By Chris Seiter

Published on June 19th, 2023

Following a logical progression of steps after being dumped is absolutely crucial when it comes to getting your ex back, my friend. Why? Well, let me break it down for you. Firstly, taking a systematic approach allows you to navigate the process with intention and purpose and not fall prey to your emotions.

It ensures that each step is given the time and attention it deserves, maximizing your chances of success. If you do the wrong thing at the wrong time, you will only hinder your chances of getting your ex back after they let you go.

Secondly, it showcases your sincerity and maturity. By following a logical progression, you demonstrate to your ex that you’re taking this seriously and that you’re committed to making positive changes. This won’t be immediately clear to them in the beginning phase of your ex recovery strategy.  But as time goes by it will turn you from being a dumpee to someone your ex wants back in their life.

Additionally, going through a systematic progression of tactics allows both parties to heal and gain clarity. It provides the necessary space for self-reflection, personal growth, and addressing the issues that led to the breakup in the first place. By taking the time to work on yourself and show genuine change, you’re setting a strong foundation for a better and more fulfilling relationship. Remember, my friend, a logical progression ensures that you approach this process with thoughtfulness and strategy, giving yourself the best possible chance of rekindling the flame with your ex.

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Alright, buckle up, it’s time to give you the big picture breakdown of how you should go about the process of winning back your ex and ensuring you are doing things in the correct order. If you follow these 15 steps on how to increase your chances of getting your ex back after being dumped, you should be well rewarded.  Remember now, you need to follow each step in the proper order to maximize your chances!

The 15 Steps of Getting Your Ex Back In Your Life After They Dump You

  1. Accept the breakup: Dude, respect your ex’s decision to call it quits. Take it on the chin and show that you’re cool with it. Don’t beg or pressure them to change their mind. Give ’em space and time to think.  In the long run, this approach will work to your advantage.
  2. Focus on self-improvement: Get pumped to work on yourself! Hit the gym, improve your style, and level up mentally and emotionally and spiritually and every other way that makes you feel good. Show your ex what they’re missing out on by becoming the ultimate version of yourself which is what you should be in the process of accomplishing.
  3. Reflect on the relationship:  Yes, they dumped you.  You feel awful. But now it is time for some serious introspection. Look deep into the relationship and figure out what went wrong. Own up to your mistakes, learn from ’em, and make sure you don’t repeat ’em in the future. And guess what?  The Dumper made plenty of mistakes too.  No one in a relationship is without some fault.
  4. Maintain no contact:  This step is so important and if you miss it, you’re likely to set back your chances.  What I am talking about here is giving yourself and your ex some breathing room. No contact means no reaching out for a while in any way. It’s tough, but it gives you both space to heal and gain some perspective.  And guess what?  You need not be alone in this process.  I have tons of resources that can help you along the way.
  5. Reconnect as friends: So once the no-contact period is over, it’s time to rebuild that connection. Start slow and steady. Keep the convos light and friendly, without diving into heavy relationship talk right away. Be a good friend first.  Now, doing this is going to be a lot more difficult than you think.  But if you come off as looking the least bit desperate or needy, your ex will be the first to spot this and either capitalize on this in negative ways or be turned off by your efforts.
  6. Show independence and happiness: Get ready to show off your independent and happy vibes, my friend! Without them, you are going to look a lot less attractive to your ex and others. Pursue your passions, hang with your crew, and rock that confident energy. Let your ex see that you’re thriving on your own.
  7. Apologize sincerely: If you messed up, own it like a boss. Offer a heartfelt apology, showing that you’ve learned from your mistakes. No blame game, just genuine remorse and a commitment to being a better person.
  8. Demonstrate positive change:  When you enter this phase, it is time to show, not just tell. Take consistent actions to improve yourself. Work on personal growth, tackle bad habits and toss them away, and show that you’re actively becoming the best of  yourself.
  9. Engage in open communication: Get ready for some real talk because if you have progressed to this point, then the re-connection is upon you. When you reconnect, be open, honest, and attentive. Show that you’re listening and understanding. Repeat back what they tell you and ask them if you missed anything. Respect their perspective and build that trust again.  None of this happens fast.  It can often be a drip, drip, drip of open and positive communications
  10. Rekindle the attraction: So if the sparks are beginning to emerge, then it’s time to turn on the charm. Inspire their desire. Hey, I wrote a book about this so check it out if you will. Focus on your appearance, confidence, and charisma. Take care of yourself, dress to impress, and let that magnetic energy shine.  The engine of desire and attraction can run its own course if you have taken time to follow the progression of these steps.
  11. Create new memories: Plan some epic adventures together and allow these shared experiences to stack up.  Take your ex on some fun and exciting outings to create new shared experiences. Make beautiful memories for them to underscore how foolish they were to dump you in the first place.
  12. Express your feelings: Alright, so now it’s time to let ’em know how you really feel. Share your emotions sincerely and honestly. Be vulnerable,  and let them see how much they mean to you. Lay it all out there, but it shouldn’t be something that is overwhelming.  Drop into conversations over time like little breadcrumbs of love.
  13. Take it slow:  This is also a really important step.  Don’t rush into things. Take your time to rebuild trust and strengthen your foundation. Enjoy the journey of reconnecting, without putting pressure on yourselves. It’s all about building a solid and lasting connection.  Expect that there can be some up and down times too.  Seldom do re-connections end up like a fairy tale where everything works out perfectly.  Take it slow and stay the course.
  14. Address relationship issues: Once you have progressed enough where you both want the same thing, there will come a time to tackle those past problems.  They can’t be swept away and forgotten.  Open up the lines of communication and talk about the issues that caused the breakup. Work together to find solutions and make positive changes. Don’t be afraid to seek professional help if needed.
  15. Give it time: Patience is key, my eager friend. Rome wasn’t built in a day, right? Allow the relationship to develop naturally and at its own pace. Don’t rush the process. Trust that if it’s meant to be, it’ll happen in due time.	

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