My Ex Girlfriend And I Kissed… Now What?

This is one of those situations that I get asked about all the time.

No seriously…

I usually get an email or comment like this,

“Hey man… I tried your strategies and they worked like gangbusters. So much so that we even kissed/made out. But that’s been it. She’s gone cold after that. What the heck do I do?”

I get about one or two of these types of situations PER DAY…

And I am not one to shy away when the writing is on the wall.

I think what we need to do here is dedicated a gigantic article to the situation so I can give you a specific game plan to follow that will hopefully lead you to success.

Hence, this page was created.

Now, I have a bit of good news and a bit of bad news.

What do you want first?

The good news?

The Good News

good news

You kissed your ex girlfriend.

That is absolutely phenomenal and I can’t really find any fault with that (assuming she kissed you back and didn’t pull away.)

I mean, do you know how many men come to Ex Girlfriend Recovery and can’t even advance to a point where they can see their ex girlfriends in person?

There is a reason for why I have only written a book on texting and not on “in person interactions.”

The Reason = Because most people screw up when texting and can’t even get to an “in person interaction.”

But here you are…

You HAVE seen your ex girlfriend in person and you have even gotten her to kiss you.

Now, don’t tell anyone else that I told you this but the fact that you have made it this far means that you are close. Your ex girlfriend may need a few extra pushes in the right direction to get her to fully commit to you.

Hmm…

Let me put it this way.

If you made me pick between the situation you are in versus someone who is just starting the “get your ex back” process I would pick yours every time.

So that’s the good news.

But I bet you were so worried about the bad news that you only half paid attention to what I was saying in this section, huh?

Ok, lets talk about the bad news.

The Bad News

bad news

Just because you kissed your ex girlfriend doesn’t mean that you are going to get her back. In fact, I have seen A LOT of men fail.

Why?

Because they get a big head and think they have conquered the world.

Look, even I am not going to deny that getting your ex girlfriend to kiss you is big but it doesn’t guarantee that you are going to get her back.

Don’t think that this is going to be easy because it’s not.

Getting an ex girlfriend back is kind of like trying to mine gold.

Now, I don’t know if you have seen this show but recently I have been watching a lot of this TV show called,

Gold Rush

Hence the weird analogy of comparing getting an ex back to mining gold.

Anyways, when I was watching that show someone said something that really stuck with me.

Gold is always trying to find a way to stay in the ground.

In other words, no matter what you do the gold is always wanting to go back to where it belongs, in the ground.

Wow, what a great analogy for getting your ex girlfriend back.

No matter how far you advance it isn’t over until the fat lady sings. Your ex girlfriend is always going to try to find a way to be free. So, don’t get a big head just because you got her to kiss you.

Is it a step in the right direction?

Absolutely.

Does it mean that you are guaranteed to get her back?

Absolutely NOT.

Shifting The Way You Look At Kisses For Now

kiss

What I am about to tell you is going to be really difficult for you but it’s the philosophy that I want you to adopt until the moment you get her back.

Got it?

Alright, are you ready?

Getting a kiss from your ex girlfriend is the equivalent of a business transaction

It’s weird I know but I don’t want you to get too overly excited about your kiss and mess up all the progress that you have made.

Think of when you go to the McDonalds drive-thru.

It’s a business transaction.

You are hungry so you decide to pay McDonalds to make food for you so you aren’t hungry anymore.

You pay them money…

They give you food…

A kiss from your ex girlfriend is exactly the same.

You say or do something that makes her feel good and she gives you a kiss.

In other words, her kisses are like currency.

Now, here is where things get really interesting.

Our Goal Is To Get More And More “Currency”

currency

Think of the people who own McDonalds.

Their entire job revolves around attracting more customers because the more customers they get the more money they get.

The same thing applies to me with this website.

The more website visitors I attract with my content the more money I will ultimately make.

Thus, the thing that McDonalds and I do is to make our products or brand recognition more and more powerful. McDonalds does it with catchy commercials and dollar meals.

Me…

Well, the only thing I have going for me is my content.

The better I make my content for you the more you will share it with others and the more you share it with others the bigger this website can get.

However, it’s ultimately all in pursuit of this “currency.”

At this point you may be asking yourself,

Ok… what does any of this have to do with me getting my ex girlfriend back?

I am glad you asked.

Do you remember above when I said that for you kissing is like currency.

Well, the more kisses you get from your ex girlfriend the more emotional credit you hold over her. Eventually if you get enough kisses you can “buy” her back.

I wouldn’t lie to you.

There is definitely a correlation between ex boyfriends who get lots of kisses and ex boyfriends who get their ex girlfriends back.

Thus, my goal with this entire guide is to show you what you can do to get more kisses and ultimately win your ex girlfriend back.

But First… Let’s Talk About “The Little Things”

little bit

This is going to sound really weird but bear with me here.

I was in bed trying to fall asleep and I had a thought.

I began thinking about how a lot of men have trouble with “the little things.”

Anyways, I found the thought so interesting that I figured I would get out of bed and start writing.

So here I am…

Writing away…

For you…

(You can clap now.)

Ok, the little things…

Lets say that you have a goal.

And that goal is to ultimately get back with your ex girlfriend. However, you can’t just snap your fingers and make it happen.

No, there are a little of little things that happen along the way.

Well, I would say that 95% of the time that men fail to get their ex girlfriends back isn’t because they lack the motivation or the ability. It’s because they want the result too fast. In other words, they want to skip over all the little things that I teach and just get to the success part of the ladder,

getting your ex girlfriend back

And therein lies the problem.

You want results without having to do any of “the little things.”

And believe me when I say that those little things are EVERYTHING.

Hmm… I feel like I should give you a more definitive example.

Alright, I suppose I can get personal here.

If you ask me right now on what my goal for this website, Ex Girlfriend Recovery, is I would tell you two things.

  1. I want to create the best website on getting an ex girlfriend back in the world.
  2. I want to diversify my traffic to this website much more than what it is right now.

Pretty ambitious goals, right.

Lets take an in-depth look at both of these goals and look at all “the little things” that have to happen in order to achieve them.

I suppose we can start with creating the best website in the world.

GOAL ONE: Creating The Best Website In The World For Men Trying To Get Their Ex Girlfriends Back

Off the top of my head here are all the little things that need to happen to make this a reality.

  • Create the best content in the world
  • Research psychological principles/ relationship books to make sure your content isn’t stale
  • Invest in a designer to improve the look
  • Answer comments
  • Create the best products in the world
  • Always keep the content up to date
  • Have good customer service
  • Stay current with trends

Look at all of those little things that have to happen.

Each one is important.

Lets look at the second goals out there,

GOAL TWO: Diversify Traffic To The Website

Any good investment analyst will tell you that a safe investment portfolio is one that is diversified.

Well, the same principle applies to website traffic.

You don’t want to put all of your eggs in one basket. Thus, a great website needs to have traffic sources from all around the net.

Search engines…

Social media…

Videos…

Word of mouth…

You get the idea.

So, what “little things” have to happen for me to achieve this goal,

  • Improve presence in the big three search engines (Google, Yahoo & Bing)
  • Create a YouTube channel
  • Buy a camera to record videos for YouTube
  • Buy proper lighting and backdrop to make videos look professional
  • Improve social media presence on Facebook, Twitter, Pintrest, Etc
  • Invest in advertising
  • Write killer content that makes people want to share it thus creating word of mouth

Again, you have a TON of little things that have to happen to achieve the overarching goal.

Now, you may be sitting there wondering what the hell any of this has to do with you and kissing your ex girlfriend.

Well, throughout this page we are going to be operating under one simple assumption,

The More Your Ex Girlfriend Kisses You The Higher Your Chances Of Success Are

However, in order to get her to kiss you more there are a lot of little things that you need to check off the list.

Oh, and if you think that you can skip a few of these “little things” then you have another thing coming.

What do I mean by that?

Ok, pretend that you are climbing up a ladder except half the rungs are missing,

ladder

That was a horrible graphic by me…

But I think you get what I am going for here.

There is no way that you are going to be able to climb to the top of the ladder if half the rungs are missing. Well, every time you neglect one of the “little things” that I tell you to do to make your ex girlfriend kiss you I want you to think that, that is the equivalent of taking a rung out of the metaphorical ladder of success.

After a while if you neglect those little things they can really add up.

Anyways, I bet you are dying to know what you can do to make your ex girlfriend kiss you more.

What You Can Do To Make Your Ex Girlfriend Want To Kiss You More

I suppose the best way to start this section isn’t by talking about kissing but rather where kissing falls in my overall get your ex back strategy.

You see, over the years I have found that it can be extremely helpful if you have a template “strategy” that you can point most guys to when they ask the inevitable question of,

“How do I get my ex back?”

Thus, I came up with this simple strategy,

Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back

You start from left to right.

  • You do the no contact rule
  • Then you implement “the value chain”
  • You text first
  • Then transition to phone calls
  • Then to a small in person interaction
  • And finally a romantic interaction
  • This will ultimately lead to success

So, where does kissing end up in this strategy?

Why it’s right here,

Get-Your-Ex-Girlfriend-Back

I mean, last time I checked kissing was a pretty romantic thing.

Thus, it’s in the romantic date section.

But you will notice that there is a pretty glaring flaw with this “ultimate “get your ex back” strategy.”

Care to take a guess at what that flaw is?

No?

Ok, it’s the fact that the strategy basically ends after a romantic date with your ex girlfriend. In other words, the strategy is assuming that a talk is going to take place where you convince your ex girlfriend to take you back.

But what if that doesn’t happen?

What if you did everything that the strategy recommends and the romantic date goes incredibly well?

In fact, it went so well that you and your ex girlfriend had a very passionate make out session. However, neither of you brought up your relationship status.

What then?

I mean, there is nothing in the strategy that talks about what happens in between here and here,

Get-Your-Ex-Girlfriend-Back

Well, that’s kind of what I want to talk about now.

I want to talk about all “the little things” that you need to do after you had a successful romantic date (where you and your ex girlfriend kissed) to become successful at winning your girlfriend back.

Are you ready?

The “Make Her Kiss You More” Strategy

I want you to take a look at this fun little graphic I put together for you.

make her kiss you more

This is the strategy that you are going to be employing so I want you to get used to it.

A couple of things to note here.

There are four main parts to this strategy.

  1. Location
  2. Emotional Bonding
  3. Kino
  4. Taking Action

I am going to talk in-depth about each one of those things in a moment but first I want to turn your attention to the second thing of note.

The fact that this strategy is in a never-ending loop.

Now, I create all the internal graphics here at Ex Girlfriend Recovery so I definitely created this never-ending loop for a reason.

It’s because once you reach this part of the overall strategy,

get your ex back strategy

You basically keep going around in that never ending loop until you succeed or fail.

And guess what happens if you go around in the loop correctly?

Not only will you raise your chances of getting your ex girlfriend back but you end up getting more kisses from her as well.

Win/Win!

But lets talk about those “little things” for a minute.

The four things in the loop that I really need you to nail down perfectly for this to work.

You remember what they were, right?

  1. Location
  2. Emotional Bonding
  3. Kino
  4. Taking Action

Let’s start by talking about location.

Location

location

I want you to go on a date.

Again…

Except this date has to be romantic. In fact, it has to be one of the romantic dates you have ever set up in your entire life.

Look, the only reason that you are in this predicament is because you already had a romantic date and you failed to get your ex girlfriend to commit to you,

get your ex back strategy

This tells me one of two things,

That a conversation where the two of you become official again hasn’t happened

OR

That a conversation where the two of you become official has happened and she turned you down (but you still somehow got a kiss.)

Well, by making this date UBER romantic you are going to accomplish a few things.

The first thing you will accomplish is that it’s kind of a strange non verbal way of showing your ex girlfriend that you are interested in her “in that way.”

I mean, a guy friend doesn’t rent out an entire boat just so he can have dinner with her one on one…

A guy friend isn’t going to line a walkway full of roses up for her…

He isn’t going to make romantic gestures on this level…

The only person who would do things like that is a man who is interested in her.

She knows this on some level so if she agrees to go out on a date with you and she understands that the date is going to be romantic it is almost like she is giving herself over to you in a slow way.

Hmm…

Think of it this way.

A woman’s time is much more valuable than a mans time.

It’s just a simple fact of life.

So, if she continually invests that time into your romantic dates then in a weird way you are pushing her to be with you without really having to do much.

Now, I can hear some of the doubters out there going,

But Chris… isn’t a romantic date a little too much at this point?

Ah, you have to remember where you are at in the grand scheme of things.

Big strategies like the no contact rule and the beginning stages of the value chain (pick up EGR PRO or The Texting Bible for more information on them) are in your rear view mirror. If you are at a point where your ex girlfriend is kissing you then a romantic date shouldn’t be too much of a stretch, right?

I mean, what do couples do on romantic dates?

THEY KISS!

Speaking of kissing…

Emotional Bonding

emotional bonding

Emotional bonding is powerful…

So powerful in fact that if you master the skill you can make your ex girlfriend do anything you want.

Ok, maybe not technically “everything” but you can definitely make her be your girlfriend again and in your world that probably amounts to “everything.”

So, what is emotional bonding?

Well, it’s all about connecting…

It’s about talking about your dreams…

It’s about showing your soul to another person…

Hmm… I don’t think I am quite doing it justice.

Ok, let me use something a little closer to home.

When I met my wife the emotional bond we created was powerful.

We talked about everything you can possibly think about.

Religious beliefs…

Philosophies on life…

Funny stories…

Sad stories…

Our feelings about each other…

Everything…

Eventually I felt that we had such an emotional bond that no other man could possibly compete with what we had created.

And I was right…

I got this girl to marry me,

coors light girl

Seriously…

That’s my wife,

wife

And there is no way I could have landed her without the power of an emotional bond.

And I just don’t see how you can convince your ex girlfriend to be in a relationship with you without it.

So, how do you go about creating or in your case “recreating one.”

Re-creating An Emotional Bond

Romantic attachments (or emotional bonds) are one of the most studied subjects in the relational sciences.

A romantic attachment is a deep emotional bond to another individual.

But that’s not the most interesting thing.

The most interesting thing is how human beings have evolved.

Over millions of years evolution has favored humans who have a deep emotional bond with a sexual partner. In other words, forming an emotional bond is in your DNA. It’s our species way of surviving.

But that still doesn’t explain how you create one.

Well, turns out scientists have studied this too.

Now, as much as I would love to give you some special topics to cover with your ex girlfriend it turns out, according to scientists, that, that isn’t the best way to re-create an emotional bond.

Scientists have learned that when it comes to forming a deep emotional connection we often base it on physical contact.

Hugging…

Cuddling…

Kissing…

Sex…

The more we do these things the more of an attachment you form to the other person.

Thus, it makes sense that there is a correlation between the success stories and the amount of men who get repeat kisses from their ex girlfriends.

Remember our goal here.

TO GET MORE KISSES!

And now you know why.

Physical contact is what will make the most difference when it comes to forming an emotional bond.

And that leads me to my next point, Kino.

Kino

touching

When you look at my overall strategy for getting an ex girlfriend back what is the first verb that comes to mind?

Speaking personally…

It’s escalation.

You see, my strategy is all about escalation.

Starting off small and slowly building from there.

Keep that in mind as I teach you about Kino because the idea behind escalation matters a lot.

Kino– Kinesthetics – Touching, physical contact with a female

I do want to mention that this isn’t an idea that is original to me. Nope, I took this idea from a very interesting community.

The pickup artist community.

Hey don’t judge…

When you are looking for new information to teach you will go anywhere to get it and while I didn’t like a lot of the PUA ideas out there I did find this one to be quite useful.

Kino is basically a smart way of escalating physical touch with a woman.

Hmm…

Maybe you will respond better to something a bit more visual.

Lets pretend that I created a kino scale for you.

kino scale

On one end of the scale you have no touching at all…

kino scale

And then at the other end of the scale you have the ultimate of all physical touching… Sex.

kino scale copy

Of course, in between the two ends of the scale are all the “in between” or escalators. Notice how all of these “little things” slowly but surely intensify until they reach the ultimate boiling point, sex.

kino scale copy 2

This is the idea behind Kino.

You slowly but surely increase your frequency of touch across the date.

Ideally you want to be at an 8 on the scale pretty consistently if you are taking your ex out on romantic dates but every woman is different. You will kind of have to play that by ear.

Take Action

Lets do a quick recap of what we have learned so far with making your ex girlfriend kiss you more.

We have learned that the location of a date matters… Ideally you want the date to be super romantic and the more you get your ex girlfriend to agree to go on a date with you the better.

We also learned that in order to establish a strong emotional bond you are going to have to improve your physical one.

Oh, and last but not least is the idea of kino and escalation.

Now all that is left is for you to take action. I want you to repeat this process over and over again until you see results.

It’s that simple.

		

Written by EGR team mate

Chris Seiter

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Akeem
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After the break up that she initiated because I was crying after I found out about her emotional affair, the same day, we had sex and we agreed to be friends. A week after we went on a “date” and I told her I love her, but she refused to sleep with me. Then the following week we had sex after I contact her. Afterwards I felt awful knowing that I was not ready to be close to her, so intiated NC for 21 days. On the 21st day I saw her and end up making out, afterwards she ask… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor
Hi Akeem, You did skip it. If you’re going to do nc again, do it for the last time but talk to her sincerely first. Tell her you’re not using her, be honest but make it seem like this is the last time you’re going to do that because you’re moving on.Tell her that being friends for now is not working for you and you have to time for yourself to heal and then thank her for everything and then do one last 30 day nc. Take it slow in building rapport after it. Be active in improving yourself and… Read more »
Denis
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Hi EGF team. Sorry for my English. My situation is the next: My ex and I have been together for almost 3 years and a half since we first started, beacuse we split some time when she cheated on me but we came back. We had been great for some months until this last month, we started arguing a lot for a lot of stupid things so she broke up with me. I think the other problem was that she was living with me and we go to the same university and classes and watched the same TV shows so… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Denis,

How many times have you broken up and how many times have you done nc?

Denis
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Hi EGF team. Sorry for my English. My situation is the next: My ex and I have been together for almost 3 years and a half since we first started, beacuse we split some time when she cheated on me but we came back. We had been great for some months until this last month, we started arguing a lot for a lot of stupid things so she broke up with me. I think the other problem was that she was living with me and we go to the same university and classes and watched the same TV shows so… Read more »
oneofmanyrains
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why did my previous text dissapeared? guess ill type it in again ^^ so i met with ex-gf last night after 3 years no contact, all went well, we had fun we chated we touched,and at the ending i kissed her and she said she wasn’t expecting that, so she kissed me back and i didn’t expected that either, the thing is.. later that night she asked me the following question: “What was the purpose for your kiss last night”? and me ofc being the cocky idiot i am answered her : “Do i really have to kiss u again… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi,

It’s still here, I just haven’t reached it yet.. Apologize and then lay low for a week before initiating again

TheOneOfRain
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so i met with ex-gf last night after 3 years no contact, all went well, we had fun we chated we touched,and at the ending i kissed her and she said she wasn’t expecting that, so she kissed me back and i didn’t expected that either, the thing is.. later that night she asked me the following question: “What was the purpose for your kiss last night”? and me ofc being the cocky idiot i am answered her : “Do i really have to kiss u again for u to figure it out”? to which she answered” No you don’t… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi,

It’s still here, I just haven’t reached it yet.. Apologize and then lay low for a week before initiating again

Carl
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Hi. THanks for having time to read this. My situation is that 2 weeks ago, my gf walked out on me for something that i did that she believed was ‘unforgivable’. We were greatly in love, that i know, although things were rocky. i did the NC for 10days, but became miserable. She had no idea that i was miserable, though. I texted her shortly and told her i’d like meet up with her. She accepted. We ended up spending around 3hrs together. Things went mostly well, i held her a lot around the waiste, looked in her eyes etc..… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Carl,

You already asked her back, she doesn’t want to.. Restart nc, do at least 30 days and be active in improving yourself and in posting in social media..

Habid
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Hey, I just wanted to ask you something about my situation. Long story short, after I did no contact my ex contacted me and asked me to come over, she said she needed a hug from me, that I am the only one who knows her and stuff like that. When i came at her place we ended up kissing and making out, and I spent the night at her place. After that we kept texting for 5 days, and we are still texting, constantly. But the problem is that we somehow talked about seeing eachother from time to time,… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

did you mean you slept toagether? Usually, that works in the guy’s favor.. just keep building rapport, but don’t be too available.. and then ask her to be official.

Doug
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Amor, what do you mean by “whateverโ€™s happening right now is not working” ?

AnonymousA
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Dear EGR team, First of all, thank you for your effort. What if we are talking about a long-distance (500km – once/twice a month) relationship? It has been a great relationship for 2+ years, then broke-up after I have been abroad for 3 months until September 2016, without an obvious reason. I spent ~1 month begging and being angry and fighting. Then, I spent 2 months doing big romantic gestures (roses, phone calls, songs etc.) and visiting her hometown to meet her (once as a surprise and once it was pre-arranged). During these 3 months, whenever I met her (3… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi AnonymousA,
Actually you should do at least 45 days because of the begging.. check this too:
The Ultimate Guide To Getting A Long Distance Relationship Ex Girlfriend Back

AnonymousA
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What about my success? As I told you, everytime we met during these 3-4 months, I managed to get her to go on a date and we kissed and she seemed really in love, she was just too scared to go back together with me because she thinks we will not make it work. She always told me she loves me, she’s not sure if she’s making a mistake, but it’s over.

Cheers,
AnonymousA

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

that’s a good sign but.. that could also mean, she has feelings but she doesn’t see you differently.. She doesn’t think you changed. So, you have to really change and improve with the health, wealth and relationships aspect of your life. Relationships means with friends, family and meeting new people and making new friends too.

AnonymousA
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Thanks a lot for your reply! So, I will give her this period of NO CONTACT (btw, her nameday is next week – should I send her some short wishes?). After this period, should I start sending some simple texts and the build up on texting like from the beginning? Or should I start some more “serious” talks and tell her about all these feelings that she has shown during this period and ask her more quickly to come visit me or maybe go somewhere together, or what? I feel really lost because everytime I met her during these 3-4… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

You can’t greet her.. I know it’s hard.. but that’s part of the rules of the no contact rule. That’s good that you didn’t reply to her. Just focus in being active if you want to give the impression that you’re not chasing anymore.

AnonymousA
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Hello Amor, Thanks a lot for your replies. Not sending her any wishes isn’t very impolite? Maybe it will push her further away. Also I have noticed that she is much more social now, she started really moving on with her life (actually, she is doing exactly what I pretend I am doing, but I think she is doing it for real). That looks like a bad sign, right? I really love it that she’s doing fine, though, because she solved many of the problems she had (that led to our breakup because she was fully stressed) but I think… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

this link is from exbf recovery, but the sender is a guy:
EBR 057: BIRTHDAYS AND THE NO CONTACT RULE

if you’re both improving, that’s good..take it as a restart.. it would be better if she thinks you have moved on too for her to be willing to start over as friends.. and that means not telling her friends that you want her back..you can talk to them but dont tell them what you’re real intention is..

AnonymousA
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Hey Amor, OK, I believe she will keep thinking I want her back no matter how long I ignore her because I made it very clear, with some very romantic gestures and gifts bringing up all the memories before I went into NC (photo album, letters, etc). But I have a problem with combining these two guides you have (How to get a Long Distance ex back and What to do if you kissed but she does not want you back). The point is that I got her to go on a date and kiss me and have a great… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

that means you wouldn’t have a hard time building attraction in the meet up stage. When you were doing those tactics before, did you get her back and did it made her stay? No, right?

AnonymousA
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No, no it didn’t. Yes, I can easily build attraction when I meet her. But I can’t make her invest herself into this long distance commitment. Each time it got worse and worse. First time, it was not a final breakup, just some time apart but we kept talking like a couple. Second, she got on 2 dates with me, fully romantic she was so much into me, and said she wants to give it a try, but the following day she said she was not sure, but we still kept contact. Then, I went 2-3 more times, a lot… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

if you’re in a better place than her, then she will regret it more not having you by her side..

Nathan
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it has been around 3 months and my ex. we had a pretty bad breakup filled with tons of emotions. bad things where done and said to eachother and i said things no one should ever say to anyone. I went 30 days no contact and when i initiated contact again she was cold and quite distant. over time i would make her laugh and had fun. we met up a couple times and was scared she was stringing me on. i told her to make a decision on what she wants. she said she does not want to talk… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Nathan,

this time, stick to your word. Dont ask her to meet up.. I think she’s confused..

hope
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Hi EGR Team, at first thank you for this great website and your great work! And sorry for my englisch. I’m not a native Englisch speaker. Here is my story: My GF and I have been together for almost 4 years. 2,5 years we had a longdistance relationship and a great time. Since 1,5 years we had an apartment together. I study in addition to the professional and 4 months ago i had to write a seminar paper, prepare for oral exam and start with my master thesis. I was really focused on that things and so my GF and… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Hope,

If you do nc, more likely she will think you got tired.. because all you did in the past days was to chase her.. if you’re going to do nc, dont just wait.. be active in improving yourself..do at least 30 days

Ayoub
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long story, my gf broke up with because she waned more space and time for herself and she didnt really feld the same like in the beginning of the relationship, weve been together for 4 months, before the relationship we were like friends for about 2 years we did kiss in our friendship though, butttt afther we broke up, i improved myself alot, i added the no contact rule until we saw eachother on a party wich was 1 month afther te breake up, we talked a little bit, she was actually scared of me at the begining because she… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

hi ayoub,

if you did nc and improved yourself then text her and build rapport while continuing on improving yourself

Douglas
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Where to start. My ex girlfriend and I have always kissed and then stumbled at getting back together. There’s nothing more between it other than an invisible wall of anxiousness which ruins “us” once we’ve kissed. We’ve been through this 3 probably 4 times now. The most recent time I told her I’m to blame as I told her “I can’t help having social anxiety as a defence mechanism of my feelings being hurt again”. Her response “that you’re still doing it as a defence mechanism just confirms that there isn’t a chance thing would even work out and things… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Doug,

if she doesnt want to go to counseling, you cant force her. But it would be better if you still go to counseling for personal counseling

Amor
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Should I continue with NC for 21 days? Then re-engage with my ex? And eventually tell her I’ve decided to go to personal counselling (again) or relationship counselling.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

actually I think you should do 30.. br active in improving yourself during and after no contact period. active i posting in social media too..that way she can already see you’re changing. You may not have to tell her you’re going to counseling, because it will sound like you’re just saying it convince her

Doug
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Amor, what sort of posts do you suggest I post on social media? Pictures of myself (doing things)? Improving my life such as starting a new business/startup?

Douglas
Guest

Is it a good thing if my ex is listening to ‘love’ songs on streaming players?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

normal posts of what you’re doing.. like if you are out wuth friends, post a pic with your friends. Post a pic of the place you went to,or the food. dont overthink. There might be no emotional reason that’s connected to you when she listens to those

Doug
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Thanks Amor. So when it eventually comes to a date, how do I position myself? I mean, I’m obviously setting out to make mental improvements and we always falter when we’ve just got back together. After “date 1/date 2” do I tell her about receiving counselling/therapy?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

the first date should only be a meet up for her..dont tell her it’s a date..just make it fun and short..if it gets to a nice talk and then mention casually that you’re going in counseling

Doug
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So I messed up and went for about 23-24 days of NC. Albeit it started with a light snapchat on day 23, showing me doing something fun then a message on day 24. I never received a response to my message, nor did my ex open up the message ๐Ÿ™

What do I do now? Do I undergo NC again? 21 days?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

wait a week before trying again..

Doug
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Oh I’ve just seen your response. It’s been 13 days. Should I wait it out for the 30 or message? She invited me to an event when we were dating. Should I use this as a catalyst for a message? “How was the event?” (obviously just not that but including that element into the message).

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

you should message.. and yes, you can use that topic

Doug
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Hi,

I messaged again with “Hey, how was the event and did ‘x’ make the event? How are things?”

That was yesterday and I’ve received no response. She hasn’t even opened the message ๐Ÿ™

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

let’s wait first..if he doesn’t reply in a week, initiate agaib

Doug
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She hasn’t “read” the message. Though she opened I sent later that day almost within a few minutes. Should I be more creative and possibly reengage in a weeks time via a Snapchat video?

Doug
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Oh she’s just responded saying: “You’re a lovely person, but I can’t go down this road. You have to let it go”.

What should I respond with? ๐Ÿ™

Doug
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*she said “we have to let this go”

Do I follow the Ex GF pro guidance and apologise for the inconvenience? Do I tell her I’ve attended regular therapy sessions? Do I wait another 5 days before responding? Do I tell her that I also don’t want to lose my best friend?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

yeah, say the apology and then say just got curious, have a nice day! but dont tell her that you’re in therapy nor that you dont want to lose your friend because that’s chasing.. dont ask to be friendly, be friendly. But right now, all she sees is your chasing.. so, you have to go back to nc,do it one last time and improve more and date too.. do at least 30 days

Doug
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She responded with…. “I think it would be good for the both of us to have some space”

I think I’ll go back into NC but for 60 days.

Doug
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Oh and what should I respond with?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Ok, just say you agree and you genuinely wish her the best in life..

Doug
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I went with your suggestion.

How long do you think I should maintain NC for? I’m thinking 45-60 days, but then again I *think* she’s dating a guy she briefly dated before getting back with me (albeit for a short period of time).

Doug
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Amor,

Just to clarify one thing about NC, am I/we allowed to like our ex gfs posts on social media? Or is that forbidden in NC?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Go for 60.. nope, you’re not allowed to do that too..

Doug
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If 60 days, wouldn’t that allow her time to get with the guys she’s dating (a very highly % she is dating him) and then be harder to make a comeback?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

It’s ok if you’re more comfortable with 45. What’s in my mind is, there’s already a guy in her life and whatever’s happening right now is not working. There has to be a restart where everything is just in the past and that when you reconnect, it’s a new chapter.

Doug
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Amor, what do you mean by “whateverโ€™s happening right now is not working” ?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Oh sorry, I meant talking to her is not working right now..

Doug
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Hey Amor,

So I have about another week or so of additional NC. I’ve taken it upon myself to see a therapist, to meditate daily and try and improve my life in other ways. I feel reassured in my own mind and also not thinking or reacting negatively to thoughts, feelings and emotions. What do you envisage I message my ex gf? I have a feeling she will respond negatively (as before), given I have reason to think she is currently dating someone else.

Doug
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I’m almost at the 45 day mark and I’m interested to know what approach I’d take? I’m still expecting a hostile response from my exgirlfriend, is there anything you can suggest to send her as an opener? I’m debating self-sabotage on the whole thing. One thing I’ve learnt during therapy is that I need to be fully open with my exgf, as this is one of the reasons our relationship failed many times and eventually led to overthinking on my behalf. If she doesn’t reciprocate I can look for closure on the whole thing, as we’ve tried so many times.… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

the more casual your approach the better.. dont choose emotional texts.. what does she like that’s current right now?

Doug
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Well Drake released a new album with Kanye on it? She’s into both artists.

Well she was negative in my last approach, so if she responds in a negative way again, what should my approach/response be?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

be a little apologetic or give a neutral response and then end ut

Doug
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So my ex gf replied in a positive-neutral way and had a short conversation, but I didn’t get a chance to end it and she never responded to my last message. This was yesterday

Should I start a new conversation today/tomorrow?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

yes, or after 2 days.

Doug
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I forgot to end the convo on a high again and I didn’t get a response ๐Ÿ™

Do I continuously have to do this (respond 2 days later or so if I don’t get a response) until I rebuild attraction to make a phone call?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

nope.. it only goes for a time.. The usual actually is, rest for a week, and then try again. And then rest 2 weeks again if she still doesn’t reply. But if after two weeks, she still doesn’t reply, you should move on.

Doug
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The conversation was flowing and I should have ended it but I thought I would let it carry on for a bit (which obviously I shouldn’t have done). She was really engaging until that point. In my last message, I didn’t ask a question and ultimately should have ended the conversation then, as it was an inevitable high point.

Doug
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Amor, my ex gf just messaged me to tell me she’s “met someone”. Should I acknowledge a friendship OR suggest I’m not after friendship and that I love and adore her and if things don’t work out to give me a call/text.

Let me know

Doug

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

don’t send the second one, that’s begging. Play friendly.. like, “Really? good.. how is he?”

Doug
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I said to her “I’m happy you’re happy”. And left it at that.

As much as my heart aches for her even after not seeing her for 5months, I’m unsure whether to give up or not.

In the same message as she told me that she’s met someone, she also mentioned that she still cares about me….and I’m unsure what that means.

Drew
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Long story so I will try and keep it short. 5 weeks ago the mother of my children and I split. I tried the whole “Talk about why we really broke up, so we can reconcile right away” approach (stupid I know, but I learned) within the first week, and then we went through the “We hate each other stage” all the while we would still kiss and say I love you to each other. Basically though 3 weeks ago I initiated nc, and after doing so for 3 weeks, I got a call from her to come visit her… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Drew,

take it slow.. and keep improving yourself. Have fun but don’t rush.

Peter
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Exgirlfriend and I met up. She ended up kissing me a few times but she is very stubborn. She still insisted on NC for “multiple multiple months”. She says she still loves me but she wants to grow apart from each other for a year. It has been two months now since we last talked. She got a job on the other side of the country, but I am still hopeful that I can change her mind somehow. I want to respect her by continuing NC for “multiple multiple months” but I don’t want her to lose me. I feel… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Peter,

she probably said that out of anger or it’s another term for dont wait for her and move on.. How much did you improve in the last 2 months?

L
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I tried NC aiming for 21 days with my ex girlfriend who, yes, I begged back and became an annoying GNAT… Seeing as this wasn’t working I went into NC. The NC worked as expected but it nearly damn right ruined her, on day 1 the moment our usual texting suddenly disappeared she started texting me asking what I was doing, how I was followed by a call. I also noticed that she deleted me on Snapchat in what I guess was an attempt to get a reaction out of me (We had a 150 day streak) however I held… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

HI L,

are you following the guide now?

Peter
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Hey Chris, Hope you get to this one. I seem to be in a tricky (and shitty) situation. Was with my girlfriend of four years. Just graduated college before we both went to travel Europe (on our own and then meeting up). A week before I met up with her, I drunkenly kissed another girl in Rome. When I met up with my girlfriend soon afterwards in Barcelona, she told me on the first day that she was 100% committed to me and ready to marry me and that she would move to California with me and wait for however… Read more »
steve
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hey i really need your help i and my ex girlfreind broke up few days ago and the main reason is she says she dosent love me anymore and she feelsreally guilty hat she had hurt me few times during the relationship like not making effort to meet saying rude things saying that we wont last etc etc…..i tried to nag her to get her back but it made things worse,i tried to show her i loved her more than anything but just like u said it didnt made things good…she said she has had enough and cant take it… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Steve,

you’re on the right track with no contact.. just be active in improving yourself and in posting in social media

John
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Hey Chris, so my girlfriend and I broke up after about a year and a half together and we are in college at the same university. We broke up because I was becoming dependent on her for attention and being clingy. After the break up i went N.C. and only contacted her if she contacted me first. One night she asked if we could study together and i said yes. That night we came back to my place to order pizza and we made out and she slept over. She said she misses me and how she was kind of… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi John,

maybe she was still upset or she thinks you’re back to being clingy.. It’s like she wants to do the chasing! Well, that would be easy.. Just continue what you are doing during nc to improve yourself and don’t be too available for her.. go out with other friends.. and take things slow with her..

Andrew
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Hey Chris, Great article, I have been following all your steps since the first time my girlfriend and I broke up and I am happy to say we got back together… only to break up again on Easter Sunday. We broke up the first time because she had been unfaithful so I followed your “Get Your Ex Back if she cheated” article and we reconciled till now. We broke up this time around because we have been constantly fighting over trust issues and a lot of things have happened in her life that have made her depressed. She’s infertile and… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Andrew,

sorry for theate reply.. have you told her that it’s ok for you even if she’s infertile?

Andrew
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Hey Amor, Yes I have told her it was okay, we’re still talking and have agreed to be friends at this point till such time that she decides she no longer wants me in her life period or we will try again but she has become hesitant on hanging out and talking contasntly since our last sexual encounter. I am unsure as to how to proceed. I feel as if I do no contact at this point it will make things worse, she just thinks its hard to talk to me and hangout right now because shes worried she will… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

you don’t have to do no contact again..just take it slow

Andrew
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Hey Amor,

Thanks for the quick response, she ended up bailing on our coffee date tonight because was exhausted from work. We’ll be busy up until next Wednesday with finals for our final year of University (we go to separate universities). Could you elaborate more on taking it slow for me? Sometimes we flirt and it escalates to talking about our previous sexual encounters than other times she gets upset because she says it “confuses” her more, I just don’t understand what “guy” or “role” I am supposed to play in her life at the moment.

Thanks again,

Andrew

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Take it like starting from the start. Like you didn’t know her.. but in this case you have the advantage of knowing what makes her happy, what she loves to talk about, what she loves to check out if you ever saw something on tv or outside and what makes feel better. It’s like being there but not pushing it and trying to make her special.

Fernando
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I had not seen my ex girlfriend since 4 years (just ocasionally texting once or 2 times/year but not person to person talk). But after all this time, finally, after texting with her a lot, she proposed me to go out, and i accepted. we talked a lot about everything, then she hugged me and so did i, because i still have feelings for her. After a short time we went very physical and we kissed (not a passionate btw). So, a lot of huggings and kisses over the night untill we talked about it. We agreed if something is… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

HI Fernando,
Maybe she was attracted again, but bottom line, it looks like she has feelings for you.

SB
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Okay I have a problem of my own and it really has me confused. Me and my ex girlfriend recently broke up (approximately 3 weeks ago). During our break up she said she needed space and that’s what I did. However, when we started talking again that’s when she revealed to me she had been seeing some other guy during the two weeks that we were apart. She told me that they had been contacting each other before we started dating but things went south between them. She said he tried to get back to her while we were dating… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Sb,

she kissed you because you were leaving, she doesn’t want to lose anybody and that’s unfair for you and the guy.. She has to choose and be firm with her decision.. And you have to be firm on not letting her have fun or be romatic with you while she’s still with the other guy

Mike
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So me and my ex had been dating for almost 11 months. In that time we grew very close and I actually had quite high hopes for us, and so did she. She’s 17 and I am 19, so for the past 6 months she has been in school without me. Two weeks ago she started questioning our relationship, this is all around the same time I got laid off, we got in a few fights, and one of her old guy friends came into the picture. We decided to take a break and within two days she texted me… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Don’t contact her until thursday, so she will miss you

Mike
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So I haven’t been contacting her, but last night she came to me. She said that she was happy to hear that I got a new job, but she needs more time to think. She said she “is still so unsure right now”, and she will contact me on Sunday or Monday. I told her that she “take the time that she needs to think”, and she responded by saying thank you for being so understanding. Do I just wait for her to come to me now? And any idea on what or why she is so unsure? I’m thinking… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

it’s better to not text her between those days.. Is she still in contact with her old guy friend? Maybe that’s one of the reasons why she’s confused

Mike
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Well she phoned today to tell me its over, so much for waiting till sunday or monday! Thanks anyways. I will be going into no contact starting tonight. Now its just to figure out if I truly would want her back after all of this if she did come back, good thing I got lots of time to think!

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Okay.. Mike.. Use this time to put you first

Berry
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Hi Chris, thanks for your help…i followed all your advice and thankfully, we got to the phase that I able to bring her home. But suddenly for some important reasons i might need to spend my time on overseas for a long period of time. Reasons i ask this is because she still wants me as her friend and i’m afraid i’m gonna lose my chance if have to go abroad. So what do you think i should do to keep our relationship grow stronger and maybe some advice on how to text her?…thanks
Btw nice website you got there ๐Ÿ˜€

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Berry,

Thank you! It is going to be harder that means you have to utilize using social media to communicate.. if you have taken her home.. it means there’s rapport already right? That just means it’s going to be easy to just message her when you’re abroaf

Berry
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Thanks for the speedy reply. Well may i ask how often should i text her? Like any advice on what to text and what I should not? Because this is my second attempt to win her back. My first time we only had a kiss and because of my work, I have to leave like my situation now. Only that in the first attempt, we try to text and video call as much as we can but she still just wants me as her friend. Then one day, she just lost all interest in me. Sorry for asking too much… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

It’s alright!! We love helping as much as we can… ok.. here’s the the blog post about texting.. you can refer to them for ideas how to and what to text.. We have a pro-system too. It’better and more detailed.. I’ll paste the link but if you can’t purchase it yet..it’s ok.. Feel free to ask questions ๐Ÿ™‚

HOW TO USE TEXT MESSAGES TO GET YOUR EX GIRLFRIEND BACK

Pro System

Larry
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I broke up with my girlfriend of 4 years last year. It’s been a year since the breakup. I saw her last year and she kissed me. Then I saw her a month ago and she kissed me again. Obviously there is still something there but she doesn’t express anything at all. She has a new bf btw. She kissed me while in a relationship with him. I still love her and want to be with her. What should I do?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Larry,

do you text each other?

carlos
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my ex was drunk and wanted to kiss me so bad, we broke up more than a year ago and we have been with other people, but this is the kind of relationship that, you know, you can’t just stop loving each other. I think I still love her although I had been over her. I have always had the though that she loves too, I don’t know I just really see her act somewhat strange around me. The fact that she was drunk can be good or bad. This can mean she is getting everything out, or it was… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Carlos,

You and her have been with other people but now are both of you single?

Lorenzo
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Hi Chris! I know, I know, you receive dozens of mails everyday by needy people. But I think my situation is a little bit different from the majority of people out there. Why? Because I succesfully followed your advices and I get a lot of results. I did NC for 23 days then I write to her. Texting for about two weeks (with a little bit cold reactions). Meet her for three time in one-on-one dates. Than something happened. She became cold and she didn’t want me to see these last days. So I took a decision: to have a… Read more »
Lorenzo
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Thank you, this advice sounds really reasonable to me. I’m going to apply it and I will let you know how it works ๐Ÿ™‚
Thanks once again!

P.s.: this is already the best girlfriend recovery website ๐Ÿ˜‰

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Lorenzo,

Actions speak louder than words. I hope you’re ok with her now.

Jeremy
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Hi Chris, Me and my girlfriend broke up about 8 months ago and since then we have kept in constant contact. At first we didn’t talk as much but now we talk or text regularly through the week. We’ve went on a couple of dates as well since we broke up and almost had sex one time but she changed her mind because another girl contacted me. Recently we went on a date and even made out before we left from around each other. She even said that there’s a strong possibility that we might get back together. The only… Read more »
Jeremy
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I kno she is physically attracted to me but do I still use the 30 day nc rule or just be patient until her schedule opens up. And do I assume she could possibly be seeing someone out of time and jus doesn’t want to tell me

Jeremy
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Hey Chris do I still use the 30 day nc or do I jus be patient until her schedule opens up

Jeremy
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Well Chris, Basically we’ve been broken up for 8 months and we have been on maybe like 5 dates. She says she just is too busy. She said that she will try to see me more when her schedule opens up. She has her own place with a female roommate which she will not tell me where she stays because she says she’s not ready for that but she knows where I stays and has even been over a few times. We have not had sex in the 8 months we’ve been broken up. She has a job out of… Read more »
Nate
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Hi Chris!

So my ex kissed me multiple times each of the 3 times we’ve hung out since we broke up.we had sex as well. She is living with another man and says she loves him. What to do?

Leo
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we met online, weโ€™ve never met in real life, sheโ€™s from another country we just chat in FB we talk in skype though rarely, we were in a relationship for 2 years, I broke up with her because my feelings faded away and was missing the feeling of wanting a girl, I broke up with her, didnโ€™t talk to her for months like 3-4, but in those months all it did was make me miss her, I realized how much she means to me, and what a mistake it was to leave her, I messaged her in august, she accepted… Read more »
Christian G
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Chris.. This is tough man.. My ex and I are “friends” I guess. She knows where I stand and how I feel about her. She says we are “never” getting back together, yet she still contacts me fairly regularly (even after I told her not to). We hung out the other day after church for a few hours and it was great. Not going to lie to you, it set me back emotionally, put me in a really depressed and sad place again. I have done my best to remain outwardly confident and I have changed my appearance. II look… Read more »
Timmy
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Great post Chris! I still do have a question, let’s assume you’re doing everything great and reach the point 10 on the “Kino scale”. How do you advance from that point on? For me personally it’s very difficult to find the perfect timing for the “serious” conversation about getting back together. If it doesn’t happen automatically how would you approach the conversation. I’m to scared to talk about that topic too early and blow up everything I have build up. It would be kinda like you’re nearly at the top of the ladder, then fall back down to stage 1.… Read more »
Timmy
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Hey Chris I wanted to update you very quick. I have a good and a bad update for you. So I’m I guess at the ten on the kino scale. Recently I slept with my ex. Now the bad part I told her that somebody I know told me, that we both were such a beautiful couple and we last forever. She started to get very emotional. I asked her if she want’s to talk about us. She didn’t seem to need that conversation yet. I felt really bad at that time I nearly left. I have to admit I… Read more »
Mystery Man
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Hi all, I’m just leaving a comment here to say that I followed all of Chris’s advice on this website of his step by step… And I have to say, it helped me not only overcome all the odds and getting my GF back ๐Ÿ˜€ yaaaay…I would definitely recommend not only reading every one of these pages on this website, but also purchasing his ebooks, if you’re really serious about getting your girl back. But I have grown as a person and feel much more independent and stronger as an individual! Anyone reading this please follow Chris’s advice, it works… Read more »
Christian
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Hey Chris, Really appreciate your writings. They’ve given me a great deal of insight. My situation at the moment… I’m 23, In contact with my ex girlfriend (20). We broke up (her choice both times) last November only to get back together in June and recently for the second time two months ago, and have been in fairly consistent contact since. Seen each other 7 or 8 times, have had really bad sex once, and have been going through a major hot & cold cycle. Mostly on her end. I’ve called her out on her actions, not in a hostile… Read more »
Don
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About No Contact, do you really think it’ll makes the whole situation better? Because my situation is like my ex keep saying “don’t contact me, I’m really disturbed” because of my neediness. If I go NC for 30 days, then trying to contact her after NC, don’t you think she’ll say the same thing again about stop disturbing her?
Because the thing about “giving her chance to missed you” I think is a bit optimistic.

What do you think Chris?

Don
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How to know whether “extend my NC” is necessary or not, is there any sign I should watch out for?

Our college is about to enter mid term exam and I bet she’s studying real hard which means she’s busy.

And the college is on break around mid December, should I contact her right on my 31st day of NC (14th October, the beginning of exam days) or should I w8 until the break?

Don
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Yeah I’ve been a total pest for her, looks like I need to w8 until the exam is over or even wait until the break. Her friend has been acting like my spy lol. Her friend said she’s been putting all of her stuffed animal that I gave her when we’re still in a good terms inside a cardboard. I did give her 1 more the big one, after our breakup for apology and her birthday presents (arround 2.5 months ago), and her friend said she’s not putting it into a cardboard, she’s always sleep with it and adore it… Read more »