Our minds are always full of thoughts and activity, whether we be awake or asleep.
It’s hard enough to deal with a broken relationship when you are full conscious.
But what if your ex invades your dreams?
It could be your ex girlfriend or ex boyfriend. Why can’t they stay out of your head, you might think.
No doubt, times are tough enough around the period of a breakup.
Dreaming of your ex all night long sure doesn’t help.
It doesn’t matter whether you want your ex back or not. Sometimes it is nearly impossible to escape such thoughts.
Memories of them can run wild in your mind.
Day and night.
This is why it’s important to have a Game Plan such as this Program, particularly if you want to learn what to do and how to cope.
Some people go about day dreaming of what could have been or still can be.
Others get caught up in what I call quasi nightmares as they fall into dream states in which everything good or bad comes spilling out of their minds.
But what does it really mean when your ex appears in your dreams?
You turn off the lights and go down for some much needed sleep after many exhaustive days.
Yet, no sooner than you fall asleep, a entire dream sequence involving your ex unfolds like it is happening to you there and then.
Let’s talk about why it happens.
Then we will get into what it might possibly mean and what, if anything, you should do about it.
Why Do I Dream About My Ex Girlfriend (or Boyfriend)?
It is not unusual to have persistent dreams about your ex.
They can last weeks, months, years, or even a lifetime.
People are always wondering why these dreams happen and what they might possibly mean, which I will take up in the next section.
Let’s talk first about the “Why”.
So having recurring dreams about your ex is not unusual or anything that is really unhealthy.
It is just the mind’s way of seeking to cope with change and fears.
My clients have reported having all kinds of dreams.
They will dream about whether their ex misses them.
They will report that they are seeing their ex with someone else, which usually speaks to an underlying fear or insecurity. The truth may be that their ex is not seeing anyone.
Or they may actually dream of their ex out on a date with their new boyfriend or girlfriend because they can’t stop thinking about it.
And don’t be terribly surprised if some of those dreams of your ex revolves around them sleeping with the other guy or girl.
If you have fears and anxieties, which we all do, then pretty much anything is possible when it comes to the cinema of the mind.
You may wonder if your ex is dreaming about you.
The answer to that is yes, most likely.
There is a sort of mirroring phenomenon that happens between two people are get really close.
People will report to me that they dream of their ex every night.
It doesn’t take a degree in psychology to see what is behind that. When we have been so close to someone and now things have presumably ended, it can be emotionally traumatic and that stress and anxiety has to go somewhere.
But dreams don’t always reflect the “negative” about your situation with your ex.
Sometimes, your dreams treat you to a good time, remembering special moments or playing them out in a different way.
Trust me, don’t try to read too much into the details of what unfolds in your dreams.
Think of them more as an escape hatch for your subconscious which is filled with thoughts, worries, fears, hopes and aspirations.
Do the Dreams About My Ex Mean Anything?
So you are probably wondering what those dreams about your ex really mean?
IF only you had a secret cipher to unlock those confounding dreams!
Well guess what! You don’t need a special key to unlock the mysteries of your ex dreams.
What is important to know is that your dreams are largely expressions of your subconscious relieving the clutter in your mind.
It is only natural for you to dream about the man or woman you love, even if they are now your ex.
Make no mistake. Whether you realize or not, you have a lot of pent up emotional and physical energy that has to get out. Sometimes it can get a bit chaotic how we express all of this.
So be careful about applying too much meaning to your dreams about your ex.
If you are dreaming about the two of you are making love, it does not foretell that is what is about to happen. There will be other factors, real ones, that will influence that kind of interaction.
If you are dreaming about your ex talking to you about something and it doesn’t make sense, then just know that dreams more often than not, don’t make sense.
So don’t allow yourself to get frustrated if you wake up confused about what it all means.
Remember, the meaning of dreams seldom represent a reliable prediction of what is to be.
Heck, in many cases, you won’t even remember all of your dreams about your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend.
Those images that floated through your head at night may have already dissipated. If you do later recall something, it may likely be just fleeting. Don’t wrack your brain trying to remember every detail. There is no secret payoff.
So will it hurt you to think about your ex dream?
If it’s a positive dream that makes you feel good, that is probably a good thing.
But don’t get lost in the delusion that it means something really good or bad is about to happen.
If the dream you had about your ex is upsetting and set you back on your heels, then its usually best to just leave it behind you and remind yourself that it was not real and holds no special predictive value.
What Should You Do If You Keep Dreaming About Your Ex?
Sometimes you might find yourself constantly dreaming about your ex.
It is like you can’t stop them from coming.
No sooner than you lay your head on your pillow, then a dream of the one you loved or still love) comes a calling.
If this happens with frequency, then you may be nearing a stage of obsession.
Is that a bad thing?
Well, to some extent, it’s is not terribly unusual, unless you are doing it for a long period of time.
Don’t be surprised if there are a lot of thoughts about your ex you can’t shake, whether it be day or night.
If this is a path you find yourself on, then it’s time to find a new course.
It might mean that your preoccupation with your ex boyfriend or girlfriend is in the unhealthy zone.
Consider overcoming this obsessive focus on your ex by getting busy with other pursuits.
Increasing your physical activity comes to mind. You don’t have to feel devastated. Exercise has a way of throwing off the anxiety that persists in our lives.
You can also throw yourself into new and interesting activities and hobbies.
So broaden the scope of your life.
In time, you will realize that your ex is not and should never be the center of your life.
You will benefit from having a balanced life with many other interests and relationships.