My Ex Girlfriend Reached Out To Me… What Do I Do?

Hypothetical situation.

You have just went through a breakup and have accepted the fact that you are probably never going to get back together with your ex girlfriend.

Not that you don’t want to get back with her. Quite the contrary, you want to get her back more than anything but all of your attempts have fallen short. So, you begin working on healing and getting over the breakup.

Things are going well.

But that’s when something funny happens.

It’s almost like your ex girlfriend has an imaginary sixth sense where she knows you are healing and then all of a sudden she reaches out with a text like this,

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What are you supposed to do?

Well, that’s what this article is about.

Though we aren’t necessarily going to operate under an assumption that you are trying to get over an ex.

If you don’t know who I am or if you aren’t familiar with the Ex Girlfriend Recovery culture I would like to explain our mission statement here on the site,

We want to create the best content on exes in the world

I am not going to lie it’s a pretty simple mission statement but don’t let it’s simplicity fool you.

Creating the best content in the world is not easy.

Quite the contrary, it’s extremely difficult.

Luckily, we are up for the task.

So, when I look at this article there are a number of things that I feel we need to cover for it to be the best in the world,

  • Raising The Chances Of Making Her Reach Out To You
  • Was Her “Reach Out” Positive Or Negative?
  • What To Say Back To Her

But rather than listening to me ramble on let’s just dive right in.

Raising The Chances Of Making Her Reach Out To You

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You came to this page because your ex girlfriend probably reached out to you in some way, shape or form and you have no idea on how to respond.

But most men aren’t that lucky.

Most men end up being the ones who reach out to their exes first.

Besides, just because your ex girlfriend reached out to you one time doesn’t necessarily mean it will happen again but we will cover that later.

For now, I would like to talk about some of the tried and true tactics that you can utilize to increase the chances of making your ex girlfriend reach out to you.

Take a look at the graphic below,

three responses

To date, this is what our independent research has shown to be the three most effective ways to raise the chances of making an ex girlfriend reach out to you.

  1. Psychological Reactance
  2. The Zeignarik Effect
  3. Planting The Seeds For A Future Talk

Now, before I go any further I feel it’s important to make a distinction.

This research only applies to making an ex reach out to you.

Making an ex respond to you is an entirely different matter.

So, for our more confused readers,

the difference

In other words, we only looked at what methods worked the best for making an ex girlfriend reach out to you without you reaching out to her first.

Let’s take a moment and look at what our research taught us.

Actually…

Before I get started there is one more very important thing that I need to point out to you.

Take a look at the graphic above that explained the three things that you can do to raise your chances of making an ex girlfriend reach out to you.

Do you notice anything interesting about it?

No?

Here, let me help you out,

three responses

Each one of the strategies is numbered.

Why do you think that is?

Is it because I am trying to show the total number of strategies I am going to talk about.

Partly… but not really.

I actually ordered the strategies in order of effectiveness.

In other words,

Psychological Reactance > Zeignarik Effect > Planting The Seeds For A Future Talk

Now, I don’t want to knock “planting the seeds.” It can be wildly effective if it is used properly.

BUT our research has shown that more people have had more success with psychological reactance and the zeignarik effect.

But enough chit chat.

Let’s get down to business.

What Is Psychological Reactance?

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Hypothetical situation.

Let’s say that every single night you enjoyed watching TV. You would watch all kind of great shows at night,

Game of Thrones…

The Walking Dead…

House of Cards…

(Insert Your Favorite TV Show)

You enjoyed doing this so much that throughout your day you would daydream about it. Why? Because it was the only time all day long that you had alone. It was your way of decompressing.

But one night that all changed.

One of your friends had a falling out with his parents and ended up showing up at your door asking if he could sleep over.

Being the great friend you are you let him into your home.

But now he has interrupted your alone time.

What’s worse is that for the next month he interrupts your alone time every day.

Instead, of watching TV alone like you love to you are forced to talk to him and it starts to get on your nerves.

What do you do?

Inevitably a time will come where you try to re-obtain your freedom to watch TV alone.

This is psychological reactance at work.

Psychological Reactance- States that human beings have a certain number of freedoms and whenever those freedoms begin to feel threatened they will usually react in a way to try to re-obtain those freedoms.

So, let’s dumb this down using the example I gave above.

You had a freedom that you loved so much you would look forward to it throughout the day, watching TV.

But then your friend came into the picture and threatened that freedom.

So, what did you do?

You reacted in a way that will allow you to re-obtain that freedom.

How does any of this apply to your ex girlfriend?

Three words!

The No Contact Rule!

By using the no contact rule on your ex girlfriend you are depriving her of her freedom to talk to you.

And according to psychological reactance what is she going to do?

She is going to react in a way that aligns with her trying to re-obtain that freedom.

Hence, she will reach out to you.

Our research has found this to be the most effective method for getting an ex girlfriend to reach out to you without you having to do anything. Of course, just because it’s the most successful method doesn’t mean that it’s going to happen all the time.

So, don’t be disappointed if she doesn’t reach out to you if you did the no contact rule on her.

Sometimes things like that happen but that’s why there are two other strategies that we teach for getting an ex girlfriend to reach out to you.

What Is “The Zeignarik Effect”

zeigarnike effect

Above I gave an example that talked about three TV shows.

Game of Thrones…

The Walking Dead…

House of Cards…

I assure you this wasn’t done without a purpose.

I chose these three shows because they all have something in common.

Care to take a guess at what that “common aspect” is?

They all utilize “The Zeignarik Effect.”

In 1927 a woman who goes by the name of Bulma Zeignarik published a report that would forever change the way we view human beings.

You see, Zeignarik, had been listening to one of her professors tell a story about how he noticed that a waiter who was waiting on him had a better recollection of his unpaid orders. However, once the unpaid orders had been paid he couldn’t remember them anymore.

This gave Zeignarik an idea.

She decided that she was going to perform a series of tests to figure out what this phenomenon was.

(source)

Her tests taught her something fascinating.

The Zeignarik Effect- People remember interrupted or uncompleted tasks better than completed ones.

Now, I know what you are thinking.

“But Chris, that still doesn’t explain how these TV shows utilize the ZE (Zeignarik Effect)”

Actually it does.

Take my favorite show of the bunch, Game of Thrones.

Every season that Game of Thrones has is 10 episodes long. In other words, it tells a big story that gets interrupted 10 times,

10 episodes

Each of these interruptions is considered a utilization of “The Zeignarik Effect.”

It creates anticipation for the next episode.

How?

Well, it interrupts the story making it easier to remember.

So, how does this tie in to your ex girlfriend?

Let’s pretend that you and your ex girlfriend are texting back and forth.

It’s one of those conversations that you know is going really well based on how she is reacting to your responses. But let’s say that instead of continuing the conversation for an hour you end it at high point.

At the point of the conversation where it can’t get any better.

In other words, you interrupt the conversation.

Now the conversation is an uncompleted task in her mind.

This will actually raise the chances of having her reach out to you in the future.

Why?

Because she is going to want to continue that conversation.

She is going to want to continue the story so to speak.

Get it?

Planting The Seeds For A Future Talk

Let’s switch things up a bit here and instead of focusing on your ex specifically let’s focus on human beings in general. How are we going to do this? Well, I am going to use myself a guinea pig.

Who was the last person I reached out to and what made me do so?

Give me a second to look through my personal messages,

Ahh…

The last time I reached out to someone was on Tuesday (it’s Friday) and it was to my brother,

reaching out to bro

Let me provide some context for this conversation.

I live in Florida and my brother lives in Texas (where I grew up.) In other words, we don’t get to see each other as much as we used to. However, when we do see each other we always end up challenging each other at this card game called, “Magic: The Gathering.”

If you don’t know what “Magic” is then this video should explain it,

Basically we challenge each other and have some pretty intense games. Oh, and for those of you who are familiar with MTG we know our stuff. My brother just took 1st place at a tournament and it an extremely talented player.

Of course, I’m better 😉 .

I beat him in almost every game we played the last time we challenged each other.

But I am getting way off topic.

As you can see from our text messages I texted him first asking if he has been playing Magic recently.

reaching out to bro

Why did I do that?

What compelled me?

Well, it’s all because he had planted the seeds earlier for me reaching out to him at an earlier time and date.

Magic is the one thing I know I could connect with him on. It’s also the one thing that directly involves me and I got curious on what he was up to so I texted him.

Imagine if you could do this with your ex?

Imagine if you could connect with her on something she was passionate about so much that she would reach out to you at a later date to ask about it.

Let’s use my wife as an example.

wife

No seriously…

That’s my wife.

One thing that her and I connect on is the popular show, Game of Thrones.

So, hypothetically if I were to talk to her about GOT (Game of Thrones) on Mon – Wed and make a big deal about it I would “plant the seed” for her to reach out to me at a later date about…

Yup, you guessed it.

Game of Thrones.

The “planting the seeds” method is essentially you doing a bunch of work up front to ensure a response at a later date.

But perhaps the most important part of this method is that the seed that you plant has to be something that you and the other person connect on.

For example, my brother and I connect through Magic The Gathering.

And my wife and I both enjoy Game of Thrones.

So, no issues there.

But if I were to try to connect with my brother on something like hot air balloons hoping that he would reach out to me later it probably won’t work.

Get it?

Got it?

Good!

Was Your Exes “Reach Out” Positive Or Negative?

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Let’s switch gears here and focus in on the reason that you came to this page.

Determining what to say back if your ex actually reaches out to you.

Whoa…

Whoa…

Slow down there speed racer.

The first thing that we need to do is determine whether or not your ex girlfriend is reaching out to you in a positive, neutral or negative manner. I would also like to determine what it means when she does so.

Of course, there are a ton of things that we have to look at to determine these things.

We are talking about stuff like,

  • The word count
  • What was said in the message
  • The implied tone
  • How the relationship ended
  • The time of day

So, here is what I am going to do for you. I am going to divide this section up into three parts.

  1. Determining If You Are Getting A Positive “Reach Out”
  2. Determining If You Are Getting A Neutral “Reach Out”
  3. Determining If You Are Getting A Negative “Reach Out”

And under each of these three sections I am going to talk about what factors you need to look at to identify if you are receiving that particular “reach out” from your ex.

Get it?

No?

Well, you are going to have to learn on the fly because I am going ahead.

Determining If You Are Getting A Positive “Reach Out”

I know what you are thinking,

“Are you serious? I don’t need a section to teach me if my ex girlfriend is reaching out to me in a “positive way.””

What if I told you that you did.

What if I told you that most of the men who come to this website thinking they know everything actually don’t know anything?

I want to tell you a story.

This is the story of Dave, a visitor here at Ex Girlfriend Recovery.

Dave became enamored with my website and started reading all of my articles. Eventually he stumbled across this one where I talk about the importance of getting “positive responses” from an ex girlfriend.

But here’s the thing.

When I say that he read all of my articles that’s not exactly what happened. What he did was he read the parts that interested him and he scanned over the parts that he assumed he knew already.

Hey, I get it…

I do this all the time.

In fact, I was reading an article yesterday about webinars and I caught myself doing just that.

Anyways, I don’t want to get too far off topic. The positive response section in the article I mentioned above is one of those parts that Dave thought he could scan/skip over. Why is this an important thing to note?

Well, when he was texting his ex girlfriend, Dave mistakenly thought that a neutral response from her was a positive one and he ended up going too fast too soon which resulted in his ex girlfriend getting scared off.

So, don’t assume that a simple concept like a “positive response” is something that you can afford to gloss over. Actually, I can’t tell you how many times I get men and women who ask me something like,

“My ex responded in this way. Is this a positive response?”

It’s an important thing to determine because how you respond to your ex is dictated by how they reached out to you but I am getting way ahead of myself here. What I would like to do now is look at the factors that you need to take into account if you are trying to determine if your ex reaches out to you in a positive way.

There are three big factors that come to mind,

  • The Word Count
  • The Implied Tone Of The Message
  • What Is Actually Said

I’d like to take a look at these factors one by one starting with the word count.

The Word Count

Most people generalize the word count.

They think by this logic,

The longer the text is the more positive it is

In my opinion this is flawed logic.

Take a look at the text message below,

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In my opinion, this is a long message. The overall word count is big. However, when you actually take a look at the message is it positive?

No…

It’s basically a big fu*k off to you from your ex.

So, trying to determine whether or not a message is positive can’t be wholly reliant on word count.

Nevertheless, I have found that more often than not the correlation between having a high word count and a positive message is there. You just can’t rely on it all the time. So, the big thing that I want you to take away from this section is to take all of the factors that I talk about into account. Don’t rely just on word count to determine whether or not a message is positive.

Of course, like I said, usually you will find that the longer the message is the more positive it is.

The Implied Tone Of The Message

I realize what I am about to say is going to be very difficult but if you really want to determine whether or not a message from your ex is positive or not you need to try to determine the implied tone that they are trying to convey.

For example, I can say “hey” a million different ways and it could mean a million different things.

Actually, the coolest thing about my set up now is I can record my voice for you to demonstrate this point.

Let’s pretend for a moment that you are texting me and I send a simple text message to you,

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Now, in my mind I am saying it a certain way.

It could sound like this,

Or it could sound like this,

Do you see how just by saying one word in a different way can convey a completely different meaning?

The first hey was clearly upbeat and happy. This is the type of tone you are looking for with a “positive message.”

Whereas the other “hey” was clearly negative.

Now comes the hard part. How can we determine what tone your ex has when she is texting you?

Well, the best thing I can come up with for you is to look for context clues in the text message.

Take my “hey” examples above.

The first hey which is clearly positive may look like this in text message form,

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The exclamation points are the important thing. They give it that happy and upbeat tone.

But what might the sad hey look like?

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Hey… Dot Dot Dot

This just looks depressing.

What Is Actually Said In The Message

This is probably the most important factor that can help you determine whether or not the “reach out” you get is positive.

What is your ex girlfriend actually saying?

Is she giving you a compliment?

Is she saying something mean?

This is very important to determine.

Determining If You Are Getting A Neutral “Reach Out”

I would have to say that a lot of men out there end up getting neutral reach outs confused with negative reach outs.

I can’t tell you how many times I get a question like,

“Chris, she texted me with (insert neutral text) does this mean that my chances are over?”

Umm… no.

Look, a lot of times it’s easy for men to take a neutral text the wrong way but it doesn’t mean that things are completely over.

It does mean that you have more work to do but more on that in a second.

For now, lets dissect what you are supposed to do determine if you are getting a neutral reach out.

The Word Count

This is one of those situations where we can generalize.

Generally speaking the less the word count the more neutral the text.

Let me give you a real life example using yours truly.

I combed through all of the text messages I sent lately and happened to stumble across a neutral text message,

(I had to create the message on a text generator because the screenshot wouldn’t send to my email 🙁 .)

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This is Arun.

He is one of my hitting partners for tennis. He happened to reach out to me yesterday and asked if I wanted to hit with him some time this week. I accepted.

Do you see the neutral text throughout our conversation?

It actually came from him.

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Do you see how this text message was the shortest going by word count.

He could have easily continued the conversation or said something more interesting than “ok, cool” but he didn’t. He decided upon sending a short little neutral text. Now, it goes without saying that not all neutral text messages will be short. Some can be on the longer side but that’s why we have other factors to look at.

The Implied Tone

This one is easy.

Boredom.

Neutral text messages are indicative of someone who is most likely very bored or who has too much going on to respond positively (more on that in a second.)

Usually this happens when you are in the midst of a conversation with someone and that someone can’t think of anything else to say. So, rather than taking a moment to put together a positive message they just decide to go through the motions and send a neutral message.

I think we have all been guilty of this.

The Time Of Day

Hypothetical situation.

Your ex reaches out to you and you determine that it’s “neutral.”

However, you also notice that when they reached out to you it was the middle of the day, when they have work.

What does this mean?

Well, it may mean that your ex is thinking about you positively BUT since they are at work they don’t have the time to compose a positive “reach out.”

I can definitely put my support behind this one since this used to happen to me with my wife. You see, I run Ex Girlfriend Recovery and Ex Boyfriend Recovery. This is my career. And as a result of this I get the ultimate freedom to make my own schedule.

But back when my wife and I were dating she had a regular 9 to 5 job… Well, it was more like an 8 to 6 job.

And I would always notice that when the two of us would message back and forth she would always respond very neutrally.

For example, instead of responding like this to this comment,

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She would respond like this,

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Not exactly very positive, huh?

Eventually I confronted her about this and she explained to me that she was so busy with work that she didn’t have time to respond positively. All she could do was either not respond at all or respond very quickly.

This seemed legit since any time she wasn’t at work she responded very positively.

Sometimes life can get in the way and cause a neutral response. Make sure you keep that in mind when determining your exes reach out.

What Is Actually Said In The Message

Neutral messages are notorious for general statements.

Imagine you received any one of the following messages.

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These are notorious neutral messages.

Of course, not all of those messages can be used in a “reach out.” In fact, only the last two can.

Determining If You Are Getting A Negative “Reach Out”

The negative reach out is by far the easiest one to decipher.

In fact, almost every conceivable factor that we have talked about thus far can be utilized to determine if your ex is reaching out to you in a negative way.

For example, if your ex reaches out to you with this message,

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You can pretty much chalk it up to being a negative response.

Do you see how easy that was?

That’s why I am not going to spend much time on negative messages at all. They are easy to decipher and I don’t want to waste your time.

Instead, I think you will be far more interested in what to do once your ex reaches out to you.

How do you respond?

What Are You Supposed To Do If Your Ex Reaches Out To You?

what should I do

Welcome to the meat of this article!

Here I am going to give you a specific game plan to follow once your ex reaches out to you. However, before I can give you that game plan we need to first operate under certain assumptions.

Assumption #1: You Are Trying To Get Your Ex Back

Ex Girlfriend Recovery is a place that really specializes in what to do to get an ex girlfriend back. Therefore, if you are just wanting to get over your ex girlfriend then I am going to have to ask you to disregard everything written from this point on. Instead, I would like to direct you to this article.

So, that’s the first assumption that I would like us to operate under.

The second assumption is a little more in-depth.

Assumption #2: You Have Completed The No Contact Rule

If you read my article on the no contact rule then you would know that it’s actually one of the most important strategies that you have to utilize to get your ex back.

I have a very specific way that I teach it.

For example, the no contact rule is always the first thing that you are supposed to do before you even think about texting your ex back.

Why is this important?

Well, if your ex reaches out to you while you are in the no contact rule your marching orders are very simple, ignore her.

Look, there are certain times that you can break the no contact rule to respond to her but I wrote a whole book to cover that. What we are really going to talk about from this point on is if she reaches out to you after you have already completed the no contact rule.

That’s the second assumption.

So, just to recap, from this point on we are going to operate under the assumption that you are trying to get your ex girlfriend back and you have just completed the no contact rule.

In other words, if she has reached out to you AFTER the no contact rule this is what you are supposed to do.

The Three Responses You Should Give To Her Reach Out

Did you ever ask yourself why I spent all that time diving into the three different types of responses?

  1. Positive Reach Out
  2. Neutral Reach Out
  3. Negative Reach Out

It’s because how you respond to your ex is going to be based on how she reached out to you.

For example, you are going to respond in a certain way if she reached out to you positively and you are going to respond a different way if she reached out to you in a negative way.

But it’s also important to remember our very first assumption. We are going to be working towards getting her back. So, I am going to recommend that you respond in a way to accomplish that goal.

Let’s begin.

What To Do If She Reaches Out To You Positively

Personally I feel like I am at my best teaching you when I deal with hypothetical situations.

So, going forward that’s what I am going to do.

Let’s pretend that your ex girlfriend reaches out to you with the following text message after your no contact rule,

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How are you supposed to respond to this?

Simple, your goal is to advance the conversation. Respond in a way that will do that. However, one important thing is that you want to keep her in the position where it looks like shes chasing you.

This is a fine line to walk because it’s so easy for you to just say,

“I have been thinking a lot about you too!”

Don’t do that.

Because that kind of gives away your mysterious vibe. Instead, I like to recommend to my guys that they respond with a positive memory!

Here’s a perfect example,

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By sending this text message you will not only advance the conversation in a positive way BUT you are going to ignite some of those fuzzy feelings within her.

Imagine her thought process for a moment.

You send her the text about the sailboat and immediately her mind is taken to a picture of a beautiful sailboat,

sailboat

It then jumps to the memory of the two of you holding hands hands on the sailboat,

This imagery within her own mind is going to make her so much more responsive to your future text messages. More importantly, by imagining you on the sailboat with her she is more likely to miss you.

And everyone knows that making your ex girlfriend miss you will make your chances of success go up.

What To Do If She Reaches Out To You Neutrally

In case you need a quick refresher, your ex girlfriend reaching out to you neutrally would look something like this,

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So, the big question we are trying to answer here is how do you respond to this?

Hell, do you even respond to it?

Well, that depends.

Some neutral messages are worth responding to and others aren’t.

Your ex girlfriend reaching out to you by saying “sup” is one of those messages that aren’t worth responding to.

However, if she reached out to you with a neutral message like this,

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Then you would probably want to respond.

Why?

Because she has put a bit more effort into “how are you” when compared to “sup.”

So, let’s operate under the assumption that your ex ended up sending you a neutral message like this.

What do you say back?

Well, the most obvious thing is,

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It’s human nature to respond that way. But I think you should respond differently.

Instead, of responding to her in a way that she is expecting I say you should respond in a way that fascinates her from the start. You need to say something that will grip her into the conversation so she is on the edge of her seat waiting to see what you are going to say next.

Something like this is ideal,

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Do you see how powerful this can be?

Initially she reached out to you neutrally but by sending her this text message you can get her more engaged in the conversation to where she is curious to find out what happens next.

Trying to get her engaged in the conversation is the key here and that text will accomplish it.

What To Do If She Reaches Out To You Negatively

And now we get to the toughest situation of them all.

If your ex reaches out to you in a negative way what are you supposed to do?

Simple, ignore her.

No offense, but men are kind of idiots when it comes to getting baited into a fight.

Oftentimes the temptation to respond to an ex who reaches out to you negatively is there but there is something to be said about brevity. Sometimes the smartest thing you can do is live to fight another day.

		

Written by EGR team mate

Chris Seiter

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117 Comments on "My Ex Girlfriend Reached Out To Me… What Do I Do?"

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Lucas
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Hi, My girlfriend recently broke up with me because she wasn’t sure if she liked me enough. We now havent spoken to each other for a little less than 2 weeks but she just now sent me a snap saying she needed someone to talk to and another one saying that she hadn’t been productive today. I ignored the messages as they weren’t specifically directed to me and because I think its to early. This doesn’t really seem like a big deal but I think it kinda is because she didnt say anything for a while and now suddenly sends… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Lucas,
How long was your relationship?

Terry
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Was in long distance relationship for about 10 months. Met in for 2 1/2 weeks. She has had many problems especially financial. She broke up say she lost her feelings but its more complicated than that. She is much younger and is not ready for relationship. She plays a lot of games and her sister says she is mean, crazy, and an assss and that I’d better watch out. She was a great girlfriend in person but online not so much yet I still miss her and miss what it was like in person. She broke up with me and… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Terry,

I think you should move on from her.. She doesn’t seem to be healthy for you and even her sister warned you..

Simon
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Here’s a question. My ex girlfriend is trying to reach out to me by calling instead of texting. I’ve been in “no contact” for about 10 days. At first, it was a couple calls and hangup after 1 ring. Then a full on call at 1:30 in the morning but no voicemail. Now, its sporadic phone calls during the day with no voicemail, sometimes minutes apart from each other. What is going on here and how should I approach this? Thank you in advance for any advice!

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Simon,

If it’s really important, she would have texted why she was calling

Steve
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Hi Chris… I see a lot of comments about 1 month or a 3 week etc break ups before the ex reaches out… It was my birthday last Friday and when I woke up at 6am on my birthday, the very first text on my phone sent at 1210am was from my ex saying “Happy Birthday”… We broke up in June, 5 months ago with not one word spoken between us… I haven’t talked to texted emailed called her at all… Nothing…Why? Well… She said I had smothered her…Suffocated was more like what she said so the last thing a… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Steve,

what path are you pertaining to? Did you mean moving on or slowly building rapport?

Marcel
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Hi, please If you can read my post and answer me because I’m really confused. I bought the 3 books and I’m still reading it. Just to give some context, she broke up with me because I was insecure, needy and too clingy, but I know that she liked me, we had a really great time together and got connected in almost any level, we traved with my family, I met her mother, etc, although it just lasts for 2 months and a half (the whole relationship). There were no fights at breakup, we just cry (both of us) and… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

A heads up is ok but you basically gave away what you’re exactly doubt..it lessens the chances of her missing you because you told her you’re going to reach out at som point.. Are you active in improving yourself and in posting now?

Marcel
Guest
Yes, I finished 21 days of no contact, improving myself and posted on social media. On my birthday (18th day of no contact) she complimented me early in the day by whatsapp (not just a post on facebook) and I answered short with a little joke. Then, on 21th day (end of no contact) I contacted her and start texting. I think she was thrilled to hear from me because she answered very quick, started talking about other things than the subjected that I started with and with emotion on the writing but I ended the conversation really soon saying… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

look your best when you meet up and dont rush things

Anon
Guest

i still have a week until the no contact period passes. However, she texted me once saying something like she is really messed up emotionally about a week after non-contact. What type of reach out is it under and how should i respond after the non-contact period is over. Also, should i do 21 days or 30 days when she only texted once?

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Anon,

why did you break up?

Jarrid
Guest
Day 2 of no contact my ex texted me, a bartender told her I was on a date the day we decided to take a step back, and thought it was across from her work. I slipped and responded I didn’t want her to feel betrayed and ruin any future. The person I was with is I stopped answering after like 2 messages. The conversation went like this Her: “WOW you were on a date last fucking week? You think people won’t tell me you were with another girl across the fuckinh street from me” Me: “Sarah it was camila…”… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Jarrid,

I hope you restarted the count after that..

Sander
Guest
I talked to my ex today after some time not contacting each other directly. She dumped me in the beginning of January, but has been liking and commenting on almost all of my Facebook and Instagram posts (I have kept my replies short, but happy). We were in a relationship for almost 3 years and lived most of the time together. I have tried to keep no contact and only talk briefly with her couple of times (she had a car crash and our cat that she has now was ill. I just tried to comfort her because it seemed… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Sander,

how did your meet up go? Honestly, that was not a no contact period because you stayed in contact with her, although I understand why.

Sander
Guest
Hi, I would rate the meet up as okay. There weren’t any emotions involved and it was just casual. We talked, played cards, but she also invited one of her (girl) friend. Our mutual friend didn’t come. She seemed to want to spend as much time as possible with me. Later that evening we talked on Facebook and at one moment she sent me a picture of her in a hoodie I gave her as a gift. She hasn’t been wearing it before. She is sending me mixed feelings and acting hot and cold after that. Truth is, I think… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

I think it’s better to restart the count of 30 days and stick to it. Because if you’re going to wait for her to initiate and always reply, you’ll look like you’re too available. Be active in improving yourself during and after nc and be active in posting in social media.

George
Guest
hey… so,a month ago my girlfriend broke up with me all of a sudden leaving me a total mess…basic info: we are both 23,we were together for 1year+8months,she came to my hometown for studies 5 years ago,from another city of the country and she just graduated. she is also leaving the country next september for her postgraduate studies. (big relationship problem). So…although we fought a lot,mainly because i have become jealous,needy and other things that i werent before,there was great love and passion betwen us till recently. it all started after she returned from her hometown after christmass vacation (15days)… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

HI George,

If she fell out of love, there is a chance if you massively improve yourself and not chase.. So, focus in that… focus in improving yourself.

George
Guest

i know i have to improve but right now it just seem not enough..i just can’t understand and accept the fact that 1,5 month ago we were good and she was showing her love to me,asking me if i love her,and now all of a sudden she acts like we were never in love..how can feelings fade so quickly?.. .in your experience is love something that can happen again with same person?

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Yeah, there are success stories that they got their ex back.. and a break up doesn’t happen overnight. Something happened, or the feeling of wanting to break up accumulated over time.

Vinnie
Guest
Hi, I’m currently in NC with my ex. We dated for a year, and long story short we broke up a little over a week ago. I have been working on myself, but I have one possibility I’m confused about. I moved 3 years ago and don’t have family where I currently live. Her family became my 2nd family down here especially during the holidays. Before we broke up she said it’ll be ok I can fly home for thanksgiving, and I told her I already committed to not flying home. On Thanksgiving it’ll be day 18 of NC what… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Vinnie,

it would be better if you politely decline and then go home to your family or be friends.

RCR
Guest
Hello, My ex and I broke up about a month ago. We had been dating for 3+yrs and lived together. The relationship definitely had lots of love but a lot of rockiness on personal health on both ends. She decided she couldn’t handle all the stresses of our relationship plus the city we lived in so she left. While it was a mutual break up at the beginning and we both accepted that some time away from each other was best, things got a bit crazy. I ended up breaking and begging for her back a few times. She told… Read more »
RCR
Guest
Also to note I entered NC (after acting out and begging) and got about 7 days through it before having to address some moving stuff with her(she actually said she would maybe want to go for dinner when she comes to get her stuff), then i started again and got to 14 days before she messaged me again about some bills etc. She hasnt been instigating anything other than talking about the loose ends but she drops in 🙂 and ! while giving me a bit more info then she needs to. So its hard to tell if she is… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi RCR,

are you still in no contact now? It’s ok to talk about stuff to be given, as long as it’s only about that.. how many days are you in now?

Steve
Guest
Hey! My girlfriend of 6 months broke up with me a week before my birthday, which was a really devastating experience, since I believe we were very good to each other. She said it was because she liked another person, but it probably didn’t help that I had stopped working on my hobbies at the time. This was at the end of May. Since then I have tried doing No Contact, during which I got a promotion, got back into a band, started exercising again and travelled a bit. After doing the No Contact period, I had many pleasant text… Read more »
Ian Kline
Guest
Hey I’ve been doing a lot of research on this site and you guys are great! Anyway my girlfriend broke up with me last Saturday and today is Wednesday. I have since implemented nc rule and knocked it down from 30 days to 21. We had a rough last week together and mutually decided to end it if our birthday date didn’t go well. Well the date went great but she told me she already had her mind made up. Since then, I have done my research and decided to start getting in better shape and changing my appearance like… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Ian

nope let her think for now..you can only break it of she says she wants to talk to get back together

Ian Kline
Guest

Ok thank you but I paniced and she posted something on her snapchat story saying sorry with a broken heart emoji so I thought it might have been about me and messaged her and she said she was having a rough night I left the brief conversation at the high point and with something that she’s been wanting to know about me like I’ve read on here but I was wondering if I need too start all over or what I should do now that I paniced and broke no contact

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

yep, you need to restart the count

Ian Kline
Guest

I’ve restarted the count but in an attempt to get me to talk she said that after we take some time to work on ourselves and if she still missed me she’d give me another chance she has already commented on how I look like I’m really bettering and changing myself and was wondering if I should continue the no contact or slowly start texting her again?

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

DId you continue the no contact rule?

Ian Kline
Guest

I did not we have seen eachother twice since then in very public settings and caught up and everything seemed great she still flirts with me a lot and said that she may even love me she seems confused and this may be partially because her mom doesn’t want us to date anymore but she always comes to me with her problems and still tells me that she likes me and calls me the pet names from our past relationship

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Ok I understand.. so, what’s the plan? Are you going to wait for her to decide and continue trying to build rapport or you’re going to be distant because she’s confused?

Ian Kline
Guest
Well I think I need to do something else all together now (I know I’m taking you through the ringers and I’m sorry for this) yesterday evening after plenty of talking we decided to get together and do a date we had a picnic in the evening and I gave her some flowers and brought food overall it went really well we made out a little bit cuddleded on the blanket talked and had a great time. In the evening this one girl messaged me about me wanting to kiss her and my ex (who I was still on the… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Yeah you need to avoid the other girl because that’s what pushing hour ex away

Ian Kline
Guest
So for this response I would simply like some help in just evaluating a the tone on two different occasions I’ve started the no contact rule all over again and was planning to keep it at 21 days. So the first text or series of would be that I made a post on social media the could have loosely dictated to her, well she saw it and got mad and said that she was going to f***ing kill me because I know that’s not how she felt (I posted about sharing memories with people and that I couldn’t help but… Read more »
David
Guest
I was with a girl for 5 1/2 years. We were young and stupid but I’ve never loved anyone like her. She seems to feel the same way. We split up after 5 years or so and a couple months later I got with a different girl. Was with her for almost 3 years. Then we split…she got into drugs and was not faithful in the relationship. So about 6 months later, my long lost lover from before..the 5 1/2 year relationship..messaged me and wanted to talk. So it’s 11pm and ended up talking with her until 4am. She cried… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi David,
sure is.. she misses you, she’s more happy with you before, but the new guy is richer.. are you going to talk again?

David
Guest

Thank you for responding. Yeah, im sure we will talk again. If I asked her to talk, she wouldn’t refuse. And when we have spoke, she won’t say goodbye either. She seems to steer clear of that..she’ll say things like take care or good luck. I recently tagged her in a new movie that reminded me of her. She responded fairly quickly. She said that was funny because she’s been watching that movie every night. Maybe that’s stupid I don’t know. I was thinking about writing her a letter. You think I should talk with her again?

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

hmm.. what would you say in the letter? If she doesn’t want to get back with you, then that can make her feel awkward.

David
Guest
What I wanna wrote in the letter is that I know she has deep feelings for me and I don’t want her to settle with this kid just for money/security and the confortability. If she doesn’t want me that’s fine. I just have to know. I don’t want to think about what might have happened later in life if I didn’t fight for her. I feel like she’s giving me suttle hints…but she’s scared to pull the trigger. In my letter I’ve covered all possible options as to what could happen. I know she still loves me with all her… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Ok go ahead David.. When you said, I get the feeling you would regret not doing it no matter what the outcome is…

Haunterxhaunter
Guest
Hi chris, she and me grew together we were a chidhood friends as we grew older we started to fall for each other.. after,our long relationship she broke up with me during our secondary school time after that remain no contact with her as my were really hurt..but still i wanted her But now we are grown ups and a college students she reached me out with a social messaging apps watsapp.. she sent ” hello✋”then after a 20 minutes i sent her a reply casualy hello how are u then she sent me “great and wat about you????”after that… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor
Aaron
Guest

What would you say to your ex if she just messages that she misses you?

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Aaron,

it depends on what your situation is

Dss
Guest
Hi Chris and team, My girlfriend broke up with me about a little over a week ago because I confessed to her that I cheated on her. It was a one night stand. We have been together for almost close to 2 months and during that period we had our fair share of arguments but I personally feel that she has always stepped up to make sure things worked between us at the end of the day. So after she broke up with me, she blocked me off all social media and even through whatsapp and I didnt contact her… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Dss,

did you meet?

Christian
Guest
Hey!! How long do I wait between the first contact text message conversation (I did 21 day no contact) and the second text conversation after NC? We’ve been broken up for almost a month. I did 21 day no contact and then yesterday morning she texted me “hey” I ignored it. Then a few hours later she texted again saying “I just wanted to know how you’re doing” I ignored that too. An hour after THAT she texted “…please :(” So I waited about 5-6 more hours and then decided it was appropriate to end no contact. I texted “I’m… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Christian,

sorry for the late reply..did you keep texting?

Frank
Guest
Hey I had begun texting my ex some after about a month since the last contact (broke up 4 months ago). Things were going alright just mainly was opening the door again for communication. But then she texted asking if I was still up around one in the morning which led to a phone call. Basically it was her first night in her new apartment but her roommate wasn’t there and she was scared. I took it as a good sign that she choose me for that comfort and we talked for a half hour. It was a fun talk… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Frank,

are you back to talking now?

Frank
Guest
Yeah we have spoken several times since then now but only through text. I unfortunately usually initiate the contact. However, she did text first a couple days ago mentioning how something she was doing that day made her miss me. Which i replied that small things make me miss her too. Later in the convo she said lots of small things make her miss me especially things that come up in her life that she wants to tell me. But the conversation ended with no other significant points and then she seemed to kind of wall of again just like… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

what matters most is that you’re the one to end up the conversation and that you end it in high note.. and dony be too available.. continue improving yourself while building rapport.. transition to calls too

Cody
Guest
I have a bit of an interesting situation. My ex gf reached out to me on day 10 of NC, saying a simple “Hello.” The trouble I”m having is that she didn’t exactly say we broke up, she had said that we were ‘just dating’ but that you can still see other people, and that she was hoping we could stay friends if things didn’t work out. She also started sending cute pics later that night, but then didn’t respond to my texts for the next few days. What I’m wondering is if that’s the case should I break NC… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

I think she’s just starting to miss you.. if she really wanted to talk, she would say it.

Michael
Guest
Quick question: Girlfriend broke up with me, I am in depth of no contact at this point. Planned on ending No contact on her bday which would be just over 3 weeks-am going to send a simple happy bday text. Am agonizing over getting her a gift. It could go one of 2 ways-she could be thankful and acknowledge the gift which would stimulate some conversation or she could be upset that I got her something when she is trying to get over me. This would be a large setback. My initial thoughts are she would be thankful since she… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Michael,

don’t give her a gift..it’s too forward…

Oliver
Guest
Hey! I’m currently 14 days in a 21 day long no contact and my ex is trying to contact me. She has sent a total of 3 messages, first wondering how i was doing and the second two wondering why i’m ignoring her. The second message was via snapchat so she knows i have read it, unfortunately. It is not long messages, she is asking me to “at least let me know why you are ignoring me”. Worth mentioning is that she have let at least two to five days gone by between the messages. I am really compelled to… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Oliver,

why did you decide to do no contact?

Oliver
Guest
Most of all I needed time to think and just try to distance myself from her. We had a clean breakup where she explained that she had lost a lot of feelings for me and did not know what she wanted. I did not beg for her to stay with me but the following week was hard. We said we were going to stay friends and we had some arguments but also some good moments before we parted, she could be very hot and cold with me. Laughing in one moment and just silent in the next. She admitted she… Read more »
Brian H
Guest
Hi Chris and Amor, My ex and I broke up a little over a month ago (she broke up with me) and after about 21 days we ran into each other at a bar and we were both with a group of friends. I said hello to her and her friends and shared a laugh about the irony of being at the same bar at the same time in the city. I told her to have a good night and that was that. Later that night she text me saying, “I hope you have fun tonight and enjoy horseback riding,”… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Brian H

the post workout photo is a positive one and if she initiates that’s a good sign

Adi
Guest
Hi Chris, My ex gf and I broke up a year ago after 5 year of relationship. She initiated the break up by saying that she cannot see our future together (due to our family’s approval about our relationship). But not long after that I figured out that she has already dated someone else and that’s my trigger to initiate the no contact rule. She tried to reach me several times and I always responded with negative response. About 3 weeks ago, she texted me to apologize (over and over again). I replied her just to let her know that… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Adi,

she’s friendzoning you

jake
Guest

Hi, so the 30 days of no contact went by smoothly, after it we met up and had some small talk then she went on vacation with her friends, she came back and sent me a selfie showing off her tan, then a day later i sent her a cute emotional text… no reply. three days later she says hey sorry i never answered this hows your vacation going? so i replied and then we talked for like five minutes on text then she stopped replying… so why would she initiate the conversation first, then stop replying?

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi jake,

what was the last convo about? maybe she was just really busy or your last text is not really compelling to reply to

Patrick
Guest
Hey, me and my ex broke up almost exactly a year ago. I have maintained the no contact rule. She was persistent to try to stay close for the first three months but I sternly stuck to the NC rule, during the first week she showed up to my place twice but I ignored her and didn’t let her in. Then around the five month of NC she called me out of the blue around 2am, I was out with friends and I was drunk and answered it but kept it platonic and when I realized she was safe and… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Patrick,

why did you decide to do a very long nc?

Patrick
Guest

Didn’t know the specific amount of time it should last? How should I respond to the last txt message, or do I since its almost 3 days old?

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

text her but start with a new topic that she loves talking about.

Chris L
Guest

Hello Chris,

My ex and I broke up and I went one month and change of NC. I thought of breaking it to reach out to her, but lucky me – she texted me a few days ago. She sent out what looks like a text about this thing we both dislike. I responded with a much shorter and brief neutral/cool response over an hour later. She hasn’t responded since. Should I text her back?

Chris L
Guest

Correction: I mean she hasn’t texted me since. Should I reach out to her?

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Chris l,

you mean the nc wasn’t finished because she texted while you’re in it?

Chris L
Guest

I was going for 30 day cycle. It was finished, but I wanted to hold out a little longer. She broke the silence first maybe around day 33/34. I texted her back something very neutral and kind of distant. She didn’t respond back. Should I pursue with a text or sit back?

Danny M
Guest

30 day NC was done, but I chose to hold out a few days longer to see if she would break the silence. Around day 34/35 she broke the silence first, texting me a conversation starter. I replied back an hour later with something neutral, shortsentence, maybe a little too cool and distant. She didn’t reply after that and hasn’t texted since. A few days passed with nothing, so I reached out. She responded quick in a positive way. 30 min later I reply to extend the conversation a bit, and she hasn’t replied since.

Chris L
Guest

Sorry Amor for confusion–that was me. Wrote it at my friend Dan’s house. He recommended this site to me, because he was getting help here so I gave a shot. His WiFi must has his data or something,didn’t eve n notice it had his name on my reply

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

it’s ok.. you can nitiate a text now..

Chris L
Guest

Hey Amor– I texted her and I think she’s giving me a taste of my own medicine. She ended up never replying to that text. Im worried that I played it too cool that she felt shut down when she finally reached out last Sunday. So far our 3 conversations have not gotten past one reply and I’ve been left hanging twice now. I’m planning on giving a couple days cool down and trying again on Sunday if she hasn’t texted me by then. Is this the right call?

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

YEs.. that’s right, let her cool down for now.

Chris L
Guest

Hey Amor,

I let her cool off. We’ve been texting a few days, but I’ve noticed a trend where she goes hot and cold. Sometimes she’ll be very responsive and other times, radio silent. What should I do?

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

be sure to end the convo in high note every time you talk, and then just continuing to be interesting by continuing your activities.. and also choosing the right topics.. topics that she loves talking about, being updated about..

Marvin
Guest
Hello, my girlfriend broke up with me few weeks ago and after that, I made a big mistake by texting and calling her. I also beg her to comeback which obviously is a big mistake. She said that she wants to be friends with me. I started the no contact rule but got tempted because she texted that she was looking forward to our trip in Taiwan and also she misses me. After the text, i called her and got into a fight with her which further damages my chances of getting back with her. I’m confused right now whether… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

hi Marvin,

let her cool off for now..when is the trip to taiwan?

Marvin
Guest

on November..

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

you still have a lot of time then.. it’s too early to ask about that

Garrett
Guest
Hey guys, Obviously my girlfriend broke up with me, otherwise I wouldn’t be here. She ended things because she said she went from really liking me to seeing me more as a friend after dating for 7 months, which is a bit strange because we kissed and everything. I asked her why but she said that there wasn’t really a reason behind it, but i know i did some things wrong and i want to fix them. After a couple failed attempts to her to give me a second chance we decided to try and be friends. A few weeks… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Garrett,

leave the first convo hanging so you can contnue it on the next and then start a new topic on the next convo

jack
Guest
So here is my dilemma. I was dating a girl who I was previously friends with and we dated for 2 years and she said I was the one the whole thing. Well, we broke up last week and it is the worst feeling ever. She claims it is because she is not happy in her life and she does not want to follow just in my footsteps but she wants to make her own goals and figure out her life as well. We have been long distance since I moved for work after graduation and the plan was to… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Jack,
did you talk ir you’re still.in nc?

Derfel
Guest
Hi Chris and Amor, I am 24 yo. My girlfriend broke up with me 23 days ago. We had been meeting for 4 months and in a relationship for 3 months. She was a little reluctant at first, because her mother was cancer and because of this she didnt feel it was right to date someone. But eventually she accepted me and told she would regret it if dhe didnt. Everyhing was perfect for a while. We were getting along very well. But at the end of the first month her mother insisted that she should break up with me… Read more »
Derfel
Guest

I forgot to add during the break up she said she still loves me but she suspects if it was like a friend. (I am her first bf by the way) She said she doesnt miss me as much as she did in the past.

After a few mins she said she is still in love with me but it’s irrelevant because of the external factors. I think it was probably a lie to make me feel better.

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

HI Derfel,

how are you now?

Derfel
Guest

Well I am sad but too busy to be really depressed. 😀
But I still think about her a lot. Should I send her a message, should I do anything or wait until she contacts me and things like that. I cant decide whats the best course of action and it makes me anxious.

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

slowly build rapport and attraction first after nc before asking her out..so that means that’s after the calling phase..

Derfel
Guest

Should I start texting her or restart my NC?

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

you can start texting her

Derfel
Guest
Hi Amor. I contacted her, first contact was kind of positive. I went for a confession message. She said she was worried after I didnt reply his first message fast enough. I told her a story, she was very interested but the conversation didnt last long. I asked her if she was doing good to finish the conversation, she replied briefly and asked me th same. I told her i am good and i need to go. Since it was kind of positive I went for a second message 4 days later but I failed to finish the conversation before… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

well it wiuod really take time..don’t rush it.. just intiate again..I think it was a positive convo..it just got boring

jose
Guest
Hi, my girlfriend of 3 years and a half broke up with me around a week and a half ago because she was confused… she asked me for space and time twice before this in the last 4 months but regretted it the same day she asked… i know she loves me and cares about me, she wrote me a letter when we broke up stating that she feels different but still loves me and she is confused and she hopes that breaking up was the best choise… I am really confused of what to do… to be honest I… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Jose,

are you in nc now?

Brad
Guest

This goes out to either Amor or Chris, but can I get an estimated time on when I will get an email back if I sent an email through the contact section of Ex Girlfriend Recovery? I know this doesn’t relate to anything about the article above but I figured this was the only other way to make contact. The contact section even said that you will get a faster response through the article replies. I believe i sent the email about 4-5 days ago. Thank you.

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi

sorry for the late reply.. it’s ok if she doesn’t contact you during no contact. What’s important is what you do during no contact to heal and improve yourself to attract her back.

Hunter
Guest
Hey guys so my ex girlfriend reached out to me when she went to orientation for college (we are going to the same college) and she says that the wants to be friends in the fall because she really needs me since she won’t know anyone, and that that we never know what might happen in the future. she also says she still loves me. I rejected the friendship and said I couldn’t do that to myself and that I am moving on and doing really well. She was very curious on what I have been up to and I… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi hunter,

have you tried active nc?

Hunter
Guest

What do you mean by active

Hunter
Guest

Actually, yes I have

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Hunter,

sorry for the late reply.. you need to keep building rapport and attraction even if she said she just wants to be friends..

Hunter
Guest

Yes

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Hunter,

sorry for the late reply.. you need to keep building rapport and attraction even if she said she just wants to be friends..

Narc
Guest
Hey..as always interesting article. I have a question for you Chris. I have completed No Contact Rule, did the texting, transitioned to phone call..everything by rules..and it went really well..but I screwed big time when I called her.. We started to talk about our memories,we really enjoyed it both..i wanted to end the conversation..but she just wanted to talk..and then it happened..we started to talk about things that went wrong and she decided to end the conversation.. Later I wrote that it was nice to talk with her. She replied Yes it was,but its to early for us to be… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Narc,

hahaha yes women.. I agree! hehe.. anyways I think she just said that because of what you talked about.. give her time, maybe 3-4 days before texting her.