Long distance is hard…
One look at the comments here at Ex Girlfriend Recovery can prove that.
Yesterday something happened on EGR (Ex Girlfriend Recovery) that has never happened before.
70% of the men that commented who were trying to get their girlfriends back were doing so from a failed long distance relationship. In other words, I have made a mistake in not writing this sooner. A lot of the men visiting this site have been struggling for a long time.
That ends today!
Usually when I write for EGR I write articles.
Well, this isn’t going to be an article…
This is going to be a guide.
In other words, I am going to make this the most helpful guide on LDR (long distance relationship) ex girlfriends in existence.
I suppose I should start by acknowledging my own experience in a long distance relationship.
I Am One Of The Few “Ex”- Perts Who Can Sympathize With You
I have been in a long distance relationship before.
March 18th to August 9th to be exact.
That is eight days shy of five months.
(I am rounding up though 😉 .)
Now, you may be kind of creeped out that I actually remember the dates of my long distance relationship but I assure you there is a reason I remember it. The woman that I was in a long distance relationship with for that time turned out to be my wife…
Don’t believe me?
I am a stud.
Anyways, my point in telling you this is that I know a thing or two about what it takes to make an LDR work because I have been there in the trenches.
I haven’t heard any other expert out there make that claim.
The Truth About LDR’S That No One Wants To Tell You ( I Will Though…)
Not everyone is cut out to make a long distance relationship work.
You see, out of all the situations I have seen when it comes to relationships an LDR by far has the most hurdles to overcome and it takes not one but two special people to work together to overcome them.
Yes, that means that in order to make this entire thing work your ex girlfriend has to be as intense as you about the two of you ending up together but more on that later.
Lets talk a little about the hurdles that a couple who is in a LDR will encounter.
The obvious hurdle in the way is the distance but I am looking for something a little deeper than that.
The Scary Truth About LDR’s
Every single long distance relationship is doomed.
In all my years doing this I have never once heard of a situation in which a couple stays together forever in a LDR.
Ok, imagine that you and your ex girlfriend are still dating and are still in a long distance relationship. Everything is going great and both of you decide that you want to get married.
So, that’s what you do.
The normal thing that happens for a couple at this point is that they are no longer going to be “long distance.”
They will live together (hopefully forever.)
Well, if this happens (a couple living together) then that means the LDR has ended.
In other words, a long distance relationship has to end in some way, shape or form.
Now, like most things in this world, an LDR can really only end in one of two ways.
- First Way- A breakup occurs where the the couple mutually agrees or someone in the couple no longer wants to continue.
- Second Way- The distance is killed and the couple creates a more normal relationship
Obviously you are here because your long distance relationship ended in a breakup and you would have much rather of had it end the second more pleasant way.
Speaking of the second way…
There Has To Be A Plan In Place
There is a difference between you and I.
Above I said I was in a LDR for five months and while my LDR did end it ended with me killing the distance and winding up with the woman I wanted.
You are here on this page…
And if you have read this far down the page that tells me that you had a long distance relationship that was unsuccessful and you are trying to get it back. This means that your LDR ended in the first way, with a breakup.
What we have here (when we compare your LDR to mine) are two long distance relationships that both ended but ended in very different ways.
So, what is it that I did differently?
Did I give more love than you?
No… though I am pretty good at that.
Did I make my woman more interested in me than yours was in you?
Probably… but you could have done that too if you did what I did.
What probably separated my experience from yours was the fact that I went into my LDR with a plan. You see, my (then girlfriend) and I don’t like long distance relationships. In fact, we despised them so much that we formulated a plan to get rid of the distance as soon as possible.
It took five months to see that plan through but we did and as a result we had a successful LDR.
We didn’t do what so many other couples out there do with just getting into a long distance relationship without defining future plans. Look, the absolute worst place for anyone to be is in a relationship that is stagnant and isn’t going to move anywhere.
If you don’t have a feasible plan to end up with your girlfriend permanently “location wise” before you enter a LDR then you are going to be fighting a losing battle because she will kick you to the curb eventually.
Welcome To The LDR “Hell List”
You are obviously here because you and your ex girlfriend broke up and you want to learn how to get her back.
However, I feel I would be holding back from you if I didn’t let you in on what I really believe when it comes to LDR’s.
It takes a very special type of person to make a long distance relationship work and as much as this pains me to say, it could be entirely possible that you don’t have what it takes to make it.
You know how in training to become a Navy Seal the United States put their recruits through hell and only something like 25% of candidates ever make it through “hell week?”
Well, the list I am about to give you is my own personal version of “hell week” for long distance relationships.
In other words, if you can’t meet all the criteria on this list then you probably aren’t going to be able to win your ex girlfriend back so you can go home “MAGGOT.”
(Sorry for the “maggot” thing I got a little too excitable there.)
Ok, lets take a look at this list.
- You Have To Have Extreme Maturity
- You Have To Have Patience
- You Have To Have The Means To Make It Work
Like always, lets take these points apart one by one.
You Have To Have Extreme Maturity
Being mature isn’t always easy in a long distance relationship.
You see, if you are really in love with someone but you can’t see them then you are going to be prone to a little jealousy.
Hey, no judging from me. I have been there so I know exactly how you feel.
I want you to imagine a scenario for a second.
Lets say that you are still dating your ex girlfriend and are still in a long distance relationship with her. You haven’t seen her in a few months and she calls you up one day and tells you that she just hung out with one of her good “guy friends” over lunch.
(Girls are so dumb sometimes…)
You are obviously missing her a lot and upon hearing that some other man is enjoying her company you immediately think a few things,
“He is probably trying to get in her pants…”
“Why would she hang out with him when she is supposed to be missing me?”
“I wouldn’t of done that to her..”
This is a completely normal situation to get jealous in and to be honest I wouldn’t really blame you for getting jealous. Now, a little jealousy here and there is ok but really what matters is how you handle the jealousy. There are really two ways to approach this situation.
The First Way = The Immature Way
You can throw a tantrum…
Start a fight…
And basically alienate your girlfriend causing the two of you to have more than just distance on your mind.
(FYI most guys are guilty of this.)
Of course, then there is the second way.
The Second Way = The Mature Way
You can understand that the “meet up” was casual and meant nothing.
Your girlfriend is really struggling without you and having just a friendly lunch with an old friend makes her feel a little bit better about everything.
Its a small distraction from missing you, a distraction she deserves.
Most men don’t take the high road/mature way out.
Because it’s hard.
Being mature about unfair situations often is…
You Have To Have Patience
Above I said that if you want your long distance relationship to work you need to formulate a plan in which the two of you will end up together permanently.
Assuming you have done that then that means you are going to have to be patient until the time comes for that plan to come to fruition.
Being patient during that time is extremely hard…
I told you that I was in an LDR for five months (we are rounding up remember?)
Well, when I think back to that time the thing I remember most about it was the loneliness and the impatience I felt.
My (then) girlfriend and I had worked out a deal where we would see each other once every single month until we moved in together. Well, I can remember very clearly that all I would have to look forward to were those little meet ups once a month.
They kept me going and really helped with my impatience.
Speaking of meet ups..
Lets talk about something super important to LDR’s
Having The Means To Make It Work
There are two things that you need to have in order to realistically have a shot of making a long distance relationship work.
Do you have any idea of what those two things are?
I want you to imagine two scenarios for a second.
- Scenario 1- You and your girlfriend are both 18 years old, in high school and she has just moved two states away. (Lack of Money)
- Scenario 2- You and your girlfriend are both 30 years old, in a long distance relationship and both have jobs where you work A LOT and can’t get time off to see each other. (Lack of Time)
Do you see where I am going with this?
Lets tackle scenario one first.
I have some bad news for the younger (high school) readers here who are in a long distance relationship.
You don’t have a good shot of making a long distance relationship work out. While you probably do have plenty of time to dedicate to a relationship you don’t have enough money to make it work. On average you should probably be seeing your significant other at least once a month.
If your significant other has moved a couple of states away then that means in order to see her your designated one time a month you have two options,
- Drive to see her
- Fly to see her
Lets work out the logistics of each of these things.
Driving to see her might prove to be a costly endeavor when you include gas. I mean, if your girlfriend is living two states away then you can expect to pay a minimum of $150 in gas there and back. But that is not whats really going to kill you financially in the end.
Really for a LDR to work out you have to find a more permanent solution and that usually requires someone to move to the other person.
Lets say that you and your girlfriend talk it over and the both of you decide that you should be the one to move to her.
Well, as if moving your entire life isn’t hard enough you have to figure out where you are going to live (most likely an apartment,) find a job to pay for that apartment and even then your relationship isn’t guaranteed to succeed in the end.
Are you starting to see why a lot of LDR’s fail?
My point with this scenario was simple.
If you truly want your long distance relationship to succeed then you have to have money.
Of course, that isn’t the only thing you need.
Lets look at scenario two.
In case you have forgotten scenario two consists of both you and your girlfriend being around 30 years old, in a long distance relationship and you both have established jobs but not a lot of time.
Throughout my years I have found one correlation to be unfortunately true.
If you have a well paying job then you probably have to work a lot of hours (I am from the U.S. for my non U.S. readers.)
Thus, it’s not necessarily the easiest thing in the world to get off work.
Above I established that if you are in a long distance relationship then you should at least be seeing your significant other once a month. Well, if you work a lot then you are going to have to dip into your vacation days in order to make this possible but then you get into the fact that you only have a certain amount of vacation days to dip into.
In other words, time is a major issue here.
The obvious work around is to find a permanent solution where both of you can see each other every day but then you are faced with another problem.
Both of you have jobs…
Whoever moves is going to have to find a new job…
Finding a new job isn’t easy…
Oh, and lets not forget that no man or woman wants to take that big of a risk without re-assurance that the relationship is going to be worth it and they won’t be made a fool of.
My point is simple…
If you don’t have the means (time, money) to make a LDR work then your chances of winning your ex back really decrease.
Now that we have that out of the way lets take a look at some of the other challenges with long distance relationships.
The Two Other Reasons LDR’s Are So Hard
Long distance relationships are hard for other, less obvious, reasons than just distance.
There are two that immediately spring to mind,
- Out of sight, out of mind.
- Lack of physical contact.
Lets take an in-depth look at both of these reasons,
Reason One- Out of Sight, Out of Mind
Lets say that you and your girlfriend are still dating and your girlfriend decides to go out with her friends for a “girls night out” at a bar.
Here’s the thing though, all of her friends are single and as she goes out to the bar with her friends she gets hit on and her friends are encouraging her. Since you haven’t been around for a while she has been quite lonely and starts liking the attention. Pretty soon one thing leads to another and she is drunk and making out with some random dude.
Out of sight, out of mind…
You will find that thoughts like this constantly creep in when you are in a long distance relationship.
I mean, any mention of another male that isn’t you will have you thinking like this and it is so easy to grow irritable and start a fight with your girlfriend over nothing because of it.
In fact, so many people have this problem in long distance relationships that entire breakups occur just because someone was paranoid.
Of course, then there are those cases where someone in the relationship just thinks it’s ok to cheat (it’s not.)
Oftentimes this will be the carefree women who don’t hold their relationship in high regard or the men that couldn’t keep it in their pants.
Speaking of keeping it in your pants…
Reason Two- Lack of Physical Contact
As men we like sex.
Every single week our libidos needs have to be met or we are going to be a bit cranky.
Long distance relationships don’t really do anything for our libidos needs now do they?
Heck, you can’t even hold hands or hug your girlfriend if you really wanted to and sex, well lets just say sex is off the table for a while.
Some people take this really hard and end up cheating.
Well, others just break up because they can’t handle the lack of physical contact.
How To Approach Getting A Long Distance Girlfriend Back
Getting a long distance ex girlfriend back is not an easy task. In fact, I would say that most of the men who attempt this task end up failing at it. So, my goal for this guide is to come up with a plan that you can follow to increase your chances for success.
After all, that is what we are trying to accomplish here,
Increase your chances in this particular instance.
Below I have created a graphic for you outlining what I consider to be the best way to increase your chances of getting your LDR girlfriend back.
Avid readers of this site will notice that when you look at the long distance plan there isn’t too much that differs from the general plan I teach on Ex Girlfriend Recovery PRO except for a few things.
It just so happens that those few things change the plan drastically so don’t be fooled.
Like always, I am going to be covering each of the seven steps outlined in the game plan above in a very in-depth manner so if anything is confusing to you right now try not to jump off the ship yet.
Lets take a look at step one!
Step One- Determine If You Are A Candidate
You remember the “Hell List” above in which I talked about what it takes to make a long distance relationship work?
Well, if you really want to increase your chances of getting your long distance relationship love life back on track then its a really good idea for you to determine if you even have a realistic shot of winning your ex back.
I am not going to lie to you, most men don’t have a good shot.
Their situation just isn’t conducive to it.
What do I mean by that?
If you are a high school kid that doesn’t have the time or money to find a permanent solution with your ex then you probably don’t have a situation that is amenable to working things out with your ex.
Lets take this example and roll with it for a bit.
Lets say that you are a high school kid who is 18 years old and your girlfriend just moved a few states away.
Lets make another assumption and say that you do manage to win your ex girlfriend back by following steps two to seven from the game plan above (and the game plan above has been tested and proven to work.) Well, you are still young and it could be years before either you or your girlfriend could move to each other.
So, logic dictates that another breakup is inevitable.
In other words, history will probably repeat itself if you don’t have what it takes to make things work.
Now, I don’t know about you but what I am going for here is to prevent history from repeating itself.
I know you are hurting right now as a result of this breakup but you know the only thing that will hurt more than the feeling you are feeling now.
Doing all the work I outline above, getting your girlfriend back and then having her break up with you again.
Trust me, you don’t want that.
What It Means If You Don’t Have What It Takes To Get Her Back
Lets say that you go up and read through the “Hell List” I put together above again and you determine that you really don’t think that even if you got her back you could make things work out with her.
What are you supposed to do?
Easy, in this case move on.
Seriously, if you feel like you can’t make a relationship with her work long term then what’s the point of even trying to get her back?
There is none.
So, don’t waste your precious time getting a girl back just so you can wind up hurt by another break up again.
Of course, what do you do if you determine that not only can you get your ex girlfriend back but you can keep her when you have her back?
What It Means If You DO Have What It Takes To Get Her Back
If you really believe that you can get her back and find a permanent solution where you can kill the distance then you have my blessing to move forward with the game plan above.
Seriously though, I really want you to be sure about this because once you get started on this game plan it is going to take dedication on your part and you are going to have to answer a lot of hard questions and overcome a lot of hard obstacles.
(And this is coming from someone who was able to make a long distance relationship work.)
If you really think you have what it takes you can move on to step two!
Step Two- Start No Contact
Avid readers of Ex Girlfriend Recovery will know that I am a huge fan of the no contact rule.
Heck, my E-Book even talks about how to properly utilize it.
But there always seems to be a common question that I get when it comes to the no contact rule and long distance relationships,
“Chris, since I am trying to get my girlfriend back and we were in a long distance relationship don’t you think it would be a bad idea to use the no contact rule since we are so far away?”
My answer to this question is always the same.
YOU SHOULD ABSOLUTELY USE THE NO CONTACT RULE IN A LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP.
Heck, I even think an argument can be made that no contact is even more effective in long distance relationship.
Think of it like this.
If you truly have a LDR with your girlfriend then that means that you probably don’t see each other in person that often. In other words, your main form of communication is probably through,
- Phone Calls
So, that means that you and your girlfriend were both constantly checking your phones to see if the other responded to a message, Skype call or phone call yet.
In a way, the long distance relationship trained both of you to be this way.
So, when you do, do the no contact rule...
Wait a second…
I haven’t even explained what the no contact rule is yet have I?
For an in depth explanation go here.
For a quick explanation look below,
The No Contact Rule- A designated period of time where you completely ignore your ex in every form imaginable.
Ok, now back to what I was talking about before…
Do you remember where I was?
Oh yes, the LDR training you to constantly check your phone…
Well, when you do use the no contact rule on an ex girlfriend who you had a long distance relationship with then the chances that she will be constantly checking her phone waiting for a response from you is actually pretty high.
Let me give you an example.
Lets say that your ex girlfriend sends you this text message,
Well, by the rules of no contact you would simply ignore the message.
Your ex girlfriend on the other hand is constantly checking her phone waiting for a response.
After a day she is starting to get fed up that the response isn’t coming.
After a week she is starting to think,
“I kind of miss him and having someone to talk to every day.”
So she sends you another text message which you ignore…
And again, your ex girlfriend is constantly checking her phone waiting for a response from you.
(The response doesn’t come…)
While she is angry she is starting to look at you in a different way.
She is starting to miss you and that is exactly what we want.
Step Three- Improve During The No Contact Rule
Most men make the mistake of believing that all they have to do to get their girlfriend back is make it through a period of no contact and their girlfriend will magically come running back.
If you believe that then I am going to have to burst your bubble…
But that is not really how this process works.
You have to go through a period of self improvement during no contact. So in other words, you have to actively work during no contact so you can maximize your chances of winning your girlfriend back.
I like to call this little period of self improvement,
The Gatsby Method
What Is The Gatsby Method?
The Gatsby Method is an idea I came up with that describes what you are supposed to be doing during your period of no contact. The idea is featured heavily in my E-Book,
Actually, I can’t claim sole ownership of the idea.
It was really you guys that made me think of it.
I was answering comments here at Ex Girlfriend Recovery one day and there was a guy who said something along the lines of,
“So Chris… Basically the time of improvement that you recommend during the no contact rule is like the Great Gatsby. We basically better ourselves and re-shape the perception of our girlfriends.”
I remember reading that comment and thinking to myself,
“Holy Crap… Why didn’t I think to call it that?”
And that was the moment the Gatsby Method was born.
(The Gatsby Method takes from the famous book by F. Scott Fitzgerald called The Great Gatsby.)
Basically the idea goes like this.
During your no contact period away from your ex girlfriend it is your job to improve in every way imaginable as much as you can.
I am talking about improving physically, mentally and emotionally.
The idea is that by the time you attempt to get your girlfriend back you are going to be a new man… a more attractive man in every way.
That is what you are shooting for here with “The Gatsby Method.”
Again, check out my E-Book for more information on the specifics of becoming a “Gatsby.”
Step Four- Use Indirect Methods To Stay Relevant
One of the most common questions I get from men who are using the no contact rule on their ex girlfriends is,
“How can I possibly stay relevant to my girlfriend if I am ignoring her? What if she loses feelings for me or moves on?”
It is a legitimate question to ask because it is not outside the realm of possibility that your ex girlfriend can move on during the no contact rule.
This is especially true for couples who were previously in a long distance relationship.
You know, that whole out of sight, out of mind thing?
Well, what I would recommend for those of you who are deathly afraid of your girlfriend moving on is to use indirect methods of reaching her.
Now, what do I mean by that?
An indirect method of reaching your ex girlfriend DOESN’T mean you pick up your phone and shoot her a text or call. No, rather there is a sneakier way to make sure that you stay on her mind throughout the no contact period.
Through the use of social media, mutual friends and jealousy tactics you can ensure that you can stay on her mind.
Lets take a look at each of these things now.
Indirect Method One- Social Media
Imagine your ex girlfriend logs on to Facebook one day and out of curiosity stumbles across your profile.
When she goes to your profile she is filled with anger, sadness and a bit of regret as she notices that you are having the time of your life with her.
Now, do you think this improves your chances of getting her back or not?
I would make the argument that it definitely improves your chances because as long as you remain on her mind during the no contact rule she won’t be able to successfully “get over” you. Now, the question you are probably wondering is,
“How the heck can I use social media to my favor?”
Please turn your attention to this article in which I teach you the proper way to use Facebook to improve your odds of getting her back.
Indirect Method Two- Mutual Friends
Yes, even mutual friends between the two of you have a role to play.
Now, what is the best way that you can use a mutual friend in your favor?
Well, in my experience your ex girlfriend is eventually going to ask a mutual friend how you are doing if you are doing the no contact rule. When this does happen you want to make sure that he or she relays the information that you want your ex to know.
This means that you must prepare your friends beforehand.
What should you tell them?
I have found that the best way to approach this is to tell your friends to tell your ex that you seem to be doing fine and that you aren’t talking to them too much about the breakup.
You kind of want to create a cloud of mystery that draws your ex in.
You want her to want to know more about you.
Indirect Method Three- Jealousy Methods
Jealousy methods are kind of like fire…
What I mean by that is that jealousy methods can work for you or they can work against you.
If you are starting a fire and you know exactly how to tame it then a fire can have a lot of uses. For example, you can use it to keep warm, cook things and create beauty (candles.) Of course, if you don’t tame a fire it can literally burn everything down.
Be careful if you are using jealousy tactics.
They can be extremely effective but they have to be used in the right way.
In this article I describe exactly how you need to use them.
Step Five- Build Attraction With Text Messages
So, where are we with the overall LDR game plan?
Well, we determined whether or not you had a realistic shot of making an LDR work…
We implemented the no contact rule…
We became a Gatsby…
We stayed relevant through indirect methods of “reaching out…”
Oh, and we can’t forget that we did all this during that period of no contact.
So, what exactly are you supposed to do when your no contact is over? I mean, you can’t really win an ex girlfriend back if you just ignore her forever. Some type of communication has to happen.
Well, in step five we are going to be focusing on how you can use text messages to lightly re-build attraction with your girlfriend.
Roller Coaster Theory
I love roller coasters!
As a little kid they scared me to death but as I grew to be older I fell in love with them.
Hmm… that’s kind of like a metaphor for women if you think about it.
When we were young they scared us (you remember the “cootie” days.”)
But when we grew to be older all we wanted in the world was to “ride” them..
Ok, horrible joke aside I want you to implement something called roller coaster theory for when you do contact your ex girlfriend.
What is the roller coaster theory?
Well, it is something I originally came up when I was working on my other site, Ex Boyfriend Recovery.
I was daydreaming one day about riding roller coasters and how much fun it used to be back in the good ole days and I made a very interesting connection between roller coasters and texting.
Ok, whenever you ride a roller coaster what is the first thing you say after the ride ends (and you enjoyed the roller coaster?)
“WOW I WANT TO RIDE THAT AGAIN!’
(For those readers who are 60+ please channel your inner kid.)
Well, imagine if your ex girlfriend viewed texting you like that.
Imagine if every time your conversation ended she was thinking,
“WOW I WANT TO DO THAT AGAIN!”
That is the roller coaster effect in action.
Now, you are probably wondering,
“How the heck do I achieve this effect?”
How To Achieve A Roller Coaster Effect
Figuring out how to text your ex girlfriend is a very complex and involved process.
If you wanted to know everything there is to know about it I could probably add on another 10,000 words to this article (and I don’t have the time or patience for that.)
Luckily I have a shortcut for you.
I have a way of adding 10,000 words to this post really quickly.
You want to know how?
Step Six- Using Phone/Skype
I know I kind of cut things short a little bit in the last section…
I have to keep you guys interested in exploring my site or grabbing my e-book somehow so I can’t give you the keys to the kingdom all the time.
Anyways, once you have build enough attraction with your ex you can turn your attention to building attraction through a phone call and skype.
Now, since you are in a long distance relationship phone calls, FaceTime or Skype is going to be essential for a “get your ex back” campaign.
So, what is my best advice for talking to her on the phone in this instance?
Piece of Advice #1- DON’T ASK HER TO BE YOUR GIRLFRIEND, YET…
Most men are quick to strike once they reach this part of the process.
Don’t strike yet…
We have two goals here when you get on the phone.
Our first goal is to just keep the ball rolling on the attraction front. Keep priming her attraction wise through phone game which you can read about here.
Our second goal happens to be my next piece of advice!
Piece of Advice #2- OUR MAIN GOAL HERE IS TO SEE HER IN PERSON
So, here is the way things are supposed to go.
NC – TEXTS – CALLS – IN PERSON
Right now we are on the “calls” part so you have to build enough attraction on the phone to get her to say yes to a meet up in person.
Once you are in person then you can ask her to be official again.
Of course, there is an interesting little secret I am going to let you in on when you meet up with her in person again.
Step Seven- Planning A Get-Together
There are two things I really want to cover in this final section.
- How To Plan The “Get-Together.”
- What Will Likely Happen When You Do.
Lets just dive right in!
How Do You Plan A Get Together
If you are still considered “long distance” then getting a date with your ex isn’t going to be easy as just calling her up and going,
“Hey, lets get a cup of coffee some time.”
Interestingly, for non long distance relationships this is what I usually recommend.
I mean, a non threatening meet up after you have built enough attraction is a great way to further build attraction and get a step closer to getting a girl back.
Of course, you are in a much different situation.
Things aren’t as easy as just calling her up and asking her out for a cup of coffee.
No, you might actually have to travel halfway across the country or even to a different country just to see her.
So, in order for this to work SHE really has to want to see you.
Oh, and I volunteered you as the one to go out to see her because women love to feel romanced or like a man is willing to go to the ends of the earth for her so lets give her this to further cement your importance to her.
Your success for getting her to say yes to a “get together” is going to revolve around how good of a job you did on building attraction with her after the no contact rule.
If you want more information on how to do that properly then please check out my E-Book,
So, the idea here is that you build up a ton of attraction through texts, phone calls and FaceTime or Skype and there is no way she can so no to someone traveling just to see her!
Lets just assume that you did your job right and built up enough attraction and she says yes to a meet up.
What It Means If She Says Yes To A Get Together
Do you understand the significance of a long distance ex girlfriend say yes to you traveling to see just her?
Put yourself in her shoes for a moment.
Your ex boyfriend who you still have feelings for has just told you that he is going to travel across the country to see you. HE IS DOING THIS FOR YOU!
There is no greater feeling as a woman.
Once you have your ex girlfriend saying yes to a meet up like this then the cat is pretty much in the bag.
The probability of her saying yes when you do ask her to be your girlfriend again is very high.
She never had much of a chance really…