How To Make Your Ex Girlfriend Unblock You

We live in a very fast paced world.

10 years ago the average person who owned a cell phone still had a flip phone.

You know, those goofy looking phones that looked like this,

flip phone

A few years later flip phones got an upgrade and turned into blackberries,

blackberry

And then a few years after that blackberries upgraded to iPhones,

iphone

Now it seems like every other month there is another super sized smart phone that gets an upgraded.

Well, phones weren’t the only thing that evolved. Along with phones constantly upgrading interfaces within the phones upgraded as well. And with those upgraded interfaces came more options and more freedom from who a person can accept a call or text from.

I want you to think back to a moment to the old days…

The days where the only option someone had if they wanted to ignore you was just to simply ignore your phone call.

Blocking text messages didn’t exist…

Blocking phone calls didn’t exist…

Heck, BLOCKING didn’t exist.

I guess what I am trying to say is that blocking is a relatively recent problem.

It was something that men didn’t have to worry about until the introduction of the new interfaces with more options (blocking being one of them.)

But now-a-day’s a man who gets blocked by his ex girlfriend doesn’t just have to worry about his number being blocked he also has to worry about being blocked on applications like (WhatsApp, SnapChat, Kik, Skype and Viber.)

Oh, and lets not forget all the popular social media sites like (Facebook, Twitter, Google Plus and LinkedIn.)

So, what happens if you undergo an ex recovery campaign to get your ex girlfriend back and she has you blocked on one, two, three or all of these mediums?

Well, that’s what we are here to find out.

The Format Of This Page

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Lets say that you have decided that you want to get your ex girlfriend back but she has blocked you from all forms of communication and your plan for getting her back revolves heavily around the two of you talking.

What are you supposed to do to get her to unblock you?

Well, that is what this page was created for.

I want you to look at this page as the ultimate cheat sheet for getting your ex girlfriend to unblock you.

Now, I don’t want there to be any confusion so I am going to briefly explain how I have decided to format this page and then we are going to jump right into the fray.

This page is formatted in a relatively simple way. I have decided to divide it into three different sections.

Lets take a look at these sections,

  1. The Full Out Block (Our Starting Point)
  2. Understanding The Truth About Being Blocked
  3. How To Get Her To Unblock You

Pretty standard stuff, huh?

Nothing too out of the ordinary.

Lets just get right down to business.

SECTION ONE: The Full Out Block (Our Starting Point)

blocked me

We are going to begin with an assumption.

Hmm…

Perhaps “assumption” isn’t the right word.

So, what is the right word for this?

Hmm…

Oh, I know.

Worst Case Scenario

Lets assume that you are being blocked by your ex girlfriend and you want to get her back. I want to start from a worst case scenario situation and figure out how to approach the situation. I feel you will get more out of that then me just explaining the basics of being blocked.

Of course, before I can begin this worst case scenario situation I have to drop some knowledge on you first.

You cannot get your ex girlfriend back if you are blocked by her.

Do you understand me?

You need to have some way of communicating with her for you to be able to even have a chance of getting her back. In other words, what I am saying is that if you are blocked by your ex girlfriend and have no way of getting in touch with her then you will fail.

So, the purpose of this guide isn’t to teach you ALL the steps of getting your ex girlfriend back.

It’s to take you from being blocked to not being blocked.

 

But lets get to the reason why we are here.

Helping you get unblocked by your ex.

The Worst Case Scenario

worst case

So, what is the worst case scenario you can find yourself in when it comes to blocking?

It’s an important question that needs to get answered so we can continue this guide.

I think this kind of thing always works better when I am using an example so I have decided to use the one below.

Lets say that when you and your girlfriend were dating the two of you communicated frequently in three ways. Through calling each other, texting through WhatsApp and messaging each other through Facebook.

Well, when you take that example then the worst case scenario would be what I like to call a full out block.

What is a full out block?

Simple, it means that you are blocked to such an extent that you have absolutely no way of contacting your ex other than you turning into a creepy stalker and showing up at her door step. So, using the example above that would mean that you are blocked from talking to your ex girlfriend through her phone, WhatsApp and Facebook.

Of course, a full out block extends beyond just those mediums.

For example, if you had contacted your ex girlfriend through texting (on your phone), FaceTime, Facebook, Calling and Snapchat then you would be blocked in all of those areas.

In other words, a full out block actually means you have NO WAY of talking to your ex girlfriend.

You are completely cut off.

Above I mentioned that going forward we are going to assume that you are in a situation where you are already in a full out block.

I figured you would be more interested in learning how to “houdini” your way out of a full out block as opposed to a partial block.

For the record a partial block is a situation where you are blocked in most mediums but not all of them.

So, if you were blocked on her phone, her email and WhatsApp but you were still friends on Facebook that would mean you still have a way of communicating with her.

Hence you are not fully blocked by her.

But like I said above, most of you are probably curious as to how to get out of a full out block so for the rest of this article we are going to operate under the assumption that you are blocked fully by her.

Lets move on to our next section which has to do with understanding what is going on in her mind during a block.

SECTION TWO: Understanding The Truth About Being Blocked

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I want you to think about the actual act of being blocked by your ex girlfriend.

It hurts, right?

But you are thinking about it from your perspective and not hers.

Really take a step back and think about her blocking you from her perspective.

Do you see what I am getting at here?

No?

Well, that is kind of the purpose of this entire section.

I want you to walk a mile in your exes shoes because if you can understand her thought process for blocking you, you can better understand how you can get out of that situation.

I would first like to start with a simple truth you have to accept.

It IS Your Fault That You Are Being Blocked

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Think about this for a second.

A woman isn’t going to go through the trouble of blocking you in the full out manner unless you have done something to warrant that kind of a block.

For example, if you made her super mad and called her a bunch of mean names then it can be easy to understand why she’d want to block you.

I guess the point I am getting at here is that your ex girlfriend thought through her full out block on you. It was a conscious decision based on something negative you did to her.

Well, what’s more negative than a breakup?

Take a look at the quote below,

When you break up, your whole identity is shattered. It’s like death

Dennis Quaid once said that about breakups.

He literally compared going through a breakup to death.

Now, normally I would say that, that is a bit of a stretch but the truth is that it’s not.

Yesterday I had over 15,000 women come to my other website, Ex Boyfriend Recovery in one day. Each one of those women are in pain and are searching for answers.

Breakups hurt.

In fact, they hurt so much that imagining an ex girlfriend blocking you just because of the breakup is very possible.

That’s usually what happens.

Men are constantly looking for answers when they are blocked out of the blue and it seems unwarranted.

The truth is that the two of you went through a breakup.

A breakup hurts like death…

So, why wouldn’t she want to block that source of pain from continuing to hurt her?

SECTION THREE: How To Get Your Ex Girlfriend To Unblock You

unblocked me

Lets talk a little about specific actions you can take to improve your chances of making your ex girlfriend unblock you from a full out block.

Before I start I would first like you to understand one simple fact.

I can’t guarantee that your ex girlfriend will unblock you.

No one can.

But that’s not what Ex Girlfriend Recovery is about.

You can read everything I have ever written and you will notice that I am very adamant about the fact that I can’t guarantee anything when it comes to this process.

What I can guarantee though is that if you follow my advice you will raise your chances to get your ex girlfriend to take the desired action you want which in this case means unblocking you.

So, what we are looking for here is for your ex girlfriend to unblock you in one way.

Whether it be on Facebook…

The phone…

Or even through email.

If you are in a “full out” block then you have no way of contacting your ex outside of being a stalker and tracking her down in person. So, our main goal here is to give you a chance to communicate with her again.

There are a few things you can do to improve your chances of making that happen.

Lets look at a few of those things now.

Thing #1: Do Nothing (No Really!)

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I know what your thinking.

“Do nothing? Are you crazy?”

Trust me, I’m not.

What have you learned so far about a woman who takes an action of putting you in a full out block?

That shes emotional, right?

(Side Note: In case you forgot a breakup is one of the most emotional things that a woman can go through)

Now, what do emotional people do during breakups?

Well, they say things they don’t mean and they do things that don’t really want to do.

In most cases if you do nothing your ex girlfriend will unblock you for a number of reasons. Let’s go down the list and talk about a few of those reasons now.

Reason #1- She Misses You

Lets pretend that you and your ex just broke up and as a result of that breakup she blocks you from contacting her.

At first she feels pretty pleased with herself.

However, as time wears on she begins to miss you and wonders what you are up to.

She constantly finds herself asking her girl friends to log onto Facebook and see what you are doing.

Oh, and if you don’t believe this happens there is a friend that my wife has who has asked my wife to log on to her Facebook account, see what her ex is up to and report her findings back.

Anyways, eventually the facade is too much to endure and she misses talking to you and she decides to unblock you.

Reason #2- She Did It Out Of Anger And She Is No Longer Angry

Now lets say that your ex girlfriend gets super angry with you.

Again, breakups tend to do that to women.

In her mind she thinks to herself,

“What can I do to make him hurt as bad as I am hurt right now?”

After some reflection she comes upon her answer,

“I KNOW! I will just cut him out of my life completely.”

So, what does she do?

She does the full out block on you of course.

She blocks you from texting her, calling her, Facebooking her, IM’ing her, emailing her, snapchatting her, WhatsApping her, Skyping her and FaceTiming her.

You are out of the game entirely.

Now, you are pretty depressed upon discovering that she has cut you out of her life on purpose. However, you don’t let your emotions cloud your logic.

You know (after reading this guide) that in most cases an ex will unblock you in one way, shape or form without you having to do anything.

So, something happens to your ex that she wasn’t counting on.

After a few months her anger subsides.

What was once a fiery rage that made her never want to talk to you again no longer exists.

She is curious as to what you are up to (see reason #1.)

So, what does she do?

She unblocks you.

How The No Contact Rule Applies Here

Avid readers of Ex Girlfriend Recovery and Ex Girlfriend Recovery PRO know that I am a big believe or the no contact rule.

For those of you who don’t know what the no contact rule is I suggest you pick up my book, Ex Girlfriend Recovery PRO and learn more about it.

But I know most of you are lazy and don’t want to do the necessary research to get your ex back and won’t read the book :p so I will just give you a quick crash course below.

The no contact rule is this special rule that most successful get your ex back campaigns include.

The rule basically states that you perform the full out block on your ex except instead of preventing her from contacting you altogether you just ignore her when she does.

Truth be told I have often wondered why it’s called a no contact rule when the truth is that it’s really a freeze out period where you ignore your ex on purpose for a certain amount of time.

So, how does the no contact and getting an ex girlfriend to unblock you correlate?

Well, I teach most men to do the no contact rule first and foremost when they are trying to get an ex girlfriend back so that doesn’t exclude a man who is in a full out block from an ex.

Look, since I have already shown that a lot of women will end up unblocking you without you having to do too much it is in your best interest to perform the no contact rule.

Lets move on to the second thing you can do to improve your chances of making an ex girlfriend unblock you.

Thing #2: The Good/Bad News Best Friend Factor

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(You will understand the picture in a bit.)

This is going to be a little tricky to explain…

How am I going to do this.

Ok, lets imagine that you are an aspiring actor.

You have been trying to break into the business for years and haven’t had much success. In fact, your desire to become an actor is actually one of the reasons your ex broke up with you.

“You won’t ever be a world famous actor.  You should just get a real job so we can get married and have a stable life” she always told you.

But you wouldn’t give in.

You were always kind of stubborn that way.

Well, one day you get a call and guess whose on the line?

Brad (FREAKING) Pitt,

brad pitt

Pitt tells you that he wants you to star in his latest movie.

He saw an audition that you did and thought you were the perfect candidate to star alongside him.

You accept of course.

Here’s where things get interesting though.

You decide that you are going to contact your ex and tell her the good news but upon doing so you realize that you are in a full out block.

Your ex has you blocked everywhere.

Now, this saddens you very deeply since she is the one person you know would love to hear this incredible news. So, instead of contacting her you decide to contact her best friend since she is the only line of communication you have to her.

You text the friend,

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It’s a juicy bit of gossip.

So, her best friend is forced to share it and what do you think happens next?

Your ex unblocks you of course.

Now, this is a very powerful tactic if used properly so we are going to dive in a bit deeper here.

Understanding The Good/Bad News Factor

The idea behind the good news/bad news factor is that your ex girlfriend is sitting around her house one day and suddenly gets a call from her best (and most trusted friend.)

She picks up the phone and the two of them start talking to each other.

It’s at that point that the friend mentions some shocking news about YOU (the ex.)

The idea here is that the news is so shocking that your ex girlfriend has no choice but to unblock you and ask you about it.

Take a look at the example text message above.

Notice how I created two text messages to send.

This was by design.

The first message,

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Is all about delivering the shocking news.

Now, I do want to mention that the news can be either good or bad just as long as it’s shocking.

Though I will say that I always prefer good news as opposed to bad news.

Hence the Brad Pitt example above.

So, lets take that Brad Pitt example and dissect it a little more.

Remember, this text message is going to her best friend and it has to be so juicy that the friend is forced to share it.

Now, I don’t know about you but suddenly hearing about someone you know getting a part alongside Brad Pitt is worth sharing.

Obviously (unless you are some sort of super actor) you aren’t going to be able to make the Brad Pitt claim so lets brainstorm a few ideas that you can realistically share that are shocking.

Good News Ideas:

  • Suddenly losing a ton of weight by sending a picture of how much weight you lost
  • Getting an incredible job
  • Achieving an incredible physical feat (running a marathon, etc)
  • A mutual icon doing well (a sports icon or something of that nature)
  • Discussing a shocking moment in a TV show that just happened

Bad News Ideas:

  • Losing a job
  • Losing a family member
  • Losing something personal to the both of you
  • Any other type of shocking bad news you can think of

Again, I am not a huge fan of delivering bad news.

I think good news is so much better.

So, the intent of the first text message you send to her friend is that it has to be such juicy gossip that she will want to do nothing more than to share it with her friend (your ex.)

Now, lets take a look at the second text message you are supposed to send.

Again, I am going to go back to the Brad Pitt example,

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Where the first text message you send was all about delivering shocking news this text message is all about ensuring that, that news is shared.

Notice how I made it sound like you wanted to get in touch with your ex but weren’t able to.

This suggests to the friend that she should share the news without you actually saying,

“Hey, share this good news with my ex so she will unblock me and eventually call me.”

Also, don’t be afraid to get into a conversation with the friend (who you are basically using to get in touch with your ex) after you send the second text message.

Why?

Because the more you talk to the friend the more likely she is to run back to your ex and talk about you and the more she talks about you the more likely it is that she shares the shocking thing you want her to share and the chances of your ex unblocking you to find out more about this shocking thing go up!

See, there is a method to this madness.

Lets move on to the next thing that you can do to get her to unblock you,

Thing #3: The Good/Bad News YOUR Friend Factor

shocking meme

I am getting desperate here.

The truth is that if you are in a full out block you are in a really bad position. Especially if you want nothing more than to just reconnect with your ex.

I want you to go back to “Thing #2” and re-read that section.

I am going to be honest with you.

Thing #2 is probably my best piece of advice when it comes to getting your ex to break her full out block on you.

Of course, there is a wildcard in play with thing #2.

What’s the wildcard?

The best friend.

Essentially you are relying on another human being who is not on your side to deliver shocking news to your ex in the right way.

The problem here is the fact that women band together during breakups.

How often have you heard two women talking about a breakup and one of them saying something like,

“You can do so much better than him.”

Look, no matter which way you slice it your exes friend is going to be on her side and not yours and sometimes the friend isn’t the more reliable person to… well, rely on.

But you know who is?

YOUR FRIEND!

Using Your Friend As The Deliverer…

So, here is my idea.

Imagine that instead of sending a shocking message to your exes friend you took one of your own best friends aside and let him or her deliver the shocking message to your girlfriend.

(Side Note: The friend that you choose has to be one that your ex girlfriend is familiar with. I mean, how weird would it be if some stranger just texted her out of the blue?)

Now, there is a risk with using your friend.

What’s the risk?

Getting an ex back is a lot like playing poker.

If you show your hand to your opponent in poker then you are going to lose.

The same principle applies here.

If your ex catches on to what you are doing by sending a friend to get her to unblock you the chances that she will unblock you are slim to none.

So, that’s the risk with sending a trusted friend.

But whatever way you slice it there is going to be risk with this method.

Why?

Because if you use “thing #2” by sending the shocking information to one of her friends they may not deliver the shocking message the way you want it to be delivered.

Remember, it’s super important that this news is delivered correctly.

This obviously isn’t a problem if you control the way that the message is delivered to your ex which you will be able to do if you send a trusted friend.

Now, if you ask my opinion on what I would do if I was in your position I would use my friend as opposed to one of her friends.

Why?

While there is certainly risk with using one of my own brethren I would rather have control of how the information is delivered because in the end the shocking message is the more important part as opposed to who delivers it.

But this is completely your choice and not mine.

Do what you feel is right.

		

Written by EGR team mate

Chris Seiter

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Joseph
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Hey can I get some help?

amit
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My ex broke up with me a month ago….now she is in a relationship with someone else I guess and she has completely blocked me but she chats with others ….and she said that she loves me but she doesn’t want to clarify things between us….. Sometimes she says she loves me very much and sometimes get very much angry …. What should I do? Please help me out

Spyder
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Hi, I was wanting some help/advice. I been in love with my ex from the moment I meet her. Work and life and got complicated, and I couldn’t see her as much. She broke up with me almost a year ago. We tried to stay friends but I kept blowing up her phone just to check up on her. She had a bad year with a death in the family, and I thought I could offer a shoulder to cry on, that didn’t last wrong. Say it was bad timing, but whenever she would reply to a message, she was… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

HI Spyder,

when did she block you?

Spyder
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Blocked from messaging apps in July, Phone block in September

Spyder
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I was blocked online in July, by phone in september

Spyder
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Hello?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

It’s a small chance because you’ve been blocked for months now.. But if you’re still going to try,start with focusing and being very active in improving yourself first and in posting in social media.. just make your posts public. Do that for a month, and then initiate a text or social media message and if she answers, slowly build rapport over time while continuing improving yourself.

Steve Burns
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My ex and I agreed to be friends after we broke up. However, she was messaging and calling me a lot after we agreed this. I phoned her up to confront her and ask if she still thought we were just friends and she said she did. However, she blocked me on everything the next day. I think she must have thought I led her on by continuing to reply to her. I do care about this girl and want to stay friends but I am not sure whether to message her or just leave her and let her make… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Steve,

you could send a clean slate message saying being friends is not workable for you and then thank her for everything and then start the nc rule.

Steve Burns
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It was her that was not ready to be friends but she did not tell me this. She blocked me without us having an argument or anything. I do feel it is not fair on me and she should at least tell me why. But I did send a message saying this and there has been no response for over a week. I do want to at least find out what the problem was but the nc rule means I shouldnt message again.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

well, you can’t control somebody else.. so, the best you can do is to give the closure to yourself because asking that right now is chasing for her.. and yes, you shouldn’t message her in nc.

Steve Burns
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Ok, thanks for your help 🙂

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

You’re welcome!

Shay
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Hello Amor, I got a really big problem, I was in relation with my Ex girlfriend since 7 years , we were really happy and we got up and down in our relationship but lastly she broke up with me because i talk very rudely with her and i was really insecure and jealous. for 1 week we were in touch and then the next week she called me and told me that everything is over i try to explain to her she told me to give her some time as she had Exam on university level and she do… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Shay,
Give her space for now
Apologize when you can contact her

Shay
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Hello Amor,
Am not being able to contact her as she fully blocked me on every medium and have been on NC since then but no progress in our realationship..

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Set a limit on until when you wouod wait to be unblocked before moving on..

Shay
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Hello Amor
Dont even know if she wants me back and she even joined instagram as before she was not on instagram and she had not block me on insta
And i havent send her a follow request yet
Should i contact her via insta or shall i wait for her till she contact me ?

Shay
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Hello Amor
Dont even know if she wants me back and she even joined instagram as before she was not on instagram and she had not block me on insta
And i havent send her a follow request yet
Should i contact her via insta or shall i wait for her till she contact me ?

Missing her
I dont need her but i want her as i really love her

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Yeah you can try that but how much did you improve yourself and how active were you in posting? If she checks your posts, does it look like you’re moving on? Make your message interesting, use a topic in her interests.

Thorn O'Dell
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I am fully blocked on everything and this is the second time she has broken up with me. I have been told by another relationship expert to give her a letter stating what I did wrong and what I will do to improve my life . Should I give her the lette And then go into no contact or not give her the letter and only do strict contact. ??

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

why did she block you?

Chris
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Here’s some details. I’m 22 she was 20. We were talking for almost 4 months. She lived 2 hours away but I would drive and stay with her multiple times a week. She never wanted to be in an actual relationship, she said she wasn’t ready. But then again we told each other we loved one another every day. So I didn’t get that. I helped her through a very hard time. We broke up because she was out and I thought she was messing around behind my back. I can’t tell you why I thought this.. I just did… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Chris,

it’s hard to say she was if you yourself don’t know why you thought she was.. Figure that out first.. because for me, she was right until you can you prove she did cheat.

Aurelia
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I’m from the other side. I dumped and blocked my boyfriend after having enough of him. Was not contacting him and vice versa but he tried calling me after 20 days NO contact but I had blocked him. The reason was that a mutual friend was in an accident. I really wish I hadn’t broken No Contact because of that but he remains blocked. I feel stupid but didnt want to seem uncaring towards the friend. He has treated me badly for months and hope by me blocking and attempting to move on, he will realise I am trying to… Read more »
Shuaadh
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Hey, me and my ex have been dating for about 8 years now (broke up twice), we have had a lot of arguments recently. We had a heated conversation where she reached her boiling point and just blocked me from everywhere after hanging up the call. I have tried to contact her best friend though she didnt help me whatsoever and I did call her from another number couple of times and each time she told me to stop calling her. So what should I do in this case? I love her so much and it’s hard to think a… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Shuaadh,

I hope you made up

Fadil
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Hello. On thursday the 9th, my long distance gf broke up with me. We were together for nearly 3 years when we were staying in Mauritius. We went through alot of ups and downs during that time and at times she wanted to leave, because her parents (mum and sister) knew about us and since we were on different religion beliefs, it did not end up well. But we still hid and met. But before she was with me she was with a guy ( one of my good friends) who cheated on her and was very bossy on her.… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Fadil,
Give her a week to cool down, if she doesn’t start the nc rule after that

neston
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hello amor..i need your help..my situation so complicated, we have 5 years relationship, n suddenly she dumped me. the reason is bcoz i dont have time for her, and not get a good relation with her family.. i know its all my fault…but i love her so much… fyi my ages 29 n she’s same. we already broke up for 2 weeks, during the 1st week i keep texting her n the result she blocked my WA n line but not on facebook n instagram, i DM her instagram but still no respond…during 2nd week she keep ignore me even… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Neston,

Yes, you can still do the no contact rule, are you in it right now? How much are you improving yourself and how active are you in posting?

Luke
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Hi, With my ex for about 6 months and close friends for 6 months before that. Broke up in June because I kept starting fights and said some bad things to her. She also wanted to enjoy college life and make new friends. I was excessively clingy and begged a lot. She blocked me and changed her number. My real question is since it’s not normal for her to go to the extent of changing her number does that mean she’s gone forever or could she still come back? She was obsessed with me and loved me so much. It… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Luke,

if it’s been 4 months, it’s more likely that she has moved on.

Luke
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So next question is when they move on can you ever get them back? I know it’s less of a chance but i would think it depends on the intensity of the relationship right?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

If they have moved on, it will depend more on how much value she sees of you at that time.. Would she be attracted to you at that time? Are you that interesting for her to get curious about you? Would you look or sound like you’re not the same person as she used to know?

Luke
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I also send an email to her about 2 days ago pretty much saying that it’s not cool how she’s treating me but i understand i hurt her too and that I’ll love her no matter what but I’m letting go since that’s what she did a while ago. It was pretty much a goodbye letter. She read it 7 times though…what could that mean? I also understand I wasn’t supposed to send an email like that but i thought it was necessary. Anyway she read it 7 times so is that a good sign of no?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

yep, it’s a good sign.. se probably didn’t expect you to say that you understand.

Luke
Guest
Okay well that’s good then. Yes, if she saw me she would for sure see that I’ve changed. I’ve gotten in better shape than I even was before, I’ve been working on stuff mentalling as well and feel like I have a different mindset. She has always said that she found me extremely interesting and attractive so hopefully that hasn’t gone completely away. The thing is that she goes to college 2 hours away so I don’t have the chance of running into her or anything. She will be here for thanksgiving and Christmas though. Even though i sent her… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

It’s a goodbye letter, so now even though you haven’t spoken for 4 months before, you really have to make it seem like it’s goodbye..that means doing one last nc at least 30 days
be active in posting.. Let’s hope she unblocks you before nc ends…

Luke
Guest

Ok I’ll do that. I appreciate your help!

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

You’re welcome!

Luke
Guest
Hey, so my 30 day nc is done next Friday and I was wondering do I still email her and reach out to her even though I sent that goodbye email telling her I’ll never reach out again and that I’m letting go? I’m still not unblocked from anything, so if by next Friday I’m still blocked do I reach out by email or don’t do anything? Also her best friend liked my picture the other day which is really weird because she stopped liking my pictures because of the situation with my ex even though she sees them. Could… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Dont email.. Message in other ways like a text or social media message..its hard to say why her friend liked your pic because it was just once

Luke
Guest

Well my question is if I’m still blocked from everything by the time nc is over and I don’t have her new number can I email (since that’s the only place where I’m not blocked). Also doesn’t it look bad if I contact her after I sent the email saying I’ll never contact her again and I’m letting go? haha how do I go about the email in that case? Thanks for answering all my questions, Amor.

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Extend to 45 days..if you’re still blockef by then, email her about something that she can help you with.. If she’s still neutral or negative or doesn’t reply, that means you have to move on

Luke
Guest

Ok what’s an example of something she can help me with? haha is that better than sending her a message about something interesting? I was in a bad car accident last year and she was with me at the hospital, I’m still working with doctors on some chronic injuries and they need to know some info from the accident that I don’t remember and out of anyone she would remember (not sure if she would though) is that something I could message her for help with? Or what are some other examples?

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

That’s an ok topic.. Try things that she’s good at…

Luke
Guest
I did 33 days of nc and emailed her today asking if she remembers something that I needed to know about my car accident that happened last year. She actually replied with an answer but it was neutral and she just answered the question and that’s it. That’s the first time she has talked to me in 5 months but I think she only did because she figured it was important. I feel like I shouldn’t reply because then she’s going to feel like she’s in control and that I’m chasing. So she I let her wonder why I’m not… Read more »
Luke
Guest

I almost feel like I should do another no contact…but that would be like the 4 time haha

Luke
Guest

She was neutral in the reply but actually gave me more info than I thought on my question. I was expecting one word. What does that mean? (Sorry for all the comments)

Luke
Guest

I responded back last night and said that I’m sorry for how I treated her and I sent her a video of something she’s interested in and told her I thought she would appreciate it. Hasn’t responded

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

That means you need to move on..

Brendan
Guest

Ok so me and this girl I have feelings for have been on and off for about 5 months , I got a little to into it clingy , I guess that made her loose attraction.

She was really into me but she did say we should stop talking for now so I asked her to block me and she did

Now I’m going to wait 30 days and see how it goes for me I am quite active I have been going to gym for 3 years and I have a fun social life

T
Guest
Hey, I was wondering if it would be ok to write my ex a letter just explaining how the situation is messed up and tell her that I’m letting go of her (just to let her know I’m trying to move on). I also want to tell her that I got a dog haha and that I’m doing well and that I’m sorry for everything I did. I want her to know how poorly she’s handling the situation too though, so would it be ok to right the letter? We were together for 5 months and she broke up with… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

HI T,

Nope.. that’s like chasing.. show instead of tell.. Your posts in social media are your indirect way of showing you’re moving on..

T
Guest

Even if it’s been over 3 months since she blocked and changed her number? I just don’t know what else to do and I can’t move on because I’m in love with her. She thinks I’m crazy and wants nothing to do with me so I feel like she doesn’t even care if I post or I look like I’m moving on…

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

It’s a small chance but it’s better to do that than keep chasing..

priyanka
Guest

actually my friend also block me on what’s up .actually he wrote the status and I don’t know for whom it is??I ask him but he did not answer me after that I asked him about who u like ??what that girl name??so he block me so what I can do??

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Priyanka,
Have you checked the exboyfriend recovery website?

Levi Patton
Guest
So me my ex and I broke up over a dumb argument, I was mad and threatened to leave her if she kept being like she was so she got mad and so she said she was done but blamed it on me. She still wanted contact but i was mad and said some horrible things I shouldn’t have and she blocked me fully I am not allowed contact at all at school and I avoid her. We was dating for 3 years. No contact has been for 1 week and a half and nothing from her at all may… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

HI Levi,

don’t contact her parents.. why not try the advice above?

Ryan
Guest
So after 45 days of nc and actively posting and improving myself she never said a word to me because she dumped for another guy and I made it ugly. After texting her twice trying to make first contact she did not respond so i assumed that my number was blocked too. I told my mutual friend to tell her that I made it onto my college swim team and that I tried to tell her but I was blocked. and now she has unblocked on Instagram the only thing she had me blocked on but has not said a… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Ryan,

Did your mutual told it to her in a way that doesn’t sound like you asked the friend to? You have to be careful looking like you’re asking friends to regain connection with her.. Let a week or two pass for now, before messaging her again..continue being active in improving yourself and in posting..use topics of her interest in your messages

Ryan
Guest

my issue is that I don’t really have any shocking news to tell. The most shocking thing i could think of is telling my friend to tell her that I made it onto my college swim team

Thomas
Guest
So my predicament is a little ironic for this website. My “girl friend” and I dated for two years, and I never could commit fully. I between these two years she would leave me, and then come back, and I was still too stupid to “commit” despite being committed to her. She blocked me on everything, besides e-mail I believe. The reasoning being if we contacted each other we would end up back together. As is the common theme, I miss her a lot, and really messed up with this one. I’m wondering should I send an e-mail, or go… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Thomas,

If you were not active in improving yourself and in posting extend 3 more weeks and do that before initiating contact and check this one:
How To Use Text Messages To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back

Thomas
Guest

I can’t text her unfortunately because I’m being blocked. I feel like e-mail has a different connotation to it as well, but I will give it a read and see if things from the text article translate well to e-mail. By the way, I can’t believe you respond to all of these, very cool of yall. Many props, thanks for the help

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Thank you too, that means a lot 🙂 You have to set a limit on until when you would wait for her to unblock you before moving on.

Bill
Guest

Hello. I have two questions. One, how can you be doing No Contact when you’ve been blocked, because it’s not like your ex will know that you’re ignoring her. And two, if she does unblock me should I ignore her for a bit or contact her immediately? Any advice would be much appreciated, as I’m just kind of confused. Thank you.

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Bill,

Make your posts public,..if she unblocks your, yes, ignore her for a bit before initiating contact

Bill
Guest

All right, thanks. I have one other question. I’ve been blocked for a couple of months now, is that normal? If you’re blocked does it usually take a few months for the blocker to cool off a bit? I’m just worried that she’ll forget about me

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Nope, that’s long.. it would be better if you treat it like she has already moved on and treat this as a restart.

dude
Guest
Ex girlfriend blocked me after 5 days of NC…Liked my photo the same day she blocked me! She literally blocked my on everything, insta, FB, and spotify even… idk about my number because its NC, she hasnt texted or called though. Last time we talked it was fine on the phone and she sounded sad and had asked if I blocked and I said yes, and she said, “well you dont have too I could just not contact you for a month or something..” I said, “no its okay Ill just let you know when im ready.” and she told… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Yup, you should unblock her and be active in posting. If you’re blocked, just make the posts public.

dude
Guest

update, she unblocked me and not looks at my social media. been almost 2 weeks no contact now

Lost Guy
Guest
This method sounds very inspiring and intriguing positive…but let’s say that you and your ex doesn’t have any mutual friends and you got a full block out? Also I’ve done the not contacting her for six months and she never got back in touch with my situation was one of being very complicated… here’s the story: I was clingy it turned her off and she broke up with me…then i begged and pleaded with her to give me another chance and she didn’t she started moving cold towards me reading my messages and ignoring me so I gave up after… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Lost guy,

Yup, I think you should move on.

Will
Guest
So, my predicament is that I was trying to get into a relationship with a friend, and she was pretty happy at first, but we had some major miscommunication and so she got mad and we parted ways. We didn’t speak for a couple of months, then I tried to apologize on Facebook [my only way of contacting her then] and sent a long message explaining my actions and making it clear that I did really like her, but she got mad and told me that she’d never had feelings for me [totally untrue] and that she didn’t think we… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

you need to set a limit, a time frame on until when you would wait to be unblocked before moving on.. and if you are unblocked, don’t message right away. That’s good that you’re active in improving yourself and in posting.

Dark-keys
Guest

Hi, my ex gf and i have been together for 10yrs ths coming sept we went through a bad breakup last june, ive gone no contact , after less than a month i went on her apartment gave her a letter together with her fave fruits, also told her i respect her decision and she smile said thanks, now im stucked what should i do next? Thanks in advance ……

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Dark keys,

Wrong first move after nc..restart nc, do at least 30 days.. Be active in improving yourself and in posting. Slowly rebuild rapport after nc. Take this as a restart from everything.. Start with texting to build rapport and then later on with calls to build more rapport and attaraction before going to meet up phase to further build more rapport and attraction

Abiman
Guest
Hi there, I really need your help… It’s been a week+ we both break up… We know each other since 2 years back and she accepted me on my birthday on May… The start was good but sooner we’re like fighting everyday… At one point we hurt each other badly and after 2days she sent me a break up massege… I begged her and she was like… I need time… Then after a day… Things got back… And on the same day the conversation went like talking to a stranger and when I asked her… She instead want to break… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Abiman,

Are you going to try the advice above?

Deepak
Guest

Hii my ex girlfriend fully blocked me……now i really want her back….. I did my breakup because of some my family issues ….i know i had to tell her all about …. Bt that time i’m so depressed ….now aftt 7 month i took admition to her institute ….what should i do now help me plz

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi deepak,

Are you going to try the advice above?

Depressed soul
Guest
Me and my ex were together in a LDR for four years, had an amazing relationship and everything went well. She graduated before me and went back to our country. Things were still good, we met often and introduced each other to our families. One random day she called and said she dont feel the same anymore and that she needs space, i reacted badly to that because i thought everything was going well. I did not give her the space she wanted, pestered her with emo messages. We still met n went out for six months after that but… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

When did you last talk? And are you going to be proactive in changing now?

John
Guest
Hi, Me and Girl dated for 3 months!! Things got too fast too soon and we were with eachother 24/7! She wanted to have her own space as we smothering eachother!! I couldn’t change back to seeing eachother a few times a week and kept pestering her with txts acting like we broke up!! It got to point she hard blocked me!! I don’t know why I acted the way I did but I now 2 weeks no contact, her friends said it will take a lot of time and there a lot of damage done!! Can you offer any… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

If you talked to her friends about her, that means you need restart nc..

pkliper
Guest

Hi there, long story short, we met a year ago, we were togehter for 3 months, then she left, we fought, then I went nc and after 30 days she came back and said she wants this to succeed. We spent another 3 months together and she left again. After a month we fought and she blocked me on viber. I followed your advice and now I see that she unblocked me number 4 days ago. It’s been about 20 days since we fought and I continue on nocontact. Now what?

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

dont message right away so that it doesn’t look like you’re just waiting for her to unblock you.. were you active in posting?

pkliper
Guest

Yes i was active in posting, it has been 16 days since she unblocked me and I haven’t sent her anything yet. I am just wondering why did she unblock me and if it happened by mistake..

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

By now, I hope you have initiated. What did you mean that she unblocked you by mistake?

pkliper
Guest

Maybe she reinstall the app I don’t know. Well I haven’t initaitated but I guess I won’t ever. I unblocked her on instagram, Liked a photo by mistake and now she blocked me on instagram. So I guess this is it. It’s over…

Samy
Guest
Hi my ex broke up with me because she wants to be independent and grow in her life and also one of the reasons is she told me that we dont click and i dont make her laugh anymore. We always fight too. Then she broke up with me and told me that it is final. she told me also that she doesnt want to be in any relationship with any guys after we break because she just wants to grow, enjoy and learn to not depend on any guy. After we broke up she blocked me in everything. And… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

why not try the advice above?

Lars
Guest

Hi again, in addition to my previous comment I forgot to mention that when we last meet before the blocking my ex told me that there was something wrong with a bracelet that i bought and I told her that we were going to have it replaced the next day. Should I try to contact her about replacing the bracelet?

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Lars,

nope, you should start a no contact period of at least 30 days and then take it slow in building rapport after.

Lars
Guest
Hi Amor! Me and my ex broke up about 1 month ago. She is seeing her old boyfriend, how have been gone for a while but is coming back and they will be living together for about 2 months than he’s going abroad. We have been in contact a lot and have had sex 1 time and if she didn’t get her period (know this for a fact) we would have done it again a couple of days ago. Instead we got into a fight and now it looks like she has blocked me on the phone, facebook but she… Read more »
Jon
Guest
Hello, My girlfriend broke things off almost two months ago. She said she loves me and wishes she could say she wants to be together forever, but since she is just graduating college and she has slacked off the passing years and developed bad habits that she wants to conquer those issues- as well as her depression and anxiety- which sometimes causes her to isolate herself from everyone. We were living together. We were dating for nearly two years. We went on trips together all over. She supported me and made me a better person, and I supported her and,… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Change..don’t rush things…it’ll take a long time..do at least 45 days nc and then slowly build rapport after that.. If she doesn’t respond positively, move on..

Michael
Guest
Hi Chris, So my girlfriend ended things with me 5 months ago. I am now in a different country to her but will be back in the same country in about 4 months. I initially deleted her on all social media, in order to completely focus on my recovery from my major injury. I had to put all my focus on the recovery and could only focus on positive energy and seeing her at the time was a detriment to that. I am fully recovered now and better than ever however. The injury put a strain on the relationship, because… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

The message was late at night right? So, to her it probably looked like a bootycall.. How much did you improve yourself in the past months and how active were you in posting? Also, in order to build rapport, you have to initiate more…

Michael
Guest

Well it was midnight my time but she was in a different timezone and country so she would not have known it was a booty call. I didnt initiate more at the time because I was just busy with my own life doing my own thing and thinking about her less. At this point I’m not sure if I should try and call her because its been almost a month since that message or if I should just leave it be and assume she never wants to speak to me.
Thanks

Michael
Guest

Also, I have done so much to recover from my personal issues such as my injury. The medication that was affecting my mood and behaviour I am not taking since I am no longer in pain so I just have generally improved so much mentally and physically since then. Not for my ex but for myself and my own life.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

if you want, initiate again..if she doesn’t reply then move on

Eric DeJager
Guest

Hello Amor,
My situation pertains to this predicament but it also pertains to many other situations you guys have talked about, it goes much to deep write it out in this comment section and is very complex. I am in a very bad position right now and could use some world class advice, is there any way I could give my specific situation and let you dissect it? thank you

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Eric,

if it needs to be private, you can try sending email here:
contact

SingleDude
Guest
Honestly, I don’t mean to be a hater, but #2 is very bad and potentially dangerous advice. If an ex-girlfriend blocked you, that means she does not want to speak to you. Not only does she not want to speak to you, but she doesn’t want to think about you at all. Blocking you makes her feel like she is in control, which usually means that she felt as if she was not in control before. This means that the best thing to do is to let her have that control, and the worst thing to do would be to… Read more »
abanobe
Guest
hey chris, hope its all good, i know that this might be a long message/question, but i really need help.. i’ve been dating this girl for 5 months, and we’ve been living together for 4 months, she broke up with me 2 weeks ago, now we had a lot of good times in our relationship but we had alot of arrguments, most of the time because of my change of humor, anyways when she broke up with me i was heart broken so i was asking her back, making promesses, giving her ideas for a better relationship etc, and the… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Abanobe,

Don’t chase.. Focus in improving yourself instead..

abanobe
Guest
hey amor, thanks for the reply, and actually thats what im doing, i stopped chasing her, and im foucusing on improving myself, but yet its so hard to not think about her you know, everything reminds of me her. but i have a couple of questions is you dont mind, 1- after the NC rule, what is a test message? or how should it be? and 2- you are a woman, so from your point of view as a woman, do you think that i have the smallest chance with her? see i’ve still got hope and faith, i know… Read more »
abanobe
Guest
hey amor, thanks alor for the reply, and that’s actually what i am doing, its been like 5 days since we stopped talking, and right now i am just focusing on myself, and becoming a better version of me, v.2.0 you know, but yet i have a couple of questions if you dont mind, 1- you are a woman so from your point of view as a woman, do you think that i still have the smallest chance with her, to get her back or even start a new relationship with her? 2- chris talked about a test message after… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

there’s a chance if you really improved a lot.. To the point that she will regret not having you.. You can’t control her and her friend, you can only control yourself, so no matter what the other person says, if she sees that you’re opposite what her friend says, she’ll still be attracted to you…

Wennds Myrtil
Guest
Hi. I was dating this girl for 2 years and we just broke up last week. We did a long distance relationship for the first year and I would go visit her when I could. I just moved to her home state to be closer to her and we could take our relationship to the next level. She has been distant with me 2 months before the breakup. In the early stages of our relationship we texted and snapchated everyday. She is 18 years old and I am 20 years old. She is Jewish and I am not. Her parents… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

HI Wennds,

her parents made her break up with you?

Wennds Myrtil
Guest

I’m not sure. She broke up with me because she wants to experience dating other guys and I keep over pursuing her and she blocked me from everything

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Oh, that means it’s more of a grass is greener. Do you want to try the no contact rule? Are you going to do the advice above?

Wennds Myrtil
Guest

Yes but I’m not sure if it’s going to work

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

There’s no guarantee that it will work but it’s better to do that than chase her.

Tony
Guest
Hi, Me and my girl have been together for 6 years both 25. Our fight started a week ago, during our usual texting conversation I just found out she was getting baptise to out of nowhere, I grew a bit concern as she had bad experiences in past in one of the churches she was apart of (before we met), then she also said that her mum won’t allow her to move out. I got irritated which it was my mistake and I regret what I texted her. From there on she did not speak to me for 2 days.… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Tony,

she already blocked you, I think you should start the 30 day no contact rule.

Tony
Guest
Hi Amber, Yes am doing the 30 day NC. I am wondering if I can give you a more detailed about my problem as what I just noticed that I missed some information as I was quite stressed. Me and my girlfriend dated for 6 years and we are both 25 and currently living in Melbourne. Our fight started during a casual text conversation. I know that she been attending this church but only 2 sessions and out of now where she is going to be baptise. I was concerned because of her past experience and I was worried she… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

but what if she doesn’t want to leave at all? Even if you weren’t able to give the letter or if she didn’t receive it, the effort to give it is showing you’re apologetic..At least, you already made an apology. So, right now, focus in improving yourself. You apologized, she doesn’t want to hear you out, so she has to feel that she’s losing you for her to regret and have a higher chance of her wanting you back.

Tony
Guest

Hi Amber,

Thanks for the reply, she actually wanted to move before and her mum agreed to it. But leaving that aside, I just don’t know how to contact her after NC. There are social medias that I do not have an account, so should I try make an account have fun using it and send them an invite, just after NC. Anyways yes working on myself, I just started swimming again and planning to take martial arts.

I hope you can help me.

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

yeah, try that.. but if youre still blocked after nc, extend to 45 days before trying that..

Erick
Guest
So my ex and I were crazy about each other for a couple of months they were amazing. Best months of my life, only problem was… her best friend was my ex and she couldn’t bare the fact that she was my ex. She would fight it every day. She wanted to be with me but she just couldn’t tell her and didn’t know where we would stand. She would become distant at times and that would make me want to see her more so I would show up to her apartment unnounced but we would still spend time together.… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Erick,

do you want to try the advice above and stick to nc?

sahil
Guest
i need help, i acted like stalker multiples times, and she broke up with me long back , i followed her everywhere and i didn’t let her give her exam, and she blocked me everywhere, i mean everywhere, we really created a scene in public, i tried very heard to get her back, convince her but i acted really creepy and needy and very desperate, now i feel like finished , i know it impossible situation, just need to make her show or believe that i am not that stalker or needy or desperate , all i want to say… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Sahil,

are you going to do the no contact rule? If yes, do at least 45 days..

Crag Banna
Guest
First of all my main goal is to get back to a friendly level. After being blocked for over 3 months on Facebook, while searching for a friend of a similar name, her profile popped up on the search suggestion list. As yet she has not added me as a friend or contacted me. Why would she unblock me? All I can think of is either she’s there to snoop for a few days before running off again or she intends to make contact/be re-added. Otherwise why would it matter to her whether I’m blocked or not? Why would she… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi crag,

she probably snooped into your account.. let more time pass before adding her..so, that if it’s recent, it wouldn’t look like you’re just waiting for her to unblock you

Cytriax
Guest

I’m hoping someone is able to help answer me, I’ve emailed in a few times and never hear back 🙁

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Cytriax
I answered your other comment.. it was a late reply though..so sorry about that.. Ill copy paste herr my answer there
Hi,

why not try to do the no contact rule? do at least 45 and focus in improving yourself during and after nc while slowly rebuilding rapport with her

Francis
Guest
Hi guys, my exgirlfriend broke up with me on December 1st. We fought about it the couple days that followed and i got mad and insulted her and one of her friend. She then blocked me (full out block). I tried to contact her even through her sister but nothing to do about it so i gave up and started the 30 days NC rule on December 12. I still havn’t contacted her so far but on December 30 at 11:23 at night she texted me saying that she found some more of my stuff and that if i wanted… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi,
it would be better that you finish nc.. so that you dont look like you’re just waiting for her to unblock you

Francis
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Okay thanks! Also do you think based on what i’ve told you that i could stand a chance knowing that i’ve used all the past month to make major changes in my life and on my own person? And is the fact that she finally texted me is a good thing?

Francis
Guest

My ex’s sister just texted me about my stuff telling me that she was going to be home this week and that i can come pick it up… Should i answer, ignore her, decline politely and make up some excuse?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

if you need it, you can get it..if not just tell her you’ll text her when you will.. and yes, it’s a good sign that she texted you..it’s good that you improved yourself but continue doing that even while you’re building rapport

Francis
Guest

Okay thank you so much Amor!!

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

You’re welcome!

Thomas
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Hi guys, my ex girlfriend left me on December 1st and we fought over it (i ended up insulting her and 1 of her friend). Then on December 4 she blocked me (full out block). I let a couple days go by and try to contact her again through her sister but nothing to do she wont talk to me so I start the 30 day NC rule on December 12. I havn’t contacted her since then and on December 30 at 11:23 at night she sent me a text saying that she found some more of my stuff and… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi,
it would be better that you finish nc.. so that you dont look like you’re just waiting for her to unblock you

Thomas
Guest

Hi, my girlfriend broke up with me on December 1st and we fought about it (I got mad and insulted her and one of her friend) so she blocked me (full out block). After talking through her sister for a week or so, i decided to start the 30 day no contact rule on December 12 and I still didn’t contact her yet. The thing is that for the first time since the full out block started (December 4), she contacted me

Thomas
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on December 31 by text saying that she found some more of my stuff and that if i want to come pick it up she was going to be at her house the whole week, 20 minutes later she texted me again saying that she didn’t message me to talk and that if i wanted to talk we could do it when i go pick up my stuff… I didn’t answer her at all and im wondering what to do… Should i go see her and talk, should i cut my NC rule short to 21 days (January 2nd) or… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi,
it would be better that you finish nc.. so that you dont look like you’re just waiting for her to unblock you

Ollie
Guest
Hi me and my ex were together for 6 months and she was 24 and i was 28. She was taking anxiety tablets and started going out with me soon after a relationship. It was amazing we had the best time of our lives i know that she was happy with me and loved me. We had so many funny times together until we had an argument which escalated into her cousin even head butting me because i was so upset she asked me to leave after living together for 2 months she said she needed space i asked why… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Ollie,
It’s not actually considered a no contact period, even if you didn’t speak to her for 20 days, if you didn’t improve yourself. Check this:
How To Make Your Ex Girlfriend Regret Letting You Go

Ollie
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Hi me and my girlfriend broke up 30 days ago after an amazing 6 month relationship. she is 24 and im 28 she takes anxiety tablets as well and actually increased her doze a few days before this argument It all started from a stupid argument where i was off with her and she was the same to me. I ended up threatening to leave the house where we were staying which was her aunties house and i was there for 2 months. I was an emotional state because she wasnt talking to me and sorting our problems out so… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Ollie,
It’s not actually considered a no contact period, even if you didn’t speak to her for 20 days, if you didn’t improve yourself. Check this:
How To Make Your Ex Girlfriend Regret Letting You Go

Luke
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So my ex and I went through the no contact phase. It actually worked out really well. She ended up sending me the “hey, I hope you’re doing well” text. We texted for a bit after that but not much. Then we actually ended up FaceTiming the next day.. I was preparing for a speech I had to give and she heard about it. So she wanted to hear it. The speech was the next day and she actually ended up driving an hour and a half just to see me and listen to it.. We talked pretty frequently from… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Luke,

just lay low for now, maybe a week or two before messaging her again and then take it slow from there.

Tim
Guest
So what happens if your ex unfriended you, not blocked you, on Facebook? And it didn’t happen right away but a few weeks after the break-up. During those few weeks you were calm, never posted anything on Facebook yourself, didn’t say anything mean to her and only initiated contact once with your ex to try and understand her feelings and why she did a full 180 on you. Mind you at that time you knew she just shutdown, just like when she broke-up with you, not talking to anyone about why she did it and got mad when you attempted… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Tim,

so she has commitment issues? When did you break up? Even if you didn’t talk, do you want to try the no contact rule and start improving yourself?