Having an ex girlfriend who is long distance is without a doubt one of the most difficult situations to find yourself in.
I mean, pretty much every single day I get asked,
“Chris, do I have a chance with my long distance ex girlfriend?”
“Chris, please help me. What am I supposed to do if my ex and I are long distance?”
Well, I feel like I have a lot that I can bring to the table since I was in a long distance relationship for almost six months with my wife back when we were dating. So, when you hear me say something like,
“I know what you are going through”
You will know that I actually do know what you are going through.
That’s what makes what I am about to say next so gripping.
Realistically if you want to get your ex girlfriend back you need to have three things,
Chris Seiter here from Ex Girlfriend Recovery and today I’m going to be talking to you about long distance relationships.
Ex girlfriend recovery gets millions of visitors every single year and one of the most popular questions that I get from the men who come to the website is about long distance relationships. Specifically if they have a chance to succeed in getting an ex girlfriend back, assuming that they were long distance in the relationship.
So, what I like to talk to you about today is what kind of chance you have and specifically, the three things you need to have if you’re going to get your ex girlfriend back if it was a long distance relationship. Now, you may be sitting there wondering what are these three things that I need to have if I’m going to get my ex girlfriend back? Let me tell you. So, I’ve found that three things are essential if you’re going to have a chance of getting a long distance ex girlfriend back.
- The first one is having time to do it.
- The second one is having money to do it,
- and the third one is having a plan to do it.
Now, if you don’t know my personal story, my wife and I actually were in a long distance relationship for around 6 months. I lived in Texas, she lived in Pennsylvania. And one of the things that really made our relationship work is that we would meet up once a month or so. In other words time was essential for making our relationship work. I think it’s essential to make every long distance relationship work. You have to have time to see each other every single month, at least probably once a month is the minimum. Now, things like work or school or other obligations that take up your time, don’t always make this possible. For example, in our situation with my wife, she had a job that prevented her from seeing me more often that she would like.
Luckily I work for myself. I make my own hours, I can see her whenever I wanted to. Unfortunately, we kind of have to go on her schedule. In other words, we had to work around the time aspect. Now, if I had a job like her, where I was stationed in a place where I would be essentially fired if I left my job, our relationship might not have been possible which is why when it comes to your ex girlfriend, if you really want to get her back, you both need to–well, you specifically need to look at her job and your job or her school and your school and look and understand or figure out if it’s a feasible thing that you can maintain a relationship where you can see her at least maybe once a month as in and that really depends on how far apart you are.. In our case, with my wife, I was actually 1600 miles away from her.
Now, if I were maybe like a hundred miles away from her, I could probably drive up with my car every single weekend. Now, that lead me to my next point, money.
So, money is an essential part to making a long distance work. I hate to break this to you but long distance relationships are expensive. Take a situation where you’re maybe a hundred miles from your ex girlfriend. Ideally, you want to see her at least once a week or maybe once every weekend. Well, it costs money to buy the gas to get you there in a car. Now, assuming you’re a far distance apart, maybe half a country apart or maybe even continents apart, it costs money to buy a plane ticket and sometimes these plane tickets aren’t very cheap. I can remember specifically when I visited my wife on the Fourth of July. I actually dropped around $700 on a plane ticket just to see her since that was a really popular time to travel. So, that wouldn’t have been possible if I didn’t have the money to do it. So, when you’re looking at your situation with your ex girlfriend, you really need to look at it and think to yourself, “Do I have the money to make this possible? Do I have the money to make the necessary sacrifices to make a relationship work?” Now, the next thing I want to talk to you about is a plan.
This is without a doubt, the most important aspect to make a long distance relationship work with your ex girlfriend. Now, you may be wondering, “What is he talking about when talks about this plan?”
Well, when I talk about a plan, I’m really talking about specifically the plan to get back together. Is it a feasible plan to get back together? A long distance relationship can’t ever work long term. It just won’t ever happen. Eventually a plan needs to occur, where both of you either decide how you are going to kill the distance and get together. I feel like I have a lot of experience on this topic since like I said earlier in the video, my wife and I were actually in a long distance relationship for about 6 months, about half a year. Well all throughout that long distance, we were both strategizing on what both of us could do to kill the distance and make our relationship no longer distance.
Eventually we decided on the fact that I would probably have to move to Pennsylvania to make our relationship work. Why? Well, because she had a job that, it would just wouldn’t be feasible for her to leave. Luckily, I had a job where it was feasible for me to leave. Therefore, we had a really huge advantage over a lot of the long distance couples out there. In other words, I could leave my hometown or home state whenever I wanted because I didn’t have anything tying me down. Now, a lot of couples out there, don’t have that advantage which is why long distance relationships are probably one of the hardest situations to succeed in. So, when you’re looking at your situation with your ex girlfriend, the thing you really need to look at are these three aspects: time, money and having a plan.
If you don’t have time, if she doesn’t have the time to see you or if you don’t have the time to see her, probably even if you are going to get her back, your relationship is not going to flourish and you’re not going to be with her long term which is what I’m trying to help you achieve. Second money, it’s just not feasible. I know this is really hard to hear. Especially if you’re high school or maybe you’re in the early years of your college experience. Sometimes you don’t have a lot of money to make a long distance relationship work. I mean sometimes maybe parents can help you out but after a while you just can’t keep begging your parents for money to see your ex girlfriend.
You know it’s probably not going to go over too well and then finally you really need to have a plan. Let’s assume that you follow my advice to get your ex girlfriend back and you get her back, but you really don’t have a plan. This, is probably the hardest aspect, what I’m about to tell you next, it’s takes two to tango. You can’t just be the sole puller of this plan. You can’t pull the weight yourself. You need to work together in tandem to make a relationship work like this.
So, if you’re going to ask me, “What are my overall chances of getting my ex girlfriend back if I’m in a long distance relationship?” I would first say, before you look at that, you need to look at these three aspects and if you don’t have any of these three aspects, my advice is to you actually is to move on. I think you shouldn’t get bogged down the situation where it’s just not feasible. I have been in a long distance relationship with my wife. I married her for god’s sake so, I know what it takes to succeed and you definitely need these three things to succeed.
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