I get asked a lot of questions every day here at Ex Girlfriend Recovery.
“Can I get my ex girlfriend back?”
“What do I say when I text her?”
“Is it possible to get an ex girlfriend back after not being with her for over 2 years?”
I was actually asked that last one a few days ago and I will admit that I had to stop and think for a moment.
Well, I pride myself on helping men and women in what seem like the most impossible of situations. In fact, I am reminded of the time that I actually helped a woman get her ex boyfriend back after she cheated on him. She took my advice and then a few months later she was able to not only get him back but got him to PROPOSE to her.
Now, I realize that Ex Girlfriend Recovery is a website that is meant for men who are trying to get their girlfriends back and I just referenced a woman who got her boyfriend back but the point I was trying to make is that I take a certain amount of pride in helping people who are in what seem to be like impossible to recover from situations.
That brings me to my next point.
On the surface it may seem like getting an ex girlfriend back after years apart is an impossible situation to succeed in but the truth is that there are certain strategies that you can implement to improve your chances but before I start getting into specifics I’d like to have a word with those skeptics out there who think it’s impossible.
(For The Skeptics) Do You Even Have A Chance Of Getting An Ex Girlfriend Back After Years Apart?
I may be in the business of helping men and women get back with their exes but I am no dummy.
What do I mean by that?
I am well aware that if you are in a situation where you are trying to get an ex girlfriend back and you have been broken up for more than a year then the odds probably aren’t in your favor of success.
So, I put this little section together for the skeptics out there who think I am just in this for the money and are just telling men what they want to hear.
If you are trying to get an ex girlfriend back after years apart then you probably aren’t going to succeed.
There, I said it…
The truth is that if you are in this situation then I want you to know that you have the odds stacked against you and it is going to take some serious commitment on your part if you are going to pull this off.
Now, what do you think I mean when I say “it’s going to take some serious commitment?”
In my experience when it comes to overcoming the seemingly impossible there are two types of people.
Hmm… perhaps I should say that there are two types of people with two types of fears.
The first person has this type of fear,
The second person has this type of fear,
So, here is my question to you.
Out of all the men who come to this site and face resistance from their exes which type of fear controls them?
The ones who face everything and run, right?
In fact, I would say that about 90% of the men on this site have this type of fear.
The other ten percent…
Well, hopefully that’s YOU!
Anyways, I got a little off topic there for a moment.
I was talking about how if you are trying to get an ex girlfriend back after years apart you probably don’t have a good chance.
Why do you think that is?
In my opinion it has to do with time.
The Factor Time Plays Into This
Have you ever taken the time to do research on how long experts say it takes to form a habit?
Well, according to Maxwell Maltz, a prominent plastic surgeon in the 1950’s it takes someone about 21 days to form a new habit.
Now, I know what you are thinking.
“How the hell does a plastic surgeon of all people come to that conclusion?”
The story is actually quite interesting.
Maltz began to notice that any time he would give someone a nose job it would take them about 21 days to get used to seeing their new face. Similarly, he also noticed that any time he would amputate a leg or arm the patient would sense a phantom arm or leg in it’s place for around 21 days until they got used to their new situation.
Pretty crazy, huh?
Recent research seems to disprove Maltz’s theory.
According to a study conducted in 2010 it takes the average person 66 days to form a new habit.
Now you probably have a pretty good idea as to why I don’t recommend the 60 day no contact rule in my system, Ex Girlfriend Recovery PRO.
My theory is that if you give your girlfriend enough time she will eventually get out of the habit of thinking about you. 60 days is cutting it awfully close.
But enough of that.
Lets get back on topic here.
(I know I have ADHD a bit today.)
If you are wondering how the 66 day habit theory plays into you minimizing your chances of winning an ex girlfriend back after years apart it’s actually quite simple.
One year is equivalent to 365 days.
In theory it takes a woman 66 days to form a habit/break a habit.
Assuming you and your ex girlfriend haven’t talked to each other for a minimum of 66 days in that 365 day span then you can see that it has become quite easy for your ex girlfriend to get over you or more specifically get out of the habit of thinking about you.
In other words, the men out there who are trying to get their ex girlfriend back immediately after the breakup have this habit thing in their favor and you do not (if you are trying to get your ex back after a year or more apart.)
You are at a disadvantage.
That’s where I come in.
It’s my job to get you from point A, broken up for a year or more, to point B, back together.
Allow me to illustrate that below,
Now, I know what you are thinking?
“How the heck are you going to do that?”
You remember what I said above about how I love approaching “impossible situations” and making them possible.
Well, what if I told you that I think I have found a way to drastically improve your chances of winning your ex girlfriend back after years apart?
Is that something you think you would be interested in?
The Ultimate Game Plan To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back After Years Apart
Rather than listening to me set this entire section up with some useless fluff lets just get right down to business, what do you say?
I have taken the liberty of coming up with a very solid game plan to help you get your ex back if you have been apart for at least a year.
Take a look at the infographic below,
Pretty cool little graphic, huh?
Actually when I usually create these things they usually look horrible but this one didn’t turn out so bad but I am getting off topic again.
(Side Note: If I keep getting off topic you have my full permission to slap my upside the head and tell me to get back on topic.)
If you look at the graphic above you will notice that there are four main strategies that are going to be the lifeblood of what I talk about today.
In order from left to right they are,
- Do You Have A Chance?
- The Grass Is Greener Syndrome
- The Habit Effect
- Tide Theory
So, as I am sure you have guessed I am going to go down this list one by one and teach you how to master each of these things.
I guess we should just hop right to it and start with determining your chances.
How To Determine Your Chances Of Success
Above I explained that if you find yourself in a position where you are wanting your ex back years after the breakup then you have a lot of obstacles to overcome.
Well, I am very much into NOT misleading people so I figured it would be nice if I put together this little section to explain if you have a chance or not.
So, I guess the first thing I want to let you in on is my way of looking at a mans chances of getting back with his ex girlfriend.
I have had the pleasure of dealing with thousands of relationships and with those dealings comes a lot of experience. As a result of that experience I have slowly but surely began to notice trends in what were the hardest situations for an ex to succeed in.
In fact, once I began noticing these trends I began to chart them.
Once that started happening I started assigning percentages of success next to them.
For example, a general breakup would have around a 35% chance of success whereas a breakup where cheating was involved would have around a 10% chance of success depending on a number of factors.
While I would like nothing more than to assign an overall percentage for those men out there who are trying to get their ex back after a year or more apart I cannot.
Now, I know what you are thinking.
The truth is that I don’t have enough data yet to come up with a general percentage so I had to get creative.
How To Figure Out If You Have A Chance After Years Apart
The truth is that an attempt to get an ex back after years apart is very unique.
There are underlying factors that need to be taken into account.
What if your ex girlfriend is currently dating someone?
What if you haven’t talked to your ex girlfriend for at least a year?
What if you had a horrible breakup?
Things like this can either help you or hurt you depending on what those things are.
So, what I would like to do now is address each of these questions and tell you if you have a decent chance of success with regards to each of them. Again, the three factors that we are going to be looking at are,
- If your ex girlfriend is currently dating someone.
- If you haven’t talked to your ex girlfriend in at least a year.
- If you had a horrible breakup.
Lets begin by talking about your exes dating habits.
If Your Ex Girlfriend Is Currently Dating Someone?
I figured I would start with the worst case scenario first since I am of the mind that I would rather have the band aid ripped off all at once first rather than one side at a time.
Just to clarify.
When I talk about your ex girlfriend CURRENTLY dating someone I am not talking about if she dated someone after you. I am talking about at this very moment right now.
Ok, now that we have that out of the way lets rip this band aid off.
Are you ready?
Ok, here it goes!
If you and your ex girlfriend broke up and it’s been at least a year and she is currently dating someone your chances of getting her back are really bad.
Do you remember what I said above about it only taking 66 days to make or break a habit?
Well, theoretically that means that it should take your ex 66 days to fully break the habit of thinking about you. In other words, she will have gotten over you in 66 days. Now, you will learn how I put a clever little twist on this habit statistic later on with the “habit effect” but for now it’s not really helping you out very much.
Now, I am not totally into crushing the hope of all men out there.
Obviously there are other factors at play that determine how serious she is about the current guy she is with that can either help you or hurt you.
Lets take a moment to look at those factors.
If She Just Started Dating The New Guy
I would say that this actually helps you as opposed to hurts you.
If she just started dating him then there isn’t a guage on how serious they are.
I mean, can you imagine if she has been dating the guy for years?
That’s my next factor,
If She Has Been Dating The Guy For A Long Time
What is “a long time?”
Hmm.. I would say that “a long time” when it comes to relationships where marriage isn’t involved would have to be at least a year.
In other words, if your ex girlfriend has been dating her current boyfriend for at least a year it hurts your chances.
All in all, it’s probably not going to be a good thing if your ex girlfriend has a boyfriend.
What If You Haven’t Talked To Your Ex Girlfriend In At Least A Year
Seriously, the strategy I am going to teach you takes this into account and will teach you the right way to re-approach talking to an ex girlfriend that you haven’t been in touch with for a long time.
Now, I know a lot of you will probably need a little more explaining about this than a simple,
So, allow me to give you a little tease into what we are going to be talking about with the habit effect.
Sometimes not talking to your ex girlfriend for at least a year can be an advantage.
Think about the no contact rule that I talk about in Ex Girlfriend Recovery PRO.
While there are a lot of reasons for why I think the no contact rule is a great strategy for getting your ex back but I often describe it as a reset button.
You know the reset button on your gaming system, right?
Actually, I don’t even know if the newer systems have them anymore but back in my day with Nintendo and Sega Genesis there was a reset button that you could press and it would reset the whole console. The no contact rule can almost be compared to that.
It’s like a fun little way of erasing some of the things said during the breakup and starting over.
Now, women are obviously not gaming consoles with reset buttons but the analogy of the no contact rule will get you as close to a reset as possible.
So, if you haven’t talked to your ex girlfriend in at least a year then you have probably let enough time pass to create a really good reset where you can start over with a much cleaner slate as opposed to the men out there trying to get their girlfriends back immediately after the breakup.
What If We Had A Horrible Breakup?
Again, I don’t want to give too much away with what I am going to talk about in the habit effect section but I would like to direct you to the section above and what I talked about with the reset button.
Oh, and for those of you who are rolling your eyes about what I am saying I just want you to know that I have experience with a horrible breakup.
My very first breakup could be characterized as horrible.
You know, some people can get along with their ex after a breakup.
Some people can remain friends (or at least try to.)
Not me and my first ex…
Nope, we fought all throughout the relationship and the breakup only made the fighting more hurtful and intense. So, I totally get it when people talk about horrible breakups.
Things get said…
Heck, things even get thrown.
My point to you though is that sometimes a lot of time passing can be advantage so if you are sitting there wondering,
“Do I even have a chance if our breakup was horrible?”
My answer would be,
“Even if you ended up cheating on your ex. Time going by isn’t going to hurt you. If anything, it will help you.”
The Grass Is Greener Syndrome
The grass is greener syndrome is something that hardly anyone every mentions when talking about trying to get an ex girlfriend back after this amount of time apart.
Here’s the thing.
It’s a factor…
In fact, in some cases it’s a big factor.
But first, I guess it would be a good idea for me to actually explain what GIGS (Grass Is Greener Syndrome) is.
Ok, so lets say that when your ex girlfriend was dating you a thought entered her head.
What was the thought?
“I think I can do better…”
She only had this belief for a split second but that split second soon evolved into minutes to hours to days and finally to months. Eventually she was so consumed with the thought that she could do better than you that she decided to act on it and broke up with you.
This thought that she had is at the root of the Grass Is Greener Syndrome.
The way it works is quite simple.
Either the grass IS greener on the other side or it ISN’T.
In other words, if your ex girlfriend breaks up with you and finds someone who fulfills her needs better than you did then the grass was indeed greener on the other side. However, if she breaks up with you and doesn’t find someone who fulfills her needs as well as you did then the grass was not greener.
So, ultimately there are two outcomes with the GIGS.
- The Grass WAS Greener
- The Grass WASN’T Greener
These two outcomes can definitely have an impact on your ex especially if the two of you broke up years ago.
Lets take a look at that impact.
What If The Grass WAS Greener For Your Girlfriend?
This is only the outcome if your ex girlfriend broke up with you and at some point dated someone who she felt fulfilled her more.
I have this theory.
I like to call it, Grade Theory.
You see, I believe that when women date a man they have this certain grade that they give him.
Lets assume that this grade is called the “boyfriend grade” and just like most schools now-a-day’s give generic grades like A, B, C, D, F, lets assume that your ex girlfriend has a grade for every man she has ever dated.
Whatever man she has given the best grade to is always going to be the mark to beat for the rest of her life. Now, this is where things get a little more complicated.
The final grade isn’t fully determined until the end of a relationship.
What does this tell us?
It tells us that the boyfriend grade can change from the start of the relationship to the end of a relationship.
For example, if you started out with a boyfriend grade of an A and ended with a boyfriend grade of an F then that probably means you cheated, fought a lot or did something for her to mark your score down from an A.
Why am I teaching you about the boyfriend score?
Lets explore a hypothetical situation so I can answer why this is such an important thing to grasp.
Lets pretend that your final boyfriend score ended up being a B.
After you and your ex girlfriend broke up she ended up dating three guys.
- Guy 1 had a final score of a C
- Guy 2 had a final score of a D
- Guy 3 had a final score of an A
Before “Guy 3” you were the mark to beat.
However, after Guy 3 your chances are seriously going to be hindered because his score was better than yours. In other words, now when she is looking for a guy she is always going to be comparing everyone she meets to Guy 3.
Why does this harm your chances of getting back together with her?
Well, you only finished with a B. Your ex girlfriend already knows what you are all about and what you can bring to the table and in the time you were apart she found someone who eclipsed your score.
Now, the obvious question you are having at this point is how you can “up” your boyfriend score without dating her.
Don’t worry, I am going to teach you a method on how to do that with the habit effect. First though, we need to stop with the negativity and start looking at the GIGS in a positive light by looking at those situations where it can help you.
What If The Grass WASN’T Greener For Your Ex Girlfriend
I have already taught you about the meaning of the GIGS and the boyfriend score.
So, there is no need to reteach those concepts.
Lets just dive right in to how the GIGS can actually help you if you and your ex girlfriend are far removed from your breakup.
I would like to take our example above about the three guys your ex dated after your breakup to make a few points.
Again, your ex girlfriend gave you a boyfriend score of a A after your breakup. However, the three guys she dated after you had different scores than before,
- Guy 1 had a final score of an F
- Guy 2 had a final score of an F
- Guy 3 had a final score of an F
Wow, F’s across the board.
You know what that means, right?
It means that every guy that your ex girlfriend dated after you was a bum. It means that YOU still hold the standard boyfriend grade that she is grading every man she meets against.
You are going to be that one guy in her past that she will always remember as the best boyfriend she ever dated.
It kinda makes getting her back that much easier…
The Habit Effect
So far there has been a lot of build up for “The Habit Effect” hasn’t there?
Well, it’s finally here.
The question you are probably wondering at this point is,
“What the heck is The Habit Effect?”
Before I get into that let me first explain the little advantage that you do have on your side if you are trying to get an ex girlfriend back after this much time apart.
You may not know this but there is an advantage to doing this.
Care to guess what that advantage is?
(Actually there are two advantages to it.)
Time is an amazing thing.
What’s the old saying?
Time Heals All Wounds
Experience has taught me that this is often true when it comes to exes.
Think about it, the biggest disadvantage that a guy trying to get his ex back immediately after a breakup has is the fact that the breakup is still fresh on his exes mind.
She is thinking about all the horrible things that were said.
She is thinking about all the times that she was so hurt that she felt like she couldn’t go on anymore.
In other words, trying to get an ex girlfriend back when the breakup is still fresh on her mind can be a disadvantage.
Above I mentioned that it takes the average human being 66 days to either form or truly break a habit. In other words, it will realistically take 66 days for an ex girlfriend to fully get out of the habit of thinking about how she was wrong, how depressed she is, etc.
The disadvantage that a man trying to get his ex girlfriend back immediately has is the fact that she hasn’t had time to really get over and forgive some of the wrongs she feels that have been done to her.
However, a man that is trying to get her back well past that 66 day mark will be dealing with a woman who has probably forgiven or at least gotten out of the habit of being so angry.
In other words, it’s true what they say.
Time heals all wounds!
Lets play my favorite game of hypothetical situations 😉 .
There are two men trying to get their ex girlfriends back.
Each decide that the best way to win their exes heart back is by self improvement. In other words, becoming the type of man that is not just attractive to her but attractive to all women in general.
Using our knowledge about habits we know that it takes 66 days for anyone to form a new habit. In other words, to truly become a better version of yourself you are going to have to stay committed to self improvement for at least 66 days to see the type of change that will make an impression on an ex girlfriend.
Man A is trying to get his ex girlfriend back 30 days after their breakup.
Man B is trying to get his ex girlfriend back 380 days after their breakup.
Now, tell me.
Which man will have a better chance of blowing his ex away with how good he looks or how much he has changed (for the better?)
Man A who has only had 30 days to dedicate to self improvement or Man B who has had over a year?
Man B, right?
Sometimes it’s an advantage to not get an ex girlfriend back right away.
What Is The Habit Effect?
Above I mentioned that there are two big advantages that a man who is trying to get his ex back after a year has over a man who is trying to get his ex back immediately after a breakup.
Those two advantages are,
- The fact that time heals all wounds
- It allows you more time for self improvement
Well, The Habit Effect is all about creating a synergy between these two things.
Here’s the deal though.
One of the two “advantages” you have no control over and one of them you do.
Care to guess which is which?
You Have No Control Over How Your Ex Girlfriend Heals
According to statistics it is going to take your ex 66 days of not associating you with bad feelings to get out of the habit of.. well, associating you with bad feelings. This is something that you really don’t have any control over.
How long it takes your ex girlfriend to DE-associate you with the negative feelings that go along with a breakup is completely up to her.
Just know that the average time for her to de-associate those feelings may take up to 66 days.
I would much rather prefer to look at the actionable things you can do to improve your chances of getting her back with The Habit Effect
You DO Have Control Over How Much You Improve
I am a big believer in self improvement.
I mean, look at the name of this website, Ex Girlfriend Recovery.
So, there are two ways you can look at the name of this website.
- This website will help you to get your ex girlfriend back
- This website will help you to recover from the heartache of losing an ex girlfriend
I want you to pay particular attention to that second reason.
Would you like to know what I have found is the best way to recover from a breakup?
In fact, I have helped multiple men get back on their feet after a breakup just by helping them see the fact that improving themselves only benefits themselves.
Besides, you would be shocked just how many women want their exes back after they have seen a positive change in them.
Again, it takes 66 days for a new habit to be formed so in this year away from your ex girlfriend have you spent 66 days in a row working on self improvement?
Have you take advantage of the holy trinity?
You can learn about the holy trinity here.
So far I have talked a lot about what it takes to get an ex girlfriend back if the two of you have been apart for years.
What I would like to turn my attention to now is how the initial reach out to her should go.
When it comes to Ex Girlfriend Recovery and this specific situation one of the most popular questions that I get is,
“Chris, how does the process of actually talking to my ex work?”
Well, I am a big proponent of things unfolding naturally. I am also a big proponent of not overstepping your boundaries which I talk about extensively in my Ex Girlfriend Recovery PRO System.
What do I mean by not overstepping your boundaries?
Imagine that you haven’t seen someone who you knew really at one point for 5 years. Then one day out of the blue this person calls you and tries to have a conversation with you for an hour. Don’t you think you’d be a little weirded out?
I know I would be.
So, here is what I propose.
Instead of running the risk of freaking your ex girlfriend out you should take things really slowly. Don’t call her up and ask her on a date right away. Commit to the slow approach by texting her, slowly building up the attraction and then you can move on to more advanced things.
And that’s why we are here.
I am going to teach you how to do things in a slow and natural manner with text messages by teaching you about something I like to call “Tide Theory.”
What Is Tide Theory?
Have you ever wondered what the correct way to text your ex is?
How to build attraction?
How to transition from one rung of the ladder (texting) to the next (calling?)
Well, that’s where tide theory comes into play.
I am a very big believer in letting things unfold naturally when you text someone.
I have always found that more often than not, the people who end up getting the best results when it comes to getting an ex back are able to make the process seamless.
They don’t look at it like a math problem like so many people out there do. They look at it like a natural interaction between two human beings.
That’s how you need your texting conversation with your ex to be, natural.
But how do you achieve this? What is Natural?
How can you get your ex use to texting you every day like when the two of you first started dating?
I want you to think of a beautiful beach on Hawaii…
Now, a beach on Hawaii is going to have two types of tides.
- Low Tide
- High Tide
If you don’t know what a low tide and a high tide is don’t worry, this picture should explain it all,
Of course, for our visually challenged readers I will give you a quick crash course on what the tides are.
Low Tide = The water on the beach only takes up a small portion of the beach
High Tide = The water on the beach takes up a large portion of the beach
Ok, now that you are an expert on tides, lets do a little role playing.
Let’s imagine that you wake up one morning and decide that you want to go to the beach.
Oh, perhaps I should mention that you live in Hawaii (a tropical paradise), so going to the beach is a treat.
So, you get in your car and decide to stop by and pick up your best friend and the two of you make your way to the most beautiful beach you can think of.
What’s the name of the beach?
Oh I don’t know.
How about the “Chris Seiter Beach.”
Anyways, when you get there the sun is shining, hardly anyone is at the beach and the water is crystal clear.
In other words, it’s a perfect beach day.
When you walk onto the beach you notice that the water level on the beach is pretty low.
“Hmm… that’s interesting you think to yourself.”
As the day wears on you begin to notice that the water level is slowly but surely rising, but you are busy having fun with your friend to really take notice of it.
Anyways, by the end of the day you notice that the water has risen significantly.
“When did that happen?” you think to yourself.
You were at the beach all day and literally had a front row seat to the water level rising, but the rise seemed so natural that you can’t really pinpoint an exact moment where the water jumped from super low to super high.
Want to know why?
Because a moment like that doesn’t exist.
It’s a series of moments that are compounded on one another.
That is how you need to approach texting your ex.
One important element of Tide Theory is if you start out going from 0 to 60 right off the bat, you are going to fall flat on your face. You will become a bonafide Text Gnat! You will drown in failure.
However, if you go from
0 to 5…
5 to 10…
10 to 15…
So on and so forth, until you will arrive at the proper speed for your relationship. You will find that the two of you are really clicking. There will be balance. The communications between you and your Ex will not feel forced. They naturally progressed…back and forth.
Has anyone ever told you to,
“Let it happen naturally?”
My wife constantly tells me that.
Geez… I can almost hear her saying it to me now.
“Let it happen naturally…”
“Let it happen naturally…”
The truth is that phrase sort of annoys me because I don’t view the world in that way.
I am of the mind that if you do things A, B, C and D, you will get result ABCD. Perhaps I get a bit too mechanistic in my world view at times.
Do you know what I mean?
So my wife is right.
Often times, when we allow things to happen naturally…with balance and harmony…. feelings grow stronger.
(I can’t believe I am about to tell you this but what the heck. We are friends, right?)
My wife thinks that the start of our relationship was very natural.
Like how we met…
What we said to each other…
How often we texted…
How often we called each other…
You know, all that fun stuff.
Half of it was very natural, but the other half wasn’t…
She perceives it to be natural, but the truth is that I made a very conscious decision to slow things down on purpose because I wanted to make it seem more natural to her than it really was. Maybe that is because I am self aware that I can push a bit hard at times.
This is Tide Theory at work.
So we are coming up with a game plan to make something that is supposed to happen naturally seem like it’s happening naturally, when the truth is that it’s not always that way. Some of us are designed to streak across the sky like a comet….moving for 0 to 60 lickity split. Slow it down are your will burn out!
So let’s dig a little deeper to understand how to properly implement Tide Theory in winning back your Ex or pursuing anyone romantically for that matter.
The Power of Compounding
Are you familiar with the idea of money doubling over time?
Ok, lets imagine that this year you only earn $100 for the entire year.
Bear with me here because I promise there is a point to all of this.
Let’s say that by the next year you have doubled that money from $100 to $200.
In fact, you do this every year for the next 10 years.
- $100 into $200
- $200 into $400
- $400 into $800
- $800 into $1600
- $1600 into $3200
- $3200 into $6400
- $6400 into $12,800
- $12,800 into $25,600
- $25,600 into $51,200
- $51,200 into $102,400
At year one, you had only earned $100 a year and by year ten you have turned that $100 into over $100,000. Wow, you think to yourself, this power of compounding is indeed powerful.
Well, Tide theory works in a similar way. Double your pleasure, Right?
Imagine that you send your ex one text and then the next day you send them two texts and then the next day you send them four texts and then so on and so forth. The Tide is coming in. The attraction is building.
So, the chart could look like this,
Day 1: 1 Text
Day 2: 2 Texts
Day 3: 4 Texts
Day 4: 8 Texts
Day 5: 16 Texts
Day 6: 32 Texts
Day 7: 64 Texts
And so on and so forth.
Notice how it starts off slow and then slowly ratchets up as attraction is rebuilt.
This is by design. It seems natural, right? Wrong! The natural Law of Attraction does not operate that way in the real physical world and certainly you should not adopt such an approach.
There is a BIG problem with the chart. It only represents one element of Tide Theory. The tide naturally rises and comes in (i.e. the progression of your text messages increase). But over time, the tide also will regress and go back out (the slowing down of text messages – fewer texts).
These natural powerful Tidal Forces work to your advantage. The giving and the taking away. It represents a main cog in the law of attraction.
Too many text message over time will sink you! Such behavior leads to the birth of the Text Gnat which is essentially a person who sends so many text messages that they just become addicted and annoying.
That’s why I have created another little phrase to help you with the proper implementation of Tide Theory.
Full Moon Rise
I like to call it “Full Moon Rise”. Its the great equalizer. Just like a full moon can affect the direction of a tide, you too can strategically slow down the frequency of your texts to your Ex.
“When the moon is full or new, the gravitational pull of the moon and sun are combined. At these times, the high tides are very high and the low tides are very low.”
So think of it this way. As the re-attraction builds, your text message frequency increases (i.e. like the tide coming in!)…..then over time you call upon the “Full Moon Rise” factor so to speak, to slow down the progression of text messages (i.e. like a tide going back out to sea). Then you again increase the frequency of texts (slowly and naturally). Then you again naturally slow them down. Almost like an orgasmic experience. The waxing and waning of your your love life. This is the natural order.
If your texting behavior is like a comet streaking across the sky, the relationship will quickly burn out. Too much of thing is not natural.
From a psychological perspective, you need to guard against being the comet because you will feel very excited about how things are progressing in the early days of re-attraction. This excitement can build and impair your judgement and perspective.
If the quantity of text messages just keep increasing, you run the risk of scaring off your Ex because you are sending far too many texts as the days progress.
So if we take into account the effect of the rising “Full Moon” on the natural Tidal Forces of Romance, how might it look like if we were to chart it?
Take a look at the updated chart below,
Day 1: 1 Text
Day 2: 2 Texts
Day 3: 4 Texts
Day 4: 6 – 8 Texts
Day 5: 10 – 14 Texts
(Full Moon Rise – Wait ½ Day)
Day 6: 8 – 12 Texts
Day 7: 4 – 6 Texts
Day 8: 2 – 4 Texts
Day 9: 1 – 2 Texts
(Full Moon Rise – Wait ½ Day)
Day 10: 2 – 4 Texts
Day 11: 4 – 6 Texts
Day 12: 6 – 8 Texts
Do you see what I did there? Bear in mind that this Chart is a rough representation of how the Tidal Forces might operate in winning back your Ex. Feel free to tweak and modify as appropriate.
I basically distributed the text messages in a such a way that getting back in touch with your Ex and building rapport is a more natural process, taking into account the natural rise and fall of communication. This give and take is especially important because attraction is optimized when your Ex is chasing you a bit…hungering for your next message.
Now, here is the coolest thing about Tide Theory.
You can customize it to your needs.
For example, maybe you feel that doubling your texts is a little too much and you would like to spread the doubling out even more.
Well, you can craft the secret sauce to fit your needs perfectly.
So, that’s it!