My Ex Girlfriend Doesn’t Reply To My Text Messages…. Why?

Ex girlfriends are tricky…

Especially when it comes to texting them. There is a moment right before you send a text to her where you think to yourself,

I hope to god she responds to this…

It’s certainly a fear but not a big one.

After all, she was always very responsive when you would text her during your relationship.

So, you send your text.

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As you can see it’s a pretty simple text.

On the surface it looks like you are just reaching out to her to see how she is doing.

But deep down you are testing her. Trying to see how she reacts.

This puts you on the edge of your seat waiting for a response.

Seconds turn to minutes…

Minutes to hours…

Hours to days…

And you haven’t received a response.

It’s frustrating and you want nothing more than to scream.

So, here’s my question to you.

What did you fail to take into account?

….

Anyone care to take a guess?

Anyone?

Anyone?

anyone

Ok, all kidding aside the thing that you failed to take into account was the fact that things are completely different than they were when you were dating your ex girlfriend.

Back then she was almost required to respond to all of your texts but now that is a right you have to earn.

That’s where I come in.

I am going to deconstruct exactly why your ex girlfriend isn’t responding to your texts and explain exactly what you need to do to raise your chances of getting a response.

Now, the first question that probably springs to mind for you is,

“Who the hell is this guy and what qualifies him?”

It’s a valid question.

Well, I am just your friendly neighborhood Spider Man,

spiderman

Ahem… No, actually what I meant to say is that I am Superman, Batman AND Wonder Woman,

bsw

Actually the truth is, is that I am a professional relationship consultant who specializes in reuniting couples who have broken up.

Over the years I have accumulated a team whose sole purpose is to help me, help you raise your chances of success.

Together my team and I have merged real life psychological principles with what we have seen out there in the world of exes.

What do I mean by that?

Well, we are always performing these little stress tests to see if our strategies are working or not. We don’t like giving out advice unless it has been proven to work before.

And that’s why most men who are trying to get their exes back prefer to come to Ex Girlfriend Recovery over our competitors.

I will give you an example.

My name is Chris Seiter and I am the founder of this site and “The Ex Recovery Team.”

I used to introduce myself to new visitors with a variation of the sentence above.

However, we decided to test and see how new users were responding to this and we found that the generic introduction wasn’t enough to capture someones attention.

Thus, we decided to start including a picture with the introduction,

Chris Seiter

My name is Chris Seiter and I am the founder of this site and “The Ex Recovery Team.”

Do you see how people would be more responsive to that?

But I am a perfectionist and am always trying to tweak things and make them better.

So, I set out to find a way to get new users more engaged with our content and after a lot of testing we found that users seem to engage with my personality more than anything.

And since I have a HUGE god complex (not really) I figured I would introduce myself as a superhero,

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We found that users engaged with my content more after having this type of an introduction.

I mean, you are still reading, right?

And that’s what I am going to do for you. I am going to show you everything we have ever learned about making an ex girlfriend respond to you.

Every test (that worked.)

Every psychological principle (that worked.)

Basically everything around this topic that actually worked.

It’s my ultimate goal that after 30 minutes you are going to have a really great idea of what you need to do to improve your chances of making your ex girlfriend respond to your texts messages.

And I think a great place to start would be with why your ex girlfriend isn’t responding to your text messages right now.

Why She Isn’t Responding To Your Text Messages

Generally speaking the reason for why your ex girlfriend isn’t responding to your text messages can fall into three different categories.

  1. Your Texts Not Being Interesting Enough
  2. A Failure To Position Yourself Properly (NC, Making Her Chase, ETC)
  3. The Simple Fact That She Wants Nothing To Do With You

What I would like to do now is dive in and talk about each of these reasons so you can really grasp what I am talking about.

I suppose we can start with your text messages not being interesting enough.

Your Texts Are Not Interesting Enough

I have a question for you.

Which text message do you think a woman is more likely to respond to?

This one,

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Or this one,

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You can clearly see the difference, right?

One text message is creative and utilizes pictures where the other text message utilizes one simple word, “hey.”

This is a mistake that I constantly see men making.

They expect a response to their text messages without actually earning one and when I explain that they need to find a way to spice up their texts they fail to grasp what I am talking about here.

The truth is that women want to be entertained.

Get A Load of These Secret Text Messages!

Think of it like this.

Imagine that you are sitting in a college classroom and the professor is giving a lecture on a topic that you aren’t interested in. As the professor talks you find yourself daydreaming about other things because you are bored. Hell, maybe the lecture is boring enough that it puts you to sleep.

Now, let’s compare that to you attending something that you are interested in. Something that fascinates you. Something that really gets you excited.

Let’s say you pay to go to a concert.

concert

Chances are that you aren’t going to fall asleep there.

Why?

Because it is something that interests you.

Texting your ex girlfriend works the same way. If you send her a one word text message then you are begging for her to not respond to you. However, if you send her a text message that is interesting you are going to significantly raise your chances of getting a response.

Look, this isn’t exactly rocket science or revolutionary.

And I think deep down you already know this which is why I want to talk about something a little more advanced.

How to make your text messages interesting.

The Elements That Can Make Your Text Messages Interesting To Your Ex

interesting

Every day I get a variation of one simple question,

“Chris, she isn’t responding to my texts. What should I do to get her to?

And oftentimes I give a very generic answer,

Make your text messages more interesting

I imagine it pisses some of you guys off since I don’t really dive into the details that you need to make your texts interesting. Well, that ends today.

I am going to be giving you those details right here, right now.

The first thing I want to say is that technically you have a big advantage in this department as compared to a man who is meeting your ex girlfriend for the very first time. What is this advantage?

You dated her so you know exactly what she likes and dislikes.

Unless you were asleep at the wheel when you were dating your ex girlfriend you should have a good idea of what makes your ex girlfriend light up.

So, here is my first little tip to making your text messages more interesting for your ex girlfriend.

Make A List Of Her Likes

Take out a piece of paper and start jotting down your memories from when you were dating your ex. Jot down everything you can think of that she responded positively to when you were dating. Now, this should be a relatively simple exercise but for some men it’s not.

We aren’t looking for a memory like that one time you got her flowers.

No, we are looking for things that she volunteered willingly without you having to do anything.

I will give you a few examples using one of my very own ex girlfriends.

  • Skydiving
  • Guitar
  • Candy
  • Jim Carey Movies
  • Religion

My ex girlfriend was fascinated with all of these things and she volunteered this information freely without me having to do anything.

So, let’s assume that I was trying to get my ex girlfriend to respond to my text messages by making them interesting and I tried this method of jotting down all of her likes.

What’s next?

Well, next you are going to find a way to incorporate it into a text message.

Now, there are two things I would like to tackle here.

  1. You can utilize this tactic to create a “first contact” text message.
  2. You can also utilize this tactic to slip an interesting text into an existing conversation.

I am going to teach you how to do both.

Of course, before I do so I suppose you have a question you have been wondering,

“Chris which is better? Using this tactic as a “first contact” or slipping it into an existing conversation.”

The truth is that we have seen success with both tactics. However, if you are going to put me on the spot then I would have to say that we have seen more success by utilizing this tactic in an existing conversation.

Here’s how you do both.

How To Use This Tactic In A First Contact Text Message

You know what a first contact text message is, right?

No?

Awesome!

I get to teach you something new today.

First Contact Text Message- It’s the text that you send to start a conversation with your ex. In other words, it’s the very first text that you send to your ex.

Utilizing this tactic as a first contact message is actually really easy.

In fact, all you need to know is seven simple words,

“You won’t believe what I just saw…”

Perhaps I should be more specific.

Below I have created a graphic of a template that you can utilize to create a strong first contact text message,

template

Here’s how this works. Do you remember above when I gave you a list of my very own ex girlfriends “likes?”

Well, I did that on purpose because I wanted to use myself as a guinea pig so I could show you the correct way to make your text messages interesting.

Just to refresh your memory here are my ex girlfriends likes,

  • Skydiving
  • Guitar
  • Candy
  • Jim Carey Movies
  • Religion

So, if I were to use the template I just showed you my first contact text message to her would look like this,

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The real trick here is finding a way to incorporate your exes “like.” However, the great thing about text messages is that you have a lot of time to prepare. This isn’t like being put on the spot on the phone.

Let’s move on and talk about how to slip a “like” into an existing texting conversation.

How To Use This Tactic For An Existing Conversation

I always like to take a big picture perspective when it comes to text messaging an ex.

When you do this you begin to notice that each texting conversation has a different flow to it.

Sometimes this flow is easy to maintain and sometimes it’s very difficult.

For the sake of this article let’s chart a hypothetical texting flow.

Let’s say this is what is considered a “perfect flow,”

perfect flow

Ideally you want to continue to build attraction with your ex girlfriend as time goes on and eventually when the conversation flow hits a high enough point you want to end it there.

What does that accomplish?

Well, it leaves her wanting more.

I have talked about this phenomenon a lot in this article.

But here’s the thing. Life rarely ever works out perfectly.

When I show the “perfect graph” to people they immediately understand what I am talking about but what they fail to understand is that it takes a lot of work to make this upward trend a reality.

Do you see all the dots on the graph?

dots

Those dots are meant to represent something that you do to advance the conversation or make it more interesting.

Maybe you tell a joke…

Maybe a story…

Or maybe… just maybe you use the tactic I just taught you above 😉 .

And this is where most of the men who try texting their ex girlfriends fail.

They don’t hold their interest because they aren’t continually captivating their ex girlfriends with interesting text messages.

Now, here’s the thing. I have only taught you one “interesting message” to send. You can’t send the same type of interesting text 6 more times.

No, what you need is variety which is why I would like to let you in on some of the other tactics that you can use.

Interesting Tactic One: The Picture

I have an interesting story to tell you.

On December 31st of 2015 (the last day of the year) I was at the grocery store shopping when all of a sudden my phone started buzzing.

I looked down to grab it but I accidentally missed it and I dropped it on the floor.

When I picked up my phone it was completely shattered.

Like seriously shattered.

shattered iphone

So, on January 1st of 2016 I went down to get a new phone. Of course, I decided that I wanted a new number since I was still under my families plan and there were certain restrictions with that.

Yup, at 27 I was still under my families plan.

I have had the same phone number since I was 17.

I figured it was time for a change and I wanted some of the flashier upgrades.

Anyways I got a new number and a brand new iPhone 6S Plus.

It’s pretty awesome.

But you know what isn’t awesome?

The fact that people are constantly calling my phone looking for the previous owner.

Seriously people call my phone looking for a “Cara.”

But perhaps this all culminated in a funny moment about two weeks ago when a random person sent me this exact picture,

picture

Here is how I replied,

Funny Texts

I had to blot out this guys last name because I didn’t want to get in trouble for showing his name to the “ex recovery” world.

I thought the picture was extremely clever.

And something that most girls would definitely dig. Especially if it was hand drawn.

So, why not do something like that for your ex?

Why not hand draw her a picture and then send her something like,

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That would definitely work on your ex girlfriend especially if she didn’t know that you could draw when she was dating you.

Now, some of you may be thinking,

“But Chris… I can’t draw.”

Perfect, now you have an opportunity to learn.

Good luck!

Interesting Tactic Two: Shocking Fact

Staying in line with our blue eyed picture above I have a fun story to tell you.

My wife and I were visiting my parents with our daughter and we were at an airport. Now, if you have ever tried traveling with a child don’t do it. It’s extremely stressful and the airports don’t do anything to help you out.

Anyways, while we were standing in line with my daughter waiting to go through the hubbub where they make you take off your shoes to make sure you aren’t a terrorist a gentleman standing behind us happened to notice our daughters very blue eyes,

baby lilly

After that he told me something that I had never heard before.

I believe his exact words were,

Look at your blue eyes… You know, I think I read somewhere once that everyone with blue eyes is all descended from the same one person.

It interested me because I hadn’t heard it before.

So, after some time I ended up looking it up to see if he was just pulling sunshine out of his ass or if he was right.

Turns out, he was right.

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(Source)

It’s a fascinating fact that I definitely responded to.

Now, can you imagine if you could deliver the same type of interesting fact to your ex girlfriend at some point?

A fact that would stick with her.

I mean, speaking personally I remember the guy who told me that fact really well and it’s been months after the fact.

By delivering an interesting fact like this not only will it show that you are well read but it will prove to her that you have something interesting to say outside of the normal BS guys usually spout to her.

Now, I realize this is a really engaging topic and you may want to learn more. If that’s the case don’t be afraid to check out my most comprehensive post on the topic.

A Failure To Position Yourself Properly

Let’s refocus and get back to the matter at hand,

Why your ex girlfriend isn’t responding to your text messages.

Through our own individual stress tests with the visitors here at Ex Girlfriend Recovery we have found that there is a specific process that men have to follow if they want the best results with their ex girlfriends.

That process is outlined in detail in Ex Girlfriend Recovery PRO.

Of course, I figured it would be smart to give you a birds eye view of the process since its going to be important to reference for me to make the point I want to make.

the process

There are five components to the game plan that we teach.

But just knowing the components alone isn’t going to be enough.

We found that when people utilized these components out of order they saw disastrous results. Let me give you an example.

Let’s say that you were to use the no contact rule and you completed it. Except instead of advancing to text messages you were to try to get a date with your ex immediately.

In other words, you jumped from here to here,

the process copy

Do you see how that is a problem?

You basically just skipped over two very important steps.

Now, here is where things get a little more complicated.

Each one of these individual steps have steps within them.

Kind of like inception,

dream within a dream

Let’s take texting as an example.

The correct way to text your ex girlfriend after a breakup should look something like this,

texting process

And if this is done out of order everything could come tumbling down.

So, not only do you have to worry about doing things in order in the grand scheme of things but you have to worry about doing things in order on an individual step based level.

(No one ever said getting an ex girlfriend back was easy.)

And that’s where the failure to position yourself properly comes into play.

Oftentimes if you have texted your ex girlfriend out of order or failed to play by the texting rules that we set forth in PRO then you aren’t going to be getting a response from her. I know it sounds kind of goofy but statistics don’t lie.

Going against what has been proven to work can harm you.

So, here is what I would like to do for you.

I would like to talk about the most common reasons for why men find themselves out of position for when it comes to texting their ex girlfriend. That way you can know what behaviors to avoid.

I do feel like I should credit Amor, our Virtual Relationship Specialist on Ex Girlfriend Recovery,

(She answers almost all of the comments on EGR)

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I looked through the comments she answered to find these common mistakes.

Should we begin?

Mistake #1: Texting Your Ex Before Doing No Contact

When people are going through a breakup and they come to the realization that they don’t want the breakup to happen they have a tendency to want to fix everything as fast as possible.

We are a society that has gotten used to seeing instant results.

Let me give you an example.

About 20 years ago Google Maps didn’t exist and we didn’t have cell phones that had GPS’s in them. In other words, if you wanted to go some place that you had never been to before you would have to look it up on a map.

You couldn’t just whip out your phone and plot it on a map.

You couldn’t get an instant answer as to where it was.

But now you can.

I mean, all you have to do is look at the statistics of our average attention span.

It has progressively gotten less and less.

In 2000, the average attention span of an adult was 12 seconds.

In 2015 it’s 8.2 seconds.

We are needing to see results sooner and sooner and I think this has definitely played into getting an ex back.

I can’t tell you how many times I run across a man who comes to this website and wants to get an ex back as soon as possible. But we haven’t seen good success with fast strategies. In fact, when we try to speed our strategies up they lose a lot of their effectiveness.

And that leads us to the mistake of texting your ex before doing the no contact rule.

Why Is This A Mistake?

First off, I do want to say that our research has shown that 70% of the people who have used our advice successfully to get their exes back have utilized some form of no contact.

This makes it without a doubt the most successful strategy that we teach here on Ex Girlfriend Recovery.

But why does it work?

Well, no contact rule allows you to attack the breakup in two different ways.

Way #1: You Utilize Psychological Reactance

Way #2: It Allows You Time To Grow As An Individual

In case you were wondering psychological reactance refers to the fact that when human beings feel their freedoms are being taken away from them they are more likely to react in a way to get that freedom back.

In other words, if you utilize the no contact rule on your ex girlfriend she is going to feel like her freedom to talk to you has been taken away.

And how does she react to this?

Well, she is going to react in a way to get you to respond to her.

And sometimes by utilizing psychological reactance you will be lucky enough to make her miss you.

The second big benefit of using the no contact rule is the fact that it gives you time to improve or grow as an individual.

Let’s say that you looked like this during your relationship with your ex,

fat man speedo

Good looking fellow, huh?

But lets say that during your no contact rule you decide that you are going to get in the best shape of your life and after a lot of hard work you end up looking like this,

fitness model

Which “version” of you do you think is going to have an easier time at getting your ex girlfriend back?

The answer should be obvious.

Here is the point I am trying to make. If you text your ex girlfriend before you have a chance to do any of this you aren’t going to be giving her any reason to respond to your texts. Remember, you have to earn your responses.

Let’s move on and talk about the second mistake I see people making.

Mistake #2: Breaking The No Contact Rule Early To Text Your Ex Girlfriend

This mistake works a bit differently when compared to mistake #1.

With this one you decide that you want to utilize the no contact rule before you text your ex girlfriend. However, during your no contact rule you end up getting a text like this,

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Now, it should be very easy to ignore this and continue on with your no contact.

HOWEVER, you will find that everything gets amplified during no contact when it’s from your ex.

In other words, it becomes very hard to ignore this.

So, what do you do?

You end up breaking the no contact rule because you just “have to” respond to your ex.

Now, you remember above how I said that the no contact rule allows you to attack the breakup in two different ways?

Well, if you break the no contact rule early you aren’t going to be able to fulfill those two different ways and you won’t earn the right to a response from your ex.

Mistake #3: Going Too Fast Too Soon While Texting Your Ex Girlfriend

I alluded to this above when I was explaining how our process has a certain sophistication and order to it.

Do you remember this graphic by any chance?

texting process

This is how I said you should text your ex girlfriend in a perfect world.

And for the most part if you follow this template when you text your ex girlfriend you will be in pretty good shape. Where people run into problems is when they try to expedite this process.

Maybe instead of following the template they skip right from the start to this step,

texting process

That’s a problem because they are going too fast too soon.

Seducing a woman over text messages can’t be done if you don’t build up any value.

And by going too fast too soon you are skipping over all the value building text messages.

The result won’t be good, trust me.

		

Written by EGR team mate

Chris Seiter

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Michael
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My whole fear is doing the no contact method, 1 month is a a lot of time for someone to just forget about you, then again my ex isn’t responding to my calls or text so idont really have a choice.

Kevin
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My question is what about shooting my ex gf a “Merry Christmas” text? Me and her were on speaking terms and I even hung out with her the week before christmas. Although she has a new boyfriend who is long distance in another country. She’s currently in the other country not just to spend christmas with him but also other friends she knows there. The weeks prior to our hangout, we were texting back and forth normally and even being a little flirty sending smiley faces and wink faces. This was all up to the actual hangout where I gave… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Kevin,

Yup, you need to restart nc..

nick
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So I’ve been trying to get my ex back for a year now. I did the no contact. For more than 30 days and Got in touch with her.. Got in the way of her new guy, we hooked up for almost a year since then but never got back into a relationship because she kept insisting that we were just friends with benefits. Which I did not agree to. After which I tried to disconnect from her to see if she would come around.. instead.. she hooked up with someone else .. now she ignores my texts and even… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Nick,

how much did you improve yourself and are you still in the same country with her?

Angelo
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Hey, so I completed my no contact and I sent my ex a text on Saturday incorporating some of the texting strategies I picked up on. She was kinda cold and distant, but she did reply. I wrapped up the convo and told her I had to run but that it was nice chatting with her and hope all is well. She was receptive. I waited until Wednesday at around 8:30 to send her another text. I asked her if she was still watching this show that we used to watch. I didn’t get a reply. What did I do… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

HI Angelo,

how many days did you do nc, how much did you improve yourself and how active were you in posting?

Angelo
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I did over thirty days no contact before I reached out. Whenever we pass each other we say hi, but anytime I try to be funny with her or light she is kinda cold towards me. I improved a lot in my opinion, but she’s kinda cold towards me so it’s hard for me to show her my new outlook on not just myself but on us and the relationship. I posted a decent amount. Left things to the imagination, but my posts definitely suggested I was actively dating and socializing. Never posted a negative thing about her or the… Read more »
greg
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So after 3 weeks of no contact, I didn’t get a response from my first breaking NC message. How long should I wait before I try again?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Greg,

Try a week before initiating again

Brandon
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So I wrote happy birthday with the joke and she said it like this “Thank you! ” should I reply your welcome or end it there?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Have you messaged her again?

Brandon
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Hello its going to be 2 weeks this Saturday since I last contacted her and made a mistake of ending it with how are you. what should I do next? Her birthday is this Saturday should I say Happy Birthday! I hope its great or should I say Happy Birthday! I hope its great with a joke along with it like watch out for the grey hairs?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

It’s better to include a joke in

Brandon
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i did the youll never believe who i just saw today text and she replied and we love love star wars i said that an actress was in my city and she was interested in that and she said ohh cool after i said how have you been. she didnt reply after that i just got out of no contact the 2nd time and before she would show me hot and cold symptoms now it feels like shes ignoring me.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

HI Brandon,

You’re supposed to end the conversation after saying what you saw.. That’s normal that she would avoid you because there’s no rapport yet and how are you question is not an interesting topic.

Brandon
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I just got out of the 2nd no contact a few days ago and i wrote the text that Chris suggested in a article saying hey you wont believe who i just saw. she replied and for only 2 messages all i said was i saw a star wars actress in my city and she said oh thats cool. then after i asked how have you been after that and she didnt reply and its been days. she broke the first no contact back last month and texted me for 3 days straight and after vanished so a week after… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

HI Brandon,

You’re supposed to end the conversation after saying what you saw.. That’s normal that she would avoid you because there’s no rapport yet and how are you question is not an interesting topic.

Max
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So I was doing a full 45 NC and then i sent her a drawing and get a response that somewhere between positive an neutral.But then the next day my ex “lock down” all the contact,social media account……
And the week later,she open her facebook account,so i go ahead and text her about the movie we both like but i get no respond.
So should i wait for another week?And what should i text her the next time?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Max,

Did you mean you sent the message during nc?

Eric
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It seems like my Girlfriend broke up with me for no reason we were together for almost 3 months and had plans for the future and she told me I was her best friend and everything…. well just the other day because I have kids that live with me and everything that she knows about she told me I am not ready to be a mom I think we should break up but I never asked her to be their mom a day ago before the break up she said she approves my kids.. fast forward a day later she… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Eric,

Maybe the idea of being a second mom to them caught up with her.. Are you going to do the no contact rule?

Sascha
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Hi Amor, I follow the NC for a period of 1 month. It was hard at the beginning, she was still liking my fb post sometimes but I manage to stick to it for 31 days. I reconnect with her 2 weeks ago. It was going well, but when I ask last week if she was free for a coffee this week, she didn’t reply. I didn’t do anything, I didn’t call her, text her, still managing to be a centered man and because I know I love her, I know than nothing she could do could make me mad… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Yup you went too fast..build rapport first through text and then build more rapport and attraction by moving to calls later on before asking her out..

Crazy Ed
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My ex and I broke up around 6 weeks ago. I have done no contact for 3 weeks and I am improving myself, I just still continue to miss her. I feel like she’s the one that got away. So I texted her asking about her vacation that she took with her family recently and I made it interesting (at least I think I did) and I haven’t gotten a response. Is my problem persistence or is she over me. For a preface on the relationship: we dated for 7 months and we broke up because I didn’t trust her… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

were you active in posting? how much did you improve?

Chin
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Hi amor,
After NC, can the first text I send be an apology if I haven’t apologised prior to NC if I hurt her?

Confused as to whether to exude something more positive or make her revisit the hurtful past.

Thanks.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

If you’ve already apologized before, no need to do it again

Johnston
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Hi there, So I was in a long distance relationship with a girl for 2 years, we would fly to each other every 6 weeks taking turns, sometimes going abroad for holidays. I work and am 24 years old, she was at university ages 22. She used to say she loved me with her whole heart and was incredibly keen – wanted to move to my country when she finishes school and had a go at me once not for asking her to life with me. I finally asked her to move in with me in the Caribbean on New… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

are you in no contact period now?

S
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Hi there, So I was in a long distance relationship with a girl for 2 years, we would fly to each other every 6 weeks taking turns, sometimes going abroad for holidays. I work and am 24 years old, she was at university ages 22. She used to say she loved me with her whole heart and was incredibly keen – wanted to move to my country when she finishes school and had a go at me once not for asking her to life with me. I finally asked her to move in with me in the Caribbean on New… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi S,

are you in no contact period now?

Tommy
Guest
Hi, I left my ex-girlfriend approximately 6 months ago and am having second thoughts. It seems we both are in relationships at this point, which could be rebounds. During our relationship, I was unfaithful and we went to couples counseling and worked through things. She has been on my mind the last two weeks so I sent her a text after 6 months n/c, “Hi, Ive been thinking about you and wanted to reach out to see how you are’. That was a week ago, still no response. Also, I am not on social media. Any suggestion on what to… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

do you want to start a no contact rule and focus in improving yourself, be active in posting and follow the advice above?

Aaron
Guest
Hey, so my girlfriend and I of 2 years and 9 months left things as “we will try again and if its meant to be it will be” we kissed and she told me that it wasn’t over till the fat lady sings. The problem was that she’s 24 and I’m 21 and for about a year she’s been having trouble seeing us making it long term because she started to feel like she was the leader of the relationship, that i wasnt experienced enough in life to make her feel comfortable and totally submit to me. This was because… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

are you still improving yourself now and being active in posting? rest for a week before initiating again..

Tommy
Guest

Thanks for the reply! Yes, I established another NC and it’s going on about 14 days. Any recommendation to the length? And I am focused on improving myself, but cannot post since I do not use social media.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

you have to post. That’s your indirect way of showing your improvements..do at least 30 days

Chin
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Hi Chris and amor,

You left out point 3, which was advice on what to do if she wants nothing to do with you. Thanks.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Chin,

she more likely just said that out of emotion in the moment..so, just start the no contact rule and focus in improving yourself and be active in posting in social media..do at least 30 days..look like you’re moving on and then slowly build rapport after while you continue improving yourself

Mike
Guest
Hi Chris and Amor, My ex and I have been together almost 2 years, everything was so perfect and I had very good relationship with her parents, especially her Mom. However, my ex broke up with me after a fight about three months ago when she was abroad… Actually, it was me who started to break up when we fought. I was just upset and regretted the day after. She was broken-hearted and didn’t want to break up at first. But after a few days ignoring me she decided to break up instead. I was shocked and hurt when I… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Mike,

I think you should restart and do 45 days..this time, dont talk to her mom and don’t initiate a conversation with her mom after nc.. be active in posting your activities in social media so that it would like you accepted her decision and chose to move on..

Jay
Guest

Hi Amor,

I used Chris text bible and sent a message after 47 NC and my ex did not respond to the message which is annoying because I been posting on social media and improved a lot since then. What are the next stages as it’s kinda annoying because before we broke up she requested that we remain friends and I refused. What to do next please?

Look forward hearing from you.

Many thanks,

Jay

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

I think you should avoid the thinking of you texts for now because you already sent that kind of text.. rest for a week, and then try a text that’s informative or asking an opinion from her..

Trent Seubert
Guest
Hey EGR team My ex and I split a month ago and she told me she wasn’t feeling anything anymore. But she’s also told me she doesn’t want to date anyone else for atleast a year because she wants to have fun. Well I just got off my 21 days of no contact and I started talking to her again but her replies haven’t sounded like she’s interested in talking to me or anything like that. Well I’ve tried your texting approach but I’m stuck on a way on how to get her hooked into our conversations so I can… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Trent,

how much did you improve during the 21 days, and are you still improving now?

Ang
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Hey Amor I texted my ex gf after 21 days of no contact. Hey___ hope all is well. I saw a movie the other night a dogs purpose. I know you would love it! Since you reacued two dogs. She replied back in 30 mins “all is well. Sounds like a good movie”. I didnt reply back and in two days sent her a text asking how her job is going and I didnt get a reply. Maybe because I sent a boring text. She likes music, dogs, is a server idk I’m stuck What if i text her “you… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

hmmm.. try it, but include a question in the end.. make it more conversational in that way because she can just reply with “thats amazing” with that..

Phong
Guest
Hi EGR Team, Please help me, I and my ex study in the same academy. We broke up after nearly 2 months together (Yeah I know…) . But I really love her, and I know she loved me too. I think the main reason is the mistake I made a lot again and again. And then she couldn’t take it anymore and broke up with me. And after that I became pathetic and begged her for forgiveness, and did everything well… you know. Then I came across this website and I learned a lot. So I started NC and tried… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Phong,

I think you need to restart the count and do 21 days.. be more active in improving yourself and in posting in social media

PHONG
Guest

What if I already told her I love her and beg her again…
It’s just she shows a lot of mixed signal on facebook and I can’t help thinking that’s about me…

Phong
Guest

Hi again,
I mess up again…
I told her I love her and do some stupid things, beg her to come back…
should I go with the NC or I should do sth else?
She said she’s not going to change her mind, doesn’t want to continue the relationship
But I feel she’s still in love with me

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

just restart the count and focus in improving yourself..if she does love you, then stop chasing and make her regret through your improvements

Phong
Guest

Thank you very much for your advice,
Hope I will get her back someday

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

I hope too.. you’re welcome!

jonathan
Guest
Here is a hard situation. In July i searched for who i thought was my soul mate from my teenage years. I hadnt seen her for 25 years. We had a connection before but never romantic. I found her. I sent a fb message. A few days later a brief reply. I responded. Then nothing. On Dec 2nd 2016 she msged on fb and asked for whatsapp number. I live in Zimbabwe and she lives in Cape Town. She said all the right thing and we cldnt stop messaging each other. We shared geat memories of the past and then… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Jonathan,

do you want to try the no contact rule?

Crag Banna
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Hi Ex GF Recovery, My ex had been giving me the major silent treatment (Background: We were friends for years before the split, a few days after she broke up with me I became blocked from all social media and her phone -I think- aside from Snapchat. It has now been about two and a half months since the split. I am trying to be friends with her rather than get back with her). I did no contact for three weeks before deciding to message her…nothing. Another two weeks went by and I felt compelled to contact again as she… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

HI Crag,

did you proceed with your plan?

Jose Manuel Fuentes
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So the ex and i of a year and a half broke up 2 months ago. She said i was too clingy didnt give her space i chased her like any guy who is in love would it pushed her away. we got into a huge fight things were said and it hurt but i let go somewhat did the no contact till yesterday i messaged her we text back and fourth and couple of times and she said it was good hearing from me and that she is glad im doing good and that was it didnt hear from… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi JOse,

how long did you do the no contact rule? And why is just somewhat?

Or
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Hi,

I ended 30 Days no contact last Monday. Things were going good, with her even texting me first on occasion. She responded well to the first attraction feeler text, but not the second. She ignored it and since then hasn’t really been as interested in texting. I’m getting dreaded no response as well. I think I messed up and it was too much too soon. Where do I go from here?

Cody
Guest

Hey there so this is a weird situation, ex and I have been talking after 21 days of NC. 2 nights ago we had an awesome phone call and she admitted she misses me and wanted to cuddle. we ended it saying text me so I said ok. things were going well so I sent her a ‘what I miss about you’ text and got no response. it’s been 2 days since any contact. is it time for me to wait out with NC again or just pack my bags?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Cody,
are you back to talking? Maybe that was too forward for her.

cody
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yes I was referring to talking. she also laughed at me during that phone call telling me “I’m so dumb” over and over again. it’s been a week since contact and I’m finding out she’s on dating apps again. she also asked for some money back but I’m at the point where I’m finding out she was manipulating my feelings. we’re still on social media but she’s clearly moving on so what more is there?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

dont let her manipulate you.. when you talk have fun but be the one to end it at high point and then just continue improving yourself and go out with other people too

Cody
Guest
What I think happened is she saw right through my intentions and took advantage of my feelings. Every day since I’ve been just cursing her under my breath.. I did the 21 day NC before we talked but now I’m not sure whether 30 or 45 days more is the way to go. She straight up lied to me that night and started telling me how she was drunk while letting other dudes touch her butt and I’m just like why are you telling me this. She also didn’t forget to mention how I owe her money and that we… Read more »
Jacky
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So its been more then a month and a half since we broke up and I have applied NC. So after the NC we have started talking but its because we have to settle some “business” regarding our old apartment since we are both moving out from our old apartment(I now its sad) So aside from the apartment topic, i didnt really have a chance to start talking to her about fun/casual topic to start making her have good feelings for me again. (Although I am being cool and fun and emotionally stable when we are talking about the apartment… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Jacky

did you continue your activities that you started in nc? you can try again after a week

Bill
Guest
HI, I used the non contact rule for 7 weeks as my ex was on a very intense course, so I did not contact her at all. We broke up very unexpectedly. We were together 6 months and everything was great, then suddenly she ended it saying she needed to fine herself. I found out from her friend that she does not want a relationship with me or anyone else. I sent her a text asking how her course went and she replied, so I then replied to that, but I have heard nothing back from her. I text her… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Bill,
have you improved yourself? and to be honest, you have yo work on your topic and it will not take just a couple of texts to build rapport.. take it slowly… it takes time to build rapport and attraction

Ben
Guest
Hello, For me I was dating a girl for some months, never made it committed, and she pulled out and didn’t want the relationship. I think I wasn’t giving her enough space by too much messaging etc. Anyways, after a month of NC I have started briefly messaging her over Facebook here and there. I try to separate different conversations by about 3-4 days. She replies, and the replies are slightly above neutral, however she never asks me any questions or prolongs the conversation. If there ever reaches a point where it’s possible to not respond she doesn’t respond (i.e.… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Ben,

what are the topics you use and how do you text her

Ben
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I bring up common interests, like books we both enjoy, or shows we watched when we were together. I’ve been using Facebook mostly. It’s not something we normally chatted on but she’s never on skype anymore so I’m kinda lost on what to do.

If she is not helping to get conversations going, should I just back off? I’m really lost on what to do.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

that means it’s getting boring for her.. and she’s not that interested in you.. have you continued the activities during nc and try going out with others too

Bill
Guest

I need some advice on how to proceed.

I followed the guide, I did NC, I improved myself, I’ve lost 4 stone, gotten my life in shape, new hobbies, a few dates.

I then tried the first text which got no response, so I waited a week and sent the 2nd attempt. This got no response again but it has been brought to my attention that she might have blocked my number completely.

What would be my best option going forward?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Bill,

how many days did you do nc? That means you have to extend until she unblocks you

Bill
Guest

I did 45

Brice
Guest
Okay so I did a 24 day no contact. Well I texted her “hey how are you?” She responded 3 hours later saying she’s fine and asked how I am. I responded 40 minutes later saying I’m good and asked her how her volunteering is at the hospital since she really likes helping people. She responded 3 hours later. Then after that we texted with a spacing of about 15 minutes each. Then she hasn’t responded to one of my texts. Knowing she didn’t go to bed cause I saw her on Facebook. I’m assuming this is a bad sign… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Brice,

it should have been ended at high note… try to send a message again and do.that

Dylan
Guest
hello! i need some advice. so first some background to my situation, my ex broke up with me around two and a half months ago because i was waay to clingy and needy and i was also very self conscious about myself. and i basically did all the wrong things after the breakup, begged, flooded her with messages, all that stuff. well anyway, after researching i decided to try no contact for 21 days and i have recently finished that and have been messaging my ex. my problem is my ex takes 1/2 days usually to respond to my messages… Read more »
Dylan
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edit: actually i wouldn’t say it’s a message a day, sometimes she can take longer than 2 days to reply, she can take much longer and sometimes i don’t even think she will reply

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Dylan,

you did 21 days but how long were you chasing her before? usually we recommend 45 days with that and did you improve yourself and continuen to do until now? are.you going out on dates too?

Dylan
Guest
my computer crashed so i’m not sure if my message sent so i’ll just send it again just incase: thank you for replying amor i would say i was chasing her for around 1 or 2 months before i started nc. but it wasn’t constant chasing, it was more like some days we would casually message each other and then others i would chase her, big mistake on my part :/ but during nc i do feel like i’ve improved myself. i used to be extremely clingy to her and i’ve learned to let go and now i’m able to… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

it did, but I’m going to erase it since it’s a a duplicate.. I think you should just do 30, sinceyou already did 21

Garrett
Guest

So after NC I contacted my ex. We had a somewhat positive conversation. But the next couple times we talked she seemed uninterested. I’ve tried bring up things she likes but is there any other things I can do? Thanks

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Garety,

rest from texting and did you continue the actvities you started in nc?

Gin
Guest
Hi, I broke up with my girlfriend 1 month ago. We both 29 years old. She has problems with commitment and she only dated 1 guy in the past 5 years which only lasted for 3 dates. Before we date she was my best friend for 2 years (we knew each other since childhood and now we work together) So we dated for 2 months which was a blast till suddenly she felt that things moving fast and that she can’t be available for me all the time ( I was texting her too much ). The problem is after… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

hi Gin,

you sound familiar.. did you comment in exbf too or had a previous comment here? anyways, it depends on what you do during nc

Gin
Guest

yeah sorry

I posted there and noticed later that it was Exboyfriend recovery.

I Already started limited NC now am on day 9 but had to talk to her face to face about work related topic today for few seconds.

Thanks

akm
Guest
Long story. We met online 7 years ago. Most of our relationship has been long distance, she is n country A and I as in country B. We worked out well And I finally decided that we should get married. The only problem was convincing my parents. They did not agree and I handled the situation really bad. Now whenever I think back about all the mistakes I made while handling the situation with my parents and her, I wish I had a time machine to go and fix all that mess. I almost had her for life but I… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Akm,

are you still talking now? If you are, tell her you respect her space and her relationship and that you need time for yourself to heal and that you’ll reconnect once you’re ready.. and then do nc.. focus in improving yourself and going out with friends.. meet new people and go out with them too

Akm
Guest

Hi Amor, sorry for the late reply. I thought I’d get a notification on my email when you respond. We are in touch but only every 3 or 4 days. She has initiated the conversations and I obliged with responses. I do get tempted to talk to her but I’m doing the NC right now. I do reply her if she messages me right? That’s what I’ve been doing.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

nope.. if you’re in nc, you shouldn’t reply too

Justin
Guest
Alright ill start from the beginning. so we dated for four years on and off but four years nonetheless. we broke up last summer and then she begged for me back saying she knew i was the one forever, so i took her back. and then starting in early november she started to distance herself and we broke up in December So february came around, and we started to hangout again. she started saying how she didn’t realize how much she missed me and that there was still love there admitted to wanting to kiss me, but didn’t happen. we… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Justine,

yes it’s been two months but it looks you didn’t really had the chance to just stop talking to her continuously and focus in improving yourself.. You were back and forth with her.. and now, she’s just focused in him and you’re just waiting for something to change.. start no contact now.. and do it for 45 days.. just focus in yourself and go out too.. meet new people and make new friends and go out with them.

Justin
Guest

Well, i havent spoken to her since. And it been over two months now of no contact. So, what do you think i should do now?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

oh.. so in the whole two months you didn’t talk? well, you can actually initiate now but if you didn’t improve yourself or change your lifestyle so that she would think that you have moved on.. do that first..

Mark A
Guest
Hi. I met a wonderful woman off of a dating site a month ago. She works nights, I work days. Almost right away She started taking weekends off, to come stay over at my place for the weekend with me. We just clicked so well, we like the same things. We got into a routine of talking on the phone as I was driving to work, because she was just getting off of work, and that was a perfect timing, and then we could plan for the next weekend etc. We did this so several weeks and it just became… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

hi Mark a,

hmm, so if you don’t give her space, what’s your plan?

Mark A
Guest
I do want to give her space. However she has now blocked me on facebook, and possibly text and phone. After she blocked me on facebook, I texted her and asked why, and asked her to please add me back. Bad move I know. Her replay was “no way” when i asked her to add me back. I live 20 miles away from her, and wouldn’t run into her under normal circumstances, and even after NC How would I even Contact her, and try to use the techniques given here? Going to her apt would be a no no, because… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

we’re going to take a chance that she’s going to unblock you once she sees you’re moving on through youe posts.. because it’s likely that after you stop pursuing her, she will wonder what you’ve been doing..she can do that through another person’s account so make your posts public..

Mark
Guest

Tried to reach her again today. Sent another quote from a book. Told her this one might be more challenging and said I hope you’re well. I got no response. Please help, as I stated before, I love this girl and wold do anything to get her back.

Mark
Guest

Got a responds from her but then she’s out of the conversation again. What can I do to get her to start talking with me again? I did 30 days NC and then got a positive response on the first contact message. Now she doesn’t respond to my texts or if she does, it’s a neutral response and then no response. Please Amor, help me with this.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

list her interests and choose a topic that is more inline with what’s currently happening.. review this articles and read this posts too:
3 Secret Texts That Your Ex Girlfriend Cant Resist (Video)
How To Make Your Ex Girlfriend Attracted To You Again
How To Use Text Messages To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back

Mark
Guest

New development. As you read in one of my previous posts, she was with a guy that treated her like crap and told me she still had feelings for him. I recently found out that she is back with that guy. What should I do now? Give up? I love her and still would take her back in a hart beat.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

she has to see first that you’ve on and that you’re doing better in life..start dating others too..so that when you reconnect she will think you’re not a threat to her current but just being friendly

Anthony
Guest
First off,thanks for posting this article about the common ancestor all people with light eyes have.I liked reading it and learning something new.Moreover,ahem,my ex is a biologist,so I suppose it would be a cool topic if I ask her what she knows about this(if I decide to start texting her again,cause so far she has been colder than the Antarctic towards my previous tries to reach out to her in all politeness,and this has driven me off cause I felt unwanted in all ways). Now to the main part,I am that same guy(yes yes Amor it’s me again if you… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Anthony,

has anybody told her that you’re not making those moves to get back with her?

Anthony
Guest
Thanks for replying. From what I know that mutual friend told her that ever since we broke up I have become even more sociable than before, so me talking with her friends doesn’t mean necessarily that I have plans to take advantage of their company towards that end. Apart from that no I don’t know if anyone else told her,I haven’t asked her friends (and I won’t of course) but I think it should be more than obvious that I don’t talk about her with them if they meet her and they are not like “you know your ex told… Read more »
Anthony
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Heck I even went our with them one time and she passed to say a hi (I didn’t know she would) to them towards the end , and I was my stance was like “ok you guys talk I’m gonna watch the people that pass outside and listen to the music”.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

that’s good.. I think it would be better if she initiates first personally..because if she still thinks you’re trying to get her back then all of your first attemps will be viewed that way.. so just continue on haging out with your new friends until she sees that you’re just being friendly and then slowly rebuild rapport with her once she initiates talking to you

Anthony
Guest

Do you think it should be better if I just stop hanging out with them? For various reasons,dunno. I like their company though :/

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

nope.. that will just confirm you’re doing it for her

Anthony
Guest

But,I’m not doing it for her… Sigh…No matter what the outcome might be(either she communicates or she never does) one thing is for sure: I will never understand how women think 😛

John
Guest

So my ex and I have been broken up for 2 months, just hit 30 days of NC, haven’t heard much, she has a boyfriend as well. I want to text her, but I’m unsure what to say. I want to be straight forward and just ask her to lunch to catch up. Should I instead follow the guide and just send a “thinking about you” message? The breakup ended rough with lots of begging from my end with coldness from her. She still stalks my Twitter and such I know for a fact

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

hi John,

it’s better if you try texting first.. hmm.. try something like asking for hel and.then asking how she is as well

Joe
Guest
So my ex had broken up with me around June 12/13th and after some begging/pleading/promises of change didn’t work (ugh) I cut contact with her on June 21/22nd with a cliffhanger like text that kind of put the ball in her court to respond, which she hasn’t so far. About a week ago I talked to a mutual friend (more so her friend but I work with the said mutual friend) who said my ex seem conflicted during their little monthly dinner they have together despite outwardly saying she was “done”. Some friends/family questioned her decision and asked why we… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

hi Joe,

yeah finish nc. why not start with a topic she loves,.so that it wouldn’t be too heavy

Joe
Guest

I thought about bringing up one of our favorite shows (I got her into Game of Thrones) at the end of of NC. She also LOVES dogs. I don’t know if she will contact me before NC, she’s kind of a stubborn person. Does stubbornness come into play with NC at all?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

yes… if she’s stubborn that’s more reason to really make it look like you’re not going to message her anymore during nc

Joe
Guest

Yeah I guess my fear is we will hit a stalemate because no one wants to contact each. I see her sister (her best friend and roommate) regularly at the gym. Should I engage her to talk about the situation? Or avoid that?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

nooe..she will get annoyed if you literally ask for help from her sister

Joe
Guest

Okay so just keep it friendly with the sister. What about the mutual friend? She’s my only link really to my ex and she has a dinner date again with her next week. Should I avoid asking the mutual friend for help too? I think the mutual friend would like to see us back together but I don’t want to put her in the middle of us.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

not now.. if it will make your ex annoyed, you don’t want that to happen.

Joe
Guest

I think I am going to just ask my ex to meet next week, the little cute txts that are suggested in the guide wont work on her I guarantee it. I just need to be straight up and honest now that its 31 days of no contact

Mark
Guest
So today was the end of NC. I sent my first text message “you won’t believe what happened to me last night” she replied right away “are you ok?” I waited 30 mins before responding with “I went for a run and a coyote jumped out in front of me. It was like our hike when the coyote walked with us. Made me think of you.” An hour later she replied with “that was really cool.” How do I respond to this? Is it a positive or neutral response? Response time was bad but at least she responded. Help is… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Mark,
yes, that’s a positive reply..
you can text her again and make the convo longer than the one before

Mark
Guest

I gave it a shot today with a “can you guess the book I read by the quote?” She loves books so I read three of her favorite over the 30 NC period.
She replied with in 20 mins guessing the correct book and saying “too easy”

I then tried to get her to talk more but when asked if she had finished reading said book she hasn’t responded. What should be my approach?

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

if she didn’t respond that means you need to wait 1 or 2 days before texting again

Mark
Guest

Ok, thank you. But do I try and continue with the same topic or forget it and make another ABI text like the first contact message?

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

if you can continue on the message then good but if not chose a more current topic.. so that it’s more natural