There’s a popular old wives tale out there that says that men think about sex every seven seconds which equates to about 8,000 times a day. While there is no research to back up that claim lets pretend for a moment that it’s true.
There is only one thing I can think of that women can use to match the intensity at which men think about sex.
Want to know what it is?
More accurately, the idea of falling in love.
Don’t believe me?
Just take a look at how much money Hollywood has made over the years with these generic romantic movies where you can predict the outcome before you even watch it. The reason they are so successful is because so many women are so in love with love that they are happy to fork over money to watch a movie whose outcome they already know.
This leads us to your current predicament with your ex girlfriend.
I don’t envy your position. I am not going to lie.
You see, at one point you meant the world to your ex girlfriend. Heck, if she was the earth then you were probably her sun (aka. her world revolved around you.) Unfortunately, that is no longer the case. She is no longer in love with you and the worst part about it all is that you knew what things were like when she was.
That’s why you are here though…
You are desperate to find a way to get her to fall back in love with you.
I think I can help you there.
Making Your Ex Fall In Love With You In Four Simple Steps
What if I told you that make your ex fall back in love with you was as simple as following four easy steps,
- Understanding her resistance towards falling in love with you
- Determine what that resistance is for you and overcome it
- Tap into the eleven qualities to make her fall in love with you
- If you get her back have a plan so history doesn’t repeat itself
No, I’m just kidding.
What I’d like to do now is take a minute to break down how each of these steps work.
1. Understanding Her Resistance Towards Falling In Love With You
That is really your greatest rival when it comes to winning back your exes affections. Think of it like this for a moment. You and your girlfriend had a relationship so both of you know what the other one brings to the table. Well, when it comes to actually getting her back you are going to have to overcome any resistance she may have about what you bring to the table.
For example, she may think something like,
“I already know he spends too much time with his “boys” and won’t have any time for me.”
“He never touches me… Why would I want to get back in that situation?”
The point here is simple. Since your ex has already dated you she knows your negative qualities (or the qualities that she thought were negative.) Your greatest challenge is finding a way to overcome these negatives by convincing her that this next time will be different.
So, looking at your general situation what is it that we know already?
Well, we know that you and your ex are no longer together (this guide will help you to get her back.)
We also know that for whatever reason your ex girlfriend fell out of love with you as a result of your negative qualities and you are going to have to overcome this “resistance” if you are going to make her fall back in love with you.
Lets focus on that first, why your ex girlfriend fell out of love with you or the resistance you are going to be facing.
Resistance 1- Boredom
This one hurts.
Essentially what happened in a relationship here is that your girlfriend got so bored of being with you that she just lost her feelings. I have a buddy who has been with his girlfriend for five years. Yes, you read that right, FIVE YEARS.
One day when we were out at a bar he sat me down and he said,
“Chris, when you are with someone for that long things change… I remember when I first started dating [5 years girl] we couldn’t keep our hands of each other. The sex was absolutely amazing. Everything was bliss. However, as the years went by we got used to each other and things just become kind of boring.”
This was pretty shocking for me to hear since I didn’t even get a hint that my friend was getting bored in his relationship. So, I asked a pretty simple question,
“Why are you still with her then?”
His answer was very insightful.
“We had to learn to find ways to re-spark our relationship so we weren’t as bored with each other.”
Relationships that stand the test of time aren’t easy. Anyone who tells you that they are is either a fool or has never been in one. The boredom in a relationship is eventually going to come, it’s inevitable. However, the best way to combat that boredom is to keep your girl on her toes.
Treat her to dinner in a nice restaurant from time to time. Take her on a romantic get-a-way trip. Greet her in the morning with surprises. Have passionate sex in new places.
If you aren’t able to find a way to combat this boredom the result can be devastating with her falling out of love with you.
Resistance 2- Her Emotional Needs Weren’t Met
What do you think I mean when I talk about “emotional needs?”
In every single serious relationship that a woman enters into with a man she is going to be expecting that man to fulfill her emotional needs. I am talking about things like.
- Feeling secure
- Feeling envied
- Feeling equal
- Feeling like she is the only one that means something to him
- Enough trust with a man that she can be open with him
- I think you get the idea
When these needs aren’t met she is going to start doubting the relationship and slowly but surely lose her feelings for you.
Lets use you and your girlfriend as an example.
Lets say that throughout your relationship with your girlfriend you did not make her feel secure, you did not make her feel envied and she had no trust in you at all. In this case you are not doing anything to fulfill your girlfriend emotionally. Sure, maybe you are dynamite in the sack but that’s only one aspect of the relationship and most women don’t fall in love just because they slept with someone.
This is where men and women have a bit of a disconnect.
Men are obviously more physical so they equate physical things to love. Women on the other hand are more emotional so they equate more emotional things to love.
If you want to make your girlfriend love you again THAT is where you are going to have to start, with her emotions (but more on that later.)
Resistance 3- Other Men…
For most men this is a nightmare scenario (you can count me in that majority as well.)
The way this works is pretty simple. If your girlfriend ever mutters the four most horrifying words ever,
“I met someone else…”
Then that means that she probably fell out of love with you as the result of another guy. Now, I will say one thing. In my own experience most women usually do not go outside of their relationships (to other men) unless their own relationship has some serious problems.
For example, if you aren’t meeting your girlfriends emotional needs (resistance 2) then your girlfriend may go somewhere else to get them met.
Of course, there are always those men out there that actively hit on women who are married or dating just because they are jerks.
But I am going to make this really simple for you.
If your girlfriend ever leaves you for another man then that means that she doesn’t love you.
How do I know this?
Because people who are truly in love couldn’t ever comprehend a future with anyone else (that’s the romantic in me speaking 😉 .)
Resistance 4- Your Lying
What’s that famous quote?
“Trust – Hard to gain, Easy to lose..”
I feel that this quote is extremely insightful and applies to what we are going to talk about here with resistance 4 and lying.
Generally speaking when it comes to relationships where trust goes love usually follows. So, if there is a complete lack of trust there can also be a complete lack of love.
Now, I bet you are sitting there wondering,
“Why are we talking about trust and not about lies?”
Because, every time you lie (and your girlfriend catches you) it’s like taking an axe and cutting down the “tree of trust.”
Lets make a big (and hopefully untrue) assumption by saying that you got caught in a lot of lies during your relationship with your girlfriend. Well, the biggest resistance she is going to have when she contemplates on whether or not she should take you back is probably going to go a little like this,
“He is a liar and if I take him back he isn’t going to change. How can I ever trust him?”
Now, I don’t know about you but I tend not to fall in love with people who I know for a fact are going to lie to me.
(Don’t freak out if this is you since I am going to show you what to do to win back your exes affection later in this guide.)
Resistance 5- Growing Apart
Life has an interesting way of putting us all on different paths.
For example, when I was graduating high school all of my friends and I swore that we would keep in touch. That didn’t happen obviously as I am not friends with any of them anymore. The same thing happened with college. I haven’t hung out with any of my college friends in over a year.
My point here is simple, all of us are on a path and sometimes that path takes us in a different direction than the other people we have grown close to.
Maybe your girlfriend was looking for the next step, marriage, and you weren’t ready to commit. Heck, maybe the two of you were married and she wanted to have kids and you didn’t.
Big differences in the philosophies of the relationship like those can be a force that causes two people to grow apart.
2. Determine What That Resistance Is For You And Overcome It
Your ex girlfriend obviously has a lot of resistance when it comes to getting back together with you. If she didn’t she would have probably taken you back when you initially tried. Before you can even think about getting her back and making her fall back in love with you, you are going to have to find a way to overcome this resistance.
In my opinion, overcoming the resistance is going to be your most challenging task because really the resistance is the only thing that is standing between you and her getting back together.
What do you think I mean by that?
Well, lets pretend for a minute that your girlfriend has serious reservations about getting back together with you because during your relationship you never met her emotional needs (resistance 2.) Well, every time that she even thinks about getting back together with you she is going to be haunted by a singular thought like,
“He never met my emotional needs in the relationship. There is no way he is ever going to change.”
You aren’t going to get her back if she has those kind of thoughts and if you can’t get her back you aren’t ever going to make her fall in love with you again.
So, the question you are probably wondering is how do you defeat these resistance thoughts she has?
Well, there are really three things you have to do when you are looking to get rid of her doubts.
- Identifying her resistance.
- Giving her time.
- Attacking her resistance.
Lets look at each of these things in-depth.
Identifying Her Resistance
I am the type of person that likes to be prepared. This is a quality that I would like you to adopt for your particular situation. One thing that we already know is that your ex girlfriend probably has a lot of resistance about getting back with you.
- Maybe the two of you fought too much.
- Maybe you didn’t met her needs emotionally.
- Maybe the two of you just got too comfortable with one another.
Whatever the case I think it is really important for you to identify every possible resistance that she may have about getting back together with you. This way you know everything you are up against and what you are going to have to overcome to win back her love.
Oh, and I do feel it is important to mention that she could have more than one resistance about getting back together with you. Heck, she could have an entirely new resistance that I haven’t even listed on this page. Make sure you look at the situation from her perspective as that will give you good insight into what she is thinking.
Giving Her Time
What’s that old phrase?
“Rome wasn’t built in a day.”
Well, you aren’t going to break down her resistance about getting back together with you in a day. For you to even try to win her back and make her fall in love with you in a day is the most idiotic belief you could ever have. No, making another human being actually fall in love with you and choose to be with you will take some time.
There aren’t any shortcuts when it comes to this kind of thing, trust me.
Let me tell you a little story to illustrate this point.
About a week ago I read a comment a reader left on my other site, Ex Boyfriend Recovery that was absolutely heartbreaking. This woman wanted nothing more than to get her ex boyfriend back. As I communicated with her she literally told me,
“I will do everything you tell me to do.”
So I told her what to do. I told her to give the guy some time before she rushes in and tries to get him back. I also told her that when she eventually does get to a point where she is talking with her ex she is going to have to be very patient and not try to rush everything at once.
In other words, I tried to explain to her the best I could that this isn’t going to happen overnight and the more you rush it the more likely things will fall apart right in front of your face.
Did she listen to me?
Of course not. She decided she was going to rush everything and what happened? Things fell apart.
Don’t rush this process with your ex girlfriend. Give her some time before you come in guns a blazing trying to defeat her resistances (aka The NC Rule.)
Attacking Her Resistance
(Need more advice on getting your ex girlfriend back? Check out Ex Girlfriend Recovery PRO.)
Here is kind of how this works.
During your relationship with your ex girlfriend she began to notice certain negative qualities about you. Eventually the negative qualities became so bad that she decided to leave you because of them.
The Negative Qualities = The Resistance She Has About Taking You Back
Well, ideally what you want to have happen is that you are able to overcome her resistance (through her emotional attachment to you), prove that you no longer display the negative qualities she hates when she takes you back and as a result she will fall back in love with you. Take a look below for a visual representation of this process,
The problem you currently face is the fact that you really can’t prove you no longer possess the negative qualities which invariably led to your breakup right now because the two of you are currently broken up.
Because you really have to be in a relationship to overcome those types of negative qualities.
Unfortunately, the resistance thoughts your ex has in her mind (because of those negative qualities) are preventing you from being in a relationship with her.
So, right now your focus should be on attacking her resistance and I have found that the most effective way to do that is through the use of good old fashioned emotions.
Using Her Emotions For You To Overcome Her Resistance
That is the number of women I have talked to as a result of Ex Boyfriend Recovery (the sister site to this one.) When you communicate with that many women about relationships you tend to learn a thing or two about how they make decisions.
Would you like to know what I learned?
Women tend to make relationship decisions based on the emotions they are feeling.
For example, if you can tap into the emotional center of a woman and make her feel something so powerful that no one else has the ability to she is going to be drawn to you. Of course, the opposite can also be true, which is unfortunately true in your case.
If a woman begins to associate a lot of bad emotions towards you (see the resistance section above) she is going to be want to get away from you.
Right now this is your situation, your ex girlfriend wants nothing to do with you.
What we have to do is turn the tables on her so that she starts associating more of those strong and positive emotions towards you.
Luckily, there are many different ways in which you can accomplish this.
It’s Important That You Make Her Miss You
Have you ever missed someone so much that it literally hurt you to be away from them?
Those of you who are unlucky enough to experience this feeling know how emotional it can make you.
Well, one way to make sure that you overcome your ex girlfriends resistance to dating you again is to make her miss you so much that it literally hurts her to be away from you. The question you are probably wondering is how in the world are you going to accomplish that when she wants nothing to do with you?
Right now she may not miss you.
That’s ok, that’s normal for a breakup.
Eventually though there will come a time when she misses certain aspects of your relationship with her and this will cause her to want to message you via social media, text you or call you. When this moment comes should you be there for her?
Pretty much every fiber of your being is going to scream YES. However, the smarter move is to not respond to her at all (not for a while at least.)
She is messaging you because she misses you. This is exactly what you want but you don’t want to relieve her of her pain (as weird as that sounds) by messaging her back. Instead, you want her to miss you on an even more intense level to the point where she is actually hungering for you to message her back.
Take a look at the graph below,
Lets pretend that this graph represents the intensity that your ex girlfriend misses you after the breakup. As you can see the graph has a sharp incline, a high point and then a sharp decline.
Well, it is highly likely that during the sharp incline, when your ex is missing you, is when she is going to reach out to you. That point will probably occur here on the graph,
Lets assume that she called you at this point of the graph, you picked up, answered and had a very long conversation with her. Well, after that conversation she isn’t going to miss you as much so it is highly likely that the graph will take the downward trajectory shown above.
Instead of being patient, playing your cards right and showing some discipline by ignoring her call you decided to give in to your own desires and the price you paid for it was the fact that she no longer misses you as much.
The better strategy, as I just said, is to ignore her call which admittedly might make her a little angry at first but the end result is almost always the same, she misses you more.
Lets take a look at what that will look like on a graph.
With this graph I marked the point at which your ex probably calls or texts you with an arrow. However, instead of responding to her call or text message you decide to ignore it and look what happens as a result.
The trajectory of the graph shoots drastically upward.
In other words, your ex girlfriend begins to miss you on a much deeper level.
Now, here is the 5 million dollar question.
What do you think is easier,
Trying to overcome the resistance when she misses you just a little bit or trying overcome it when she misses you a lot?
It’s not rocket science.
But if you want me to go full rocket science check out this video,
(For more information on how to make your ex girlfriend miss you please visit this guide on Ex Girlfriend Recovery.)
Tapping Into Her Old Happy Emotions Towards You
I know that for most on this page I have been kind of a debbie downer with me pointing out everything that you are doing wrong. Well, in this section that is all about to change because we are going to turn our focus to what you have done right.
One of the biggest advantages that you have over every other man walking the earth right now is that you were the last person that your ex girlfriend was in love with (I hope.)
In other words, you have already proven that you have the ability to make this girl fall in love with you.
What you need to do now is to find a way to tap into those emotions again.
You know, all the ones that made her so happy that she couldn’t even think straight for hours at a time.
How do you do that?
Allow me to demonstrate.
I am going to think back to the one of the happiest moments in my entire relationship with a woman.
Once I have identified that moment I am going to write it down.
Give me a second while I think…
Ok, I have it.
The Moment – Going on a horse carriage ride around San Antonio and thinking to myself, “This is the one… I am going to marry this girl.”
Now, before I go on I do feel it is important to mention that when you are doing this for your particular girlfriend you need to make sure that the moment you choose means just as much to her as it did to you. If it doesn’t then this tactic isn’t going to work.
Assuming that you do have the prefect moment picked out what is it that you have to do to bring your ex girlfriend back into the moment?
I always loved the idea of a text message for this.
For example, if I were to use my memory in a text message I would say something like this,
Do you see how I never referenced what went on in San Antonio (the carriage ride?)
Why do you think I did that?
The memory you pick out needs to be so powerful that you shouldn’t even have to mention exactly what happened. Rather, all you should have to say is a place and a time and your ex girlfriend should know exactly what you are talking about.
Oh, also I should mention that its important that you pick your spots with this text message.
For example, the best time to use a message like this is when you are already having an in-depth conversation with your girlfriend. This way she is properly primed to go to a place where she can re-experience the emotions she experienced the day that (the memory you picked out) happened.
3. Tap Into The Eleven Qualities To Make Her Fall In Love With You
It never ceases to amaze me how people can stare a gift horse in the mouth and walk away.
Ever since the invention of the internet human beings have been able to communicate and share their messages like never before.
It’s kind of incredible.
But what does this have to do with making your ex fall in love with you?
Well, what if I were to tell you that the internet literally holds the answer to making someone fall in love with you.
And it’s never been easier to find those answers.
It’s just that human beings are too lazy to do so.
But you aren’t.
You have the ultimate motivation to do so.
What Is Love?
When you fall in love with someone what happens?
I don’t mean philosophically or poetically.
What I am asking is for you to take a logical look at love and acknowledge that it’s nothing more than chemicals being related by your brain.
There are five chemicals in particular I’d like to highlight here,
- CRF Hormone/CRF Receptors/Vasopressin
So, what do these chemicals do?
Well, without getting to boring,
Dopamine: Focuses on motivation, reward and goal directed-behavior. It makes our partner seem exciting, special and unique.
Norepinephrine: It’s responsible for the surge of energy and racing hear that you feel when you are around your partner. It basically puts your body into a more alert state.
Serotonin: Low levels of serotonin are found in obsessive-compulsive disorder and are thought to cause obsessive thinking. Sound familiar?
Oxytocin: You may have heard of oxytocin. It’s called the cuddle hormone and is released during orgasm. It has also been linked to needy, clingy behavior. Oh, and it’s been linked to jealousy.
CRF Hormone/CRF Receptors/Vasopressin: Scientists learned about the role of vasopressin and CRF in attachment by studying the prairie vole, a small creature that forms monogamous bonds like humans do. When male prairie voles were given a drug that suppresses vasopressin, they began neglecting their partners and not fighting off other male voles who wanted to mate with her.
Here is my point.
Love is nothing more than chemicals and if you are looking to make your ex fall in love with you again then your entire goal should be to figure out how to do things to cause these chemicals to be released by your ex girlfriend.
The Eleven Processes That Human Beings Need To Fall In Love
If you are an avid reader of Ex Girlfriend Recovery then you may have heard me talk about my Private Facebook Group before.
It is probably one of my favorite things that I have ever done.
Not only do I get to interact with men and women on a daily basis but I get to sit back and watch as everyone helps each other.
One thing I also like about the Facebook group is that I get to do weekly “Facebook Lives” where I can teach and answer questions.
Well, a couple of weeks ago I happened to come across some amazing research that talked about the eleven processes that human beings use when they are falling in love and I thought I would talk about it on a Facebook Live.
Everyone went crazy wanting to know more.
In fact, a lot of people ended up taking detailed notes,
And that’s when Anna Gonowon messaged me.
Now, if you don’t know Anna she is actually one of my coaches.
She is probably one of the smartest women I have ever met and has gotten every ex she has ever had back.
She put together a pretty massive document and basically told me that these eleven processes that I am about to tell you about were responsible for her success.
I’d like to show you what she told me.
But first I need to tell you the eleven processes,
- Desirable Characteristics
- Social Influence
- Fulfilling Needs
- Specific Cues or Particular Features
- Alone Time
Anna decided to take detailed notes on everything that I said during the Facebook Live about how each of these characteristics are defined and how she was able to use each of these to her advantage to get her exes back.
Now, I realize that this is a website for men but there is a lot you can learn here to help you in your situation.
Here is what Anna had to say.
These are essentially shared interests. According to science, we are more attracted to people who are more like us than different than us. In other words, the more similar you are, the better.
Anna: With any person in a relationship with me, I work to understand how we’re similar, and I drive those similarities home repeatedly. Gaming, music, driving fast, food, economics, fiscal responsibility, independence, technology, etc. are topics that I have worked to focus on in past relationships.
Love at first sight is not backed up by science. People are more likely to fall in love with someone who feels familiar. This is caused by spending time together, being near each other and anticipating interactions with others.
Anna: I also ask questions and make observations about their home life, parents, siblings, school, and other personal things in order to understand how they may be in their most unguarded environments. Once I figure that out, I then adopt the attitudes that seem familiar and comfortable for them.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. This is where physical appearance comes into play. They say that we know within the first five seconds if we are attracted to someone.
Anna: I always emphasize various assets (both mental and physical), until I determine which characteristics he likes the most. Once I figure those things out, I then make sure those are a visual focus whenever we’re together. I also understand the antidotes to the Four Horsemen of Relationships, as written by Gottman. So, I weave that into all my communications in relationships.
This goes against the grain in our private Facebook Group quite often, where members have over-reciprocated. You cannot be too ungettable and must learn when to reciprocate.
Anna: Especially in the early stages of getting to know someone, I watch closely to determine what his love language may be and what his personality type could be. I then leverage that to match or encourage his investment by showing him that I reciprocate in the ways that he best understands.
We see this a lot with people who have large age gaps (e.g., What will others think?). This is where it’s important to have Sphere of Influence on your side and his friends, family, etc. rooting for you.
Anna: Everyone loves me, so…☺
This is more an “in the relationship” type thing. The more you mutually fulfill needs, the more love you’ll feel for each other.
Anna: This ties into reciprocation and understanding the love languages, the antidotes to the Four Horsemen, and personality types.
Being in an unusual or arousing environment can spark passion, even if the environment is perceived to be dangerous or spooky. Put your ex in a romantic environment where they can potentially fall in love. If you put them in that environment, the adrenalin from such a situation will produce bonded feelings and a shared experience. If your ex is charged up, those positive feelings can transfer to you.
Anna: For really big emotional events or when I want to increase investment in relationships, I normally plan activities that are a bit unusual for the relationship – traveling, new activities, surprises, and simply acting different from what he would expect.
Specific Cues or Particular Features
As an example, let’s say your ex has the bluest eyes you’ve ever seen. So, you see that color, and you are aroused/turned on. Highlight the features that your ex loves. Love often starts as passion and excitement, and it spreads throughout the rest of your brain and among your experiences with him. Cues examples include: humor, legs, eyes, etc.
Anna: I’m Filipina and American, so everything about me is really different. So, like desirable characteristics, I drive that home all the time.
Your ex is not likely to fall in love with a rebound or during devastating times (such as deaths). Timing is an important factor and related to this item. A lot of times you’re trying to get them back when they’re not ready to be “gotten back”. You have to be in the life of your ex at the right time. So, you have to look at their actions to determine if they’re ready.
Anna: I normally am very relaxed in relationships, meaning that, when it comes to commitment, I avoid conversations about structure and exclusivity until either a situation comes up where those topics come to the forefront or I gently guide him to be in that sort of relationship – and he wakes up to the reality that he loves being in an exclusive relationship with me and wants me to be similarly committed.
Spending time alone with someone can contribute to a development of passion. The more alone time you can spend with your ex, the more investment you can get from them and the the more likely they are to fall in love with you. Getting alone time is an essential part of making them to fall in love with you.
Anna: I mix in group and alone time activities. I usually make it clear that I’m very busy and don’t have a lot of time to be alone with any one person. ☺ It forces the other person to seek time with me alone, as I’ll throw out group activities all the time.
If there is some mystery surrounding the person and uncertainty about your thoughts, feelings, availability, and whether you’ll initiate communication can contribute to passion. No Contact is the start of the mystery and works here. Weaving mystery into your communication is important, and you must be unpredictable. You must find a way to get mystique.
Anna: I have very strict boundaries on my time and availability, because I prioritize myself, my passions, and my career. So, I don’t have time to respond quickly, initiate communications all the time, or just be available whenever he wants. I believe firmly in honestly and truthfulness, but, to me, those ideas are not synonymous with full disclosure. Also, I’m forgetful. So, I’ll sometimes tell interesting things after the fact, forget to call, or randomly mention an interesting thing about myself.
4. If You Get Her Back Have A Plan So History Doesn’t Repeat Itself
(You can learn the step by step method for making her fall in love with you in Ex Girlfriend Recovery PRO. Just sayin…)
I know you may still be a little confused on how to get your ex girlfriend back. I realize I kind of rushed through everything and didn’t give you the full step by step method that you should be implementing.
Luckily, I have you covered as I have written multiple guides on the steps to winning a girlfriend back,
If you are still confused about how that part of this process works please reference the guides above since they will explain everything to you.
Of course, the main purpose of this guide is to teach you how can make your ex girlfriend fall back in love with you. If you did manage to convince your ex girlfriend to take you back that doesn’t necessarily mean she’s in love with you yet.
(Sorry 🙁 .)
It’s ok though because I am going to show you what you need to do to raise your chances of making her fall in love with you.
Combating What She Thinks Your Negative Qualities Are
Ok, if you have reached this point then that means you were able to overcome her resistance about getting back together with you. Now that you are back with her you can work on combating the negative qualities that she thinks you have.
Now, I want you to listen up very closely because what I am going to be talking about here is a foolproof method for making a girl fall in love with you.
Before I wrote a word on this page I was thinking,
“Hmm… I kind of want to write something that teaches men how to treat a woman. I want to write something that teaches them to treat women so well that the woman has no choice but to fall in love with them.”
From this point on this guide is going to be focusing on that, how a real man should treat a woman.
Know Your Worth
Most men who want their exes back are desperate. As a result, assuming they do get their exes back, they make the relationship all about the girl instead of making it an equal partnership. You see, they are so frightened that they are going to lose the girl again that they will completely disregard their own personal needs in the relationship.
Some women pick up on this and take full advantage.
For example, I have heard multiple stories where women will manipulate the guy to do things that she wants him to do and uses her leaving the relationship as the ultimate tool to do so.
Knowing your own worth in the relationship is essential and is going to make you more attractive to your girl.
Think of it like this.
Who would a woman rather date?
A man who has no sense of self worth who she knows she can control/manipulate.
A man who has a sense of self worth who is going to challenge her in new ways.
While some women may find it appealing to be able to control a man it will get boring after a while and a relationship like that won’t last in the long run. So please, don’t be a guy who is going to get manipulated.
Being Able To Communicate
I don’t think communication gets the respect it deserves. When most people point out the problems of a relationship they point to things like not enough sex, emotional needs not being met and lying. While all of those can be harmful to a relationship I really think a lack of communication is worse.
Look at it like this.
If you are able to communicate properly you will be able to work through any “physical” issues you may be having as a couple. If both people communicate properly they will begin to understand what the other person needs on an emotional level. Oh, and there will be no need for lying.
By having good communication skills alone you can add another element to your relationship that most people fail to bring to the table.
Don’t Be Afraid To Go All Out On The Romance
I once had a guy tell me that his girlfriend hated Valentines Day.
“Chris, she literally told me that she hates V-Day. I don’t think I am going to have to do anything.”
What do you think happened to him when he didn’t do anything for valentines day?
Yup, they broke up because she was offended.
Women love romance. It’s just the way it is. They love those moments at the end of romantic comedies where the protagonist declares his undying love. They LOVE IT!
Of course, this presents us men with a pretty major problem. You see, most of us aren’t very good at the romance part. We aren’t good at expressing our feelings of undying love. Well, I take that back. We are but only in the physical sense. Women want us to express it in the emotional sense.
Let me give you an example.
I was on YouTube the other day and I happened to watch this 20 minute marriage proposal video that had over 9 million views. Now, I have to hand it to the guy, he really went all out. The proposal was funny, creative but most importantly, emotional.
Here, it’s worth watching (but only for the girls reaction to it all.)
You better have watched it…
Why do you think I made you watch that video (specifically for the girls reaction?)
Because, that is romance at it’s finest. Granted, most of you here probably aren’t looking to propose to your girlfriend but if you can bring just a sliver of the spirit that this guy put into his romantic proposal into your relationship your girlfriend is going to appreciate it on a deep level.
Too many men are afraid to go all out when it comes to the romance in their relationship.
So, I have a challenge for you.
I want you to do something so romantic for your girlfriend that she won’t ever forget it for the rest of her life. When she is on her deathbed she is going to look back on her life and point to this one incredible act as the most romantic thing ever done for her.
Ruin other men for her…
Do that and she will fall in love with you.