How To Make Your Ex Girlfriend Fall In Love With You Again

There’s a popular old wives tale out there that says that men think about sex every seven seconds which equates to about 8,000 times a day. While there is no research to back up that claim lets pretend for a moment that it’s true.

There is only one thing I can think of that women can use to match the intensity at which men think about sex.

Want to know what it is?

It’s love…

More accurately, the idea of falling in love.

Don’t believe me?

Just take a look at how much money Hollywood has made over the years with these generic romantic movies where you can predict the outcome before you even watch it. The reason they are so successful is because so many women are so in love with love that they are happy to fork over money to watch a movie whose outcome they already know.

This leads us to your current predicament with your ex girlfriend.

I don’t envy your position. I am not going to lie.

You see, at one point you meant the world to your ex girlfriend. Heck, if she was the earth then you were probably her sun (aka. her world revolved around you.) Unfortunately, that is no longer the case. She is no longer in love with you and the worst part about it all is that you knew what things were like when she was.

That’s why you are here though…

You are desperate to find a way to get her to fall back in love with you.

I think I can help you there.

Making Your Ex Fall In Love With You In Four Simple Steps

What if I told you that make your ex fall back in love with you was as simple as following four easy steps,

  1. Understanding her resistance towards falling in love with you
  2. Determine what that resistance is for you and overcome it
  3. Tap into the eleven qualities to make her fall in love with you
  4. If you get her back have a plan so history doesn’t repeat itself

The end!

No, I’m just kidding.

What I’d like to do now is take a minute to break down how each of these steps work.

1. Understanding Her Resistance Towards Falling In Love With You

Resistance…

That is really your greatest rival when it comes to winning back your exes affections. Think of it like this for a moment. You and your girlfriend had a relationship so both of you know what the other one brings to the table. Well, when it comes to actually getting her back you are going to have to overcome any resistance she may have about what you bring to the table.

For example, she may think something like,

“I already know he spends too much time with his “boys” and won’t have any time for me.”

or

“He never touches me… Why would I want to get back in that situation?”

The point here is simple. Since your ex has already dated you she knows your negative qualities (or the qualities that she thought were negative.) Your greatest challenge is finding a way to overcome these negatives by convincing her that this next time will be different.

So, looking at your general situation what is it that we know already?

Well, we know that you and your ex are no longer together (this guide will help you to get her back.)

We also know that for whatever reason your ex girlfriend fell out of love with you as a result of your negative qualities and you are going to have to overcome this “resistance” if you are going to make her fall back in love with you.

Lets focus on that first, why your ex girlfriend fell out of love with you or the resistance you are going to be facing.

Resistance 1- Boredom

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This one hurts.

Essentially what happened in a relationship here is that your girlfriend got so bored of being with you that she just lost her feelings. I have a buddy who has been with his girlfriend for five years. Yes, you read that right, FIVE YEARS.

One day when we were out at a bar he sat me down and he said,

“Chris, when you are with someone for that long things change… I remember when I first started dating [5 years girl] we couldn’t keep our hands of each other. The sex was absolutely amazing. Everything was bliss. However, as the years went by we got used to each other and things just become kind of boring.”

This was pretty shocking for me to hear since I didn’t even get a hint that my friend was getting bored in his relationship. So, I asked a pretty simple question,

“Why are you still with her then?”

His answer was very insightful.

“We had to learn to find ways to re-spark our relationship so we weren’t as bored with each other.”

Relationships that stand the test of time aren’t easy. Anyone who tells you that they are is either a fool or has never been in one. The boredom in a relationship is eventually going to come, it’s inevitable. However, the best way to combat that boredom is to keep your girl on her toes.

Treat her to dinner in a nice restaurant from time to time. Take her on a romantic get-a-way trip. Greet her in the morning with surprises. Have passionate sex in new places.

If you aren’t able to find a way to combat this boredom the result can be devastating with her falling out of love with you.

Resistance 2- Her Emotional Needs Weren’t Met

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What do you think I mean when I talk about “emotional needs?”

In every single serious relationship that a woman enters into with a man she is going to be expecting that man to fulfill her emotional needs. I am talking about things like.

  • Feeling secure
  • Feeling envied
  • Feeling equal
  • Feeling like she is the only one that means something to him
  • Enough trust with a man that she can be open with him
  • I think you get the idea

When these needs aren’t met she is going to start doubting the relationship and slowly but surely lose her feelings for you.

Lets use you and your girlfriend as an example.

Lets say that throughout your relationship with your girlfriend you did not make her feel secure, you did not make her feel envied and she had no trust in you at all. In this case you are not doing anything to fulfill your girlfriend emotionally. Sure, maybe you are dynamite in the sack but that’s only one aspect of the relationship and most women don’t fall in love just because they slept with someone.

This is where men and women have a bit of a disconnect.

Men are obviously more physical so they equate physical things to love. Women on the other hand are more emotional so they equate more emotional things to love.

If you want to make your girlfriend love you again THAT is where you are going to have to start, with her emotions (but more on that later.)

Resistance 3- Other Men…

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For most men this is a nightmare scenario (you can count me in that majority as well.)

The way this works is pretty simple. If your girlfriend ever mutters the four most horrifying words ever,

“I met someone else…”

Then that means that she probably fell out of love with you as the result of another guy. Now, I will say one thing. In my own experience most women usually do not go outside of their relationships (to other men) unless their own relationship has some serious problems.

For example, if you aren’t meeting your girlfriends emotional needs (resistance 2) then your girlfriend may go somewhere else to get them met.

Of course, there are always those men out there that actively hit on women who are married or dating just because they are jerks.

But I am going to make this really simple for you.

If your girlfriend ever leaves you for another man then that means that she doesn’t love you.

How do I know this?

Because people who are truly in love couldn’t ever comprehend a future with anyone else (that’s the romantic in me speaking 😉 .)

Resistance 4- Your Lying

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What’s that famous quote?

“Trust – Hard to gain, Easy to lose..”

I feel that this quote is extremely insightful and applies to what we are going to talk about here with resistance 4 and lying.

Generally speaking when it comes to relationships where trust goes love usually follows. So, if there is a complete lack of trust there can also be a complete lack of love.

Now, I bet you are sitting there wondering,

“Why are we talking about trust and not about lies?”

Because, every time you lie (and your girlfriend catches you) it’s like taking an axe and cutting down the “tree of trust.”

Lets make a big (and hopefully untrue) assumption by saying that you got caught in a lot of lies during your relationship with your girlfriend. Well, the biggest resistance she is going to have when she contemplates on whether or not she should take you back is probably going to go a little like this,

“He is a liar and if I take him back he isn’t going to change. How can I ever trust him?”

Now, I don’t know about you but I tend not to fall in love with people who I know for a fact are going to lie to me.

(Don’t freak out if this is you since I am going to show you what to do to win back your exes affection later in this guide.)

Resistance 5- Growing Apart

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Life has an interesting way of putting us all on different paths.

For example, when I was graduating high school all of my friends and I swore that we would keep in touch. That didn’t happen obviously as I am not friends with any of them anymore. The same thing happened with college. I haven’t hung out with any of my college friends in over a year.

My point here is simple, all of us are on a path and sometimes that path takes us in a different direction than the other people we have grown close to.

Maybe your girlfriend was looking for the next step, marriage, and you weren’t ready to commit. Heck, maybe the two of you were married and she wanted to have kids and you didn’t.

Big differences in the philosophies of the relationship like those can be a force that causes two people to grow apart.

2. Determine What That Resistance Is For You And Overcome It

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Your ex girlfriend obviously has a lot of resistance when it comes to getting back together with you. If she didn’t she would have probably taken you back when you initially tried. Before you can even think about getting her back and making her fall back in love with you, you are going to have to find a way to overcome this resistance.

In my opinion, overcoming the resistance is going to be your most challenging task because really the resistance is the only thing that is standing between you and her getting back together.

What do you think I mean by that?

Well, lets pretend for a minute that your girlfriend has serious reservations about getting back together with you because during your relationship you never met her emotional needs (resistance 2.) Well, every time that she even thinks about getting back together with you she is going to be haunted by a singular thought like,

“He never met my emotional needs in the relationship. There is no way he is ever going to change.”

You aren’t going to get her back if she has those kind of thoughts and if you can’t get her back you aren’t ever going to make her fall in love with you again.

So, the question you are probably wondering is how do you defeat these resistance thoughts she has?

Well, there are really three things you have to do when you are looking to get rid of her doubts.

  1. Identifying her resistance.
  2. Giving her time.
  3. Attacking her resistance.

Lets look at each of these things in-depth.

Identifying Her Resistance

I am the type of person that likes to be prepared. This is a quality that I would like you to adopt for your particular situation. One thing that we already know is that your ex girlfriend probably has a lot of resistance about getting back with you.

  • Maybe the two of you fought too much.
  • Maybe you didn’t met her needs emotionally.
  • Maybe the two of you just got too comfortable with one another.

Whatever the case I think it is really important for you to identify every possible resistance that she may have about getting back together with you. This way you know everything you are up against and what you are going to have to overcome to win back her love.

Oh, and I do feel it is important to mention that she could have more than one resistance about getting back together with you. Heck, she could have an entirely new resistance that I haven’t even listed on this page. Make sure you look at the situation from her perspective as that will give you good insight into what she is thinking.

Giving Her Time

What’s that old phrase?

“Rome wasn’t built in a day.”

Well, you aren’t going to break down her resistance about getting back together with you in a day. For you to even try to win her back and make her fall in love with you in a day is the most idiotic belief you could ever have. No, making another human being actually fall in love with you and choose to be with you will take some time.

There aren’t any shortcuts when it comes to this kind of thing, trust me.

Let me tell you a little story to illustrate this point.

About a week ago I read a comment a reader left on my other site, Ex Boyfriend Recovery that was absolutely heartbreaking. This woman wanted nothing more than to get her ex boyfriend back. As I communicated with her she literally told me,

“I will do everything you tell me to do.”

So I told her what to do. I told her to give the guy some time before she rushes in and tries to get him back. I also told her that when she eventually does get to a point where she is talking with her ex she is going to have to be very patient and not try to rush everything at once.

In other words, I tried to explain to her the best I could that this isn’t going to happen overnight and the more you rush it the more likely things will fall apart right in front of your face.

Did she listen to me?

Of course not. She decided she was going to rush everything and what happened? Things fell apart.

Don’t rush this process with your ex girlfriend. Give her some time before you come in guns a blazing trying to defeat her resistances (aka The NC Rule.)

Attacking Her Resistance

(Need more advice on getting your ex girlfriend back? Check out Ex Girlfriend Recovery PRO.)

Here is kind of how this works.

During your relationship with your ex girlfriend she began to notice certain negative qualities about you. Eventually the negative qualities became so bad that she decided to leave you because of them.

The Negative Qualities = The Resistance She Has About Taking You Back

Well, ideally what you want to have happen is that you are able to overcome her resistance (through her emotional attachment to you), prove that you no longer display the negative qualities she hates when she takes you back and as a result she will fall back in love with you. Take a look below for a visual representation of this process,

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The problem you currently face is the fact that you really can’t prove you no longer possess the negative qualities which invariably led to your breakup right now because the two of you are currently broken up.

Why?

Because you really have to be in a relationship to overcome those types of negative qualities.

Unfortunately, the resistance thoughts your ex has in her mind (because of those negative qualities) are preventing you from being in a relationship with her.

So, right now your focus should be on attacking her resistance and I have found that the most effective way to do that is through the use of good old fashioned emotions.

Using Her Emotions For You To Overcome Her Resistance

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31,770…

That is the number of women I have talked to as a result of Ex Boyfriend Recovery (the sister site to this one.) When you communicate with that many women about relationships you tend to learn a thing or two about how they make decisions.

Would you like to know what I learned?

Women tend to make relationship decisions based on the emotions they are feeling.

For example, if you can tap into the emotional center of a woman and make her feel something so powerful that no one else has the ability to she is going to be drawn to you. Of course, the opposite can also be true, which is unfortunately true in your case.

If a woman begins to associate a lot of bad emotions towards you (see the resistance section above) she is going to be want to get away from you.

Right now this is your situation, your ex girlfriend wants nothing to do with you.

What we have to do is turn the tables on her so that she starts associating more of those strong and positive emotions towards you.

Luckily, there are many different ways in which you can accomplish this.

It’s Important That You Make Her Miss You

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Have you ever missed someone so much that it literally hurt you to be away from them?

Those of you who are unlucky enough to experience this feeling know how emotional it can make you.

Well, one way to make sure that you overcome your ex girlfriends resistance to dating you again is to make her miss you so much that it literally hurts her to be away from you. The question you are probably wondering is how in the world are you going to accomplish that when she wants nothing to do with you?

Right now she may not miss you.

That’s ok, that’s normal for a breakup.

Eventually though there will come a time when she misses certain aspects of your relationship with her and this will cause her to want to message you via social media, text you or call you. When this moment comes should you be there for her?

Pretty much every fiber of your being is going to scream YES. However, the smarter move is to not respond to her at all (not for a while at least.)

Why?

She is messaging you because she misses you. This is exactly what you want but you don’t want to relieve her of her pain (as weird as that sounds) by messaging her back. Instead, you want her to miss you on an even more intense level to the point where she is actually hungering for you to message her back.

Take a look at the graph below,

missing you

Lets pretend that this graph represents the intensity that your ex girlfriend misses you after the breakup. As you can see the graph has a sharp incline, a high point and then a sharp decline.

Well, it is highly likely that during the sharp incline, when your ex is missing you, is when she is going to reach out to you. That point will probably occur here on the graph,

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Lets assume that she called you at this point of the graph, you picked up, answered and had a very long conversation with her. Well, after that conversation she isn’t going to miss you as much so it is highly likely that the graph will take the downward trajectory shown above.

Instead of being patient, playing your cards right and showing some discipline by ignoring her call you decided to give in to your own desires and the price you paid for it was the fact that she no longer misses you as much.

The better strategy, as I just said, is to ignore her call which admittedly might make her a little angry at first but the end result is almost always the same, she misses you more.

Lets take a look at what that will look like on a graph.

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With this graph I marked the point at which your ex probably calls or texts you with an arrow. However, instead of responding to her call or text message you decide to ignore it and look what happens as a result.

The trajectory of the graph shoots drastically upward.

In other words, your ex girlfriend begins to miss you on a much deeper level.

Now, here is the 5 million dollar question.

What do you think is easier,

Trying to overcome the resistance when she misses you just a little bit or trying overcome it when she misses you a lot?

It’s not rocket science.

But if you want me to go full rocket science check out this video,


(For more information on how to make your ex girlfriend miss you please visit this guide on Ex Girlfriend Recovery.)

Tapping Into Her Old Happy Emotions Towards You

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I know that for most on this page I have been kind of a debbie downer with me pointing out everything that you are doing wrong. Well, in this section that is all about to change because we are going to turn our focus to what you have done right.

One of the biggest advantages that you have over every other man walking the earth right now is that you were the last person that your ex girlfriend was in love with (I hope.)

In other words, you have already proven that you have the ability to make this girl fall in love with you.

What you need to do now is to find a way to tap into those emotions again.

You know, all the ones that made her so happy that she couldn’t even think straight for hours at a time.

How do you do that?

Allow me to demonstrate.

I am going to think back to the one of the happiest moments in my entire relationship with a woman.

Once I have identified that moment I am going to write it down.

Give me a second while I think…

Hmmm…

Ok, I have it.

The Moment – Going on a horse carriage ride around San Antonio and thinking to myself, “This is the one… I am going to marry this girl.”

Now, before I go on I do feel it is important to mention that when you are doing this for your particular girlfriend you need to make sure that the moment you choose means just as much to her as it did to you. If it doesn’t then this tactic isn’t going to work.

Assuming that you do have the prefect moment picked out what is it that you have to do to bring your ex girlfriend back into the moment?

I always loved the idea of a text message for this.

For example, if I were to use my memory in a text message I would say something like this,

 

Do you see how I never referenced what went on in San Antonio (the carriage ride?)

Why do you think I did that?

The memory you pick out needs to be so powerful that you shouldn’t even have to mention exactly what happened. Rather, all you should have to say is a place and a time and your ex girlfriend should know exactly what you are talking about.

Oh, also I should mention that its important that you pick your spots with this text message.

For example, the best time to use a message like this is when you are already having an in-depth conversation with your girlfriend. This way she is properly primed to go to a place where she can re-experience the emotions she experienced the day that (the memory you picked out) happened.

3. Tap Into The Eleven Qualities To Make Her Fall In Love With You

It never ceases to amaze me how people can stare a gift horse in the mouth and walk away.

Ever since the invention of the internet human beings have been able to communicate and share their messages like never before.

It’s kind of incredible.

But what does this have to do with making your ex fall in love with you?

Well, what if I were to tell you that the internet literally holds the answer to making someone fall in love with you.
And it’s never been easier to find those answers.

It’s just that human beings are too lazy to do so.

But you aren’t.

You have the ultimate motivation to do so.

What Is Love?

When you fall in love with someone what happens?

I don’t mean philosophically or poetically.

What I am asking is for you to take a logical look at love and acknowledge that it’s nothing more than chemicals being related by your brain.

That’s it.

There are five chemicals in particular I’d like to highlight here,

  1. Dopamine
  2. Norepinephrine
  3. Serotonin
  4. Oxytocin
  5. CRF Hormone/CRF Receptors/Vasopressin

So, what do these chemicals do?

Well, without getting to boring,

Dopamine: Focuses on motivation, reward and goal directed-behavior. It makes our partner seem exciting, special and unique.

Norepinephrine: It’s responsible for the surge of energy and racing hear that you feel when you are around your partner. It basically puts your body into a more alert state.

Serotonin: Low levels of serotonin are found in obsessive-compulsive disorder and are thought to cause obsessive thinking. Sound familiar?

Oxytocin: You may have heard of oxytocin. It’s called the cuddle hormone and is released during orgasm. It has also been linked to needy, clingy behavior. Oh, and it’s been linked to jealousy.

CRF Hormone/CRF Receptors/Vasopressin: Scientists learned about the role of vasopressin and CRF in attachment by studying the prairie vole, a small creature that forms monogamous bonds like humans do. When male prairie voles were given a drug that suppresses vasopressin, they began neglecting their partners and not fighting off other male voles who wanted to mate with her.

Here is my point.

Love is nothing more than chemicals and if you are looking to make your ex fall in love with you again then your entire goal should be to figure out how to do things to cause these chemicals to be released by your ex girlfriend.

The Eleven Processes That Human Beings Need To Fall In Love

If you are an avid reader of Ex Girlfriend Recovery then you may have heard me talk about my Private Facebook Group before.

It is probably one of my favorite things that I have ever done.

Not only do I get to interact with men and women on a daily basis but I get to sit back and watch as everyone helps each other.

One thing I also like about the Facebook group is that I get to do weekly “Facebook Lives” where I can teach and answer questions.

Well, a couple of weeks ago I happened to come across some amazing research that talked about the eleven processes that human beings use when they are falling in love and I thought I would talk about it on a Facebook Live.

Everyone went crazy wanting to know more.

In fact, a lot of people ended up taking detailed notes,

And that’s when Anna Gonowon messaged me.

Now, if you don’t know Anna she is actually one of my coaches.

She is probably one of the smartest women I have ever met and has gotten every ex she has ever had back.

She put together a pretty massive document and basically told me that these eleven processes that I am about to tell you about were responsible for her success.

I’d like to show you what she told me.

But first I need to tell you the eleven processes,

  1. Similarities
  2. Familiarities
  3. Desirable Characteristics
  4. Reciprocation
  5. Social Influence
  6. Fulfilling Needs
  7. Environment
  8. Specific Cues or Particular Features
  9. Readiness
  10. Alone Time
  11. Mystery

Anna decided to take detailed notes on everything that I said during the Facebook Live about how each of these characteristics are defined and how she was able to use each of these to her advantage to get her exes back.

Now, I realize that this is a website for men but there is a lot you can learn here to help you in your situation.

Here is what Anna had to say.

Similarities 

These are essentially shared interests. According to science, we are more attracted to people who are more like us than different than us. In other words, the more similar you are, the better.

Anna: With any person in a relationship with me, I work to understand how we’re similar, and I drive those similarities home repeatedly. Gaming, music, driving fast, food, economics, fiscal responsibility, independence, technology, etc. are topics that I have worked to focus on in past relationships.

Familiarity

Love at first sight is not backed up by science. People are more likely to fall in love with someone who feels familiar. This is caused by spending time together, being near each other and anticipating interactions with others.

Anna: I also ask questions and make observations about their home life, parents, siblings, school, and other personal things in order to understand how they may be in their most unguarded environments. Once I figure that out, I then adopt the attitudes that seem familiar and comfortable for them.

Desirable Characteristics 

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. This is where physical appearance comes into play. They say that we know within the first five seconds if we are attracted to someone.

Anna: I always emphasize various assets (both mental and physical), until I determine which characteristics he likes the most. Once I figure those things out, I then make sure those are a visual focus whenever we’re together. I also understand the antidotes to the Four Horsemen of Relationships, as written by Gottman. So, I weave that into all my communications in relationships.

Reciprocation

This goes against the grain in our private Facebook Group quite often, where members have over-reciprocated. You cannot be too ungettable and must learn when to reciprocate.

Anna: Especially in the early stages of getting to know someone, I watch closely to determine what his love language may be and what his personality type could be. I then leverage that to match or encourage his investment by showing him that I reciprocate in the ways that he best understands.

Social Influence

We see this a lot with people who have large age gaps (e.g., What will others think?). This is where it’s important to have Sphere of Influence on your side and his friends, family, etc. rooting for you.

Anna: Everyone loves me, so…☺

Fulfilling Needs 

This is more an “in the relationship” type thing. The more you mutually fulfill needs, the more love you’ll feel for each other.

Anna: This ties into reciprocation and understanding the love languages, the antidotes to the Four Horsemen, and personality types.

Environment

Being in an unusual or arousing environment can spark passion, even if the environment is perceived to be dangerous or spooky. Put your ex in a romantic environment where they can potentially fall in love. If you put them in that environment, the adrenalin from such a situation will produce bonded feelings and a shared experience. If your ex is charged up, those positive feelings can transfer to you.

Anna: For really big emotional events or when I want to increase investment in relationships, I normally plan activities that are a bit unusual for the relationship – traveling, new activities, surprises, and simply acting different from what he would expect.

Specific Cues or Particular Features 

As an example, let’s say your ex has the bluest eyes you’ve ever seen. So, you see that color, and you are aroused/turned on. Highlight the features that your ex loves. Love often starts as passion and excitement, and it spreads throughout the rest of your brain and among your experiences with him. Cues examples include: humor, legs, eyes, etc.

Anna: I’m Filipina and American, so everything about me is really different. So, like desirable characteristics, I drive that home all the time.

Readiness 

Your ex is not likely to fall in love with a rebound or during devastating times (such as deaths). Timing is an important factor and related to this item. A lot of times you’re trying to get them back when they’re not ready to be “gotten back”. You have to be in the life of your ex at the right time. So, you have to look at their actions to determine if they’re ready.

Anna: I normally am very relaxed in relationships, meaning that, when it comes to commitment, I avoid conversations about structure and exclusivity until either a situation comes up where those topics come to the forefront or I gently guide him to be in that sort of relationship – and he wakes up to the reality that he loves being in an exclusive relationship with me and wants me to be similarly committed.

Alone Time 

Spending time alone with someone can contribute to a development of passion. The more alone time you can spend with your ex, the more investment you can get from them and the the more likely they are to fall in love with you. Getting alone time is an essential part of making them to fall in love with you.

Anna: I mix in group and alone time activities. I usually make it clear that I’m very busy and don’t have a lot of time to be alone with any one person. ☺ It forces the other person to seek time with me alone, as I’ll throw out group activities all the time.

Mystery

If there is some mystery surrounding the person and uncertainty about your thoughts, feelings, availability, and whether you’ll initiate communication can contribute to passion. No Contact is the start of the mystery and works here. Weaving mystery into your communication is important, and you must be unpredictable. You must find a way to get mystique.

Anna: I have very strict boundaries on my time and availability, because I prioritize myself, my passions, and my career. So, I don’t have time to respond quickly, initiate communications all the time, or just be available whenever he wants. I believe firmly in honestly and truthfulness, but, to me, those ideas are not synonymous with full disclosure. Also, I’m forgetful. So, I’ll sometimes tell interesting things after the fact, forget to call, or randomly mention an interesting thing about myself.

4. If You Get Her Back Have A Plan So History Doesn’t Repeat Itself

(You can learn the step by step method for making her fall in love with you in Ex Girlfriend Recovery PRO. Just sayin…)

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I know you may still be a little confused on how to get your ex girlfriend back. I realize I kind of rushed through everything and didn’t give you the full step by step method that you should be implementing.

Luckily, I have you covered as I have written multiple guides on the steps to winning a girlfriend back,

If you are still confused about how that part of this process works please reference the guides above since they will explain everything to you.

Of course, the main purpose of this guide is to teach you how can make your ex girlfriend fall back in love with you. If you did manage to convince your ex girlfriend to take you back that doesn’t necessarily mean she’s in love with you yet.

(Sorry 🙁 .)

It’s ok though because I am going to show you what you need to do to raise your chances of making her fall in love with you.

Combating What She Thinks Your Negative Qualities Are

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Ok, if you have reached this point then that means you were able to overcome her resistance about getting back together with you. Now that you are back with her you can work on combating the negative qualities that she thinks you have.

Now, I want you to listen up very closely because what I am going to be talking about here is a foolproof method for making a girl fall in love with you.

Before I wrote a word on this page I was thinking,

“Hmm… I kind of want to write something that teaches men how to treat a woman. I want to write something that teaches them to treat women so well that the woman has no choice but to fall in love with them.”

From this point on this guide is going to be focusing on that, how a real man should treat a woman.

Know Your Worth

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Most men who want their exes back are desperate. As a result, assuming they do get their exes back, they make the relationship all about the girl instead of making it an equal partnership. You see, they are so frightened that they are going to lose the girl again that they will completely disregard their own personal needs in the relationship.

Some women pick up on this and take full advantage.

For example, I have heard multiple stories where women will manipulate the guy to do things that she wants him to do and uses her leaving the relationship as the ultimate tool to do so.

Knowing your own worth in the relationship is essential and is going to make you more attractive to your girl.

Think of it like this.

Who would a woman rather date?

A man who has no sense of self worth who she knows she can control/manipulate.

or

A man who has a sense of self worth who is going to challenge her in new ways.

While some women may find it appealing to be able to control a man it will get boring after a while and a relationship like that won’t last in the long run. So please, don’t be a guy who is going to get manipulated.

Being Able To Communicate

talking to me

I don’t think communication gets the respect it deserves. When most people point out the problems of a relationship they point to things like not enough sex, emotional needs not being met and lying. While all of those can be harmful to a relationship I really think a lack of communication is worse.

Why?

Look at it like this.

If you are able to communicate properly you will be able to work through any “physical” issues you may be having as a couple. If both people communicate properly they will begin to understand what the other person needs on an emotional level. Oh, and there will be no need for lying.

By having good communication skills alone you can add another element to your relationship that most people fail to bring to the table.

Don’t Be Afraid To Go All Out On The Romance

romance

I once had a guy tell me that his girlfriend hated Valentines Day.

“Chris, she literally told me that she hates V-Day. I don’t think I am going to have to do anything.”

What do you think happened to him when he didn’t do anything for valentines day?

Yup, they broke up because she was offended.

Women love romance. It’s just the way it is. They love those moments at the end of romantic comedies where the protagonist declares his undying love. They LOVE IT!

Of course, this presents us men with a pretty major problem. You see, most of us aren’t very good at the romance part. We aren’t good at expressing our feelings of undying love. Well, I take that back. We are but only in the physical sense. Women want us to express it in the emotional sense.

Let me give you an example.

I was on YouTube the other day and I happened to watch this 20 minute marriage proposal video that had over 9 million views. Now, I have to hand it to the guy, he really went all out. The proposal was funny, creative but most importantly, emotional.

Here, it’s worth watching (but only for the girls reaction to it all.)


You better have watched it…

Why do you think I made you watch that video (specifically for the girls reaction?)

Because, that is romance at it’s finest. Granted, most of you here probably aren’t looking to propose to your girlfriend but if you can bring just a sliver of the spirit that this guy put into his romantic proposal into your relationship your girlfriend is going to appreciate it on a deep level.

Too many men are afraid to go all out when it comes to the romance in their relationship.

So, I have a challenge for you.

I want you to do something so romantic for your girlfriend that she won’t ever forget it for the rest of her life. When she is on her deathbed she is going to look back on her life and point to this one incredible act as the most romantic thing ever done for her.

Ruin other men for her…

Do that and she will fall in love with you.

		

Written by EGR team mate

Chris Seiter

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Alex
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Hello Chris! I am 29 and my ex gf is 23. We meet at work. We still work together. We stayed together for almost 2 years. I did a lot of bad things during the relationship, takin her as garanted makin her jelaous. We had a lot of fights. At one moment 2 months ago she said is over and wanna be just friends with me. I accted so nedy and desperate. I found out she was meeting another guy so i created a fake instagram account and talked to him like i was a female. Asking him questions about… Read more »
Keith
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Hi chris i was wondering if you could talk with me i have a very important question or questions about my ex i need to talk to you about. Please email me. Thank you sir

Kyle
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Hello, My name is Kyle and I am currently a freshman in college. My ex is only a junior in high school and I’ve been with my ex for little more than 7 months, we had a tight loving relationship and never had any problem at all. In the beginning, we got together on Jan 13 (three months of talking and hanging out before I asked her to be my gf), we were so strong and we have a lots of diverse in interest. Also a lot in common as well. We did so much together such as traveling in… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi kyle,

The proper way of doing the no contact rule is to not initiate nor reply to her messages, comments nor likes for a period of time like 30 days.. And then to just focus in improving yourself and being active in posting in social media and then after nc to continue doing while slowly building rapport.

Kyle
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How can I slowly build rapport? I had no contact from October to February but technically we didn’t contact, we just saw each other.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

start with texts first and then calls, and then meet ups.. If you bump into her, smile, have small talk. Check this one:
What To Text Your Ex After No Contact

ACT II
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I’ve read a lot of the material on this website, and I think it’s all very interesting and good, but it all seems to be geared toward guys who want to get their girls back right away after a breakup. What about those of us who have deliberately spent months or even years away from them, only to realize one day that she was right for us all along?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Act 2,
have you initiated contact with her?

Ravi Teja
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Hi Mr. CHRIS SEITER My Name is Ravi Teja from Andhr Pradesh, India. I’m in a serious problem to get my Girl Back. First ill tell my breakup story She is very lovable and affectionate to but due to my family problems i have avoided her mean while i came to know that she was speaking with another guy and i spoke with her about that she clarified me and i talked to that guy its over but from that point i have became so possessive and not able to bear anything i am not ready to believe her so… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Ravi,

call the suicide hotline in your country and see a therapist. Aside from that, have you done the nc rule?

Goodnight
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In no contact rule. What if instead of missing me
Or getting curious on what I’m doing she’ll get used to it?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Yep, you shouldn’t like nor comment in her posts too.. it takes time before we forget somebody and get out of the habit of thinking about them, so she won’t easily forget about you.

Goodnight
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Does no contact rule means that I should not also like her posts or even leaving a comment?

Albert
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Hi, I really hope that you could give me some advice on what to do. I am deeply in love with my girlfriend of 2 years. But in the previous year or so, I have had a terrible time and pretty terrible influence in the army as a result I was kind of a massive jerk to her. I brushed off alot of things she did and the effort she put in when she was madly in love with me. Now that I am out of that place, I have slowly started to find myself as a person again. But… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Albert,

Do you want to try the no contact rule?

Rog
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So I woke up yesterday after a drunk night out with my (then) girlfriend to an empty bed around 3am and immediately looked at my phone, as everyone does when they wake up. I noticed there were a few screenshots of some very explicit messages between myself and two other women that had been sent to my girlfriend. Full disclosure: the sexting was all in fun (on my end) and the two women were merely friends who I’ve had a past with but knew I love my girlfriend and wouldn’t allow us to ever “go there”; it was essentially for… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Rog,

how much are you improving yourself now and how active are you in posting in social media?

Jacob
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Hello, me and my ex… has broken up. On Tuesday… officially broken up, she tried to break up with me before but couldn’t do so! She stayed because she cared and she did genuinely did want to be with Because she did try to be with me, tried to make her self fall in love with me, basically forcing herself to love me, a few things of the real reason why she the break up (“I was trying and trying to be with you”. “you can’t force loving someone when your heart isn’t letting you. Jacob you can’t just go… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Jacob,

are you still in nc now?

Chris
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Hey, I really hope that you would give me the time to answer me. I’ve listened to unlimited amounts of podcasts, I’ll tell you my story, it might be long but I will shorten it so you can read it quickly. So, our relationship is long distance, we’re both 20, we’re so alike, when we are together, we love each other so much, we can’t keep our hands off each other. Last couple of times we visited each other it wasn’t the best, and the last time she visited me, she stayed for 2 weeks, and I would go to… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi,

Do you want to try the advices on the posts you commented on? No contact means, no initiating, no replying and no social media stalking.. So, that means you need to restart the count..check this one too:
How to Get Your Ex Back if You Were Clingy

Ces
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Me and my ex have been rebuilding rapport via text again and she has called a few times but yesterday I tried not answering her call for 25 minutes to get her to miss me more and when I called her back, she through me to voicemail right away (I know she did it on purpose because that is her style), now she won’t call back so she’s pissed and I feel like I just undermined my progress. What now?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Ces,

Have you done nc? If yes, how long and when? How long have you been building rapport? How much did you improve and how active were you in posting during and after it?

Chris
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I’m in a tricky situation. I’ve been in a wonderful 8 year relationship with my ex. We met when she was 19 and I was 27. We fell madly in love and moved from Hawaii together. I was pretty passive a day she has emotional issues and tends to pop off easy. She would belittle me quite a bit and we would fight. Sometimes about money, or not doing stuff ect. She kicked me out of our place a little over a year ago as it started to be more frequently we were at each other. She then went on… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

are you in nc again today and doing it right this time?

Elvis Wiredu
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So my girlfriend cheated on me three times because I was not giving her anymore attention and was not showing that I actually care about her anymore. I decided to forgive her and look pass this horrible thing that happen to me. I was not able to do it. I have been with my girlfriend for almost a year and we constantly gets into a fight everyday and I treated her very bad. She was always crying and she was not being herself anymore. I actually controlled everything that she did because of some past story that she told. I… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor
Sam
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Hi, I was seeing this girl for four months in a sexual friendship. We never talked about us, then one day out of the blue she said she wasn’t feeling it anymore. We met up and eventually decided to be in a relationship. A couple of weeks afterwards, she told me she’d kissed another guy the week before and admitted to seeing a couple of other guys while also seeing me. I wanted to stay together but after a couple of weeks she ended it. We did NC for 2 weeks and then I initialised contact and we chatted for… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Sam,
restart nc, and focus in improving yourself and being active in posting during and after nc, while slowly building rapport.

Andrew
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I am in a fading relationship. My girlfriend told me she is not implying to break up, but the situation right now could very well lead to it. She says I am too boring now and she can’t see herself being with me until the end. She means more than everything to me and I am willing to spark our relationship again. What are some things I can do to change her emotions like it used to be?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

do you want to try the advice above?

Nick
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My girlfriend and I just split up after 2 1/2 years. On 5/13/17 she told me that she loves me but she was not in love with me since February. She was also upset with me because I didn’t support her as much as I should’ve through softball and that it hurt her that I did that. It was pretty much a mutual break up, and she was crying the entire time. (very emotional person) and so was I (not a very emotional person) The first 2 years of our relationship was perfect, we were happy, and always tried to… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Nick,

do you want to try the advice above?

Dean
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Hi, my ex and i split 3 months ago now, she asked for time apart and said shed fell out of love with me, she raised that we both became different people during the 5 years we were together and she wants to find herself and if we are meant to be we are meant to be. At first i was deperate which didnt help at all but for months now i keep trying no contact but everytime she reaches out to me after a couple of days / no longer than a week but everytime apologises for contacting me,… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Dean,

dont be too available.. try a full no contact of 30 days

Dean
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Thanks, i feel bad though, i dont want her to hate me for ignoring when i do try to ignore her she argues with me, just blank it all out?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

ignore her.. the more you break nc, the less it can help you later on and the more you’re friendzoned

Adam
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What do you think the chances are for my ex girlfriend to take me back? I recently split up from my girlfriend of 6 years, she ended the relationship because she felt like we were more friends than bf/gf. We were previously on a break for 3 weeks before the split started. (we have broken up for a week now) She is still very active on social medias and seems to me it hasn’t really affected her because it’s what she normally does. I’m trying the no contact rule for 21 days to see if she will contact me. she… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

HI Adam,

if she lost attraction with you, then physical improvement and being active in your life can help . So, continue doing that even after nc.

Adam
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I don’t think it’s the attraction part of it, i think it’s just we became unintentionally friends more than a couple. Is there anything else I can do to make her fall back in love with me? She still uses my subscriptions (Spotify, Netflix etc) and she kept the valentines present I got her, is this a good sign? How should I approach her after the NC rule? Or what can i do anything in-between speaking to her to get her attention?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor
yeah, I think it’s a good sign. But you need to spark interest, for her to be attracted again. I mean it’s not just physical. Don’t get me wrong, I didn’t mean you became ugly. Sorry I didn’t elaborate that. I mean, she has to see you differently.. it might sound shallow, but physical makeover helps. It’s not the sole factor of course.. But, it’s like what Nelson Mandela said that, appearances matter initially. So, that’s just one of.. Aside from that of course, you have to improve other aspects in your life, like the relationships and wealth aspect. Because… Read more »
Mark
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My girlfriend broke up with me two weeks ago. I did some research and I found out that the main reason she left was that she lost attraction. We both know each other social media password. She change hers but I left mine the same. I acted really needy and clinchy and we.broke up and then I decided to give NC a shot. After few days I call her, she blocked me again. She was still pissed at me. But I can see that she’s been going through my Facebook account so often. After two weeks of being apart, she… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

HI Mark,

if you’re going to do nc, do at least 30 days. Be focused in improving yourself.. Right now, she’s probably friendzoning you.

Logan MacDonald
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so i was engaged had it all but my dad told her and her mother a lie saying i said things about them now she hates me and i truly love her i allways put all of my free time twoards her and us i never lied but she belives him and she cheated at one point but i forgave her idk what to do anymore please help me

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Logan,

when was this and when did you last talked?

varun kapoor
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heelo sir i m varun from india i nd my ex dated since 2 months we spend a quality of time together n i really luv her n want her back first we both removed contact each other after dat we fight for some reason n oll after someday i contacted her n started crying we r unblocked from both fb n whatsapp i told her some memoriable moents she is replying fast also but den she replied i will marry my father says i know dats not d real reason she said i want her back wht should i… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Varun,

are you going to do the advice above?

mark
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my gf and i have been together for a year and half.. and we never had sex. to my surprise, she broke up with me, giving reasons like, ”there’s no vibe in our relationship and also no connection. I love her so much. what do i do

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Mark,

when did you break up? Are you going to do the advice above?

Simon
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My girlfriend and I broke up 2 months ago as I do like the odd recreational drug (although I have a good job and I wouldn’t say this is a major issue effecting my life but she does hate it and fair enough). We were together for over two years but broke up and got back together a few times at least. She is moving on and has met someone although I do not know how serious it is but I do know she likes him which, honestly, I am happy for her but…… I can’t seem to move on.… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Simon,

that’s it.. just start the no contact rule..change your routine. What you eat, do, and talk to..

Cleo
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My ex recently broke up with me. We’ve been going through lots of stress and arguments and her parents and best friend hate me to death. I sense that she’s scared and stressed still. I’ve talked to her recently through text and I told her loved her and she said she loved me too but doesn’t want to be with me. I’m going to try to give her space and time to miss me. The problem is…we have a Snapchat streak of 103 and she’s my best friend of 2 weeks( red heart)…should I break that streak for the NC… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Cleo,

how old are yoy both? when did you break up?

Ignatius
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Hi guys to begin me and my girl were together for 2 mounths then we got engaged and got a baby. The first year were excellent then our trouble were starting we was still together for 2 years and and the relationship were tough we had allot of fights and one day she went with her sister to visit her sister boyfriend and there were a another guy, and so she fell in love with him. After the visit she came back but she told me she love him allot more than she love me and there is only a… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Ignatious,

You need to keep improving yourself and build happy memories together..if it doesnt work then thats when you give each other space

Marcus
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Hi there, my gf recently broke up with me after claiming we’ve fizzled out a bit. Even though I agreed with her, I didnt want to end the relationship but she did. Shes also had some self confidence issues recently and towards the end of our relationship, leading to minimal sex and her just not feeling it anymore. Since we’ve broken up, she hasnt gone any where near guys, and I havent gone anywhere near other girls. (Its been 3 weeks) We’re both kinds friends at the moment and I’m basically lingering around here on the chance that she’ll miss… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Marcus,

are you doing the advice above?

Keif
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Hi Chris & Co. I don’t know what to do (I’m sure you hear that alot haha). My GF and I have been dating since May 2015 and shared many memories and were deeply in love. She left to study abroad in Jan 2016 and since then its been a mess. She lost feelings for me while she was over there (I was being really clingy and such). We got back together when she came back, hoping the distance was what caused her loss of feelings. We didn’t do to well because we weren’t used to eachother, so she broke… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Keif,

I think she’s friendzoning you because she fell out of love but she’s used to talking to you, so to keep talking, she’ll keep you as a friend. If she’s in a grass is greener then the better approach is to do 45 day nc, really make it seem you’re moving on and improve massively.

nathaniel
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could this work if the people are in high school

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Nathaniel,

There’s no guarantee that it can.. when and why did you break up?

Martin
Guest

Hi, I’m Martin… My girlfriend left me because she doesn’t get the feeling to love me anymore, when I approached her about this she said even she doesn’t know why is this happening.
Since we were in a long distance relationship I sometimes took her for granted and so I apologized her for that, she said this may or may not be the reason but she is willing to be together again if things work out. I suspect this might be because she is busy all the time :/
What should I do to make her feel comfortable and love me again?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Martin,

If you’re in a long distance relationship, how often do you see each other? Check this one too:
The Ultimate Guide To Getting A Long Distance Relationship Ex Girlfriend Back

Martin
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Hi I’m Martin, my girlfriend left me because she thinks she doesn’t get the feeling to love me anymore. We were busy in our lives and also we are long distant, I took her for granted and also apologized her for that and asked her can you forgive me and give a second chance?
She said she doesn’t know yet but she is willing to if things work out, what should I do to make her love me again like she used to?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Martin,

If you’re in a long distance relationship, how often do you see each other? Check this one too:
The Ultimate Guide To Getting A Long Distance Relationship Ex Girlfriend Back

Anonymous
Guest

Hey Chris ,
My girlfriend broke up with me abt 2months ago, as per your guidance in the post I’m using no contact rule. After the no contact rule ends shortly her birthday is coming up and I am planning a surprise party for her , where I won’t be seeing her but leaving a written message for wishing her , is it a good idea?? And generally how much time does it take to win ex girlfriend back??

Shaun
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Hi. My situation is very complicated. I was with my gf for almost 7 years, we have a 6 year old son together. We split almost 1 year ago and ever since ive wanted her back. I tried very hard for the first few months but with no luck. Just recently we started getting along a bit better, but the way she has been towards me for most of the last year it feels like she hates and resents me for my past mistakes and negative traits. Ive changed very much as a person and im certain that we could… Read more »
Luke
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Hi, (Sorry for the English, I used google translator.) My ex girlfriend and i have Been together for 5 years. We broke up about one month ago. She always asked me a lot and I did not take care of her as it should. And ir were wearing out our relationship. We made a wonderful trip to Argentina in May and i thought we would be better. But unfortunately everything was back to routine after we got back. I do not struggled to get better and could not see how much was leaving it aside. During the last month I… Read more »
Luke
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Corrections:

– And IT were
– How much i was living her aside
– Stay with me again

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Luke

are you in no contact period now? Are you actively improving yourself?

Luke
Guest

Hi!
Yes. I thought of don´t contact until the end of this month… and send the letter. Yes, I’m working on many things. I am trying to improve to myself and to her.
But i´m really don´t know how long to wait. I´m afraid that when i try again it’s became too late…

Thanks for the answer.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

I think 30 days is enough and then initiate a text after that.. Just be active in improving yourself during this no contact and continue improving yourself even while rebuilding rapport with her… Be active in posting in social media too, she will probably check that while you’re doing no contact. That’s your indirect way of showing how much you’re improving, especially physically.

George
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Hi there, My girlfriend and I lived for about 3 years. Before I met her, I went through a lot (bad family history, bullying at work, etc.). Those things made me an angry man… I shouted at her, insulted, and basically destroyed her gentle spirit for this long.. but I tried to fight those things. Because I loved her, I went to a psicologist. For 3 years I worked on a lot of issues, and made a lot of progress… but apparently not enough (eventhough I think i’m way better than 3 years ago). Last week she said that she… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi George,

how are you now? did you greet her?

George
Guest
I’m trying to focus on myself… I texted her in her birthday, but I broke all contact from her since then (blocked chats, and tried no to think of her and stalker)… I had sent her an e-mail asking if she wanted to lunch and she didn’t even reply, that’s why I broke contact… But today she sent text message saying that the e-mail that I sent her went to SPAM and that she would have gone lunch with me. She also wanted to go to the appartment, not to remove things but to see the cats… I know this… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

uh oh.. hmm.. yeah you can do that..just don’t have small talk

Alex
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hi, i really do need ur help right now. my ex girlfriend and i have been together for 5 years on and off. in 2013 she broke up with me and did alot of hurtful things to me, i watch her love someone else for 1 year and she always brought him around me. eventually they broke up. in 2015 we reconsiled had alot of sex and got back together in january 2016, we vowed never to leave each other again. unfortunately, she migrated, and that was the worse thing that could ever happen, on june 25 she broke with… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Alex,

do you want to try what Chris advised?

ace
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Hi… I’ve learnt a lot reading about your article online and am glad I came across it. I have been dating a girl for almost right from our university days and just last year she met a guy and fell in love with him. Before she met this guy she has known my family and I’ve gotten familiar with hers too. Her family forced her to bring me back because they don’t want the other guy she brought home. We reconciled and came back but barely 2 months into the reconciliation she told me she doesn’t love me bug loves… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Ace,

We’re glad you like the article.. but so you want to try what Chris advised?

ace
Guest

I think what chris’ advised is worth giving a try. Giving her some space would make her have ample time to make her decision. I also have to start enjoying and improving on my self.

Jared
Guest

I’m worried about what happens if she doesn’t contact me during my no contact

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Jared,

nope and din’t worry about that and whether she contacts you or not..what’s more important is how you focus on yourself only, heal and improve yourself and be active in posting it

Justin
Guest
I have a scenario. My ex and I broke up in March. Since then, I have thought long and hard about what went wrong. It was confusing at first, but now it all seems so clear. We were living together, and essentially fell into the roommate trap. I ceased being the fun guy she fell in love with and turned into a kind of curmudgeon. I didn’t help out, I didn’t make her feel valued. I didn’t love her as she deserved and expected. I have been discussing things with her and she admitted to me recently that she still… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Justin,

it looks like you’re doing great.. Just don’t be too romantic when you meet.

SAM
Guest
Hey Chris/Amor, I posted a month or so ago, on a different section of your website, discussing my issues with the fact that my ex-girlfriend hasn’t responded (at all) my efforts to win her back. [And of course they didn’t, because it was only 2 weeks after the break-up. Way to go, me!] It took me awhile, but I finally discovered why… she 100% fell out of love. We had been together for a year and 1/2. Whether it was the fights (over trust), the shaky ground from which the relationship grew (health issues/work commitments) or my inability to be… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Sam,

sorry for the late reply, how are you now?

Brandon
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My ex and I were together for 3 years and she was obsessed with me the whole time. We did brake up but are talking regularly, going out on dates, she didn’t but now calls me babe,baby and says she loves my quite regularly again. She does though make up excuses when I ask her to talk a lot, stand me up on dates sometimes to spend more time with friends/family then say we can go the next day, and does the innocent flirting with guys who call her beautiful, when we were dating she would just ignore them but… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Brandon,

okay, well then hold off asking her back and go into nc to improve yourself.

Avery
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EGR, I dated my ex for 3.5 years. Everything seemed great. It was a normal relationship with the normal amount of fighting, but overall I was very happy and I thought she was too. Turns out I was wrong. She thought that I could at times be very abrasive, arrogant, emotionally unsupportive, and she felt that I didn’t give her enough attention. So we broke up in late February 2016. Rough. We talked a little while and for about 2 to 3 weeks I gave into the normal temptations of begging. Eventually we went NC and after about 2 weeks… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Avery,

if she stops talking just continue on with your improvements but don’t go out with other girls.. post your improvements so she will miss you when she sees what you’ve been doing lately. Give her space to think.. She’ll think about what you said while you’re not talking.

Avery
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I guess I’ll have to get comfortable with Facebook. I’ve never used it before. I can’t help but feel that I’m getting the short end of the stick here on this one since they hardly know each other and all, but I guess I have no control over it. I just wish she had given me an opportunity to show her what’s going on with me. Thank you for the help.

Avery
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Oh and one more piece… It seems really apparent to me that she still wants to be together. She told me she still loves me, she told me I was always a good boyfriend to her, when I asked her if I’ve ever given her a reason not to trust me she couldn’t think of anything except the time she guessed her birthday surprise and I had to lie (we were going to the zoo and she figured it out because I can’t keep a straight face when we talk about that stuff). She said she thinks two people can… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Okay, I hope it does work quick too.. and that she realizes that it’s just normal for relationships to have disagreements and problems even if two people are compatible

Avery
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Why do you say you hope it works quick? Is my position a bad one to be in then?

Avery
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Update: Went over to her house on Sunday to look at a beehive (I keep bees and if they were honeybees she said I could take them). We talked for about 2 hours, where she admitted to me that this new guy was kind of boring to her, and that when they’re together she feels the conversation is forced. This was in contrast to both of us when we first got together. But she seemed to make excuses for him, saying she thought maybe it was his friends controlling nature that caused him to be so boring. But I know… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

oh I didn’t mean anything bad.. it’s just immature to believe there is a relationship w/no disagreements.. just take your time.. maybe when her relatives will change their minds when time has passed too

Avery
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She asked to borrow my calculator for school. I let her. We ended up talking that night and kinda ended up being all over eachother again. No sex, as before. We talked the next day too. She’s just confused. She’s afraid i haven’t changed my negative aspects. I just can’t show her if she refuses to go out with me. And she refuses because she’s talking to the other guy even though I can tell she doesn’t like him. She’s only still giving him a chance because “maybe he’s cool.” She just thinks he’s shy I guess. Idk I don’t… Read more »
Avery
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Alright EGR I’m back. She had a new boyfriend, I waited patiently. I thought they were happy and I was actually happy for her happiness. But she said he’s annoying and when he gets back from vacation in two weeks she’s calling it off. I’ve only seen her like 3 times in the past month, but when we do things seem great. She flirts with me and she will cuddle and we just laugh and joke and generally have an amazing time. But she’s still very adamant about continuing the breakup. She said it would be the best thing for… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

actually you said the right stuff.. it just needs to marinate in her mind.. if you get to talking again about that just repeat it and then take it slow. Tell her you’re not rushing things

Ashton
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Thanks for the comment. Hopefully everything turns out well.. Can you delete all these comments? I don’t want someone to come on here and potentially see these because I did use my real name and this a real story.. Thanks:)

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

oh okay! I’ll just keep this last one because you won’t see my reply..

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

hahahah… to be young and wild and free!! Okay, if you really want her just apologise and change but it looks you like her best friend her too.. So, I don’t think you have a very serious situation here..

Smith
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Hey there. My ex girlfriend broke up with me a month ago. I did nc for a week after we broke up but we started to text again as there was a marathon coming up in which the both of us signed up months ago. A week before the marathon, I rarely replied to her in which she asked if I’m alright due to my silence to her. She even called me and I ended the called saying I was busy in a cheerful note. The day before the marathon she texted me deciding that she’s not going for the… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Smith,

Oh..it’s nc gone wrong…okay.. try to initiate a convo now, since it’s been 8 days..let’s see if she missed you

Smith
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And also forgot we planned to go hiking next month with mutual friends. The plan was made months back. Last night I bumped into a mutual friend, and he asked why am I not going. He said my ex told them I’m not going the fact we haven spoke to each other about it. They already booked the tickets and everything. Is there a reason why she did this? Is there any hope for me to get her back?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

maybe she thought that or said that because she’s still angry about you, but it was wrong to make that decision for you. the problem is your nc went wrong, but I think you have to try to see now, if she’s still angry.. if she said that to your friend just recently then that means you have to give it a little more time before trying to contact her.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Our email is being handled by our team member Leia. She’ll answer as soon as she can.. Sorry we don’t have a number but the email is being checked everyday so, you can send the whole story there instead if you want.

Dane
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Hello. I had a friend that I loved but never admitted my feeling until 5 years later in a drunken day. We kissed and admitted our feelings towards each other. The only problem was that i has a girlfriend and felt bad about kissing my friend. I told her it would be best if we didn’t talk any longer as i tried to get rid of the cheating that might occur. Since then i broke up with my then girlfriend in hopes to be free so i wouldn’t feel guilty about my love confession. Now, my friend i kissed wont… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Dane,

when did you last contact her?

Lachlan
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Hi there I just got dumped by my girlfriend a week ago she wreckens she has no feeling for me now but I don’t get after 3 years she can just forget, but we did have a boring relationship but we were so in love so I never thought she would leave but she has but I want her back so badly what do I do ?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Lachlan,

I think it was a long process for her.. have you tried to talk to her?

jonas
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I broke up 14 days already.(actually i have sent a message to you). She cannot forgive me because i told her something about my past. Although she said past is the past , she will still love me no matter what. It just did not went that way. So now we are still talking however she is pretty cold and stuff . I dont know what is she thinking.. Whether she still misses me and still have feelings for me. I really want her back.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Jonas,

do you want to do nc?

Rodrigo
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Hi Chris and EGR Members! I don’t know if I’m a lucky guy, or a guy who has a future failure as a certain. Let me explain the situation for you all: First, the lucky side: My girlfriend stills with me for 5 years. We still together through this whole time, but, I feel the relationship is going bad and I fear to lose her love. I know all the reasons that makes her bored about me and I’ve discovered that doesn’t exists other woman for me but her. Second, failure/broke up as a certainty: I really know all her… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

HI Rodrigo,

It’s okay, how old are the two of you?

Rodrigo
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I’m 30, she are 26.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

okay.. she’s young.. why not just give hwr a timeline in when you can marry and explain your current situation calmly