How To Know If She Is 100% Over You (Video)

Imagine that your ex girlfriend has broken up with you but there is no way that she would ever take you back.

And I mean NO WAY…

Wouldn’t you like to know?

Well, with the latest video from Ex Girlfriend Recovery I talk about the six behaviors that a woman will exhibit when she is completely over you.

I bet you are just itching to watch it, right?

Video Transcript

Oh hello there.

Chris how do you know that your ex girlfriend is over you?

How do you know if your ex girlfriend is over you? Why don’t I make you a video to show you.

So without a doubt the number 1 question I get asked pretty much on a daily basis is “Hey Chris here is my situation when you look at it does it look like I have a chance for success?” Will I succeed?

I’m gonna tell you the same exact thing I tell the other men on my website that ask me that. You have a chance but that chance doesn’t guarantee success. The last thing you want to do is go after a girl or and ex that you think you have a chance with but in her mind there is no way EVER that she’ll take you back. So I thought a lot about how I was going to structure this video and I decided I was going to do it in a checklist format.

Now if you don’t what checklist format is (SKIT)

Now you may be wondering, I totally get the checklist format thing but what goes on the checklist. What are we going to be covering?

That’s a great question, the hardest thing for me to do is give you a quantifiable list of this is exactly the type of girl thats going to be over. This is the exact situation where your ex girlfriend  is never going to take you back. Ah it really doesn’t work that way. Women are complex creatures.

I’ve been doing this for several years. I’ve answered thousands and thousands of comments, millions of people have come to my websites. Ok so over the course of all these years of being in touch with the visitors there and seeing this amount of situations.  I’ve started to find out some common correlations between the types of behaviors that women exhibit when they are completely over men.

So here’s what I’m going to do for you. I’m giving you checklist format (SKIT) I’m going to tell you 6 behaviors that a women will exhibit if she is completely over you. Now instead of listening to me ramble on and do more skits. YAAAAY, Did you say more skits?? (SKIT) No, lets just get right to it.

Behavior #1: Ignores Your Attempts To Talk (SKIT)

Now everyone that wants to get their ex girlfriend back is going to have a unique situation they find themselves in. The one exception to that rule is if you want to get your ex girlfriend back just like everyone else out there, your going to have to communicate with her.

But what happens if you communicate via text message or phone calls and she completely ignores you. Well that’s not a good behavior. In fact thats the type of behavior of a woman that is over you. You know a lot of men that have this happen freak out and think its completely over but the thing that you have to remember for this checklist she has to exhibit over 75% of these behaviors of this list. So don’t freak out yet. Let’s hop on to #2.

Behavior #2: Not So Engaged When You Talk (SKIT)

So let’s say for arguments sake you send your ex girlfriend a text message, she responds to the text message but her response isn’t really in-depth. In fact, it seems she is very uninterested. And this trend continues over and over and over again and you don’t know what to do. Well that’s a bad behavior. Anytime you ex girlfriend seems uninterested in what your talking about its not good.

Generally speaking a woman who is interested in you is going to be interested in what you have to say. While a woman who is not into you is not going to be interested in what you say.

Behavior #3: She Tells You It’s Over

(SKIT)

Ouch!

It always hurts when a girl tells you that she’s completely over you. No matter if she means it or not it hurts. Now the thing that I would really advise you to do here is to take a look at her actions instead of her words. If her actions are saying something different than what she is actually saying then she probably doesn’t mean what she is saying.

And that’s where my actions versus words theory comes into play. Basically you take a look at a persons actions instead of their words. If their actions say a completely different thing than their words then the most likely explanation here is that she really doesn’t mean what she says.

Let me give you an example.

(SKIT)

My actions clearly say that I was not streaking across the room. Thank god for that.

And here is the lesson that I want you to take from that. If she tells you that she’s over you. Take it with a grain of salt. Instead, wait some time and take a look at what her actions are saying instead.

Behavior #4: She Dates Someone Else

(SKIT)

It’s never easy to watch your ex girlfriend date someone else especially if you are still in love with her. And it’s a behavior that she will exhibit if she is over you. Now, don’t let that upset you too much. Just because it’s a behavior that she exhibits doesn’t mean that she is going to be completely over you.

In fact, I’ve seen multiple cases where a guy has gotten his ex back when she’s went on the rebound. It happens all the time. And remember what I said at the beginning of this checklist. 75% of the times have to be checked off for me to consider your ex completely over you.

Behavior #5: Gets Into A Fight With You A Lot

(SKIT)

Have you ever been in a relationship before where it seemed like every single time you talked to your girlfriend you just got into a fight?

I’ve been in one of these relationships and let me tell you it SUCKS! And it’s the type of behavior that I think a lot of unsuccessful relationships have. Now, that doesn’t mean that fighting isn’t normal. Fighting is very normal… every couple probably gets into a fight every now and then.

But there is a difference between the intensity level of the fights and the consistency of them.

Let me give you an example from my past. My first girlfriend ever… we got into a fight pretty much every single week we were dating. In fact, sometimes we got into fights every single day we were dating. And we dated for a YEAR!

Our relationship was plagued with fights and then after the breakup,

(SKIT)

We got into a fight every single time we talked after the breakup.

Now heres a general rule of thumb for you. If you and your ex girlfriend can’t get through a conversation after the breakup without having a fight its a pretty good indication that she’s getting to the point where she is over you. Now, is she over you completely? Maybe not but give it time.

Speaking personally I prefer to live in harmony instead of anger.

Behavior #6: No In Person Interaction

(SKIT)

Everything I teach on my websites Ex Girlfriend Recovery and Ex Boyfriend Recovery culminates with this idea of an in person interaction.

Basically moving you from point A (where you are right now) to point B (an in person interaction.) Now, an in person interaction is categorized as anything where you and your ex girlfriend are in the same room or place together.

But what if you can never advance that far?

Well, I hate to break this to you but it’s kind of impossible to get your ex girlfriend back if you aren’t in the same room with her at some point during the re-attraction phase.

And it’s also a huge behavior that your ex girlfriend will exhibit if she is completely over you. Now, I don’t know about you but I don’t hang out with people I don’t like.

It’s common sense really.

		

Written by EGR team mate

Chris Seiter

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Shawn
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I have a question, what if she has already dated someone broke up with them to try to reconcile with me and then stopped trying with me and began dating someone new, and she’s treating me like a friend and telling you how good the new person is to her and how attractive he is and how she really likes him a lot? Should I just give up? We were dating for a year and then continued living together and being intimate for the 3 years after we broke up, I finally moved out at the beginning of 2017.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

if you want to give up, of course that’s ok.. If you don’t, how good of a competition are you to the new guy?

Shawn
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Not very good competition with the new guy, all I keep hearing is how great HE is and how she doesn’t feel any time of way other than platonic towards me

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

The first thing you need to change is your mindset.. Be a good competition by focusing in yourself and in what you can make her feel or think when she sees your posts, talks to you or being with you in person when you get to the meeting up stage

Mark
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So im 28 years old, and i have never been in a serious relationship in my adult life. I would usually casually date for a month or 2 then find a reason to leave before it became too serious, until met this girl online in early January who was a month removed from a year and a half relationship and we clicked immediately. From minute one i knew there was something between us. We tried to move slow, but then it turned in to talking every minute of everyday phone calls, texting, social media, etc, and i couldnt get enough… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Mark,

so how long was the relationship? are you going to do the no contact rule?

Joseph
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Hi My girlfriend and I were dating for 3 years, we are both in our mid forties, and were seeing each other 2-3 days a week. We were not able to see each other much more due to work, kids from prior marriage, and lived about 45 min apart. For 3 years things were working great, Sometimes we had a babysitter and got out alone and sometimes we went out with the whole family. We spoke everyday and when we were together we were so much in love, and never really fought much. We had a dream that in 4… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

be active in improving yourself and in posting in social media even if you’re blocked..do at least 30 daya

Moon
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Hi, I too came across your website and I needed some advice and opinions. Sorry that I can’t put up my full name.. She broke up with my on bad terms. She’s enjoying her new life in an new environment, she’s spending time lesser and lesser with me, I’m not giving her space, we argued, and she had enough. The fight prolonged for weeks after the breakup and she blocked me from most social medias, but still contactable. I did went afar to beg her to give me another chance for couple of times, but all she responded was “it’s… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Moon,

do you want to try the no contact rule?

Confused
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Hi guys and gals, I have a quick question. I fell in love with a girl a few months ago. Things were great but we both knew it might not last. See, she didn’t live close to me, we met at a party while she was in town. She came back to go to some concerts with me and ended up staying with me for 3 months. We always had issues when we drank together, mainly due to both of us being extremely flirty individuals. Combine that with the fact that we didn’t have a label on what we were… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Confused,

It’s more likely that she just said that.. unblock her.. but don’t add her.. She has to see your posts.. Restart the count for no contact.. and be active in improving yourself.

Niko
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Hi! Me and my ex were dating for about 1,5 year. She went abroad for work at the beginning of June. We broke up a week ago, through skype, in fact I had to pull it out of her to say that she wants to break up. She also said that she had been thinking about that for a few week and that it’s not the same feeling that it was at the beginning. What shocked me the most is that I didn’t have any clue that sometihing was wrong. We agreed to meet after she comes back to talk… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Niko,

do nc while she’s not back yet.. use it to really improve yourself

Niko
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Hi Amor, thank you for your answer. I’ve already started nc and improving myself. I’ve also got a plan what to do, but I don’t know if I should make first contact before she comes back or after that. I’m worried that she will text me to meet as we planned, to finally end this relationship. I don’t want her to meet me with this attitude. As I said earlier, her friend agreed to help me, so initially I wanted her to make my ex curious about me and changes that I’m undergoing. You know, a few words here and… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

yes, that’s a good idea… you can initiate contact after nc but if she really wants to break up, the better option is to agree and then continually improve yourself

Niko
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Ok in the few past days, things went downhill. Her friend is not willing to help me anymore, she stated that it doesn’t make sense to her. Probably because of my ex saying to her that it was the right decision to break up with me. So I’m alone now. But I must admit that my ex’s decision was right, now I see how bad I was in this relationship. And now I’m not sure how to make it work again. I know what she wants now, but I don’t know how to make her see that. I’ve been reading… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

that’s good that you’ve been reading.. I think the higher chance is if both of you can move on from the previous relationship and then start a friendship again

Anonymous
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Hello, My ex and I dated on and off for 5 years. I broke it off with her a couple of times early on due to her behaviour (nothing heinous). She changed for herself, me, and the better. She broke it off with me once a year and a half ago due to my behaviour (angry mistrusting outbursts). I promised I would change and step it up. I didn’t change. Things were good until the last few months wherein I’ve had a few totally irrational freak outs on her. Totally irrational. The last year has been extremely stressful for me… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Anonymous,

show it through your social media posts.. just don’t caption that it’s for her or for the relationship. She will check that some time during no contact and if she sees that you are starting to move on and to have a new life, she will be more open to talking again later on..take it slow. don’t ask her right ahead that you want to get back, just take it slow to become friends again while you’re building attraction too.

Anonymous
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Thanks for the response! I think that would be a great idea. However, she deleted me from Instagram and I don’t have Facebook or any other social media. Any other ideas for me?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

You should still be active. She can check your account through others and mutual friends who see your posts might ask her too. Just keep being productive for yourself.. That’s the most important part.

Anonymous
Guest

Thanks again! One more question: She moved into a new place just as we broke up. She was super excited about it and loves to decorate. Given my whole situation and what I just told you, should I go for longer NC? 45? I assume it’ll take awhile for her to stop being excited/consumed with the new spot. Thoughts on NC length?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

I think it’s ok for you to stay in 30 days.

Anonymous
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Final question. 21 days or 30 days? Wish me luck and thanks again!

Ben Frierson
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My ex gf and me got into a argument and she told me to delete her number and never text her again. I apologized the same day and got no reply. I did the mistake of texting her how much I loved and care about her. Then I did no contact for about a week. I called her the next week and I ask her could we talk? And she said about…? I then said can try to work things out and she said why? I then said cause I still have feelings for you coul we hang out and… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Ben,

Did you proceed to no contact?

Saso
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Ok i have a situation myself where me and gf broke up after 4 yrs. however we were just planning to change the apartment for a long time but just before we would suppose to, it all ended. somehow i guess… The thing is, she say there is no way to get back together with me (ill let details a side for now) but the next day she said i can move in with her (in her parents house) but we live separated, so one apartment she, one me but in same house, just next door. Im a bit confused… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Saso,

try to be the kind too whenever she’s around

Saso
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well i am, even if she gets upset like before i dont “follow” but im calm and polite. Not a poppet but kind, helpful and calm. and i keep the distance .

however, i am still not sure why she asked me to come with her if we are “done”?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

actions speak louder words… I think she just doesn’t want to admit that she wants to see if it can still work out and maybe she’s waiting for you to take action..

Saso
Guest

thats what i am doing and i hope she will see it. i just hope she didnt do that only because (forgot to mention) i live in foreign country with her which means i have noone here, but she is “at home”.
Like a mercy shot

But on other hand, if you are over someone or hate him or something like that, i would personally never do what she did in this case.

Any tips would be welcome, thanks in advance

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

I agree, I hope she realizes that too

Mason
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My ex and I broke up about 3 months ago. In that time, I went no contact and tried to contact her, but ended up being told that there was not enough time and space between us. A month later, I contacted her again but this time it was to confront her about things; hung out with friends once and she gave me the cold shoulder/be mean to me, throw up in my truck and didn’t apologize, and figure things out on trying to form some relationship or not (friends, date again, etc.). We skyped and talked things out, and… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Mason,

Maybe because she’s not angry anymore.. Try to rebuild rapport.

Mason
Guest

I want to try that but am afraid to risk using any texting methods because she told me she wanted space after the skype session. So, she is throwing mixed signals. Do I try to again and build rapport, or give her the space that she needs based of off my situation?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

oh, give her space and then continue being active during that space

Nick
Guest
This might be a long one. My ex and I met around this time last year. She was doing an internship at the company I worked for and we hit it off very quickly. At the time I had a girlfriend and I struggled with telling her that I did. Eventually I cheated on the girl I was with with her and the truth came out. Even though she found out she decided that she would stick around. A month later we went on a trip together and she told me she wanted to be my girlfriend. I was still… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Nick,

that’s actuallu what you’re going to do, start over… Start over as friends and rebuild the connection you had before

Nick
Guest

So what should I do when the NC ends? Like I said we are four hours away from each other now. I don’t even know what to say to her to build back communication between us. I want her to see a more attractive version of me but it’s hard being so far away. What do you suggest? Thank you for the quick reply!

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

your posts helps in making her see that..think of interesting topics for her as a first contact text.. you can refer to this blog post too
HOW TO USE TEXT MESSAGES TO GET YOUR EX GIRLFRIEND BACK

Nick
Guest

Just to add on. She deleted me off snapchat this morning. It was the last form of social media we had between each other. Is this a bad sign? She has been looking at my story and then deleted me.

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

it can mean it hurts to see your posts

Nick
Guest

So I ended up buying the pro. I really don’t want to lose out on my chance of getting her back. She hasn’t contacted me once since I started NC. Should I make it longer?

Nick
Guest

I messed up. I sent her a text that I read from the texting bible. No response from her. Guess there’s nothing I can do now.

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

It can be that the nc was short for her..what did you text hedr?

Nick
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I broke a lot of rules. I sent the text just saying that you wouldn’t believe what I saw. After that I ended up sending her a message on Facebook that day that stated that I’m sorry for the way things went and that it took me longer to get over her than I originally thought. I left it up to her to contact me due to I know that both of us have went through a hard time due to this. Last night was our anniversary. She deleted all the romantic stuff we had on her Instagram. I knew… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Nicholas,

are you still in nc?

Patrick
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Piggy backing on my last post:I haven’t really talked to her or interacted with her in any way since she posted the pic of the flowers he got her. Wasn’t sure if NC was the best route to go but that’s what I did (for now). I’m not sure she really wants to talk to me. She hasn’t reached out, despite frequently initiating contact prior to this guy, so I can’t be certain she won’t try to ignore me or end the conversations quickly. We’re long distance right now so that’s the other hard part. She isn’t so far that… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

The important thing is to prepare. Prepare your test text. It has to be really interesting for her. What has she been doing these days? What does she like to watch? And also, review Chris’ posts about texting to guide you.

Patrick
Guest
She’s been quiet on most social media outlets (as is often been the case when she gets into a relationship) but I’ve seen that she’s just been going on with her day to day life. She’s been hanging out with friends and such, I’ve obviously had to stumble across a few pics of the new guy, but other than that she’s now back in school (as am I). I think the easy way to go might be just a “how’s school going” type text. I don’t know if she thinks about me or wants to hear from me. I feel… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hmm.. It’s not that we now more but it’s the outsider’s perspective. Maybe it was the right text but not in the right time for her. So, put timing into consideration as well.

Patrick
Guest
Okay, so when is the right time? Timing is everything and Valentine’s day is coming up in a few weeks. Between now and then I feel is too soon, but I feel like it could be a lost cause to try shortly after Valentine’s day, assuming the new guy pulls out all the stops and makes it special for her. I know she LOVES Valentine’s day. Depending on how well it all goes, she may not be interested in speaking to me at all. I just wish I could go about this situation confidently and possibly even have her reach… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor
It depends on the person. Like for example, if she’s used to pull an all nighter, texting her early in the morning might not be a good idea. If she loves valentines, then make it special but because of the new guy, you have to be creative again. Don’t forget this day for her is special. but it doesn’t have to be all romantic right? Maybe send a thank you text before the day ends? Like, “I know this is mushy, but I just want to thank you. Remembered the past valentine because of what I saw and I hope… Read more »
Patrick
Guest
I hope that works. I’m just nervous about going about this situation. You don’t think that would be too much? I do like the idea but is this too much too soon? Also, I have a couple more questions. Should I try to talk to her beforehand? I accidentally viewed her snapchat story a few times today after attempting to ignore all of her posts since the pic of her bf she posted. Kinda of as a means of NC. She and I haven’t talked i nearly a month. I’m sorry if I’m bothering with all my questions. I’m just… Read more »
Patrick
Guest
I’d also like to add this. I’m a little concerned and I want to know how to interpret this. Earlier today, my ex’s best friend sent out a tweet saying “seriously, props to girls who date guys shorter than them. I could never do that.” My ex favorited this tweet, but this is weird. I’m shorter than her, barely but I am and apparently I’m the only guy she ever dated that was shorter than her. Her current bf is taller than her and so was the guy right after me. I don’t know how to interpret this. Is she… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

It’s ok we’re here to help as much as we can.. Well, you really need to talk to her before first. That’s why you need to focus on being friends again. It’s hard to tell from just a like, maybe you can base it on how well you know her.

Patrick
Guest
It’s odd. I know her well and she isn’t a mean person by any means. She’s always been very sweet. As of late she’s been very active on social media which is odd, because typically whenever she’s been in a relationship, she’s kinda quiet/inactive. She’s posted a lot of pics on snapchat but none with the new guy at all. No tweets towards him or about him, but she has been favoriting stuff about love, relationships, etc. I’m pretty certain she’s just in love with the idea of being in love. I can’t say for sure she’s still with this… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Don’t send direct sweet messages if she’s not comfortable with you yet or if you haven’t built he attraction yet and use the app the you mainly both use and then post sweet hints on the lesser ones

Patrick
Guest

I started with favoriting a tweet or whatever and viewing her snapchat story which haven’t been done in a while, especially with twitter. Seems dumb but that’s slowly how she and I got to talking again last time. It at least shows I’m not trying to shut her out entirely. Is this a good start or do I need more? I know you’re saying no direct messages but what kind of indirect message can I send or how can I provoke her to respond to me when it’s not a message to her?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hmmm..you can post things thay she really likes, that she may want more info about it. Or any event or thing that she can use

Patrick
Guest
Well Chris, I’m in a bad position. I’ve basically been able to continue talking to my ex for a few months now. At times it went really well and I certainly had reason to believe that she and I might rekindle our relationship. She dated a guy a few months after our breakup, but judging by the brief, shorter than 2 month relationship, he was a rebound. She and I are long distance, roughly 4 hours apart. Our interactions are limited and I was even able to go see her a couple times in person. Over the past month, we’d… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Patrick,

If you were able to text her, you need to build comfort that leads to attraction. They maybe in honeymoon phase but don’t worry that will end. Have you read this post yet? How To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back If She Has A New Boyfriend

Patrick
Guest
I’ve read that post before but I’ve also been through this same song and dance before. I’ve kind of cut her out from my life for now. Haven’t tried to contact her at all, I still follow her on social media (except Facebook which I deactivated) but I don’t interact with tweets, like/retweet, view snapchat story, etc. I might be able to text her but I don’t know if that’s a bad idea. Like I said, I dealt with one rebound boyfriend of hers in that I talked to her regularly despite this fact until I told her that I… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

That’s right don’t be her enemy. If she noticed you’re trying to get her back, she might side with her bf. If you start again, don’t start with your feelings. Make it casual, like a friend who remembers a friend.

Patrick
Guest
Is there a certain way to go about it? I’m just trying to be cautious. I had been ignoring posts online and stuff but I accidentally opened a post on her Snapchat story yesterday and it shows that I saw it. It was yet another pic of the new guy. It hurts to see her happy with him, but she must be happy. Don’t think she’s trying to rub it in my face, she’s not the type. Everytime I see a pic she posts of him or her with him, it absolutely breaks my heart. I don’t know how to… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

You’re texting right? try to make a connection and ignkre their pics… Focus on being friends and again then when you think she’s comfortable enough, send humorous flirty texts. Don’t be too upfront that it makes her think you want her back. Becausw of that happens, she might side with her current guy. establish a fun , happy , connection that will make her want to spend time with you more

Patrick
Guest
I haven’t really talked to her or interacted with her in any way since she posted the pic of the flowers he got her. Wasn’t sure if NC was the best route to go but that’s what I did (for now). I’m not sure she really wants to talk to me. She hasn’t reached out, despite frequently initiating contact prior to this guy, so I can’t be certain she won’t try to ignore me or end the conversations quickly. We’re long distance right now so that’s the other hard part. She isn’t so far that I can’t see her (only… Read more »
Patrick
Guest

Update: She just posted a couple photos on snapchat… She’s in Vegas… With her new bf… They haven’t even been together for 2 months yet, and this… I’m heartbroken once more. I don’t know what I do next. Do I give up or do I have a chance? If I have a chance, what next? I feel defeated

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

well they’re in the honeymoon phase, has she replied to you?

Patrick
Guest

Haven’t heard from her. I have not sent any direct messages to her at this point, I haven’t talked to her in a month at this point. Advice?

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

why not try now, just one last time, a month is long enough. If she doesn’t reply, then think about if you want to move on or wait longer

Patrick
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Not sure if this is important to note but it looks like she and her bf went with her whole family. Odd considering the circumstances again. I never met her family, aside from her grandparents although it was planned that I would before she and I broke up but I digress. Yeah I’m not sure what can be done here but any help is always appreciated

Marco
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Happy New Year Chris! Really hoping you can help me out man. I was dating a girl for a couple of months, everything was great however things progressed really fast and I met her parents and she met mine. I went away on vacation for a month and didn’t respond to her for a couple of days and ever since she started getting distant and broke up with me when I got back and wanted to be friends. During the time I was away she also reconnected with a really close guy friend of hers who she had not been… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

HI Marco,

Maybe she’s busy in vacation, so maybe try after that. One thing I can give you is that, when you start to reconnect again, don’t talk about the status of your relationship. It’s good you built rapport, after that build attraction, get her hooked, don’t get her pressured. I know it’s tempting to just be back again together but if she has disconnected you need to get her feelings back for you again, instead of putting yours first. You did it once, you can do it again. 🙂

L
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Hi Chris, Me and my now ex just broke up about a week ago. We had been together 5, almost 6 years and were kind of long distance (a couple hours apart). She broke up with me because we had grown apart and fallen out of love. But she wants to remain friends. So the same night we broke up, after I finished crying and telling her I want her back, we went to my house and watched a movie as friends. Then we were hanging out the next couple of days (since she was in town) as friends and… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

HI L,
sorry for the late reply. It’s been two weeks since your post. Are you doing NC?

Michael
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Hey Chris, I sent a message on the contact section of this site but I figured I’d leave a reply also. I don’t want to go into as much detail but I used the same email if you watch to check out the more detailed version. My ex girlfriend broke up with me due to a very bad argument over the phone combined with physical seperation between us (she’s in virginia and I’m in japan). I made a bunch of attempts to text her with no success. I probably sounded pretty pathetic and desperate. I even tried to get our… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

HI Michael,
Sorry for the late reply. It’s been over two weeks. Are you still in no contact period. I don’t think she was over you when you sent this message but she is going to try.

Love
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Hi Chris, well I sent a previous post but I guess it wasn’t approved :/ so im going to try again. Really want your honest opinion on this matter, its an update. Just a reminder-my ex and I was in a long distance relationship for over 3 years, broke up a year ago because we argued alot, me being insecure, mean and jealous etc..WE NEVER MET because we argued alot and she was scared I guess. Within the year broken up, we chatted but she wasnt all friendly,things got worse in October. Few pointers to make this easy for reading:… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Love,
I don’t know if she meant that or she’s just annoyed of you but definitely try to do Nc again. at least 30 days.

S
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Hey Chris, Your video was really helpful, thanks a lot for that ! So my gf and I broke up in July after about a year of dating, but we haven’t really lost touch with each other. Our break-up was alright with no fighting. She cited academics and parents as her reason but she also had a situation where her best friend asked her out but she ended up saying no to him. I moved to college and left the country while she is still a high school senior. I got a chance to meet her in October and gave… Read more »
Anon
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Hey Chris. Big fan of your work. Just wanted your advice on a particular situation. Background : At the age of 20 first serious relationship , we were each others first in every thing. Almost magical romance story. I made a lot of relationship mistakes like ego,taking her for granted and being rude ,insecure and clingy , she too made the mistakes of lack of communication and ego so after 11 months and one month of rough patch she dumped me. Current situation : for the first one month followed NC , second month uses to send her huge emails… Read more »
Anon
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Appreciate the response thanks

Young
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Hi Chris, I know its near the Christmas holidays so I really hope you have some time to reply, I have 3 important questions to ask you. Just want to give you an update and to get some advice. Just reminding you, my ex and I been in a LDR / Online relationship for 3 years, broke up a year ago cause of arguing, me being insecure, we never met (I can afford to just we argued alot), we kept in contact for the year broken up.. now..she blocked my numbers, said she will never get back with me, told… Read more »
Carson
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Hey Chris, So I’ve really been looking through every website on recovering my ex-girlfriend and yours was most definitely. the one with the most common sense and honesty to it. I plan to get the books but for now I was just wondering if you could help, maybe like a specific recommendation on how long to go NC for? So here’s pretty much how it went: We dated for a while and anybody could tell you from the minute we met up until the minute we broke up we were absolutely perfect for each other. We were crazy in love… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Carson,

Are you in better terms now?

Mo
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Hello Chris, I’m in a world of confusion and heartbreak. She’s now 23 and I’m 29. We’ve been dating for almost 2 Years. Would have been 2 years this october. We were madly in love, We seemed to be the perfect loving couple. We were best friends and lovers…great combo. With her, my gut told me to keep this one. Things were great and when she had to head to college out of state, She begged me to be closer….soooo I uprooted my hometown of Anchorage, Alaska and headed to St Louis with Her. I was the ideal boyfriend I… Read more »
Mo
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Thanks for the awesome quick response Chris. Her parents never supported our relationship, they were quick to judge me, but they treated her previous boyfriend the same so apparently they are a-holes by default……although I was great to her. We could never go to their house, She couldnt share our fun experiences with them because they would just give her crap about us no matter what. I knew it was a big burden on her and i didnt pressure her for it, I understood. But her Dad would always ruin her day by telling her to leave me or else… Read more »
Mo
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Today I called her, I was feeling terrible for our fight, I couldnt get the imag of her Crying out of my head. So I thought i’d try to smooth over things somehow. I asked Her to lunch and She said Okay. Thanked her for coming and told her how nice she looked, then I talked and apologized for being terrible with my words, That it wasn’t okay to say the things I said. Her body language was in a “I don’t really care” type state. As the lunch progressed, I explained my feelings and how I always loved and… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

HI Mo,
Have you been in contact with her again?

Johnny B.
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Hey Chris, id like to start off and say that i bought your book a few weeks ago and i found it fantastic! Before the breakup, my girlfriend and i spent a solid 16 months together! We were extremely happy for the most part and we really got to know one anothers family and such. We are both 18 years of age, and spent our grade 12 year together. Once post-secondary began, we went to different schools, although not far apart. For the most part, i am taking a quite complicated field of studies while her studies are more on… Read more »
Johnny B.
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Thanks! So that night i spoke to her for roughly 15 minutes to say the most! One interested thing i noticed and failed to mention is mid conversation she checked her phone and said “ahh dont worry, just annoying people texting me” (friends, family, the guy? who knows, but i don’t really care who) which gave me the influence that i wasn’t annoying (f*** yeah). When the conversation settled in and the awkwardness faded, i then packed up my bags and left suddenly. Not literally of course, just the classic out of the blue “I’m hungry” to my group of… Read more »
Johnny B.
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Hey Chris,

Just a quick update! So i recently (like a minute ago) found out that the guy she left me for IS NO LONGER in the picture. turns out he asked her out and she said no, further ending anything they had. What could this mean? is she just not ready to date or is it something more? Of course with the little detail i gave it will be hard to pinpoint, but what are the most likely reasons?

Thanks for everything btw!

Johnny B.
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In reply to the second to last comment: Okay perfect! will do! It shouldn’t be too hard to find a nice dream to share, and to find a group event either! a lot to do where i am from. In reply to the last comment: I will be completely honest with you, i have no clue. I haven’t planned on texting her between when we last spoke to the lunch-date (slight no contact), but after the date i am not planning on staying no contact (texting stage), so it’s safe to say that I’m currently in some weird hybrid phase… Read more »
Johnny B.
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Alright good! well tomorrow we go out for lunch so i will update you on how it went and everything believe to be significant!

Johnny B.
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hey Chris So today was out meet up for lunch. All in all it went well! i avoided the breakup as much as i can and i tried to focus on her and how she has been doing and all that stuff! There was never a dull moment, and i strongly believe we had fun! There was a lot of laughs and positive aspect i felt in the conversation, the only issue is i don`t know whether she is interested in getting back together. I found out a lot about what she has been up to these past months, and… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Johnny B,

Have you met again?

Johnny B.
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just a catchup, been a couple weeks.. Well i found out she doesn’t want to get back together, she only wants to be friends because she can’t see us going back together, even if she knows it was happy times. She said she thought about it, but she just doesn’t feel that way anymore for me.. its heartbreaking, and i honestly think she means it.. should i give up or keep trying? No contact?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Johnny B.,

I’m sorry. I know it hurts to hear that but there’s still hope. I think this post can help. Your Ex Girlfriend just wants to be friends, now what? But if she still insists on being friend then start over again. Just like when you were “just” friends. Be a good friend to her. It may take time but at least you get to know each other more.

yessssir
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Hey I would really like help on trying to get my ex girlfriend back. To start off she’s the type of girl thats usually cold and distant towards people she’s not affiliated with and likes to keep to herself even when with friends sometimes. Very complex individual and i dont know what it is but she’s just so attractive to me, personality and physical appearance wise. Let me describe the situation to you. Well i have been on and off with this girl for almost 4 years and things were serious. We separated around october of last year and she… Read more »
Corey
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Hey Chris, i wanted to say this is a real amazing thing you do here and i want to say i appreciate it very deeply. Anyways i need your advice, me and my ex dated for just under 3 years, i wasn’t the perfect boyfriend and i realize that and id notice that she was sad sometimes, but every time i tried to talk to her about it and if it was my fault she would say nothings wrong at all and i’m the best boyfriend then a little later she would seem fine. (this has meaning towards the end)… Read more »
Corey
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no i have no idea what to say. Thanks for replying!

Rob
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Hey Chris, here’s my situation. She broke up with me a coupleof months ago, I beg and failed. I initiate my NC, after that I text her and got no response, I always make sure my text is light enough and not forcing her to reply. I finally asked her to meet up through text. Saying things like “i know you hate me, now I’m calm and ready to accept things. If you want to stop, let’s end this in good terms. We can’t be like this forever. I’m waiting for you at bla bla bla”. In the end she… Read more »
rob
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32 days nc before sending my first text. I’m not sending rapid fire text, I sent it once a week always trying to make her remember our good ol day and “guess what” kind of messages but she’s not responding after trying for weeks, and finally I’m between wanting her back and not wanting her back at the same time, so I decided to did that (asking to meetup) to see her response, I admit when I text her about meetup to end things in good terms and getting back my stuff I’ve been a bit pushy, because its annoying… Read more »
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Hi Rob,

It’s been more than a month now, what was your decision?