By Chris Seiter

Updated on July 15th, 2022

What’s that old saying?

Men are from Mars and women are from Venus?

All the poets and experts seem pretty set on the fact that we are from different planets. In fact, I can’t tell you how many men have come by Ex Girlfriend Recovery trying to beg for my help to dissect things their exes have said or done.

And I can’t help but notice that all of their questions and concern revolve around one primal fear, the fear of being unwanted.

You see, most of you still want to feel loved by your exes (maybe some of you don’t but most of you do.) However, it’s not like they teach a class on what signs to look for to see if your ex girlfriend is still interested in you.


Hi, I’m professor Chris and this is intro to… No, I am just kidding!

One thing I want to make clear though is by the time you are finished reading this article you should have a very good idea of what signs there are of your ex becoming interested in you again.

The Idea Behind Knowing If My Ex Is Still Interested In Me

I’m not one of those “relationship guru’s” that is going to make a bunch of claims and say I know everything there is to know. I think men and women like that miss out on a lot because they are too high and mighty to admit that they don’t know everything.

I for one, do not know everything.

But you find yourself in a very precarious position where you are trying to determine if she still has feelings for you and I am not about to make a claim without proof to back it up.

So, if men are indeed from Mars and women are indeed from Venus then the smartest course of action is to throw all ego to the side and bring in some actual “Venusians” in to help.

That’s where the sister site to EGR comes into play, Ex Boyfriend Recovery.

For those of you who don’t know I actually have two websites dealing with breakups. One of the websites is this fun one you have here in Ex Girlfriend Recovery.

The other is called Ex Boyfriend Recovery which basically deals with women who are going through breakups. About six months ago I started a fun little Facebook Group for Ex Boyfriend Recovery and it has grown to have over 1,200 members (it’s still growing.)

Well, I decided to ask the women of that Facebook Group to see what kind of signs an ex would have to exhibit to be interested in you,

As you can see from that picture I submitted the question to them 16 minutes ago and have already gotten about 18 responses!

By the end of the day it’ll probably be over 100.

Now, here is the problem.

Neither you or I have the time or patience to sit through and look over 100 signs an ex girlfriend is interested in you but you probably will have the patience to look through 9 signs.

So, drumroll please…

Here are the top 9 signs that your ex girlfriend is still interested in me… ahem… I mean you!

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9 Signs Your Ex Girlfriend Is Still Interested

I’m not the type of guy who makes bulleted lists and doesn’t elaborate on them. So, here is how this particular article is going to work.

I am going to give you a quick roundup of the signs in one place, some men don’t like reading long articles, and then after I have done that I am going to take each sign individually and flesh it out a bit.

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Oh, and just so you know I am a big believer in showing you proof that I am not making these up off the top of my head so I will be screenshotting an excerpt of the Facebook comment that lead me to “create the sign” if that makes sense.

Ok, here are the nine signs you need to be looking for,

  1. Response Time
  2. Talking To You About Things You Are Interested In
  3. Initiating The Texts
  4. She Will Praise You
  5. Can’t Resist Flirting With You
  6. Agrees To Meet Up With You
  7. Sending A Lot Of Emojis
  8. Keeping In Contact With Your Friends And Family
  9. She Can Nag You

From the top.

Sign #1: Response Time

I’d like to draw attention to the two comments above.

Audrey and Davea here make some good points. Most men assume that just because an ex is responding to their texts it means that they are interested.


As Audrey so elegantly put, “I respond just because I am overly polite.”

However, Davea cuts right to the heart of the matter with her response time comment. Basically what she is saying here is that if a woman is quick to respond to your messages it is a very good sign!

Sign #2: Talking To You About Things You Are Interested In

With this particular sign we are focusing more on the actual conversation that you are having with your ex girlfriend.

If you know for a fact that she despises talking about science fiction but she engages you with a conversation about it then you might be onto something.

Sign #3: Initiating The Texts

This one is pretty straightforward. If you find that your ex girlfriend is the one initiating the text messages with you it might be a good sign.

Now, to take this a step further I want to add that Davea seems to have the right idea here with the good morning/good night comment.

I’ll never forget that when I was dating my wife she was always the one to text me first thing in the morning.

In other words,

Good Mornings = I Like You

Sign #4: She Will Praise You

I love this comment from Beth because she gives us the true details on what she does when she is still interested in a man.

She praises the following,

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  • Work
  • Interests
  • Appearances

In addition to “praising” him she also,

Asks a lot of questions about him

  • Makes an extra effort to wear something he has complimented before
  • Gets “giddy”
  • And can’t help but smile a lot

Sign #5: She Can’t Resist Flirting With You

If you ever find yourself wondering,

“Is my ex girlfriend even interested in me again”

Then this might be the sign to really pay attention to.

Flirting is important.

Basically any comment she makes that can be taken as “flirtatious” it’s probably a good sign especially since she is your ex and it probably means a little more coming from her in this case.

Phoenix is also kind to point out to not get too caught up if your ex calls you for help since it can literally go either way.

Sign #6: Him Actually Meeting Up With You

Does this comment look familiar?

It should because I literally used the comment for “sign #1” except this time instead of talking about responding to your “reach outs” I am going to be talking about the “constantly agreeing to go out with you” part.

Now, I do want to make one thing really clear.

Having her agree to meet up with you one time doesn’t mean much in the grand scheme of things.

What we are really looking for is consistency.

Audrey alluded to that in her comment above by using the word “constantly.”

So, if she is constantly agreeing to a date that is a good sign.

 Sign #7: Sending A Lot Of Emojis 

To be honest this is one of those answers that shocked me.

I have never been one to adopt emojis or bitmojis but if the women say that, that is what matters then who am I to matter.

I am guessing that the emojis have to be constantly in the messages and not just occur one time to really make a difference here.

Sign #8: Keeping In Contact With Your Friends And Family

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The important thing to remember here is determing if she was friends with your friends before you dated.

I am assuming that she wasn’t friends with your family before you so if she keeps in touch with your family then that is obviously a good sign.

But keeping in touch with mutual friends might not matter as much unless she wasn’t friends with these people people before she dated you.

Sign #9: Nagging You

This is another one of those signs that I never would have thought of.

According to Jeri she “nags” men that she likes to become better versions of themselves. If you find that your ex is constantly pushing you to be better then that is probably a very good sign!

What’s Next? 

One thing you are obviously curious about is if your ex is still interested in you.

She must have done something to make you think that, right?

Well, if that is the case then I don’t want you to be shy and let us know what that thing is below in the comments. My team and I answer everyone.

We don’t always answer instantly but we always answer.

So, let us know what your ex is doing to exhibit “signs” and we will tell you what we think.	

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