The Advanced Guide To Using Facebook To Get Your Girlfriend Back

I want to make one thing clear.

It is highly unlikely that you are going to be able to get your ex girlfriend back by just using Facebook. Generally speaking it is going to take a lot more than that to achieve your goal. However, that doesn’t mean that you can’t maximize your own personal Facebook profile to propel your efforts into winning her back even further.

A lot of men out there don’t really have any idea what the correct protocol is for Facebook when it comes to getting an ex girlfriend back. Well, this advanced guide is going to answer every possible question you could have about using Facebook to get your ex girlfriend back.

I am going to be talking about things like,

  • Whether or not you should remain friends with your ex girlfriend.
  • When you should change your relationship status.
  • What you should do with any pictures of you and your ex girlfriend together.
  • How to act if your ex does something on your profile.
  • What your profile should look like.
  • How to incite a little jealousy.
  • And much more!

First though, I need to hammer something home for you before we begin.

Facebook Is One Small Piece To A Big Puzzle

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What was the very first thing I said when I started this guide?

I told you that Facebook alone isn’t going to win you your ex girlfriend back.

Lets pretend that the process of getting a girlfriend back is equivalent to putting a puzzle together. Well, using this analogy Facebook would be looked at as one small piece to a much larger puzzle. In other words, if you are expecting this guide to show you step by step how to construct the overall puzzle then you are going to be disappointed because this guide is going to be focusing specifically on just the one puzzle piece, Facebook.

If you are looking for something more comprehensive then I suggest you take a look at my book,

However, if you really want to know the strict guidelines you should follow when it comes to Facebook after a breakup in order to win your girlfriend back then you came to the right place.

Staying Friends Vs. Unfriending

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One of the biggest questions I get on Ex Girlfriend Recovery is whether or not men should unfriend their girlfriends after a breakup. You see, a lot of men are of the mindset that they have to punish their exes by cutting them out of their life completely which means unfriending them on Facebook.

I take the opposite view…

Facebook presents us with a unique opportunity to let your ex girlfriends see how great your life is without them which in turn can spark thoughts like,

“Maybe I made a mistake by letting him go.”

Statistics have shown us that 88% of people are spying on their exes social profiles online after a breakup (according to the Toronto Star.) So, why not take advantage of this, since we know your ex girlfriend is probably going to spy on you via Facebook and put your best foot forward to present yourself in a light that will make your ex girlfriend want you back.

In other words, YOU WANT TO STAY FRIENDS WITH YOUR EX GIRLFRIEND.

Ah, but this leads us to an interesting predicament. What about those men who have already unfriended their exes and are reading this for the first time?

What To Do If You Unfriended Your Ex Girlfriend On Facebook

I guess the question you are wondering is if you should try to friend your ex girlfriend back?

Absolutely!

But only after you have “pimped out” your profile like I will suggest later on in this guide. Look, I know it may be looked at as a bit of a weak sign but in the grand scheme of things no one is going to remember who friended who first.

For now, swallow your pride and take the longer approach to this.

Lets flip the script back to those men who are still friends with their exes and talk a little bit about the relationship status protocol.

When Should You Change Your Relationship Status?

(For an actual game plan on how to get your ex girlfriend back make sure you check out my book, Ex Girlfriend Recovery PRO.)

miracle

When it comes to changing your relationship status from, “in a relationship” to “single” there has always been some debate on the timing of when you should do it.

You see, one camp believes that it is better to wait out your ex girlfriend and do it after she does it.

What are the advantages of this?

Well, the longer she keeps her status as “in a relationship” the higher the chances are of you being able to patch things up with her in that time frame since her keeping that status is indicative that she is on the fence about a full break up. Of course, I have been dealing with broken relationships for years and I can tell you that the truth is that it is highly unlikely that you are going to be able to patch things up with her that quickly.

Instead, what I would recommend for you to do is to change your status from “in a relationship” to “single” as soon as the breakup occurs.

Why?

When that moment finally comes for her spy on your profile post breakup she is going to feel some sting when she sees that status change.

Now, I am not one for making people suffer but sometimes letting her feel that sting is good because it forces her to realize how much you really meant to her.

The greater the sting the greater the love.

Oh, one last thing before we move on. If you do end up being the first one to change your relationship status I am sure you are going to get people posting on your feed asking questions like,

“What happened????”

If this does end up happening to you make sure you do not respond to any of them. I mean, if you were to do that and say something mean or hurtful it could harm your chances when you end up trying to win your ex girlfriend back.

What Do You Do About “Couple Pictures” With The Two Of You Together?

Ah, the couple picture!

Generally speaking if you end up dating someone and it is getting serious the two of you are going to end up taking pictures together. Now, what happens when a couple ends up taking pictures together?

Well, each couple probably posts them on Facebook.

What I would like to talk about now is what you should do with the pictures that you and your ex took together that are posted on your profile.

Do you get rid of them all?

or

Do you keep them all?

I suggest a hybrid of the two!

For example, lets say that on your Facebook profile you have a total of 20 pictures of you and your ex girlfriend together. Well, I would pick out two random pictures and delete the other 18.

We have already established that it is pretty much inevitable that your ex girlfriend is going to come snooping around your profile eventually so she is definitely going to notice that most of the pictures of the two of you are gone but then she is also going to notice that you kept two.

She is going to see that and probably wonder to herself,

“Why would he delete all of our pictures except these two?”

I can’t tell you how many women have messaged me on my other website, Ex Boyfriend Recovery wondering why their ex boyfriends still have some of their pictures up. It drives them nuts because they can’t figure out whether or not their ex still has feelings for them or if he is just keeping the pictures for sentimental reasons.

They are literally drawn more into their exes because they can’t quite solve the riddle and that is exactly what we want from your ex girlfriend.

We want her to be so drawn to figuring you out that she gives you more attention then any ex should probably deserve.

A Word On Status Updates

hate facebook

Posting a status update on Facebook is kind of like a subtle art. You see, there is a right way to post an update and a wrong way to post an update. Oh, and to take things a step further there is also a right way about how you approach the amount of updates you post and a wrong way to approach it.

In this section I am going to give you some perfect guidelines on how you should be approaching status updates if you want to re attract your ex girlfriend.

Lets start with what you should be posting about.

What Kind Of Updates You Should Post

Most men post sappy updates about how they feel after a breakup.

“Today is rough…”

or

“Don’t cross oceans for people who wouldn’t jump puddles for you…”

Oh, and how could I forget one of my favorite type of updates (sarcasm obviously,) song lyrics.

Yes, there are some men out there that will post the lyrics to a certain song that describes exactly how they are feeling. Again, these songs usually have a common theme, life sucks now but its going to get better.

DO NOT POST UPDATES LIKE THESE.

Not only are you going to give your ex the satisfaction of knowing that she is on your mind constantly but everyone is going to look at you as being one of “those” people that post “those” types of updates. Instead of posting about how you are feeling I challenge you to post about what you are doing.

For example, if you are about to go on a vacation to Hawaii or something make sure you post an update about that.

You want to project an image as if everything is fine on Facebook.

Now, you have to be careful about being too fine because then it will look like you are trying too hard. This brings me to my next point.

The Frequency Of Status Updates

There are a certain segment of people on Facebook that annoy me to no end.

Care to take a wild guess at what segment I am talking about?

If you guessed the people who feel the need to post multiple status updates every single day then you guessed correctly.

I don’t know what it is about these people that get on my nerves. In real life they are lovely people but maybe their constant need to seek attention through updates annoys me. Look, I am all for posting an update here or there if something interesting happens but you are going overboard if you are going to post an update every single day (sometimes multiple times throughout the day.)

Essentially what you are admitting to the world if you are posting 10 updates on Facebook every single day is that you have no life at all or that your life simply revolves around finding things to update the world on.

Nevertheless, as I said above updates can be a powerful weapon when it comes to winning back your girlfriend. So, what are the right amount of updates to post?

Should you do one every day?

I don’t think you should post an update on Facebook every day because if that annoys me then that is going to annoy everyone else on your friends list including your ex.

Every other day?

Every other day is a bit too much still in my opinion. While it is nowhere near as bad as posting an update every day some people can still get a little annoyed at every other day updates.

Every week?

Ironically, posting just one update every single week is not enough. I think you probably need to post more than just one update every single week.

Every month?

Again, this suffers from the same problem in that you need to post more updates than just one every single month.

So, what is the perfect amount of updates to post?

Turns out 2 a week should do the trick.

This hovers the line of posting too much and posting too little perfectly! It isn’t too much but rather just enough and that is exactly what we are looking for here.

Adding New Friends (Particularly Girls)

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Here’s an interesting question.

Is it a good idea to go out of your way to add new friends (who are women) on your Facebook profile after a breakup?

Well, in order to answer that properly I feel we have to take a trip into the mind of a woman.

Lets use you and your ex girlfriend as an example. Lets say that after your breakup with your ex you decide to pimp out your Facebook profile by doing everything that this page recommends. Of course, one of those things is to add new friends.

You think to yourself,

“You know, I bet if I add some new friends who are girls on my Facebook my ex girlfriend will get jealous.”

Now, in my opinion a little jealousy in a relationship can be a good thing.

The way I look at it is if someone gets jealous it means that they care. Of course, as I explained in my jealousy article you have to be extremely careful about not going overboard with it. Of course, when it comes to adding women friends on Facebook there is another thing you have to take into account.

Look at the situation from your ex girlfriends perspective.

The two of you just broke up and all of a sudden you start adding a bunch of girls on Facebook. Most likely your ex girlfriend isn’t going to think,

“Who are these women? Do they have a crush on him? Is he dating them???”

Rather she is going to think something like,

“Wow, he is really pathetic… he’s actually trying to make me jealous.”

So, this begs the original question.

Is it even a good idea to add new friends who are women on Facebook after the breakup?

Absolutely!

However, you need to do it in a certain way that makes it more natural.

The Rules For Adding New Friends On Facebook

(If you need more advice on getting your girlfriend back make sure you read my book.)

The first thing you need to be aware of is the frequency of which you are adding new friends.

For example, if you are adding a crazy amount of friends every day it is going to look like you are trying too hard to prove a point to your ex girlfriend. The smarter play would be to add just a few new friends every single week. You shouldn’t add more than five a week but even five is kind of pushing it.

Remember, the name of the game here is to make things look as natural as possible.

Of course, adding friends on Facebook won’t be very natural if you are simply just adding all women.

Think of it like this. If your ex girlfriend decides to snoop around and take a look at your profile and she sees that in the past two weeks you have added ten new friends and they have all been very attractive women she is going to think to herself,

“Wow, he is really trying to prove a point to me isn’t he?”

This is why I would recommend that you shouldn’t just add all women. Mix some men in there to make things look more natural.

So, instead of her opening up your Facebook and seeing you adding ten women she is going to see that you have an even split of five men and five women.

Now, I understand that you may be a little hesitant to add men since men aren’t going to really make her jealous. However, I assure you that those five women you added in those two weeks will be enough to make her curious enough to spy on them (the women you added.)

Once you get your ex doing that you are in a very good position.

Ways To Incite Some Healthy Jealousy On Facebook

jealous people

If you haven’t already read my guide on jealousy I highly recommend you take a few minutes out of your day to educate yourself on the proper way to make a girlfriend jealous so that it benefits your relationship (yes, it’s possible.)

Facebook is a jealous haven.

Pretty much every action that your significant other does on Facebook is carefully watched and dissected. It’s unfortunate because it creates a lot of insecurity in relationships but we are getting off topic here.

I suppose the best way to start this section off is by explaining why making your ex girlfriend a little jealous is beneficial to you in getting her back.

Why It’s Important To Make Her A Little Jealous

Do you remember what I said a few sections ago?

A little jealousy in a relationship can be a good thing

Why is it a good thing though?

Think of it this way. If your ex girlfriend never got jealous during your relationship it probably means she didn’t care enough to get jealous and that is a very bad thing.

Why?

Because it technically means that she would be ok with you hanging out with other women or cheating on her which the last time I checked is NOT an ok thing to do.

Of course, I have a feeling that your ex is capable of jealousy (almost every woman is.)

So, that means that if you can make her a little jealous through Facebook then that means that she looks at you in a light where she still very much cares about you.

Jealousy Method 1- Liking Another Girls Status (Use Sparingly)

One way that you can bring out some feelings of jealousy within your ex girlfriend is to like another girls status on Facebook.

Now, I am already assuming that your ex is keeping a close eye on your Facebook habits with this one so that means that you liking someone else’s status is probably going to show up on her Facebook feed so she is going to be made aware of it.

Of course, one thing I feel compelled to point out is to not go overboard with this.

For example, if you go on a liking spree and just like everything in sight then the chances are pretty high that you are going to project an image that you are trying to make your ex jealous and that is not what we want, her to think you are trying to make her jealous.

What I would recommend you do is pick out a friend of yours that is quite attractive and like her status.

This should do the trick.

Jealousy Method 2- Commenting On Another Girls Wall

This is essentially the same concept as liking another girls status except instead of pressing the like button you are going to actually think of something to say to one of your more attractive friends and write it on her wall.

What is the purpose of doing this?

Imagine for a moment that you and one of your attractive “girl” friends have a conversation in public on Facebook for everyone to see. Your ex girlfriend, who is Facebook spying on you sees this conversation and thinks to herself,

“I KNEW IT!! I knew he liked her.”

Emotional women are quick to jump to wrong conclusions because they can sometimes let their minds run wild with all kinds of crazy possibilities. We kind of want this to happen with your ex girlfriend because if it does happen then that means there is a part of her that is jealous that you are giving attention to someone else that is not her (even though you two are broken up.)

This begs the question,

What are you supposed to say to one of your “girl” friends on Facebook?

If I was you I would stay away from anything too flirty because this can backfire on you in two different ways.

  1. You can really make your ex angry to the point where she may not want you back anymore.
  2. You can get rejected in public by your friend and that’s going to hurt your ego.

Try to keep things very light and casual.

Maybe tell your friend about an episode you saw on TV that made you think of her. Something like that is always interesting but mainstream enough to not be viewed as flirty.

Jealousy Method 3- Take A Picture With Another Girl And Post It

I am going to be completely honest with you.

I am a little split on how I feel about this one.

On the one hand if you really want to make your ex girlfriend jealous then this is definitely going to do the trick. On the other hand, seeing you take a picture with another girl and posting it on Facebook may tick off your ex so much that she doesn’t want you back.

A few things to note.

Before you do anything like this I want you to be aware of the consequences that go along with it.

It is entirely possible that you posting a picture on Facebook with another girl can make your ex so upset that she doesn’t want you back anymore. Of course, it is also possible that it could make her so jealous that she sends you a barrage of text messages in an attempt to get you back after she “realized what she lost.”

So, essentially this is a high risk, high reward tactic.

Now, before I move on I do want to point out that there are a few rules that you are going to have to abide by if you are going to attempt this.

The first rule is that you can’t post any “racy” pictures of you kissing, hugging or groping a girl. So, anything that looks like this is a big no no,

kissing

The type of photo that you should be posting is one that clearly states that you and the girl are just friends. A photo that looks like that will look like this,

friends

Notice how the two people in the photo aren’t touching each other in any way shape or form. They are simply taking a picture together. A photo like that is more than enough to do the trick to make your ex jealous.

Remember though, there could be consequences so make sure you think a lot about this before you try it.

The Rest Of The Puzzle

I told you at the beginning of this guide that Facebook is only one small puzzle piece to a much larger puzzle.

Now, I imagine you came to this website to find a way to get your ex girlfriend back and not just to pimp out your Facebook profile. Well, as much as I would love to tell you what to do right here I feel it isn’t an efficient use of my time as I have already slaved away on a game plan for getting a girlfriend back.

If you are looking for an actual step by step guide that tells you everything you need to know about getting your girlfriend back I suggest you take a look at this guide as it will take you through the entire ex recovery process from start to finish.

I would also recommend taking a look at some of the other articles I have written on this site as they will give you insight into how to successfully pull of the challenging task of winning an ex girlfriend back.

Oh, and I am actively updating this site pretty much every day so if you ever have any questions you can simply ask me in the comments section below.

		

Written by EGR team mate

Chris Seiter

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missy
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hi, m missy couple of months back we parted ways leaving me in pains n regrets. we’ve dated for a year buh before the break up my boyfriend loves sex n i dnt cos i was raped earlier n it has always been a trauma i have to kip up wit. on three occassions we had sex i feel bein used n he does like dat neither do i n he doesnt want us talkin about it few months back i called him den he told me he only respect n dat he wasnt interest anymore buh i luv him… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

How long have you been doing nc? How much did you improve yourself and are you seeing a therapist

Mark
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I don’t use social media so how can I have her see my improvements?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Mark,

How long was your relationship? Why did you break up? And you have to open fb or instagram, so you can start being active..

J
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When should you start posting on social media?
Its been a week now of NC and I haven’t posted anything online or even taken down our couple pictures (which was a profile picture)
I’ve only looked at her Instagram stories but haven’t liked any of her posts or any posts of that matter. I kinda wanted to be off the grid a bit until I make some improvements like looking better and stuff.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi J,

start posting now.. and stop social media stalking her..

Complicated
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Hey, I really hope that you would give me the time to answer me. I’ve listened to unlimited amounts of podcasts, I’ll tell you my story, it might be long but I will shorten it so you can read it quickly. So, our relationship is long distance, we’re both 20, we’re so alike, when we are together, we love each other so much, we can’t keep our hands off each other. Last couple of times we visited each other it wasn’t the best, and the last time she visited me, she stayed for 2 weeks, and I would go to… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi,

Do you want to try the advices on the posts you commented on? No contact means, no initiating, no replying and no social media stalking.. So, that means you need to restart the count..check this one too:
How to Get Your Ex Back if You Were Clingy

Victor
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3 months ago, I met a girl. She is 25 (I’m 31), project manager in the beauty and cosmetic industry, good looking with a life similar to mine. We both click really fast. I would describe the time we spent together, as being simple, light and not complicated at all. She was affectionate with me in any sense, same for me and she was always telling me that she had a good time and thanking when I was taking her on date. Before meeting me, she was in a relationship for 5 years and single for 1 1/2 years. Both… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

dont chase and dont try to convince her.. it’s like begging.. just slowly build rapport after nc while you continue having your own life.

Craig Hamilton
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Hi, I broke up with my girlfriend about a week ago. Initially I started it as a mutual thing and she seemed to agree. But then we were kissing and reminiscing for a few hours before I left. She even spoke about fantasising about a wedding. I left and all of it felt so wrong despite thinking it was right before. I returned just half hour or so later (uninvited) to tell her I completely regret the decision) she was not happy and asked me to leave. Two days later I dropped some things off at her place (in response… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

do at least 3 weeks of nc.. heal and improve yourself for now.

Nathan
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What about liking, or not liking her status updates?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

if you’re in no contact period, dont..

Jeffrey
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I hit it off with this girl when we first met and we became very close. We moved to different parts of the world and played our hands with long distance. We enjoyed each other’s company very much and even managed to connect further despite the distance between us. About a year into the relationship, she became distant and I found out she was in a relationship with someone else. I was overcome with a feeling helplessness from my place several thousand miles away, but I tried to act rationally (unsuccessfully) rather than on impulse when I found out. I… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Jeffrey,

if she’s single now, then you should initiate more to build rapport.

Tom
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Hi Team, I recently had a somewhat mutual breakup with my ex this past weekend. We dated for 13 months and until the last 3 or 4 weeks it was really going well. She works full time for a university and is doing an MBA and I’m working two jobs. Despite how busy we sound, we made it work like this for months. We had moments where we communicated about how hard it was from time to time, but the truth is we did a good job of negotiating boundaries and figuring out how to spend quality time together. 3ish… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

HI Tom,

Yes, you have to restart the count because nc means no replying, no initiating and no social media stalking. So, if you see her in person just reply politely direct if she talks to you..

Steven
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Hi there – A quick scenario for you to look at tell me what you think. I was dating this girl, quite a few years younger than I. We met in University last year and were dating then, I’ve since graduated and moved away to a town a few hours away. I have always committed to driving to see her and spend time with her, but because a lot of her close friends disprove of the relationship mostly because of the age gap and we have had to keep our relationship secret – which was not a good thing for… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Steve,

take it as a restart.. Improve yourself so you can be more attractive.. so she can see you in a different light.

John
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Quick question. What if you like your Ex girlfriends FB post during a time of no contact. Does that mean I have broken no contact and was it a bad mistake. Please help lol

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi John,

yes you have broken it..dont focus in the bad, just restart the count..

steve
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Hi There, Broke up with my girlfriend a month ago – she asked for time and space. We used to go to the same college together, but I’ve since graduated and she has a couple more years to go. I occasionally go back to visit, and once time I said hey i’d like to see you – she said no but then eventually said yes and we went for coffee and it was wonderful. our communication was lukewarm, not consistent and eventually she said she wants to move on from this relationship because she’s too dependent on me. All fine… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Steve,

take it as a restart.. Improve yourself so you can be more attractive.. so she can see you in a different light.

Tim
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What do you do if your ex unfriended you on Facebook and it was a few weeks after the break-up? During that time you didn’t post anything yourself and your ex hadn’t posted anything. You were tagged in posts and were liking various types of stuff including engagement photos of other friends. Essentially using Facebook like usual. Also the relationship was great, together for almost a year. There were no warning signs or red flags, pretty much a 180 type situation. You never sent mean texts or attempted to over call afterwards. You tried contacting your ex to understand why… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Tim,

so she has commitment issues? When did you break up? Even if you didn’t talk, do you want to try the no contact rule and start improving yourself?

Tim
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I will see how things go and try to focus on school for now.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

That’s good Tim.. That’s the right action to do

Alexander
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Hey Chris, As of about 8 days ago, my now ex-girlfriend & I of about 8 months broke up. I firmly believe that we were both very much in love with each other (there was probably a lot of comfort in companionship, too, but there was definitely something there). Early on in the relationship I made the mistake of ‘kissing a boob’ of a random girl while out of town for a music fest with my friend, who was dating my GF’s best friend. This happening very shortly after taking her virginity (I myself hadn’t slept with anyone for 2… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Alexander,

did you send the letter?

Leland R.
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Wait, so I read the whole article and didn’t get a clear answer on what to do if I already removed her from Facebook.

I told her I would need to remove her for a while. My mistake. I basically told her I was going to break contact. That was only 4 days ago. So when and how should I go about adding her on Facebook again?

Thanks,
Leland

Dominic Cruz
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Just add her back, that’s all.

Jexler Caranto
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I’ve been dated my ex-girlfriend for 3years and 6months. Many challenges came in our way but we were ever to get through it. I decided to join the military right after high school because there’s no other way for me to go to college. She was very supportive about it. After a year of long distance relationship, we finally reunited again for 1 month and have to go back to my duty station. Even in our long distance relationship, we always talk to each other through phone calls and text messages (everyday). It’s been a year again since we held… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

HI Jexler,

I think long distance relationship is taking a toll on her.. how are you now?

Dominic
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Hi there, my ex just got her results as I was just starting into my nc (21 days) but she told me she didn’t get accepted anywhere!! I didn’t reply trying to stick to the plan!! Next day she sent me just an angry emoji because I wasn’t replying!! So very next day I went on her profile and she had uploaded a picture and then continues to delete me! We were in a ldr for 3 years with planning on me moving there in October!! I know she is angry but isn’t that a bad sign about the nc?… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi DOminic,

are you staying strong in nc? Let her be.. even if she’s angry, that’s still a good sign because that means she’s trying to get your attention

karan oraon
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I had a breakup before 6 months with my girlfriend. we were met at facebook. I applied NC and after that I used to talk with her but I got little desperate and needy because I hadnt met her even first time. Before meeting due to some my fault she broke up. And now she use to online one or twice in a week for just couple of minutes. So what should I do?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Karan,

are you back in no contact rule now? Are you actively improving yourself?

Justin
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Hello there, Alright ill start from the beginning. so we dated for four years on and off but four years nonetheless. we broke up last summer and then she begged for me back saying she knew i was the one forever, so i took her back. and then starting in early november she started to distance herself and we broke up in December So february came around, and we started to hangout again. she started saying how she didn’t realize how much she missed me and that there was still love there admitted to wanting to kiss me, but didn’t… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Justin,

maybe, and it can also be because they’re in the honeymoon phase right now.

phani
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Thanku so much for responding me!!!! ..:) okk am recounting the no contact rule from the day I started improving my self. Am moving on by improving my self in health n wealth. like am doing gym and mainting glamour. But how many days I have to follow nc rule? what the result I will get finally? does she have feeling on me? as she Is chasing the another guy did she forgot all physical contact between she n me? and next month of August is her birthday. shall I wish her and gift her smthng?? or shall I don’t… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

do 45 days,.nope don’t do greet her because you’re still in nc.. we can’t guarantee that nc will work 100% but it is the better choice for you

phani
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sir I loved one girl we both r deeply in relation for 6months. quarrels r common between us. but suddenly she keep on telling me reasons fr leaving me. and finally she told me that she dont like me and she likes some other guy. she told me that go away frm life pls I dnt like u. she said me that she like some other guy not me. and later she proposed one guy of her classmate. and that guy is love failure he is cheated my some girl. my Ex she proposed to him. and that guy rejected… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Phanj,

so you’re ex is chasing the other guy? You have to be actively improving yourself in health, wealth and social aspects of your life.. you have to restart the count of nc.. Start the count on the day you start improving yourself and you have to continue the activities even after nc to maintain yourself.. she has to think first that you’re moving on and you have to increase the attraction by improving yourself

Ninja
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So I told my ex that I could no longer be her friend because it hurt too much to see her and talk to her and not have the same relationship as before. I did that yesterday. But I do not know what to think she gave me two different answers. Answer 1: She loves me, she is sorry she hurt me, she has a lot going on and knows she cannot offer her complete attention to our relationship because she is working on getting help to let go of the scars of her past relationship. She said she wants… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi ninja,

no contact will not have the same effect with her because she knows it.. you have to do 45 days because that’s what she doesn’t expect and she probably just said those because she’s being possessive.. to keep you connected as friends.. you have to really have to massively improve during nc to increase your chances.

Ninja
Guest

When you say massively improve what do you mean?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

improve yourself in health, wealth and relationships aspects of your life.. go to the gum, eat healthy, go out with friends, build new skills, join classes to grow and meet new people and get out with him..make a new routine

Ninja
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Hi, So my ex still talks to me, she wants me in her life, she wants to have a strong friendship with me. What does that even mean? She said she wants to start on a clean slate as friends and if we cross the relationship path again then we will do so. She checks all my social media, watches:reads all my posts. She calls me and still texts me as well. She has told me she loves me and does not want to date anyone else, just that her life is so busy right now with work and raising… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Ninja,

so what she basically says is, she just needs time for herself for now but she’ll surely go back to you?

Jack
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It is really weird. My ex and I used to share an iPad. I recently turned it on and I went on Facebook. Her account was logged in. I thought it was my account so I checked the notifications thinking they were mine. And what I noticed is she has kept me in her ‘close friend’s’ section and she looks at everything I post to my Facebook. Why would she do this if she is no longer in love with me?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

hi jack,

that means she misses you

Tomislav Kos
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Hello “Ex girlfriend recovery” staff. I need some advice on what to do in the light of my recent events with my ex. So, almost two weeks ago, my gf broke up with me it wasn’t that rough of a break up but we did chat over text message for the next 2 days. Then I read the NC strategy and went with it. It went well for the next couple of days, my ex kept sending me text messages and then stopped. So, everything was going smooth (In my mind at least) until out of nowhere, I ran into… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Tomislav,

nope, it didn’t because you didn’t actually had a small talk

Bladimir
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So my girlfriend broke up with me because work started to become her life and combine with looking after her daughter and seeing me she was stressed beyond belief. She asked me to give her some space so she could have alone time to herself and decompress. Before we began dating she told me there would be times when she would need alone time and when she finally asked for it I understood that but for some reason was not giving it to her. I realized that I became too clingy and focused on showering her with that affection that… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

HI Bladimir,

that’s good.. do it for yourself, not just because you want her back.. genuine happiness is what attracts other people.

Bladimir
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So we have had some distance. We hung out twice and everything was great and amazing but the days after when she had the “space” and alone time she needed all she would do is argue with me over small stuff. She would just rage for something so simple. Of course I would call her and talk about it all and calm her down to the point where both views were made but after I made a joke a few days ago, which she did not like, she has not talked to me since. Why is it that when we… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

can be that, it can also be that she remembers the bad stuff when she’s alone

Elliot
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If your ex has been sleeping with other people after the break up, does this mean there is no chance ?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Elliot,

it depends.. why did you break up? Why is she sleeping around? or she just slept with one guy?

Rick
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I broke it off with my gf due to trust issues. She was texting her ex and what I saw in those text were pretty much cheating to me and she was putting me down. I noticed before I found the text messages that she was acting very cold and distant. We lived together so I flip flopped off and on with breaking up with her and staying or moving out. We did end up moving out but thought we could stick it out and make it work. Went well for about a week went to a wedding and two… Read more »
Justin
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what if your ex girlfriend has unfriended you? We broke up 2 weeks ago, I told her that I’m not gonna contact her and I’ll leave her be. So I’ve been NC for two weeks, during which I took the time to focus on myself (go to the gym, focus on school, hang out with friends). I made an event on Facebook and invited some friends, but I made sure not to invite her. The day before the event, 2 days ago, she texts me sayin “I hope you’re doing well”. I ignore the text because I wanted to continue… Read more »
GTA5 Download
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Everything is very open with a clear explanation of the challenges.
It was truly informative. Your site is very useful.

Many thanks for sharing!

viking
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I used facebook all summer to get my ex gf back (she’s with another)…After a while, she suddenly started to like my stuff (pics of nice new appartement, me with friends, me with another woman (she immediately sent a message-she was “happy for me”)), we sent eachother messages and finally agreed to meet again when I was back in town…Some sexual messages were also sent by both…When I got back she backed off; sexual messages again though, but then I lost it lol, bombarded her with messages; she basically got really annoyed, I deleted her, but became friends again; she… Read more »
Alex
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My almost fiancé broke up with me when she met a guy she says she has a connection with him. She is very depressed and doesn’t even know what she wants in her life she is not sure if this guy is right for her either but she thinks she found out that I am not right for her because she might want something more than me treating her like a princess. Her depression is bad and has no desire in anything she is confused about her life goals and she is kind of obsessed with this guy wich he… Read more »
Manuel
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Chris
Ex seems to be really active on all social sites during the no.contact period. Anything i should know. Im really tempted to break the no contact rule. Help

Behonest
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taking a picture with anyone even though you’re sinlge now gives them a go to go ham and start posting pictures of themselves with every tom dick and harry, i literally think it’s better to just go ghost on facebook and they absolutely have no idea whats going on with you.

Manuel
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Yes I do have her number. Yes blocked. No i have not read the book. Cant afford it on a students budget. Currency exchange rates suck bugtime. Sorry.

Manuel
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Yeah. Im in the worst case scenario Chris. I have done everything in this site that I should not have. I am getting a taste of the full out block. Im giving the NCR a go. Ill inform you of progress

Manuel
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Hey Chris. Love the positivity you put out. I was on the verge of giving up then I found this site. Im in a bit of a pickle. My ex gf shut me out completely. No replies. Text facebook instagram you name it. I can email her but I dont think that will do the trick. Im planning on initiating the No Contact Rule and see how it plays out. Can you I cant find an email address anywhere on this site. Anyways Im hoping you could walk me through the process. Looking forward to talking to you. Thanks. KEEP… Read more »
James
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I have a question about the use of the reset button. After my ex broke up with me, we spent two weeks communcating, on a decent level. In the third week I started to lay off, then sent a text about a big event in my life. I got a good response and instead of leaving it there I asked to talk (not beg but Im sure she viewed it that way!) Two days later I made one phone call, middle of the afternoon, left no voicemail, and got the “please leave me alone” treatment. Since then I have hit… Read more »
Frank
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Hey Chris ran into your website and gotta say really great information on here. So my ex girlfriend of 2.5 years broke up with me a week ago with and immediately blocked me on facebook so I started no contact. 3 days later she unblocked and messeged me to see what I was doing but I didn’t respond. I also changed my status to single but she still has in a relationship with our anniversary date. No contact has been very hard but determined to stick with it. Should I interpret her messaging me as a good thing? Any feedback… Read more »
Esteban
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We we were almost 3 years together in a long distance relationship. I had traveled to her city to work for two months and rented an appartment so we could be together. I graduated from my college, I found another job for a while and now I ‘m trying to get another diploma. She had to my city as well for quite some time. We were making plans to live together in two months and start our lives at her city, under one roof. Suddenly she told me she couldn’t wait any longer and that he reached her limits so… Read more »
Richard Strauss
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Chris,

I am 37 days into no contact. Neither my ex nor I have changed our relationship status but rather, we both on the first day changed it so no one can read it. Should I now change it to single?

Harnish
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Hi Chris My girlfriend of almost 3 years recently broke up with me. Pretty much here is a summary of everything I feel I did wrong and how it all just accumulated over time. We started off great, but the first issue came when I was hanging out with one of my female friends and she was hurt and angry because I didn’t tell her. So next time I do tell her but she still gets mad so I decide from now on I won’t tell her (I know bad idea because she found out) and this happened a lot… Read more »
e.k.o
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Hello Chris.. My girlfriend of 5yrs broke up with me in 2013.. I deleted her on all social networking sites just to clear my head and heart.. After that we used to have brief convos on birthdays and the likes but nothing serious.. We didn’t see each other for all that period.. And now she got into town and we met as she was asking me questions about my relationships stats etc.. I actually told of one that didn’t really work.. My question are whether telling her of that relationship was the right thing and also why she’d be asking..… Read more »
Ben
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Hi Chris! Ever since you changed the format of your website I can’t seem to post on the comments section. I originally posted in the “How to get your ex girlfriend back if SHE cheated” post. It was deleted after you had answered my question and you had asked me a question. I’m posting on this post because there’s less comments on this one, so I figure maybe it will help. So I’m the guy who’s girlfriend of 5 years cheated on him about a month ago. We’ve had an on again off again relationship for these past 5 years.… Read more »
Fred
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Hi Chris Thanks so much for making this awesome blog. It has helped me a lot, and I’m sure I’m not alone. Since reading this blog I’ve noticed that I have more self respect and I’m less depressed about the whole breakup situation (though the depression comes and goes). I had a specific question about the NC and facebook. I blocked her before we broke up and in the last week of us dating (8 out of 9 months we spent living together) she refused to re-accept my request. Then we broke up for good, and I admit I was… Read more »
Fred
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I also wanted to add that all of her stuff is in my storage locker. I checked on it yesterday. She has the combo to get it all out, but she hasn’t. I’m sure its just convenient for her to leave it there.

Fred
Guest

I doubt it. She has been pretty good at this NC stuff herself. I don’t see her wavering, shes pretty stubborn, and apparently gets over relationships quickly. So, back to my original question. Should I wait till the NC period is over to send over a fb add again? Or just start texting and forget about FB?

Fred
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Any comments on the questions above? Wait for 21 days to re-add her to FB or 30? She hasn’t and won’t contact me first, she is pretty stubborn.

Steven
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Hey Chris, I noticed the other day that I am no longer blocked from my ex girlfriend’s personal fb page. (My ex from the gym) We are both doing the fitness show this weekend so that will be tough for me to have to see her. You may recall how my ex sent me several texts about 3 or 4 weeks ago asking me to withdraw and from the show as she didn’t want to do the same show I was in. I had told her that I had to go through with this show..she wasn’t happy about it but… Read more »
Kimroon
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Hello Cris, My girlfriend broke up with me a month ago because she was in love with another guy. She came to my place during the first week of break and third. I have been contacting her but I am three days in NC. Also, the other guy spends a lot of time with her and she says she is attracted to him a lot. The other day I posted several pictures on fb and she liked and commented on them. What can I do to get her back she I messed up during the initial days after breakup (I… Read more »
Steven
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Hey Chris, I read through your information on how to use facebook to win back your ex but like a few others I have the dilemma of being blocked by my ex. My ex left me over two years ago (for the second time) after a long relationship and we had a lot of tension (created by her) this past fall when I joined the same gym she was going to. (she has since joined a new gym) She had blocked me on FB in the fall after her and I exchanged a few ‘friendly’ messages. I was blocked for… Read more »
Ruikee
Guest

Hi Chris, i like the facebook blog. One thing you didnt really cover in detail is how to handle when you are actually blocked on Facebook, which is where i am at now.
Not sure how people can tell if you are blocked on cell and text unless they tell you they have, but im not sure there.

NC for about 10 days i think…..

Thanks

Bill

Lee
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Hey chris, any word on the “blocked” situation article yet?

Michel
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So I read two of your articles and I’m gonna try it it’s a long distance one but I’m gonna give it a shot what do you think I should do tho if she’s in college and I’m in the army and she said she wants to see what life has to offer we been together since high school she said that I’m all she knows and that she wants to see what else is out there what should I do or can I do???

David Immanuel Simamora
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David Immanuel Simamora

I am on my first day of NC, two days after breakup. I am 20 and my ex-girlfriend 18. Last night, she updated her status on Facebook:

because the highest level of love is to give up :’)

Could you tell me what is that status indicate? Is she really giving up on me?

David Immanuel Simamora
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David Immanuel Simamora

Can’t agree more with you! Thank you! By the way, could you please reply my comment in the LDR section of this site? I really need your opinion and suggestion :). Thank you once again

David Immanuel Simamora
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David Immanuel Simamora

I have re-post it, please comment! Thank you

David Immanuel Simamora
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David Immanuel Simamora

How if she chat with me?

David Immanuel Simamora
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David Immanuel Simamora
Hello, thank you for all you suggestions, which i needed once again. So, here are her new statuses in Facebook: My status may be single, but my heart is not 😀 haha (27 March 2015, deleted) You can not choose between loved or injured. What you can do is to love wholeheartedly ~ good afternoon :’) (yesterday afternoon) For the first status, I am wondering if she refers to me or not? And for the second status, for whom that status applied to? Her or me or us both? You can see my story in the LDR guide section of… Read more »
David Immanuel Simamora
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David Immanuel Simamora

I just find out that her third status (most recent) is a tweet from the brother of Olga Syahputra, an Indonesian presenter and comedian who have just recently died. My question, was that status posted because he is sympathetic to Olga or is she using it with double intention, I mean to him as well to me? What is your opinion? Thank you

shashwat Nirmalkar
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Hey my gf is luving sumone else but she also saying that she luv me too but because of different cities we can’t make relationships.. Wat can i do i luv her.. :'(
She is added in facebook… But not replying..?