3 Secret Texts That Your Ex Girlfriend Cant Resist (Video)

What’s going on guys?

Today I have a very special video for you.

I put a lot of thought into it and cover a ton of ground when it comes to texting your ex girlfriend.

Check it out!

Creative and Clever Ways to Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back

clever texting to get your girlfriend's attention

Before we get to the video transcript, I wanted to offer you some additional thoughts on my overall program.  You see, I don’t want you to be misled.  Getting your ex girlfriend to bite on things that you are going to do to re-attract her is not always an easy thing to pull off.

So that needs to be said.

Sometimes guys will come on to this site looking for a secret or magical solution to the biggest emotional issue they have ever faced.  In many cases, they have arrived at that singular moment in their lives where they can do great good or more wrong.

Coming up with some savvy text messages to pull your ex back into your life is something I specialize in.  So I certainly hope you were listening and watching my video carefully.  And by the way, I offer a ton of free content about many other clever steps you can take to get your ex girlfriend interested in you again.

Now will these clever and creative steps lead you to getting your ex girlfriend back so fast that you have her eating at of the palm of your hand?

Heck No!

No one can teach you such a thing.

It rarely happens, if at all.  Your cleverness and creativity needs to revolve around fashioning a full game plan and executing.  That is how you bring her around to opening up to you again. Giving you another shot.  Trusting you just enough to risk being disappointed again.  This is her mindset. You need to try and climb into her mind to understand how she is processing all that is happening to her.

That is what I teach, by and large.

Trust me, I specialize in coming up with creative ways to shake her out of her anger or stubbornness to give in to your overtures.  My tactics, which are patterned after real life situations that have unfolded, are designed to help break down your ex’s resistance.  Don’t forget, she is not quite the same girl now as you knew before. What has happened as a result of the breakup has changed her and influenced her perception of you and herself.

I want you to know that it takes commitment and smarts to pull this off.  Some guys come to me with questions on what they need to do first, second, etc.  I can see they are determined to get back on their ex’s good side.

Determination is important.  But being overly determined and rushing into mistakes is something you need to watch out for.

For a lot of guys, finding some smart and clever text messages they can send to their ex is all they can think about.  But unless your texting plan is part of a larger full service plan, then you are going to battle without enough ammunition.

For some guys I have worked with, while their girlfriend may have left them, their attitude is whatever it takes to get them back, god willing, they are going to try it out.

But be wary of overstepping and coming off as looking desperate or overly aggressive to your ex girlfriend.  Believe me, you don’t want to paint yourself into that corner (i.e. a guy who is beating is head against the wall with frustration and desperation).

So sometimes a sense of despair will fall over some men as they fear their ex girlfriend is drawing further and further away from them, perhaps into the arms of some other guy.

So please remember there is no secret sauce that makes your ex gf come running. But I will tell you, sometimes things can just fall right into your lap.

With some situations and certain girls, if you execute the front end of your texting strategy…..bam…the clouds will part and she will let some sunshine in, giving you another shot to right your wrongs.

I had a guy the other day who was on the verge of a meltdown because his ex girlfriend was not responding to any of his text messages and he was willing to lay down many hundreds of dollars to get me to help him.

Just for the record, I didn’t charge him anything for my advice.  Why?  Well, it was obvious to me his solution was staring him in the face. By the way, he is one of the lucky ones.  Sort of like the exception to the rule I laid on you above about how it is usually challenging to convince your ex to give you another shot.

I chatted with him for about 15 minutes and tried to settle him down.  From his story it was apparent to me it wasn’t going to take him long to get things settle with her girlfriend.  He was tied into knots about how to lure her back after hurting her.  He was wondering what things to say to her to clear the air.  He was delirious with excitement with the prospect of learning how to get his ex girlfriend back fast by text message.

My job was pretty easy.  Slow down I kept telling him.  I gave him a set up text to tickle her interest.  She bit instantly. From there, it was a process of getting him to throttle back.  He wanted to rush in with roses and tickets to her favorite band which was coming into their city later in the year.

But I told him not to come on so strong. I explained that his ex probably simply wanted to talk and get he feelings out and see how you accepted them.  Give her that chance.  She had replied that she wanted to “talk” and she was “sad about what happened”.  So let her talk, I told him.  Listen.  Be empathetic. Show that you care.  Be supportive by using little gestures.  Less is more, I preached.  Let it build slowly.

The bottom line is that there are all types of situations.  Sometimes you might just hit the jackpot and a few clever text messages right out of the shoot might just create an opening.

But it is also entirely possible you will have to turn to other tactics and that is where having a complete get your ex back recovery plan in motion is going to win the day.

Get Her Back Strategies I Don’t Teach Here on the Blog!

The program I teach does not rest or rely on one single tactic.

In most cases, you will need to have a bigger game plan in mind if you want to nab her back for good!

Video Transcript

Hey guys I got this mystery box in the mail today and I thought I’d go through some of the items to see whats in here. Hmmm, Loofah.  Rubber ducky. Oh wow, Three secret texts that you can send to your ex girlfriend that she can’t resist. Let’s begin.

So I’d like to start off today’s video by talking about the purpose of text messaging your ex girlfriend. Take a look to my left here.

This is what I like to call the value chain. This is your overall strategy to get your ex girlfriend back. The number 2 part after the no contact rule is texting and after text messaging is phone calls. Basically we are trying to move from no contact rule to text messages to phone calls.

What is the purpose of text messaging? The purpose of text messaging is simply to build attraction. The second purpose is to move from text messaging portion to phone call portion. Basically transitioning. Now how do you go about doing that?

I’m going to try to keep this as simple as possible for you. You have two goals with text messaging. Number one: Build as much attraction as possible.  Number 2: transition from the text messaging phase to the phone call phase.

Ok so now that you have a firm grasp on the goal of text messaging. I’d like to talk about the ideal conversation you’d like to have with her.  In a perfect world, what would a conversation look like if things are working.

Let’s pretend that I’m your ex girlfriend and I’m going to text message you. “Oh Hi Baby.”

“Ugghhh, god that scared the crap out me.”

Anyways the ideal texting conversation with your ex girlfriend is relatively simple. Here is a few of the guidelines I want you to follow. There should be a 50/50 split on who should starts the conversation. You should start the conversation one day and then she should another day.  Your a man so theres this idea that women have that you have to initiate things.  And that’s ok.  I’m going to allow you some leniency here. It’s kind of impossible 100% of the time to have an exact 50/50 split. But get as close as you can to it.

The second guideline I want you to follow is the fact that you need to be ending the conversations first.  Now my recommendation is not to just end conversations whenever you want. Try to find the high point of that conversation. The point in the conversation where you think in your mind, wow I don’t want this to end. Well the second you think that thought, it’s pretty much the high point of the conversation where you end the conversation.

And finally the third guideline that you need to follow is build attraction. Build as much attraction as possible. But don’t do it all at once. Take your time with it. Slow and steady wins the race. Tortoise and the hare.

Alright I’ve never tried something like this before. And now I’m going to give it a shot.

And now we’ve reached the moment you’ve all been waiting for.  The 3 secret text messages you can send to your ex girlfriend to drive her crazy. Yeaaaah.

Dude Chris that was lame.

Hey don’t judge.

Alright we’ve reached the moment where we will be talking about the three secret text messages that you can send to your ex girlfriend.

But really the three text messages fall into three phases of text messaging. Basically with one phase you get first secret text message, with the second text message you get the second secret text message, and finally as I’m sure you know with the third phase you will get the third secret text message.

Phase one: Building rapport

chewing

(If you want to know what to do before you start building rapport I recommend you check out this article on texting after the no contact period.)

Ok so maybe that’s not the best example of building rapport. So here we go, so when it comes to building rapport of this entire phase the name of the game is to go slow. Basically get back on speaking terms with your ex.

Think of it like this, image you were going to meet a girl for the first time today. Well you wouldn’t ask  her to marry you first, would you. No, you would kind of build up to it. You would start off slow and slowly speed up until enough attraction is build up to ask her to marry you. Same principle applies here.

To retract your ex girlfriend that probably isn’t thinking to highly of you at the moment you need to start slow and build rapport. The name of the game is not to go from 0-60 right off the bat. Again go slow. Let me give you an example of a secret text message that works wonders in the rapport building stage.

So take a look at this text message to my left

text

This is what I’d consider to be a perfect rapport building message. Notice that you stay away from talking about the relationship which is really important not to talk about your previous relationship if you don’t want to bring up any of those bad feelings but at the same time that text message is interesting. And it’s highlighted by a tactic I’d like to call pairing. When you pair a picture up with the text. Try it, pictures are incredible.  And what’s even better than pictures? Videos.

Now I’m going to tell you a funny story. Pretty much the moment when I communicated with my wife for the first time, I knew she was definitely different than the rest. There was something about her but at the same time I knew she was a really beautiful woman.

And in order to get her I wouldn’t be able to use the normal “game tactics” that I usually used.

So lets say I opted to do something different to stand out from the crowd. So instead of sending her a generic text message the very first time I texted her, I sent her a video.  The video was simple there was nothing to it. It was just me introducing myself saying “Hey I’m Chris Seiter” at a kitchen table at breakfast. There’s nothing to it but no one does that.  When your competition zigs you need to zag. That’s the name of the game.

Phase Two: Attraction building Phase

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We’re talking about the attraction phase here so lets just get right to it. The name of the game is to build attraction with your ex through text messages. So how do you do that? Well the first part is to emphasize the positive parts of your previous relationship. And anything negative you do not want to talk about. Anything positive you do. The only kind of advice I’m going to give you here is to not bring sex into it.  Just keep it PG13.

Now building attraction there’s a lot of ways to do it but I’m just going to give you my favorite way and I like to call this the story telling method. Have you every noticed when someone tells an amazing story it just draws you in? Think of your favorite TV shows, Game Of Thrones for example.  Have you ever noticed when something shocking happens or your really into the story you cannot wait to see the next episode. Binge watching on Netflix is really popular for this. The idea behind Netflix releasing every single episode at once like House of Cards or any of the other original series is that viewers like to binge watch. When they really get into a show they watch one episode after the other after the other.

Well, I want you to do something similar with your ex. I want you to build attraction like that. Treat every interaction that you have with him through text messages like a TV show.

End on a good note…

End on a cliffhanger…

Leave open loops…

Do everything you can to be mysterious or make her want more. That’s the name of the game. So I am going to teach you a text message right now that can accomplish this.

text

I want you to take a minute to look at the text message to my right here. This is a perfect example of something I like to call a funny text message. Basically the premise of this text message, even though it may not look like it right here, is to be funny.

But it’s going to tell a story through multiple texts and you will notice that I started the text here with an imaginary girl and the story is not over yet. You’ll notice that in the middle of the story I sent a text message that said,

“Hey are you still with me?”

This is what I like to call the check in text message. One of the big problems of telling a story though text is that you can kind of lose the girl if she is not really engaged.

So this check in text message, sort of saying,

“Hey are you still with me?”

Is check to see if she’s still listening or to keep her engaged. So the story goes that I had a friend and his girlfriend and him tricked me into thinking they were doing it when they really weren’t. That story may not be complete in there because I didn’t have enough room but the idea here is to continue the story.

Build attraction through this. Interest her.

Interest = Attraction

Always remember that.

Phase Three: Transition Text

transition

There are a ton of positive aspects about text messaging but there are also some limiting aspects. For example, attraction can only be built so far via text messages. Which is why I recommend that eventually you will have to move from text messages to phone calls.

So when that inevitable time comes how do you do it?

Well that’s when I like to use the transition text message which just so happens to be our third secret text message!

This is a really easy text message to grasp.

Basically you are going to tell a story so interesting that it has to be finished over the phone and much like the story method that I was teaching you in the previous phase, the attraction phase, you want to build a story that is so interesting that she will have no choice but to finish it on the phone.

So you need to understand her interests.

What does she like?

What are some of the things that she will love to talk about?

For my wife it would be hot air balloons and Paris.

So lets pretend that I’m talking to my wife and I sent her this text message,

text

Notice how hot air balloons and Paris are mentioned in it. And then also notice how I stopped midway through telling the story and said,

Hey, do you want to finish this over the phone?

This is an ideal text message to send because it acts as a test to see if your ex girlfriend is ready to transition to the next phase of attraction building, phone calls or if she’s just comfortable texting.

In that case you still have more attraction to build.

And that’s it… That is the transition text message.

Final Thoughts…

Don’t forget down below you can comment and let us know what you think.  If you have a question your are dying to ask, then ask away!

		

Written by EGR team mate

Chris Seiter

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Eddy
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I have been in a week after breakup. Stayed silent for that reason. she texted me. first day i ignored her messages, which made her next angry and she blocked me on whatsapp. After that i answered politely that i had sent message but it didnt get through to her. Which made her more angry (i still stayed calm), i explained i was busy. And that i sent her via instagram dm, which she saw and blocked me there too. So she started tantalizing me about my behaviour and minisculing the picture i sent that i was in library and… Read more »
HD Stewart
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My girlfriend of 1 year suddenly broke up with me out of the blue 3 weeks ago. Saying she didn’t see the future with me she once thought she did and that she still loved me and cared for me, but not the way I deserve to be loved. And that I had treated her and her 2 children better than any man has ever treated them. She also said, she didn’t want anyone else and that she isn’t talking to anyone else either. I messed up by posting on Facebook last week, this “If you say someone treated you… Read more »
HD Stewart
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She saw a post on Facebook today, 04/06/2018, where I posted to a female friend of mine about us running together the other day. She immediatley sent me a text and said DO NOT CONTACT ME EVER AGAIN> She is the one that broke up with me almost a month ago, and now she sees this Facebook post and apparently got mad. She has blocked me on Facebook as well. I will definitely look at the resources you mentioned. But until then, What should I do now?

HD Stewart
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Follow up. A mutual friend saw me out at a local hangout/bar this past Saturday night. He told her he saw me there this weekend. She sent me a text Tuesday night saying, “So, Scott told me you were at suchnsuch Saturday night. I hope you find what you are looking for.” I replied, yeah, for like 30 mins or so. She then replied, “none of my business” How should I take that? I am trying to remain in No Contact from here on out. (BTW I am going to check into the products and services you offer tomorrow)
Kelvin
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I was in 12day of nc and I said merry christmass to my ex girlfriend day after and after I posted a status of how much fun I had on christmass. So she got upset cause I could not wish her on christmass day. What do I do ?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Kelvin,
You need to restart nc and don’t greet her happy new year too.

Anon
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i need some advice! its been about 5 years since me and my ex broke up. after 2 years of no contact she messaged me asking how i was doing and things and we had really good conversations over the next 2 weeks. but then all of a sudden we just stopped messaging eachother and 3 years later i still miss her. Through the five years of NC ive been thinking of her non stop and im afraid to message her, what should i do?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Anon
Just initiate..so that you can start slowly building rapport

neo
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It all started this september when she said that she doesn’t want to be in relationship right now and want to focus on career and told me to do the same as i don’t have a job. I’m going through a tough time in my life. I tried to adjust with this decision but almost no calls a week, no caring, no sharing and living separate life was getting tough each day. The more i tried to contact her, the more she reacted badly. Day after day she kept ignoring me, and this made me a lot insecure, and hence… Read more »
neo
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Also she has stopped contacting me at all. I have to start any contact every time. She did say that she might get back to me if did something good in my life but since it would take a lot of time do you think she would wait for me that long? Also what did she mean by saying that She doesn’t love me, but she loved me and she will?? Is this a sign for hope in future??

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Neo,

Are you in the no contact rule right now?

Neo
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Yes i am in no contact from 16 nov.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

That’s good.. She probably meant shes4 still hoping you’ll change.. Be active in improving yourself and in posting.. If you talked to her or replied to her during nc that means you need to restart the count

Neo
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No i haven’t broken the no contact yet. By posting do you mean showing her what i have been doing? We are only connected by whatsapp. We don’t have any common friends. And when should i start texting her again?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Doing public posts that just stays there unless you remove them like fb or instagram..That’s your indirect way of showing it..after the 30 nc period, you can initiate contact

nihal
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I have sent an SMS to my ex after 28 days of NC. We had a small conversation through sms. I asked her to unblock me in whatsapp or facebook to chat there. She refused it. She said No need. After that she didnt reply. I called her same day night. She was sleeping, so i told her i call her next day. next day i called her, she said she is busy. After 1 day i called her again, she didnt answer my call. I tried 2 times. What to do now? How to contact her?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Nihal,

You’re pushing her away because you’re rushing it.. And now she knows you’re chasing her.. Do a mini nc at least 2 weeks and then take it slow after that

Cassidy
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I need some advice. I said pretty harsh things thru text message to my gf Thursday night. Before that she was telling me she’s single and I need to let her move on. I felt horrible but I let my feelings get the best of me. When I woke up the next morning, I apologized but no respond and I called her to learn she changed her number. She blocked me from all her social media sites. She finally talked to me yesterday and on video chat when I called on Facebook messenger. I don’t know what to do because… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Cassidy,

when did you break up?

yvette
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I reached out by email to my ex and asked how her and her mom was doing. she responded back within 1 hr and told me how she was doing and how her mom was doing as well. Its been two days so do I wait to see if shes gonna reach out or shoud i reach out again?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

HI Yvette,

have you done the no contact rule? If yes, how long, how much did you improve and how active are you in posting? Are you still doing that now? When and why did you break up?

Bernard
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We’ve been split up about a year and 3 months. We started talking very casually via text for past 6 weeks. Talked to her on the phone once shortly, I ended the call. Week later we talk again this time for an hour, once again I end the call. Talked again about a week ago and this time it was for 3 hours. We were really flirty and we actually talked about some of our past sexual experiences. I asked her to coffee and she declined, said it was too soon and it’s still weird talking to me. Went on… Read more »
Bernard
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May I add we also talked very deeply emotionally etc… she’s not someone that easily opens up and she already has. I feel like she likes to be chased but I don’t want to chase her like that. I told her early on I just wanted to be friends. Since I’ve told her that, my feelings have changed significantly. Now I want her back and I’ve thought about being strait up with her. Something along the lines of “You know I wanted to be friends with you but I don’t think it’s possible for me. I’m going to catch feelings… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Have you told her that now?

Jacob
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Long distance relationship. She became more distant over time until we were no longer together. After no contact she has not been very responsive. I’ve used compelling texts to get responses, which I do, but she doesn’t seem interested enough to keep up a conversation or text me first, she uses very short responses. I’ve let time pass and we are on speaking terms (as in not emotional, but have not had any longer conversations with her). Do you have any suggestions for where I should go or what kind of things I should text now that No contact has… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

it doesn’t always have to be memory topics.. use other topics that she loves talking about. You need to initiate more, once a week is not enough to build rapport.

lost_lover
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I completed the 3 weeks NC period, and during the whole time, was focused on her, and her memories. It was very difficult for me to not be in touch with her, but I somehow managed. Now I messaged her asking ‘Hi, how are you?’, to which she didn’t respond. It was actually our anniversary that day as well, so couldn’t resist the temptation to talk to her.

I see her online and she is just ignoring me now. What should I be doing now? I don’t want to lose her, or move on.
Kindly help.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi lost lover,

what do you mean that you were only focused on her? Did you mean you weren’t active, didn’t change and didn’t post? And wrong day for an initial text and you need to avoid that kind of text as a first contact too..

why did you break up and how long was the relationship?

Jessee
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Hey I need some help. Me and my ex girlfriend dated for 2 and a half years and we have a one year old son together.she fell madly in love with me and I did the same. She loved me as much as I know up until the end. We broke up once because she said she had no feelings and two weeks later we got back together. She asked me to be her boyfriend again. Then after a month I broke up with her because I found out she was talking to and flirting with a guy she worked… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Jessee,

how long did you do nc, how much did you improve during and after it and how often do you see each other for your child?

Ang
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Hi Amor
So I completed 3 weeks of no contact . I want to reach out but idk if I have the right text to send. My ex gf loves dogs she rescued two dogs the past yeats and we both took a painting class and drew our dogs in the summer. I saw a movie she might like called “A dogs purpose”
Hey __ hope all is well. I saw a movie the other night a “dogs purpose” theres a girl that rescued a dog that reminded me if you.
What do you think?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Ang,

yeah, that’s good.. and to add to that, if she responds, ask her if she heard about the issue about the making of the movie

Ang
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Amor, So I didnt reply back but in a few days I texted her hows her new job and she never replied back. A few days pass and I text her Me:Hey patty Do you have the money you owe me? Her:I’ll send it over by Sunday Me: Thank you! You can just pay me $80 since you bought me the drinks. Did you hear Ilan bluestones good day remix? Her: Of course I did. Anjuna queen here Me:I’m going to try to learn the acousitc on guitar. You should get that tatted ! And she didnt reply back. Should… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

it’s ok to initiate again the next day, as long as you’re the one ending the conversation at high point

Can Karako
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Hello everyone, My girlfriend of one and a half years broke up with me. She said she was tired of trying and she probably didn’t love me anymore. I started no contact one and a half month ago. She wrote for my birthday only ones. Now it has been close to 45 days. I wrote her yesterday reminding of her a happy memory we shared. Her replies were short. It is hard to make rapport when she doesn’t try also. What should I do?

Matt
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ok, so she contacted me on day 25 of no contact so I just went with it and we spoke on the phone for an hour, no emotional stuff, just laughter and good conversation about what we have both been up to. Since then I have sent her a few texts (the reminding texts) and she has been responding well, but hasn’t really been promoting the conversation, it’s more me asking her a few questions before I end the conversation. what’s my next step?
Thanks guys

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Matt,

Are you using topics that are interesting for her? Ones that she always loves talking about?

Jordan Corbett
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My ex girlfriend and I broke up about 6 months ago. We had been dating for 2 years and had been living with each other for 1 year. Our relationship was really great, we were best friends, we had incredible sex, and we had so much in common. But after two different deaths, we each became depressed which bled into our relationship. When we broke up we had both been fighting with each other a lot. We were being immature and the relationship had turned toxic for each of us. I first broke up with her but we almost instantly… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Jordan,

i dont think its too late.. If they dont really connect then later on she will realize that..

Choco
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I broke up with my long distance girlfriend which we had committed for 6 months. She wanted to broke up for two times and i was the one who broke up with her. i did try to get her back after the day i broke up with her, and she said it is better to stay like this. And of course i didnt give up and kept texting and telling her how much i miss her.. and finally one day she texted and said to me she will think over if we will be together after her examination ( if… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Choco,

for me you should move on from her because it’s like she’s just spinning you around..Hooking up with your best friend and making you wait is disrespectful. But if you really want to try, do the nc after the exam.

harry
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hey ! My girlfriend of three years broke up with me a week and a half ago, we got in a huge fight and she dumped me and the next morning she said : i love you more than anything in this world and i would die for you but i can’t do this anymore i screwed up the no contact by constantly messaging her even though she asked me for space, now she said i am so happy just focusing on myself because i felt like i always had to be the adult in this relationship, and i want… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Harry,

just be calm and listen to her first, on what she decision she is going to say.. and if she decides to break up, agree and tell her you understand it.. so that you don’t have another fight.. and she probably expects you to disagree.. so do the opposite and then start no contact.

harry
Guest

how long should no contact be? we texted today and had our first good conversation, she ended it though.
Should no contact start now?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

you should do it after you meet up.. if you don’t get back by then tell her you’re takig time for yourself to heal but say for how long and then do 21 days

Alex
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Hi Chris, there was some great stuff posted on here. My ex girlfriend broke up with me about a month ago and with it she broke me heart. I were dating for a year and a half and all the while it was long distance but we made it work. For the last couple of months before she ended it we were fighting and usually over pretty stupid stuff. When she did break it off she said that she was tired of all the fighting, that I was stressing her out and needed to leave her alone. This was way… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Alex,

if she messages you during no contact, don’t reply but that means it’s ok to message her after. If not, extend to 45 days to be safe.. don’t send anything too emotional

Fadly
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I need help and advise. I broke up with my ex on April 17 and have been trying to win her back since. We have been in a long distance relationship and have been dating for a year. We have had arguments periodically in the relationship mainly due to the long distance. (me missing her so much, and she being busy writing her thesis for her phD). We have had plans to move to New Zealand this July and start a new life together but in March, I was let go by my company and a few days later was… Read more »
Fadly
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Also, I need to add that I have basically done everything that I shouldn’t be doing. (Begging, persuading, texting her, calling her) Everything got slammed to the wall and given a flat NO. Hopefully more insight to her character would give a more definitive strategy on how to get her to have some feelings for me again. (She claimed during the no contact, she didn’t even miss me or thought of me as her focus was her thesis. And the time during NC gives her a clarity that she doesn’t want me in her life as the love for me… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Fadly,

don’t contact her until her thesis is done because it’s clearly her priority right now.. prove to her that you’ve changed by staying in no contact and improving yourself.. be active in posting in social media so she’ll see..

Fadly
Guest
Thanks Amor, I recently bought the Ex-Girlfriend recovery book and I’m already working on the no contact. And I have gone to a see a therapist and support group to work on my passive aggressiveness to improve on myself since that was my character flaw that she hates. She is one of those girls who don’t believe in social media. She doesn’t have a FB account, twitter or IG. So what is my next move after her thesis is over? She told me she will meet me when I’m back home, which is in 3 weeks. What to do or… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

slowly build rapport first through messages, compile her favorite topics to talk about.

Abdullah
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Hi guys, my name is Abdullah. I am interested in buying the book ‘Exgirlfriend Recovery Pro’ and I would like to know how long it will take for me to receive it. I live in The Netherlands. Thanks in advance! PS: keep up the good work guys, much respect!

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Abdullah,

it’s a digital book, so you should receive it right away after paymebt

Josh
Guest
Hello Chris, I would love if I get a reply from you on my situation. We were together 2 years. In the first year she wanted to broke up with me. There was someone else back then…I did 30days of NC and then we got back together. On our second year we had some great moments, but some arguments, where the first break up, was coming in the conversation, also I was nervous about our relationship and made her nervous as well. So we broke up again. I left 1 week without talking to her. 2 days ago I texted… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Josh!
I’m going to forward thia to him and get back with you if he replies through me..

Harry
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Hello, Me and my ex broke up 3years ago. We had no contact for about 2 years now. I know its been long. She follows me on Instagram and then after couple weeks. I Insta message her “How is it going” and talk positively about school and life. Nothing about past. Now I don’t want to ask for her phone number because that would be desperate. Last week we had some talk about our achievements in life and the I messaged her “I’m about to sleep. Goodnight :)” Its been about two weeks she never messaged back. What should I… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Harry,

you have to try to rebuuld the rapport through social media by engaging more on her posts slowly..react to her posts that you have the same interest with

Darrell
Guest
Ok I just need some advise on my breakup with my ex. I treated her very good even though she liked to yell at me a lot I will give you an example this was the fight that caused our break up I adbought her a ring for Christmas and it wasn’t an engagement ring or anything it was a ring she really liked so I ordered it and about 2 weeks ago a gem fell out of it and the little star that was attached to it kept falling off so I told her I would take it to… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Darrell,

I think you need to assess if this because you lost respect or trust with each other.

Darrell
Guest
Talking would be great nad I would totally do that but all she wants to do is yell and scream at me then hang up on me I even ask her that if I let her get everything he wanted to say out then all I want to do is talk about what is both our problems but she yelled at me again and hung up so I have just decided to turn her off so to speak I blocked her on my face book and if she calls and starts yelling again I will just hang up until she… Read more »
Darren
Guest

Oh and Amor,

Please can you remove my original post I think it may be too personal if she decides to stroll the Internet ????

Thank you very much anyhow.

Darren
Guest

Hi Amor

She said she needed time.

We snapchatted briefly over New Year’s Eve.

She also agreed to meet me after I asked three times. I cancelled the meeting on the basis emotions were high.

We haven’t spoken in the interim no.

I’m starting to think I should leave her and just carry on my normal life. After all being rejected on the 29th hasn’t been the best start to my 2016… I find it quite disrespectful to be honest.

Grant
Guest
Hey Chris, Really messy breakup after 20months together and she hasn’t talked to me in 2 months because I begged. I’m approaching the 30th day in a week and half of NC. She’s real close with her mother and father. Her parents hate me because they thought I couldn’t commit fully to their daughter and told me not to talk to her again last time I tried to see her. We live a few hours apart, so its not always easy to get over there. This is my last chance I’m guessing, and I am so afraid of what I… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Grant,
do you have an idea that could work better, feel free to try it of course. If her parent’s opinion is really important, then why not try to get their favor first?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Darren,

Did you send the messages during no contact period? If her previous relationship ended two years before you got together, I don’t think you’re a rebound.

Darren
Guest
Maybe I’m being too soft and need to make a gesture? She said she ‘liked’ me early on, I can’t help but feel she is looking for justification/acceptance which I need to make clear? She is genuinely shocked and needs to re-asses her life? She’s playing a game (I mentioned I don’t work with my balls in a vice, maybe quiet foolish to say but I was being honest) She is over me and wants to concentrate on herself. I was attached, maybe more than her which is why she ended it. She’s fed me hope but I need to… Read more »
BIODUN
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A question please

Thomas
Guest
HI, I loved a girl and our love was only 6 month back, there was up and down. I always feel that I can’t maintain the relationship. As per her she has done her ring ceremony with whom she is not willing to marry and after that she had a BF. we used to talk with each other and also did lots of video call. We do have sex talk and also displaying the private parts in the video call. She was my coworker in my previous company and now she had stopped talking with me. now getting crazy towards… Read more »
Corey
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hey Chris i messaged you about a month ago on another article. so i went through the month of no contact, she contacted me first, i was in the hospital so she was worried. anyways a few days of texting go by and i feel im doing pretty well and i eventually see her in school and shes impressed with me she noticed all of my changes and pointed them out to me and said i look good and all that. anyways i began texting later that night about our breakup and how she left for another guy too fast… Read more »
Corey
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alright Chris update:

shes not mad in fact shes acting like she didnt even get the text but should i still do no contact? now im really unsure of the next move

Corey
Guest

alright thanks Chris. ill be back to let you know how it goes and probably for more advice.

Joe
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Hi Chris, Just firstly want to say what an amazing site! It’s given me a lot of insight into many things. Now here is the situation. Me and my ex had been going out for 2 and a half years, everything was going amazing, of course we had a few fights but who doesn’t, they were always resolved quickly. We shared holidays with each other, shared every little detail with each other, literally became so invested that we talked about marriage and the distant future. However she did mention about a year ago that she loves me and is so… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Joe,

There is always a chance( I hope I have a million dollars now! hahaha!) Though we can’t guarantee 100% that she’ll be back, but there’s a chance. She still cares, but you’re right, it’s pretty much about your rebounds that led her to block you. Try 21 days of no contact, go a different day with your friends so you don’t have to see her in the mean time.

Jezzy bass
Guest

Chris. I need your help. I have the probably the hardest situation in which a guy has ever needed help not losing who he is as a man. Meaning losing the love of his life after a 9 year relationship. Call me please or text me. I’m at wits end and I don’t want to and can’t give up on her and what we had. 360 421 8501

Jezzy bass
Guest

Please Chris. You are literally my last hope for happiness

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Jezzy bass,
ThAt’s not true. How are you now?

:(((
Guest
Hi Chris! Happy New Years by the way! I’m in a bit of a pickle and I’m starting to lose hope in the idea of getting my ex back…we had been dating for ten months and they were honestly the best thing to happen to me. We told each other everything and I trusted them dearly. I really really loved them. I still do and I would do anything to get them back. Unfortunately jealousy pushed us apart and we broke up three months ago…it’s only gotten worse from there. I’ve tried everything! Initially I tried the 30 day NC… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi :(((,

I hope we can turn that to a :). I think she just got angry because you forgot to text and she didn’t mean what she said. It was just her emotions talking.

Greg
Guest
Hi Chris. I have followed all your articles and done NC and my ex and I have started texting eachother now and then since last week. She has been asking me for a lot of favours in the past week and I’m not sure if I should be helping her as I feel she could be using me. She is rather young and since our breakup she has gone down the proverbial rabbit hole and been doing alot of partying etc etc. My initial contact worked well last week and we texted for about two hours. She then wished me… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

HI Greg,
I’m afraid you have to take into account what her mom said. If you’re enabling her favor that cause her harm, you definitely have to stop helping her with it.

Sean
Guest

Hey Chris, I wrote something like this on another of your articles. During NC is it bad to talk to any of her family members? I would assume you would probably say “Hell yes, don’t do it”. I was pretty close with her family, and I don’t know if I would be able to talk about her with any of them, just because it’s possible they might tell her I talked to them about her.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Sean,
Yep it’s better not to talk to them too

Duncan
Guest

Hi Chris. How does the No Contact Rule work if you work together? I see her about 4-5 times a week at work, and it’s a small work environment so we’re usually always around each other. We’re still pretty close though(it wasn’t a bad breakup I guess) so we still care a great deal about each other. I’m on the fence about buying your book but I’m not sure how I can achieve the No Contact rule under my circumstances, but it seems like that’s the cornerstone for everything!

Marco
Guest
Hey Chris! I need some advice for my current situation: I was together with my girlfriend for 7 years, live together and broke up 3 months ago.The last half year was very bad and she broke up with me (there was an other guy a years ago, when she was abroad for 5 months, she wasnt since in this relationship 100% sure from her side, she still has some issues about her feelings, we arguing a lot,etc). First I made 30 days no contact, than slowly texting her and than talking again. We had 2 meetings, once was a short… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

HI Marco,

Well, you need to have a calm serious talk of what she really wants. And tell you her, you don’t want to be just somebody on the side, in a calm way. Ask why hasn’t broken up with her fake rebound guy.

Khalid
Guest
Hey Chris! In my situation with my ex girlfriend we broke up in May because our communication was failing. I didn’t want the break up but she did and we were split for a while, eventually we started talking again and then things were getting slightly better! However, when school started again it was like things were changing, because I was unhappy with our relationship status but she was comfortable with just talking to me and being able to do what she wanted… It infuriated me, so we got into petty arguments about it! Eventually, she stopped feeling the same… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Khalid,
how are you? I hope you’re doing better now.

Patrick
Guest
Chris, I’m really scared right now honestly. My Ex and I have been talking again and frankly, she’s been incredibly hot and cold with me. I’ve tried a lot of things over the past few months since she and her rebound broke up and if I say so myself, I’ve done some things girls would consider “cute.” Honestly I outline things that have been happening on the How to Know If Your Ex Girlfriend Is Still In Love With You Page but I need to continue with my questions here. I haven’t talked to her for a few days and… Read more »
parna
Guest
well i was dating my ex girlfriend for 1 year and 5 months , and she live with me for 5 months in my apt . so when we meet throw instagram and when we meet everything was fun we have that connection since day 1 , she was very cool,nice and sweet . to make the story short the last 5 months we have problems more because of me i was still flirty with another girl’s and she find out all the time and of course she would get mad at me but she always give me a chance… Read more »
Eric
Guest
Hi Chris, I broke up with my gf a year ago and I’ve been trying to get her back. She doesn’t trust me right now because I was the one who broke us up in the first place and doesn’t believe my feelings are genuine and thinks I’ll just leave again. I want to show her I’m a better person now but she just wants to stay friends. She also moved away towards the end and it became an LDR (that was part of the reason for the breakup) and we’re still pretty far apart but I can finally move… Read more »
Christopher
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Hi Chris The girl I had been conceptually married to during our 4 years together broke up with me on 7 november after I had noticed she had been feeling confused for about 3 weeks prior. We had been together since she was 16 (now she’s 20) and it truly was like a marriage between us which I understand for a young girl isn’t great because they lose that time to explore and party and be single. When I noticed she had started to seem confused and withdrawn I put in extra effort which yielded results such as her wanting… Read more »
Christopher
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Sorry just to add. I’m a little worried she may be out partying or something when I do send the message as I know it would be ideal if she were alone or at home when/if I do send the text and I have an inkling that there may be other guys showing her interest

Christopher
Guest

Thanks for the awesome advice and quick response 😀
So you think I should appeal to this party girl phase side to her instead of the sweet innocent girl her and I know she is deep down inside?
That time we spent together house sitting as a virtually married couple was deeply special to both of us but I’m more than confident with sending the message you suggest if you feel it would be better.
I will definitely let you know how it goes 🙂
PS I agree with the other guy about podcasts when you do get the time!

Christopher
Guest

Ok so I texted her this morning and got a positive reply 10 minutes later with her making a joke saying if the girl was drunk and vomiting then it would have been her haha. And she is away on holiday right now.

I plan not to respond and give it a few more days before trying to build rapport. Will keep you posted 🙂

Christopher
Guest
Hi Chris just looking to update you with how things have gone so far 🙂 I made initial contact and then ended the conversation after she replied. Remember we were going to wait a few days before contacting again. However the next evening SHE made contact with me asking if I knew my WhatsApp profile picture was blurry.(the picture is of a friend and I in a club). I responded the next morning with a very funny and witty response which she never responded to. I felt extatic because she reached out to me AND her message seemingly indicates that… Read more »
Christopher
Guest
Hey Chris. Thanks for advice yesterday. Quite a big development occurred yesterday where she rash-called many many times and texting me for a favour. Eventually I answered and she wanted me to pick up her car for from the shop for her and keep it at my place for the night as she was out of town; saying that I’m the only one she trusts with my car. When she came to pick it up this morning she didn’t look good (tired/hungover/coughing). We gave eachother a one arm hug and then said goodbye. Seeing we are on “talking” terms again… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

hi Christopher,

As long as it’s not taking advantage of you, why not right?

B
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Hi Chris! I’ve been following your work and did everything you said (or at least I hope I did!). I’m fully aware of the reasons she broke up with me (I got too domesticated, and she lost the spark) and I know that what I have to do is to rebuild her image of me as a powerful, confident guy and not clingy. After we broke up she told all her friends (she doesn’t know I know this, so it wasn’t for my benefit) I am the perfect guy for her, she’ll never find someone like me, but she lost… Read more »
B
Guest
Hey Chris! I did as you said, waited and replied to the text. I was lighthearted, confident and tried to joke a bit, but she didn’t reply… It’s already been a week since I texted her… I actually have a good reason for contacting her, as I need her to look for a voucher for some activities we were planning on doing and I left it with her a few months ago and need her to give me the code number. What do you think of me phoning her asking for it, since the texting didn’t work too well with… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi B,
sorry for the late reply. What did you do next?

Dan
Guest

I am on my last day of the NC, I would like to know and have the balls to contact my EX. Any tips besides what you showed above?