he misses me?

Curiosity is an amazing thing.

Let’s move on and talk about another mind game that women can play after a breakup.

Mind Game #5: Trying To Make You Jealous

If you are familiar with my brand, Ex Girlfriend Recovery, then you would know that in addition to running this website I also run another website, Ex Boyfriend Recovery . It’s essentially like this website except it’s aimed towards women.

On that website I run a pretty interesting podcast where I take calls from women and answer their questions.

Well, a few weeks ago a woman called in with a pretty interesting situation.

Her ex boyfriend basically broke up with her while she was pregnant with his child (kind of a di*k move in my opinion but I digress.) A few months later he was curious to see his child (after it was born) so he reached out to the girl,

meet him

To which she responds,

her response

Here’s the thing, she really didn’t have a date that night. She was lying and attempting to make her ex boyfriend jealous. If you are curious to watch/listen to the whole podcast episode I suggest you check out the video I recorded of it,

Here’s my point, it’s completely normal for an ex to try to make you jealous.

In fact, we have found that in a lot of our success stories jealousy plays a vital role in re-attraction.

But why?

Why would an ex girlfriend attempt to make you jealous?

Does it mean she want’s you back?

Does it mean she just wants to mess with you?

Why An Ex Girlfriend Will Try To Make You Jealous

It makes sense that an ex girlfriend who is trying to make you jealous probably still has feelings for you, right?

Personally, I think that is the case.

However, there are some rare occurrences where an ex girlfriend will attempt to make you jealous because she knows it’s going to hurt you.

Allow me to explain.

Imagine that you just went through a breakup with your ex because she found out that you were cheating on her. The minute she found out her heart broke.

Her view of you was completely shattered,

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In fact, it’s not a stretch to say that you hurt her more than any man has ever hurt her in her entire life.

Ah, now we can start to see a motivation for her trying to make you jealous.

So, in her pain and anger she decides that the best way to get back at you is to get another guy and to throw him in your face.

In other words, she actively wants to hurt you by making you jealous.

Now, it’s important to remember that this is pretty rare. Generally, you’ll find that most women who actively go out of their way to make you jealous are still harboring some feelings for you.

Mind Game #6: Never Texting You First

First off, I want to say that I am totally guilty of this.

Essentially what happens here is that after a breakup your ex girlfriend becomes so angry at you that she thinks to herself,

If he wants to talk to me then he is going to have to text me first.

Now, what purpose does this even serve?

Well, in order to grasp that you must first grasp the fact that texting is kind of like a chess match between two people. Especially when you are talking about relationships. One of the big things that I talk about in The Texting Bible is how when you are building rapport and attraction with someone you are looking for a 50/50 split.

What does that mean?

Well, a 50/50 split is essentially achieved when you text your ex first half the time and she texts you first half the time.

Subconsciously I feel like everyone understands this but they never verbalize it.

Why An Ex Girlfriend Would Play This “Mind Game” On You

I feel like I can bring a lot to the table here since this is something that I have actually done in my life.

In my case, I had just went through a breakup and I was pretty angry at my ex.

I remember thinking,

All throughout our relationship I was always the one that texted first. That is going to end right here, right now. I am going to make HER text me first.

And I did!

It took a total of three days before I got a text like this,

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You see, I felt like I was giving up some sort of power if I were to text her first.

I felt like I was putting in more effort and that’s why I didn’t want to be caught in that position.

The same exact thing is probably happening with your ex girlfriend. She is probably sitting there thinking,

I am going to be giving up some power if I text him first. I am going to make him text me first.

But not texting you first pails in comparison to this next mind game.

Mind Game #7: Ignoring You On Purpose

This one isn’t really hard to explain.

You text your ex girlfriend…

She ignores you…

You call her…

She ignores you…

You see her at school and wave to her…

She ignores you…

Does this sound familiar?

No doubt, I find that men who have an ex girlfriend ignore them start freaking out and think the world is ending.

If this is happening to you I want to assure you that the world isn’t ending.

Here, I’ll prove it.

I want you to stop everything you are doing and take a look out the window.

Does it look like this?



Then the world hasn’t ended yet.

Rest easy!

Why Your Ex Girlfriend Would Ignore You On Purpose?

Two reasons pop into my head almost immediately.

  1. She Is Angry
  2. Self Preservation

Let’s expand a bit.

She Is Angry

Anger is a powerful motivator for making someone ignore you completely.

Now, do you remember our findings on the “peak-end rule” above?

How human beings remember an experience based on the peak and the end of an experience. What has happened here is that for the time being the end of your relationship has overtaken the peak of your relationship.

In other words, instead of remembering the best part of your relationship together she is remembering the worst part (it’s end.)

Now, this is pretty normal for a woman who has just experienced a breakup.

Eventually I feel like the ship will right itself and she will start to reminisce on those peak moments but for a certain amount of time she is only remembering the end of the relationship.

Self Preservation

Do you know what self preservation is?

Self Preservation: The protection of oneself from harm or death, especially regarded as a basic instinct in human beings and animals.

What I am insinuating here is that she is ignoring you to protect herself.

Breakups hurt.

In fact, some would argue that they are among the most painful experiences in the world.

So, by preventing herself from talking to you she isn’t going to run the risk of being hurt by you again.

It’s a pretty simple concept to grasp.

Mind Game #8: The Accidental Text

There you are…

Minding your business when one day, all of a sudden, you get this text from your ex,


There’s just one problem…

Your name isn’t “Tony!”

It appears as if your ex girlfriend “accidentally” texted you instead of a person named Tony?

Or did she?

In my humble opinion, it’s very rare for people to accidentally text someone they didn’t mean to.

Can it happen?


Does that mean that it is happening to you?

Probably not.

I am a big believer in looking at the big picture. Sometimes when you look at the scope of a situation you can pick up on things a lot better. So, let’s do that for you.

  • You and your ex just went through a breakup
  • Assuming you use my advice you are probably using some form of the no contact rule
  • She probably reached out to you directly a few times and you ignored her
  • She then “accidentally” texts you something that is supposedly meant for someone else

Did she mean to do it?

Well, the stars look like they are aligned for her to.

So, let’s go out on a limb and say that she sent you this “accidental text” on purpose.


Why would she do that?

Why Your Ex Girlfriend Sent You An Accidental Text

Two thoughts immediately spring to mind.

  1. She is trying to get a reaction out of you
  2. She is embarrassed to talk to you directly

Let’s take a good look at each of these thoughts.

She Is Trying To Get A Reaction Out Of You

This one is especially likely if you are using some form of the no contact rule on her. No one likes being ignored and they will do some crazy things to get a reaction out of you if that’s the case.

I had one woman buy a man a $500 guitar just so he would respond to her.

That’s crazy!

But when you look at it in those terms an “accidental text” seems pretty light, right?

She Is Embarrassed To Talk To You Directly

Talking to an ex…

Trying to get one back…

These are things that are looked down upon by society.

I mean, you hear people saying things like,

“You should never get back with an ex.”

“There are more fish in the sea.”

“Once done, always done.”

It’s entirely possible that your ex girlfriend is embarrassed by the fact that she wants to talk to you. So, instead of reaching out to you directly she tries to accidentally do it so it seems more natural or acceptable if that makes any sense.


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Chris Seiter

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Me and my fiancé recently had a messy breakup. Try’s to make me jealous but the texts happy Easter and I don’t awnser and suddenly she had to get something from my house. Tell her I’m not home. She says let me know when you are please. The I say I’m w and she says that’s okngokng outnkf town can get it when j get back

I know u haven’t heard of this crazy s hit right here!!! Well my EX broke up with me to go with someone from her GED PROGRAM!!!! LOL!!!! Then she begged me to come back, she had the kids calling leaving messages and her twin brother!!! Ok ok I get back with her and she cheats again with him ,her and them some!!! But anyway so she was so mad that the I was seeing was wearing her wigs and shoes!!! She convinced the chick I was seeing to do a 3some with her and the chick from her GED… Read more »
So Amor,i have big news. Did i mention that i think she is gonna to meet me? Guess what, she came by the house, guess something more, she was not at her dad’s house, she was at her mom’s and her mom’s house is the second house next to ours. All that time she was near me that explains her daily raids on our house. So today her sis message me asking me when i plan to leave and that my ex-has nowhere to live (yeah right mom and dad are there for her) (her parents are not together) i… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
EGR Team Member: Amor

yeah, it looks like she’s just went there to check on you..

Hello Amor! So you probably know my story from the rebound relationship page. What i want to ask is that i think she wants to make me jealous or tickle me. So you know that she wants revenge on me cause i broke her heart after agreeing to continue she got out with another guy the day after and i found messages on her phone talking about sex,now after a week of trying to continue our relationship we fought and she went to her father house. So here we go. The next day she accidentally send me a message on… Read more »

A little reminder im 27 she is 25 and we are 7 years together. Broke up 15 days ago actually when she left house.

EGR Team Member: Amor
EGR Team Member: Amor

She can be making you jealous but you can’t feed that.. that’s why it’s better to move out but while you’re still living together be polite and indifferent and go out as much as you can.

Happy new year Amor i wish the best!!! So.She lives with her dad those 16 days but keeps coming to get her things one by one,i haven’t met her yet but I’m sure she plans to meet me “accidentally” and she came today again, took a bath took her perfume messed with my clothes (little girl thought i will not notice it but i laid traps everywhere im smarter than her) probably smelled them to see if there is a woman’s perfume on them, then left again. Now she could take her perfume the previous day and whatever she wants… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
EGR Team Member: Amor

Ok, if that’s a better option for you go ahead.. I think you know what to do coz you’re doing great..just take it as a restart after going back..dont ask her back, rebuild the relationship like you’re starting over as friends..

My ex girlfriend (3 years) broke up with me for another guy 7 months ago. Since then she has dated numerous guys, but she continually reaches out to me, says she misses me, is just checking on me, ideally she’d like to get back together or asks for help… . Then the following days she says to stay the fuck out of her life and away. So I’ve blocked her on all social media and on my phone… somehow though when I just updated my new phone, her number became unblocked after a month of no contact. At 6:05am yesterday,… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
EGR Team Member: Amor

It would be better not to assume and to just hear it from her directly


So I hadn’t respond yet as to which day worked for me to meet and talk…

She texted me saying she’s married. Seriously?? What’s my next move now?

EGR Team Member: Amor
EGR Team Member: Amor

assume she’s telling the truth, because if not, then that still means you have to move on.


Now she texts, ” I think I miss you. And I know that it’s not OK. Maybe because its Christmas. I don’t know”.

Is she playing mind games?

Now she says, “I think I miss you. And I know it’s not OK. Maybe because it’s Christmas. I don’t know.”

Is she playing mind games?


She just texted asking if I’m busy… I haven’t responded to her for 3 weeks now.

EGR Team Member: Amor
EGR Team Member: Amor

see her, so that you could talk to her properly..

I met my ex and really fold in love with her. Unfortunately I had some issues with immigration to fix my visa, and the stress put me aside her and she decided to end the relationship. I was really bad at first, then i try to get control again of my life and it changed. We were still on contact each other sometimes, and one day she told me she would reconciderate our breakup with time. So I tried again, but she doesn’t know what she wants. When we make one step forward, she make 2 backwards and we have… Read more »
She always taken me for granted, all my efforts for her was wasted, I gave up and we just broke up. I applied all your advises , and after One month and 1 week no contact rule, she just texted me saying that she miss me and she wants to win me back. I’m passive with my replies, Is so happen that we argued again with our past and she just told me that if ever she got a new relationship, she will treat it differently. She deactivated her facebook account right awat and I just found out that she… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
EGR Team Member: Amor
I broke up with my ex girlfriend over two years ago. We never lost contact. I still go to her CrossFit gym that she owns now. That’s where we met. I thought I was over her but she starting seeing somebody new and it hurt me bad. I didn’t take it well. I felt like a was free falling. We got together talked about it. Told her I how felt. She gave like a sad look but she also smirked Everytime I told her how much it bothered me. She told me that she wants to be friends and I… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Adrian,
Do you want to try the no contact rule?

Hi Have a question about my recent break up? Was in a 2.5 year “commuter” relationship (2hr distance). The break-up took place in April because she discovered an old inactive dating website. Since the discovery she immediately broke up with me (via text) and we had no contact for a week. I reached out after that week in efforts to explain that what she believed in was a huge misunderstanding but she didn’t want to hear anything or has been willing to understand. We still communicate basically everyday even though she dumped me. Most of our conversations are arguments over… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Nate,

Belated happy birthday! Do you want to try the no contact rule?


My ex Girlfriend of almost 2 years broke up with me as she felt like she was suffocated and wasn’t as happy being with me. I begged her to give me a chance to show her it’ll be different but she didn’t give in, she gave up and said she could not do it anymore. This happened 2 weeks ago. She texted me yesterday asking how I’ve been. I’ve yet to open the message and don’t intend to. Soon after she blocked me off social media. What is she trying to do?

EGR Team Member: Amor
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Sue,

She missed you, but that doesn’t means she wants you back.. Probably blocked you to see if you would react or to stop herself from checking your be active in improving yourself and in posting

Hi Me and my exgirlfriend broke up a couple of months ago in which she is also on a long distance relationship with another guy for 2 months. My girlfriend is 34 and I’m 36 and we’ve been living in together for almost 16 months before the break up. After the breakup, I still continue sending her messages, flowers and gifts which I think she liked as well. A couple of weeks ago, she invited me to accompany her to have her car checked and I agreed. After we have her car checked, she invited me to stay in her… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi lhandz,

What if she’s just using you to fill the void of her ldr?

I cheated on my ex with the mother of my 3 children. I was wanting to see my kids and fell into the trap of not being able to see them If I did show the mom affection and friendship. I absolutely ruined a great relationship in doing this. The woman I love and want to marry found out and we ended our 4 year relationship ugly. But we still couldn’t let go of our friendship. And yes I’ve make love to her ever chance I get wich is ever week. I’m still in love and want her back. Im… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
EGR Team Member: Amor
Please help me .. i am so confuse .. I met a girl . We started talking until i fell for her . She told me she love me too . Until i found about her ex .. she said she completely cutoff .. but she had little connection with him . Then i found out alot of other things she kept secret .. she once messege me ,copied with a number .. i asked her about that guy ..she told me ,he is just a friend . I told her to get rid of him .. we usually talk… Read more »
Thanks for reply …and Yeah ,i tried ,it did not worked because i broke it after a couple of weeks and kept chasing her .. it was all bad for me .. but change of her behaviour was question at first place and keeping secret touch with guys . Adding alot more of guys even during relationship .. and then moving away eventually .. main reason of fights .. Recent time ,i talked to her ,messeged her on instagram ..she talked to me .. we had chat .. shared recent photos .. and then she cooling down to point she… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
EGR Team Member: Amor

it looks like you are a rebound.. if you still want to try, restart nc, stick to at least 30 days, be very active in improving yourself and in posting during and after nc, while slowly rebuilding rapport with her.

Thanks for all the adivices .. i really appreciate your help , i am happy that i found someone good to talk too .. Well for me it ended .. i tried to reach her from different whatsapp,because i was blocked on other whatsapp .. where first she saw my messeges on whatsapp and no reply .. because she was not answering or seeing my messege on line app .. then after 2 days i messege her again .. se asked who ..i told her its me .. i wanted to tell her that i want to marry you… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
EGR Team Member: Amor

It looks like she’s keeping you as an option

Drew Abotts
Hello AMOR, I started meeting this girl whom I met through a mutual friend. I felt the relationship moved pretty fast, mostly because of me. I told her straight up, that I wanted a relationship. She wanted one too. Then, after like 10 dates, I wanted to be exclusive, she agreed. After some more dates, I told her that love her. I am 28 and she is 24. In the two month relationship, we met quite frequently – two times a week or sometimes even 3, events, park and restaurants. We had the standard long conversations into the night –… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
EGR Team Member: Amor

HI Drew,

if you want to try, take it slow after nc. The relationship probably feels rushed to her.

Drew Abotts

Hello Amor, thank you for your message. I will try that. Since the breakup, I joined the standard dating apps and started swiping. A week later I found out that she’s on one of those apps too. I casually told her I found her on the app and she told me she’s looking for BFFs (a LIE). I’ve actually deleted her from social media because I found myself repeatedly checking her profile. She doesn’t seem to be affected at all.

Hopefully, things change in a month or so. Thanks again.

EGR Team Member: Amor
EGR Team Member: Amor

ok, just make your posts public then, so that she can still see it if she gets curious.

Drew Abotts
Hey Amor, I caved and messaged her on the 30th. I know I’m stupid for messaging her but I really wanted to tell her that I stopped being needy and insecure from before. I made a joke and seemed to take it positively and even asked her to let me know if she would like to catch up. Nothing so far. The feeling of the possibility that she will find someone new is eating me up and that’s clouding my judgement right now. No matter how I try to move on and do things I love, I keep getting interrupted… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
EGR Team Member: Amor

Dont rush things and dont tell her you’ve changed.. If you really changed, you wouldn’t try to convince her..

Drew Abotts

Thanks, Amor. It is a little harder to do when I don’t have her as a friend. I’ve started dating and feel pretty good about that. So, I will let things play out. If she gets back to me, all good. Otherwise, I will make it a point to not reach out. I just feel I’m losing self-respect.

EGR Team Member: Amor
EGR Team Member: Amor

Yup, put self respect first. You’re welcome!

Drew Abotts
I know the wise thing is to let her contact me but I feel like this is basically a stalemate. I’m working on myself, posting regularly. Nothing so far in terms of her contacting me. Radio silence is probably louder at this point. I have basically no intention to message her but those other dates aren’t really working out and I see her on a dating app again – which means she deleted it and re-added it. So she’s definitely having second thoughts but isn’t reaching out to me. By next Saturday, it’s a month of no-contact and also 2… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
EGR Team Member: Amor

if you really want her to initiate, set a limit on until when you would wait for her to initiate before moving on.

Drew Abotts
I think it’s high time that I move on NOW. I messaged her on her birthday… Terrible and weak on my part for breaking nc. I just wished her a happy birthday and wished her the best. All she replies back with is, “Hey! thank you !” She didn’t even use my name in her message not did she message back to see how I was doing. It’s been a good month since I last messaged her (Aug 30). It’s hard to believe that a person who you poured out your feelings, emotions and time for can think so less… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
EGR Team Member: Amor

That’s very good.. That’s right, put yourself first..

kyle means
hi me and my x gf were together for 5 years, at the time she was sick of staying with her parents and her sister because they would play favorites and treat her unfairly as far as what she told me, we dated for a year online got to know each other on facebook before anything. her parents did not like me from the start didnt really try to like me at all just played the part while she was living with me for 4 years,after that i didnt make a attempt to get to kno them my thing is… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
EGR Team Member: Amor

how old are you both?

Balint Hajnal
Hey Chris. I am in great need of your help and my situation is a rather hard one.Maybe something you never had a chance of handling before.I have been tougether with my grilfriend for over 6 years from the age of 16 to well… yesterday we are both 22 now. She was away for a week and had something I would call a little argument and we had it over the years however I prepered candles for her and roses. She came in and started blowing out the candles with her shirt.Our relationship has always been different as in we… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
EGR Team Member: Amor

Do you have plans of moving out? Are you going to do the no contact rule?

Hi AMOR, I have a question for you that is bothering. I took your advice and moved on with my life, starting trying to improve on myself, new job, working out- other girls have been coming up to talk and flirt with me, but I have been staying single trying to heel, staying active posting on social media like you said and then it happened. Its been since the 20th or 23rd of Feb I think-can not remember, that she stopped talking to me , you told me to move on and improve on myself so if she is angry… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
EGR Team Member: Amor

Whatever her reasons before are, right now, she doesn’t look like she’s angry.. I don’t know if she wanted to be friends or she just wants to thank you for being kind to her mom and sisters.

Benjamin Greutman
My ex girlfriend and I have been on again and off again for about 8 months and we ended somewhat badly, after a 2 month no contact I texted her seeing that I heard that she was moving out of town for college, and wanted to meet up for some drinks before she left, she started out by saying she didn’t want to open up “old wounds” and we continued texting for a bit, she began to open up, stated that she still trusted me even though we didn’t workout, and admitted that I was a special person to her… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
EGR Team Member: Amor

even if you had 2 months of no contact, if it was not focused in improving yourself and actively posting in social media, that’s not a no contact period. After nc, you have to slowly build rapport while continuing to improve yourself too.

What do you think of this scenario. Bear in mind no needy behavior has been happening a month since the breakup by either party. Ex-gf sends a direct snapchat to you looking great but also has a dog in it to not be blatantly obvious, two days later forwards a FB invite to her friend’s party but with no direct message, and because she is the one who needed to deal with the past and stepped away from you, you do not reply directly to her about this invite because a.) She didn’t ask you to go. b.) You’re going… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
EGR Team Member: Amor

she’s more likely trying to get back at you for ignoring her messages..

My ex is making things too complicated. It’s like we’re in a pull/push kind of situation right now. After I stopped initiating contact with her, she talked to me about missing me and that she still have feelings for me. She said she tried to entertain other men, but she still felt empty and that no one else can match up to me. But she’s hesitating on getting back together because all our friends know that we’ve already broken up, and think its hard to go back to how things were before. She’s been acting hot and cold, and its… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
EGR Team Member: Amor

restart no contact and stick to atleast 30 days


Is it still okay even if she’s entertaining a few suitors?

EGR Team Member: Amor
EGR Team Member: Amor

they’re just suitors.. she’s not relationship yet. Focus on what you can control which is yourself.

Hey! I read all of your texts and i agree, i have experienced a lot of what you have written and learn ta lot aswell. Thanks. I’m wondering just one thing, i broke up with my ex girlfriend and we are not friends at FB but she still has “in a relationship”. Why? What does it mean? I texted her a few days ago that i didnt want her to be sad and i really hoped she was happier without me and o still loves her but she just ignored it. I know how the no-contact rule works but i… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
EGR Team Member: Amor

that depends.. can be because she doesn’t really give much attention to that, or she wants to at least be friends with you to not hurt you as much when she changes it or there’s still some feelings from her.

Hey, I am 22 years old and was dating my ex girlfriend for around 1 1/2 years. I am a medical student in my second last year and will be graduating in summer 2018. I study in Poland currently and my ex girlfriend graduated from the same program this summer and moved back from Poland to Sweden to start working there. She is 2 1/2 years older than me and me and her share the same ethnic origin. I am from Germany and only went for my studies to Poland . I told her that I want a long distance… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Masoud,

that means she still can’t see how it would work long distance.. maybe her love language is physical and quality time..and it can also mean she doesn’t see you mature enough for her..

of I’m right, the best solution is to be closer.. if you can’t be closer, then you have to be less available and keep improving yourself to the point that she will regret losing somebody like you

Hi Amor, We have spoken a few times and you guys are so helpful and need some clarity now on what to do. I believe I’m in a “love triangle” with the girl I really have strong feeling for. The situation is that the ex bf is also involved and they have trust issues that I see and she continued to move away with him on the advise of her family suggesting she should stay with him. I have done no contact for no and off for about 60 days and we were also engaged, I decided to ask for… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Jay,

she would really want to be friends because that’s what convenient. She still gets to talk to you while she’s with him. You have to risk losing her if your really value yourself. Talk to her if you want, ask her, but make a decision. Are you going to try to build rapport or move on?


Honestly Masoud, I went through something similar to this. We got back together then kept breaking up because we didn’t just let it die. The only way a relationship lasts is if both do everything in their power to make it work. Can’t be one sided and can’t be full of games, do yourself a favor you are about to become a DR you got more important things to focus on.


Well… I just want to know what should I do if she is ghosting me??? You haven’t written any blog about that…

EGR Team Member: Amor
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Meghanad,

Since when did she ghost you? How long was your relationship?

Hi Amor, Replying to the pervious message on 26th of feb and thank you again for helping. Since that date we have not spoken, I believe she’s kinda got the message. The choice I have made is too concentrate on myself first, because relationships take up a lot of time and sometimes in break up moments, guys are left with not a lot including money, no goals completed, etc not completed yet! It’s better to be ready and not ready when it’s your turn. I could get this ex back if I really wanted, but a self check on my… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
EGR Team Member: Amor

That’s good. You’re welcome!

My ex- girlfriend has broken up with me because she says she is to busy and did not like what we turned into towards the end (I stopped doing the little things). We have a really good connection and have both admitted we still love each other she just does no want a commitment because she is not in a place to be in a relationship. So following this sites instructions I did no contact for but within a week she called me crying and said she wanted to be friends and that in the future she sees herself with… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
EGR Team Member: Amor

HI Dave,

if you stay friends with her now, that means you’ll probably be friendzoned

My ex and I broke NC after a month, and 3 months after BU. She did something some would say unforgivable. I have been weak and fell into the trap. We have been FWB the last two weeks. I broke FWB yesterday, something she took fine but still a bit sad. When I left after breaking FWB, she said she would text me. That night, I saw her riding on a guys back to her friends house, my neighbor. It has been a very rough situation. Although she insists she would be okay with breaking FWB, she is, she still… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Riley,

yup, breal contact.. because right now, it’s either she thinks you’re just in it for the sex or chasing her

Hi there i have question ,i met two girls with my friend , when we were riding around town , and after going out with them 3 days in a row , when i was talking with one of em on the phone ,she told me that she likes me and the only reason she wanted to go out is me ,i was really happy to hear that , so the next day i go out with her , and then we made out with each other , she was really into me like she said she is mine and… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Masoud,

are you still talking now?

Me and my ex girlfriend were dating for almost 5 year she is 23 and i am 26 and its been 5 months that we been broken up and I text msg her here and there to see how she doing and sometimes i get a reply and sometimes i dont. 3 weeks ago we hung out and we talked about our feelings to one another and she told me that she still loves me but she is not sure if she is in love with me and she needs to figure that out and she also told me that… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Eric,

how are you now?


Doing a bit better working on myself still and been hot and cold with my ex girlfriend between text msg somedays she answers and soemtime she ignores me then either a couple days or a week later i reply to her back then she answers but when were hot i try to get her to go out and have coffee as friends and she keeps saying she busy with school, work but yet i see her out at bars which im confuse as to what to do.

EGR Team Member: Amor
EGR Team Member: Amor

hmm.. it’s hard to build rapport like have to find topics that you and her enjoy talking about

It’s been about 13 days now, NC for 8. I tried pleading but was met with force and resistance. Me 26, her 23. Title says out of the blue because i did not expect it but obviously she had thought about it. When it happened we were out having a great time. Even took pics and posted them on various social media (pics are still up btw). 2 hours later, we got in a dumb argument and she ended it. Completely heart broken and shocked, haven’t been able to eat or sleep since. We dated about 8mos but i thought… Read more »
Me and my ex girlfriend were dating for almost 5 year she is 23 and i am 26 and its been 5 months that we been broken up and I text msg her here and there to see how she doing and sometimes i get a reply and sometimes i dont. 3 weeks ago we hung out and we talked about our feelings to one another and she told me that she still loves me but she is not sure if she is in love with me and she needs to figure that out and she also told me that… Read more »
Abhijeet Sanyal
I have been on no contact from 13th september. Though my ex has liked a few posts on Facebook there has been no signs of contact from her end. She met me once and spent the night with me and told me she misses me and loves me and then on 13th september she started acting a little cold by telling me she does not want to give me hopes. So i have been on no contact mode, on 23rd october is our anniversary. Is it a good idea to establish contact then because by that time I would have… Read more »
Hi guys, This website has helped a lot! I’m 25(M) and my ex is 23(F). My gf of 3.5 years and I broke up last week Wednesday. It was her idea. A lot has happened in her life that pushed her into a depression. Losing her job, living at home with her folks and a few bad instances at home that are weighing her down. She just wants to run away and has broken up with me saying that it’s not fair on me etc. Immediately after the break up, she was clearly in denial, texting me each day as… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Gareth,

you have to stop being her crutch because the longer you do it, the more you’re helping her to either move on or friendzone you

I sent a message to you guys through here and the contact section a few weeks back and got no response. I bought the Ex-Girlfriend recovery Pro book and the Texting Bible and they are great! Although, I was wondering if you guys can help me in my current predicament though since its a little uncommon. My Ex-girlfriend broke up with me about a month ago. Long story short, we dated for 3 and a half years (while still in college). Everything was perfect, and we were super happy and in love with each other, we even found ourselves talking… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Enriq,

how are you now?


I just broke megans heart again

Hey there, I could use a bit of educated advice here. I definitely am currently in the trap of Mind Game #1. I was dating a girl for a little under two months. It was the happiest I’ve felt in years. We shared similar interests, never fought and generally had a great time together. She always told me how much she valued me, how comfortable she felt with me, how I made her laugh and how kind I was (uh oh, I realize that). There was all those things and then the little matter of us having ridiculously amazing sex,… Read more »
Hello, My name is Henry. My ex and I were dating for 11 months before we broke up. After the break I went crazy and begged and pleaded too much. I started the NC with my ex and completed 21 days yesterday. I missed her and I called her and we talked positively really well. After this, it all went down hill. She’s in college now and lives an hour away. She told me about her schedule and what she’s been doing and how she missed me and didn’t contact me because I told her I needed space. She also… Read more »
My x gf broke up with me this past sunday.. Said she needed space. So i unfriended her on all social media. I have been trying the no contact period but its easier said then done. We rarely text n one day she texted me basically treating me like crap via text an drove me to work tuesday morning i responded to her text from monday night n she was basically cold towards me again maybe 5-8 texts in the morning between us now today at 6:08am she measages me about paying her back which we already talked about before… Read more »
Hi! let me start off by saying I love the book and the blog… I just need some advice so me and my ex of three years broke it off in june. she dumped me… three weeks later she started hooking up with another guy. she never sent a single text to me all summer, and when I texted her she was rude, cold, and refused to see me… however, last week she decided to text me first and ask if I would like to meet for lunch, we had lunch and she was being very nice to me (even… Read more »

Any chance to buy the Programm when you dont have a credit card? (Paypal or something like that)


HELP!!! please 🙁

I was gonna ask her tomorrow (still plan on doing so), but I found out today, from a friend, that she already has a dancing partner. This is not the bad part! 🙁 The friend also told she is already dating someone. Apparently she is going out with some guy from college. He’s in the second year.

I am a bit crushed and desperate I’m not gonna lie. I really really need your help. (The thought of her with another guy is killing me!)


Hi, I was in a relationship for 5 years with my girlfriend. We were very happy… at least most of the time. I mean, we had our problems and broke up for a few weeks 3 times during our time together… but we managed to work out most of them. Everything changed a year ago, when she suscribed to a very strict excercize program and changed her lifestyle (sleeping early, eating healthy, no parties and alcohol). I supported her and adapted, changing my lifestyle as well (not as haealthy but restrained partying and excesses) just to be with her. With… Read more »

My ex recently messaged me and wants to meet for coffee. I told her that I would love to meet and would confirm the date later in the week. Yet after a day, I see that she has deleted me on Whatsapp before I can give my reply. We broke up 6 months ago and have a slight contact in that time, not completely no-contact but we have met with mutual friends a few times. Why would she suddenly delete me if she was interested in meeting me? Why is she playing the hot and cold?

I have a question regarding my situation. Dated this girl on and off for a while and realize that i absolutely want to get serious with her and want her back. Broke up late last year but started texting again this past April. Slowly but surely she became more and more receptive and things seemed like they were before– texting regularly, joking around, both of us initiating, her being very nice and sweet just like before. Finally made plans to meet up again but then she became a bit distant and finally said she doesn’t think its a good idea… Read more »
I’ll keep it as short as possible, but my EX walked back into my life about a few weeks ago after crossing paths. She actually spotted me, and approached me very happy to see me and intrigued to find out how I’ve been after 2 yrs. Our break up was painful for me, since I adored her so much. Overall, she decided to break up with me after a few good months into it. No real arguments while together, just really good company with one another. But after we broke up is when things got messy between us both, I… Read more »
mike bartlett
I’m currently in to day 10 of my no contact period after my ex broke up with me 3 weeks ago saying that she didn’t feel the same about our relationship anymore and wasn’t 100% sure she wanted a future with me. I received a whatsapp message from her this morning that went something like this…. “Hey…how are you? Wondered if you wanted to go for a coffee or something one day this week? x”. The last time I’d spoken to her I asked if she wanted to get some food together and she said she was busy but maybe… Read more »
I’m in a spot with my ex after no contact where we have had sex, hold hands in public, and she always makes the contact to see me. However, I have not brought up the idea of dating again, as I feel it has to happen naturally and it cannot be forced. So I have been building rapport over the last few weeks but I still have not brought up what we are meaning defining the relationship. Anyways, I don’t know where to go from here and I would really appreciate some advice on what to do next because I… Read more »
HI 🙂 I have a question about my situation. I wonder, how all of these “stack” and work if she’s using more than one “method”. Let me explain. My ex broke up with me at the start of summer (2 months ago), because I kissed another girl drunk at a party and lied to her about it for a month. Before that we were together for 2.5, with no prior incidents. So, we started school last week and we both go to the same one and even take some of the same classes. She’s been ignoring me really hard and… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi David,

I dont think you should start another no contact period.. like when she was.looking at you, yes that’s ger warming up when she does that, smile again and then later on approach her or help her with something

Hey again. I’m sorry to be asking this many questions… So, she’s just flat out ignoring me, like at the start. Doesn’t even look at me, even if I pass her, like half a foot away. It’s really hard to act nice and friendly, if I can’t even greet her. Sometimes it looks as if she is avoiding me on purpose. My question is: We’re both seniors and of course we also have the prom this year… Here in Europe all the seniors also take dancing lessons (to prepare for prom night) and I think we start in November. So… Read more »