How To Make Your Ex Girlfriend Regret Letting You Go

So, you want your ex girlfriend back.

That’s why you are here, right?

Well, in order for that to happen your ex girlfriend has to want to get back with you.

And as much as some men want to believe, no human has the ability to “mind control” another person into doing what they want.

So, in order for a reunion to happen with your ex girlfriend she has to agree to come back to you.

Thus, winning her back is a function of convincing her to re-enter a relationship with you.

What’s the best way to do that?

With regret!

The Definition Of Regret (Regarding Your Ex Girlfriend)

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Have you ever looked up the word “regret” before?

If you haven’t here is a quick look at it’s definition,

Regret- a feeling of sadness, repentance, or disappointment over something that has happened or been done.

Regret is a very powerful emotion and if you can get your ex girlfriend to feel it when she thinks about you, you are going to be that much closer to getting her back.

Here’s how this typically works.

Your ex girlfriend decides one day that shes “had enough” and decides to break up with you.

You are devastated of course.

However, over time something really interesting begins to happen. Your ex girlfriend begins to show signs of regret for her role in breaking up with you. Eventually her regret runs so deep that she asks for another chance with you.

In the ultimate turn of events you are in the drivers seat on whether or not you want to take her back.

I created a nice little info-graphic depicting this “regret cycle” below,

cycle of regret

You may notice that in one of the circles I put a nifty little star.

Well, that star represents the area where this entire article can help you.

How This Page Can Help You

This page is all about teaching you the lost art of making an ex girlfriend regret letting you go (or leaving you.)

The idea works like this.

Using the strategies I teach on this page you can slowly but surely raise your chances of making your ex girlfriend feel the kind of regret that makes her want to take you back.

Essentially you can “expedite” the process.

Now, I realize that this page may be a little advanced for some of my new readers so I have done my best to even things out so they are very easy to understand.

I have done this by dividing this page up into three main sections.

  1. Identifying Signs Of Regret In Your Ex Girlfriend
  2. How To Make Your Ex Girlfriend Regret Letting You Go

Pretty simple, right?

Well, on the outside when you divide things up into three sections like that it makes things look pretty easy. However, the truth of the matter is that making your ex girlfriend regret leaving you is not an easy task.

In fact, I highly recommend you pick up my book. As it will go into much greater detail than I go into here about how to win your ex girlfriend back (and I am going to go into great detail in this article.)

Anyways, lets just get right down to business.

SECTION ONE – Identifying Signs Of Regret In Your Ex Girlfriend

Before I teach you anything about bringing out regret in your girlfriend you must first know what to look for to determine if what you are doing is working.

For example, if someone were to come up to you and tell you that the best way to diffuse a nuclear bomb is to cut the “blue wire” then you would already know that when the moment comes…

blue wire

You should be looking for a blue wire to cut.

The same principle applies here.

In order to know if what you are doing to your ex girlfriend to make her feel regret is working you first must know what to look for or if we stick to our nuclear bomb example, you have to know “which wire to cut.”

Below I have compiled a list of all the signs that a woman (who has regret about breaking up with her boyfriend) will have.

Now, before I go on I would like to recommend that you go ahead and bookmark this page because in order for this strategy to be effective you are going to constantly have to refer to the list below as a “check up.”

(Oh, and for the record that is the first time I have ever asked anyone to bookmark this page in the history of the site so if that doesn’t tell you how important this list is I don’t know what will.)

Anyways, lets take a look at what “sign 1” has to offer.

Regret Sign One- She Says It Through Her Actions

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I want to teach you a fun little trick.

What’s the trick?

How to figure out what someone really wants.

But before I get to that I would first like to submit a fake scenario to teach this fun little trick to you.

A girl has just broken up with a guy and she cites the following reason for the breakup,

jordan

Poor Jordan…

Anyways, lets fast forward three months into the future and all of a sudden the girl who broke up with Jordan is messaging him again but things are a bit different this time around,

play city

What the heck happened here?

I mean, one moment this girl is telling Jordan that the relationship is boring and that they would be better off dating other people and the next she is messaging him stuff like she “misses him” and she is bringing up really romantic dates.

Well, Jordan being the mature and smart man he is just shrugs this off as his ex girlfriend having a weak moment (it happens to us all.)

However, he is very shocked when his phone buzzes at work one day and he opens it up to find this message,

jordans ex

Good god this girl is forward.

What is really going on in her head?

Is this a “get back together” drink or is this just a friendly meet up drink where nothing happens?

Ah, the great questions of our time.

Would you like to know how you can determine what is really is going on in this situation?

Doing so will require the use of my “trick.”

Yes?

Okie doke!

What Is This “Trick?”

Have you ever heard the phrase,

“Actions speak louder than words?”

Well, it’s true.

They do.

I want you to take your ex girlfriends words out of the equation entirely.

What I want you to do is focus in on just her actions.

What someone says and what they do can sometimes be two completely different things.

Take the example of Jordan above.

Jordan’s ex told him that she wanted nothing to do with him. She told him that he was boring (or rather the relationship was) and that they should see other people. Yet after three months Jordan’s ex girlfriend’s actions aren’t in line with what she said in the past.

For example, Jordan and his ex going out on a date is a strong action stating that she does not think he’s boring and that she isn’t seeing other people.

If you really want to know what a woman is thinking in her head then ignore everything she says.

Rather look at the actions she takes.

That’s my little trick.

Ignore words and look at actions.

Now, I do want to bring this thing full circle so lets turn our attention back to regret.

If your ex girlfriend’s actions are consistent with someone who is regretting something,

  • She tells you she misses you a lot
  • She finds excuses to run into you
  • She is constantly messaging you and calling you
  • Oh, and my personal favorite, she constantly flirts with you

Then it’s a safe bet that she is regretting the breakup with you.

Remember, her actions mean everything.

Look at them.

Regret Sign Two- She Brings Up Past Memories In A Sad Way

past

Have you ever regretted something so much that you couldn’t get it out of your head?

Speaking personally I know I have.

I must admit that I have had a really great life (which is an accomplishment in and of itself.)

I had a great childhood.

I have surrounded myself with incredible people.

Oh, and I have a pretty wild job,

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However, I do have to say that as good as I have it in my life I do have one pretty big regret.

I am what you would call an introvert. While I am not super shy when you talk to me there are certain situations that make me uncomfortable.

For example, five years ago going out to crowded bars or clubs was definitely not my scene. More specifically, I was afraid of talking to not just women but anyone in general outside of people who I already knew.

So, when one of my friends would text me something like,

bar_club

I would get so nervous about going out that I would always make up some excuse not to go.

I mean, I can’t tell you how many times I used,

“I am not feeling good”

or

“I already have plans”

to get out of putting myself into an uncomfortable situation.

It wasn’t until a few years down the road that I finally worked through my shyness and got the courage to go out more.

Of course, looking back in my infinite wisdom (I am not really that old I swear) I really do regret being so shy over something silly like what people would think about me. The truth of the matter is that I missed out on a lot of great experiences all because I was just too afraid to step out of my shell.

How does any of this relate to your ex girlfriend?

Good question!

Do me a favor and go back up to the top of this section and re-read my little introvert story again.

Do you see what I did with it?

No?

Allow me to elaborate.

I told you a relatively long “in-depth” story about a regret I have about me being too shy. Now, when I told this story what kind of mood did you picture me in?

Was it a good mood?

A depressed mood?

A neutral mood?

How bout I just tell you.

I mean, this story is about me.

I was certainly not in a good mood to tell you about my regret. Oh, and I sure as hell wasn’t in a “neutral” mood either.

No, If I was being completely honest with you (and I am) I would say that I was more in a depressed mood looking back on the past.

Why?

Simple, I can’t go back in time and correct my shyness.

I can’t repair the friendships that were altered as a result of my insecurity about being around people.

I can’t do anything…

And I really do regret that fact.

Being depressed or sad about the past is a common theme among people who have regrets. If you just think about it logically no person who regrets something is going to be very upbeat or positive about that regret.

No, they are going to sad and depressed talking about it.

This brings us to your ex girlfriend.

Your Ex Girlfriend And Past Memories

Lets pretend that you and your ex girlfriend are four months removed from the breakup (she broke up with you.)

So, four months post breakup have brought some very new changes to your relationship.

The two of you don’t talk as often as you used to and you are both a little cold towards each other.

Now, nothing seems too out of the ordinary here as this behavior is very common for ex couples.

Where things start to get extraordinary is when your ex girlfriend sends you this text one day,

remembering

“What does it mean?” you think to yourself.

I’ll tell you what it means.

Your ex girlfriend is reminiscing about the old times and she is filled with sadness upon remember them.

Why?

Because the way she felt when she first met you was incredible and she hasn’t ever found that with anyone else since she has broken up with you.

Underlying this all is regret.

She regrets the fact the two of you went through a breakup.

She regrets that the feeling you once shared is gone.

She regrets breaking up with you.

If your ex girlfriend is sending you depressing or sad messages like the example above then there is a strong possibility that she is starting to regret breaking up with you.

Regret Sign Three- An Indirect Mention

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An indirect mention of regret is a pretty easy concept to grasp.

Your ex girlfriend, who is super depressed about the breakup, decides to take her frustrations out in a woman’s favorite place to take her frustrations out.

Care to take a guess at where that is?

And no, it’s not any place sexual for those of you whose minds went there.

(Get out of the gutter please this is a PG – 13 guide not a rated R one.)

Facebook = A woman’s favorite place to vent

I am not really that “into” social media outside of my job but even I have a Facebook.

Would you like to know what happens every single time when I log on to Facebook?

I am greeted by some passive aggressive meme/picture/quote by a woman with the intent of saying something indirectly to the man in her life (or even ex lover.)

Just to prove that this phenomenon exists I am going to log on to Facebook right now and screenshot the first one that I see and post it here.

Oh, and to make things even funner I am going to time how long it takes me to find an indirect comment from a woman to a man.

Ready…

Get set…

GO!!!

It took me 1 minute and 22 seconds before I stumbled across this,

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Now, you may have noticed that I have blacked out the person’s name who shared this lovely quote. I did that to protect her identity because I do know this person and I do have a lot of respect for her (but I couldn’t help but use this because it was just too perfect :p .)

Why am I so thrilled to use this?

Because it is this persons way of indirectly telling her boyfriend to get his ass into gear.

(And she does have a boyfriend.)

You will find that as you get to know women more and more that they will post little messages like this on Facebook to indirectly serve a message to you.

Now, this is not every woman in the world.

Sometimes a woman can stumble across a quote that she finds interesting and will just share it for that very reason but you better believe that if you are dating a woman and she posts something like this,

real men

Then you better believe that, that quote is meant for you in some way shape or form.

Maybe she is trying to say to the world that you aren’t a “real man” or maybe she is trying to tell the world that you are a “real men” and she will never have to worry about you making dumb decisions like cheating or anything like that.

Either way, the quote was still meant for you.

This is especially true when it comes to indirect messages about regret.

For example, if you were to log on to Facebook one day and stumble across this from your ex girlfriend,

regrets and mistakes

What the heck do you think is going on in her head?

Well, in my professional opinion I think that mere fact that she even mentioned regret is a good sign. I think she is starting to feel regret and is posting something on Facebook to convince herself that the regret she is feeling over the breakup is a good thing.

All we care about is if she is feeling regret and most likely if she is posting something like the picture above on her Facebook after a breakup she either thinks she made a mistake or is regretting something.

Regret Sign Four- She Tells You

told you so

Whenever I get stumped on what to write about for this site I go to the well.

And by well I mean my wife.

Well, I did that for this article as I couldn’t think of any more regret signs and I wanted to have a minimum of at least four.

“What kinds of things will someone exhibit if they regret something?”

Not even a second went by before she blurted out,

“They’d probably just tell you.”

The more I thought about it the more I began to realize how true that was.

If someone regrets something they usually tell you.

Look at me.

I told you one of my regrets above.

So, why should your ex girlfriend be any different?

Here’s the catch though, usually what will happen is that if your ex girlfriend were to tell you that she regretted breaking up with you it would be down the road a bit after the breakup.

Women need time to process things and sometimes they need other experiences to put their experience with you in perspective.

The GIGS (grass is greener syndrome) is a perfect example for this.

For example, if your ex girlfriend breaks up with you when you were basically the perfect boyfriend and she starts dating a guy who treats her like dirt she is going to start to regret her decision of breaking up with you.

Usually what happens in this case is that your ex girlfriend gets back in touch with you (while she is dating the scumbag boyfriend) and mentions to you that there are times when she is really happy with this new guy but then there are also times when she regrets her decision of leaving you.

Notice how in this example your ex girlfriend didn’t flat out tell you,

“I regret breaking up with you.”

No, she disguised it within the fact that there are times when she is happy with the new guy.

It takes a lot for a woman to come out and say,

“I miss you”

or

“I regret my role in our demise”

after a breakup.

So, instead of just being forward with you by telling you these things flat out she finds a way to structure them so they are socially acceptable.

If this happens to you.

If your ex girlfriend is doing this then make no mistake about it she regrets the breakup.

So, those are our four signs of an ex girlfriend regretting a breakup. Now that you know what to look for lets turn our attention on what you can do to really work to make her regret breaking up with you.

SECTION TWO- How To Make Your Ex Girlfriend Regret The Breakup

regret page

You will notice that I have divided the “make your ex girlfriend regret the breakup” game plan up into four different sections.

  1. The No Contact Rule
  2. The Best Revenge In Life Is Success
  3. Leveraging The Good Times
  4. Creating New Good Times

Like always, I am going to go down the list, one by one, and give an in-depth explanation of what you need to be doing for each of these sections.

Lets start with section one, the no contact rule

Step One- Regret & The No Contact Rule

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When you think of the actual act of “regretting” what has to happen for a human being to experience this feeling?

Well, ideally they have to miss someone or think to themselves,

“Man, I wish I could go back in time and change that.”

Of course, in addition to these thoughts enough time has to pass for them to experience regret.

Sure, there are cases where after a breakup occurs the person who broke up with the other person immediately regretted it but in my experience this is a rarity. Usually regret occurs down the road after some time has passed.

For example, lets say that you and your ex girlfriend have just broken up. Well, she isn’t going to regret her decision to break up with you until a few months have passed. Maybe she has gained some more life experience and looks back on your relationship with fond memories.

The main point I am getting at here is the fact that enough time has to pass for most women to feel regret.

This is where the no contact rule comes into play.

The no contact rule is the perfect compliment to regret because not only does it allow time to pass but it allows time to pass without an emotional crutch for your ex girlfriend to lean on.

What do I mean by an emotional crutch?

Some women take breakups pretty hard and as a result they look to their ex boyfriends for support on getting through the tough time (yes this occurs even if she broke up with you.)

If you take the emotional crutch they have in you out of the equation she is going to be left thinking,

“Maybe I took him for granted…”

This is a thought that you want her to have.

Oh, and then there is that added plus that the no contact rule forces time to go by so it can expedite her potential regret.

A Quick Crash Course Of The No Contact Rule

Some of the more tenured men reading this article are probably already aware of what the no contact rule is.

Of course, for those of you who are new to Ex Girlfriend Recovery don’t fret because I got your back on this.

The no contact rule is a period of time in which you ignore your ex in every way imaginable (except in certain instances) for a certain period of time.

Usually I recommend going into no contact for 21 days but there are also 30 day and 45 day rules that I have seen success with. Make sure you pick the rule that is best suited for your needs.

My book, Ex Girlfriend Recovery PRO explains the no contact rule in a much more in-depth manner so check that out if you haven’t already.

Step Two- The Best Revenge In Life Is Success

success

Frank Sinatra said it best,

“The best revenge in life is massive success”

Heck, even Chuck Palahniuk, a famous novelist, said,

“The best revenge is happiness. Nothing drives people crazier than seeing someone have a good fu**ing life.”

Makes you wonder if there is something to this “success/good life” thing, huh?

I want you to imagine something for me. Imagine that after your breakup with your ex girlfriend that you worked really hard and secured an amazing job that paid you a million dollars a year.

1 million

Then I want you to imagine that you got an amazing car.

Hmm… lets just go with a Ferrari,

ferrari

Oh, now lets take things a step further and say that after the breakup with your ex girlfriend you had women crawling all over you 24/7.

women running

Most people would consider these things to be successful but it doesn’t matter what other people thing. What matters is what your ex girlfriend thinks.

Remember, we are trying to get her to regret the breakup.

So, what do you think is going on inside of her head after your new found success?

While I can’t predict with 100% accuracy what she is going to think I do know one thought that is likely to creep up in her mind.

“Wow, he is completely different than when I was with him. When I was with him he couldn’t even hold down a job and he didn’t even have a car. Maybe I made a mistake…”

Five words…

All it takes are five words from your ex girlfriend for her to be on a path of regret.

“Maybe I made a mistake”

If you can get your ex girlfriend to say these five words you are doing something right and it will be that much easier to get her back.

Of course, before I move on I would like to talk a little bit about success.

The main point of this entire section is to show you what striving for success can do for you.

Look, if you live and die by this credo,

“The best revenge in life is massive success”

and every single action you take is to be considered more of a success you are going to increase your chances of your ex girlfriend feeling regret tenfold.

Seriously!

Lets move on to another thing you can do to make your ex girlfriend regret breaking up with you.

Step Three- Leveraging The Good Times

good time

In all relationships there are good times and there are bad times.

Well, when you look at things with the mindset of “I want to make my girlfriend regret this breakup” the bad times aren’t going to do too much for you.

So, instead of dwelling on past memories with your ex focus on the positive ones.

Now, if you are wondering what the best way to get back in touch with her is I highly recommend checking out my book,

Ex Girlfriend Recovery PRO

There you can find a step by step layout of what you need to be doing to really have a chance of winning her back. It will also teach you how to slowly build attraction when texting her. Eventually you will advance to a point where you can bring up good memories and really work to create some of that regret within here.

(That is what this section is about.)

So, just to reiterate.

If you are trying to get your ex girlfriend back (which most of you reading this are) you can’t just contact her out of the blue with the memories I talk about here.

No, you have to follow the game plan I lay out first to advance to a point where you can bring this stuff up.

In other words, what I am about to talk about is a bit involved.

Create Your List Of Good Memories

I can’t tell you how many times I have peddled this tactic on this website.

Actually I probably can but I am too lazy to go back and link to all the instance :p .

(Hey, I am allowed to be lazy sometimes.)

If you really want to increase your chances of creating regret within your ex girlfriend it would be incredibly smart to write down a list of the top 5 or 10 memories that you have with your ex girlfriend.

These memories should NOT be sexual in nature so what I am looking for here isn’t that one time you had a “quickie” in her parents bed.

Here, I will give you a proper example of a good memory using my wife and I.

Hmm…

Lets see here…

Oh, I know!

The trip to Paris we took is a great example of a good memory.

(For those of you who are doubting that I took my wife to Paris take this)

paris trip

This kind of memory is great because it brings up all kinds of incredible feelings.

This is the kind of memory that is perfect for creating regret.

For example, lets pretend that instead of my wife and I going to Paris your ex girlfriend and you ended up going to Paris.

You thought I was going to pretend let you go with my wife to Paris, huh?

Pshh… In your dreams.

Anyways, you and your ex girlfriend went to Paris.

That is a memory that she is never going to forget.

Oh, and it’s a memory that she is going to cherish.

But how can you use it to bring out regret within her?

Good question.

Lets say that you text your ex girlfriend something like this,

paris

How can a text message like this bring out regret?

Let’s dissect it from a woman’s point of view and find out.

“I just heard them talking on the TV about Paris.”

This part of the text serves one purpose. It reminds her of the time that the two of you went to Paris. Pretty simple so far, right? Well, things are about to get spiced up.

“It reminds me of the time we went there and saw the Eifel Tower light up at night.”

Notice how specific this was.

Notice the details.

Your ex girlfriend is going to read this and immediately be transported to the night that you were sitting on a blanket, sipping on wine and watching the Eifel Tower light up like crazy.

eifel tower

“Do you remember that?”

This serves as re-enforcement to make your ex remember that amazing night.

So, why is this so effective at creating regret within your ex girlfriend?

Simple, that brief moment where she was transported back in time to that moment is going to make her think,

“Wow, that was an incredible night. I miss that.”

The more and more she dwells on that memory she is going to miss it. The more she misses it the more chance she will have of regretting the breakup. Remember, her missing you is very close to her regretting the breakup.

Now, imagine if you were to constantly paint her mind with powerful memories like this?

You’d have quite the effect wouldn’t you?

But here is the best part, that’s only half the battle.

Step Four- Creating New Good Times

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While you are strategically battering your ex girlfriends mind with powerful memories you should also be working to create new memories on that same level.

What do I mean by this?

Take her on dates…

But not just any dates.

INCREDIBLE dates.

I am talking about the kind of dates that when she goes home at the end of the night she calls her friends up and brags to them.

What’s the best way to accomplish this?

Ask her a simple question.

“What is something you have always wanted to do but you have never done?”

When she gives you an answer make her dream into a reality.

So, lets pretend that you ask her this question and she tells you something like skydiving.

Ok, first off skydiving is kind of a weird dream to have but we can work with that.

I want you to plan an incredible date that culminates in her achieving her dream of skydiving.

Why is it so important that you be the one to help her achieve this dream?

Good question.

For the rest of her life she is going to associate you with that dream. So, instead of being just her ex boyfriend you are going to be the guy that made her dream come true and in my book that is a step up from “just an ex boyfriend.”

Remember, this is a two fold attacking (leveraging existing memories and creating new ones.)

If you do this right you will substantially increase your chances of making her regret her decision to break up with you.

My last piece of advice…

Be careful skydiving.

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Written by EGR team mate

Chris Seiter

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Paul
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You were always right with what you said. No contact. Give it time. Etc However, it was hard, and I didn’t make it. School started. I rushed Things. Tried to speak to her, because I missed her a lot, I didn’t see her in 3 months! She was cold. And sometimes she was friendly, but in the end she said, I should move on and she doesn’t want anything to do with my life. Primarily because my life sucks in more than this Topic at the Moment, I am broke in wherever a guy can be broke. However, today I… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Yeah, change first and keep changing and improving..dont chase again

Durell
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Hello Chris, I have a really sticky situation with my girlfriend I need advice on. Me and my girlfriend have known each other for 8.5 years. We’ve dated a record number of three times. First time, we were in our teens and I ended it because I felt she was selfish. Second time, she would yell at me and blame things on me so I ended it again because I felt I wasn’t being loved. The third time, after 3 years, she contacted me to get back together. We were both mature then and I decided we both grew to… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

HI DUrell,

did she knew it was a prank?

Durell
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Hey Amor,

I told her it was a prank after she found out but she did not know it was a prank before that.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

ok, then let her cool down for now.. talk to her again maybe at most after a week..

luis
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hey Chris, Me ex of 2 years broke up with me 2 months ago at the beginning of my first year at university the problem is that we both decided to the same uni because we wanted to go through it together… or so i thought. in the first 2 weeks she was acting cold and i was being clingy which i learnt on my own that it was a bad mistake because we ended up fighting, this also accidentally taught me about the no contact rule but then your site made it a bit more clear, so after about… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Luis,

why not try doing the no contact rule?

Lonny
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My girlfriend and I were together for a year and a half before she broke up with me out of the blue. She has 4 children 6yrs, 8yrs, 13yrs, all have same dad. And a 16yr old whos dad is not in the picture at all. She works 6 days sometimes 7 days a week 10 to 12 hours a day. Her three youngest go to their dads every other weekend. I purchased ex girlfriend recovery 4 months ago and followed the system as directed. She still is sticking to her decision that nothing is changing, we are done. After… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Lonny,

she didnt say why she decided not to try again?

Mike
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Alright fellas. I’ve got a problem. I was with her for 2.5 years. It started going downhill fairly early, mostly because I was trying to grow out of childhood (getting a job, moving out) and she wanted me to move in with her. I also had what I now realise are pretty severe anxiety and trust issues. After one bout she decided we should go on a break, and I panicked. I said some pretty hurtful things, accused her of telling my friends my secrets (and accused my friends of recieving them), and generally made a total ass of myself.… Read more »
Payton
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I love all of your advice but a couple of days ago my girlfriend received rumours that forced herself to break up with me. I’m hoping that you have any advice

Patrick
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hi sir, i had this girl who was madly in love with me and i also love her, we have dated more than a year and all a sudden her behaviour towards me changed, it resulted in her breaking up with me for no reason or maybe she didin’t want to tell me, all she said was that i wasn’t the good boy she use to know. all these happened just after she made with a girl who was interested in me but i refused her because of the love i had for my girl. the girl i refused is… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Patrick,

well, if she’s already her brother’s girlfriend, she shouldn’t be that insecure anymore.. anyways, are you in no contact now?

JR
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Hello respected sir, In short i want to tell you my sad story. 2 years ago when i sees my crush first time in my class i feel love with her at first sight. She was a single in status and she is really nice girl. After seen her i send him a friend reqoust on fb.. In class i did not talk to her because i hesitates while talking with her because she is so beautifull and i feel shy while talking with him but on fb i talk with her farely… On fb we becomes a great friend…… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Jr,

she friendzoned you.. don’t chase her.. I think you need to set your expectations straight.. if you really want to have a higher chance.. stop chasing her and start improving yourself and read this one too: Your Ex Girlfriend Just Wants To Be Friends…. Now What?

JR
Guest

I love you cris and amor ???? my ex message me after 3 days of applying NC rule but i am not replying him Yet she has a boyfriend also then what you recomends to me? Which article i applies ( to get ex back if she have a bf) or (your ex just want you as a friend)?

JR
Guest

And you dont think that NC rule for 21 days is too long because she messeged me after 3rd day of applying rule?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

JR I’m so sorry it’s late
how are you now?

JD
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Hello, so my girlfriend broke up with me just a few days ago. I know its early and I may still be emotional, but I have really struggling with all this. Mostly because it was so sudden and unexpected. We started dating towards the end of our college semester with the knowledge that a long distance relationship laid a head of us. We knew we needed to build a good foundation and did so given the amount of time we had together. We went into summer and the long distance was working great, we were more crazy about each other… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi JD,

SO, does that mean you’re going to try what Chris advised here?

Danny
Guest
Hey there, I purchased Ex-Girlfriend Recovery PRO the other day and I am very anxious to get into it. My girlfriend of three years broke up with me almost two weeks ago. She told me the following: “I don’t love you anymore.” “You deserve someone who wants to love you.” “I realized how much I liked being alone.” “I want to explore and do things we can’t do together” “Maybe see other people.” “I want to be intimate again.” Seems like a lot, right? I partially saw this coming, as the last 6 weeks she was away and at home… Read more »
Danny
Guest
Hey there, I purchased Ex-Girlfriend Recovery PRO the other day and I am very anxious to get into it. My girlfriend of three years broke up with me almost two weeks ago. She told me the following: “I don’t love you anymore.” “You deserve someone who wants to love you.” “I realized how much I liked being alone.” “Maybe see other people.” “I want to be intimate again.” I partially saw this coming, as the last 6 weeks she was away and at home with her family and was being distant. She was originally traveling in Europe for two weeks,… Read more »
Stephen
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First off I purchased Ex Pro and Text Bible which are great reads! My girlfriend and I were together for almost 4 years. I have a 6 year old son that she absolutely loved with all of her heart and even he called her mom. We were a perfect little family and adored time together, it was just perfect. She is 23 i am 31. She can not have children of her own so me having a child was very special for all of us. We had an amazing relationship except for my jealousy of other guys checking her out.… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Stephen,

nope you’re not.. focus on regaining balance and your confidence back..what could be the reason she broke up with you?

Stephen
Guest
She stated she could not get over our past arguments. I was a bit jealous of her and her guy friends. Usually our arguments were always about other guys. Which was stupid because she is an angel and truly cared about me with all of heart, I was being an idiot. So it has been 9 day NC, she unfriendly me on Facebook yesterday. Which I was shocked since I haven’t tried to contact her! Her mom and my mom talked on the phone and her mom said to give her time and space and don’t tell my son she… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

maybe she found out your moms talked and she doesn’t want you thinking she might have instructed her mom to say that

Dan
Guest
I will try to keep this short. My ex broke up with me 2 months ago, we have been living together since. This weekend I final am moving out, she moves next weekend and we will be about an hr apart now. I was dealing with depression and anxiety for the past 9 months and I wasn’t aware of it. I would look to her for everything, including my happiness. When she broke up with me, she kept telling me to give her space, but I did everything that I wasn’t supposed to, crying and begging in the beginning. Once… Read more »
Dan
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One more piece, She has removed all pictures that had to do with me on FB, but we are still friends. I kind of expect that to change after the move though.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Dan,

are you being active in nc now?

Dan
Guest
When I moved out on the 25th I started NC, She text me 2 days after to let me know I forgot my spare keys to my car and a few small items and told me I was welcome to come and get them. We agreed I would stop by yesterday. We didn’t speak for 3 days until I was on my way and she forgot I was coming. She wasn’t home and told me I could go in the window to grab my things. We had a semi short text convo (30 back and forth) and she was apologetic… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

let’s say we can let that go.. you can talk about only important stuff but avoid small talk..

Dan
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That sounds reasonable. What is your advice on the birthday? It falls 29 days after the start of NC, I feel like breaking NC on her bday may just get jumbled in with the rest of her well wishes from others. So my questions is, should I wish her a happy bday on the day, or should I wait until the day after and let her know that I didn’t want to effect “her day”? Or do you have a better idea all around?

Thanks Amor!

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

better if it’s after nc..

Vladimir
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Hi Crhris, First sorry for bad English 🙂 My gf and I were little more than 2 years together. When she broke up with me, she told me it’s the best not to speak or text any more, coz we are hurting each other. All she ever wanted from me in relationship was to talk with her about mutual future, just to see that we are going somewhere. But I failed, i didn’t talk so much with her about that, I wanted to get a job first, I had all that in my mind, I wanted her in my life… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Vladmir,

NOpe,you should take this time rebuild rapport with her again slowly..

James
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Hey chris, me and my girlfriend split up last monday, she broke up with me becasue the past month and been really bad cause we been arguing alot and hates each others company, we had been together for 9 months, when she first met me said it was love ay first sight and that she neva loved anyone has much as me, she also has a 4 month old baby at the time which not mine but i help with the baby, at first she was very fast pace about everything but i like taking relationships slow, i was not… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi James,

Do 21 day nc to give her space and then use that time to reconnect with yourself and improve yourself.

Eric
Guest
`Hello EGR TEAM! I appreciate your work! So my ex recently broke up with me. We were together for 6 months. We met through work… and we still work at the same place. She says we don’t have anything in common, and she needs time to her self…. During those 6 months, I found out she was interested in things I usually stay away from. Being the nice guy I am, I let her do those things with out yelling at her or being mad at her. Eventually we found some mutual activities and enjoyed doing them. I was never… Read more »
Julian
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Hey Chris, I appreciate what you do, man! I was in a long distance relationship with a girl I met online for 3 months. She lives 4 hours away from me by plane and I have visited her twice and stayed at her place those times. She broke up with me while we were away from each other because I always dodge discussing issues/arguments that have have. For example, I don’t admit easily when I’m jealous and would just get pissed suddenly instead. She keeps telling me that we need to communicate whenever we have arguments to solve the issue… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Julian,

let her cool of for now.. the good and bad thing about what you said, is that she might waiting until you’re the one to text her.. I think you should just do 21 days nc and don’t do any jealousy moves.

Tyler
Guest
Okay little backstory, ex and I broke up about 3 months ago. Within 2 weeks shes had a boyfriend thats shes been on and off with a lot. Theyve seperated at least 5 times. During the three months her and I talked almost every single day, except a three day period in which things officially started between them. Id been trying to get her back the entire time, and I felt part of the time it was actually working. Shed tell me her feelings and when they were “off” she would come over and cuddle, but it never would become… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Tyler,

be honest but in a soft way.. Tell her you have to be fair to yourself and you have to do this because it’s not you to sleep with somebody who already has a bf.. you want to respect her and her relationship and to heal too.. I hope in that way she realizes she’s being selfish.. at least you’re not blaming her and you’re coming from an understanding point of view.

vincent
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Hey 4 days ago i just broke up with my girlfriend after 1 and half year of relationship. She dumped me, but i still care a lot about her and i want to get her back if it is possible. She said to me that she no longer see a future between us because she bored and she feels that whenever we are together there is no topic to talk about because we already talk everything. Then, she said that she already think about this for a long time. She hugged me for a longtime and she start crying after… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Vincent,

Why not start nc after her birthday instead? Let’s say you’re just giving her space now.. and then see if she changes her mind during her birthday.

Brandon
Guest
Ok here it goes hello my name is Brandon sorry for any typos my spelling isn’t very good my ex girlfriends name is A** and I am certain she is the one for me. So background we were in school together we shared the same friends we crushed on each other for a year but we were both to nervous to ask the other how they felt then came prom she spent a good portion of the night dancing with her friends (hoping I would join in) eventually she strait up asked me and then we danced to all the… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Brandon,

I know it hurts, a lot… but I think it’s better if you finish nc.. Thoigh I can’t guarabtee she will totalky be back but after what happened, you need a reset and you need to heal and improve yourself.. are you active in social media?

Brandon
Guest

No I’m not very active over social media I have skype and a steam profiles but that’s as social as I get on line, also a mutual friends birthday party is soon should i just pop in and say hello drop presents off and get a photo with the birthday girl and be off (while looking hot as hell obviously) would this be the best plan? If i tern up looking good would it make her think about me a bit?

Brandon
Guest

Additional info at 3:00 this morning she text me “Why are you fucking ignoring me all the time I need to give your stuff back and I thought we were okay” dose this mean its working? Should I be happy there is a affect on her?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

When you go to the party, you can stay.. it will actually work more if you stay and keep your distance.. with her text…yeah it seems it’s working

Brandon
Guest
Ok so I went to the party and be for I went I decided what time I would leave so we were only there at the same time together for 30 mins ( she looked gorgeous) so I kept my eyes off her didn’t make eye contact and portended to have a good time she didn’t seam very bothered about me when I was there but after my friend toled me she was upset I didn’t notice her and also I have now been toled that she is getting pissed with me ignoring her so my questions (I also mentioned… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

With her constant messaging, nc seems to be working for her. It’s natural that she would be pissed. It’s either she would be sad, pissed or not affected. How many days are in nc now?

Brandon
Guest
It hase been 14 days of nc the last time we spoke was the march 3 so I will be contacting her on the 25 also things I have done in nc to help my chances I have Text her best friend “After everything which hase happened we are still friends?” I don’t know if she reported this back to amy or not. Changed my profile pic to a colash of pictures of Malta (I’m training to become a professional scuba diver) she was ment to come out for 2 weeks to see me Asked my spay to ask her… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

good moves Brandon! Thank you for the suggestion too! It helps of your activity has levels that you can progress in, like a video..the sense of achievement gives the feeling of success amd accomplishment

Brandon
Guest
Ok so 24 is last day of no contact but I have been informed by a good scores that she doesn’t seem to mined I have been ignoring her should I extended from a 21 day nc to a 30 day nc to try and get a reaction also I have bumped I to her once and it was on a bay I didn’t have time to make my self look good (cos exams) I am taking old stuffy cloths unshaven messy hair I just ignored her and walked away she then sent me a text 20 mins later “Bit… Read more »
Brandon
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Hello ok so I have tryed to contact my ex Amy I sent her “happy Easter” then the next day I sent her “I have a confession” I have not got a response from here I know she was sad and angry wile i ignored her in the first week but I’m toled now she is very indifferent to me and just doesn’t care about me any more. It hade been about 2 months sins the break up and she wasn’t feeling it for a month towards the end what do I do now I don’t want to hang around… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Brandon,

sorry for the late reply..Try again after a week.. if she still doesn’t reply that means either you decide yo wait until she’s not angry anymore or move on

Brandon
Guest

I will wait till she is not angry any more I will not stop fighting for her and it is ok with the late reply you must be inundated so thanks you are life savers

Brandon
Guest

Just wondering will any tactics be less effective because I was her firs boy friend and she hase not emotionally matured much you

Brandon
Guest

Pleas I sent her another text yesterday and got no reply I think the nc hase reely hurt her i can’t stand thinking I have heart her I need to know what to do next I cant stands thinking I have hurt her she is everything to me do I apologise just tell her some think like “I am reely sorry for ignoring you I understand your mad just reply to me when you feel kik you want to sorry” pleas what do I do next

Brandon
Guest
I know this is like the third time I have have asked a question to day but my ex hade veganism’s and I stayed with her after she said things like “I wouldn’t blame you if you found a girl witch worked” because I loved het so much and towards the end it finally looked like it was ending (it gave me hope that one day we could have the family we talked about) and then she dumped me. So my question is can I use this to my advantage some how? Ps if she hase kept up her kegels… Read more »
Brandon
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I know this is the forth time today but I was talking to my dad and he said because she said she felt like we were only friends sins Christmas then I was friend zoned then and it is hopeless because she lost feelings for my a wile be for we split up and was already over me be for we split up. Is this true what can I do are my chances of getting her back 0? What’s my next move?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Sorry for the late reply.. Your dad maybe right and her being angry is one way of trying to be empowered over the situation. If you see each other in school, take it slow with a short smile when you bump into each other and you still have things with her right? Ask for them later on.. Right now, if she’s still angry just let it pass.. Your dad maybe right because when she sees you as a friend that means she lost attraction and desire for you.

Brandon
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It hade been 4 days from my last attempt to contact her an ot that Tim I think she hade purposely gone to old private photos online and deleted all he comments (this hase reely hurt she hase literally erased some of are old memories) and she might have blocked my number I don’t know that for siren thow so question 1. Should I apologise? And 2. Are my chances 0 if I have been friend zoned for all theys months?

Brandon
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I think she might have a new boy friend and got him wile I was I nc what do I di now the nc hade destroyed everything. What do I do?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor
I’m not trying to defend no contact but the truth is, if you stayed in contact, like you did in the first stages of breakup, you’ll still be friendzoned.. in the end the only other option is to do nc.. But I do agree she did get angry because of the nc because it looks like she likes having control.. plus the attraction wasn’t established enough through social media, so she is not seeing your changes and progress.. For me you shouldn’t apologize but actually try to really change yourself before the you meet in school, that maybe the last… Read more »
Brandon
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So I just continue working out, get a job and up date my look? Also I am not shore if she hase a boyfriend ot is ambiguous with the information I have

Brandon
Guest
Also we are on collage and the closet lessons we have together is maths in adjacent rooms so are likelihood os seeing each other is low would I change where I hang out to increase the probably of us seeing each other (I changed it during NC to decrease the frequency we sore each other)? Also we are in the run up to exams should I not try to elevate us past text till the summer or should I be supportive of her to make myself look better? Ps I know I’m probably getting annoying by this point so thank… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Nope! It’s ok, we understand.. Guage how she in first before in person.. that’s your chance to slowly buuld rapport too.. smile when you bump to each other or greet her

Brandon
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Ok so i bumped in to her to day and she didn’t recognise me at first cos I have changed my look so much and she commented on it and we made small talk while walking to our destinations how long do I wait until I try and text her agen Ps she still hade some of my stuff

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

so she’s finally talking? Don’t contact right ahead.. give it a little more time.. maybe a week..

Brandon
Guest

She replied to my text I sent her “Did I just see you in town wearing crocs ?! My my a peculiar fashion statement :b” she sent me “Nah m8 you’d know I would never lower myself to that standard ????????????” I sent her one more joke message and after she replied told her I was off to the gym (left half hour and a hour in between respectively) so my question for to day is when in the tide theory is it best to start talking about old memories?
Ps this site and everyone involved in it are amazing

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

when you’re more comfortable with each other.. better if she’s the one initiating convos..

Brandon
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Ok so I just talked to her in the library and i was flustered but managed to maintain my composure but this led to me not cutting the concussion off at the high point so I hade to make a second and cut the conversation off there wich didn’t feel as affective. I tryed to bring up old memories wich were not powerfully this happened with the concussion rather naturally I was just probing to see if it were possible to take further in the future. Flirting was not that successful I flirted with her quite a bit but when… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

how did she react to the last one you said?

Brandon
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If you are revering to the tumbler comment her reaction was along the lines of “ow did you hmmm yes I ges you did hahaha”

eddie
Guest
Hey chris so my thing is i found out a few weeks ago my ex is knocked up, we broke up last march. I also found out it is by one of her “male friends” she was talking too, two years or so ago while we were dating. Kinda a kick in the gut when i found out. Even after not speaking a word to each other, she seemed to be a bigger B then when we last spoke. So i decided to be a good guy and msg her with good luck and all that jazz. Well that went… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Eddie,

Just be your best self and that’s it.. Success is always the best revenge

Ole Martin
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Hi

my ex girlfriend broke up with me a week ago, the reason was that she had no feelings for me anymore, but i love here as hell… I was woundering how i can get here to regret that she leave me and wanna try again

she said that I should not contact here in any way and i haven’t. but i want here back… how can i get here back?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Ole,

Do nc, so you can give her space and so she can miss you.. improve yourself, do new activities and post in your social media accounts that you’re connected

Kyle
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Hi Chris can you give me a quick pointer. -? girlfriend left me four months back due to distance seperation and she wants me back now. i know i was the best guy she ever had because we speak often and ive heard it. but the problem is how do i drive her to put in effort to get me back she is introvert and distance and a new ex boyfriend put up her old barriers of not sharing as much as she use to. so heres what i know.1.she wants me back .2.she is not as open anymore. and… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Kyle,

Don’t be too engaging.If you don’t give her all the attention,and you’re not that friendly or sweet or you don’t give her all the time you used to give, she’ll notice that and naturally she’ll put in more effort

Sander
Guest
My girlfriend broke up with me due to interference from other people like family. it brought us a lot of stress, so she finnaly caved. After she broke up, she’s been telling her friends that she never wants to hear or see me again, but always in a different way to a different person. A friend of mine who also knows my ex, recently told me that she thinks my ex is starting to realize that she’s throwing something away that’s like a once in a lifetime kind of thing, not because of what she says but because my ex… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Sander.

HOw does she give that impression? What does her actions say?

jr
Guest

HEY CHRIS, do you recommend taking your EX back after she hurt you? Do you have TIPS or POINTERS on when you should take your EX back or not? because if ever i take back my EX i want to make sure that she changed for the better… that she learned…. hope you get my point 🙂 cheers!

Ryan M
Guest
Hi, basically I have been talking to this girl for about 2 months and everything was going brilliant! We would text and snapchat eachother every day almost all all day and she would always be the one to send me a text in the morning telling me she had a dream about me or something. Cut a long story short she had told told me how good she was feeling about us and as it was my birthday she even bought me som expensive presents, even my mate was telling me how she want to go out with me and… Read more »
Justin
Guest
Hey Chris, what do you do when a few years ago you had money and you was trying to make a life for your self, and the moment you go broke is because of medical expenses, then end up on disability only drawing $600 a month’s because they don’t count back to the time you first ended up sick.. So then your wife leaves you, and for years you have dated but nobody wants you because you are broke… The whole reason why I’m not working is because I can’t get any insurance to pay for my $5,500 a month… Read more »
Timoty
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I was there about 10 years ago. It was bad. Anyways, my suggestion is to see if you can get the drugs over seas at a reasonable price. If you can, then you can go back to work.

I’d check PharmacyChecker for prices and finding a legit distributor.

mohaa_kenya
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bro trust me
You can make its
Also apologize to her parent

T.
Guest
Hi Chris, I was just vaguely broken up with by my girlfriend of the last 3 going on 4 years. She is about 9 years younger than me, and we have been through a lot together. A major reason our relationship began to dissolve was due to her youth, and lack of maturity in context to certain situations (namely her employment and money issues as well as her living situation). She moved into my apartment (while I had a roommate) under the pretense that it would be a few weeks. However that turned into 6 months which turned into a… Read more »
marvin
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hi cris
after my girlfriend broke up with me i tell her something bad and now she said that she is right dumping me. i want to get her back :'(

George
Guest
Chris, Nice read, I have read it several times. My ex of three years and I broke up about four months ago and there has been no contact. My ex text me close to one month after the break up and stated that she knew I was talking with her mother. She stated that she had moved on and is in a relationship. She thanked me for what I did for her family and wished me all the best. We had an on off relationship. I am 38 turning 39 in November and come from strong morals and values. My… Read more »
George
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Forgot to mention, her mother told me that her and her new “friend” broke up. That he was too busy with his child and his job. Her mother mentioned that my ex wants to focus on her education, career and children.

Robert
Guest
Hello Chris, Some good reading on here. Although, every situation is different. Mine, I’m 45 my ex she is Russian 35 with 16 year old son both divorced significant time ago. I say she’s my ex as this is how it played out in a nut shell. We met online 3/15 and shortly after met up. Hit it off perfectly with lots attraction and passion. She adheres to the Russian culture, so flowers and wine and dine where not a problem – I’m a chivalrous / southern man anyway, she loved that. Between work and her friends we met once… Read more »
Darren
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I was in a relationship with the girl of my dreams treated her so bad cheated lied and probably gave her the worst experience of a be to her. Been back together since we share a baby girl together and I absolutely love this girl to bits and I’ve done that much that I don’t think she will ever take me back. She doesn’t even wanna know me anymore but I love her to bits we have been on and off for the last 2 years can someone please give me some advice

Alex
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So my girlfriend for a year broke up stating the reason due to stress and that she just didn’t feel the same. During the break up we were both so upset and crying and she said she was scared she would regret this decision. To me it seems like the stress has just put distance between us and that things didn’t seem like always. But after seeing her like that it killed me because she looked more hurt than I was. I haven’t talked or texted her but I just want to know when I should? and should I wait… Read more »
Darren
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I cheated on her early on in the relationship which I highly regret bout 3 months into the relationship we broke up she got into a relationship with another guy. We got back together was with each other for a bit had about a two month break then she was pregnant with our first child and I then again decided to cheat on her denied it the first time and she beleived me and said I truly believe that you didn’t cheat on me and I think that they are just telling lies. But then the truth finally came out… Read more »
anomimous ex
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hey chris my girlfriend was madly in love with me,, av always been a bad boy and never thought i would ever fall in love like this. we’ve been together about 4 months, meeting regularly bt she always wanted us to meet more and i was ussually at work. We fought a couple of times due to less meet ups. This was the main issue with us, but we love each other. She suddenly said she had reached her peak and that i have made her cry too much.She asked for space for a week saying she wanted to give… Read more »
Mark
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Hi Chris,

May I please get your Email address. I have a little bit delicate part and I would like to share it personally.

Cheers,

Stephen
Guest
Hi Chris, I sure hope you can give me an advice to gather myself together, as my love life is so so falling apart.I dated a girl exactly 5years and 22hours ago. She was the first real relationship I’ve ever had. what we both felt for each other was very real. But soon as we got separated by distance thing started to fall apart. I schooled in Nigeria while she schooled in Ghana. We survived through the distance for 14 smooth months and 2 crazy rough months, after which we broke up.. and got back together after another 2months, of… Read more »
Devon
Guest
Okay so long story short I flew to across the country to see a girlI had been dating on and off for the past 8 months. we had a few good days together and then Tuesday we went to her friends abortion which made her extremely upset down in pa well she had been acting weird since Monday night and it made me feel like I was unwanted so when she got back from the abortion me and her where headed to pizza I confronted her about it she said that’s not what she was meaning to make me feel… Read more »
Kj
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Hey chris, So I’ve been scrolling through a bunch of “expert pages” and eventually stumbled upon this one. So I read most of your articles and decided to eventually purchased your Ebook. However I think I need some feedback on my situation. I’ll try to drag it out lol ok so my ex and I met online,(LDR) we talked and decided to meet about a month later, it went great! I can honestly say I’ve never felt that with anyone else (im,sure most guys say that) but it was to the point that I actually was nervous and got those… Read more »
Matthew
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okay my girlfriend broke up with me , because she didn’t want to be in a long distance. and she felt guilty because she kissed someone . and I forgave her. but the guilt kept on eating her up. so she broke up with me. I said everything I could . what should I do chris

james
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Hi Chris, To start i’ve read all your free material on winning an ex girlfriend back, this stuff is absolute gold. I will be buying your book when I get my next pay check. In the mean time would you be able to answer a few questions on my particular situation for me? She broke up with me May 10. Next day i started the needy loser stuff, begging, wanting her back, etc. After that we didn’t talk for four days till she reinitiated the conversation. I started pushing to get back together, end up drinking with her sunday and… Read more »
James
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Hi Chris, I broke up with my girlfriend of 3 years 2 weeks ago. I met her in a college in the US, and as we graduated, we became a long distance couple. We were so into each other that we flied to see each other 4 times. However, before we started dating, there was a girl who wanted to date me, and I didn’t really made it clear once I started dating my ex. We fought because of that so many times but we made up again. A month ago was our 3 year anniversary, and since I’m studying… Read more »
James
Guest

We haven’t talked at all since the break up by the way.

shivam
Guest

i promises her that i will get my own bike…but i have done a big mistake that from that day i never buy my own bike…she dumped me…plzz help me brother……i know that iam not good english i hope that u understands my problem.

shivam
Guest

hi chris.,iam ur fan brother…i want ur help..i want my girlfriend back..i have .made a mistake that i have done begging to my girlfriend..and she says that she dont want me in her future..she blocked me on facebook and watsap..plz brother help me

power pakistan
Guest
Hey I need your help my girlfriend left me for her mother and for her respect before leaving me she said change yourself be patient polite I said yeah sure but after few days my parents went on her house her family and our are good friends my mother said to her that she time will come yo should stand for him and she replied no I will just ask to my mother about us if she say no I wont do anything so my mother said her if you can’t take stand for him so why you said to… Read more »
Brandon
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Hi Chris, Of course I have been reading your articles to clearly get some advice. So here’s my story, I am 21 and my girlfriend 20. So we’ve always had a great relationship never really fought or anything. We dated for a year and would have been a month tomorrow and have been broken up for 9 days now. I have not spoken to her since the night we broke up. Now we met at school and we have a little distance nothing drastic, it’s only an hour and 45 minute car drive. We would see each other at least… Read more »
Brandon
Guest

Also, she took down our relationship status on Facebook, but has left our Instagram pictures together up.

Spencer
Guest
Ok… right… where to start.. me and the ex… broke up 5 weeks ago. Done the argument thing, the not talking, the falling out etc.. but now we seem to be getting along well, sometimes shes flirty, always friendly and mixed signals. Like for instance she sends me quotes about always being in her heart and pics of hearts etc… the other day i kissed her and she said it confused her, then said it was awkward and inappropriate, then back to confusion etc…. now i know shes jumped straight into dating some guy 13 years younger than her, opposite… Read more »
Dylan
Guest
Hey Chris, So I’ve been dating a girl for a year now and I’ve driven to see her and her family almost every day. I’ve gone on trips with her family (aunts, uncles, cousins, siblings, you name it), but I’ve always had some difficulties with her parents – who really want someone of their own race, and often say things bad about me to her. She has always claimed that she isn’t influenced by her parents decisions and will be moving out soon anyhow, but I’ve been feeling the influence overwhelm her and we’ve been in many fights about things… Read more »
BBallFan
Guest
Hi Chris, My girlfriend and I dated and lived together for four and a half years. I had been in a lot of other relationships but was probably never really in love. I was her first love and she only had one prior boyfriend. I started dating her at 22. She is now 27 and I’m 33, and are of the same culture but both born here in the States. Our first two years we got along amazingly. I recall thinking, wow we never ever fight so this one must be special. Plus she comes from a good family, grew… Read more »
bub
Guest
I am doing NC, but how can she miss me if we didn’t see each other for 2 months prior to the break up? she’s deleted me on fb, I sent a letter a week after break up and have kept nc to heal. I don’t think she misses me, we both made accounts on dating sites, i made it to help with the loneliness and just to meet new people, it said ‘dating but nothing serious’ and I didn’t even look at hers because it will just make my healing process harder. We were together for two years, didn’t… Read more »
bub
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Oh and I didn’t argue for the break up. I told her if she ever needs anything she knows where I am. I know she is actively trying to move on, but I am beginning to feel like it’s a lost cause. I still have hope deep down.

ciro
Guest

hi my girlfriend broke up with me because she said she need some time alone and that we are going to end up hating each other because of our fights. i know she still loves me because we had an emotional “goodbye day” but she says she doesnt want to end bad with me. what should i do?

Iqbal
Guest
Hey Chris. I read your whole article, but I’m not sure whether I should start taking the steps (as in No Contact rule) to make her regret or continue talking to her. We have known each other for two years, and its a distance relationship on facebook. We live in a conservative society and family / social norms are such that we cannot physically meet up. Anyways, I mentioned her that I love her and she was a bit indifferent. She continued talking with me, and began opening up to me after that. He would at times try to extract… Read more »
Iqbal
Guest

Hey Chris thanks for responding.

Since, my only form of contact with her is through facebook should I consider being cut out from facebook completely during the NC period? Or should I increase my interaction with other friends while ignoring her completely? Which would you suggest would be more effective?

I wana teach her a lesson man!

Anthony
Guest
Hi Chris, your article is very helpful I must say. My ex of 2 years has been giving me some mixed signals as of late. I basically called for a no contact period that lasted maybe 4 months so I could really get my life in check. I told her I couldn’t be friends with her or talk to her because I still was in love with her. Recently, I had minor shoulder surgery done and of course I posted a picture of myself on snap chat with the intention of getting some sympathy out of her. It worked and… Read more »