The Three BIGGEST Mistakes Men Make After A Breakup (Video)

It’s been a while…

Ok, it’s actually been about seven months to be exact since I posted the last video here so “a while” may be a bit of an understatement.

But I have an excuse!

It’s almost impossible to film with a screaming baby behind you. You see, my wife and I have been thinking a lot about doing YouTube videos for you guys but ultimately we determined we were going to have to wait until we found a bigger place to live to film quality videos.

The problem was where we were living was a tiny little two bedroom apartment and it was almost impossible not to hear the crying while we were filming our videos.

So we had to stop.

I’m all about quality and some of the videos we ended up producing for you guys were very low quality and I want to personally apologize to you for that.

Such are the joys of parenthood.

But that’s not much of a problem for us anymore.

Why?

Because we recently made a huge change and moved from our little two bedroom apartment to a new home,

House

Pretty awesome, right?

I’m tentatively calling it “The Ex Recovery Headquarters” because the only reason we were able to get a house like that is because of you and for that I am eternally grateful.

So grateful in fact that I am making it a point to create killer content for you as much as humanly possible.

….

You still don’t believe that we live in that house, huh?

Sigh….

I didn’t want to have to do this but,

wife and baby

That’s my wife, Jennifer (who you have probably interacted with before) and my little daughter Lilly.

But we are getting way off topic here.

You came here to learn about how to get your ex girlfriend back and not listen to my personal life.

Anyways, today’s video is going to focus on the three BIGGEST mistakes that I see people making after breakups.

What Are The Three Biggest Mistakes Men Make After A Breakup?

What I Talk About In The Video

  • Being Too Available
  • Gnatting
  • “Mind Like Water”
  • Not Having A Plan
  • Ensuring You See Some Type Of Personal Growth During This Breakup
  • “Moving On Without Moving On”

Important Links I Mention In The Video

The Video Transcript

Click Here To Download The Video Transcript

 

		

Written by EGR team mate

Chris Seiter

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Sean Martin Mc connell
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Sean Martin Mc connell
hi i really need your help. me and my partner have broken up after 6 and a half years , she broke up with me. this is the 3rd time. only this was my fault. we have two beautiful daughters together and we were fostering another. I purchased the recovery pro package and I cannot do the no contact rule for 3 reasons. my deliveries for work comes on a monday and Thursday. I have to unload my van with parts that need returned and load my van with new parts and stock. I have to unload and load my… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

that means you have to do a limited no contact.. you only talk about the kids or work,.nothing else.. you dont live together right?

Trent
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I can’t do this, I’m working really hard at bettering myself, i have panic disorder/agoraphobia and I’m riding my bike trying to beat this disease. I’m learning how to cook and training to run a 5k. I feel like she will never see the progress I’m making she blocked me from contact. I’m just so frustrated. It’s been a week since our breakup and its sucks.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Trent,

it’s normal to still think about her.. don’t deny that to yourself. Acknowledge it when it happens and remind yourself that it’s normal but that it wont help you if you break nc because of that.. You have to choose to keep going or to keep doing your current activity despite of what you feel.. It’s like being brave. You’re still afraid but you choose to act while you’re also afraid, instead of letting fear cripple you… Do new activities. Widen your world and make new friends..

Alex
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Hi,

i’ve read through and digest the texting bible and ex girlfriend recovery pro content however she blocked me from every social media platform ( facebook / snapchat / tumblr / instagram ) included whatsapp ( we’re distance and that’s the only way we communicate all these year. )

she texted me she want to have a clean cut of our relationship and even friendship ( it was before i purchase the ex girlfriend recover pro ) . i don’t know what should i do now

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

hi alex,

when did you break up? did you do the no contact rule? how long?

Alex
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Hi Amor, Thank you for your reply. it was November 2016 after breakup i didn’t text her for several day however she did initiate contact by texting me asking about other’s thing ( of cause i replied in a way that the breakup didn’t happen at all ) however after a week or two. i turned into desperate mode and constantly text her. i draw back and stop all communication every 2 weeks and i initiate a contact to her again ( for 2 times i guess which equivalent to 4 weeks ) – her convocation present ( i purchase… Read more »
Alex
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Hi Amor,

did you receive the comment that i post last week?

hope to hear you soon

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Yes, sorry..I just haven’t reached you yet.. Then do a full no contact this time..start the count after this..improve yourself and make it seem you’re moved on before rebuilding rapport. Be active in posting in social media. Do at least 45 days

KEVIN DOTSON
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There was a girl that I worked with for about a year. She moved away and recently came back for the holidays. Before this we had gotten in touch on Facebook and flirted and she told me that she had always liked me and was curious about how I felt. I told her that I felt the same way, but work had prevented any further action. Anyway, we “hooked up” during her time in. It was fantastic. She eventually went back to Arkansas, the state she is currently living in. She has a host of men who want to date… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Kevin,

do you want to try the no contact rule?

Jimmy Chau
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Hi Chris. My name is Jimmy Chau. For about a month now, I have read many of your articles that you provide on this website and I must say it has given me a lot of insight on my situation with my ex-girlfriend. Within this email details my particular situation as I would like your opinion on how I should proceed with getting or even attempting to get my exgirlfriend. On August 31 of 2016, my ex of 5 years broke up with me. On this day, I just finished my internship in a small rural town and to celebrate,… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Jimmu,

be very active in improving yourself and be active in social media too..If she messages you, dont answer..

Anthony Simmonds
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Hi Chris so me and my ex had met three years ago through a friend when we first started dating things were good it wasnt until i started handling problems differently by talking to other females it got to the point to where i started doin it naturally and never realized it my ex had put up with it for two years and and finally got fed up she broke up with me about four months ago but we still talked and it seemed like we were going to work things out that is until she started becoming distant and… Read more »
Jonathan
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Hi Chris, My writing skill might not be that good, but please bear with my story. My ex just asked me for a break up around 3 weeks ago and it is almost 4 now. Before we break up, she also was asking for a break in our relationship, but I luckily manage to solve it somehow at that time with my persistency. At that time I think I didn’t give her enough time and space, so that is why it is resulting into this break up. That day, she called me and ask me “can we break up?”, I… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

HI JOnathan,

yeah it looks like the no contact rule was not fully utilized.. First, did you improve yourself during the no contact rule? What activities did you start that you still continue to do until now? HOw much do you go out with other people? ANd liking is not actually allowed during nc.. how are you now?

David John
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23rd of this month…. And the call was really lively.. Please help I am becoming desperate

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi David,

are you in no contact rule now:

James
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Hey

I failed at NC it the past and begged. I don’t feel the pro fits my situation I would say I’m in the nice guy camp Chris can you still help

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi James,

what’s your story? how long were together, when and why did you break up, how old are you both?

David John
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Hi Chris. I ve been dating this girl for some months. One faithful morning she sent me a text that she doesn’t want me anymore. That she ve been pretending all this while. That I should forgive her and that we should go back to being friends.. I didn’t argue I said OK no problem. I stopped calling her but she kept calling me. When ever she calls I don’t feel like talking to her but just because I don’t want her to notice I was suffering from the breakup I will just pick… Few months later she called me… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi David

when did you last talked?

David
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Hi Chris. I ve been dating this girl for some months. One faithful morning she sent me a text that she doesn’t want me anymore. That she ve been pretending all this while. That I should forgive her and that we should go back to being friends.. I didn’t argue I said OK no problem. I stopped calling her but she kept calling me. When ever she calls I don’t feel like talking to her but just because I don’t want her to notice I was suffering from the breakup I will just pick… Few months later she called me… Read more »
Chris
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is there any number I can call and talk to?

John
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Hi, My ex-ldr girlfriend of almost 1 year broke up with me after fighting for a month over a hookup she had and lied about while we were dating, but not “official”, and then for another month, while we were semi living together during vacation, after another big fight we had over the same argument, where she broke up with me a couple times, I convinced her (though now it seems more like begging) to keep on trying, despite her asking for space or saying that she didn’t know if she could get over everything that happened or that even… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi John

nope dont ask the friend, it’ll reach her that you asked her friend.. anyways, about going there, dont think about it for now.. how many days would that be after your nc?

John
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It would be two months since the bu.

Jonas
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Hi Chris, I have been reading every single article from your website exgirlfriendrecovery.com but I still have some questions. My gf went to a trip to Peru for an internship for three months. We were together before she leaves and for 1 month she was there. After, things got complicated. She met new people and there is that dance professor who is a friend of her friend. She loves dancing so she takes some salsa classes at his academy. She said he is like her big bro and he is an unnecessary detail in our relationship. I was really obsessed… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi jonas,

yes, you can still do no contact rule even if she’s outside the country.. and I think you should do 45 days because you have to establish that you’re not chasing her and besides,.you’re already broken up.. I’m assuming you talked about going there when you’re still together

even if you don’t do no contact, it’s still more probable that she will be closer to because they’re closer to each other..

after nc, slowly rebuild rapport before meeting up.. during nc heal and improve yourself massively