The Reasons You Should Get Back Together With Your Ex Girlfriend

“Should I get back together with her?”

It’s a question that has been swimming around your head so much that you actually went to the internet and somehow found this page. Hey, don’t get me wrong, I’m not judging you. In fact, I am going to do the exact opposite, I’m going to help you.

For those of you who are new to this website then I want you to think of this like the ultimate resource for getting your ex girlfriend back. My goal with this site is to create a resource so powerful that it can literally answer every single question you have about getting your girlfriend back.

As I am sure you have already surmised this page is going to specifically focus on what are the reasons you should get back with your ex girlfriend. Of course, I like going into extreme detail so I am not just going to list out all of the reason in some weak bullet point format.

No, I am going to list the good reasons to reconnect with an ex, the bad reasons to reconnect and go into extreme detail in each one of those reasons.

 

How This Page Is Going To Be Formatted

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Above I said I was going to list the good reasons that you should get back with your ex and in addition to that I would also be listing the bad reasons to get back together with an ex (yes, there are some really bad reasons.) So, I am going to be dividing this page into two main sections.

Care to take a wild guess at what those sections will be?

Section One- Bad Reasons To Get Back Together With Your Ex Girlfriend

Section Two- Good Reasons To Get Back Together With Your Ex Girlfriend

Lets stop wasting time with all this build up and just dive right in.

The Bad Reasons

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Do you find it a little strange that I started out with the bad reasons as opposed to the good reasons?

I mean, I am sure there is one website browser out there that is just quickly scanning this content and accidentally mistakes the bad reasons for the good reasons and the good reasons for the bad reasons.

(Hopefully this is not you… )

The reason I wanted to start out with the bad reasons was because I feel that men with bad reasons for getting back together with an ex need to be dealt with in a very swift manner. What do I mean by that?

I mean that if you are here and you don’t have a good reason to get your ex girlfriend back then you shouldn’t even try to get her back at all.

I Hate To Do This But… My Mission Statement

I don’t want to help you if you have a bad reason for getting your ex girlfriend back…

You see, if you have a bad reason for getting your ex girlfriend back then that most likely means that you aren’t in it to win it. The kind of men I want to help are the kind that want a long lasting relationship with their ex. I want to help the “good guys” and not the “bad guys” and make no mistake about it, if you want your ex girlfriend back because of any of the reasons I list below in the “bad reasons” section then I DO NOT want to help you. In fact, I don’t even want you on this site.

I am in the business of helping people but I learned a long time ago that there are some people out there with very bad intentions and there have been cases where theses types of people have used my advice and strategies to win their exes back for bad reasons and it always ends bad and I have to live with the guilt that I am in some way responsible.

So, if you have a bad reason for wanting your ex girlfriend back then I want to make it clear that I do not want to help you. In fact, I would like you to leave my website and never come back.

Now, I bet you are sitting there wondering,

“What are some of these bad reasons?”

I am glad you asked…

Bad Reason #1- For Sex or FWB

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I have a confession to make…

The advice on Ex Girlfriend Recovery has been used by an individual to get his ex girlfriend to give him sex which eventually lead to a friends with benefits relationship. The only reason I know this is because the individual who accomplished this ended up emailing me one day and thanking me for making it happen insinuating that getting sex from his ex was all he wanted in the first place.

I felt absolutely horrible upon reading that my strategies were used in helping someone to essentially use this girl and spit her out.

Look, I know it may sound like a pretty good deal to a lot of the men reading this but the truth is that you won’t have a successful relationship with your ex girlfriend if you just want to use her for sex.

Not only is it a despicable thing to do but most women are pretty intuitive and can see right through your intentions.

So, if the only reason you want your ex girlfriend back is so you can use her for sex or start some kind of friends with benefits relationship with her then I would like you to leave this website and never come back. Do the world a favor and go celibate.

Bad Reason #2- No More Routine

the routine

When you date someone you get into a certain routine throughout your day.

For example, you may text each other when you wake up to say,

“Good Morning!!!”

Throughout the day you may call each other to see how the day is going. Heck, you might even see your significant other every night or every other night for a date. The main point here is that as a couple you get into a certain routine and you will probably end up liking that routine or getting very used to it.

So, imagine the shock you are in for when you break up with your girlfriend and all of a sudden you don’t have a routine.

Some men feel as if it’s like they lose their identity altogether.

In this frantic search for an identity or routine these types of men will zone in on their exes and come to the conclusion that they “can’t live without them.”

Well, the truth is that all these men want is the routine of having a girlfriend. In other words, they don’t really care about their ex on a deep level. They just care about the security of a routine.

Not having a routine anymore is not a good reason for getting your ex girlfriend back.

Bad Reason #3- I Am Going To Die Without Her

im going to die

Come on… are you serious?

You are not going to die without her.

It may feel like your life is ending inside but the truth is that you aren’t going to stop breathing if you don’t have her. The sun is still going to rise in the east and set in the west tomorrow so get a grip please.

You know what I think of when I hear a grown man say this?

I literally think of a crying girl whose nose is running and who can’t form proper words anymore.

In other words, if you are using this as an excuse as to why you want your ex girlfriend back I am going to have to revoke your man card.

Why is this not a good reason for wanting your ex back?

In my experience, men who make this claim are highly emotional and highly desperate. If you are trying to get your ex girlfriend back and you are coming off as too desperate then you are not stacking the odds in your favor. In fact, I think an argument can be made that you are stacking the odds against yourself.

Getting your ex girlfriend back requires you to be calm, cool, collected but most importantly, not desperate.

Bad Reason #4- Cheating… A LOT

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For those of you who are avid readers of Ex Girlfriend Recovery you know my thoughts on cheaters. I don’t like them very much as evidenced here and here. Of course, even I understand that people make mistakes and sometimes deserve a second chance.

You know who doesn’t deserve a second chance?

People who cheat multiple times with multiple different people consistently.

I had a good friend tell me a few years ago why he got divorced from his wife. Apparently, he caught her with his best friend in bed and then learned that she had cheated on him eight different times with eight different men. Now, I don’t know about you but that kind of person doesn’t deserve my friend.

My point here is simple.

If you or your ex girlfriend have cheated on each other a lot then I think its time for the both of you to go your separate ways.

Why?

Have you ever heard that phrase,

History repeats itself…

Well, in this case if you or your ex have cheated on each other a lot it turns out that history has already repeated itself quite a lot.

What’s going to stop it from happening again?

Bad Reason #5- She Is With Someone Else

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Your ex girlfriend is dating someone else…

I have to say this is one of the most painful situations to be in. I mean, no man wants to think of another man with his girl. The mere thought of it is bound to make you angry.

The way he is holding her…

The way he touches her…

Sleeps with her…

Look, I understand that you are angry, upset and hurt and I can even understand why you would want your ex girlfriend back. Sometimes we don’t realize how good we have it with someone until we lose them.

I get it.

In fact, when I say that it’s a bad reason to want your ex girlfriend back if she is with someone else I am not talking specifically about you realizing how good you had it and you making a mistake by letting her go. No, I am talking about that specific segment of men who only want their exes back because they don’t want her to move on at all.

Think of it like this.

Pretend you are a child and you have a favorite toy.

You love this toy. You play with this toy every single day and everything is all great between you and this toy. However, as you get older and you use the toy more you begin to grow bored and tired of it. In fact, one day you get so bored with the toy that you discard it for good.

Well, all of a sudden your little brother takes notice of this toy and starts playing with it.

The more your little brother plays with this toy the more jealous you get and you think to yourself,

“Hey, that’s my toy.”

Eventually, as your brother plays with the toy, you come over start a fight with him and get your toy back.

Ok, so now that you have your toy back everything should be great right?

WRONG!

As you play with your reacquired to you begin to think to yourself,

“Wow, why did I even want this toy back? It’s not even that fun to play with anymore…”

Turns out that the only reason you want the toy back was because someone else was playing with it and you couldn’t stand that thought. Deep down the toy wasn’t going to give you any fulfillment. What you really wanted was for the toy to be locked up so no one could ever play with it.

Do you kind of understand what I am getting at here?

The toy is your ex girlfriend and if the only reason you want her back is because someone else is “playing” with her.

If that is the only reason you want her back then that isn’t going to fly because she isn’t going to fulfill you in the long run.

Bad Reason #6- My Life IS Her

best day life

Ok, I want to make one thing very clear.

Any reason that you cite as a reason to get your ex girlfriend back cannot be desperate. Women can sense that desperation and no woman deep down wants a desperate guy.

In fact, they kind of lose respect for you. Remember, alpha males aren’t desperate.

So, saying something like, she IS my life as a reason for getting her back is not going to be a good reason to get her back. While its a nice sentiment and while it may feel true in your heart its not going to work for you in the “get your ex back game.”

No, you need something stronger and more concrete.

Now, I know what you are wondering.

“Ok Chris, what are some stronger and more concrete reasons for getting your ex girlfriend back?”

I am so glad you asked!

The Good Reasons

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In this section I am going to be focusing solely on the good reasons that you should have if you want to get your ex girlfriend back.

Now, one interesting thing that you may find might happen is that you have two good reasons for wanting your ex girlfriend back and one bad reason (it happens.)

The question in that case you are probably wondering is do the good reasons trump the bad?

Well, it really depends on how bad the reason is.

For example, if you want your ex girlfriend back because you miss having sex with her and also wouldn’t mind a friends with benefits relationship with her then you can have all the good reasons in the world for wanting her back but I still wouldn’t give my blessing because to me, using your ex girlfriend for sex is wrong no matter how you argue it.

Now, lets say that you have a lot of good reasons for getting your ex girlfriend back but you also spew out one of those lame, “I am going to die without her” lines.

Well, in this case if your good reasons trump that one bad reason I think we can give you a pass.

So, the point I am trying to get at here is that some of the bad reasons aren’t totally going to impede your progress in getting her back if you have a lot of good reasons for wanting her back. Of course, bad reason #1 and bad reason #4 are going to be tough to get around.

Anyways, enough of this rant.

Lets move on to explaining some of the good reasons.

Good Reason #1- A Circumstantial Breakup

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Lets say that you are dating a girl.

She is pretty, sweet, nice and just an all around good person. Your relationship with her is better than it has been with anyone that you have ever dated in your entire life.

There is just one problem…

In a month she is due to move across the country for an amazing job opportunity. You live in happiness until the month is up and then you both agree to part your separate ways.

This is something I like to call a circumstantial breakup.

It’s basically a breakup that occurs because of reasons out of your control.

What are some circumstantial reasons?

  • Someone takes a job opportunity that takes them far away.
  • The two of you are separated due to schools (college.)
  • Someone is forced to move away.
  • Parents prevent you from dating each other.
  • Culture or religious differences (though I will admit this can be hard to overcome.)
  • I think you get the idea…

While this is called a “circumstantial breakup” the circumstances aren’t the only reason that makes this a “good reason” for getting back together with your ex. Notice in the example I gave above that I talked about a couple who was great together. In other words, the relationship between this couple was great before the circumstances forced them apart.

I feel that is a very important aspect here.

Why?

Well, imagine for a moment if in that example above instead of a really sweet and nice couple being forced apart by circumstances it was a couple whose relationship was riddled with lies, deceit and cheating. All of a sudden, that relationship isn’t looking like its worth saving anymore is it?

This leads me to my next point..

Good Reason #2- Your Relationship With Your Ex Was Great

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What defines a great relationship?

Well, if you ask my opinion I would say a couple with a great relationship would..

  • Be in love.
  • Be able to communicate through any hardships that come their way.
  • Be able to trust each other.
  • Have great sex.
  • Be each others best friends.
  • Feel comfortable with each other.

If you feel you had this type of a relationship with your ex girlfriend then I would say that you have a great reason for wanting her back. Sure, you hit a bit of a speed bump with the breakup and everything but if any relationship is worth trying to save it would be a relationship like the one I listed above.

Now, this brings up a very interesting point.

It could be possible that you think your relationship with your ex was great but if you were to get her perspective she would think it wasn’t so great.

So, I really want you to think very hard about HER perspective of your relationship together not just yours.

If you know for a fact that she felt the same things you did and she thought your relationship was great then I would say you have a very good reason for wanting to get her back.

Good Reason #3- Children Are Involved

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I may take some heat for this from some of the more independent thinkers out there but this is really what I believe.

Call me old fashioned but I think when children are involved in between a couple then that couple should do everything in their power to patch things up. The only way that I would think that a couple should not be together if they have children is if one or both members of the couple are repeatedly cheating on each other. Again, I am not fond of cheaters.

Oh, also if someone was abusive either physically or emotionally towards the person. The last thing we want is a child growing up in that type of environment.

Anyways, back to the point.

Having a child is the single most beautiful thing that a man can create with a woman.

Of course, with children comes a drastic change in a relationship between a man and woman. Both members of the relationship almost have to become selfless to accommodate that child’s needs. Some couples transition perfectly into this and others don’t.

In fact, some couples can’t deal with this change.

What changes?

Well, for one men are used to getting all the attention from the woman in the relationship. With the introduction of a child the woman’s attention will be split between her man and her child. Also, sex is most likely not going to happen as frequently and some men don’t take too kindly to this.

If you have a child with your ex and this sounds familiar then you know what I am saying is right on point.

So, why is it a good reason to get your ex girlfriend or wife back if you have children with her?

For one, it is a good thing for your child to have his or her family together. Secondly, at one point you loved your ex so much that you were willing to create a human life for her.

Isn’t that worth saving?

		

Written by EGR team mate

Chris Seiter

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Jay
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I did it I got her back today after 4 months apart(12-year relationship with 2 children almost gone forever), play it cool and don’t play up to the drama she creates. Remember back off (no contact) before you make any attempt to reel her back in. solid advice can be found here thanks, Chris you’re full of good advice and if followed correctly will yield results.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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Thank you for sharing Jay!

dan
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Hi kelvin, I broke up with my gf on the 20 june. We had a healthy R/S and her main concern was we were getting older and I did not take any initiative. We have known each other for 3 years together for 2.5 years. We meet up once a week for our dates and I feel that I have been really neglecting her all this time after some reflection, I really loved her… During the break up, she mentioned that she has no more sparks for me… and she see no future for us… She has certain insecurities such… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Dan,

are you in nc now?

Aaron
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Hey, so idk if there’s really anything to do about the situation but I would really appreciate your advice. So my ex of almost 2 years (on and off but mostly on) and I broke up recently and in her previous relationship which ended 2 months before I met her, she went out to a party and got date raped by a friend. Her bf at the time couldn’t deal and left her but not before saying she wanted it and basically making sure he cut her down hard(to the point where her voice still cracks and she still cries… Read more »
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that depends on your standards… but keep in mind, you cant change other people..that will be their decision..if they do because of you, be thankful but dont credit it to yourself

Andrew
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I apparently was the rebounder.. She didn’t classify it that way, but we were together for 4 great months. Like stuff you See in movies.. everything was great until one day her ex got in contact with her. A few days later she said it wouldn’t be fair to me bc she still has feelings that she didn’t realize she had. I pushed and tried to “win” her back instead of going NC away. In that time i only heard from her once and that was a thank you text for making a memory Box of our time and dropped… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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yes, there’s still a chance.. do at least 30 days..be active in improving yourself and in posting.. dont be emotional in talking to her again

Ricardo
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So I’ve been with my girlfriend for 4 months and we broke up a month ago. We started talking to eachother a few days ago and all seemed to go well. We discussed some of our problems since she refered to some situations and I was honest with her. I said I accepted the breakup, I was sorry for my mistakes(not listening enough, being weak, negative, etc..) and that I wanted to start from zero with her, that I wanted another chance. She said yes but apparently I discovered yesterday that she meant a second chance at friendship and I… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Ricardo,

you broke up a month ago but you didn’t do the no contact rule right? If you didn’t, do you want to try it now?

Ricardo
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I did try the no contact rule for 21 days, then proceeded to contact her to make a definite date. I feel way better about myself. I got my confidence back but I’m completely playing it by ear. I don’t want to talk about the past with her again because I don’t want a broken relationship, I want to build a new one. The thing is, how can I can I make her see she is losing a great catch? I know my self worth and I know she is also losing a lot, not only me. Any advice miss… Read more »
Ricardo
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I have already tried the 21 day NC rule. I’m going to out with her on wednesday, any advice?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Oh.. look your best and don’t rush.. If you want a chance, continue to be very active in improving yourself and slowly build rapport. Who invited for a meet up?

Cody
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Hello Chris, Here is my story…me and my girlfriend of 2 and a half years just recently broke up in November I talked to an ex girlfriend when I didn’t feel appreciated and loved and I tried being friends with an ex…I saved pictures of her and lied to my girlfriend about it then she found text and call logs knowing that I lied to her..after that she texted her ex boyfriend and we talked about it all one night and we tried but after a month of talking to each other everyday when I was watching our daughter she… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Cody,

it’s ok to talk to her about your daughter during nc.. be active in improving yourself during and after nc and then slowly rebuild rapport with her after nc

Jay
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Hi guys, sorry I seem to lose the page and the feed back you give. I been dating my ex for 9 months and she has a child in another country and a single mum. At the start it was very casual dating and time went on she mentioned her child, however I’m also a single father too. She broke up with her abusive ex from before and she wanted to move in, but it was too soon and I was not ready, so she went back to her ex and we carried on dating. She book a holiday for… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Jay,

if she really doesn’t want to give it back, im not sure if you can really oblige her because it us hers when you gave it but yes, I do think she should give it back if she’s decided on not being with you anymore..other than that, you have to let ring go if it’s not any use to you

Joni
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Hey Chris just in need of some help, Broke up with my girlfriend about 2 months ago, circumstantial break up and nothing else. I’ll try and simplify everything for you but we were best friends in high school, once high school finished we started seeing more and more of each other and it naturally progressed into a really beautiful relationship, and we were both really happy for almost 2 years being together. But our relationship crashed because of 2 things. One was family disapproval/Nationality differences. So my ex is Albanian, they are very strict. for the 2 years almost we… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Joni,

set aside her parents opinion since, i assume, she wont be seeing them when she studies abroad right? The question is, did you improve yourself?

Joni
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Yes that is correct, whilst she is away she is alone.
After around a month of emotional instability and struggle on my part, I was able to refocus on uni and finish for the year, work more hours, begin training and working on my health again and going out more, so I guess I have improved myself, and from what I was I have definitely been able to pick myself up.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

that’s good. Keep doing that and then slowly build rapport with her once she’s there.

Daniel
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Hi There. My girlfriend of 3 years broke up with me a week ago. We had a fantastic relationship, were open, honest, caring and communicative and both loved each other. Beginning of this year she moved overseas for a year, and I went to visit her just over a month ago. We had a great time, but there are a lot of things in our life that are changing (I went to another country for 6 months as well). We Skyped every week, but last weekend on Skype she suddenly turned serious and said that she felt like I was… Read more »
Sugar Shan
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To whomever reads this, I’m really conflicted about my situation with my ex gf. Her and I broke up a little over two months ago and it’s been hard trying to get over it. Let me start from the beginning… Her and I started out as friends through high school marching band, and we ended up getting very close. I found out from two of our mutual friends that she had a crush on me and was waiting for me to ask her out (at first I didn’t think much of it but later realized how much I cared about… Read more »
Gatt Boy Johnny
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So me and my ex just got back on Good terms…we have an event we are attending on the 24th and this will be the first Time I saw her in a long time. (November I believe) We facetime now and what not but an in person thing has me excited. I want to know what are some things I can do to make sure I sustain long lasting happiness with her.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Gatt Boy Johnny,

I like your name 🙂 Did you do nc? Continue what you started there to improve yourself and maintain having your own routine. Don’t always be too available for her and whenever you talk keep it light as possible. Do new things alone alone or with friends and when you meet,look your best.

Jack
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I was with my ex for 4 years. Awesome relationship, no fighting or arguments, worked as a team, pulled through a lot of tough times and were best friends throughout. She recently ended the relationship with me about a month ago because she said she didn’t feel the same and felt like she had lost feelings for me and couldn’t explain why (just because we had been together for so long she felt like that was the only reason she was staying). For how close we were I expected her to bring the issue up much sooner to give us… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Jack,

so sorry for the late reply. How are you? did the situation change?

Rob
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Well I want my ex back and I have no answer as to how. Been weighing pros and cons for awhile now. All I have is the pros out weighing the cons extremely. Our story is that we were together for a couple years, and lived together for the greater part of it. Our relationship in my opinion was great. We pushed each other to achieve things we never thought we could, we were very passionate about one another. Both of us putting much effort into one another. Overall I fealt we had a great relationship. We ended up hitting… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Rob,

that means you have to be careful because if you push further she might protect the relationship.. You said you changed for the better, did you mean you did nc?

Rob
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I first wanna say that me and my ex were best friends. The day she left me she did it over the phone she said she didn’t sleep the night before and that she needed to leave me. She’d been wanting for me to change but I didn’t for a while like 6 months. We would argue maybe once every two weeks. We saw each other once a week and dated for 2 years. I told her she’s my best friend and she said the same. She’s a strong woman. Like strong. She said when we first went out that… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Rob,
you don’t want her to be the one that got away..that’s good. Has it been less than a week? Have you told her the reasons why you think you should try again? I think it’s better if you say that alog with the reason that you love her of course…Don’t beg of course.. Make it straight to the point ..

Jack
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Okay so me and my girlfriend were dating for 14 months. We were best friends, we always supported each other, and we talked all the time but not every day. Some weeks we’d go a few days without talking and then talk a bit when we did. We’re both in university and I’m 21 and she’s 20 and we met as lab partners. Due to majoring in different things we didn’t see each other as much this semester so far. Anyways we broke up for circumstantial reasons, She’s Catholic and I’m Pentacostal (I thought we could make it work but… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Jack,

the thing is if both of you aren’t old enough to have your own decision, her parent’s opinion still holds bearing.. You can try again after no contact of course.. Start as friends again and maybe when the rapport and attraction is better, you can figure out a way to make it work..

John
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Hi chris! I really need your help. My situation is a bit unique. We were together for 1 year and almost a month. We are both in high school. She’s a very amazing and unique woman. She was the one who broke up with me. So this is the story…we had a very nice relationship. As others relationships, we usually had ups and downs. Sometimes its her fault sometimes its mine. But 2/3 of the time it was my fault. I lacked effort too much sometimes but she would forgive me and love me anymore. She was the most understanding… Read more »
John
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note: the reason she wasnt replying was she changed her sim bc the plan with her other sim expired. I forgot about it. I was so wrong pushing her away. She said in the long msg on fb that she opened her other sim so she still saw my replies.

John
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Pls dont take the story lightly. It might feel very shallow to you that its just normal and shes gonna realize a thing in the future. Well its not like that. Please reply.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi John,

sorry for the late reply. It’s been busy for Chris. How are you? Have you two worked things out?

Zoe
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Me and my boyfriend broke up a few days ago. We’ve been together for 9 months… And he just broke up with me saying he missed being single… I need help getting him back because he’s using my best friend to tell him when to let me go and when to let me back. I need help. Please

Harry
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Hey Chris, My girlfriend left me Aug 10th after a 5 and a half year relationship. Her reason was that she didn’t want to be in a relationship anymore. I feel as if that isn’t the full reason and without self analyzing too much I realize I wasn’t treating her as best I could and I got lazy towards the relationship. She left me a few days before we were going to Florida together, she went without me and I have been doing NC since we split. I noticed she removed all photos of us from Instagram but left them… Read more »
SRK
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Hey Chris ! I’ve been going through your guide and I found it very insightful. Thanks a bunch ! So this is my story. I just finished high school and I’m about to start college. My ex and I became friends through facebook and later on I asked her out and she said yes to me. We had a wonderful relationship and there was very little wrong about it. We are both very high achievers at school and have a good standing among our peers. We used to chat a lot and did spend a lot of quality time with… Read more »
Lina
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Hi there, I’d like some advice from a guy’s perspective. Me and my boyfriend broke up a few days ago. We were together for 11 months. We had a long distance relationship, which was pretty hard for me. But it wasn’t thebig reason I broke up with him. The past month we had been going through a hard time communicating and resolving our problems. I also had some trust issues with him but I was working on it. It got to a point he started getting up and going out with his friends in the middle of our conversations trying… Read more »
George G Joel
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Hi, Chris, Yesterday, I just go through your site and while I exit the site I can’t stop thinking how well I improved. I found that the three posts that are (The reasons you should get back together with your ex-girlfriend, Do ex-girlfriends always come back & The fatal mistakes men make when trying to get their girlfriends back) are really as impressive as I go through. I found that in the “The reasons you should get back together with your ex-girlfriend” post you’ve mentioned Good reason No. 01 “A Circumstantial Breakup”. Actually though I’m really in this situation right… Read more »
Comfyshoes
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Hi Chris. I dated a woman for 10 months, she is just a fantastic person, and we get along great. We broke up amicably, very emotinally, but amicably(nothing hurtful or angry said or done), by my doing because she kept having doubts that were starting to affect our day to day. I didn’t want to do it, and i may have made a mistake, but the last thing i wanted to do was end up resenting eachother. Its been 32 days simce then, she hssnt contacted me once on her own, i have tried to talk to her 3 times,… Read more »
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Ross
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Hey, any advice would be great. My ex broke up with me 4 months ago, I still love her and want to be able to get to know her again. We were together for 9 years, this is the only time we have split up. During our relationship we had our ups and downs. We lived together and have a dog. In the last tear we got into a bit of a rut. I worked way too much, was always stressed and result we stopped having as much fun or time together as a couple. I’m 28 and she’s 25.… Read more »
James
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She most likely has Grass is greener side. You guys got together young and she feels like there is a lot she never experienced. The best thing you can do in the short term is to give her some space and work on yourself. Get in great shape, get a hobby, go out meet new people, etc. She is inevitably going to compare the new guy to you, so you need to make sure you beat him in all categories. Give her the opportunity to miss you and regret what she lost. And also to see that you are a… Read more »
Kyle
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Hi Chris, My girlfriend of a year and a half broke up with me. I never really saw it coming. We never fought or had any low spots in our relationship. We more or less lived together too. We told each other we loved each other several times a day. She is the one. I came home from work one day and she broke down crying and said she just didn’t see a future with us. This was the breakup. After about thirty minutes of eemotions we i respected her decision and left. She was hugging and kissing me and… Read more »
John
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Hello Chris, My girlfriend of two years recently broke up with me. We were having some rough times and some arguments for the past couple of months, and I noticed she started to drift away from me slowly, week by week. Then, two weeks ago, after an argument, she told me she needed to have a break and think things through because she felt confused and needed to think what she really wanted. I chose to give her that time and also to myself. But, four days later she writes to me and tells me that we must talk and… Read more »
Jordan
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Hey Chris, I know I’ve written to you a couple times and every one of them seemed hopeful, but I was following your advice and then, I made a huge mistake. I let my negative emotions get the better of me in a time of weakness. I had been telling to my ex and I had even had a meeting set up with her. However, I went off the rail in a moment that, to be honest, I don’t even really remember most of. Anyways, I ended up getting all depressed in the messages I was sending her and I’m… Read more »
Jordan
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Thanks. And the late response doesn’t bother me. I just needed to know that starting over was the right thing to do.

Jordan
Guest
Never mind. She is truly back together with the guy she cheated on me with and there’s nothing I can do about it. The caled me up one day and said that she was never my girlfriend because she was his, and he’s right. She was never truly my girlfriend because she had never honestly broken up with him in the first place. And now those two are flaunting it around all over my Facebook page and it’s really starting to piss me off. I just don’t understand why people feel the need to lie and cheat and just be… Read more »
Joules
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Hi Chris, I have recently broke from my gf of 4 years. We have been apart 2 weeks now but were living together before. The key catalyst for the break was I cheated on her by pursuing and kissing another girl. Since I have been devastated by the whole ordeal. After reading your article I do r believe I want to get back with her for any of the wrong reasons you mentioned above but there were other issues in the relationship aside from my infidelity. Mainly commitment issues on my part. When I read your points on the right… Read more »
Joules
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Chris, Thanks for the quick response. I can but I just felt a lot of pressure with it all being put on me at once. Aside from the issues we have been texting on off since the break. Mainly her berating me or asking me questions about what happened with the other girl. She’ll say “never contact me again” and then text me a few hrs later asking more questions. Not really sure how to handle this. 1. Is she just looking for closure or does she want more? 2. Should I respond to her messages or start a period… Read more »
Hayden
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Hey Chris, Just to give you more context I am 18 and she is 17. I’m a freshman in college but I live at home(about 5 minutes from her) and she is a high school senior we have been dating for 9 months. Okay so we had both felt that we we’re out of the honeymoon phase. Long story short we had 2 breaks, the first I realized how much I loved her and after I left her a note she woke me up the next morning saying that she loved me. Then a week rolls by she still feels… Read more »
Abdul Samad
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Hey chris, I recently bought your book and read it from cover to cover and this is my 3rd day of the NC period and I am following the Gatsby Method. I have to tell its hard and I was tempted to call her or text her many times but I held myself for the greater good, anyways I am bearing through the pain when I remember the memories. I would like to ask what should I do if she doesnt text or call at all within the NC period (21 days), should I wait for another 9 days and… Read more »
Abdul Samad
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Thanks chris

Mirek
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I would like to send you some information about my situation. Do you have an email where I can send it to you.

Thanks

Mirek

Bob
Guest
Chris, I would be extremely thankful for a response. Finding your site has saved me from being desperate and anxious, but there are a few things left with no answers. 1. I have been in the no contact period for a week now, but I have an issue. She has a computer that I need back for my mother which I told her, and I also have some of her stuff. She said one week she’ll drive up to me to exchange. I feel like that is the time where the no contact ends, but what if she never messages… Read more »
Kyle
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Hey Chris, These articles have been extremely helpful and are written with a style that builds a lot of foundational confidence. My girlfriend of 2 years broke up with me on pretty good terms. It was a lot of holding each other and crying for hours (you get the point), and although she did give many vague reasons, I know it is because we both need some time to focus on our own goals and get our shit together before college ends. She kept saying that I take up such a big part of her heart, and “don’t think this… Read more »