What Is The Best Way To Contact Your Ex Girlfriend?

Knowing what to say to your ex girlfriend can be kind of complicated. Of course, knowing what to use to say it to her is an entirely different matter altogether.

This guide is going to be focusing in on that.

Not the “what to say” part but the “what to use to say it” part.

In my mind there are 5 main ways that most people communicate with their exes after a breakup. Take a look at those ways below,

  1. Email
  2. Text Messages
  3. Phone Calls
  4. Social Media (Facebook)
  5. Apps (WhatsApp, Snapchat, etc)

As I said above, this guide is focusing specifically on the best way to contact your ex girlfriend. Oh, and in case you are wondering some ways are better than others. First though, I think its good to put this article in perspective.

Follow The Progression Of Getting Your Ex Girlfriend Back

I have made it clear throughout this site that my main goal is to improve your chances of getting your ex girlfriend back. I wish more than anything that I could guarantee that you could get her back 100% of the time but I would be lying if I made you that promise. So instead, using my knowledge and experience all I can guarantee you is that your chances will drastically improve if you follow my methods.

Of course, the thing you have to understand is that there is a certain progression that must be followed in order to maximize your chances.

This progression, at a birds eye view is actually quite simple and looks like this,

Framework
As you can see, this progression starts with the no contact rule which then inevitably forces you to improve during your no contact period. After your period is over we progress to concepts like communication, setting up a date and actually reuniting.

Well, this page, The Best Way To Contact Your Ex Girlfriend, is going to be focusing strictly on this part of the progression,

Framework(1)
As you can see, the part we are focusing on with this page is “communication.”

What does this mean?

Well, it means that you need to do the no contact rule before you even think about communicating with your ex girlfriend.

Take a look above at the “progression” graphics. Notice that before you even think about contacting your ex girlfriend you are supposed to use the no contact rule and improve yourself during the no contact rule. So, the thing I wanted to make you aware of is that if you haven’t completed your no contact rule yet then you cannot use any of what I am talking about in this guide yet.

Ok, now that we have that out of the way lets focus on what the best way to contact your ex girlfriend is.

Five Ways Of Contacting Your Ex Girlfriend

high five

As I said above, there are five general ways that exes try to get back in touch with exes. What we are going to be exploring is which of those ways are best for your situation.

To recap, our five methods of contacting an ex are,

  1. Email
  2. Text Messages
  3. Phone Calls
  4. Social Media (Facebook)
  5. Apps (WhatsApp, Snapchat, etc)

Now, I have thought long and hard about this and I will be the first to admit that there are definitely some methods of contact that are better than others and there is a certain way you should go about contacting your ex as well.

Lets talk a little about that now.

How To Go About Contacting Your Ex Girlfriend

talk to me

Imagine for a moment that person A (a man) was trying to get person B (a woman) back after a break up. Person A has done everything right to start out. He has done the no contact rule. He has had a period of self reflection, self improvement and has prepared mentally to do what he has to do to win the love of his life back (person B.)

Well, if person A gets to over excited and tries to much at once he is probably going to be flat on his face.

Women love to be romanced and where is the romance in ignoring someone for a certain period of time and then trying to get them back all at once.

No, I am afraid it is going to take a lot more than that to succeed. Your best bet is to go slow and let things progress almost naturally.

How do we do accomplish this?

Probably by using a very non-threatening method of contact, text messages.

Once you have “sort of” re-inserted yourself back into your exes life or day to day routine with text messages you then can focus on kicking things up a notch.

What is the best way to do that?

Well, by using a cell phone to call your lady love of course!

(I know, I know, “lady love” is kind of a lame thing to say but I am going with it.)

Once you get on the phone with your ex you can really make some progress in re-attracting her and ultimately seal a date for yourself.

So, to recap really quickly,

  • After no contact use text messages.
  • Text messages lead to phone calls.
  • And phone calls lead to dates.

The Importance Of Timing

bad timing

Timing matters…

Timing matters a lot…

We are here to explore which method of contact is the best to use to get your ex girlfriend back and it just so happens that the answer to that question really depends on timing.

For example, text messages are a great method of contact at first. However, you can’t expect to be texting your ex girlfriend throughout the entire process of getting her back.

Why not?

Well, because the benefits of talking to her on the phone can be much greater than through text messaging (I will explain why later.) Of course, if you were to call your ex girlfriend all the time it might be a little much and a little weird.

There is only a certain segment of time where phone calls to your ex are better than text messages.

What segment of time is that?

It’s one where you have built up enough attraction through text messages that both of you want badly to talk on the phone to each other.

So, in that moment, in that singular moment where you both want to talk to each other on the phone the phone call becomes more effective than the text message.

The Five Methods Of Contacting Your Ex Girlfriend

(And Which Ones Are Better Than The Others)

3 hour high five

At the beginning of this guide I told you that there were six main ways that I see couples trying to communicate with one another.

Do you remember what those six “methods of contact” were?

  1. Email
  2. Text Messages
  3. Phone Calls
  4. Social Media (Facebook)
  5. Apps (WhatsApp, Snapchat, etc)

In this section I am going to be going over each of these methods of contacting and telling you what I think about them. You will learn that some of these methods of contact are better than others and some you shouldn’t use at all.

In other words, I am going to be telling you the benefits and risks with using each of them.

Lets start with email,

Emails

email meme

Did you know that the first email ever sent was actually sent in 1971?

Unfortunately, it would be a long while before email would become mainstream.

Of course, when that day finally arrived, where email was used by the vast majority of people, it was captivating. In fact, it was so captivating that Hollywood even jumped on the bandwagon and started making movies about it or more specifically how email could be used to form relationships.

You’ve Got Mail (anyone?)

youve got mail

Of course, times have changed a bit since those days.

It is a rarity to see couples using their actual emails during the “courting process” or more accurately in your case the “re-courting process.”

So, what are my thoughts on emails?

Well, believe it or not I think there is a time and a place for emails but that time and place probably isn’t best when you are trying to get your ex girlfriend back.

Why It’s Not A Good Idea To Use Email

If your ex girlfriend is anything like me then she probably only checks her personal email once in a blue moon. In fact, the only email that I check constantly is my work email. Besides, I don’t really associate romance with emails anymore. I associate it with text messages since everyone holds their phone as a personal sanctuary that they don’t want to let anyone except themselves see.

When You Are Forced To Use Email

Imagine for a moment that you and your ex girlfriend had a massive argument before you broke up.

Lets go to the extreme here and say that you cheated on your ex girlfriend. Well, your ex is probably going to be so angry at you that she won’t want to talk to you at all. In fact, she is so upset with you that she blocks you through every form imaginable.

You can’t text her..

You can’t call her..

You can’t even Facebook her..

She has the full lock down initiated and you are literally feeling hopeless. Of course, there is still one form of communication that she left open, probably on purpose.

Email!

The only time that I would say that you should use email to get your ex girlfriend back is if you find yourself forced to. In other words, if it is your only way of getting in touch with her. Other than that though I think that there are way more effective methods of contact that you can employ to improve your chances of winning your ex girlfriend back.

Lets move on to one of those methods with text messaging.

Text Messages

come chill

I think text messages are a fantastic creation.

It allows you to be close to your significant other throughout the entire day without being too clingy.

For example, the average couple will text each other when they wake up, text each other throughout the day and probably every night as well. That is just normal in a healthy relationship because both people want to be close to each other.

Of course, there is always a risk with over texting but we aren’t talking about that right now. No, we are just focusing on the actual method of texting.

So, why is it that texting is such a great way to contact your ex girlfriends.

The Advantages of Texting

I alluded to something pretty interesting above when I said that everyone holds their phones as a personal sanctuary.

Speaking personally I must check my phone at least one hundred times a day.

What am I checking for?

Text messages of course!

So, it’s a pretty safe bet to say that your ex girlfriend is going to see your text message to her immediately and probably respond immediately as compared to an email which she might not see for days after you send your email to her.

But that’s not the best part of using text messages.

This entire website focuses on how to get your ex girlfriend back. Well, right now what do you associate with your ex girlfriend?

A lot of emotion.

Some of it angry..

Some of it happy…

Heck, maybe some of it horny…

My point is simple, when it comes to the topic of your ex girlfriend you are likely to get emotional and sometimes that is not a good thing. Imagine for a moment that your ex girlfriend says a comment to you about your family that really sets you off (in that it makes you mad.)

Well, if you were on the phone with her you are likely to react in a negative way and snap back at her which might ultimately end up in a fight between the two of you.

Text messaging allows you the luxury to think before you press that send button. It allows you to be calm, even when you are super upset.

Now, I don’t know about you but that seems like a pretty good safeguard to have in place.

In other words, texting gives you the luxury of having time to think about what you are going to say.

Phone Calls

phone calls

Talking on the phone is a great way to build attraction with your ex girlfriend.

In fact, I would say that talking on the phone with your ex NEEDS to happen if you really want to have a shot at succeeding.

Of course, like I said there is a certain way that you should go about doing this.

The Correct Way To Talk To Your Ex On The Phone

Take a look at the two big graphics I provided at the beginning of this guide.

You will notice in them that I talk about the progression that a man should go through when it comes to contacting his ex.

To give you a quick recap,

NC – Self Improvement – Communication – Setting Up A Date – Reconnection

This is the overall progression for the overall game plan that goes into getting an ex girlfriend back. Well, as it turns out there is also a progression that goes into the “communication” portion of the overall game plan.

After the no contact rule you can’t just call your ex up and ask her on a date.

Hmm…

What is the best way that I can put this?

Ok, imagine for a moment that your best friend in the whole world (guy or girl it doesn’t matter) blows you off for a month straight and then out of the blue he/she gives you a call and asks to hang out with you.

You are probably going to sit there and go,

“Whoa, what the heck? Where is this coming from? After all that time of you ignoring me you have the audacity to just think I’ll want to hang out with you without figuring out why you ignored me?”

I see so many men make this mistake it’s not even funny.

They get so amped up while doing the no contact rule that they try to force results by calling their ex rather than letting things unfold naturally.

Besides, the last time I checked exes don’t just reward dates to exes without some work from one party and in this case YOU are going to have to be that party.

Why Can’t I Call Right After No Contact?

It’s weird isn’t it?

I tell you that its arguable that calling an ex is a more powerful form of communication than texting an ex yet I also tell you that you can’t call your ex right after the no contact rule.

Why?

Well, calling your girlfriend right after NC may be a little too much for her to handle. Besides, do you remember what I said about text messaging and emotions?

This is your ex girlfriend we are dealing with here and that means that emotions are going to run high if you talk to each other on the phone and you know how the saying goes right?

When emotions run high logic runs low.

My point here is simple.

The last thing we want is you getting in a fight with your ex girlfriend since that isn’t going to do anything to help your quest in getting her back.

Still don’t believe that you won’t get emotional on the phone?

Ok, try this on for size.

Imagine that you do call your ex girlfriend up immediately after the breakup. Imagine that you call her with the intent of taking her out on a date. You have been waiting 21 days for this moment and you are extremely excited to hear her voice for the first time.

So, you call….

The phone rings…

And rings…

And rings…

And rings…

No answer…

21 days of waiting in this no contact period and she doesn’t even have the decency to pick up the phone?

Anger is starting to boil inside of you.

So, against your better judgement, you decide to call her again.

This time she picks up and greets you with an annoyed,

“Hey..”

Ok, you have her on the phone but you are a little angry that you had to call her twice and she is giving you this attitude.

The two of you immediately start to fight and the next thing you know she is ending the conversation with a,

“NEVER TALK TO ME AGAIN!!”

Do you see the risks of calling too soon?

Using Texts For Phone Calls

I just went through the nightmare scenario that happens to men who try for too much to soon with phone calls.

I am sure reading that scared you off a little from using the phone on your ex girlfriend. Well, let me tell you something.

Don’t be scared.

Talking on the phone with your ex girlfriend is an excellent way to build attraction if you use texts to build attraction first.

Confused?

Think of it like this.

If you can make your ex girlfriend excited to talk to you on the phone through text messages don’t you think that your phone conversation with her is going to go more positively?

In other words, make sure you use text messages first to get her in a positive mindset before you even try calling her on the phone.

Social Media (Facebook, Twitter, Etc.)

social media

(If you haven’t already read my guide on Facebook then I suggest you take about ten minutes or so and go over it.)

I guess the question we are trying to explore here is if there is any place for using social media like Facebook when it comes to contacting your ex girlfriend.

I am going to make this as simple as possible.

Facebook, Twitter and other popular social networks are not the best way to contact your ex girlfriend.

Why?

Because there is a disconnect and it doesn’t feel as personal to women.

I don’t know how to explain it but talking on the phone and texting a girl feels like you are talking one on one with that girl.

It doesn’t even really make sense does it?

I mean, technically if you start a Facebook conversation with someone you would be talking one on one to them wouldn’t you?

I suppose the best way to describe this would be that when you talk to someone you are interested in what do you ask for?

Their Facebook?

No, you ask them for their number.

Why?

Because, everyone knows that text messaging and phone calls are more powerful than getting someones social media information.

Of course, that doesn’t necessarily mean there isn’t a place for social media.

When Is It Best To Use Social Media?

Social media is usually at it’s best when it is used while in a relationship to send cute things back and forth between you and your significant other. It’s also a way of claiming your territory from other men who may be on the sidelines waiting for a moment to pounce.

Of course, social media sites like Facebook are perfect for indirect contact as well.

If you’d like a crash course on how to do that make sure you read this guide.

The ONE Case You Can Use Social Media Like Facebook

A few days ago a man posed a very interesting question to me.

“If your ex girlfriend blocks you from texting or calling her what do you do then?”

Well, gentlemen, this is a situation where you will probably be forced to go outside the normality of texting a phone calls to make contact with your ex. You are going to have to search for other means of contact and in many cases that means social media sites or texting apps…

This is the ONE instance in which I think it is ok to contact your ex girlfriend through a site like Facebook.

Other than that though, stick to texting and phone calls.

Apps (WhatsApp, Snapchat, Etc.)

apps

I am kind of old school when it comes to my cell phone which is kind of strange for someone who makes websites for a living.

For the longest time as a teenager I had a flip phone. When I entered college I finally decided to try out a smartphone so I got a Google Nexus (the old version.) Then once I was out of college I decided to finally try out an iPhone 4S (the phone I still have by the way.)

With the introduction of that iPhone I was introduced to apps for the first time.

Well, what I would like to talk about here are the texting applications that you could download to have a conversation with someone.

I remember the first time someone told me to text them through a texting application.

I literally thought to myself,

“What the heck? Why don’t you just use regular texting through the phone?”

Nevertheless, I did see the benefits of it as it could potentially save you a lot of money.

Of course, I could never really get that into it. I was used to regular texting and I hated having to open my phone up, unlocking it and then checking the actual application to see if I received a message or not.

(I was too lazy to figure out how to make my lock screen send a notification to me.)

Nevertheless, I have seen a lot of stuff through this website and I do know that a lot of couples utilize these types of texting applications on their phones as opposed to actual text messages.

So, where do these types of applications fall in the grand scheme of things.

A List Of “Texting” Applications

  • WhatsApp
  • Kik Messenger
  • Snapchat
  • IM+

I think that these types of “texting” applications can replace actual text messages only if you and your ex communicated solely through them.

Let me give you an example.

Some couples do not use regular text messaging at all. Instead, they use WhatsApp or Kik Messenger to send texts back and forth to each other. Well, if you and your ex did this then I think it is completely ok if you contact her through one of these apps since this is the norm for you and your relationship.

Remember though, the same type of rules apply to these texting apps as regular text messaging.

  • Wait until after NC
  • Build attraction
  • Then try to get a phone call going.

The Situation It’s Not Ok To Use These Apps In

Imagine for a moment that you and your ex girlfriend were frequent texters (regular texting through the cell phone.)

After the breakup your ex gets so mad that she blocks you from everything.

She blocks you from texting her, calling her and she even blocks you from Facebook. You feel completely in the dark. Your only options at this point are to write her a letter, email her or show up her house like a creep. Ah, but then you get an idea.

You remember that she utilizes Snapchat on her phone to sometimes message her friends.

You never downloaded Snapchat because you thought it was kind of stupid.

So, in a last ditch effort to contact her you download Snapchat and send her a message/picture/video.

Why is this a bad idea?

Well, for one she is going to know that you are desperately trying to get in touch with her and desperation does not scream attractiveness at all. But mostly its just downright creepy.

Seriously, you do not want her thinking you are a stalker.

		

Written by EGR team mate

Chris Seiter

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Ashish
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My ex gf turn off she know I am feeling sad how to convince her I am not sad

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Hi Ashish,

When and why did you break up? Have you done the nc rule? If yes, how long and how much did you improve yourself and how active were you in posting?

Jeremiah
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I have recently broken up with my girlfriend of 2.5 years. I had pushed her away because college was getting really intense over the last three months and I had taken 2 classes over winter break. She had come to me before and told me about how she was feeling about me being distant, but I was unable to change because I was still super busy. I’m passed all of that now and I really want her back. She had told me that she wanted to break up and that she needed space because her guard was up and she… Read more »
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Jeremiah,

If you’re doing nc, that means you have to break the streak. You have to focus in improving and healing yourself but being active in posting also but if she messages you, unless she literally says she wants to get back together, you can’t reply nor initiate contact with her.

Jeremiah
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I have recently broken up with my girlfriend of 2.5 years. I had pushed her away because college was getting really intense over the last three months and I had taken 2 classes over winter break. She had come to me before and told me about how she was feeling about me being distant, but I was unable to change because I was still super busy. I’m passed all of that now and I really want her back. She had told me that she wanted to break up and that she needed space because her guard was up and she… Read more »
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Jeremiah,

If you’re doing nc, that means you have to break the streak. You have to focus in improving and healing yourself but being active in posting also but if she messages you, unless she literally says she wants to get back together, you can’t reply nor initiate contact with her.

Mattineau Shaugnessy
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Hello, So my ex girlfriend broke up with me about a month and a half ago (we are both 20 years old and were going to the same college). At the time, she was becoming very stressed dealing with personal issues at home, and because of that, it was starting to affect her grades at school. A week before she broke up with me, she told me that she needed some space so that she could get back on track with school. She told me that she still loved me and that she would not break my heart and that… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi,
How active are you in posting? And check this one:
How To Use Text Messages To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back

houston
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So in the guide it says 2 weeks… if they have a boyfriend, she said she still really cares about me she just has a boyfriend and she wants me to be happy, I dont think its serious. She blocked me last night, so do I give it two weeks or do I wait until she contacts me or unblocks me? 2 weeks is the usual for us it seems, at that point is when we usually block/unblock or have drama. If after 2 weeks, im still not unblocked, what do I do? Still text her, or call? Or do… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

If you’re still blocked continue it to 30 days

houston
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What if I am still blocked at that point? I doubt I will be, but what if I am? What about the guy she is dating now?

houston chapma
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she also called me last night, it was a good talk but she sounded confused in her voice and she wanted to talk but she said that I make her anxious when we text because I over text her. and she said she doesnt think our story is over, and that well be friends someday because we get alone too well. I told her if she doesnt want to talk when she has a boyfriend that is okay, I respect that and its the right thing to do but dont hesitate to text or call me whenever youre ready. she… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Thats means you’re not blocked anymore? Then you can try the 14 days instead..

HOUSTON
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My ex and I broke up after 5 years of dating, I was her first serious boyfriend, for a month we were best friends after, then she started dating other people and I couldnt handle it, that was 1.5 months ago, we have gone back and forth from blocking to unblocking every 2 weeks it seems, the last time being yesterday, she now has a boyfriend, they have been dating less than 2 weeks and he is the total opposite of me, and only 19. My ex told me we can talk 3 days ago and see how it goes,… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

If you’re still blocked continue it to 30 days

houston
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Every time she gives me a chance to take things slow and see if we can be friends I ruin it by over-texting her.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

That means you have to set a limit on until when you would wait for her to unblock you.. Don’t mind the other guys because you can’t control them.. Choose topics that of her interest for your first contact message

houston chapma
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SO the article says 14 days, where as the actual book says 21…which do I listen too? Do I send her a text even if im still blocked on social media or do I wait for her to unblock me first?

kieran
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Hello, I have done NC for 30 days, so like 45 days since she dumped me. I am blocked on everything, and in return I did the same. How do i go about making first contact in this scenario?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Kieran,

if you blocked her, were you active in improving yourself and did you make your posts public? Because if not, unblock her, extend your nc and set a limit on until when you would wait for her to unblock you.

Rohan
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My ex and I were dating for 5 years and our families knew all about it. She suddenly broke up out of non compatibility issues. I begged and pleaded but it didn’t help. Thereafter, we spoke as friends for a few days after which she called my mother and told her about the situation and that she wants to end it and be friends. Since then we’ve not spoken to each other but I doubt she has blocked my number. 25 days into no contact! What should I do?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Rohan,

are you actively improving yourself and posting in social media?

Dan
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I wanna talk to my ex but I haven’t talk to her in 5 years. I haver on facebook and that’s my only option pretty much, she’s been single for like 4 years and I’ve been single for like 2 years , how would I talk to her?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Dan,

Try facebook message..

Sammi
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HI, im 21 days into the NC. Before starting the NC i did all the mistakes of begging and so on. But i havent block my ez from social media or her number and she hasnt blocked me. We have each on snapchat, and whatsapp. She is literally always the the first person to watch my snapstories either its on snapchat or whatsapp. I dont know if i should extend the NC or just initiate contact by texting.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Sammi,

That’s good that you’re active in posting but how much did you improve yourself?

Mark
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My ex and I were on and off for 2 years in college. I ended things both times, I had commitment issues, the second time was ugly. we went no contact for two weeks after she went on a first date with some guy, and she reached out to tell me she no longer wanted to try again. I made the mistakes of begging and writing her a letter detailing how I came to fall in love with her. She told me she feels awkward talking to me now bc her and this guy are “kinda serious.” A week went… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Yeah,
The more you do it, the less it helps because it looks like you’re just chasing.. You need to do at least 45 days, and this should be the last nc.. If it doesn’t work, you have to move on…
Check this for texting:

My Ex Girlfriend Doesn’t Reply To My Text Messages…. Why?

How To Use Text Messages To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back

Ryan
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Hi, So I’m kinda or i’m gonna be in the situation that Chris described in the end of the article. My girlfriend and I ended in an ugly break I said i needed to block her on everything so i blocked her phone number, Facebook, and Snacpchat and she blocked me on instagram. Since then i decided to unblock her on those things but i haven’t contacted her or re-friended her. I’ve only been in NC for 5 days. I don’t think she has noticed that I unblocked her. Should I re-block her? should i just keep things the way… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Ryan,

just start being active in improving yourself and in posting even if you’re not friends. Add her back later on when you’ve already built rapport. If you’re still blocked, extend nc.

Eddie
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Hi! Interesting topic. I’m not sure exactly when my NC period began, but my relationship was less than six months and incredibly intense. My girlfriend ended it suddenly via text which blindsided me. We texted some more about it (she wouldn’t meet or discuss on the phone) over the following few days which means our last interaction was maybe 45 days ago. I sent a text a few days after the last chat which I think was blocked, and two weeks after that she blocked me on Snapchat (we hadn’t directly messaged on that since the breakup though). So am… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

If you didn’t intentionally started the nc, that’s not nc.. And you weren’t focused in improving yourself and in posting too.. Do that first..

Joseph
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Hi, me and my gf have been in LDR for the past 7yrs and she broke up with me few months back prior to that we had “mini breakups” where I managed to convince her to stay as a couple. But until I’ve found out that she has been seeing her co-worker on the hush for many months now and confronted her about it, the breakup happened for real. Did the usual what every guy would have done in that situation but after that rationalized and completed the 30day NC. Been texting her on and off right now. Our texting… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Joseph,

nope, it’s a probably a grass is greener case. Because a rebound is used when you can’t get over somebody, but in her case, she found something better in him and went in a relationship with him. Are you still actively improving yourself while rebuilding rapport with her? You have to appear better than the other guy through your improvements and in your conversations. Yes, you should mirror her reply but you need to work on your topics. You need to make it interesting and you should be the one ending the conversation at high point.

Joseph
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So…what are the odds as to getting an ex back with GIGS as compared to a rebound? Now that you told me it might be GIGS are the steps I followed in Chris guide still applicable? If not what should I do otherwise? And how do I end the conversation at a high point if like I texted her a few messages and she replies back with a few after many hours or even after a day or two?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor
compared to a rebound, it’s less. But you have memories, and she will unconsciously compare you to him at times. And also, there’s a chance that she will think about you and check your account, so that’s why it’s important that you’re active in posting because that you’re indirect way of showing your improvements. Check the links below, I think it’s more appropriate for you. With texting, that means when you hit the climax of the conversation, you end it. Either you say goodbye or not. Work on your topics, use the ones that she always loves talking about. If… Read more »
Joseph
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Hi Amor I couldn’t find any of the links u mentioned below. And I’ve read exboyfriend recovery GIGS and it doesn’t say much also pertaining to the steps I should take to win her back. And is it applicable to an exgirlfriend also for GIGS since there is no passage written by Chris? How often should I text her also? Since I’m mostly the initiator after I kill a conversation when should I pop out again with a new topic?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

hmm.. I dont see it too.. I think I forgot to link it. Sorry about that. Here it is:
My Ex Girlfriend Dumped Me For Another Guy…

Text once a day, it’s not bad if you texted twice ..just always be the one ending the conversation. If you ended the topic in cliffhanger, continue the topic in the next conversation.. If not, start a new topic..

Joseph
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Hi Amor I do not exactly catch what you mean to tell me about texting can you provide me with a loosely based example below so I can use it as a guideline? Thanks. Me: Her: Me: Her: Me: Her: Me: (insert a highpoint example here) Her: Me: (how to end it?) (wait one or two days?) Me: (how to abruptly start a new topic?) Her: Me: (how to lead back to previous topic?) Her:
Joseph
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What are the consequences if I do let my ex know about GIGS? There are many articles that I went through and experiences of others in forums so what will happen if I let her know about GIGS? Will she reflect when she reads them or it will become worse between us?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

it’s hard to say what she would reoly to a text but cliff hanger is like

“Hey, gotta go! remind me to tell you what I yesterday when we text again.”

Lets say she loves 50 shades,

Why do you think christian remained friends with Mrs Robinson?

if she replied positively, talk about that, and after some exchange before it gets boring, say goodbye..

telling her about gigs will probably make her defensive..

Jose
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About a month ago my girlfriend broke up with me we had a very long almost 3 year relationship and I believe she is in a rebound relationship with someone else I really love her she means a lot to me im trying to do the no contact rule thing and I get desperate to text her I really want her back and im trying to get ways to make her get back to me is there any tips or ways I can get to make her get back to me? We had a very close connection between us and… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Jose,

when did she meet her current bf? did she broke up with you for him?

Jose
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She told me she started talking to him after the break up and im not sure if she left me for him

Jose
Guest

Im not really sure if she left me for him but I think it’s a rebound she has some anxiety and these problems I helped her through our relationship idk why she would leave me if I was there for her all the time

Jose
Guest

Idk if she left me for him but she told me she started talking to him after the break up
Besides idk why she would leave me if I was there for her everytime she has some anxiety problems and I always was there for her

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

ah yeah, he’s probably a rebound.. be active in improving yourself.. that’s just really it.. dont chase..be active in posting too

Max
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Hi, Kudos for the good job. My case is odd, but here goes. My ex has been my friend for 9 years now, of which our relationship was 3 years. The problem when we started was, she was married. We came together as friends( we were close friends from way back anyways), when she opened up to me as to how her husband and in-laws had not revealed crucial sensitive information, about themselves(health and financial), prior to the marriage. It was an arranged marriage, its popular in India. I knew the cause was just, decided to support her, and in… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

HI Max,

SO, right now she’s divorced?

Kristian Larese
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I bought the Ex Girlfriend Pro and I followed the no contact rule for 21 days because I didn’t think our break up was real bad. I sent the first contact text that was interesting to her, her English Bulldogs. My text said “I was running out the canyon and saw a lady walking 2 English Bulldogs and one looked just like Opie. It made me think about you.” She loves her dogs more than anything so I know it is interesting for her. If she doesn’t reply how long do I wait until I send another one and what… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Kristian,

wait a week. She probably erased that because it was awkward for her, since you’re not even talking to each other.

Ricky Robinson
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Hey, its been along time since I talked with my ex, after she told me to stop communicating with her.
So when I do text her what should the text message say? I gave her space, real space because of how things
went down. The crazy thing I’ve been having realistic dreams about us getting back together and fixing things.
I have had over 5 to 6 dreams within two weeks but its been weird. I would go to sleep without even thinking about her
so I just want to see what would happen if I text but what should I say that’s neutral/

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Ricky,

why did you break up? When was the last time you attempted to talk to her? How much did you improve since then?

wally
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My girlfriend and I had been together for almost 5 years, I had been hiding a legal issue that I dint want his to be stressing about. He stresses about every little thing that i just didn’t want to stress her about it, I had some officers at the home that came late at night and she got upset and she told me to fix it why it wast fixed, I told her I will get it figured out on Monday, and I call my attorney to he could help me what to do, on Thursday she got off work… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Wally,

if you’re still blocked you need to extend nc.. have you settled the case? and are you improving?

Chinmay
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Here’s my story. I need your help to dort it out I met this girl on facebook while I was sending ramdom requests. We had a single female friend as a mutual friend. So we began chatting, im 23, shes 22, she said shes looking for a serious relationship which will eventually turn into marriage. I onnthe other hand said that i wanted to have a casual one with little possibility of marriage. We knew this thing but still kept chatting for 15 days after which she came to my city for interview. During that time we went for a… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

HI Chinmay,

Give it three weeks before contacting her again… let her cool off for now.

Larry
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Thanks a lot! I now have a fair idea on how to go about dealing with my ex who just recently broke up with me. Am now into the 7th day of nc but looks like she’s missing me already because she keeps on texting & miss calling me but haven’t responded to her after going through your guides about this nc thing. So how will I approach her & when will that be, before nc or after nc? Please help!

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Larry,

after nc..you can initiate texting when the nc is done

rohit
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Hiiii no comment

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

HI Rohit!

Rene
Guest
So I did the NC for about 21 days. In that time my ex unfriended me on fb. But not snap and instagram, and no phone blocking. She also used instagram for tagging me in weird stuff and likede pictures that was hinted for me. I did not respond at all. Now I have texted her, and she respond and we also talked 2 times on the phone. First time she was repellent/defensive in her communication, but last time (yesterday) she actually asked into me and about things ivd done during NC. (she have stalked me on insta and snap).… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Rene,

maybe she slept in and woke up late because of the night out.. 1-2 days of space is ok at this point and then after that continue to build rapport so you can then invite her out later on

Jamie
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At first I agreed to be friends with my EX but still told her that I wanted the relationship to continue (Like a bit of a desperate mess), she then suggested that we leave speaking for a couple of days until I picked up some left belongings that she had forgotten to give me when I previously picked up my things, I then thought to fully initiate the no contact rule. Later that day she apologized for being mean but my rule was in place, she has since text and phoned me a lot which i ignored and she seems… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Jamie,

sorry for the late reply.. It’s best if you erase your profile there and then continue on no contact.. if she still sends you a series of positive texts that means you can break no contact and reply to her.

Joel Lee
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Hi, after 3 months of trying to get her back, my ex said that: “we shouldn’t talk until she is calm enough to text or meet me and that I have completely moved on from her.” P.S I have done no contact before, but until almost 3 weeks, she said she does not want to fix things anymore and asked me to move on. However, my grandma passed away during this period, and since then we call each other good nite and we send each other pics and stuff but she never wants to meet me. We were previously still… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Joel,

nope, the no contact itself is the restart.. if you send that letter, you’re like rekindling what you felt before nc.. so just start as friends after nc..

Joel Lee
Guest

Hi amor, how do you suggest I start contacting her again? isnt suddenly texting her very awkward and I fear she wont reply.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

you need to compile interesting topics for her and then try to pick a style of text in this blog post: 3 SECRET TEXTS THAT YOUR EX GIRLFRIEND CANT RESIST (VIDEO)
How to use text messages to get your ex girlfriend back

NICK
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Im 35 dated a girl who was 21, we both went off good, she didn’t care how old I was and vice versa. eventually she would stay but of course her mom didn’t approve she stay the night so she would go home. i respected everything i live on my own. then i had open heart surgery feb 4th, she came and visited me twice, never got mad and respected her for it. then she came to visit me and walk with me post surgery. i was at my moms, and she had dinner once but when i asked her… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Nick,

you’re starting it right, just add up activities to improve yourself, change your looks, go out with friends but don’t caption any pic that it’s for moving on… just show positivity and try a little jealousy post… go out with a group of friends, sit beside a girl.. or just post a pic of two of you but nothing too forward.. focus on you first in these 30 days, set her aside.

Kev
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Just a quick question. I am in the no contact stage and I’m curious about something. I don’t know if she blocked my number. I never was overwhelming but one time the night we broke up she said to message her if I ever needed anything and I made the mistake of trying to get her to be my friend right away. We only sent about 4 or 5 messages to either but she said, please don’t make me block your number. At this time I apologized and she said it was OK and that she had been there before.… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi kev,

I don’t think she blocked you if you stopped texting her by then.

Kev
Guest

Alright. I mean a week later I sent her a very short email saying that we should try and be friends then a week after that a text that only said, hey how’ve you been did you get my email. Both with no response. So I started my no contact from there. You don’t think that could’ve done it do you?

Raymond Landon
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Hey there, me and my gf were together for 2.5 years before around 2 weeks ago my girlfriend declared she needs a period of 1-2 weeks to re-think everything as she’s been feeling like she’s getting more and more distant from me over the past couple of months. Then she told me she loves me, isn’t thinking of any major break up but just needs some space and time. I gave her the 2 weeks and yesterday she broke it off with me. She said she just doesn’t feel close to me anymore she feels like we went on different… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Raymond,

your name is famailiar and I feel like I answered another comment of yours.. anyways.. give her space and try to fins the right time to her sincerely but calmly

Pablo
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I broke up with my girlfiend 2 months ago. Now we are living in different countries, but both in Europe. That is why i am worried about timing. Yesterday it was the 18th day of the no contact period. I uploaded a pic to snapchat (publicly) and she contacted me asking how was I doing. My plan was just to ignore her until the NC period finishes but i took a screenshot of what she wrote to me to show my sister without realizing that snapchat would warn her that i took the screenshot. Few minutes later she contacted me… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Pablo,

sorry for late reply. You have to choose a time that works best for you and her, it depends on how much the time difference is, maybe when she just woke up and you’re about to sleep? And yes that is a positive reaction from her, also yes Skype is a good alternative for calls.

xander holmes
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Me and my exgirlfriend of 3 years broke up around 6 weeks ago. I haven’t contacted her in over 30 days. Before this the relationship was really good, we were happy together, spent almost everyday together, went to uni together. I suppose you could say that we did too much together, but that’s the way she liked it and it was just how it happened. Her family loved me and were planned on getting married and having kids ect. Everything was fine at Christmas, we had just been on holiday. She had booked to go away for a few nights… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Xander,

why not post in social media about your job? and since it’s been over a month, you can initiate contact but if you don’t want to, give yourself a deadline on until when you would wait for her to initiate

xander holmes
Guest
Hi Amor I have been staying away from social media recently regarding the no contact rule. I know I probably should get in contact with her, but I don’t know how to approach it. Should I do it regarding something she is interested in. Like I know she’s against whale breeding :L so I could always use something like “Orca captive breeding has been stopped! Just thought might want to know!” or she has actually got some of my certificates I’m going to need soon so should I just ask for those? This would indicate about the job aswell. Which… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

It’s good that you’re taking in her interests…just make the text reply-able- and casual.. Like

hey, J saw they need volunteers for this whale breeding site, then I remembered you!

or,

Hey how r u? I saw this news, orca captive breeding has been stopped, then I thought that’s good but why not just help to repopulate them? Is that unhealthy for them?

xander holmes
Guest

Hi Amor
I actually need to get some certificates from her this week. Should I include this in the text or would that be too much. If she doesn’t reply sounding interested in the subject should I take that as she isn’t bothered? It has been 6 weeks since the break up and over 30 days no contact now.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

you can include in the text.. as long as it doesn’t sound demanding..or make it a separate text, a starter, so you can ask her how she has been after that.. and when you meet for the certificate, take that opportunity to have a small talk

xander holmes
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Hi Amor, Update I messaged her last night saying ” Hey, can you see if you have got my certficates , I think they are with yours. Need them for a new job that’s all!” instantly within the minute she replied ” Hi, ok will have a look, why do you think they are at mine, its just I cleared my room other day and I haven’t got them so if I have they will bee downstairs” I was bowling with some friends at the time so I didn’t see the text until around 2 hours later. so I replied… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

HI XAnder,
sorry late reply, are you texting again now?

Scott
Guest

So I’m 6 days into no contact and my ex has called me 3 times in the last half hour and sent me a text message all of which she says she is just wondering how I am doing. I ignored her even tho I really wanted to pick up the phone and talk to her. But she seems really upset about the fact that I did not answer her phone calls.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

sorry for the late reply scott..just keep at it..you can break it if she says she wants to work things out or there are some other necessary thigs to really talk about

Den
Guest

Hey, I had no contact for 3 years with my ex, and I have had a pretty awesome life, moving on. She dumped me because she couldn’t take the LDR. But I moved in town 2 years ago and never told her. Last week, ran into her and it was pretty awkward after we said Hi, because she was directly behind me while queuing for coffee.

I texted her last night about some other unrelated to relationship stuff, and she replied.

What should I do next?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

HI Den,

keep the convo going. You have a lot to catch up and talk about.. Rebuild being friends with her.

Den
Guest

Hi Amor,
Thanks for the reply. So, should the convo be restricted, say, no talk about her personal life, our past relationship and purely just about other things eg: Where’s the best taco in town?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

yep! nothing heavy or negative

Matt
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My girlfriend broke up with me after a year and a half. The week before we broke up we were both really happy or so I thought. A constant issue has been my social anxiety and my lack of career potential. She broke up with me on Feb 14. I have contacted her but things texts just made us both feel worst. I haven’t talk to her in (Feb25) 2 days and in 2 weeks she is coming to get her stuff. March 12 She has given me missed messages for me to move on, that we might be able… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Matt,

YOu mean it’s almost a year since you last talked?

Chris
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Hey Chris (or someone that would know, but preferably Chris lol) I really need your help. The girl that I was talking to blocked me from all forms of communication. Twitter, IG, snapchat, blocked my number. The only way I can talk to her is through facebook. I have a problem tho. I didnt establish the no contact rule first and I’ve messaged her a few times which is what kind of led to the block and Ive messaged a couple of times after on facebook. I guess what im asking is if its too late to start the no… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi,

Actually it’s ok to do no contact after that because, you have no choice too but to do it and that’s a pretty common scenario. And by the way also, you have to wait to be unblocked too.. Do you see personally in some way?

Chris
Guest

I see her at school every week. So what should i do?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

It’s okay.. Just limit contact.. Only talk about school stuff when needed.. Keep your distance during nc

Chris
Guest

Ok I gotcha, limit contact. Then what do I do after that?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

that’s when you slowly build rapport again.. if you bump into her at the hall, smile..things like that

Chris
Guest

Ok then what about after that happens what should I do? How do I start getting her to talk to me again?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

when you start to interact with her casually like the smile when you bump into each other, you can just slowly talk to her again about something in the current situation.. a lesson, a given project.. the more spontaneous, the more natural it will be

Chris
Guest

What if she has mentioned previously when I messaged her when I should have been doing no contact that she doesn’t want me to message her again or to be friends right now?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

I don’t quite get that.. haha ;( but I think you’re saying that what if after you send the first contact that she replies she doesn’t want to talk right?

you’re actually lucky because you’re schoolmates.. guage her from your interactions at school when you start to be friendly when you bump at each other

Chris
Guest

I guess what I’m asking is all that is against me including her saying not to message her or she doesnt want to be friends right now or the fact that she blocked me indefinitely, could casually interacting with her still work?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

the first steps, like the smile when you bump into each wi be a guage.. of she doesn’t respond then that means iu have to distance yourself until she’s ready

Alvin
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Hi. Chris i really love your advice and guilds i wish to share mine. I just broke up my girlfriend some weeks ago, but am confuse cos she wants to be casual friends with me no more dating,sometimes she calls while am stil on my no contact period,i dont if i should try geting her back now thats its stil fresh but i feel she no longer loves me again,i need your help

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Alvin,
Thank you! I hope we can help you too. Do you answer her call while in NC? The answer if you should try getting back to her is a question too. Do you want to? Why and why not? And I think this post can help you too. Your Ex Girlfriend just wants to be friends, now what?

Elemel
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Hi, I need some serious help re attracting my fling. We were seeing eachother for about three weeks time. She was INSANELY into me. I’m a firefighter, extreme athlete, fairly charismatic, and in phenomenal physical condition. She is also CRAZY hot so physical compatibility is no problem. She’s a christian girl, reserved, with a lot of knowledge on relationship science. After a couple of weeks I got really clingy and needy. She appreciates confidence in a man so this was a major turn off. We had a bad date in which I tried to push things physically much too fast.… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Elemel,

Why not use the second and third option at the same time?

Trin
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Hi Chris, I have been looking at your website although it’s about getting my ex boyfriend back. (im male too) Same principals I assume. So like we broke up officially mid November but the break up dragged on for a month where we ended up having whole weekends together etc and at times i became needy wanting him back. We acted together but werent etc etc but anyway it ended properly on Dec 21 where ee exchanged items etc. so i started no contact. I LITERALLY accidentally sent him a photo od us via viber on Jan 1 (oops was… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Trin,

Yeah, I think you need to restart and if you want to extend, feel free to do so! 🙂

Daniel
Guest
Hey! (Excuse my english got help from translate) Me (24) and my ex (23) broke up 4 months ago, we had a distance relationship. She said, move to me, otherwise we finish. I could not when. She broke up. For 2 month ago she wanted me back (she text and call all the time!) and that she would move to me and try. I said I was hesitant partly because I think she suffers from something psycological (Her earlier ex boyfriend told me after the breakup it probably was borderline/narcissistic disorder) and that I thought she sooner or later wanted… Read more »
Daniel
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*We been together for 2 years and distance for 1

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Daniel,

If you’re doing no contact period, you should only contact her after it. this post can help you what to text.3 Secret Texts That Your Ex Girlfriend Cant Resist

Matt
Guest
I was seeing a girl for 2 months and was trying to support her but she thought I was been a control freak. Then when she wanted some time and space because she was a little depressed I kept calling and messaging cos I wanted to see her so bad and she ended up saying its over im harassing and almost stalking her and she doesn’t want to speak to me. She has told other guys on sites tat she never had feeling for me and that she never wants to see my face again. But I know she did… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Matt,

Did you continue doing no contact?

Socrates
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Hello Chris, After a period of time of 14 days now I am getting ready to contact her again by texting…actually she has dissapeared and from facebook and I since last time we spoke she was dating with another guy so I assume that almost a month now she is with another guy and I assume she is very happy with him…So i think to text her in the next days…what is the best way to text her? I thought to write a text that i came up with something we had done together and this remind me of her… Read more »
Socrates
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Hello Chris, I sent her a text after 21 days and told her I saw something that reminded me of her and I wished I hope she is well. She replied after 1 hour that she is very well! and all things are past! and she wished me happy christmas holidays. I sent her another message after 1 hour that I am happy she is well, wished her happy holidays and I asked her if she is going the holiday days at her origin country as she had told me she wants to go there these Christmas…she did not reply… Read more »
Socrates
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So according to your advice I will text her tomorrow. I want to buy some special warm clothes for mountain so as I know she has these kind of clothes to ask her that I want to buy these clothes and If she can recommend me a place where I can find them. How do you think this will work? Can I ask this question? What to do also If she asks positively and give me a recommendation about a place or if she doesnt reply at all? Chris your advice is very valuable and thank you for everything. I… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

If she doesn’t reply, don’t send another text immediately.

Socrates
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I texted her 3 days after and she replied back 3 days after with information on what I asked for and wished me happy Christmas…I will contact her again after a week saying a hello…

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Socrates,

I think that’s a good test text

Harry
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Hey Chris I had been dating this girl for more than a year and for the last couple weeks of the relationship we had been fighting a lot so eventually we broke up. After we had broken up we still stayed close and hung out and talked until we just stopped because of some hurtful things I had said. For the last month we had fought and I had messed up a lot more. I don’t want to mess up again and now she says she has no feelings and just wants to be civil. What should I do? I… Read more »
Brian
Guest

Hello Chris,

If I have tried to contact her after NC with an interesting text, and she told me honestly that she likes someone else and that she is sorry. I already knew and they are actually dating. Does that mean I need to re-initiate NC?

Brian
Guest

She had a professor that she used to work with and he mistreated her and he was known to be a bit psychotic.
So i texted her “hey I saw Dr. ________ running this morning, ugh he looks weirder than before!”
and we did talk a bit before she told me that she is seeing someone and that she politely asked me to stop texting her.

Brian
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Just to add a little bit, because she told me honestly… I told her how i felt. In short, I told her to be happy because she deserves to be. I told her how sorry I was to leave her alone during the hard times when I should be the one who stood there and be there for her. I told her that I was inexperienced and a fool to think that this phase of us being just too comfortable will just pass and be back to way it was. I intended to let her go. because after telling her… Read more »
Brian
Guest

Okay. I have not contacted her since then. I will continue NC for 30 days and text her again.
I will re-read your articles on texting. would it be okay if I ask you to check it before I text her again?

thank you

Brian
Guest

okay. I will definitely consider it.
Thank you very much

Choi
Guest
sorry to bother you. in need of some advice… my girlfriend and i dated for about 2 yrs and she broke up with me because she was tired of the relationship. we got into a lot of arguments toward the later phase of our relationship and she indirectly gave me hints to show that I love her yet I took it as her just conplaining and whinning. I found out that she is seeing another guy and its been about a month. so i NC for 21 days. and actually was looking for a right timing to text her but… Read more »
Choi
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its a little weird. she and i were supposed to go to this convention from school. so we went and kept it professional. and after i did nc for 21 days. and i saw her after the nc

Choi
Guest

Sorry if there is a duplicate post… I replied on the phone with more detail, but it is not showing up on my computer.
no, it was after NC.
we had a conference that we needed to attend and we both agreed to keep it professional and we did.
afterwards, I re-initiated NC for about 21 days and was looking for a chance to text her. but I ran into her instead.

Thank you in advance. it truly means a lot for people like me who are heartbroken.

Socrates
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Which other article do you mean? I want to contact er again 3 days after the first text (where she did reply but then she ignored my second text)
What to do after 3 days? I think to ask her for a recommendation on a shop for some clothes I want to buy…will this work? thank you

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Yeah, asking has a good chance. Especially if she has an expertise on the topic.

Kevin
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Recently broke up with my ex about two weeks ago, and we have talked occasionally but not on good terms. Its been 5 days since we last talked to each other in person and i asked her to meet me at the pier for just coffee. I chose something very casual, although i texted her at 10 this morning and she hasn’t responded. I assume she is busy, do i wait for her to respond or do i follow up and try to talk to her. She also is the one that initiated the break up two weeks ago. Thank… Read more »
George
Guest
Hey Chris Firstly, I love your work. Thanks for putting so much time aside to write all these posts. Just hoping I can get some advice from you. I’ve been seeing my now ex gf for about a year and a half. Basically her problem with me has been that I’ve been very unreliable and broken promises. She knows I love her and she loves me but decided to call it a day last week. She has hidden her relationship status on Facebook but hasn’t cut the relationship. So me and her only can see that were in a relationship.… Read more »
Josh
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Hi Chris, as far as I can see I cannot find a situation that fits mine. I was with my Ex for 4 years, looking back at it I did not treat her incredibly like she deserves but not horrible however I was over protective. We broke up after she started her new job at the time I thought there was another guy involved but I can now not be sure. I went to her work and kicked off at her (luckily no members of staff saw me but I am sure the guy I went up there to fight… Read more »
Josh
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It’s also probably worth mentioning that I suffered mental health issues due to my work and we’re I was in my life. This has all changed I am back to my normal self and even improved thanks to therapy

A
Guest
Hey there Chris! This site is by far has the realest ‘how to get my ex back’ advice i’ve seen so far! Me and my girlfriend were going out for just under 2 years, it was the first real and serious relationship for the both of us. It was the best, we were so magical and productive when together. But in the last 4 months; our relationship stopped growing, she dropped out of uni and I left my job we both slumped and everything became a routine. I felt energy sapped from being around so much negative energy, I subconsciously… Read more »
Trevayne Dsilva
Guest
Hey Chris, I was dating this girl for 2 and a half years, she is 23 years and I am 26. Our parents and families knew and we were serious about being together. We however did fight a lot and I thought that was maybe one of the ways we showed love to each other. However she recently broke up in the month of May, her reason was because I did not treat her well and she just wanted to enjoy a single life. I was never a clingy guy, and was suddenly taken aback with this decision. After the… Read more »
Richard
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I dated my ex for almost 5 years and then I broke up with her. I was going through a serious depression and couldnt handle anything so I left her. I know bad move but I couldnt help it. I did no contact for 3 months then wrote her to apologize. its been 4 months now and 2 weeks ago she sent me an email asking if I was returning to my teaching job and i responded with a a yes and a question of my own about her job. I have not heard back from her yet. I have… Read more »
Steve
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Hey Chris. I have a question, I have broken no contact after 25 days, and got a positive, 2minute response, BUT didnt just end the conversation and texted her back a flirty joke accusing her of lying to me. She waited aobut 45 minutes… exactly… and then texted back “true story.” Details aside, do i basically say ill text her later or do i give it 24-48 hours and go with a general emotion text? For the record, during NC I have been to the gym every day, worked my ass off at work, fixed my (admittedly) shitty car and… Read more »
Jay
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Awesome site, great advice. In my first week of the 21 day NC after intermittent contact for a few weeks. So what if she makes contact, and in my NC state she starts to get upset that I’m not responding at all. She obviously doesn’t know I’m in the plan so she just thinks I’m being rude, (all hypothetical here btw.) I don’t want to be disrespectful but want to stay strong in NC period?

Steve
Guest

dude, stay strong. I mean im nobody, but stick to a plan. 🙂

Mike D
Guest

Hey Chris…
I would love to see some more on what to do when an ex contacts you after months of NC and starts to show interest again. What should we do?
I asume we need to play a little hard to get, but not too much. We need to show a lillte interest as well, but not too much…

Mike D
Guest
Well… I havent heard a word from her in over 6 months, and she has overall been very cold as an ex. But suddenly, out of nowhere, I revieved the “hey, congratulations on the new job” text message. We texted back and forth, a week later she even send me a new friend request on FB. It has been going on for a few weeks now. Texts is always initiated by her, she generally have a very possitive attitude towards me, she is using a lot of smileys in her texts, and she has several times asked me to “come… Read more »
Ruben
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Hey Chris, I just wanted to give an update on my situation (I would reply to my previous post, but it has disappeared and I can only find it if I post something new). As I mentioned before, I had wrote to my ex a few days after our breakup before I found this website, this is what I wrote: Hey *EXGF*, listen, I know you said to part ways, and I apologize for writing you this message right now, it is taking more courage than you know. I wrote something the other day that I wanted to share with… Read more »
Ruben
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Oh, and as a side note, the previous message that I sent, no, I did not go to her parents house, job or physically contact her with that card and sd chip with all of our photos, as even though I had “signs” and a “good feeling”, I decided to not go that route as I felt that it might have been a bit too much “pull”, therefore being disastrous on my behalf, I can’t have that…

Ruben
Guest

Another update, so the ex has a cover pic with new guy, but still has all of our pics up throughout the years. I’m trying to be as strong as I can about it…it isn’t easy. I assume I shouldn’t interfere with their relationship? I messaged her previously, but got no response, but I am still not blocked.

Ruben
Guest
Hi Chris, I am rewriting my story (with added info from my previous story) so it can be published, maybe I can get a lot of insight from others as well if that is possible. On 4/27/2013, I had my gf at the time dump me because of “personal issues”, she was ok, and I felt bad for a day, but some of her words suggested we were done for good, and after a day or so, I was over her. Reason why is that I came into a contact with a woman, who was 21 at the time and… Read more »