The Three Things You Need To Have To Get A Long Distance Girlfriend Back (Video)

Having an ex girlfriend who is long distance is without a doubt one of the most difficult situations to find yourself in.

I mean, pretty much every single day I get asked,

“Chris, do I have a chance with my long distance ex girlfriend?”

Or

“Chris, please help me. What am I supposed to do if my ex and I are long distance?”

Well, I feel like I have a lot that I can bring to the table since I was in a long distance relationship for almost six months with my wife back when we were dating. So, when you hear me say something like,

“I know what you are going through”

You will know that I actually do know what you are going through.

That’s what makes what I am about to say next so gripping.

Realistically if you want to get your ex girlfriend back you need to have three things,

Video Transcript

Chris Seiter here from Ex Girlfriend Recovery and today I’m going to be talking to you about long distance relationships.

Ex girlfriend recovery gets millions of visitors every single year and one of the most popular questions that I get from the men who come to the website is about long distance relationships. Specifically if they have a chance to succeed in getting an ex girlfriend back, assuming that they were long distance in the relationship.

So, what I like to talk to you about today is what kind of chance you have and specifically, the three things you need to have if you’re going to get your ex girlfriend back if it was a long distance relationship. Now, you may be sitting there wondering what are these three things that I need to have if I’m going to get my ex girlfriend back? Let me tell you. So, I’ve found that three things are essential if you’re going to have a chance of getting a long distance ex girlfriend back.

  1. The first one is having time to do it.
  2. The second one is having money to do it,
  3. and the third one is having a plan to do it.

Now, if you don’t know my personal story, my wife and I actually were in a long distance relationship for around 6 months. I lived in Texas, she lived in Pennsylvania. And one of the things that really made our relationship work is that we would meet up once a month or so. In other words time was essential for making our relationship work. I think it’s essential to make every long distance relationship work. You have to have time to see each other every single month, at least probably once a month is the minimum. Now, things like work or school or other obligations that take up your time, don’t always make this possible. For example, in our situation with my wife, she had a job that prevented her from seeing me more often that she would like.

Luckily I work for myself. I make my own hours, I can see her whenever I wanted to. Unfortunately, we kind of have to go on her schedule. In other words, we had to work around the time aspect. Now, if I had a job like her, where I was stationed in a place where I would be essentially fired if I left my job, our relationship might not have been possible which is why when it comes to your ex girlfriend, if you really want to get her back, you both need to–well, you specifically need to look at her job and your job or her  school and your school and look and understand or figure out if it’s a feasible thing that you can maintain a relationship where you can see her at least maybe once a month as in and that really depends on how far apart you are.. In our case, with my wife, I was actually 1600 miles away from her.

Now, if I were maybe like a hundred miles away from her, I could probably drive up with my car every single weekend. Now, that lead me to my next point, money.

So, money is an essential part to making a long distance work. I hate to break this to you but long distance relationships are expensive. Take a situation where you’re maybe a hundred miles from your ex girlfriend. Ideally, you want to see her at least once a week or maybe once every weekend. Well, it costs money to buy the gas to get you there in a car. Now, assuming you’re a far distance apart, maybe half a country apart or maybe even continents apart, it costs money to buy a plane ticket and sometimes these plane tickets aren’t very cheap. I can remember specifically when I visited my wife on the Fourth of July. I actually dropped around $700 on a plane ticket just to see her since that was a really popular time to travel. So, that wouldn’t have been possible if I didn’t have the money to do it. So, when you’re looking at your situation with your ex girlfriend, you really need to look at it and think to yourself, “Do I have the money to make this possible? Do I have the money to make the necessary sacrifices to make a relationship work?” Now, the next thing I want to talk to you about is a plan.

This is without a doubt, the most important aspect to make a long distance relationship work with your ex girlfriend. Now, you may be wondering, “What is he talking about when talks about this plan?”

Well, when I talk about a plan, I’m really talking about specifically the plan to get back together. Is it a feasible plan to get back together? A long distance relationship can’t ever work long term. It just won’t ever happen. Eventually a plan needs to occur, where both of you either decide how you are going to kill the distance and get together. I feel like I have a lot of experience on this topic since like I said earlier in the video, my wife and I were actually in a long distance relationship for about 6 months, about half a year. Well all throughout that long distance, we were both strategizing on what both of us could do to kill the distance and make our relationship no longer distance.

Eventually we decided on the fact that I would probably have to move to Pennsylvania to make our relationship work. Why? Well, because she had a job that, it would just wouldn’t be feasible for her to leave. Luckily, I had a job where it was feasible for me to leave. Therefore, we had a really huge advantage over a lot of the long distance couples out there. In other words, I could leave my hometown or home state whenever I wanted because I didn’t have anything tying me down. Now, a lot of couples out there, don’t have that advantage which is why long distance relationships are probably one of the hardest situations to succeed in. So, when you’re looking at your situation with your ex girlfriend, the thing you really need to look at are these three aspects: time, money and having a plan.

If you don’t have time, if she doesn’t have the time to see you or if you don’t have the time to see her, probably even if you are going to get her back, your relationship is not going to flourish and you’re not going to be with her long term which is what I’m trying to help you achieve. Second money, it’s just not feasible. I know this is really hard to hear. Especially if you’re high school or maybe you’re in the early years of your college experience. Sometimes you don’t have a lot of money to make a long distance relationship work. I mean sometimes maybe parents can help you out but after a while you just can’t keep begging your parents for money to see your ex girlfriend.

You know it’s probably not going to go over too well and then finally you really need to have a plan. Let’s assume that you follow my advice to get your ex girlfriend back and you get her back, but you really don’t have a plan. This, is probably the hardest aspect, what I’m about to tell you next, it’s takes two to tango. You can’t just be the sole puller of this plan. You can’t pull the weight yourself. You need to work together in tandem to make a relationship work like this.

So, if you’re going to ask me, “What are my overall chances of getting my ex girlfriend back if I’m in a long distance relationship?” I would first say, before you look at that, you need to look at these three aspects and if you don’t have any of these three aspects, my advice is to you actually is to move on. I think you shouldn’t get bogged down the situation where it’s just not feasible. I have been in a long distance relationship with my wife. I married her for god’s sake so, I know what it takes to succeed and you definitely need these three things to succeed.

Thanks for watching this video until the end. We really appreciate it. If you haven’t already, please go ahead and subscribe to our channel and like our videos. We would immensely appreciate it and if you haven’t already, please stop by our website at www.exgirlfriendrecovery.com. We put together a dedicated team of professionals to help you get your ex girlfriend back and we offer things that no other experts out there can offer. So, if you haven’t already, please visit us at exgirlfriendrecovery.com. I’ll see you next Monday.

		

Written by EGR team mate

Chris Seiter

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Jason Fox
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Hi I’ve just been broken up with eleven days ago after six months ldr (without visits) purely just video call and texts,I’m 28,she is 24,,I became needy,we over communicated,I began to chase,she became cold and I couldn’t bare it so I asked her tell me and after many tears she said “I can’t do this anymore” I start no contact,she starts deleting photos of us and changing profile pics,,4 days into nc she sends a text saying” I’m sorry ….” (guess it was to make herself feel better about leaving me)but I don’t respond So it’s day eleven nc,and I… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Jason,

tell her the current situation is not workable for you and there will be gifts to arrive that you’ve sent before the break up, and then thank her for everything, and then restart nc and do at least 30 days.. continue improving yourself and being active in posting after nc while you slowly build rapport.

Tomy
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Oh and sorry, if it means anything she also texted me 12:00AM sharp on my birthday, breaking her own rule of me not contacting her for a week. I responded with, ‘hope you’re having a good night’ and she said yes, and she ‘hopes i’m doing amazing. ::emoji::’ , I send one of the same emoji back, /end of conversation.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Tony,

Sorry, I just haven’t reached it yet. check this one:
The Complete Guide To Getting Ex Girlfriends Back In Impossible Situations

Tomy
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Hello Chris and team, thank you for the content and a BIG thank you for reading my story. my apologies for a long story but I’m sure you understand detail is important. My now ex-girlfriend broke up with me 6 days ago (I’m 30, she’s 28), after a relationship of roughly a year and nine months. We met in my town and after giving her my number and her texting me back, I took my time wooing her. After a few dates, I still wasn’t receiving a clear message on how she feels about me. Then message was clear a… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Tony,

Sorry, I just haven’t reached it yet. check this one:
The Complete Guide To Getting Ex Girlfriends Back In Impossible Situations

Dill
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Hey Amor, My ex-girlfriend and I were together for 8 months during the time she studied over at my university, we broke around 4 months ago-3 weeks after she moved back to her home state, she also wanted me to come this christmas to see her but cancelled the plans saying because their grandpa is sick their family are going to spend christmas with him (she never dorned on that again, she literally said it and that was the last i heard of it because i automatically respected it). She also backed out of telling her mother about me before… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Dill,

are you going to try the no contact rule?

David
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My gf just broke up with me a few days ago because she said she couldn’t see the light at the end of the tunnel. We’ve been in a long distance relationship for nearly 3 years. Me living in San Francisco and her in Baja California, Mexico. She’s 22 and just graduated from college and is trying to figure out what she wants to do with the rest of her life. I’m 24 and I have a great job as a financial advisor who can set my own hours and obviously the money is good. So I have the first… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi David,
Begin contact after at least 30 days..

Abel Santos
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Is there 1 on 1 coaching available? and if so how can I receive it?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Sorry Abel as of now there isn’t..you can try to email if you want.. here: [email protected]

Chris
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Oh hi. I met someone on a dating site 8 months ago. Immeadiately we started text skyping for over 4 hours a day. Sometimes through the whole night. I missed a day once and she was pretty angry with me. She did most of the intial running. I visted her in late November and the electricty between us was instance. and the time we spent together was perfect. It was very dramatic for a few days after we left each other. I visited her again in mid january and it was even better this time. OMG more than perfect. she… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Chris,

have you messaged here before or in the exboyfried website, your story is familiar.. I think there’s a chance..maybe she’s just confused..you should be active in improving yourself and be active in posting in social media

Theo
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ey Amor, (LDR) So I did the NC rule for around 18 days. I texted her and then I never checked Instant Messenger for two days, she must have replied straight away even do it was a cold reply. So then I replied to her and she never replied back, so I let another four days go past before texting her and she replied and we exchanged like 2 messages before she stopped replying. So I left It for another few days and well yesterday she was online late because she couldn’t sleep and I texted her and we talked… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Theo,

I think you should keep building rapport..and continue improving yourself while doing that

Pedro
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I have been on a long distance relationship for 4 years with a girl who I had met on an online gaming platform. we have been dating each other on and off for 4 years now. everytime something would happen and we would break up and then after a while I would make the move again and we would end up being together however this time around it has been different. to start at the beginning it was by the end of last year when we broke up again that’s when she blocked me out completely on everything after I… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Pedro,

you mean end of 2016? Do you want to try a full 30 days no contact period?

Masoud
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Hey, I am 22 years old and was dating my ex girlfriend for around 1 1/2 years. I am a medical student in my second last year and will be graduating in summer 2018. I study in Poland currently and my ex girlfriend graduated from the same program this summer and moved back from Poland to Sweden to start working there. She is 2 1/2 years older than me and me and her share the same ethnic origin. I am from Germany and only went for my studies to Poland . I told her that I want a long distance… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Masoud,

that means she still can’t see how it would work long distance.. maybe her love language is physical and quality time..and it can also mean she doesn’t see you mature enough for her..

of I’m right, the best solution is to be closer.. if you can’t be closer, then you have to be less available and keep improving yourself to the point that she will regret losing somebody like you

Joshua
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Mine was a 4 year long LDR I am in Arkansas and she was in Texas. but we fit so well together and we visited each other often which was usually once a month. She was my best friend and I was her first everything. I never had the kind of love and connection with someone that I had with her. We were both 28 and shared a birthday within the same week. We did go on a “break” in 2014 but it was resolved in 6 months and we got back together and everything seemed fine. Long story short,… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Joshua,

I’m asian too. Yes, it’s true that family and career is very important but you had 4 years together.. Being unemployed for just two months is a shallow reason for a break up.. It can be stress.. But, right now do you want to tr the no contact rule? Yes, you haven’t spoken for weeks but it wasn’t focused in healing and improving yourself

Leland
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How do I stay in contact? She broke up with me two weeks ago. I tried texting once, but she seemed very disinterested. The conversation was short and awkward. How can I keep in touch without seeming needy if she doesn’t want to talk? We had been together for about 1.5 years. Discussed marriage and even looked at engagement rings. Then, boom. It felt out of nowhere for me. With a little time, I have thought of a couple things that could have contributed, but nothing that seems obvious. Also, when she broke up with me she gave me the… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Leland,

why not try doing no contact rule instead?

Nestor
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Can you share your light on my situation! ASAP! I was in a long distance relationship 2 years with my me girlfriend. The sweetest girl I’ve ever met. I have lived in Miami and she had lived in my home country of Nicaragua. We will share a lot of things in common we will laugh and talk all day and night, but things started going downhill when she find out that my process of divorce will still not finish, many people started getting involved her family, my ex wife. I got to see her for the first time last year… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Nestor,

how are you now?

Paul
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Here is my situation. LDR, together for 10 months, I am 45 and she is 44. We live 185 miles apart. She has 2 bad marriages in her past that includes many forms of abuse in the 2nd marriage. She came to realize that she was unable to fully commit and that she needed time apart to work on her issues from the abuse. Prior to the split we talked regularly, texted daily, and saw each other about 7 days a month. She has no idea how long this split will be but she wants to come back better for… Read more »
Paul
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I should also mention that we knew each other in High School so we share a fairly large group of friends. We just kind of stumbled into this relationship, neither of us looking, but we got very close on the phone and texting as friends in the beginning and it developed into a very loving/respectful/fun relationship.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Paul
I think 45 days is enough.. that’s good that you want to give her space but what’s more important is that you stick to nc and be really productive with yourself.. because that can influence her to miss you more and see that you’re not like the other guys

Edgar Ayala
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I’m begging for you’re help! My name is Edgar and yes I am 17 and I was in a long distance relationship with this perfect girl she lives in North Carolina and I live in Texas. She broke up with me on April got back about a week and a half but ended again with her saying “I’m not ready for a relationship” so I say I’m willing to wait and she says okay but now there’s another guy waiting! And he’s actually there with her. She likes him but he’s 18 and she’s 15 not a good idea. I… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Edgar,

She’s just 15? Is she allowed to date yet? Because if not that would be harder. To be honest, in order for a long distance relationship to work, you have to have money, time and a plan on when you would be closer to each other. How long was your relationship?

Khalid
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Hey Chris! I love your site, but I have a issue I want to address! Okay so me and my ex broke up over the summer but kept talking and trying to work things out. The reason we broke up was because she didn’t feel like herself! So, because of that we started praying more and reading the Bible more in hopes of her getting better! However, she still felt somewhat disconnected from herself and as time passed she felt disconnected from our relationship! I then started to notice that she was beginning to compare me to one of her… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Khalid,

how do you know that she really doesn’t want to be with her?

Tim
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Hey Chris, So I am in a LDR situation where I have followed your advise from other articles in trying to get my ex back. I won’t go into too much past detail but she broke up with me. Ended up doing no contact shortly after following your advice and then she contacted me first but I waited (did the 21 day). I am in the military (22 y/o) and she is in college (21 y/o). We have been texting everyday since starting contact and have talked on the phone I believe 3 times so far (and FaceTime once) it… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Tim,

sorry for the late reply..it looks you’re doing good..just keep at it and since you know what went wrong at first, then just avoid that

Gold
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Hi Chris, my friend told me you’re “lesbian friendly” so I hope its true. 4 years ago I was curious about women so I decided to get on a chat not knowing I would of connected with the woman of my dreams, my ex. We chatted continuously for years, she has been my best friend, my everything, the only problem is that we are far away, miles and miles away and that we never met. Both our family doesn’t know we are into women. I travel every year and its sad to say I’ve never met my ex because in… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Gold,

sorry for the late reply.. did she make it clear now what she really feels?

Gold
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She told me the girl was made up to piss me off, well two days ago she told me that she dont know why I messed up our relationship because If I trusted her we would of been together, I should of known that she belongs to me etc, honestly she made me feel loved that night. Well today and the day before, she hardly talking to me so I’m confused 🙁 I don’t know what to do at this point, im just depressed.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Okay, let her cool off but actually what she did was wrong too. Try to initiate after a week if she doesn’t

Gold
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I dont even know anymore, she didnt message me on my birthday and she knew when it was! After all day I messaged her pissed off at her, then she said “Happy Birthday Beautiful’ she seem drunk, tell me after 4 years of giving this girl my time and effort, she couldnt take 1 minute to text me!! I cried, im hurt, she dont love me! I’m so depressed, I dont know what to do amor 🙁 it hurt me so much.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

I feel for you.. take a rest for a week, so you and her can think too.

Gold
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Can you tell me the various steps to take to have a better chance at getting her back, hopefully you will remember my previous posts and my situation because its different to others.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor
actually you’re biggest hurdle is the distance and then next is how you communicate with each other.. First you have to let her cool off, I know it sucks but you had a long time together so that’s a big factor for her not to move on that easily.. But right now she may have decided to just take a break.. you can send her a heartfelt message and tell her that you hope you can come to terms to being friends again because the past conversation have been out of misunderstandings, you don’t expect her to rush ofcourse, you… Read more »
Gold
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Thanks Amor for your time and advice. I’m finding it very hard to do NC, I’m officially starting today hoping to do it for 18 days. Well I texted her yesterday, she sent me a reply “k, bye’ then blocks me :/ so I accused her of cheating, we argued and she blocked me again. She doesn’t text me, she blocks me, she just doesn’t have any interest in me. Well two hours after, I sent her nude/sexy pics of myself, her reply was ‘good..she told me I looked so nice and the colour I wore looked sexy etc..and I… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

okay, first stop the negative texts..check yourself when you’re getting pissed. So, you won’t regret saying anything in anger. Actually I think you should do 21 and focus on yourself ok? You have to learn to rebuild self esteem and make yourself happy without her.. If she sends a series of positive that’s ok to break nc by then.

Gold
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I will be doing NC starting from today, I’m very emotional and depressed. She keeps telling me she don’t want to talk to me, she replies to my messages but she ends it every quickly…last night I got emotional and I sent her a long sad text stating how I felt and she ignored it…I’m hurt because Ive known her 4 years and she seem to not care, do you even think I have a chance? I failed at NC many times, most ive done is 5 days but this time I need to because im just sinking myself more… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

I hope I can guarantee you but, what’s clear is that you really need a restart. Continuing to talk now in that state hurts the both of you.

Gold
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Thanks for your time and advice Amor, I started NC yesterday, im really trying to stick to it…she called me 5 times Friday but I wasn’t near my phone when I asked her later on if she called, she said ‘no, bye’ that means she only wants to talk to me on her timing..she seem very busy lately tho…this woman just seem to not care. Anyways thanks again and I will update you when my NC period is soon to be over. I hope I can keep up!

Gold
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Hi Amor, well this is my update..I hope you remember my previous posts.. I started NC, however, you did say if she contacted me, I can respond. My friend pretended to be my other ‘ex’ to make her jealous, that is the reason she messaged me (she thought my ex wants me). Well the convo kept going downhill, she gives me mixed signals. The positive things are- she tells me what she is up to and what is going on in her life, when I Accuse her of being with someone, she tries to prove me wrong by calling me..sending… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor
it didn’t get better.. this is not to blame you but I have to point it out because it’s wrong.. don’t lie to her and don’t blame her or accuse her, no matter how much you’re doubting, because you’re trying to rebuild rapport.. Think of her as a new person you’re trying to get on your side.. but the difference is you already know her interests and you’re doing it not just to get her back but to understand her more.. I think you should do no contact and work on yourself first.. you’re not emotionally ready to do this… Read more »
Gold
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I think you’re right on that one, I should do NC but will this make it easier for her to move on? Its been a year broken up, also her birthday is very near, Can I wish her a happy birthday during NC? I want to send her that message just before her birthday ends, late at night.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Did you greet her or not? HOw are you?

Gold
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I started NC 3 days before her birthday, I signed off from the app we used so I didn’t receive any of her messages but I think it was best to wish her happy birthday ..so I did very early that morning, well she was MAD! Her reply to my best wishes was ‘NO’ she then said I ignored her texts and all of sudden im nice, she sent alot of hate messages so I just ended it..well the next day she said sorry and she also said that she was feeling down and that she needed me but couldnt… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

I think you should just be clear with your that both of you needs space and you’re not ready to talk to her yet to heal but once you’re ready of course you would reach out again

Gold
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Thanks for your help Amor, I’ve been continuing with my NC, she havent tried to contact me 🙁 she lost interest. All I do know though is that she has family problems currently. I have a few questions and I hope you review my previous post to remember my situation since its kinda different to others. 1) How will NC help me get her back? Its been a year broken up and long distance, she shows no interest at all, wouldn’t that make her forget me? 2) When I do finish my NC, my opening text will be ‘ hey… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor
You’re welcome 1) I think you should this post from other website.. it answers this questions. HOW TO GET AN EX GIRLFRIEND BACK AFTER YEARS APART The guide to getting him back after a year or more apart Breaking the long distance barrier with an ex 2) yes, that’s an ok text 🙂 if she replies, negatively, then apologize. Say, sorry, you didn’t mean to make her feel inconvenient. That way you’re taking the high road and she might realize she was being rude. If she didn’t respond, try again after 3-5 days. 3) Use the tide theory in texting… Read more »
Gold
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Hi Amor, I need your advice, I didnt finish NC but I started talking to my ex again, it has been going good for the few days, we talked about all kind of random stuff, I usually start the convo but later on in the day, she would actually call me to chat, she sent me pics of her, she asked to have phone sex, she complimented me on my looks and talks about how perfect I am, it has been going great even tho we argued off and on. She blocked me on snapchat (one of the apps that… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

hmm..don’t ask something that you don’t want to happen..because she will just likely agree on it.. and you’re the one that’s trying to win her back, so the effort will really come from you more.. and also, you have to maintain being interesting at the same time while you’re trying to get her back

Gold
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Things got worse, my ex been so rude to me, told me to drop dead, so many mean things, what I did was apologize for everything and I deleted the app…im just giving myself two weeks, for me! focus on me for once..I dont know if there is anything you can help with or advice but I have been trying and she keeps giving off mixed emotions, one day she loves me next day im annoying to her, she ignores me…every day is different and im emotionally drained…she doesn’t seem to care.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

hmm.. usually if it’s like that, it mean a really long time has to pass to have a reset

Gold
Guest

Concerning your last reply, are you trying to say a long time has passed so its too late to reset or is it that I need to keep a distance for awhile before we can reconnect??

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

you need to keep distance for a while because it looks like your’e just going back and forth..

Gold
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Hi Amor Well few weeks ago, my ex and I got along well until yesterday.. when she gets mad at me she always said I’m going to be with “blue eyes” so I keep questioning her about it…she told me the truth yesterday..she told me months ago, she met the girl in a bar, they started chatting and she started to really like her but she had to move to another state, she told me the girl is straight so nothing would of happened anyways but she really liked her. Amor!!! I cried all day!!!! I felt betrayed, hurt, I… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Gold! the roller coaster ride is not over yet? good news: she’s shows signs that she still has feelings
bad news: she’s nots handling fights well and you’re still not handling..

it’s ok to get angry because you’re human..it’s what you do when you’re angry that matters.. unless you can manage your emotions and how you react, you will have the same problems over again

Gold
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Well you said she is showing signs of still having feelings for me but Im seeing the opposite. All she does is remind me that we are over and say things to get me angry…I tried contacting few days ago, she ignored me, she blocked me many times, she told me she dont care about me etc..so mean!!! Well now she dont reply or answer, she is silent! One positive thing that I started is focusing on me, not making her my main focus…I’m not going to contact her…lets see if she cares enough to message me and if she… Read more »
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EGR Team Member: Amor

For me it’s really just how much you can make her interested.. you really have to portry you have moved on and it’s good that you have decided to just focus in yourself.. that’s the first step

Gold
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This is my second to last post to you Amor, the last post will be informing you whether I was successful or not. My last try is near. I would really love if you can go through my original post and replies to remember my situation and give me the best advice and opinion. I’m sending this early because I know you have alot of other posts to deal with and you reply is very important to me as a guide. I have a little update for you, its depressing to read :/ lol Before I started to do NC,… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Gold,

it’s time to really back off big time.. 45 days isn’t going to do it.. You have to really give her space and a long one.. shortest is 6 months.. She is so annoyed and so full of you’re chasing, she’s being disrespectful now..

Stop chasing her.. it’s not helping..

Gold
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6 months!! Remember we never met and its been over a year broken up…by 6 months I’m sure she will be in a relationship and then that will be it for me…what about nc for a month?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

well, the goal is to have a restart.. and with all the back and forth, that’s what you need…but you can still just a month, if it doesnt work, you can decide if you want to do another nc or move on

Gold
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Amor!! Well this is an update, my ex and I have been chatting continuously for two weeks, she agreed for us to continue communicating..we have been getting along well even tho there were two moments I got mad but quickly switched it around. She told me we are never getting back together though, she also asked me some questions like if im ok with us not being together, if I’m moving on and If she went on a date, what would I do, I answered them in a positive way like if im ok with the break up. Other than… Read more »
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Amor!! I need for you to please answer some questions…I think you will give me the best advice. As my previous post stated. my ex and I agreed to chat, we been talking, she stated how even if she was with someone else, if I ever came to meet her, she would run up and kiss me and take me home etc…well things changed drastically! We had a little arguement and everything is just terrible. Last week, she told me she will always love me and that she gave me a chance to change my ways for over a year,… Read more »
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I made an error an submit before I was finish, please read the continuation. As my previous post stated. my ex and I agreed to chat, we been talking, she stated how even if she was with someone else, if I ever came to meet her, she would run up and kiss me and take me home etc…well things changed drastically! We had a little arguement and everything is just terrible. Last week, she told me she will always love me and that she gave me a chance to change my ways for over a year, she wanted me to… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Gold,

What did you argue about that changed her mind?

Gold
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Thanks for the quick reply, the reason we argued was that she told me she was going for wings with her sister but she said she usually go out with a bunch of guy friends every wednesday, I got jealous and accused her. Amor, please don’t forget to read my previous post and my questions..She seriously ignoring me. Please advice

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Actually I remember you.. And honestly, I can’t add anything more if nothing changed.. Obviously you can’t stay away for 6 months, the least you can do is not be angry with her no matter what. I know it sounds ridiculous, but how would you change the way she thinks about you if you don’t change right? And you’ve never met, it’s not a real relationship if you’ve never met.. That adds to the factor that it’s easy to let you go..

Gold
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Honestly Amor, you can simply say its not a real relationship, My feelings are so real though, my hurt and pain is so real, its so bad! I wish it wasn’t real..the connection for 5 years was real to me, maybe im crazy..I don’t know. I’ve reached my breaking point. I’ve lost it..I called and blew up her phone for two weeks , 100 times daily.. she told me the worst things anyone has ever told me, she told me im mental, she hates me so much!!!! she wants me dead.. I’m just over it! She blames me for everything…ive… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Your feelings can be real but the relationship isn’t. If you really want a chance for a normal conversation again, move on. Stop chasing her and then someday when you have moved on, there can be a chance.

Tim
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Hey Chris, So I am in a LDR situation where I have followed your advise from other articles in trying to get my ex back. I won’t go into too much past detail but she broke up with me. Ended up doing no contact shortly after following your advice and then she contacted me first but I waited (did the 21 day). I am in the military (22 y/o) and she is in college (21 y/o). We have been texting everyday since starting contact and have talked on the phone I believe 3 times so far (and FaceTime once) it… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Tim,

sorry for the late reply..it looks you’re doing good..just keep at it and since you know what went wrong at first, then just avoid that

Tim
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Hey Chris, So I am in a LDR situation where I have followed your advise from other articles in trying to get my ex back. I won’t go into too much past detail but she broke up with me. Ended up doing no contact shortly after following your advice and then she contacted me first but I waited (did the 21 day). I am in the military (22 y/o) and she is in college (21 y/o). We have been texting everyday since starting contact and have talked on the phone I believe 3 times so far (and FaceTime once) it… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Tim,

sorry for the late reply..it looks you’re doing good..just keep at it and since you know what went wrong at first, then just avoid that

Max
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Hey Chris! Great blog you have here! I want to ask you a question: do you agree with the quote “If you love something, let it go. If it comes back to you, it’s yours forever. If it doesn’t, then it was never meant to be.”? Because right now ‘m going crazy. I really love my (now ex) girlfriend. We are 24 and 23 y.o. . We live very far from each other (i live in Milan, italy, she lives in Seoul, South Korea). We met during a semester abroad and we decided to try LDR. But right now we’re… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Max

there’s another quote, if you love the person, fight for him or her.. It must be more confusing with that..but all of those quotes are right depending on the situation..

If you can, Go to Korea, whether you meet or not..immerse in the culture and since you’re already there, ask her to meet you but make it casual and make it open for her to refuse so she won’t be pressured.. and make it clear that already booked it before she broke up with you