How to Get My Ex Girlfriend Back After I Pushed Her Away

As children, we don’t just learn from school books and lessons. We have an innate curiosity that makes us watch the way people interact. You may not realize it, but in your mind, you have cataloged impressions, from ever single interaction you’ve ever witnessed.

As a child, I quickly noticed that my parents didn’t interact with each other like my friends’ parents did.

Why?

Well, because I am adopted and my parents are significantly older than the parents of the kids in my classes. They grew up in another generation and, because they couldn’t have children together, interacted differently. They just weren’t overly affectionate with each other. Now, don’t get me wrong, they love each other very much. In fact, they still do to this day. It’s kind of cute. But, it isn’t the kind of love you see in movies or fairy tales, you know the kind of love everyone hopes for.

Now, I was a huge reader as a kid. In fact, I still am. I love books more than I like most people. One of my favorite books, when I was a kid, was “Great Expectations.”

Yeah I know, weird, but I was an odd kid. It worked out for me in the long run. The reason for this, was because it was like an anti-fairytale. It didn’t have a happy ending, and people manipulated each other, just like they I saw people do in real life every day.

Now, as children, most people aren’t taught this, but that curiosity… it leads us to pay attention to the world around us. Now, because kids are so caught up in phones and video games, it’s likely that they don’t see as much going on around them. But they for sure see the things going on at home.

My childhood was before it was considered normal to give kids cell phones at 6. (I won’t even go off on that tangent.) I got my first cellphone, a Nokia brick, at 16. That may date me a little bit, but… who cares?

So, anyways, I had to fill my time doing other things. So, I spent a lot of time watching people and drawing conclusions from their actions.

Now, I was no Sherlock Holmes, I wasn’t making wild accusations all over the place. But, I would tell my mother that I noticed in church that a couple who usually sat close together were sitting with their children in between them. The only conclusion I could make from this is that either they were upset with each other or they were trying to keep a closer eye on their kids.

I would notice if this went on for a few weeks and I would notice if one or both of them happened to miss a service. From this, I could conclude that they were probably splitting up, and sure enough, I was almost always right.

And my mom would tell me that it was none of my business.


Now, it’s easy to sit on the sidelines of someone else’s life and see it clearly, but understanding our own reasoning as to why we do the things we do… that’s a bit more difficult.

Although, the relationships we witness growing up can play a major role in how we see our own relationships as adults.

Understanding Why You Pushed Your Ex Girlfriend Out of Your Life

It takes a little effort to understand why you pushed your girlfriend away.

And, guess what!

Only you can figure that one out because only you know your situation.

I know… you’re probably thinking, well that’s lame, I wanted someone to just tell me the answers.


I feel your pain. But I have good news, I’ve made a list of the most popular reasons I’ve heard people give for pushing someone away. So if you aren’t sure of your reasons as to why you did, perhaps you can find some direction in these.

  1. I didn’t want repeat mistakes I’d made in the past.
  2. I didn’t want to repeat someone else’s mistakes.
  3. I imagined all the ways she could hurt me.
  4. I didn’t think I was good enough.
  5. I thought I could do better.
  6. It was too fast too soon.
  7. The relationship didn’t have a foundation.
  8. There was too much space between us already.
  9. I just don’t get women. She was so confusing. (my personal favorite, if you wanted to know)

The list can go on and on and on, but those are just the ones I hear a lot.

Let’s break them down a little so they’re more relatable.

Repeat Mistakes – Usually, a self-preservation move made as a response to the pain suffered from a past relationship. In my experience, this is usually triggered by something happening in the most recent relationship that reminds him of something that happened during his past relationship. For example, if in a past relationship, your previous girlfriend had a habit of nagging you about little things. Even, if that wasn’t the reason for the relationship turning to crap, it definitely was a part of the relationship that stuck in your mind. So, when your most recent ex-started nagging you about taking the trash out, you might have inadvertently related this recent relationship with an old one and assumed that it was headed in the same direction.

Someone Else’s Mistakes – Seeing other people’s relationships crash and burn can make anyone a little wary, especially if you have seen the fallout up close, like with parents, siblings or close friends. Witnessing the pain of heartache over my lifetime was enough to make me keep people at arm’s length for most of my college career, so I really do understand if this is where you are coming from.

Overwhelming Possibilities – If the future scares you a little bit, then this might have been a factor in your actions. I’ve found that this happens a lot with overthinkers. These tend to be people who tend to worry a lot about what MIGHT happen, not necessarily things that are likely to happen. They let the scary thoughts in their head overcome reason.

Self-Doubt – There is this perfect equilibrium that you don’t see in many couples these days. Where they see each other as partners rather than one being better than the other. So often things go one way or the other. In this case, he would get it in his head that she is somehow better that he will ever be, that he doesn’t deserve her. In this case, he would push her away because he thought she could do better than him.

Over-Confidence – This is the exact opposite of how self-doubt pans out. Basically, he sees her as not good enough. He pushes her away to make room for someone else. Sadly, with social media the way it is these days, we are constantly berated by other options. People telling us how great we look and how exciting our lives seem. Then there are always those messages from people checking to see “if you’re seeing anyone” or “if you’re happy in your relationship.” It’s easy to get the idea that you have other and possibly better options.

Too Fast, Too Soon – This is what happens when a couple started dating and he overinvested without realizing it. Suddenly, he realized that it had been 5 months and he got comfortable with her. He might actually have felt real feelings. To some people, no, to most people, that is a terrifying thing in the world. And fear can be the best motivator for rash decisions. And pushing someone away because you love them is, well, it’s usually a rash decision.

No Foundation – Any relationship, romantic or otherwise, has to be built on a solid foundation. A romantic relationship requires a foundation of trust and respect. Without these two pillars along with friendship are what keep a relationship balanced. If one of the three falls short, the relationship crumbles. Recognizing this, or feeling the effects of this would have anyone backing away slowly to avoid the fallout. It is a natural to want to avoid being hurt.

Growing Distance – Sometimes, a rift forms, even if it’s a little one. In this case, that rift grew to an overwhelming crevasse. That tiny rift can grow even if it was something that went unnoticed at first. If it is ignored and it grows into a crevasse, it can become impossible to repair. This happens a lot in longer relationships or relationships that have sustained a harsh blow, like a death or a history of cheating.

Overwhelmed by Confusion – I get it. Women are confusing, but then again, so is everyone else when they want the people around them to predetermine what it is that they want or need. But that’s where the one thing that every relationship guru, therapist, whatever you want to call them has preached since the dawn of time… communication. Too often do people find themselves avoiding communication with their partner for whatever reason, usually fear of being hurt.

Look at the relationship you were thinking of when you opened this article. Do any of these reasons sound familiar? Maybe a combination or a portion of one of one of them?
Whatever reason you had for pushing her away, only you can determine what it is and it will most certainly take the time to figure that out.

A lot of people skip this step when they start No Contact. They expect to just be able to say, “I’m sorry,” and go on with life. But you know what that will do.

Have you ever seen a little kid get in trouble for something, apologize, and then just do it again? Your ex is hurt right now, possibly even angry with you. How do you think she’ll respond to you just saying you’re sorry?

If you are expecting anything more than… this…

…then you should just prepare for disappointment.

There is no moving forward if you don’t sort out what got you to this point.
What better time to do that than during No Contact?

Understand Her Position On What When On in the Relationship

There is another thing you need to understand and that is her perspective. If you pushed her away and it is unlikely that you completely understand why you did it, is it not understandable that she is also in the dark on that matter?


You need to put yourself in her shoes.

Once you understand where she’s coming from, you can start to see why she might be irritated at you.
Whereas most people would advise you to explain yourself to her so that she can understand. But, the only way she can understand is if you understand and she has had time to move past being hurt or upset. That is why No Contact is so important.

Let me tell you about my first great love. I met him my freshman year in college. I was instantly taken with him. I fell for him and we were happy for a little over a year.suddenly he just… went missing. I couldn’t get ahold of him no matter how hard I tried. If I saw him, he wasn’t just mean… he was utterly cruel. I went through phases of hating and missing him for almost a year. Eventually, he came back into my life. He apologized. I was young and I fell for it hook, line, and sinker.

He joined the armed forces. A lot of things about him changed. So, when he came back and visited home a few years later and I had to be around him in a friendly setting. He pulled me aside and apologized, yet again. I accepted his apology while reminding myself that I would never ever let him close to my heart again like before. So, permanent friend zone.

To this day, he apologizes to me at least once every single time we talk, but because he hadn’t made any changes to his habits. If I had ever forgiven him to the point of loving him again, I am certain he would do it again, even today, ten years later.

He still gets the Doug Funny Treatment.

What Happens Next

After you manage to do both of these things, understanding why you pushed her away and understanding how it may have seemed from where she was standing, you can finish No Contact like a pro and then move on to the next step in the Ex Recovery Program… Texting.

Here are links to a few articles on successfully mastering No Contact.

Here’s the main article on making contact after No Contact.

Any movement forward can be followed from there, but none of it can be done properly without taking a personal survey of where you stand now and how you came to get here. In order to be successful, do what this article lays out for you before you move on the other steps. But, when you do, you have a steady support system here at EGR.

You’ve made it this far, let us be a part of your journey. Don’t be afraid to reach out with any questions you might have in the comments. We would love to help you get her back!

		

Written by EGR team mate

EBR Team Member: Ashley

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Brandon
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Hey I just wanted to ask like since its pretty common that exes block or unfriend each other on social media right after a break up, my ex didn’t do that at all she kept me everywhere she had me and she watches my snapchat stories every single time and a month after we broke up she got jealous and wrote a subliminal saying nobody cares about your life updates and I was confused I was like I didn’t do anything wrong to her why would she say that. I posted my daily activities on snapchat and she would see… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

that’s a good sign.. that means she’s still affected by you.

James
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I’ve been dating my GF (ex now) for 6 years. She decided to take a break because she didn’t feel like we were in a relationship anymore. The reason behind this is because over the past 2 years I’ve really struggled with gambling. All she wanted was attention but I didn’t give it to her do to the stress of gambling and losing money. She’s begged me to propose to her but I never really thought of it because of the gambling. I begged her to come back (this was before I read this article). 3 weeks passed and I… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi James,

start the count of 30 days no contact rule from here, get a counselor for yourself, be active in improving yourself and in posting.

Devin
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Hello everyone, I’ll get right to it. I started dating this girl the end of January and we broke up at the end of September. We had went to the same school so we always knew each other. I’m 21 she’s 20. When we got together, she said I was her high school crush and she was telling the truth. She said she’d never leave me and was so happy we were finally together. We talked about getting married and starting a family as thats what she had always wanted. We never texted all day, but at the beginning we… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Devin,

How are you now? Are you still talking?

Devin
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Not really, I had to initiate contact yesterday after about two weeks.
Two weeks ago she was saying things like “maybe im just not your type” and made it seem like she didn’t feel good enough for me and she couldn’t make me happy. She then said yesterday “I think you should just move on.” I tried having a normal conversation with her but she said I wasn’t trying to have a normal conversation.
I’m not sure what to do at this point. thanks for your reply

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

That’s a good sign.. why would she wonder if she’s not your type, if she doesn’t really care.. start the no contact rule, do at least 30 days. Be active in improving yourself and in posting.

Devin
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Hello Amor, thanks for the reply again. And you’re right she does care. However, there is another issue and its with what I said earlier, “I tried having sex with her at first that night but she was still sick. then I wasn’t tired and tried keeping her up at night but that was a bad thing to do.” She now says I basically tried to rape her, what I did was unacceptable, and she can’t just easily forgive me for doing that. I responded by saying I stopped and I know I did because I got a few hours… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

If it was a sincere apology, lay low for a while and let her be for now.. maybe a week or two..

Devin
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Update: she says I ruined chances of us getting back together cause of constantly texting her, and now she has a new guy. Apparently he’s better because he takes her to do stuff with her daughter and I tried that after a couple months but she still says we aren’t getting back together. I guess I didn’t show I was serious soon enough. She also said she’s done and this new guy isn’t a rebound. I’m devastated right now and I’m not sure what to do. I pushed her away and now she’s seeing someone else.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

That means your one last try is at least a 45 day nc.. And to not chase anymore

Colten
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So me and my ex broke up about a month ago, we had a very good connection and we were way close. She moved because of college and the distance was hard so we mutually decided to split, however we kept talking after the break up and we argued a lot and now she wants to take a “break” and needs space, I am actually going to the same college next week and will be close to her. We haven’t talked in about 3 days. She said I still mean a lot to her but she wants some time right… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Colten,
Try the no contact rule and check this one, since you’re going to be in the same school:
Using The No Contact Rule (Everything You Need To Know)

Ryan
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My girlfriend and I broke up and i basically drove her away to another man and made it ugly when she got him and I now am starting realize what it was like in her shoes. Do i still even have a chance? Ive been doing NC for 5 days now.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Ryan,

just start being active in improving yourself and in posting even if you’re not friends. Add her back later on when you’ve already built rapport. If you’re still blocked, extend nc.

Veron
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My gf and I have been dating for 6 years. We have broken up a couple different times while we were younger. I’m 20 and she’s 19. But we got back together and are relationship was stronger each time. About 3 years ago we broke up and stayed broken up for about 1 year. She had a couple bfs and after all that we got back together. Now we have been together for 1.5 years and we have been arguing about things. She said I would never change. I have no ambition and I was holding her back. A month… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

hi Veron,

ok, start improving yourself now.. and be active in posting and then slowly rebuild rapport after.. do at least 30 days.

JJ
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My girlfriend and I have been together for 2 years, short story she was in a bad relationship before me, married then divorced. She had a kid young. We met fell in love and both supported eachother. She went on to become an amazing person from broken to knowing what she want or so I thought. She broke down and broke up with me with no closure and couldnt even tell me other than bs. She has blocked me from everything. What do I do, I tried contacting which does no good. What would be the point of not giving… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

do you want to try the no contact rule?

Eljay
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My girlfriend and i were together for almost a year then she broke up with me and i tried to get her back but it failed i kep trying now i feel as if i pushed her away too far. shes in a new relationship and they seem to love each other and i felt that she was my soulmate but i messed up. now shes blocked me on every social media except instagram to send me videos and when i try to talk to her she always gets mean and blunt when i didn’t do anything really its been… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

do the no contact rule the right way.. improve yourself. make it seem like you’re moving on and then slowly rebuild rapport after it while continuing to improve yourself.

Cole
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My girlfriend and I were for 6 years and we are both 23 years old. Around 25 days ago we got into a big fight about different things in our relationship, I had problems with how much she was working and how she seemed distant. I honestly thought she was cheating on me at the time, but now I have reasons to believe she wasn’t. She had problems with my jealousy and claimed that I was controlling. Basically we fought, broke up and I told her she should leave and go live with a friend if she could. She goes… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

youre on track on starting nc.. just dont stop improving yourself after nc..

Jerel
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I cheated on my wife with someone we worked with. I was not happy and I told her that I wanted to see other people. She waited a year later to tell me she unhappy and left. She took her clothes and my son’s clothes when she left. She told me she need space to find herself and wants me to move forward in life , but also told me we may be together in the near future what should I do?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor
Zaid M
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Hello, My name is Zaid and obviously you can probably tell that I’m writing to you since my girlfriend broke up with me. I’ve been reading you website thoroughly and trying to adapt the 21/30 day no contact rule. So far on my 8th day completed. So the whole story begins with her wanting a relationship but I had a few issues such as family and money. I moved to a different city due to my university application. However, when I wanted to come home I’d spend a day with her and we’d relax and chill or she would come… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

if you improved yourself, you can initiate contact.. if not, restart nc.. check the link below for texts.How To Use Text Messages To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back

Zaid M
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I feel like I have been improving myself but I don’t know if she wants to carry on seeing this person. I don’t fully know whether I can talk to her without getting to emotional just yet. The NC has helped me with my personal development but I do feel slightly confused about my situation. The fact that she told me to move on and she doesn’t know when she’ll move on. I think shes found this guy to be more affectionate towards her and I feel a comparison is already made and that she can be happy with him… Read more »
James
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Hi, I quite recently (November 2016) ended my long 8 year relationship with my fiance. It was quite an emotional time as it caused us to sell our house and we lost our dog in the process due to both needing to move back home. I will quickly add we did have a minor issue many years ago resulting in a 6 month break up but decided to work on it as we loved one another. I recently had some counseling where we discussed the relationship and long story short, most of it does come back on to lack of… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

She’s trying to move on, so she probably isn’t holding a grudge against you or if she is, she’s trying to let go by vacationing.. now, if you want to get her back, she has to think you are moving on too and improving at the same time

Habid
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The situation is like this, me and my girlfriend have been together for 2 years and 1 month, and I have somehow decided to break up, out of blue, if you ask me why did I do that, I wouldn’t know. Yes, it wasnt all fun and games during the last few days before our break up, but I shouldn’t have ended it then. Now I can just hope that you can help me get her back. It has been 2 months since we broke up, and in the first month we used to text regularly and we even saw… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

The mistake to that encounter is actually the argument after.. Yeah, you might have been wrong to plainly ignore her, but it got worse when you fought about it.. The best approach is to explain and apologize and then wish her well, and then restart the no contact rule.. If you do bump into her again, be polite but short and then leave.. if she ignores you, let her be..

Michael
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Post above is a double by mistake Delete please

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Michael,

The longest we usually recommend is 45 days.. try that first, if you really feel you need to extend to 60 days, go ahead..

Michael
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Hi, Read all the Articles. Figured I’d share the crazy situation im in. Abit of a read I met the girl couple years ago, This winter we started hanging out, Dating and Hooking up. We Talked Day in and out from the time one of us would wake up till sleep. first couple weeks we were always asking questions about relationships and what we each want. We Pretty much want the exact same things in life, Both have the same interests and personality. We talked about Kids and Marriage, Both of us said it would be nice within 2-3 years.… Read more »
Max
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I started seeing my ex-girlfriends best friend. Additionally, she was my bestfriend for the last few years. We had both moved to a new city and one thing led to another. She broke up with her boyfriend for me and things were going really well. The one problem was that I had not completely let go of my ex. I would still text her and I lied about it multiple times to the new girl I was seeing. Well after awhile, she got fed up. She told me her feelings had changed but she still wanted to be best friends… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Max,

do you like her now more than your previous ex? are you going to do the no contact rule?

Dill
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I’m 21 and my ex is 19. We just recently broke up after almost 4 years. It happened over spring break when we drove back home and it caught me off guard. On our long drive back home we were still madly in love. We we have been talking about building our dream home, getting married and having kids in the future. Everything was perfect until we got back home and she went with her family to visit and I went with mine. It started when I didn’t get any texts from her, I just figured she was busy with… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Dill,

that’s good..just stick to nc and do it properly by improving yourself masaively.

Brendan
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Hi Chris, I really love your website. I’m in a very difficult situation and might be the most challenging one for you to help out with. I was dating this girl Taylor for about four months. We met online through Tinder and hit it off right away. Even though we were strangers she felt like she knew for me for a long time as if I were her soulmate. Well while we were seeing each other this old girl I used to talk to added me on SnapChat and sent me provocative photos of her in bed with her bra… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Brendan,

follow the advice on this one:
How To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back If YOU Cheated On Her

Vincent
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Chris can you make a video on what to do if you run into your ex in public and you want her back?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Vincent,

Thank you! I’ll forward this to Chris.

Mike
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My girlfriend broke up with me due to insecurity and not giving her space. We broke up a week ago and yesterday I texted her like crazy to get a face to face talk. She says finally at this point I want you to leave me alone. So I start the no contact today. We were together for 5 months and she is an independent woman that needs space at time. I realize this now. she says she does need anyone only wants and doesn’t want a person that needs her. She wants a family in the future though and… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Mike,

if she broke up with you because you’re clingy, then don’t chase and don’t rush things. You can go for 21 days. Make the most of it and continue improving yourself after nc while slowly rebuilding rapport with her.

Nick
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Hey Mike. I’m in a similar position, let me know how things worked out for you. I feel my gf is about to break up because she felt pressured too. I’m wondering whether i should use a pre-emptive NC or let her know how i feel through a letter before she breaks up. She is currently away on vacation and will be back in a few days

Simon
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So my girlfriend of 4 years broke up with me (we were each others first as well), and 2 weeks later regretted it and started begging for me to take her back. I wanted to, but felt hurt and was afraid of getting back together. We then spent the next year and a half being on again and off again. Recently we cut off all communication for around 2 months. After much thinking, I decided that I wanted to be with her and called her over Christmas to ask for her back, which she obviously refused (after our on again… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Simon,

then why not tell her that?

Trent
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My girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me. She gave me no reason other than she wasn’t happy anymore. But I know she’s going through a lot of stress. Instead of stepping away I got mad and started gnatting, I got mad at her friend and confronted her friend. I then accused my ex of cheating. She blocked me of all contact. I have accepted that she doesn’t want to be with me. It has been a week and I’m changing myself for the better. I really do want to rekindle our love. I’m starting no contact but she… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Trent,

I don’t think so.. Focus in improving yourself and in posting in social media even if you’re blocked.

Trent
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I’m really lost, I’ve been NC for a few days, and the thought of this not working is driving me crazy. I love her so much I’m trying to change, I’m doing everything in my power to beat my anxiety. To be more independent, I just wish that I could wrap my arms around her and tell her how much I love her and how sorry I am for being a jerk.

Trent
Guest

I’m just lost, I am doing the NC it’s been a few days, I am scared this won’t work. What if she forgets about me? I love her so much and I’m changing my life, trying to beat my panic attacks. Learning to be more independent. I just want to wrap my arms around her and say I’m sorry for everything.

Trent
Guest

How do I know she’s watching what I’m doing, I feel like she won’t care. I have dreams about her and it makes me sick.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Trent,

it’s normal to still think about her.. don’t deny that to yourself. Acknowledge it when it happens and remind yourself that it’s normal but that it wont help you if you break nc because of that.. You have to choose to keep going or to keep doing your current activity despite of what you feel.. It’s like being brave. You’re still afraid but you choose to act while you’re also afraid, instead of letting fear cripple you… Do new activities. Widen your world and make new friends..

Nikolas
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Should i give up? My ex girlfriend dumped me in January, fell out of love because i was annoying and clingy through chat, there was no third party involved though and she said I treated her well, she pulled up the let’s stay friends I met her to have “the talk” and basically trying to talk my way to her heart, begged pleaded cried wrote a lay it all out on the line love letter, all to no avail, she didn’t seem sad in fact she was upset Did 21 day NC, I used the “youre not going to believe… Read more »
Nikolas
Guest

She hates me

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Nikolas,

Do you want to restart to the count and stick to a longer nc?

Nikolas
Guest

How much longer?

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

45 days.

Nikolas
Guest

I usually talked to her when we were still together through whatsapp but now that she blocked me on whatsapp, should i get a new number and contact her on whatsapp after that time period is over ? I think it’s quite impossible she’d unblock my current number, i annoyed her to the max i sent her “I treated you well and you just dumped like a garbage”, she called a mutual friend and my friend said she sounded really angry, a day later she posts something on instagram aimed at me “hahaha eat that sh*t dude”

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Let’s see first if she unblocks you. If she doesn’t, try social media like fb messenger or email. If there’s no other way, change your number.

Nikolas
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I am thinking about sending her an apology message in a bottle or sending her a single rose, would that be a good idea or would it just blow up in my face ?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

if you’re blocked, dont do that right now.

Shaen
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Hi, After 3 years, me and my ex broke up. She said that she doesn’t feel the same anymore and that she needs space to be alone. It has passed almost one month and i started to notice some mistakes that I made and realized that in the end of the relationship that I pushed her away. I regret it and in the next 2 weeks I tried do apologize and begged (now I know that was a mistake). I am starting the no contact rule, but there is one thing that bothers me. The next day after the breakup… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Shaen,

what if it’s the other way around? What if she did it to drive point to what she said to you, to hurt you, so that you would move on?