Do You Even Have A Chance With Your Ex Girlfriend (Video)

What’s going on?

Did you have a good weekend?

I did so I hope you did!

Anyways, I decided that I am going to change things up a bit today. Usually I post these long guides but this week instead I am going to be giving you a video!

Exciting, right?

Don’t worry… the long guides aren’t going anywhere but I need a bit of a break from writing them for this week so you are going to have to make due with this video.

What’s the video about?

Well, it’s about whether or not you even have a chance of getting your ex girlfriend back.

Check it out!

Transcript

Chris: Burp! πŸ™‚ No, don’t! Don’t count that.

Jenifer: You better not put that in. [laughs]

Chris: Hey guys welcome to this video today!–I’ll do it again.

Jennifer: You want to put the burp in don’t you?

Chris: Alright guys, today we’re going to talk about if you have a chance. If you even have a chance–just leave it. I’ll get it.

[laughs]

Alright.

Today, we’re going to talk about if you have a chance of getting your ex girlfriend back. I’ll see you on the other side.

So, about a month ago, I was searching online for obviously, things about exes and I came across this really interesting article on Yahoo!’s homepage. It was actually poll that was done by associate press and they had a pretty shocking statistic in there. They said that four out of every ten people get back with their ex boyfriends. So, it got me to thinking, what about my own success stories? What about the people who come to ex-girlfriend recovery? The people who succeed there? So, I started dissecting all of the success stories that I’ve had and I learned some really interesting things. So, what I want to talk to you about today is if you even have a chance of getting your ex back because we know there’s so many different situations when it comes to getting an ex girlfriend back and sometimes it’s hard to figure out if you’ve got a chance or not. So, my intention with this video is to give you a better idea in your own personal situation if you even have a chance.

So, let’s start with the big kahuna of all questions. Do you have a chance of getting your ex back? Well, obviously, yes you have a chance but you’re chance kind of depends on a lot of different factors. You know, just the evidence backing up you have a chance is over whelming. There was a study done by scientists where they hooked up brain scanners to people who have recently gone through breakups and what they did was they showed pictures of their ex to them and monitored their brain activity. What they found was really shocking. The parts of the brain that lit up were the same parts of the brain that lit up when a cocaine addict was going through a withdrawal. So, it’s not too farfetched to say that going through a break up both sides are feeling the experiences of a withdrawal, of a drug withdrawal.

So, you can always leverage that if you want a chance to get your back. That’s always undeniable proof that your ex is still thinking about you. There was another study done by a graduate student that, well she found out that 90% of people search for their exes on Facebook after the breakup. 90% so, there’s a good chance that you’re still really in your ex’s thoughts.

At the beginning of this video, I mentioned that I did an independent study by myself on the success stories that came through my website, ex girlfriend recovery. And I learned some pretty fascinating things specifically what kind of situations had the best success rate. So, let’s talk about that right now. Let’s talk about what kind of a situation has the best results according to ex girlfriend recovery.

Alright, so what I’m about to show you here is maybe a little shocking but, does it necessarily make it true? Absolutely not. We’ll talk about that in a second. First, let’s get to the results.
So, obviously this has come to a shock to no one, the most successful success story that we had on ex girlfriend recovery were just general breakups. One where long distance wasn’t involved, one where there was no cheating involved, it was mutual, it wasn’t too bad, it was just a very general break up. But really the shocking things or the shocking things I’m about to show you are really the best of the results. The second most popular result and the second most success story result if you’ll have it, was cheating. Cheating, him cheating on her, her cheating on him, we had a lot of success stories which shocked me but not as much as this next one. (Him)–or rather her moving onto someone else, third most successful success story and finally long distance relationships. So, right there we have three situations that most people think are impossible to recover from yet, my study showed there are actually pretty decent chance. Now, how do I assess this myself? Well, let’s talk about that right now.

General Breakup

Alright, I can’t say that the general breakups statistic shocked me too much. Without a doubt, the most traffic that we have coming to ex-girlfriend recovery are people going through general breakups and just need general advice on how to get their exes back. So, it really didn’t shock me too much but you know when I dived in deeper to each person’s situation, I learned that over 70% of them actually used the no contact rule to success and actually recommended the no contact rule. So, if you’re going through a general breakup, probably the best thing you can do to increase your chances of success is use the no contact rule. Let’s talk a little bit about the more shocking things right now though.

Cheating

Alright, so believe or not, cheating was actually one of the most popular success stories that we had which really shocked me, I’m not going to lie. My personal opinion on the subject is, no matter how slice it, if you or your ex cheated on you, you’re in a really bad position and I don’t think it’s going to help you increase your chances at all. To be honest, I think, the sample size we had wasn’t as high as I’d like it because I only saved probably like 20% of the success stories. You know, if I went back to when it first began in the website, I’ll probably have something like 400 success stories to go on but I really only have 50 because I just started saving them recently. So, I think if we do look at the larger sample size, cheating isn’t going to show up as much and I think it’s not going to help you have a great chance. Now, does that mean you can’t succeed? Obviously not. If the second most succeeded in situation that we have is cheating, you can obviously succeed. I think actually, even though she’s a woman–we had actually a woman who succeeded in getting her ex boyfriend back and he actually proposed to her. So, they’re married now which is shocking after she cheated on him. So, if you’ve cheated on your ex girlfriend, use this as hope. You still have a chance, it’s not over yet. You will have to do certain things. I actually have a video talking about that. I’ll link to that in the description but for now let’s move on to (him) or rather her moving on to a new boyfriend.

She Got A New Boyfriend

Alright, so, her moving on to a new boyfriend, a lot of men think when they’re in this position that they really have no chance of success but that’s simply not true actually, tied with cheating as the second most popular success story that we had was having an ex girlfriend who moved on to a new boyfriend. In fact, I think third or first–I put a report together which again, I’m going to link to the description on this video that details each one of the success stories and kind of gives you an idea of what this people did. So, you can look at it for hope obviously and you can look at it in an in depth manner to figure out, “Okay this person did this to succeed, that person did that to succeed.” But, getting back to the point here, the very first success story I think I have in there is actually a guy who got his ex girlfriend back after she moved on to a new boyfriend which it’s really good. It gives you a lot of hope which is what I’m trying to convey to you here. Now, as far as what people who had an ex move on to someone else did to get their exes’ back, jealousy actually was one of the most popular tactics. It’s actually kind of impressed me how successful it was in making their ex kind of perk up and realize, “Wow, I shouldn’t have let that person go.” So, let’s move on to the final success story we had here which was long distance.

Long Distance Relationships

You know if there’s ever one situation out of all of this that I can kind of connect the most with, it’s actually a long distance relationship because my wife and I, before we were married, I think for something like 6 months we were in a long distance relationship. And when I say a long distance relationship, I mean we were literally across the country from each other, 1600 miles. It’s not like I could just drive up there every weekend or something. So, if you’re in a long distance relationship situation. I’m going to tell you a thing that I tell most people who are in your situation. You have to have three things in order for a long distance relationship to work out. I don’t want to waste your time. I’ll just explain the three things to you right now.

The first thing is you need to have money. Last time I checked, it cost money to travel to visit someone long distance. Even if it’s as simple as a hundred miles away, gas costs money nowadays. Obviously plane tickets costs a lot of money. I think I even dropped $700 on a plane ticket just to visit my wife in July of 2014. So, it’s not necessarily like the most inexpensive type of relationship to have. So, if you’re going to make a long distance relationship work and if you and your ex are long distance, you obviously need to have the means to see your ex.
Now, the second thing that you need is time. One thing that I really had in my favor when it came to my relationship with my wife, then girlfriend at that time was, the fact that I had all the time in the world because I make my own schedule. I work for myself. I don’t work for anyone. I didn’t have a job holding me down saying, “You can’t leave or you’re fired.” She actually did have a job like that but luckily all it took was just one of us to make that work.

And finally the third thing is you really need to have a plan. This is kind of the hardest thing to get because it’s a two way street. One person, just can’t have a plan themselves. It takes two people to make the plan work. When I talk about the plan, I’m really talking about the plan to not be in long distance anymore, be completely together in kind of a short distance. My wife and I in this case we moved in together after 6 months but it took a long time to get there. We had to look for apartments, we had to kind of feel through it and figure out it was the right decision for us. I think a lot of people, if I was to rate this, granted the chance, I don’t think long distance relationships have the greatest chance in the world. Do they have a better chance than cheating and a girl moving on to another guy? Absolutely, without a doubt. I think out of the four situations, I was thinking here about the three shocking situations, long distance relationships definitely have the best chance of success but don’t waste your time. If you can’t get these three things, you’re not really going to have a good chance. I feel I would be lying to you if I told you otherwise.

So, the thing that I’m going to tell you right now is, make sure you have those three things that I just told you about if you’re going to have any chance to get your ex girlfriend back or if you’re not going to create a campaign where you really try to get her back because you really need to commit your all to this to get an ex girlfriend back. One of the biggest mistakes that I see people making nowadays is they enter into trying to get an ex girlfriend back kind of half asked a little bit. You need to be full into this thing. You need to be committed to this thing. Even if it doesn’t work out, at least you can fall asleep at night thinking that, “I did thing everything possible to get her back. I can live with myself.” So, that’s going to do it for today’s video.

Hey, thanks for watching this video to the end. If you want to support us in the ex girlfriend recovery family. Please subscribe to this channel. Please like our videos or just get involved with us. We’re very responsive. I’ve created a whole team around helping you get your ex girlfriend back. So, if you comment to the YouTube section, if you comment on the website, if you even email us, you’ll get a response from one of our representatives. So, please if you haven’t done so already, like this video and subscribe to the channel. And of course, if you want to learn anything more about getting your ex girlfriend back, please visit www.exgirlfriendrecovery.com . You can find the link in the description. I’ll see you next time.

		

Written by EGR team mate

Chris Seiter

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Rackey
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Hi,I had a relationship with girl who loved me so much. We planned to live together and get married. In last few mouths I just became needy, critizing her so much, talking she is fat, were very bad to her. We had a lot of fighting. And finally she cheated on me. I saw she locked her phone and I find out the day later. Said her very bad things and get her out from my house in the middle of night. After that I called her to sorry, I went to other town to see her, we agreed just… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Restart the nc and stop talking to her friend too..and dont threat her again.. That’s not going to rebuild rapport.. And you’re just continuing the same mistake or reason that she broke up with you

Rackey
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Hi Amor.
Thanks for replying. I just forgot to tell you some things. Before NC she told me that she cheated on me because I was talking to her that she was cheating and hes better person than memh. Is it normal? And for last few months she has new female friend. I met her friend before, she is little liar, and she acts like she cares about my ex. After break up she convinced my ex to live with

Rackey
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Sory my phone interrupted my message, i wil continue. After break up she convinced my ex to live with her in other town. I decided to be better person, not to argue with her, to listen and understand her, and not to be needy. My NC lasts until 6th Jully. After that I will try to get her back, I don’t believe that I will succeed because she doesn’t even regret for cheating on me. But if I succeed, do I even have a time to build enough strong connection to make her want to stay here​ until September?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

building connection is before trying to get her back.. you need to keep improving yourself while slowly building rapport and attraction.

Rackey
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Hi Amor, thanks for replying. I started contact with my ex after NC, and after few days I received the phone call from our mutual friend. She told me: “Your ex can’t believe that you changed yourself that much, she told me that she doesn’t want anything to do with you, and she wants to hurt you because she thinks that you are liar. ” Is there anything I can do?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

that’s good.. That means it’s working. Just keep being in nc.. be active in improving yourself and in posting.

Bob
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Hi Chris and Team, So my ex and I have been in a serious relationship for 1 year and almost 3 months until she broke up with me since Jan 21 2017. She was 24, my first girlfriend, and I am 26, her third boyfriend. Initially, she told me that we needed some time off each other and that we need a break, and obviously I took it as a break up. I was hugely devastated so I pleaded and begged for her to give me a chance before breaking up because I think it is a problem I can… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Bob,

I think you need to do at least 45 days.. be very active in changing and improving yourself even after nc.. and slowly build rapport..dont beg again..

Bob
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Hi Amor, Thanks for replying. I forgot to mention 2 more details. During our last meeting, she also told me that she is afraid her feelings towards me would come back, which appeared to be the reason why she never came when our friends invited her to hang out together. The second one was a couple days ago where I intentionally did not wish her happy birthday (I really wanted to wish her, but decided against it because of NC period). But a friend of ours who wished her did mention to lets hang out together again, to which she… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

thats means she still feels something for you

Jake
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I honestly cannot get a read on my ex. I’ve tried to ask mutual friends, tooβ€” some say I have no shot, others say she’ll break sooner rather than later. My story is a bit long (sorry about that). We had what we both thought at the time was a great relationship. Met over the winter (both freshman in college), although I had seen her a bit first semester and thought she was cute. Turns out, she actually was essentially stalking me first semester, trying to figure out what classes I would take for the spring term. Instead, when she… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Jake,

sorry I had just reached your first comment… she’s used to you being around and chasing her..what have you mostly talked abo

Drew
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I did the mistake of begging my ex back after the breakup. We had a small fight where she told me to delete her number. I apologized and told her I wanted us to go back like we use to be this was all during text. I tried calling her a week later and she ended the phone call I could tell. Then I stop for two weeks. I called her again and she ask what I wanted and I ask could we be friends and she asked why should we and I said cause I think we should. She… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Drew,

this time try to do a full 30 day nc and be active un posting in your account.. don’t caption it that it’s for or for moving on..just make it a casual post

Drew
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Yeah I sent her two more text I asked for her cousin number since we are close friends. Then two days later I text her. My bad with all the texting I respect what you want now and I’m glad I got to spend all those times with you. Was that a good thing to do I started no contact today?

Justin
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Hey I’m just going to try and keep this short as possible. My ex (21) and I (24) were together 5 months before we broke up. She kept insisting she still had strong feelings and that she wasn’t sure she wanted to break up and that she could see us back together one day but felt it was for the best at the time. Fast forward 2.5 months later, I did some NC along the way but we’ve still been hanging out every 7-10 days and having flirty late night text convos like 3-4 times a week along the way… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Justin,

when was the last time you asked her to try again?

Ben Frierson
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Thank you for all your help I’m going to try my best on working on my self and try again later on at some point in time.????

Ben Frierson
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And also it seems like she doesn’t care or like no emotions how can I deal with that.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor
It’s still early and from what she said, to be honest, it looks like she’s moved on.. And from your previous comments, it also looks like she looks at you like you’re chasing her or obsessed with her. 30 days is not enough to change that. I think it’s either 60-90 days and really work on moving on before trying to contact her again. On the other comment, you said she has instagram, do you mean she deleted it now? Or you’re just blocked? Because if you’re just blocked, continue on updating your instagram or make an account. Don’t add… Read more »
Ben Frierson
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She never had an Instagram. Only a Facebook and we do live in the same city. We might bump into each other at the mall other then that not really any places I could think of. I’m a close friend to her cousin. But I can do a restart.

Ben Frierson
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I don’t have a Facebook and she doesn’t have a Instagram. I forgot to go in to detail about that. But I’ve been going to the gym and starting to feel better. But I’m not giving up on this girl cause I do truly love her.

Ben Frierson
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I totally understand now. But the only problem is she has a Facebook and I have a Instagram I don’t know how she would know that I am improving.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

hmmm.. so you mean you’re you don’t have facebook and you’re not friends there? still update your instagram, coz we’re not sure if she’s checking that or not and if you have facebook, connect that to your instagram.

Ben Frierson
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Can I just call her instead I don’t think she would respond to my text because she is kind of stubborn. I mean I can wait another 30 days or so.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

the reason we prefer texts first is because there’s no dead air and you get to think about what to say first. So, if you can manage that in a call, that’s ok..just end it at high point too.

Ben Frierson
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Should I just wait until nc is over or try now?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

if you’re in second nc, you should continue on improving… actually even after no contact.. and also, in your case, after what recently happened, she will not respond if she knows you’re trying to get her back. You have to appear first that you’ve really moved on, so if she checks your recent posts, it will back up that you really have moved on and just being friendly.. instead of just saying it because that’s not convincing.

Ben Frierson
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I said this in the Text hey I just wanted to say hey and hope your doing well and never got a text back.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

It’s not that interesting for her.. you have to choose a topic that she loves to talk about

Ben Frierson
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I texted her two weeks later and got no reply. That was on May 30th and I have been in no contact ever since then.

Ben frierson
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Long story short me and my ex gf got into a fight because of me being insecure about her talking to other guys and me asking her questions. She knows I want to work on a relationship. So basically I asked her about a guy then she says she never even talk to him. She told me to delete her number and never text her again. I apologize that day realizing it was none of my business and told her I love her and care about her and I wanted to work things out. I got no reply. So i… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Ben,

Did you proceed to no contact?

Doug
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Hey Amor/Chris, I (29 years old) recently had a successful date with my ex girlfriend (27 years old), we kissed at the end and she sent me a heart-felt message the following morning. A few days later she invited me to go to the cinema with her friends and I went along (kissed on the lips and I held her hand during the movie). Since then I decided to make amends of the issues that previously broke us up (me not being open to her), and called her to tell her. I then followed up with a message the following… Read more »
Sebastian
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Hi amor and chris, im in desperate need of your help, i just broke up with my girlfriend of 21 months, she was my first love and i was her second one, we are both 20 yrs old now. I have to give you a bit of a backstory before i tell u why we broke up, she fell in love with me after she broke up with her first lover, i did really end up crazy in love with her and it looked like she did too, but after i managed to talk face to face, i had to… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Sebastian,

are you doing no contact?

Mr.Manel
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Hi, Amor and Chris. I have written to you once before this one. I was in a Period of No-Contact with my ex-gf before easter. Then, she talked to me to make out and come to talkative terms again (by the end of No-Contact). We started talking like friends again, at first she was cold but then she started being so friendly, we started to talk every day for a week and I even went to visit her to her city and stayed to sleep (just that) at her place. Then, a few days after that, I asked her to… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Mr Manel,

do you know why she suddenly stopped talking? when you stayed to sleep did it went well?

Mr. Manel
Guest

Yes, it was fine, I have some troubles with anxiety and she understood it, she took care of me and helped me out with it. A few days later I tried to explain her the reason of my anxiety but she never answered nor even saw the messages.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

hmm, I don’t think that’s the reason.. but let’s it is.. then maybe she was afraid you would get clingy.. that means you have to establish again that you’re not like that.. I know this sucks but it’s hard to tell if we don’t know what the real reason is.

Mr. Manel
Guest

So, how do I do it now? Just give her some more time I guess

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

yes, and continue what you were doing during nc..

Mr. Manel
Guest

So, I talked to her today. She said she feels nothing about me but hatred and revulsion and that she doesn’t want me to talk to her anymore. She said she felt uncomfortable after sleeping together and that she thinks that this is unhealthy.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

after that,that means you need to be distant again….she’s not ready to be starting over.

Mr. Manel
Guest

So, it would be ok to contact her in a week and tell her that I am sorry she feels that way?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

yes,it’s ok yo apologize but expect that it will take longer than that to get comfortable again

Mr. Manel
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So I will maybe wait a month or two. Thank you for the help!

Jason
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Hey Amor and Chris, So I started seeing this girl about 2 months ago. This girl was all I ever dreamed of, we felt extremely comfortable with each other immediately. Everything was going amazing, she would text me good morning everyday and goodnight as well, we would see each other every Saturday, and sometimes for coffee during the week, or just a little meet up. I took her out for Valentine’s day, and asked her to be my girlfriend, and to my surprise she was extremely excited to be mine. She would always text me randomly and say that she… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Jason,

sorry for the late reply.. Are you still in nc?

Joshua
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Thanks Armor…well last friday night while at our girls softball game (her daughter is on my daughters team) my ex noticed me on my phone laughing. She called during my conversation and in a very pissed off tone said “I’m glad you’re so happy” when I tried to explain to her I wasn’t she, she hung up on me and wouldnt talk to me. That was 2 days in no contact when she called. What does this mean, does she still care? Is she caving?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Joshua,

sorry late reply.. any update?

Joshua
Guest

If a girl says, “She cant say she is still not in love with me” and when I ask her if her heart wants to be apart and she doesnt answer me….does that mean she still wants to be together. Do I have a chance to get her back?

Joshua
Guest

I’m sorry meant…. she can’t say …she is not in love with me.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

That can mean she’s unsure of her feelings.. she may have feelings for you but she doeasn’t want to get back too

Jason
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Hi so Im in a pretty bad situation. My girlfriend wanted to break up or take a break, I opted for the break, then a couple days after i broke up with her. Up to this point it was fairly friendly, but the next week we got into a horrible fight that I pretty much initiated for no good reason. After that i went three weeks no contact, until I ran into her on the sidewalk. I said hello and she said it back, but she was clearly very pissed off at me when she said it. Its been a… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Yes, if she still pissed be patient and send a positive last text that has an ending that can be carried over to your next text.. Like,

I understand if you’re still pissed. I guess your insight about something could wait when everything is good. Got to run to work too. Have a good day!

Jason
Guest

Alright, but I feel like i should let you know that this fight was god awful and I said some pretty hurtful things. I had asked for closure and she had given me some real reasons for once. It all seemed pretty final, but Im not sure because she could have just been angry. Knowing that, should my apology be a short one, or long one that addresses a lot and states the things I’ve changed? And how long should I wait exactly? Thanks

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Oh.. make it sincere and as short as you can, if it’d too long she might not read all of it, if it’s too short she might not believe your apology.. So, just say the important ones..and sent anytime now coz it’s been a week from that

Jenna
Guest

Hi Chris,
Do all these ex-boyfriend recovery tips work the same in lesbian relationships? I’m not trying to stereotype but some lesbians have very masculine qualities, so would it be best to look at the ex-boyfriend website, or the ex-girlfriend one since she’s a woman?

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Jenna,
no contact is actually not gender specific.. it actually depends more on the situation of the problem or reason of the person if it is suitable to do no contact.. the solutions depend on reason too, sometimes yes the gender affects the way of thinking and approach..but it’s better if you take weigh the situation and reason too in making a decision

Hector
Guest

Hi Amor and Chris.
I just purchased today the texting bible and bonus books but I’m unable to open them. When I try to open them or contact [email protected] it takes me to a site called clickfunnels.com where it states “something is broken”. Can you please help me?

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Hector,

Sorry about that. Is this the same email you used to purchase it?

Hector
Guest

Hi Amor,
The issue has been fixed.
Thanks for the follow up.

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

you’re welcome!

George
Guest

Okay. What if she reacts neutrally or negatively?

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

don’t react the same way.. just be casual..like “ok, I understand.” and then excuse yourself or make a humorous reply and then excusr yourself

George
Guest

Okay thank you. I have an explanantion of what happened at the bottom of this page. Any thoughts?

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Good for you! Yes, just continue on until you step up to calls. πŸ™‚

George
Guest

Okay, thank you Amor πŸ™‚

George
Guest

What if she suddenly stopped being interested? Like in facebook, she seened me? What should i do?

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

just once? you can just rest for a day from texting

George
Guest

Okay thank you πŸ™‚

George
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Heyy Amor, its me again. How do you deal with a hard to get ex? Im really having trouble reattracting her especially if she replies within 30-60 mins. and she loses interest. Any thoughts?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

If she losses interest within 30 minutes, that means you have to end the convo before that. And it also depends on why she’s hard to get.. does she not trust, is she busy, or she doesn’t seem to find enough value and interest?

George
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Either shes busy or doesnt find value or interest. How do i make my messages a lot more interesting?

George
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Hey Amor! Id just like to say my progress. At the beginning days, we were just regularly texting each other.( i always start the convo). And then she actually trusts me with her friendship stuff and she talks to me about it. Basically, we were just texting regulary. Then suddenly she didnt seem to reply to my texts when i sent them.(like she went online al lot w/o reading my msgs) so basically i was sentzone so i was like, okay, ill just skip a day of texting her. The same thingg happened like she wouldnt reply. So i skipped… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

sorry for the late reply.. are you back to positive texts?

George
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Yes i am. Right now, i will currently text her today. Btw, i didnt communicate with her for 5 days after the whole she responded negatively thing. Then i chatted with her again 2 days ago briefly and had good responses. Any thoughts?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

that’s good if she responds good again, try to message again the next day

George
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Okay thank you πŸ™‚ Ill update you after a few days

George
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Hey Amor! Id just like to update you on my progress. I think i screwed up or something. I just showed her this face swap with this app that i used and then she laughed and i faced swap her and then she laughed again. I then called her beautiful in the photo and then she responded with a single word response. When i continued the conversation, she sentzoned me and she pretty much didnt respond after that. What should i do?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

If she laughed and was positive, maybe she was just busy at that time.. or she’s not ready for you to take the next step. So, take it slow and continue being friendly.

George
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Hey Amor! Id just like to update you. So ive been chatting with her. I showed her my face swap with this face swap app and she laughed. I asked if i could face swap her and she agreed. She laughed again hahahaha when i showed her. And then i think i screwed up by saying that she was beautiful in the chat. After that, i continued the chat but then she sentzoned me and didnt reply anymore. She ignored the chat after that. Could lyou help me?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

If she laughed and was positive, maybe she was just busy at that time.. or she’s not ready for you to take the next step. So, take it slow and continue being friendly.

George
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Okay thank you. Ill update you nxt time πŸ˜€

George
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Hey Amor! I chatted with her today. It just went smoothly. We chatted back and forth and yeah, i ended it with a neutral note. Whats your suggestion Amor? Should I wait another day then chat, or chat with her tomorrow?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Try to chat with her the next and then increase the number of exchanges before cutting it off. Try the tide theory. LIke 1-2 text at the first day, 2-4 at the second, 5-6 at the third and then rest on the 4th.. You can tweak it, as long as you take a day of rest when you’ve reached maximum number of replies.. and then restart the number of replies when you’ve built enough rapport transition to calls.

George
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Okay I will do the Tide Theory thing. Thank you πŸ™‚

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

You’re welcome!

George
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Hey Amor, I chatted with her again but then she was busy last night when I chatted her. So I showed her a dress that looked pretty and well yeah she agreed. Then I edited her face into the dress and she laughed and yeah. After that, it was getting pretty late so I ended the conversation. I guess she was really busy. She even replied her last message at around 12am in the morning. So the conversation was cut short. What I noticed though is that when I greet her a goodnight or nightie(like when I want to sleep,… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

for me, her being responsive to your jokes is a good sign compared to just the “night” response as a good night.

George
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Well, it happened in one chat. I made her laugh with something and then when I end the conversation, she said night. What is she trying to convey?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

I mean, the nigt response for me doesn’t mean anything.. I think itbwas a good talk because she responded well with your joke

George
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Ohh okay i understand. My birthday just passed, she greeted me through pm. Should I continue being friendly?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Yes, be active in building rapport before it dies down because the texts are just supposed to help you transition to calls that will help to transition to dates later on.

George
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I message her every after 1 day. When do you determine if im ready to transition to calls?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

when you’re having a series of posive responses.. you can also text her daily before transitioning to calls, but if all your texts now are positive, the next time you text again, before the high point of texting try to call her.

George
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Thank You Amor. Ill follow what you have told me πŸ™‚

George
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Hey Amor. I haven’t gone through this site in a long time. Just let me narrate you what happened real quick. So my ex girlfriend and I chatted and chatted and sometimes i chat after a day has passed and so on. (like i skip a day) after that, one day, when i chaatted with her, she felt uninterested and had reallyyy slow replies. This kept going on and on the more i chat with her.(and just when i wanted to proceed to the calling part of it) so i decided to just rest because i was tired of it… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

yeah, it looks like it dragged.. next time, try to transition to calls within the week or early next week of it, while the convo is at high point.

Phil
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I am in a really rough situation (like most guys here haha). I had been going out with my (now ex) girlfriend for 6 months. I admit things moved way too quickly. We met in college (we are both sophomores) and she admitted to having the biggest crush on me when we were just friends freshmen year. Over the summer I went overseas for some training and we stayed in touch whenever we could (which was very often). When I got back we met up and we went on what I thought was a friend date (I thought I was… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Phil,

It looks like she’s dependent, when she says another guy being there for her, she grabs it for security.. which is bad of course because that means she’s not really in love, just needy.

It’s okay that you did what did.. what’a more imprtant now is what you’re going to do..

If you have been like this fir 6 months, it’s time to talk to her, tell her that this is not working because of everything that is happening.. and you need time for yourself..don’t tell her for how long.. just do nc after you say that..

Will
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Hey, I’m new to this site, but I thought you guys could help me. My Ex broke up with me about two and a half weeks ago, it was a sort of clean break up (compared to most, there was no fighting) and after many nights of sleepless thinking, I came to the conclusion that this is the girl I was destined to meet, I can’t just let her go without giving it my all to win her back. I think to get the most accurate answer, I need to not just cover the break up, but also a quick… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Will,

It’s a nice story… I hope there are more guys like you.. The best guess I have is that ldr was just too hard for her and the spark was gone because of the distance and because of how busy she is..When was the last time you talked? Does she know that you’re coming this winter break?

Will
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The last time we talked was Feb. 25th, when the breakup happened. And before that, we had about a month of break time. As for the Winter Break trip, it was something we planned for the past few months during the relationship. Her best friend suggested that even though My Ex and I broke up, that I should still visit Japan this Winter Break, as it would possibly be the best time to make her fall for me again. I’m very conflicted about it, because if there is any shot of me winning her back, it would be that one.… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

if her best friend said that, I think you can trust her enough to know her…but right now, giver her space through nc and initiate again after that so you’ll know of you can rebuild rapport between the two of you

WILL
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Thank You, I’ll take your advice, I’d rather have a little bit of NC, than losing her completely.

Nicholas
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My ex girlfriend dumped me for another guy about 5 months ago (we were together for 15 months) but every time I see her (we work at the same place but rarely overlapping shifts) she seems to flirt with me. I don’t initiate the conversations she makes all the effort every time. I still find myself wanting her back even though I am trying to move on. I don’t want to do anything to break them up (I honestly want her to be happy no matter who she is with) but I get the feeling she still loves me. Do… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Nicholas,

If she flirts with you, yes..

Brad
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It’s me again, here’s my story. Broke up 9 months ago, we were madly in love and the relationship goes for 8 months, I’m her first sexual partner so she’s quite attached to me. At the end phase of relationship I’m too controlling and insecure and she’s enough of it (maybe that’s the reason) and break things off, the breakup was really emotional. I did begging and pleading for 2 months, buying her stuff, etc. But she just act nasty towards me and swept me off from her place. I did do a NC for 30 days and start to… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

That’ s hard coz we won’t know that exactly… her posts can give a hint and her actions and what her friends say but the thing is, you can’t ask because they will probably tell her you’re asking

Brad
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Then what should I do next? Any new advice? I still can fully access her instagram without her knowing, and she’s only posting her having a good time with her friends and stuff. No boyfriend confirmed. I just saw her waiting for a cab with her sister, and looks like she don’t look at me on purpose, it’s not like I care anyway. I’ve been doing really good concentrating on myself, and planning to do so without contacting her ever again.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

That’s basically it.. but if you’re not contacting her ever again.. give yoursef a time until when you’re going to wait

Kent
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Hi Amor! Approximately how long does a woman move on after a breakup after a 1 year relationship? Or if not, any relationship?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Kent,

it really differs from person to person, but according to studies making or breaking a habit is done after 66 days… so she might get out of the habit of thinking about you after 66 days of not thinking about you or trying not to think about you

Kent
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Thanks, anyways, how do you deal with a a fight after the breakup?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

you have to let it cool down and reach out first then apologize calmly… this post details more about that

Reattracting an ex girlfriend after fighting with her

George
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Yes I see her posts and see her in person since were in the same school. She seems okay without me right now based from her facial expressions. I guess shes sort of annoyed by me when i try to text her. There was once wherein i showed her a video of me guitaring and she was like, (y) the like sign used in fb.

Robert
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Oh and the last time I told her I’m walking away for good..no reply or nothing. Oh well..I got tons of other women wanting me…but I only want her…crappy part…she thinks I cheated on her when I didn’t. And this keeps her from coming back 100% I think….plus new guy is rich. ..lol

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Robert,

She thinks like that because that’s what she’s been doing.. if you can have a calm talk first about what’s really happening that would be better

Robert
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Hey…my question is this. We broke up three months ago….week goes by.. Then she aghrees to a date and that she’s missing me…we have a wonderful fourhwheelin trio together…Netflix and chill…then make up sex.. Or so I thought. Next day is her birthday. She invites me over….birthday sex! Yay for me! Not…next day she goes cold…wants to be friends…our fights were too much…well I’m pissed…I let her know… Well…a couple weeks go by…she starts going off on me…saying I’m a horrible person…then next day we hook up…everything is beautiful bliss again for a couple days…then she goes cold again saying… Read more »
George
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Hey Chris and Amor! After 2.5 months of the breakup, what is the current feeling of my ex right now? Does she still have feelings for me? Can you at least tell me a generalization? By the way we had only one fight after the breakup. Thanks πŸ™‚

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi George,

it really depends from person to person…do you see her posts or see her in person in some way?

George
Guest

Yes i see her in person coz were schoolmates. Based on her body language, I guess shes fine without me. I guess i kind of annoyd her or she doesnt seem interested when i text her. Even when i sent her a vid of me. Any thoughts?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

it means you hae to extend no contact and continue to focus on yourself..

George
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Isnt it too late knowing that she’ll stop thinking on me?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

hmm.. you don’t have to do a full no contact..just guage in person if she’s still annoyed ‘coz it won’t help either if you keep messaging if she’s annoyed with that..it’s like fanning the flames

George
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Thank you Amor πŸ™‚ Ill decide to talk to her next week. Im planning to give her something for an apology. Will it help?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

The scrapbook yes it’s good but it depends on her mood too.. observe her in person how she reacts with you..

George
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Ill be the jolliest person there hahahaha ill do my best to give her good vibess

George
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Okay. Ill try to be jolly as possible and even try to make her smile a little. Will it help? Plus ill say a verbal apology

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Yeah, it will help! Make the apology light..not so heavy.. Just make it sincere, not too much drama

George
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Thanks. Should I continue making conversations with her in the following days?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

If she reacts positively yes, you can try.

George
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I gave it to her. She said thank you and things went fine that point on. I chatted with her 2 days after and then she seemed interested chatting with me. I cut the convo at the high point. So, ill have to build more atttaction from summer on. Any thoughts?