The Complete Guide To Getting Ex Girlfriends Back In Impossible Situations

Do you like Mission Impossible?

You know that movie with Tom Cruise where he always does these crazy stunts?

mission impossible

The premise of the franchise usually revolves around Cruise and his gang of agents embarking on a mission that most would deem impossible to complete. Now, since it’s a movie and it’s not real his team always seems to complete the mission in some incredible fashion.

What does any of this have to do with getting your ex girlfriend back?

Well, sometimes trying to get an ex girlfriend back is like being sent on one of those crazy mission impossible missions where you think that there is absolutely no way to succeed.

Well, today that is going to change.

Today I am going to train you, Mission Impossible style,

mission impossible

Are you ready?

How This Page Will Work

What defines an “impossible situation?”

Well, usually it’s a situation where you think your chances of getting your ex girlfriend back are slim to none.

But what about the strategy to get an ex girlfriend back in an impossible situation?

Is there some sort of universally recognized one that works for all the impossible situations?

Nope…

That’s kind of the tough part about impossible situations.

What may work to get one man out of an impossible situation won’t work for another.

Thus, a new strategy needs to be crafted to fit into each specific situation and that’s what this page is all about.

This page is going to be divided into two parts.

Part One: Defining The Impossible Situations

Part Two: Making The Impossible… Possible

In other words, I am going to be telling you what I think the most impossible situations to get your ex girlfriend back are and then immediately after I tell you I am going to give you a tailored game plan for each one.

Are you ready?

I suppose before I move on I should tell you all the toughest situations.

Impossible Situation #1: If You Cheated On Your Ex Girlfriend

Impossible Situation #2: If Your Ex Girlfriend Has Blocked You

Impossible Situation #3: If She Has A New Boyfriend

It is through these three situations that I constantly hear men say something like,

This is impossible…

It’s not…

It just means you are going to have to be smart about how you approach things.

You probably don’t want me rambling on anymore so I am just going to cut right to the chase.

IMPOSSIBLE SITUATION ONE: You Cheated On Your Ex Girlfriend

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When I look at “getting an ex girlfriend back” as a whole there is one situation that sticks out to me that makes me think,

“Wow, that’s going to be a tough one to succeed in…”

It’s this one.

I can’t tell you how many men who have come to my site and visited this page and even after all my great advice still fell flat on their faces after cheating on their ex girlfriends.

Cheating is a tricky subject because it is without a doubt THE worst thing that you can do to someone in a relationship and in my opinion it all revolves around desire.

Could She Have Been Drawn Into a Rebound Romance?

For example, I am willing to bet that if you cheated on your ex girlfriend it wasn’t because you were just horny.

(Though there are certainly a lot of men who are like this.)

We live in an age where we are taught to pursue our desires.

I mean, how many times have you heard someone say,

“Oh, you should do what makes you happy?”

This phrase is all encompassing…

It includes,

Jobs…

Life Changes…

Relationships…

So, it’s not tat far fetched for a man to be just a little unhappy in his relationships and turn elsewhere because “he deserves to be happy.”

Men no longer cheat because they are unhappy…

They cheat because they could be happier…

This is the age we live in.

But the psychology of why a man cheats has nothing to do with what makes this situation impossible to succeed in.

Care to take a guess at what does?

It’s the stigma that surrounds women who stay with their cheating boyfriends or husbands.

Dissecting The Stigma

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I am going to ask you a simple question.

When someone cheats on you what are you supposed to do?

Let’s ask my wife.

(My wife is standing right behind me filling up a bottle to feed our newborn daughter.)

She says that you leave…

And she’s right.

If I was ever cheated on I am pretty sure I would leave.

And therein lies the stigma I am about to talk about.

Back in the old days men or women who stayed in a relationship after their spouse or significant other cheated were celebrated.

Wow, what a great person he/she is to stay with them like that. They are a better person than me.

But now the great shame is if you stay.

Where you were celebrated in the old days for staying you are shunned today,

What is he/she thinking? They are just going to cheat again

I mean, how often have you heard a friend say to a woman,

“Kick em to the curb..”

“You can find someone better…”

“He’s a dog…”

Oh, and that’s not even the worst part.

What if you cheated on your ex girlfriend and your ex girlfriend did want to stay but she was scared to because of the stigma that she knew she would face for staying?

How are you supposed to win back her heart if she is worried about all of this backlash?

Well, in my mind it all revolves around becoming such a powerful force in her life that she has no choice but to stay.

But how?

How can we do that?

The Cheating

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Women tend to be a bit more emotional than men.

Now, a woman may read what I just said and take offense.

But here is what I have found to be true in my life.

In general, women base more of their relationship decisions based on the emotions they feel.

That’s not to say that men don’t do that as well BUT I think women do it a tad more frequently than men. This is going to be the assumption that we are going to grab onto when trying to combat impossible situation one.

Now, before I really dive into this particular game plan I do want to say that I work really hard for you guys.

I did a lot of research just for this particular game plan and even if it does seem simple this is honestly the best way I have found to overcome this impossible situation.

Have you ever heard of Esther Perel?

esther perel

She is a Belgian psychotherapist who has dedicated her life to studying the tension between the need for security in relationships and the need for freedom.

In other words, her findings on infidelity are like the holy grail for someone like me.

Anyways, I started reading her findings on this topic and listened to her message and I picked up some really incredible insights that I added on to my own findings about infidelity.

By combining her insights and adding them to mine I was able to come up with arguably the best game plan on the net for winning an ex girlfriend back if you cheated on her and there are really three parts to it.

Are you ready?

cheating game plan

So, those three parts are,

  1. Ending The Affair
  2. Proving You Ended The Affair
  3. Expressing Guilt And Remorse

Let’s go down the list.

Part One: Ending The Affair

This one is quite simple really.

If you cheated on your ex girlfriend then you had best end the cheating with the girl that you cheated with.

Let me tell you a story.

This is the story of Bob.

(That’s not really his name but I can’t use his real name because I am pretty sure I would get in trouble if I did so Bob will have to do.)

So Bob comes to my website, buys Ex Girlfriend Recovery PRO and decides that he wants to get his ex girlfriend back.

What’s the situation he is in?

Yup, you guessed it!

He cheated on his ex girlfriend.

Anyways, Bob gets in touch with me and wants my help to get his girlfriend back.

So I give it to him.

I give him a variation of the three step game plan I just gave you.

And just like the game plan I gave you the VERY FIRST THING I told him to do was to end the affair.

He did.

There was just one problem.

He still talked to her.

In fact, he talked to the girl he cheated with every single day. So, when Bob eventually did get his girlfriend back things were great until she learned that he was still in contact with this girl. That’s when all the insecurity came out.

And guess what came after the insecurity?

Anger…

And then a breakup!

It’s not enough just to end the affair anymore. In order to really have a good shot at winning your girlfriend back permanently you have to end the affair and all contact with the person you cheated with FOREVER.

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And that leads me to my next point.

Part Two: Prove That You Ended It

It seems so simple and yet I never hear anyone ever recommending to do this.

In Part One I told you to end the affair and all contact with the person you cheated with. Well, part two is all about combating your ex girlfriend’s insecurity by proving to her that you ended the affair.

How can you do this?

I want to show you a text message.

you cheated with

This is a text message that I just made up to show what the conversation looked like when you told the person who you had the affair with that it was over.

Notice how I put in the extra touch of,

“Never talk to me again”

Which is my way of basically saying that you are cutting off all contact with this person from here on out.

Imagine if you were to forward this little text message to your ex girlfriend to prove to her that the affair is over?

We live in a world where we often can’t believe what we can’t see.

I mean, when it comes to cheating the idea of faith is very hard to comprehend because you had faith that the person that you trusted wouldn’t cheat but they did.

It shakes you up so sometimes you have to go out of your way to prove that things are over permanently.

Part Three: Expressing Guilt And Remorse

This is what I learned from Esther Perel so I can’t take credit for it completely.

The person who had the affair, YOU (or your ex girlfriend if she were the one who had the affair) has to express true guilt and remorse for the affair.

And here is where we run into a problem.

Oftentimes the person who had the affair does feel awfully guilty for hurting their partner but they don’t feel all that bad about actually having the affair?

Why?

Because deep down it felt good.

You have heard my theory on people with good feelings and bad feelings, right?

Basically I believe that people are always drawn to things that make them feel good.

This is going to sound weird but think of a drug addict who is looking for his or her next fix.

This is how humans often are with feelings.

We look for the good ones and run from the bad ones.

Now, as much as I hate to say this next part it is unfortunately true.

People have affairs because they are desiring something more, something that their current partner isn’t giving them. So, when they do find the thing they are missing it feels good to them and they often don’t want to give it up.

So, when they ultimately do get caught and are trying to make up for hurting their partner by expressing guilt and remorse being truthful about it is difficult for them.

Why?

Because they may feel bad for betraying their partner but they don’t feel bad for how the affair made them feel (good.)

So, if you find yourself in this predicament you have two choices.

  • Choice One: You can lie and make it seem like you feel bad about the affair and you didn’t feel good about it.
  • Choice Two: Admit the truth in a soft way.

Now, you may have noticed that I bolded choice two.

That’s because that is what I think you should do.

Instead of telling your ex girlfriend,

“OMG it felt so good to feel wanted by another woman”

You should tell her the truth of what she was not giving you so she can get insight into why you did what you did.

IMPOSSIBLE SITUATION TWO: Being Blocked By Your Ex Girlfriend

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Do you know how many people have visited this site since it’s inception?

Millions…

Seriously…

MILLIONS!

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That means that millions of men have come to this website in search of a strategy to help them win back their exes.

It also means that I have seen A LOT.

Would you like to know what I have never seen?

I have never seen a man win back his ex girlfriend without talking to her in some way, shape or form.

It is literally impossible.

And that’s what makes being blocked by an ex girlfriend so deadly.

The strategy that I teach to men hinges on the fact that you can contact your ex girlfriend through things like text messages and phone calls. So, if those things are taken away due to being blocked by an ex girlfriend what do you do?

Well, then you have to find a way to get unblocked.

How To Get Unblocked By An Ex Girlfriend

If you are blocked by your ex then that makes everything that I talk about in The Texting Bible kind of useless (until you get unblocked.) Luckily, I have put together many guides on how to get unblocked on this site and in my PRO System.

But I told you that I am going to give you the quick crash course version of how to get out of these impossible situations so here I go!

Take a look at the graphic below,

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Let’s get to dissecting!

Tip #1 – Determine How Blocked You Are

It’s normal to freak out when you learn that you have been blocked.

But before you come running to me screaming that the world is over.

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Lets size up exactly how blocked you are.

In order to fully grasp this concept I am going to have to teach you what I consider to be a “partial block” versus a “full out block.”

Partial Block- Where your ex girlfriend has you blocked on most of the mediums of communication but not all of them.

Full Out Block- Where your ex girlfriend has you blocked in every way. Facebook, email, phone, skype, snapchat… the list goes on and on.

If you are blocked partially then that means that technically you could still contact your ex girlfriend and therefore I am not going to classify your situation as impossible (go here to figure out what to do in this situation.)

Of course, if you are experiencing a full out block then I will consider your situation as impossible and you can move on to tips two and three.

Tip #2 – Utilize The No Contact Rule

It seems like this is the opposite of what you should do, right?

But as I taught you in my last article, getting an ex girlfriend back sometimes requires you to take a trip to the “Orwellian World” where you basically do the opposite of what you think to do.

Of course, if you really think about tip #2 it does make sense.

Think about it, you are in this situation because you probably talked too much.

You probably annoyed your ex girlfriend to the point where she wanted to block you from everything. If that was the case then why on earth would you want to talk to her more?

I like to use this quote a lot so if you have already heard it bear with me here.

Albert Einstein once said,

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result.

Thus, if you expect to get unblocked by talking to your ex girlfriend at this point in time when it is probably the reason you got blocked in the first place why on earth would you think that it would work?

NEWSFLASH…

It wont.

Instead, I recommend doing the no contact rule to kind of switch things up.

Oh, and I haven’t even told you the best part about the no contact rule. I have found that most men who have been blocked will get unblocked over time. So, the no contact rule kind of acts as the sanity keeper where you at least have an end in sight.

What do you think I mean by that?

Simple, if you are “full out blocked” by an ex girlfriend you are forced into a no contact rule by her but the difference is there may be no end to the no contact rule.

This scares a lot of men.

So, the no contact rule gives the silence between you and her some structure.

It also kills your need to talk to her and fix everything right away.

(This is not a problem that is going to get fixed right away.)

Just know that most women do end up unblocking their ex boyfriends after some time.

Of course, in the case that they don’t they may require a bit of a shock to the system.

Tip #3 – The Good News/Bad News Factor

I don’t know if I have told you guys yet but recently I have turned into a vampire…

No seriously…

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I sleep all during the day and am awake only at night.

Perhaps I should explain…

My wife and I just had our firstborn child.

A girl…

cute baby

Cute right?

Well, don’t let her fool you.

This baby can cry with the best of them and will cry if you even put her down. This means that in order for her to sleep someone has to be holding her… until she is in a super deep sleep state and then (and only then) can you put her down to sleep.

Anyways, I have been taking the night shift.

In other words, I stay up to 6 AM every single day until my wife wakes up to take over.

Last night for example I didn’t end up turning in until 8 AM and I just woke up about an hour ago at 3:30 PM.

I barely see the day…

Hence, I am a vampire.

Well, one of the perks of being a vampire and having to hold a baby all night is that I can catch up on all the shows I have missed out on.

Recently I have been watching that HBO show “The Sopranos.”

It’s pretty good.

sopranos

Anyways, there was an episode in the first season called “Isabella” where Tony Soprano (the main character) is all depressed and I mean really depressed and it isn’t until two hit men came after him (and failed) that he got out of the depression.

It created this shock to his system.

What if I told you that your ex girlfriend may need a shock like that to her system to unblock you?

Oh, and I am not talking about hiring hit men to go after your ex girlfriend (PLEASE DON’T DO THAT.)

I am talking about something I like to call “The Good News/Bad News Factor.”

What is it?

You are going to deliver some very shocking good news or bad news (you choose) to your ex girlfriend.

The key here is that it has to be shocking.

I got an A on my test”

isn’t the kind of good news I am talking about. There is no shock factor.

But something like…

president obama

Now that would qualify as shocking news.

But what about bad news?

Hmm…

Something shocking like,

  • Losing a job
  • Losing a family member
  • Losing a friend
  • Anything else you can think of (I totally ran out of ideas)

Will do.

Now, I can sense some confusion from you. Namely the fact that your ex girlfriend has you blocked and you have no way of delivering this news to her.

Ah…

That’s where the power of gossip comes into play.

You see, women like to talk. This is a universally known fact.

It’s a fact that you are going to bank on as instead of delivering the “shocking news” to your ex girlfriend who you have no way of contacting you are going to deliver the shocking news to her best friend.

And what do you think that best friend is going to do with the shocking news?

Just sit on it…

No way…

She is going to run right to your ex girlfriend and give it to her.

Is it a little manipulative on my part?

Perhaps…

Does it work?

Absolutely.

IMPOSSIBLE SITUATION THREE: Your Ex Girlfriend Has A New Boyfriend

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I am not sure whether this is the ultimate nightmare scenario or if this is the ultimate “impossible” scenario.

Well, my vote goes with the ultimate nightmare scenario.

(If my vote is worth anything.)

Not quite sure if I need to explain this but I will for the sake of explaining it.

You and your girlfriend broke up and then a few weeks later she finds a new guy who she starts dating.

Wow, that didn’t take very long.

Alright, lets just cut right to the chase.

How the heck do you win an ex girlfriend back in this specific situation?

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(For the record I do cover that here and in PRO.)

You will notice that this quick game plan hinges on three things,

  1. Determining The Rebound Percentage
  2. The GIGS Strategy
  3. Jealousy

Now, I don’t expect you to know what all three of these things are since that’s what I am here for.

Lets start with the rebound percentage.

Determining The Rebound Percentage

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You may be wondering why I would even recommend this.

I know your mind is made up.

If you are that committed to your ex girlfriend then you are going to do everything in your power to win her back and nothing I say will change that fact.

However, even I won’t deny that if your ex girlfriend has a new boyfriend it may be a waste of your time to try to get her back. In fact, in most cases I would say it’s extremely hard to get her back. Not impossible but hard. However, I have been doing this for several years and I am about to let you in on a secret.

Are you ready?

If your ex girlfriend has a boyfriend who is a “rebound” then it will really increase your chances of success.

Thus, it’s important for you to understand what a rebound relationship looks like so you can identify whether or not your girlfriend is in one.

There are two things that I want you to decipher when looking for a rebound relationship.

Thing #1 – How Long You Dated Your Ex Girlfriend For

Generally speaking the longer you dated your ex girlfriend the better.

Why does this matter?

Well, lets pretend that you only dated your girlfriend for a month.

Unless you had some sort of super relationship your ex girlfriend isn’t going to have attached a ton of emotional feelings to you.

Of course, what if you had been dating for three years.

A couple can go through a lot together in three years and as a result no matter how you are going to slice it your ex girlfriend will attach a lot of emotional feelings to your relationship. So, she probably isn’t going to be as serious with the next guy.

Thing #2 – How Long She Has Been Dating The New Guy

Generally speaking the longer they date the worse it is for you…

Oh that’s kind of fun how that worked out…

You know what I am talking about?

How with thing #1 the longer you dated your ex the better and how with thing #2 the longer they dated the worse it is…

Ok, ok, I am getting off topic here.

A rebound relationship by definition isn’t supposed to last very long. It’s supposed to be a short fling that is discarded after a short amount of time.

Now, what is a short amount of time?

Well, that differs from woman to woman.

Though I would say as a general guideline a rebound relationship shouldn’t last for more than three months. Anything longer and you are getting into more and more trouble.

The Grass Is Greener Syndrome Strategy

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I have talked about the grass is greener syndrome a lot on this website.

Namely, here, here and here.

But what I am about to talk about now I don’t think I have ever mentioned before.

It’s something I like to call the grass is greener syndrome strategy.

But before I can explain it to you I need you to first understand what the GIGS (grass is greener syndrome) is.

GIGS- Where an ex girlfriend leaves you because she felt she could do better.

Lets assume that your ex girlfriend left you because she felt she could do better.

If that’s the case then one of two things will happen.

  • She will find someone better (The grass WAS greener)
  • She won’t find someone better (The grass WAS NOT greener)

This is especially relevant to your situation right now because your ex girlfriend is with someone new and she is forming her ultimate assumption on whether or not the guy she is with is better or not than you.

But what if I told you that you could do things that could simultaneously make her remember the best times that she had with you and have her current boyfriend exhibit behavior that is unattractive.

Would that be something you would be interested in doing?

Well, that is the grass is greener syndrome strategy in a nutshell.

We are going to attack this situation from two fronts using the GIGS hypothesis that your ex girlfriend left you with the belief that she could do better,

two fronts

Front One: Making Your Ex Girlfriend Remember The Best Times Of Your Relationship

Front Two: Making The New Boyfriend Exhibit Unattractive Behavior

Now, figuring out how to implement front one is easy enough.

Front two on the other hand…

Well, that’s a bit trickier.

Using Jealousy To Your Advantage

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For every man in a relationship what is the ultimate nightmare scenario?

It’s being cheated on, right?

This fear takes the best of us and turns us all inside out.

I mean, why else would a man pick up their girlfriends phone to look through in secret?

They aren’t checking their girlfriends latest status updates on Facebook. Nope, they are going straight to the messages to see if she has been messaging any guys. To check and see if she has been faithful.

In my mind it all starts with fear.

The fear of being cheated on.

It rules us…

And we are going to use this fear to our advantage to help sabotage your ex girlfriends new relationship with a guy.

Hmm…

That doesn’t sound very saintly of me does it?

Ok, let met reword that a bit.

We aren’t actually going to sabotage their relationship. We are going to help your ex girlfriends new boyfriend sabotage it himself by utilizing jealousy.

I am going to tell you a story…

And this is a real story about me that doesn’t paint me in a good light at all but it needs to be told for you to fully understand how to use jealousy in your favor.

My wife and I officially started dating on March 18th of 2014.

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We had been “talking” for about three months prior to that so for both of us it kind of felt like we had been dating for three months.

But that’s besides the point.

Now, I have a question for you.

When you look at my wife what is the first thing that pops into your mind EXCLUDING DIRTY THOUGHTS.

Remember, this is my wife we are talking about here.

What’s the first thought?

She’s attractive right?

Ya… I know…

I’m a stud!

But there is a major problem with dating a super attractive girl.

Do you know what it is?

It’s the fact that I am not the only one with eyes that can tell that she is attractive.

Other men tend to hit on her.

She told me some stories that made my complexion turn from white to red really fast. Anyways, when you add in the fact that we were in a long distance relationship… well, that’s just a recipe for disaster.

I guess what I am trying to say is that I was always on high alert from men hitting on her.

And then it happened….

I opened up Facebook one day and was greeted with a status update for a profile picture change…

It was a guy… and her… IN A PROFILE PICTURE TOGETHER…

I started freaking out.

But then when I looked closer I saw that it wasn’t her that had done this on her profile. It was some random guy that I had never heard of before.

Turns out that this guy had a crush on her and had just noticed that we had become official so in an effort to rock the boat he made a picture of them go live together knowing that it would pi** me off (it still kind of does.)

I stayed mad at this guy for a long time but as time went on I began to think that his idea was pretty clever…

It had made me mad and insecure about the topic for a long time…

But I wasn’t like these other guys..

I was the real deal.

I wasn’t going to let this bother me for the rest of my life so I let it go.

But I often found myself thinking about what he did and how it was kind of clever.

I mean, he was hoping that I would get into a massive fight with her and break up with her over this.

But the issue was that he was too forward with it.

He did it from a place of douchebaggery…

I mean, lets be honest.

It’s way too forward to just post an old picture of you and someone else’s girlfriend out for the world to see as your profile picture.

You need to be a bit more passive.

Have you ever heard the phrase,

We are our own worst enemy?

It’s true!

Oftentimes in order to make another man jealous all you have to do is text his girlfriend on a consistent basis.

His mind will take care of the rest by jumping to the worst conclusions.

		

Written by EGR team mate

Chris Seiter

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So my exgirlfriend and I broke up back in September of last year. She found me sexting someone else. She recently moved for school. We had been together for 3 and half years. Even during the time last year till February of this year I was still flying up to see her. We spent most of Christmas break together and it seemed we were close to getting back together but she continued to tell me we weren’t together. I again sexted someone in January, but felt bad about it and blocked the person and never talked to them again, even… Read more »
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Thanks for the reply Chris. I know I made a lot of mistakes and the biggest issue is trust. She doesn’t trust me anymore. I mean after I blocked the person I was talking to in Jan, which was one conversation, I started to put all my focus on me and my exgirlfriend and was moving closer to gaining her trust. I had really moved on from the other person and never wanted to make the same mistakes and I wanted to be truthful and honest person. I blocked the person, and the text messages disappeared into an archive folder… Read more »
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Thank you so much for the responses Chris. So I kind of just hit a set back. Though we have been texting, it’s been very short and friendly. I was trying to give her space and not talk about anything about us or the breakup or anything. I tried to not text her a lot. This morning she texted me twice because she feel asleep last night and didn’t respond. A couple of hours later, she randomly blocked me again on what’sapp. I emailed her a very short message asking why she randomly blocked when I thought things were ok.… Read more »
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Thank you Chris. I basically emailed her back. I told her that I understand why she feels like that and that I understand I responsible for her feeling like that. That while I can’t change what happened or the past, all I have control of is how I can be better person now and the future for myself. I told her that I hope she’ll consider talking this out, but that I understand how she feels and I know she needs time and space. I tried to be mature and didnt beg or ask her to unblock me. I may… Read more »
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Thanks again Chris. Your website has helped me a lot. I really do want this to work out. My way was just not working and I was only pushing her away. I’m trying to be patient now and let her decide when the time is right. Not always easy. But I am trying because I want to do it the right way. Anyways, I haven’t tried to reach out to her at all since I sent the last email. She’s read the email 3 different times. My University email has mailtrack. I just think it’s kinda interesting she’s read my… Read more »
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I’m definitely looking to get the book. I wanted your advice on 2 things. 1. So she’s read my last email to her 4 times now, 3 on the day I sent it (Tuesday) and again yesterday. I feel like she’s thinking about it but is still not sure to contact me again. I’m holding out to give her space, but if she doesn’t respond or try to reach out, how long would you said I should wait to try to reach out to her or do you think she will soon. 2. April 22nd was supposed to be our… Read more »
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Thanks Chris. In definitely going to wait till she contacts me. It’s going to be hard to resist not telling her I’m coming up. It will definitely be hard on Friday and Saturday not to text her that I’m in DC. Do you think it’s better I wait till Saturday to ask her about Sunday. Or should I maybe shoot her a text on Friday when I land.

Jamie
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Honestly Chris, I think I’m going to wait till Saturday night or Sunday morning to text her. I worry if I text her when I land, she’ll know right away I’m only scheming to see her. I rather her know that I was there but decided not to text her because I was with my family. I want to stop looking so needy. I’ve decided that I’m only going to send her one message, if she doesn’t reply Saturday or Sunday, or if she says no, I won’t respond till I’m back in Florida on Monday. And when I land,… Read more »
Jamie
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Not going to lie. I’ve been thinking of reaching out to her. I know I should give her space and waiting and see what happens. But it’s difficult when we’re just talking this week. I wrote an email but I didn’t send it. I wanted you to read the draft, see if it’s worth sending or if I should still wait. I know it’s long. But I’ve been wanting to say these things so we don’t have to when we talk. Here it is…i haven’t sent it. Waiting for your reply. Hey. It was really good to hear from you.… Read more »
Jamie
Guest
So I decided not to message her. I distracted myself and hung out with some friends to stop taking my head. I thought it would be better to keep giving her space. Maybe sometime this week I’ll email her something short. 1 or 2 lines. You’re absolutely right. Yesterday was hard, but I’m learning self control and absolutely show her I respect the space. Not trying to force anything. Normally I would have just send it. That’s why I came here first. I just hope she’s the one who ends up Texting me or emailing me. I have hope but… Read more »
Jamie
Guest
I ended up agreeing with you that it was too long. I think it would be better to send something short. I haven’t contacted her yet but was thinking something along the lines like…. “Hey, I just saw that Westworld comes back best weekend and thought of you. I really valued the short time we got to talk and be friend again. It was nice of you. Hope all is well and maybe we can talk again sometime. Take care.” Maybe leave out the Westworld thing. But I thought it would be good that I bring something up that would… Read more »
Jamie
Guest
Hey Chris. Just wanted to give you update. I decided not to message her at all. I’m giving it space and breaking from previous behavior. I know it’s having it’s effect on her. She checked my last email again yesterday, twice. That’s 6 times she’s gone back and read the last email I sent. One of my best friends told me it’s because I’m not reaching out. She thinks that she keeps going back to it because that’s all she has from me right now. I feel like she’s thinking about texting me but still not sure. So I’m giving… Read more »
Jamie
Guest
No worries at all. Thanks for the reply. I actually didn’t message her. I decided to give it space. However something interesting did happen this week. My parents were having issues on Monday, my stepmom and dad got into a huge fight and suddenly my stepmom was telling me she wanted a divorce and not to come this weekend. I was really stressed out over my parents and didn’t know how to handle it. I messaged my ex, I just asked her to text me and told her very shortly what was happening. I said if you can’t thats cool.… Read more »
Jamie
Guest
That’s really good to hear. And I agree, I’m going where life takes me. All of this is worth it to me. I’m fighting for something I believe in and is important to me. I want to do things right and not give up. I did some thinking, when we talked over the phone I told her about my parents. My parents made up today, I took a risk and emailed her again tonight. If I was going up there I didn’t want her to think wait I thought his parents were having issues, did he lie to me. So… Read more »
Jamie
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I just got to DC. First time in 2 months at this airport and everything is hitting me super hard. I’m trying to stay focus but I’m starting to worry I made the wrong choice by coming. Trying to stay positive and enjoy my time with my family but I’m worried about Sunday and nervous. I want this to work out. I want to say the right things to make her feel no pressure or that it’s a way for me to get in front of her and beg. That’s not what I want. I just want us to catch… Read more »
Jamie
Guest
Reading all your articles I know hot to ruin a chance meeting with realtionship or break up talk and to create new memories and thoughts. It’s not the time until there’s a connection and comfortablilty. I have a planned statement. But I wanted your advise about it and what is the best way to approach asking her. Like really whst should I say that would make her want to see me and have lunch with me. Right now I’m thinking this “Hey, I’ve been visiting my family, been here since Friday. I just wanted to see if you would like… Read more »
Jamie
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So I messaged her. This was her response… “Hi, I have a test Monday and Bowie has extremely bad diarrhea right now (might be taking him to the vet tomorrow it’s completely liquid since yesterday morning), so I’m sorry but now really isn’t a good time. Enjoy your visit though. I’m sorry.” I messaged 10 mins later and said (Bo is our dog by the way) …. Hey no worries. I completely understand. Maybe we could do something quick in the morning or something. I have plans and need to study later too. If you need help with Bo getting… Read more »
Jamie
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So after I sent that email saying no worries maybe a quick breakfast or something……I left at that…..she emailed me back and hour later and said she would let me know in the morning as long as her dog felt better. So she’s definitely thinking about it. I didn’t respond. Give her some space to think about it. I was just surprised that she emailed me an hour later. Definitely all good signs.

Jamie
Guest
Chris, today couldn’t have gone any better. I had plan on only a quick coffee. But there was no awkwardness. When I first came, she immediately told me I look really good and nice. We had coffee and breakfast at Starbucks and just talked. I tried to focus on her and what’s she doing. We were really doing well. She end up inviting me to her apartment so she could check on Bo (dog) and so that I could see me. We had a nice walk with the dog. We end up going back to Starbucks. We study together for… Read more »
Jamie
Guest

So good news, I’m meeting her for coffee this morning. Heading there soon.

Jamie
Guest
So after we hung out on Sunday, I went back home and went out with my family for the last night. I know the best thing to do was not message or text her that night. I got home around 5, well Chris around 11 she unblocked me on Whatsapp and messaged me about my favorite band doing a meet and greet in our home town. It’s now Tuesday and she’s left me unblocked. We’ve text here and there. The first night I only sent 3 messages. I texted her yesterday to let let her know I got home safely.… Read more »
L
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So this is the most impossible Sitaution but I’m looking for some hope so hopefully you can help a guy out. Broke up 9 months ago. She changed her number and blocked me from every single thing but email because I was dealing with mental problems and I’m assuming she thought I was crazy. For the first few month I blew up her phone and begged and pretty much did everything I shouldn’t have. After I settled down and emailed her every 2 months or so until January I haven’t since and don’t plan to. We were long distance and… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi L,

Yes, I would say move on.. Because with your history, every move you make will just look like chasing.. The best chance is to let a long time pass and treat it as a restart.. Dont chase her.. Start just being friendly..

qwerty
Guest
What if it isn’t someone else or someone i don’t know, but it is her ex of 2 years? So, my ex moved to another town recently, and she was already with her ex before me. Before she was moving away, i did rushed her a little bit by trying to make her jealous, and i backfired hard. She was so upset with me. The day before she moved away, she texted me that she wanted to give my stuff back, and our interaction was very akward, she was very cold towards me. I didn’t beg or anything, but it… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi qwerty,

how many times have you restarted nc?

Kyle
Guest
Hello, I’ve dated my ex girlfriend for about 7 months and she broke up with me on August 31st. She is only a junior in high school and I am an college freshman. She said she needs to focus on the hardest year of high school and doesn’t want me to feel left behind because of her priority she has. I believed it was because I basically had her lead the most of the relationship and being sort of a masculine of the relationship. Obviously I am an emotional guy because I was going through my depression and I tried… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Kyle,

how active are you in improving yourself and in doing posts that doesn’t disappear after 24 hours?

Kyle
Guest
Hello, I’ve dated my ex girlfriend for about 7 months and she broke up with me on August 31st. She is only a junior in high school and I am an college freshman. She said she needs to focus on the hardest year of high school and doesn’t want me to feel left behind because of her priority she has. I believed it was because I basically had her lead the most of the relationship and being sort of a masculine of the relationship. Obviously I am an emotional guy because I was going through my depression and I tried… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Kyle,

how active are you in improving yourself and in doing posts that doesn’t disappear after 24 hours?

Simon
Guest
Hello Chris 🙂 First of my english is not good, but i will try my best. I ussually dont do this but now I really struggle for help. I am 20 and I have dated my ex girlfriend for 2.5 years. We known each othet for more than 4 years because we went to same highschool. This may sound very pathetic but I was allways bad person, I had so much negativity, I was closed person, I was insecure and I allways pretend to be tough. I allways kept my emotions away and I was ashamed of love. First time… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Simon,
Do you want to try the no contact rule?

Messed up
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Hi. Is it bad if your ex changed her number because you were extremely clingy and needy? She changed it and did a full out block on me 3.5 months ago. I did everything I’m not supposed to and I tried nc once but it didn’t work and I also didn’t really do it right. I think she thinks I’m nuts because I was dealing with some mental issues and wouldn’t leave her alone. She loved me so much though and I still love her so any help would he appareciated. It’s be a little over 3 months since we’ve… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

You can try 45 days.. Focus in improving yourself for yourself.

Chris
Guest
I was in a relationship for five years, 3 of which were long distance. We have been living apart now for two years and we used to meet for 2 3 days every month Two weeks back she kissed a much older guy (44) and regretted it immideatly . She decided not to tell me at first. The next day she called and told me she wanted to break up. She told me that she doesnt like long distance any more and she started seeing me as a friend and not a partner. Next day that she called me and… Read more »
Chad
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My ex and I dated for 4 and a half years and we lived together for pretty much the whole thing. Both of us are 28 at this time. We were engaged after 3 years. After about two years we started to bicker back and forth about small things and it got worse over time. I had a long past of mental health issues I never addressed and she suffered because of it. I used drinking/drugs to run from problems then I met her and she became the “drug” to help me escape things I had never dealt with. I… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

HI Chad,

do at least 30 days.. rushing things won’t help either. The other girl is probably a rebound.

Chad
Guest

Thank you for the response. I plan on doing NC for 30 days but afterwards there are a few planned events that will interfere with the planned out communication after NC. We will be going on a trip together and staying at the same friends house for 3 days. This will happen in 5 weeks. I am hoping at this point we will have been communicating and on good terms and hopefully we can just have a good time. Upon return from the trip I plan to wait a few days then resume contact.

Help
Guest
Hi I really need help. My ex and I were together for 6 months, close friends for 6 months before that too. She broke up with me about two months ago because she said she needed her independence back and she said I would get mad every time she wanted to hangout with someone else. I also tried to end things multiple times over the past few months but then would always change my mind. Anyway, I said really bad things to her when she broke up with me and she said no one has ever spoken to her like… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

how active were you in improving yourself? HOw much did you improve and how active were you in posting even if you’re blocked?

Help
Guest
I’ve been really active in improving myself. I’m in therapy and working out regularly. I posted pictures a few times over the past 2 months, but didn’t get really into posting until about 2 weeks ago…How do I even know if she’s looking?? I made my instagram and twitter public so that she can see, but I feel like she doesn’t even care to look. I guess I can’t know for sure though. She also told me when she was breaking up with me that her heart just isn’t there anymore and that I need to move on because she’s… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

at some point she will get curious. So, extend for another two weeks, since you’re still blocked right? She has to think you’re moving on through your posts or because you stopped chasing her.

Help
Guest

Ok I will keep to no contact for another 2 weeks and keep posting. Thank you

Help
Guest

And yes..still blocked. Not on email though.

Help
Guest

Just found out she is on a trip with her new friends and they went to the place we always went to..does this mean she’s moving on?

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

can be, can be not.. it’s hard to say just from that..

Help
Guest

Ok since I don’t think she blocked me from email should I email her? She starts school and her sorority recruitment this weekend so she’s going to be busy and I don’t want her to forget about me…

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Is your two week nc done?

Help
Guest

No not yet…next week it will be so should I send her an email after I’m done with nc? What should I say? Do I treat it like a text?

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

If you are active in posting, yes, send an email next week and approach it like texting

HELP
Guest
Alright so I messed up. Instead of emailing her like I was supposed to 2 weeks ago I went to her house to talk to her when I was in the town where she goes to school and she wouldn’t see me. She had her roommate tell me to leave. I know I shouldn’t have done it but she won’t talk to me and it’s driving me crazy. Her friend told me to leave her alone and that she wants nothing to do with me and that she’s “doing great”. Her mom also told me to leave her alone. I… Read more »
Help
Guest
Hi so I posted about this a few weeks ago, but I’m stressing about it so I figured I would post it again to see if I get a response. I screwed up and did not email her after the two weeks. Instead I went to her house when I was in the town where she goes to college to see if I could talk to her. She freaked out and wouldn’t see me. She had her roommate tell me to leave and had her mom call me…I left but I’m really confused as to why is she acting this… Read more »
HELP
Guest

Can you please give me advise? I know my situation is complicated but it would be appreciated.

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

she freaked out because she has already moved on, and you coming out there just shows you’re still chasing her.. how many times have you done nc?

HELP
Guest
How do you know she’s moved on? I’ve done nc for 55 days or so once but I didn’t even do it right because I went to her house…is it possible that she’s hasn’t moved on and maybe she’s just still angry about everything that happened at the end of the breakup and after? I read one of the other articles and it said that it may take longer for ex’s to get over being angry if the breakup was really bad. Could that be the case? Do you think she just needs extra time to miss me or do… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

It would be better to lean more on her having moved on because that would make you act less desperate and not chase.. Come from a point that you are trying to make a stranger attracted to you..

HELP
Guest

Okay that makes sense it’s just easier said than done haha should I try nc one more time for 45 days starting today?

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Yup, do one last nc of 45 days

HELP
Guest

Ok, thank you for your help!

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

You’re welcome!

Help
Guest

Hi again,
So nc ended and I’m still blocked and everything so I guess she doesn’t care about me anymore. Based off of social media she’s having the time of her life so I guess I just have to give up. I have no way of reaching out to her and she doesn’t even want me to, so I’m literally forced to move on even when I don’t want to. If they don’t unblock you and you have no way of talking to them what are you supposed to do after nc?

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

You have to set a limit on until when you would wait to be unblocked before moving on

Josh
Guest
I broke up with my ex three weeks ago. Two weeks no contact now, but I really want her back. We broke up over trust issues, me lying and cheating because of depression, mostly, because of the the pressures from financial problems, Uni (I study a pretty dark subject, Forensic Psychology, and I come from a family of mental illness to start with). She found out about a few incidents where I messaged ex girlfriends and met up with other girls. Nothing physical, but I still lied to her about them. But the guilt from them was killing me and… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Josh,

if you really want a clean slate.. you have to say it and face the consequences..it may mean longer time of nc after it and very long patience of building trust

Bryant
Guest
Hi Chris, I don’t even know if i should give up or not, at this point it seems impossible.. My girlfriend dumped me a month ago, it’s the usual it’s not you it’s me, general breakup, fell out of love, I was too clingy I begged pleaded cried and wrote a love letter to her, all to no avail Then I did a 21 day NC, sent her the “you’re not gonna believe who i just saw” she replied neutrally, the next day I sent the “it reminds me of you” she replied with one word answer The following day… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Bryant,

Those are wrong kind of texts.. it’s confronting, and not interesting for her. After that last text from her, either you move on or do one last nc of 45 days and don’t stop improving yourself even after it, while slowly rebuilding rapport with her. Don’t ask to be friends, just be friendly.

Bryant
Guest

I admit during the 21 days nc I didn’t do much self improvement…

Bryant
Guest

I don’t wanna move on, I want her back

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Restart the count, focus in improving yourself during and after nc while slowly rebuilding rapport with her

Stu
Guest
Hi Chris, I am going to try and keep this as brielf as possible also I have read the ex recovery pro e-book but I am lost. I cheated on my girlfriend throughout the majority of my relationship for just under a year. She found out in September and since then I have been trying to get her back. I know I seriously fucked up since then I have been going therapy and trying to work on myself and understand why I have been doing that in all my relatioships which now I have a very good understanding and believe… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Stu,

follow the advice on this one:
How To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back If YOU Cheated On Her

Stu
Guest
Thank you. It says to do the no contact rule which I kind of feel like doing already since she said she wants spaces. I kept my distance, stop contacting her and only resond to her when she messages me. Do I start again with the no contact? It’s kind of hard to cut off complete contact as I have to pay back the loan she gave me. If she asks me a question and I didn’t respond it would look rude and disrespectful plus she contacts me regarding what shift I like to cover. Even if I do it… Read more »
Stu
Guest

Thank you.

It says about the no contact rule but it feels like I have been doing that since end of nov beginning of dec. I don’t contact her and only respond to her when she messages me. I feel like if I completly cut her off it will be rude and disrespectful as I am currently paying the loan back plus she offers me extra shifts at work. What would you recommend as currently I don’t contact her and only resond once she has text me. Its very formal and no emotion.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

that means you need to tell her you need space to heal..you can talk to her about the loan and work but only make it about that and then be active in improving yourself

Adam
Guest
The girl I believe to be my twin flame ran again last November. I don’t believe she thinks I met her emotional needs even though I was this year in the process of making everything happen. After we went our separate ways I made some of the ” fatal mistakes ” texting, calling, emailing ……. but not constantly. This has resulted in her blocking me on facebook. I have no idea if she has blocked my phone number or email address. There has been no contact between us since November 13 th 2016 and her response was hostile. I am… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Adam,

when did you contact her that she responded negatively?

Adam
Guest

Hi.

13 th November, last year.

It has come to my attention she appears to be in a rebound relationship with a man from America.

Now I know they will never meet ( she suffers from agoraphobia ) and she will just be filling the void that our separation has caused.

But I really believe that she thinks our relationship was built on unrequited love and that simply is not the case, at all.

Shall I make the video ?

Adam
Guest

Not sure what happened ?

I replied and it disappeared.

The last contact I had with her was the 13 th November 2016 and she was angry.

Do I make her a video ?

I truly believe that she thinks that our relationship was built on unrequited love. Which simply is just not the case.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

I think you can just say that first..but if you’ve already made a video.. I hope she appreciated it

timmy f
Guest
Almost nevermind every whebsite just rambles ok n and doeant get yo the point how the am I supose to make my ex remember good times and if shes blocked me how cani give her some bs shocking news if I dont talk to any of her friends. I cant just call or meesage a friend of her on fb or something theyd know what im trying to do. Cant no fucking site help anyone . None I mean dont buy anybodys bull shit kust figure a way out on your own we know are exes better than anyone f… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Yeah..if you’re still blocked since March, there’s really a small chance that you can get her back..but if there is any other way that you initiate a conversation do that..

ShadowReaper
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Okay, this is quite a long story, so I must apologise now. I’ll give you a quick run down of me and her and why the relationship was toxic, but the best I’ve ever had. I regret my past a lot, I used to be a massive fighter. Extremely family and friends orientated, while being very sadistic, and in many ways, masochistic, I have always hated these traits, but she loved them. I used to fight for very little reason, and as a result, I was very scarred. I met her through my best-friend, who was dating her at the… Read more »
ShadowReaper
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The mutual abuse thing is wrong. I meant, we were kind of equally controlling, abuse is a bit far to call it that. We are very jealous people and liked to have the ownership of one-another.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Shadow Reaper,

If she met him before the break up and he’s the real reason of the break up, the it looks like a Gigs case

SHADOWREAPER
Guest

Would she ever come back? Or is it highly likely she is gone forever? She met him on the Saturday at a party before the breakup and before we met and she said she loves me and never wants to let me go.

Shadowreaper
Guest

Also, I spoke to her friend after she didn’t show up, and asked what was happening with her, and she simply replied with,”she’s happy being single.” Then, 3 days later she is in a relationship.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Ah, definitely looks like a grass is greener syndrome.. Start the no contact rule now.. There’s no guarantee that it will work but it can help increase your chances.

Check this too:
My Ex Girlfriend Dumped Me For Another Guy…

Alex
Guest

How could you make your ex want you if she doesn’t care and is happy without you

Alex
Guest

If your ex is happy with someone else does that mean you have no chance?

Adam
Guest

Hi, I feel like everything I’ve read in this site has sort of covered what I’m going through but nothing exactly. I currently feel like I’m in one of these pretty impossible situations and I’m looking for what possible options I have.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

HI Adam,

sorry for the late reply.. why? what’s happened?

Dave
Guest
I’ve been having a tough battle which was not covered in the book or any of these articles. Our relationship ended due to emotional baggage that came out in the later half of our 2 year relationship which drained me and had me being too clingy and needy as well as a bit boring. I did get a bit pathetic with some pleading off and on after the break up but not near as bad as I’ve seen or heard of others doing. I’ve got a grasp on my issues and did a complete 180. The problem is a huge… Read more »
Dave
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I also question whether she’s testing me if you think that could be a possibility, since I was so clingy. I always respond to her rejection of offers positively. And go days at times not contacting her.

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Dave,

when did you break up?

Dave
Guest

A little less than 4 months

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

hmmm… you didn’t mention that you did no contact.
because the process will actuallt advise is, do no contact and then slowly rebuild rapport through text first that could help you level up to calls and then build more rapport in calls so you meet up and then build more attraction by going out.. the first and 2nd date should be friendly only the third date can be more romatic.. since you’re already meeting her..why not just have more friendly short fun dates to build rapport before asking anything romantic

Jim
Guest
Hi everyone, I’d appreciate any advice on my situation. I dated a girl for close to a year and she loved me, I never told her I loved her. Near the end I started putting a lot more time into my career and ignoring her and this hurt her feelings. Then one night I got too drunk and woke up to pictures that someone had taken of me making out with another girl at a bar. I don’t remember this, came clean and then broke up with her out of guilt. Afterwards she wasn’t over me and we kept talking… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Jim,

so what you just need to change for this no contact is to post more so that she’ll see what you’ve been up to.. and then after that, don’t apologize again. Compile topics that she loves talking about and then choose one and send that as a first cpntact text

Jim
Guest

Thanks for the advice Amor. So your saying go through no contact, 30 days, again? And for the first text does it have to be a topic she likes talking about or maybe a good memory?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

yes, if a good memory is too emotional, pick a topic that she always loves to talk about

Tim
Guest
Hello everyone, I could use your input on my situation. Male, 24 if it matters. My girlfriend and I broke up at the end of March, mostly because of me, I wasn’t giving her enough attention because of work and school. I tried to get her back but she said she wanted to move on. I did do a NC period. Her mind didn’t change and she started dating someone new quickly after (no judgement, I started dating her 2 weeks after her previous 2 years relationship ended. It’s someone from her friends group… Also, I am very sure this… Read more »
Tim
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Also please forgive my mistakes, I am not a native english speaker 🙂

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Tim,

sorry for the late reply.. hmmm.. try to do it in a way that you won’t appear chasing her.. If she is serious with her current bf, you can’t appear a threat to them because she will avoid you. You have to work on being the alpha male and then start friendship again to slowly build rapport with her.

Tim
Guest
Hi Amor, thanks for your reply. You’re right on time actually because yesterday was her saint’s day (from where I’m from it’s something we often wish) and my last text was around 20 days ago so I took the opportunity to send her a message. I found this link and found the theory interesting: http://www.relationshiptalk.net/a-new-approach-to-getting-your-ex-back-what-do-you-think-i-think-it-sounds-good-but-want-opinions-12661432.html. Beside, what do you think about it ? So I sent her this message: “Happy saint’s day XY ! You were right and I’m sorry if I realized my mistakes a bit too late. At least I won’t do them again… My goal isn’t to… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Tim,

it’s a good article. It’s on point on how you should act while breaking up. Your actions should show that you’re moving on, so that she won’t hesitate starting a friendship with you again.

Tim
Guest

Since I can only get to her with texts how could it show moving on ? Are there specific message examples or keywords I should use ? And when do you think I should send it ?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

are you social media friends? it has to start on your posts first.. in that way, she see your recent activities.

Tim
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Yes I didn’t unfriended her from facebook. I’m not a very active user but I do post once in a while on it like I used to do so she will see those posts. What’s your idea ? Finding someone else just so I can show myself with her on fb ? I’m not too comfortable with that and not only I don’t think she would care but she’d also probably tell herself I’m not truthful to be with someone while messaging her :s.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

you don’t have to date someone this early.. but you could go out with a group of friends.

Tim
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Yes I have been doing this already. Actually, since our breakup I posted twice pictures of some activities I did with friends. Next week is exams week for me so there will be another one coming soon. So yeah I don’t know what to do from there, send her a text in July ? She was supposed to write an essay for the end of her own studies, it was still undecided if it would be in July or in October, so I don’t know if I should wish her good luck in a few weeks, taking the risk she… Read more »
KRIS
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Hello Chris/Team I think this site can REALLY help me in my situation right now. My ex-girlfriend and I has different country of origin (ex. Philippines and Korea) though it is difficult for us to express our feelings in English but we know we can really express what we meant. Ok, here it goes. We met in each other when we are highschool and we are in college now. We lasted 1 year but she is my first girlfriend as well as her, I’m her 1st boyfriend. We really love each other and exchanging love letters made with effort and… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Kris,

wow 5 years.. but you’re in the same country now right? Do you want to try 30 days of improving yourself and focusing on yourself before trying to contact her?

Frank
Guest

Hey, what if the “impossible situation” is the “I don’t love you” one? On the day we broke up, I went to her place to talk about the relationship and make things better, she was open to it, but in the middle of the conversation, i realized she didin’t love me anymore and i told her that, after a while, she understand and agreed with that. Is it possible get her back if the impossible situation is that she don’t love me anymore?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

that means you have to start over when she knows you’re not making a move to get her back..

FRANK
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I’m in NC for 11 days so far, but the question is, if she doesn’t love me, it means she lost attraction and we lost our connection? Also, this reason for the breakup, is in the category “General Breakups”?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

yeah, it’s a general break up… You need to build rapport after nc through text and attraction..but mostly rapport to transition to calls.. and then the calls is to build rapport and attraction too but the purpose of it to transition to meet ups or dates.. and those dates to gain more attraction…

Basically, you’re like starting over

Douglas
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Hey Chris/team,

I’ve been on multiple dates with my ex-girlfriend now and I was looking for the right post to read to help me seal the deal. Happy to listen to any further suggestions.

Doug

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Douglas,

I think this post can help you..
How to make your ex girlfriend commit to you

Kian
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Hi Chris, I really need your help. This is my story. Me and my wife are different country of origin. So i am not fluent with her mother language. I met her in my country and we got married for 1 and half years. She have been back to her country for 4-5 months ( i can’t really remember). On November 2015, she told me that she is seeing some guy and want to leave me. But i keep it calm and didn’t shout at her or scold her, but we do keep contacts, after three weeks, she call me… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Kian,

First, don’t you still need to go back there because of the business? Whether you work it out or not, you need to go there to either maintain the businesa or get your share rightm

Joe
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Hello sir. I’m stuck in a very complicated situation involving an ex that I would still like to be with. Her and I have been together for about 2 and a half years. I’m sorry if this is lengthy but due to its complexity its better if I explain the whole thing but i truly need help with thus. I live with her and her family at the moment and have for about 2 years. I recently had a full time job working about 50 hours a week to support our future goals together. Just recently I left the job… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Joe,

SOrry for the late reply. DId she go back to the house now? Are you still living together now?

Nate
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Hi Chris, it’s me again. If you haven’t read about my situation yet, here’s the link- http://exgirlfriendrecovery.com/the-ultimate-guide-to-getting-a-long-distance-relationship-ex-girlfriend-back/comment-page-2/#comment-157867 Do you think it’s possible for me to one day win her back? I am dedicated to sticking to the No Contact Rule (When should I try to message her? I’ve been thinking about doing so during Christmas or New Year’s so I’ll have a reason for contacting her and saying something like “Hey, Merry Christmas/Happy New Year’s. I hope everything is going well for you. :)”), improving myself, and overcoming my issues. I want nothing more than for her to give me… Read more »
Nate
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Hi Chris, so it’s been 3 weeks since my ex and I broke up and a week ago she got a new boyfriend. I have not spoken to her at all since the breakup, but I know she’s still not over me because on the website that she and I met, she had followed me then unfollowed me like 20 minutes later when I had followed her back (she initially unfollowed me when we broke up, and I had not been on the website for like 2.5 weeks). Whether or not this was intentional or accidental, it still proves that… Read more »
Nate
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Oh and I forgot to include this:

During the time I was not on the website she and I met, she was acting like she was completely fine. Yet like a day or two after I got back on, she deactivated her profile when she could have just blocked me. I believe this adds to the proof that she is still not over me.

Ben
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Hi Chris Me and my ex recently split from a long term relationship, just over a week ago. She goes to university so she so the longest I never got to see her was 2 months. She ended it because she said the time apart was too difficult and said it made her upset and that she didn’t feel the same buzz she hoped she would when she saw me again?? So would the great gatsby effect be the best thing to do? Haha Anyways, I’ve been doing NC for a few days now and she hasn’t taken to it… Read more »
Ben
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Thanks Chris,

So from what I said about what she’s done in response to me ignoring her, do you think the no contact rule is working??

and is it natural to be feeling bad about no contact?

Jake
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Chris, I really need help on this. I am begging you for help with my situation… I was dating this girl for 8 years and we had a beautiful daughter together. Now I admit I really screwed up in our relationship. She found out I was texting someone in a slight sexual manner around January of this year but she found out in April. I since then cut off all contact with that person. Everything seemed fine as of August we were going to move out of state and start a new life together. Well when we went to visit… Read more »
I messed up bad
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I emailed you about this before but Im goint to comment anyways. My girlfriend of 7 months broke up with me about a month ago. I made the mistake of gnatting and now I am blocked (parents made her). From what iv been told, she was unhappy in the relationship and she never wants to date me again. This was the second time we broke up, i made many mistakes. Iv tried to change myself but that doesnt matter to her. She doesnt like talking to me because it makes her sad (so iv been told). She says its past… Read more »
Timothy
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Start by NC for at least 21 days. Better yourself, get fitter, fix your attitude, etc.

Then see if she’s unblocked you or what not. Take your time, for the first few weeks, you shouldn’t send more than 3 messages to her and only if she responds. NEVER EVER send more than one text to her. The game you need to play is self-control and patience.

Brian
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Hello… in need of some help in about 2 weeks, it would have been our 2 years she broke up and started dating another guy I realized that I got too comfortable with her and did not show that I love her while we were dating. I regret the what I did and want her back. I am in NC for about 2 weeks. before going into NC, I have tried to contact her couple of times and she just relied with a word or two. So I am a bit scared and want to make sure that I am… Read more »
Brian
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hello Chris just thought I would give you an update. Today I ran into her at school. I felt as if my heart dropped… it was a weird feeling. I was in a study room and she entered… so I pretended that I did not see her. Then couple minutes later, she approached me and started talking to me. She has my key which I asked her to return upon breaking up. She told me she was really sorry and told me she could not find the key and I told her not to worry about it. then we just… Read more »
Brian
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Sorry Chris,

In need of another advice.
I did text her again after my first contact after NC.
I texted “this guy is crying so much. why is this drama so sad?? :(”
I was referring to one of her favorite drama that she watched while we were dating. and I did not watch it with her and talked as if the drama was silly while we were together.
She has not responded yet and there was 3 days gap between the first text and this text… if she does not respond, should i just reitiniate NC?

Josh
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Hey Chris I had a few questions for you. So I’m 21 and my ex Girlfriend is 17. I’m in college and she is a senior in high school. She tried breaking up with me 4 weeks ago cause she wasn’t sure if I was the one and she was confused, stressed, and scared for the future. I made the mistake of begging her to stay with me and she did. At first it was going better but because of my fear of losing her I kept being pushy and getting upset at her when she couldn’t hang out or… Read more »
Michael
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Hi Chris, Been here many times and also bought your book. After a decade-long relationship that was barely intimate by the end (said she didn’t “feel that way anymore”), I broke things off with my gf and tried somewhat successfully to implement NC for about 3 weeks. It was really difficult for me. Over the past few months, I have slowly re-established a connection to her. Been hanging out with her and family (her son, etc) but still non-intimate. I was hopeful things would get better but tonight I discovered that she was hanging out at what I suspect is… Read more »
Kevin
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This will be a tough one, and everyone is telling me to give up but I still have hope and forgiveness in my heart. Here’s the story, my Ex and I have been dating for 8 months. Towards the end, we would fight and she always had the tendency to break up with me and I would convince her to get back with me and then we would be together. Until one time when she broke it off and I just didn’t respond for a few days, contacted her and she was still upset. So a couple days later we… Read more »
Kevin
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She also unblocked me from one form of social media

Bob
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Maybe because I’m being needy (always want her 24/7) and controlling. I’m always bossing her around which I don’t even know now why I acted that way. And maybe I’m restraining her from doing the things that she liked (indirectly) like hanging out with her friends that I don’t really like. Even though hanging out with her good friends is rare because she might feel bad if she’s leaving me alone. But I realized, without NC maybe I’m still the same needy and desperate guy chasing after her everyday. We arguing about “things is not the same as how it… Read more »
bob
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Yeah, I realized that’s my wrong. I think I’ve fixed my behavior quite a bit by socialize with some new friends. I’m feeling good, I’m hitting the gym, and I had a date yesterday which was not bad, nothing serious though, just for fun. UPDATE: some of my friends said that they saw my ex around 2 days ago, she was hanging out with her best friend to buy some daily stuff, well I think when we’re still together it’s rare for her to have a chance to do it. Do you think it’s a good sign that she’s starting… Read more »
Bob
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Chris please help me, I need some advice As for today it’s my 29th day of NC. She’s still not contacting me even once as expected, and my friend said she’s hanging out more and more with her friends. I wonder how to initiate contact after my NC period ends, my only way is through email…. I’m just a bit scared, so many “what if” scenario spinning around in my head. I just not prepared mentally to face those “don’t bother me anymore” response or worse like “gtfo” or maybe I’m overthinking things…. Is there any way to increase my… Read more »
bob
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I just got a new haircut, which is bald… lol
Can I send her a picture of my new haircut to make her laugh as my first mail after NC?
What do you think?

bob
Guest
I’m thinking about mail her about “seeing her in my dream, behind a [romantic view], make me think about her” or “walking around [somewhere], seeing a dog which looks like the dog that I bought her” or “saying my thanks to her for being amazing person in my life” I don’t know whether this will worked or not. I did sent her an email telling her about my effort to change before I initiate NC, she replies “please don’t bother me”, I replied saying my sorry and saying my determination to change and be with her. She’s not replying and… Read more »
al
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ok chris idk if i can be helped or win her back but here we go. my ex i have been dating on/off 4 years. long story short we have a had incredible bond/love but like any couple have had ups and downs. i had tendency to run away when getting fustrated and would breaking up with her. i feel at disadvantage since i have won her back once already, we have been broken up for about 2/3 months. this time she has a new bf already who is in the military and she recently left to go see him… Read more »
Al
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Update they are a couple now after her trip. She was still talking to me here and there we even hung out at the mall. I did sonething stupid an showed up at her place and she got upset she was on the phone with him. Is she plating me dor a fool till he comes home. She says its not fair we been through too much and needs to five him a fair shot. Bee a few months i think doni back away an risk losing her or try to make up lost ground while hes away still. I… Read more »
Tom
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Hey Chris, Me and my girlfriend of 6 years broke up in February. Long story short, she lived with me from February till the end of May which made things much more difficult. After she moved out I went into NC which she texted me a few times the first couple weeks but that soon subsided when I wouldn’t text back or was distant. When I texted after NC I got a few positive responses and then a negative which she blamed on a friend having her phone which caused me to go back into NC (60 days) in the… Read more »
bryan blake
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Hi Chris, i emailed you also though would like to see if I can set up some counseling with you. I was with my ex for 12 yrs and have a 12 yr old son (Oliver) we were 20 and now i am 33 on off relationship. we have been split up for over a yr and i have tried to get back with her, though believed she was just scared to waste more time not getting anywhere on false promises. though she just told me she is seeing someone so really need your advise on a plan to try… Read more »
Boby
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You know I think the most impossible situation is when your ex used to be your best girl pal and without explanation she dumped you and even after long contact she refused to speak to you even small talk about movies etc.Long distance, breakup was cool she just texted Fine its over and I read it and went to NC for 1 month. For me it was the worst feeling losing a love and pal both and literaly every attempt I made according to your page was met with hard ignore, no matter how great the message or strategy was.… Read more »
BOBY
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Yeah I had hard exams on law uni and she was attenting test for uni acceptance, So we were just texting and her texts changed dramatically even to ignoring my texts for whole day. I tried to talk her out, but never in the person I used to love her a lot and even possibility to see her with another guy would break my heart in that days. After our exams (we both have succeded) there was a concert, which she knew for about 2 months and she was looking for it. I texted her tomorrow we meet there or… Read more »
BOBY
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I feel like I run out of options. 2 month NC and I am really feeling ok and I am not sure if I want to go back to waiting if she answers my reach out. Anyway dont you plan some project on how to maintain happy relationship or, because I really enjoy reading your articles, really creative writing.

BEST FRIEND IN THE WAY
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BEST FRIEND IN THE WAY
I have what seems like an impossible situation. My girl’s best friend, we’ll call her Ann, moved here right after the breakup. Convenient, right? She wasn’t here while we were together (several years) so it made no difference, but now that Ann is here at the worst possible time, she’s influencing my ex in the worst way. She’s very anti-men and wants my ex to stay single so they can go out and party and stuff. Ann…well let’s just say she sleeps around a lot, does a lot of drinking and drugs. Likes loud clubs and keg parties. My ex… Read more »
BEST FRIEND IN THE WAY
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BEST FRIEND IN THE WAY
Haha the devil indeed! My girlfriend is 26. We were nearly living together (usually only had two nights a week we weren’t together). Now Ann is there almost every night and probably filling any void she might feel without me around. Side note – I found out today she told our mutual friend this: “Every time I go to my apartment office, I have to see his box of stuff sitting there. I wish he’d pick it up. It’s depressing.” I already got my stuff she left me a month ago, so it must be somebody else’s delivery. But maybe… Read more »
BEST FRIEND IN THE WAY
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BEST FRIEND IN THE WAY
Well, but that isn’t actually my box because I already got my stuff. It’s some other box that she thinks looks like the one she left for me. So no worries there about picking anything up! My no contact ended a couple days ago so I guess I’m just wondering, should I still text her even though her friend is there? I also agree that I think she will get bored of Ann eventually, but I don’t know when that might be. I’m really worried that the longer I wait the more she will get over me. :/ So I’m… Read more »
BEST FRIEND IN THE WAY
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BEST FRIEND IN THE WAY
UPDATE: I found out she made an online dating profile right after we broke up, and she’s added several new guys on Facebook since then…none of them have mutual friends so I’m wondering if she met them online and then added them there. I’m trying to be calm but I’m worried about the best course of action with Ann there but also now she may be talking to other guys? I don’t think she’s gone on any dates, but if she’s talking to them that’ll help her get over me even faster, won’t it? :/ I’m more than willing to… Read more »
BEST FRIEND IN THE WAY
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BEST FRIEND IN THE WAY
I’ve been in NC for 36 days, as of today. Breakup was about 62 days ago, and she hasn’t spoken a word to me since the phone call where she ended it. Also, found out this morning that she’s untagged herself from all of the photos of us, except 3-4 random ones. Some of the ones she untagged are photos I took of her that I’m not even in, but are still memories of us together (e.g. her cooking at my apartment, at parties we hosted, past holidays and birthdays, just random ones of her on the couch at my… Read more »
BEST FRIEND IN THE WAY
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BEST FRIEND IN THE WAY
So it’s not a bad sign about the photos?? I begged a few times after the breakup, but she ignored me. Called her twice, and I wrote her a long letter apologizing (hadn’t found your site yet at that point). I know she read it, and she actually kept the letter because our mutual friend saw it sitting on her table two weeks later. Idk if she still has it now. Idk if this is important to mention but she isn’t emotionally mature about being angry. She once got mad at a friend for something stupid and didn’t see or… Read more »
BEST FRIEND IN THE WAY
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BEST FRIEND IN THE WAY
Hey man, sorry to bother but wanted to update you. I texted her 5 hours ago…no reply. I’m so bummed. I texted when she would’ve been on her way home or getting home from work, as I was hoping to sidestep Ann’s nightly arrival. It’s been two months post-breakup and I had a great text (decided to go with a different option than my examples), but she couldn’t even send “ok.” I’m her first serious boyfriend. I’ve met her parents. We’ve gone on trips together both in & out of state. We have the same friend group and HER friends… Read more »
Nick
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Hi Chris, just want to know your opinion on my situation. My ex emotionally cheated on me with a guy we met while we were on holidays, dumped me and wouldnt tell me the truth, so i hacked into her facebook to find the truth. After about a year of trying to be friends and going from talking to arguing and not talking etc she moved to the other side of the country to live with this guy. They had essentially been in long distance relationship since February. She would go up and visit him every three weeks and so… Read more »
Nick
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She would message him constantly, telling him things about our relationship, their conversations became very sexual in nature. She would wait until i was out getting us lunch or going to the gym to have all these sexual conversations. She ordered plane tickets with my money to go see him before we got back home and just after she was going to break up with me. She lied to me about were things were at, and i wasn’t until i found out the truth did she admit to it. She went and sought her emotional needs from him instead of… Read more »
Mike
Guest

Hey Chris, great stuff, but I’m in a particular “impossible” situation that you don’t talk about. What if your ex broke up with you and moved away? So far that you probably won’t ever see her again if you don’t make an overnight trip?

Josh
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hi Chris, I just completed no contact for 30 days and texted her yesterday and she answered in like 20 seconds with a response that was somewhere between positive and neutral, and I said bye right away and she said bye as well. Her and I dated for a few weeks less than 2 years, and we’re deeply in love with each other. We’ve been broke up about a month and a half now, I think I’ve got a decent chance of getting her back but one of my main concerns is that her best friend is really involved with… Read more »
Josh
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And also her posts on Twitter and etc through the last month have seemed pretty sad for the most part, but also sometimes there are posts that are quotes like “it’s sad but sometimes to move on with your life you have to say goodbye” so I’m having a tough time telling whether she’s missing me, or if she’s determined to move on

Josh
Guest

When me and my ex first started dating it was an interesting situation, my best friend liked her and her best friend liked me(the one causing the problem) so I’ve got a feeling it has something to do with that she used to like me, and even throughout our relationship she would tell my ex she was jealous of our relationship and that she thought I was attractive. Btw yesterday I sent my second text after NC and it was ignored

Josh
Guest

The second text was “Remember when I dropped that hamster and accidentally smacked it into the bin over? Well I was there today with a friend and it happened again lmao I don’t think I’m picking up hamsters anymore”. When that happened she fell on the ground crying in laughter. I’ll wait a week to message her again, anything you can think of to get around her friend? Because honestly I feel like she’s the only reason we’re actually broken up and still apart

Josh
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Thanks a lot Chris, and one last thing, I’ve come up with all the things that I did wrong in the relationship, next time I get the chance to actually talk to her a little should I apologize to her for all that stuff? Or would it be bad to remind her of the bad stuff? Should I just stick with making her feel good?

Josh
Guest

What do you think would be a good way to show her I’ve changed over text?

Josh
Guest

Hey Chris, so I texted her today again after a week from the last time. I said, “the weirdest thing happened at work yesterday…” She answered saying, okay? Then I told her what happened and I got an “ok” back and then she didn’t reply after that, and she then immediately tweeted. “I really don’t need you anymore.” So now what?

Mario
Guest

Something very similar happened to me. Long Distance, my ex not trusting me anymore, and all of a sudden new friend close to her, always near her in party photos, etc.
Long story short, He posted their first “together” photo literally day after I got dumped…and they got engaged less than 3 months later.
It sound like quite impossible scenario to me, right 😉

Mario
Guest

Like to get her back. I know she still has feelings for me… She probably used him as a rebound, but things went way too quickly, he asked her to marry him, etc…and now its too difficult for her to admit she doesnt love him, and return to me. On top of all that I live in London and she is in Dubai

Mario
Guest
2 weeks before getting engaged (August) she told me, that I am the love of her life, and although her new BF is giving her, and doing, everything she ever wanted, she constantly thinks of me… I am sure she is trying to convince herself that she should marry him, but I dont believe her heart is in it. We havent been in touch since August, since she texted me the news of her being engaged, but I went to see a concert recently, band we were supposed to see together, and I’ve tagged another woman in the photo on… Read more »
Mario
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2 weeks before getting engaged (August) she told me, that I am the love of her life, and although her new BF is giving her, and doing, everything she ever wanted, she constantly thinks of me… I am sure she is trying to convince herself that she should marry him, but I dont believe her heart is in it. We havent been in touch since August, since she texted me the news of her being engaged, but I went to see a concert recently, band we were supposed to see together, and I’ve tagged another woman in the photo on… Read more »
Mario
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They sort of set a date few weeks after they were together. He was absolutely typical rebound with all the signs, but because they were friends for couple of months, before he swiftly took my place literally overnight, and she used to confess to him a lot, unfortunately about our issues, too. So he knew and probably still knows, what she wants, what to do and mainly what NOT to do. Our initial plan was that she would stay in Dubai no longer than till end of this year. And if we decided that she would want to stay longer,… Read more »
Mario
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Hi Chris Yes, I do want her. Yes, she doesnt want to have a family, and so do I. We have already discussed that. We were planning to live in UK to begin with, then move back to CZ. Not sure how to get in touch with her. I dont know, when she is with him or not, as sometimes they even have the same flights. She would probably respond to it in polite manner, same as when she texted me about 3 weeks ago, apparently just to say “hi” They were planning to get married next year in April,… Read more »
Mario
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Hi I didnt actually have to send her any texts. She contacted me all on her own, last Tuesday. First via WhatsApp, just to say “Hi, Hi Are You”. I didnt responded to it, so she sent an iMessage bit later, telling that she just wanted to say Hi, but clearly I dont want to talk to her. So i responded after some time with simple “Hi, what a suprise, I am doing fine, thank you. Hope you are too” TO that se replied “I can clearly sense the sarcasm in your text, you dont really want to be in… Read more »
Mario
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I know. Dont have a problem with working hard…as long as I can see some hope.
What shall I do now ? Cant just run into her, we live apart and she spends hall of her time all over the world.
If I text her all of a sudden, wont that just look needy ?
I have special video message prepared for her for Christmas Eve, but was only going to send it to her, if she gets in touch first…which she probably will

Mario
Guest
So what shall I text to her ? I read your book, and plenty of other ones, too. But sadly I am in little difficult position, because I havent seen her in almost 4 months, and although she is probably thinking about me from time to time, misses me and possibly still loves me, I never got in touch first since August. Ever since then she is the one to initiate contact, usually after I post some photo of me in a company of other women on fcb, and I usually respond some time later and with just one or… Read more »
Mario
Guest

Hi Chris

My ex actually made an effort to see me, she came to my town yesterday, and ask me out for coffee. Sadly it didnt happen in the end, because I was flying back from another country, and she was out with somebody else. But it was her initiative, nonetheless.

Shall I leave her be for some time and then try to set up another meeting, or shall I wait for the input to come from her ?

Bob
Guest
I’ve been separating with my GF for 3 months. Until now, she refused to meet or talk to me. I did do the things that you said DON’T (a bit of GNAToC, begging, pleading, and buying her off with stuff) and of course it’s not working at all, she refused every single crap of it resulting a partial block (I still can contact her through email). The last time I begged she did said about she don’t want to be in a relationship with me anymore and asked me to leave. But after a week, I did send her an… Read more »
Bob
Guest

I think it’s like I’m always bossing around telling her about what she should or shouldn’t do. Tbh, I just want to spend all of our time together. Maybe she doesn’t has a chance to socialized with other people beside me like going out and having fun 🙁

UPDATE : I did bumped into her again yesterday, I knew she’s coming because I saw her bestfriend walking, and she’s definitely walking together. I just trying to not look at her and focused on my lunch, and they’re walking passed me…

How’s that sound Chris?

Bob
Guest
I’ll do it next time 🙂 Thank you for replying 😀 My NC is doing good, and I’m starting to feel good about myself too, even though I still think about her most of the time, but not over depressed like I used to. Btw Chris, do you still recommend 30 days of NC? Because since the day of our break up I’ve been bothering her too much with the stuff that you mentioned on some of your article as DON’T (GNAT, GNAC, begging, pleading, buying her off, etc) until the end of September which is quite long time (We… Read more »
Bob
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UPDATE: I saw her going out with her sister at saturday night by coincidence, maybe for some shopping and dinner. I saw her smile a lot or maybe she’s just hiding her emotion. I’m hanging out with some friends and I’m trying my best to make sure that we didn’t make any contact. I’m sure she didn’t notice that I was there.

Bob
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Do you still recommend 30 days of NC? Because since the day of our break up I’ve been bothering her too much (GNAT, GNAC, begging, pleading, buying her off, etc) until the end of September which is quite long time (We separated at July).

Should I extend my NC to 45 days? She’s always mad whenever I’m bothering her and sweeping me out of her room.