How To Make Your Ex Girlfriend Chase After You

Can you do me a favor?

Yes?

Ok, I want you to close your eyes and picture something for me.

Picture that your ex girlfriend, the girl who despises you right now, is chasing you. No, lets take this a step further and say that she is infatuated with you. She is constantly texting you messages like,

I miss you

Oh, and did I mention that she is blowing your phone up with voice mails too?

Well, she is.

Heck, even the other day she showed up at your doorstep trying to get you to come out with her for a drink (which you declined of course because your time is much too valuable.)

Now open your eyes.

Does the “fantasy scenario” I just described sound like your reality right now?

I would be shocked if it did. I mean, you are reading an article on how to get your ex girlfriend to chase you.

Welcome To “Chasing With Ex Girlfriends 101”

I feel like I am teaching a college class here 😉 .

So, what I want to do for you now is teach you a method in which you can turn your current reality into the fantasy situation that I described above.

In effect, I want to take you from point A to point B.

Point A = The depressing reality where your ex girlfriend wants nothing to do with you.

Point B= The future in which your ex girlfriend becomes obsessed and infatuated with you.

The purpose of this page is relatively simple.

I am going to teach you what you need to do to get your ex girlfriend to chase you and I am going to be doing that by following this game plan,

chase

Now, if you don’t understand any of what I wrote about there don’t be too freaked out.

This method is rather complex and it takes this entire page to get through.

Of course, before I can really dive into dissecting this game plan there are a few important things that I need to discuss with you.

What I Consider To Be “Chasing”

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This entire page is premised around the idea of getting a woman (your ex girlfriend) to chase after you.

But what does that mean?

How are we supposed to define “chasing?”

Well, that’s what I’d like to talk about right now.

Gender roles always dictate that it is a mans job to court the woman.

He typically courts her by buying her flowers, saying nice things and making big romantic gestures.

Hey, just take a look at pretty much all romantic comedies now-a-days.

When was the last time that you saw a woman court a man in one of these?

Hmmm…

How about never?

Ok, there may be one or two instances in which it’s the woman who courts the man but generally speaking you just don’t see that in the movies anymore.

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So, what is the point of me telling you all of this?

Simple, society has dictated that it’s a man’s job to chase after and get the woman and not the other way around.

In other words, courting = chasing.

Anything that is considered courting is what I consider chasing.

  • Buying flowers… chasing
  • Big romantic gestures… chasing
  • Saying nice things through text messages… chasing
  • Saying nice things on the phone… chasing
  • Asking someone out on a date… chasing

So, the point of this article is to flip the gender roles and get your ex girlfriend to start chasing you instead of the other way around.

So,

  • Instead of you buying your ex flowers she would buy you flowers.
  • Instead of you making a big romantic gesture your ex would make the gesture
  • She would say the nice things to you in text messages
  • She would say the nice things to you on the phone
  • Oh, and how could I forget that she would be the one to ask you out on a date

Why Your Ex Girlfriend Isn’t Chasing You Right Now

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Your ex girlfriend isn’t chasing (courting) you right now is she?

I think I might know why.

You’ve heard of the phrase “GNAT” before, right?

Well, if you haven’t “GNAT” is a very clever acronym for “Going Nuts At Texting.”

G- Going

N- Nuts

A- At

T- Texting

It basically describes an overly needy and desperate ex boyfriend who is trying to get his girlfriend back.

This is the type of guy that quite literally goes nuts at texting.

For example, he would very desperately send these types of text messages to his ex girlfriend,

gnat

Do you see how desperate and pathetic this was?

I have often described “GNAT” as the type of gnats that fly around your head and never leave you alone.

Do you know what I am talking about?

It’s like no matter how many times you try to swat these things away they never leave. Well, that’s what your ex girlfriend probably feels when she thinks of you if you were a “GNAT” to her.

Oh, I do feel it’s important to mention that even though “GNAT” does stand for going nuts at texting it doesn’t just extend to texting. A person can be a “GNAP” and a “GNIP.”

GNAP – Going Nuts At Phoning

GNIP- Going Nuts In Person

They are basically the same thing as a “GNAT” except instead of the medium being through texting they are through phone calls and in person encounters.

The main point I am trying to get at here is that if you are a “GNAT,” “GNAP” or “GNIP” to your ex girlfriend then she is going to do the opposite of chase you, she is going to to run from you.

So, the question you are probably wondering now is how do you stop from being a GNAT?

PART ONE: Getting Your Ex Girlfriend To Chase You Through The No Contact Rule

Ah the no contact rule.

One of the most popular strategies here on ex girlfriend recovery.

For those of you who are wondering, the no contact rule is the part of our game plan with a star on it,

chase copy

The no contact rule is essential if you want your ex girlfriend to chase you.

Above I mentioned one of the biggest mistakes that men make after a breakup (being needy, GNAT, GNAP, GNIP and all that good stuff.) Now, I realize that you may have done everything perfectly after the breakup but lets just assume that you didn’t.

Let’s assume you ventured into the “crazy ex boyfriend” realm with your neediness and desperation.

Your ex girlfriend isn’t going to be drawn to you if you are crazy.

So, rather than trying to salvage the situation by reasoning with her you should take the opposite approach and let time salvage it.

Look, if you were a GNAT to your ex then she is going to form certain assumptions about you. In order to shake these assumptions you are going to utilize something I like to call the no contact rule.

What Is The No Contact Rule (And How It Can Help)

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But for those of you who don’t know what it is I would like to give you a quick crash course.

Here is the formal definition of NC (no contact)

The No Contact Rule- A period of time in which you DO NOT contact someone on purpose.

Here is how Ex Girlfriend Recovery defines it,

The No Contact Rule- A period of time between 21 days, 30 days and 45 days in which you completely freeze out (do not talk to) your ex girlfriend.

That’s basically it in a nutshell right there.

Now, I realize that some of the readers who are new to this concept may still be a little confused as to what the no contact rule entails and some of the purpose behind it. If that is you and you would like more of an explanation as to how it works I recommend reading the in-depth guide I wrote about the no contact rule here.

Ok, now that I gave you a quick crash course lets turn our attention to the reason for why you are here.

Helping you understand why the no contact rule makes your ex girlfriend chase you.

How The No Contact Rule Can Potentially Make Your Ex Girlfriend Chase You

The no contact rule really helps to make your ex girlfriend to chase you in two ways.

The first way is actually pretty simple.

You remember the hypothetical situation I was going on and on about above where you were a GNAT to your ex girlfriend and she would want nothing to do with you? Well, if you were to implement a no contact rule you are going to reshape what your ex girlfriend thinks about you.

Assuming you were GNATTY she is going to be conditioned to think that you are going to be the one chasing her.

However, once you implement the no contact rule you are going to be doing the exact opposite of what she is expecting. Remember, she is thinking that you are going to continue to blow up her phone with text messages and phone calls.

Of course, since the no contact rule strictly forbids you from doing that the phone calls and text messages that she is expecting will never come.

“Hmm… that’s strange” she will think to herself.

This is when something very interesting happens and it also happens to be the second way in which the no contact rule can help you to make your ex girlfriend chase you.

It is human nature to feel wanted and loved by others.

For example, while I think I have a pretty good head on my shoulders even I love to hear how great I am from people from time to time (hey, no holds barred honest right here.)

I am betting you would love nothing more than having this girl,

beauty woman

Walk up to you and tell you how great of a human being you are.

No seriously, if this woman walked up to you and gushed about how incredible you were right now you would walk around feeling like a million bucks.

Well, your ex girlfriend is no different.

She wants to feel wanted in loved in a relationship just like every other woman walking this earth.

Of course, what happens to us all when we feel wanted and loved by the same person too much?

We grow complacent.

Your ex girlfriend is probably very used to feeling wanted by you after the breakup. She is so used to it in fact that she has probably grown complacent with what it really means.

However, when you take all that attention away via the no contact rule something very interesting begins to happen.

All of a sudden she misses you chasing her.

She misses feeling wanted by you.

And what happens when someone misses something?

THEY START CHASING AFTER IT!

PART TWO- Understanding The Chase Factors

The no contact rule alone isn’t enough to get your ex girlfriend to chase you. No, it is going to take a lot more than that to accomplish this task.

chase

I like to tell men that they have to understand the certain “chase factors” that women look for in men.

What are these chase factors?

Think of it like this.

Women are drawn to certain things in men.

If a man has enough to these things she will actively chase after him.

Hmm… how can I put this in an easier way to understand?

Oh, I know!

Ok, this is maybe going to sound a little weird to you but bear with me here. Lets take a look at a few celebrities who have women going crazy for them.

Justin Bieber

justin bieber

Brad Pitt

brad pitt

One Direction (The Silly Boy Band)

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When you look at these three celebrities/celebrity entities what do all three of them have in common?

All three of them hit on a lot of chase factors that attract women.

Take Brad Pitt for example.

  • He is good looking
  • Rich
  • Considered an “Alpha Male”
  • Extremely challenging to win over
  • He’s interesting and sophisticated
  • Oh, and he is probably one of the biggest celebrities in the world.

All of these are the chase factors that women are looking for in a potential mate and they are all something that all of the celebrities above have in spades.

Take Justin Bieber for example.

Now, I am definitely not a fan of this little *****. Nevertheless, I won’t deny that he is extremely popular and does an amazing job of getting the little “tweens” to chase him.

Again, Bieber is,

  • Good looking
  • Rich
  • An Alpha Male to the women (though I don’t think he is)
  • Challenging to get
  • Very interesting
  • A huge celebrity

Are you seeing the trend yet?

Now, for those of you who are sitting there rolling your eyes and thinking that the celebrity factor is the only reason that these types of celebrities have thousands of women chasing after them I want to introduce you to a celebrity that is arguably more talented than everyone on that list that no woman chases after.

Meet Steve Buscemi

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Buscemi is without a doubt one of the most talented actors walking this planet.

Anyone who has seen him in “Reservior Dogs,” “The Big Lebowski” and “Boardwalk Empire” will know what I am talking about.

The guy is just an amazing actor.

However, he doesn’t have hordes of women chasing after him.

Why?

Because, he doesn’t do a great job of hitting on all the chase factors that women have.

For example,

  • He isn’t good looking
  • He isn’t perceived by women as an “Alpha Male”
  • He isn’t perceived as challenging to get
  • Not many women want to picture a future with him

So, while Buscemi is considered a celebrity he didn’t really do a great job on hitting on the chase factors that attract women.

If that doesn’t explain the importance of chase factors to you then I don’t know what will.

What Are The “Chase Factors?”

chase me

So, now that you understand the power of chase factors lets turn our attention to understanding what they are one by one.

Below I have compiled a list of the major chase factors that cause women to chase after men.

  • Things they don’t have
  • Alpha Males
  • Challenging
  • Social Value
  • Personality
  • Future
  • Financial Value
  • Genetic Value

That’s a lot of chase factors, huh?

Well, lets go down the list one by one and really get a good grasp of what each of these are.

We will start with

Things Women Don’t Have

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Tell me if this story sounds familiar.

Two children (gender doesn’t matter) are sitting in a playpen.

One of the children is playing with an amazing toy while the other child doesn’t have any toys to play with.

Now, the child with the toy is extremely happy.

The child without the toy is extremely unhappy.

What do you think happens now?

Well, the child with the toy will most likely try to take the toy from the child with it.

Does this sound familiar?

Try this one on for size.

You are walking down the street one day and you notice an orange bar lying in the road. All of a sudden someone comes up to you and tells you that there is no way you can jump over it. You look at the bar and think to yourself,

“What is this person talking about? I can totally jump over that.”

So, you go and do it.

What’s the point of me telling you these two stories?

People don’t like to be told they can’t have or can’t do something.

When they are told that they aren’t capable of accomplishing something they will most likely take the necessary steps to prove you wrong.

Take our example of the celebrities above.

Common sense tells us that a woman can’t have Brad Pitt.

However, even though most women understand this they are wildly turned on by it.

As a result, he has millions of women chasing after him.

Alpha Males

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I will leave it to you to check out that resource on alpha males (and how to become one.)

What I would like to do in this section is talk about why women chase them.

Think of the alpha male in a wolf pack.

He makes all the decisions for the pack.

Where they go…

What they do…

What they eat…

The survival of the pack is his number one priority.

He provides for them…

Protects them…

And does everything to ensure their survival.

(It’s vicious out there in the wild.)

Now lets turn our attention to what women want in a man outside of the obvious romantic things.

A woman wants a man to protect her (just like an alpha wolf)

She wants a man to provide for her (again, like an alpha wolf)

She also wants a man to lead (JUST LIKE AN ALPHA WOLF)

When a woman sees a man that can bring these characteristics to the table she is not only going to be immediately turned on but she will actively chase after him to win him over.

Someone Challenging

challenge accepted

What’s that famous quote?

“A woman that can be bought isn’t worth having at all.”

It turns out that the same is true of men, just in a different way.

“A man who isn’t challenging isn’t worth having.”

One of the biggest mistakes that I see men continually make after a breakup with their ex girlfriend is the fact that they are way too available for them. What’s challenging about a man who is readily available for a woman?

We have all heard the generic “nice guys finish last” quote.

Well, I don’t buy in to that fact.

Nice guys don’t finish last. In fact, a lot of them finish first once they figure out what men who aren’t nice are doing.

What are they doing?

THEY AREN’T READILY AVAILABLE.

They provide a woman with a challenge and someone who is challenging is worth chasing.

Social Value

popular

This is something that I bet you would never think of.

When I talk about social value I talk about the popularity factor.

As much as I can talk about the celebrities above having women chasing them because of the “chase factor” one fact remains, they are celebrities. That in and of itself is a chase factor.

Women are drawn to shiny objects and what’s shinier than a man who is a celebrity?

Of course, I am not expecting you to become a celebrity so I am going to dumb this down to a level that us regular guys can achieve.

Imagine that you are on a date with a girl and you go out to a restaurant. At this restaurant you start bumping into a lot of people you know.

The hostess knows you…

The waiter knows you…

The manager knows you…

The couple sitting a few table overs knows you…

Now, to you this may not seem like much but to your date this is massive.

In her head she is probably thinking something like,

“Who the heck is this guy? He knows everyone. People must love him.”

Lets spice things up a little bit more and say that before all these people you know started coming up and saying hi to you at the restaurant your date didn’t seem that into you. However, after you exhibited your social value to her she started warming up.

Showing that you have social value is important because it creates this interesting “celebrity effect” where you are a celebrity in a woman’s mind.

And what happens with women and celebrities?

THEY CHASE THEM!

Personality

Whoever said personality doesn’t matter?

It is definitely not true.

I have this theory.

Looks get you in the door but personality keeps you there.

It’s easy to impress a woman with your looks (you really don’t have to do anything) but looks only take you so far.

Your intelligence, humor, beliefs, ego, openness, compassion and logic are really what can keep a woman interested in you.

Of course, I have often wondered what would happen if someone had an amazing personality but was lacking in looks. Would he still be able to get a woman to chase after him.

For example, would a man who was a 5 out of 10 in looks,

unattractive guy copy

Be able to get a girl who is a 10 out of 10 on looks to chase him based on his personality?

Hmm…

Well, in order for that to happen he would have to really have an interesting personality that would be out of this world.

unattractive guy

I guess it is possible..

Personality for the win!

Future

I had a gentleman email me today asking me a question about how he could get his girlfriend back.

Now, based on the sheer volume of questions I get on a daily basis I find it hard to respond to emails but something about this particular mans email made me want to read it.

Maybe it was the fact that he was scrambling for an explanation of what the heck happened with his girlfriend.

As I read through his story one thing became clear.

His ex wanted a future with him.

However, his inability to fully commit to her or at the very least do something to show her that he wanted a future with her too caused his demise.

For those of you who are reading this please take what I am about to say very seriously.

MOST WOMEN WANT A FUTURE WITH THE PERSON THEY DATE.

The prospect of being alone scares most people half to death.

Your ex girlfriend isn’t any different.

She is more likely to chase after a man she sees a future with than one she doesn’t.

Don’t ever forget that.

Financial Value

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If there are any women out there reading this then I apologize if I am about to offend you.

Women like men with money.

As much as people debate it, it’s a proven fact.

According to an article from the Huffington Post since the beginning of time women prefer men with resources and in today’s day and age resources are equal to money.

How can I put this in an easy to understand way?

Oh, I know.

Ok, lets imagine that we cloned you. So, instead of just one version of you there are two versions of you.

This cloned version of you is a carbon copy.

Nothing is different.

Well, almost nothing is different.

You have the same personality, looks, beliefs, blah, blah, blah.

The only difference between you and your clone is the fact that your clone is filthy rich.

He makes $1,000,000 a year.

Now, here comes your ex girlfriend who we are going to pretend hasn’t dated you yet. In fact, she is in the process of picking who to date.

She meets you and then she meets your clone.

The two of you are exactly the same except the one big difference between you is that your clone has money and you don’t.

Who do you think she will pick?

Your clone, of course.

She is going to pick the guy in the Ferrari not the guy in the beat up Pinto.

Women chase after money… that’s just the way it is.

Genetic Value

This one is fairly obvious.

Looks matter.

Anyone who tells you anything different is probably lying.

It’s not often that you see an ugly guy being chased down the street by a million women. However, it is more likely to happen if a guy looked like this,

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(That’s me by the way.)

Ok, all kidding aside a man who isn’t considered “good looking” is going to have a lower chance of potentially being chased by a woman than a man who is considered “good looking.”

Is it impossible for a man who isn’t “good looking” to get a woman to chase him?

No, it just means he is going to have to hit some of the other chase factors a little bit harder.

Speaking of hitting the other chase factors lets talk about what to do with them now that you understand what all of them are.

PART THREE- Become The Chase Factors

Part three of this guide is really where everything I have been talking about up until this point comes together.

It’s really where you increase your chances of having your ex girlfriend chase after you for a change.

For those of you who don’t know part three is going to be focusing in on this part of the “chase process,”

chase

What do you think the graphic means when it advises you to “become the chase factors?”

Hmm…

This might require some explaining on my part.

What Does “Become The Chase Factors Mean?”

I listed the chase factors above to show you the types of qualities that men have to have in order for a woman to chase him.

Now, since we are dealing with an ex girlfriend and figuring out how to get her to chase you would think that the rules might need to be altered…

They don’t.

Why?

Women are hardwired to chase men in a certain way.

Just because your ex girlfriend dated you at one point doesn’t mean her hardwire has changed.

What does this mean?

Well, it means that in order to increase the odds of getting your ex girlfriend to chase you, you have to hit on the chase factors above (her hardwrie.)

That’s what I mean by “become the chase factors.”

Imagine for a moment that after the breakup instead of sulking or becoming a GNAT you focused specifically on the following,

  • Becoming more challenging to win over
  • Working hard to become an alpha male
  • Building your social value
  • Improve your looks (as much as you can)
  • Doing well at work so you can get a promotion
  • Showing your ex that she can have a potential future with you
  • Improving your personality by becoming more intelligent, witty, philosophical and compassionate

Well, you will have just hit on every single one of the “chase factors” above.

You would have essentially become everything that your ex girlfriend could ever want in a man causing your odds to go up that she will chase you.

Sounds too good to be true, doesn’t it?

I mean, it can’t be that easy to get an ex girlfriend to chase you, right?

WRONG.

The Trap Most Men Fall Into

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You know what you need to do.

You need to BECOME the chase factors.

That’s it.

If you can hit on every single one of the chase factors I mention,

  • Things they don’t have
  • Alpha Males
  • Challenging
  • Social Value
  • Personality
  • Future
  • Financial Value
  • Genetic Value

You will most likely see a dramatic change in the dynamic of things.

Your ex girlfriend will be drawn to you like she never has been before.

It’s not supposed to be that easy, right?

And therein lies the trap that most men fall into.

Somewhere right now there is a man reading this, rolling his eyes and exclaiming,

“There is no way that this works. There is no way that getting an ex girlfriend to chase you is as simple as just hitting on those silly “chase factors.””

But it is…

Most men are just too afraid or lazy to do it.

Make no mistake about it, hitting on the factors above is going to take some work.

But before you scoff and move on to the next article in your internet search I want to ask you something.

Is she worth it?

If she is then isn’t this worth a try?

I promise you that you will be hard pressed to find someone with more experience or better credentials than me in the digital romance space.

Just sayin…

		

Written by EGR team mate

Chris Seiter

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Jamie
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Hi there, I have spent the last couple of hours reading various blogs on the site, and I do believe my relationship is worth fighting for (for both of us) Although we are going through the no contact stage, the reasons for breaking up were fair but not to say they can’t be fixed! So, I’m almost 32, she is 10 years younger than me (22). We were in a relationship for 2 years, and she broke up with me about 3 weeks ago. After 6 months of dating, she moved in with me as we were inseparable, we were… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Jamie,

That’s good.. You could try the 21 or 30 day nc if you like

Shay
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Hello Amor, I got a serious issue with my relationship recently. I have been dating with my EX girl since 7 years but we broke up 32 days before. Actually she broke up with me as i was a bit insecure and some time jealous and i had talk to her very very rudely. we were in contact for 1 week after the break up. i really begged to her to come back ask for appology several time but all she said is a big NOO and she had no feeling for me now and she would like to stay… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Shay,
Give her space for now
Apologize when you can contact her

Darryl
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Hi, me and my ex was together for 2 months it litrelly was the best 2 months aswell, we went to an engagement do it was her best friends on Saturday. I was introduced to some of her work lot and there was this one guy we spoke about footy shared the same footy teams and we left it at that, through the night he was saying nobody should mention football to him while he was drunk (and I was told to be careful as he’s like that with young lads) and while getting into the Taxi on the way… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

HI Darryl,

I’m confused.. You already talked and explained to her you situation, and then she said she can’t wait to be wife and then you had an argument?

Mike B
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So let me say Chris as always is right on point. My ex and I have been in a turbulent relationship. And that’s putting it lightly. Over 9 years we have probably broke up 5 times or so. 2 really bad ones. The first one I would call her and cry and beg. Took 2 months to get her back and I think it was because she just got tired of me begging. We were good for a few years and then we started spiraling down again. We have a child together and I’m the only father her teenage daughter… Read more »
Tom
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Hi, great article. I used to be involved in pick-up and applied these principles which led to me getting my girlfriend. We have been together for 4 years. A couple of incidents have made her lose trust in me and last night she found out that I had read her messages on social media because I thought she was seeing some other guy. She ended it on the spot. So my point is I agree with your principles, but I’m just not sure if it will work with her as we’ve gone beyond that point.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Tom,

It’s not guarantee that it will work in any situation.. It just helps increase your chances

Satish
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I met someone online (she sent me the first message to my dating profile if that matters) and dated intensely for about a month and a half. Met about 8 times and I thought she was really into me. I can say that based on our phone and texting conversations. About her: she is 27, recently broke up with a guy she was with for 7 years, took a couple months break and started online dating. A couple weeks into dating, she tells me about her only serious relationship and why they broke up. They had this secret relationship because… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Satish,

You’re a rebound.. Why not try the advice above?

Marko
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Hello Chris, I hope this gets posted, even though it’s not a question. I just wanted to say something to all the men here who read the article and think to themselves, they don’t want to become this “chase factors” because she isn’t worth it OR they are lazy: Even if your Ex doesn’t come back to you, why wouldn’t you get succesfull in these factors anyways? Think of it like this: When there is absolutely no way to get your ex back, why shouldn’t you try to be attractive to other women and be a alpha anyways, because it… Read more »
Jake Henry
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Okay so I’m not going to get into what happened with me and my ex, other than it ended badly I want her back. And the first few weeks once she left me completely I was a GNAT all the way. Then I stopped for the longest which was only four or five days with no intention to contact her. She messaged me at 5 days trying to reconnect. I talked to her a bit then kinda ignored her. I know it bothered her and I’m sure she will try to contact me again. I 110% agree with everything the… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Jake,

through your posts.. If you’re blocked or not friends, make your posts public.

Rami
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Hi, I recently purchased your product Ex recovery pro. I was just asking if you could give me some advice. Essentially since january of this year, my long distance girlfriend (been dating since high school, would be now about 2.25 years, she is 3 hours away driving), has broken up with me 3 times. The first time lasted an hour. The second, in march, we took an 8 day break. Now, 3 weeks ago, she said she missed being single, didn’t know if she felt the same about me, missed the excitement of a new relationship, didn’t think we could… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

HI Rami,

tell her being friends is not workable for you right now, and then restart the count of no contact, be active in improving yourself and in posting in social media.

Anonymous
Guest

What do I do if my ex really doesn’t want to talk to me? I tried to contact with two different rounds on NC. I even asked a friend and she said she’s too busy with school to talk

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

it either means you need to move on or you’re not using proper initial contact messages and you didn’t improve yourself.

Anonymous
Guest

She’s so busy with school she hasn’t even talked/hungout with her close friends and she doesn’t use any social media at all so I can’t use the social media technique. When we broke up we left on an okay note. She kept telling me we need space for Now and that we’ll be okay

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Actually it’s still important to posr because she will get curious if not now, by the time that she’s not doing anything, and that’s your proof of your improvements to make her regret not having you and miss you

Elliot
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Hi, Me and this girl have been dating for 4 months and uh i used to argue with her a lot, so she grew distant and i questioned her and things got ugly… So i broke up with her. I was needy and imature, so she blocked and all, didnt wanted to know about me, thing is, on her birthday i sent a message via a fake account on fb (i know its creepy stuff) And a common friend was with her and said she felt like affected by it like surprised. I manged to got back in speaking terms… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Elliot,

do you want to try the advice above?

Lanoc
Guest
I met a girl at work. Things were going really well. We had the same interests, we were both really attracted to each other, we made this connection I’ve never had with another girl. We both worked away, meaning sometimes we went away together, but sometimes were weeks apart. Whenever we were together we pretty much spent every moment together, and when we were apart we kept in constant contact. She had never been in a real relationship or had guys be a gentleman to her. I did what I thought was right and bought her nice things, treated her… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

hi Lanoc,

the more important thing is if you improved yourself… if you did, are you still doiing so now? if yes, you should be slowly building rapport.

Jordan
Guest
I fell in love with this girl before we even started dating. I met her through a coed basketball team over a year and a half ago. We instantly hit it off. We would carpool together all the time and we became really close very quickly. I didn’t want her to know that I had strong feelings toward her in fear that she wanted me just as a friend. We would text nonstop all day and call each other every night. One night she said that she loved me but I took it as just as friends. A couple weeks… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

stop saying, just do it.. and keep doing it.. dont convince her with words, convince her with actions.. just change and keep changing while you’re slowly rebuilding rapport.

MJ
Guest

Hi Chris and team,

I read up on what you wrote about chase factors, but I have a problem.
My ex is 7 years older than me, and I’m about to begin uni soon.
This places her above me financially and its harder for me to show her a positive future of how we both can be happy together.
It wasn’t an issue for her at the beginning where she promised that she could wait for me to graduate, wait for me to start earning money etc.
How do I work on these aspects?

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

improve physical and social aspects of your life.. improve your skills.. do new things and make new friends.

JOHN
Guest

HI! I got involved with a coworker. at first it was just a fling but we decided to stop. after that, I realized I kinda like her so I chased after her. she wanted to be friends at first but now she doesn’t reply back to my texts. what should I do? I do see her at work very often. do I ignore her and not say hi as a no contact rule? would love to get her back.

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Yup..reply direct and short politely when she does initiate.. Be active in improving yourself

Ullis
Guest
I had a gf for more than a year. We broke up last April 11 and I kinda begged and asked her to eventually get back. We broke up bc I told her bad things. Then I chased her, i kinda forced her back on April 25 and we eventually got back, but still after that, arguments come and go. She’s not that in to me when we’d have sex, for short, she was cold. I love her but I am hurt. So just this afternoon, we broke up, again. After reading this, I realized I should try NC for… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

She would respond like that if you asked to be back right away after no..slowly build rapport instead

Ullis
Guest

How long should it be? What do I do at that time? Should I really wait for her, bc the last things she said were that she is tired and she wants a rest. She doesn’t want us having sex anymore, and she’s tired of all the fights. She also said sorry and told me she was still traumatized by what I said and the shame she felt. What do I have to do to get her back?

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Ok, restart nc…do at least 30-45 days..be very active in improving yourself and in posting and then slowly rebuild rapport after while continuing to improve yourself..

Ullis
Guest

It got worse. I told her more bad things, I tried again to convince her, but still she didn’t. Should I be moving on now or should I still wait if she chases me back?

Ullis
Guest

I can’t even try nc for 3 days. Gosh

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

how would she chase you if you keep on chasing her right?

Ullis
Guest

I just learned that she’s entertaining other guys esp., a guy who she has a crush on. Should it really be worth the wait if she does like that?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

well, that depends on your standards and how much you really know her.

Ullis
Guest
Hey been awhile, it’s been rough. We haven’t seen each other bc she moved to a new school. I heard she has moved on and has a bf now. I have been courting a girl. One time, she visited the school last June 13, she saw me with another girl idk if she’s still affected. She tried to contact me and added me back on fb. She once shared a post that goes “Drop a date that you wouldn’t forget.” She wrote our anniv. She said she wanted to see me and she wanted closure that was last June 7,… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Take time alone…avoid being in a relationship for now if you’re still confused

Ulis
Guest
Hey! It’s me been awhile… again haha. Yeah, well uhm, I don’t know what just happened. There was this one time last August when I told her cousin ( a good friend of mine) that I kissed the girl I courted, I also told her cousin that I was meeting the girl and I wanted her cousin to join me, since they were from the same school. To be in shock, she chatted me the night after about something related to school, and the question was confusing. So I told her “wdum?” in a cold manner. She started to as… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Being disgusted means what she’s doing is not within your principles.. So, it would be better to move on than to get involved with someone who doesn’t have the same principles as you do..

ULLIS
Guest

It was me who felt disgusted, not her. I texted her last night about a poem I made secretly addressing it to her, and she said the poem was fine. I asked her ” do u love him?”, she answered “I do.” And it broke my heart a bit. I don’t really know what I feel for her.

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Yep, that’s why I meant you should move on…because feeling disgusted with her is not a healthy feeling

Zach
Guest
My ex girlfriend broke up with me but I said let’s wait a week and take time away and we did but we still sent me a snapchat in the morning and I sent one back. To make a long sorry short she is with 2 guys and invited me over and we talked in my car and she said she kissed me twice I told her I love her she said she loved me too (maybe as friends I don’t know) she agreed we could talk the next day and was looking forward to it. So the next day… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

it would be better if you don’t open it.. if it’s important she would send a text or send in a different messenger.

Zach
Guest

She now sent me a message in Facebook saying. What won’t you respond. And I clicked in it by mistake so she knows I read it. Does she miss me? Should I keep going NC

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

it’s ok..at least you didn’t reply..stick to nc

aadi
Guest

hi.
i m in a big trouble.
my gf has a big misundetstanding.
3 years back i had some chat with some girlz in fb.
and i did proposed them too.
bt later i realized that it was wrong.
so i stopped and fully concentrated on my gf.
bt one day she asked me for my fb psswrd.and she read all the msgs.
she thinks i dnt luv her .and she broke up.
bt i really luv her..
and i want her back.
she is still contact with me.bt jst normally.no relationship.
i want her back.plz hlp me

EGR Team Member: Amor
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aadi
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hi. i m i n big trouble. as my gf has a big misundrestanding. Actually 3 years earlier i had some chat with some girls in facebook.and i did proposed too. bt aftr i realized i stopped doing those things. i became quite serious towards my gf . nw i really luv her. she one asked me for my fb psswrd and i gave her. she read all those msgs.and she broke up with me. bt i nw i really luv her. and dont knw how to handle her. i tried everything bt failed. she says that she will nvr… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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Aston Grant
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I have been apart from my ex girlfriend for the last month..i would love to have her back and keep her this time, so much so that i have followed certain things that will help get her back. After the break up at first i came across needy and shortly realised that i did have to have a ‘no contact’ period which i began but after 4 days of no contact she began messaging me. i paused and assessed the situation and thought i will message her back…since then we have met up once and had a friendly catch up.… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

it’s still better if you proceed to no contact first.. but if you don’t want check this:
How To Use Text Messages To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back

Abuu
Guest
I never loved her at de frst time but i did fucked en she enjoyed it but later i got myself in love with her and i was a thug in the street then one time i messed with cops en after 3 mnths wd no contact i found her dating another guy. I threatend her by naked pics of her then threatend her bf dat i will kill him till now am just seeing her going to parties wd her new bf. Infact dere is alot of girls chasing after mi but i just want her back en i… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

if you really want to make it up to her, erase all the naked pictures and do it infront of her and current boyfriend. Apologize sincerely and change genuinely.

Jon
Guest
I broke up with my ex girlfriend three months ago. I met her at my school, she was a student who came in later from another school. I was her buddy on her introduction day, it all went really great, and she gave me her number. A few days later, after a lot of texting and all that she invited me to cycle to a nearby town, we did, and it was a lot of fun. We continued to meet for cycling trips, longer and further. It was a lot of fun, we made lots of pictures and we experienced… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

why not try the advice above?

Drew
Guest
Hi there, I tried to post this yesterday, but it didn’t go through. My girlfriend and I of 3 years broke up a couple weeks ago and the way it went down was very strange. In the midst of an argument on the phone, out of frustration and wanting to end a heated conversation, I said ,”it’s over,” to an activity we had arranged to do that she wasn’t going to be able to make it to anymore. I really meant that the conversation was over, not the relationship, and assumed she did as well as we continued texting, as… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

YOu should do the nc period and follow the advice above.

John
Guest
My exgirlfriend broke up with me 2 months ago citing she loved me but needed time for herself, I panicked at first and chased her for 2 weeks. After that she asked me to not contact her. I was able to last without contacting her for 2 weeks but after that I saw her with someone else and lost it. I started talking with her friends and 2 weeks later went to her house at night to try and talk to her, she got home and I panicked and hid in my car. After she entered the house I followed… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

try nc and stick to it. Use it to improve yourself and don’t greet her during it.

Mark
Guest
My situation seems to be a bit different than those mentioned, so wondering what the best course of action would be. Was with my gf for 2 years, she wanted to move in together around Sept. I said no and perhaps in the spring (April/May). She was in a hurry to get engaged, married and have a kid. Anyway, we broke up at the end of Nov (we had broken up briefly a few times before as she wanted me to change things) – put more effort into the relationship, show more affection, spend more time together, be less selfish… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Mark,

restart nc, approach it like she has moved on. So, build rapport slowly after..

Mark
Guest

How many days would you recommend for the NCR in this case? Thanks, and great website!

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

at least 30 days.. thanks too!

Drew
Guest

Hello,

I was wondering how to make my ex see a future with me if I’m not supposed to contact her? I messed up and let a girl kiss me over spring break, told her, and then she broke up with me. We had always talked about a future together and things like our kids, but she doesn’t see it now that I’ll be in college for 2 more years and she’ll be in the real world. PLEASE HELP.

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Drew,

your posts are your indirect way of contact

A WIlls
Guest
My Ex and I have been broken up for almost a year, we go to the same college and we see each other alot whether its on purpose or not. We have had moments over the past few months where we almost got back together but something negative happened (a drunk fight, argument, etc.) and it made her back off again. Since then I have become very needy and GNAT GNIP and everything. The past month she has been losing interest clearly and doesnt seem very motivated to meet up or hangout, text, talk anything anymore. She says she wants… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi A wills,

you can’t make her chase if you stay in the friendzone..try the advice above first

Patrick
Guest
Reading out the possible breakup scenarios from your book, I find that mine is a little different than what you’ve listed. Could you advise if my plan would work. I do really like her. Here’s the background: -We have been going out together for 4 months -Strong connection, emotional and physical -On the 3rd month; She told me she wasnt ready to commit yet -On the 4th month: While i was away on my solo vacation, I texted her to know how she felt, say she wasnt sure. I decided to break up. -A couple of days later, she said… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Patrick,

did you continue on with your plan?

John
Guest
So my gf broke up with me a month ago. We had been dating for 4 years, and about 6 months prior to this break up, we had broken up for a month and then got back together. This time we broke up, I immediately started the no contact rule. She called me the very next morning crying, and the morning after that. The next day we met up and she said how much she missed me and believed one day she thinks we’re meant to be together. I left and didn’t contact her. 2 days later she texted me… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi,

why did you break up? Her actions were actually common because she’s undecided on whether to get back with you or not, since everything is moving fast because you didn’t actually completed a no contact period right? So, this time, complete at least 30 days, focus in healing and improving yourself, take it as a restart. I think that’s just what you both need.Take it slow in rebuilding the relationship after nc…

John
Guest
Hey there! I broke up with my xgf cause she told me she needed “time” . I followed the no contact and it actually worked! We got on a date, then a second one where she even was flirting with me! We agreed to do things together but she was really busy with her university exams. I didn’ t text her in a couple of weeks then i asked her out. She ignores my message then she texts me back a weak later apologising for the delayed reply telling me she wants to see me after the exams .i replied… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi John,

you could initiate..because you need to build rapport..maybe she’s just waiting for you to initiate

Michael Massoth
Guest
So my gf broke up with me a month ago. We had been dating for 4 years, and about 6 months prior to this break up, we had broken up for a month and then got back together. This time we broke up, I immediately started the no contact rule. She called me the very next morning crying, and the morning after that. The next day we met up and she said how much she missed me and believed one day she thinks we’re meant to be together. I left and didn’t contact her. 2 days later she texted me… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi,

why did you break up? Her actions were actually common because she’s undecided on whether to get back with you or not, since everything is moving fast because you didn’t actually completed a no contact period right? So, this time, complete at least 30 days, focus in healing and improving yourself, take it as a restart. I think that’s just what you both need.Take it slow in rebuilding the relationship after nc…

John
Guest

I left a comment on here a couple days ago and I also sent an email. I’d really like to hear from you guys, that way if she tries to contact me or something I know what to do. Thabks

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi,

why did you break up? Her actions were actually common because she’s undecided on whether to get back with you or not, since everything is moving fast because you didn’t actually completed a no contact period right? So, this time, complete at least 30 days, focus in healing and improving yourself, take it as a restart. I think that’s just what you both need.Take it slow in rebuilding the relationship after nc…

John
Guest

I left a comment on here a couple days ago and I also sent an email. I’d really like to hear from you guys, that way if she tries to contact me or something I know what to do

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi,

why did you break up? Her actions were actually common because she’s undecided on whether to get back with you or not, since everything is moving fast because you didn’t actually completed a no contact period right? So, this time, complete at least 30 days, focus in healing and improving yourself, take it as a restart. I think that’s just what you both need.Take it slow in rebuilding the relationship after nc…

John
Guest

I posted a comment on here a little while ago, but now it’s not showing. I just want to make sure you guys saw it lol. Thanks

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi,

why did you break up? Her actions were actually common because she’s undecided on whether to get back with you or not, since everything is moving fast because you didn’t actually completed a no contact period right? So, this time, complete at least 30 days, focus in healing and improving yourself, take it as a restart. I think that’s just what you both need.Take it slow in rebuilding the relationship after nc…

John
Guest
So my gf broke up with me a month ago. We had been dating for 4 years, and about 6 months prior to this break up, we had broken up for a month and then got back together. This time we broke up, I immediately started the no contact rule. She called me the very next morning crying, and the morning after that. The next day we met up and she said how much she missed me and believed one day she thinks we’re meant to be together. I left and didn’t contact her. 2 days later she texted me… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi,

why did you break up? Her actions were actually common because she’s undecided on whether to get back with you or not, since everything is moving fast because you didn’t actually completed a no contact period right? So, this time, complete at least 30 days, focus in healing and improving yourself, take it as a restart. I think that’s just what you both need.Take it slow in rebuilding the relationship after nc…

Ray
Guest

My girlfriend of four months dumped me for being clingy

If i go to the gym and get a sixpack and upload a photo of my body to social media will she take me back?

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Ray,

I wish it’s that simple but nope.. but improving your health, is one of the important aspects in your life that you should improve..

Noah
Guest

I watched various videos on how to get my ex back and i used the “reminder text” that was common in the videos i texted her and she told me to move on so what do i do?

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Noah,

when and why did you break up? How long was the relationship, did you do no contact period? If yes, how long and how much did you improve? Were you active in posting? If you didn’t improve and were not active in posting, restart it.. What was the exact text you sent?

Noah
Guest

We broke up because she wasnt feeling it. We broke up over a month ago when i sent the message and i did the no contact period. The message i sent was how i was listening to the radio and it reminded me of her.

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

how much did you improve during nc? if you didn’t restart the count. If you did, keep doing it and rest two weeks before initiating again

Nicolas
Guest

Hello,
My ex and I are about to have our second in person meet up, and I am afraid of texting too much. I’ve made it this far and definitely don’t want to mess up now. Should I exchange light texts to twice a week or am I allowed to do it every other day?

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Nicolas,

it’s ok to do it every other day.. Gauge it too if it’s becoming boring, then cut back or change the topics.

Ang
Guest
Hey Amor So i did 3 weeks no contact. I reached out with a reimder text and she replied. I waited a few days and asked hows her new job. She igored the text. Then I waited a few days and asked if she will pay me what she owes me. She replied and said on Sunday. I asked if she heard the new song from her favorite dj and she replied “Of course I did. Anjuna queen here” i then texted “I’m going to try to learn the acousitc on guitar. You should get that tatted !” I recently… Read more »
Ang
Guest

Hi Amor
Me again lol
So I texted her yesterday and she texted she didnt forget to pay me back shes in the process of switching jobs. She got a job as a a behavioral therapist . I replied back”Well in that case i can charge you interest jk. Thats interesting where at?
She didn’t reply back. So I need your advice. I recently got promoted and shes getting a new job do you think there is a way to ask her out to celebrate or is it too soon?

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

I think that’s too soon.. build rapport first..

Ang
Guest

Hey Amor,
So yesterday I finally build rapport. We texted back and forth and I waited like 30-1hr to reply. She would reply back immediately. She told me more about her new job position and I told her about my promotion. The only thing is I didnt end it on a high note. How much rapport should I build to ask her out to celebrate?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

that’s good! but I mean, maybe a few more days of building rapport.. That’s ok, just make up in the next conversations.

Ang
Guest

Hey Amor,
Thanks I will build more rapport. I was wondering if she felt smothered in the past. How much contact would be too much? Like should I wait a few days?

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

try just one or two texting conversations or calls a day..

ang
Guest
Hey Amor, So I texted her on Sunday ” Hey, I came across this shirt. I thought you would like it! It matches your tattoo. She replied in 30 mins ” What the fuck where did you find that at?” I waited a few hours and told her then asked if she is adding to her tattoo. She didn’t reply back until 2:19 am just said to send her the link. I waited until noon and sent her the link and also another link to a funny video. She never replied back. I feel stuck Amor. As I mentioned she… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

I think you should have replied after 15 or 30 minutes too in her first reply.. Because she might have thought she has to mirror your couple of hours reply.. Yes, the texting could help.. And right now, if she still replies a few hours still even if you replied 30 minutes later, rest for few days maybe 3 -5 before initiating again.

Ang
Guest
Hey Amor, So this week I texted her a couple days. On Tuesday I asked her if she purchased the shirt. She replied that she is too broke. So idk if I made a mistake but I told her I want to get it for her as a bday gift. Her bday is next month on the 13th. She replied back ” After the way I acted you don’t have to get me anything. I don’t deserve your kindness.” Then I changed the subject and asked how her new job is treating her? She said its barely her first day.… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Well, she replied positively after that. So, I don’t think it’s negative. Keep building rapport.

ang
Guest
Hey Amor, So on Sunday I texted her to tell her I found the band shirt I thought she had. However, I asked if she has my senior shirt. She replied back ” I still have it. Its mine now”. I replied ” Well when you are done with it being yours would you mind if I have it back?” She replied ‘ no I like it. Let me have it. Its comfortable.” I changed the subject and told her ‘ i would love it back. Hey I entered a fitness competition can I ask you what you think?’ She… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

how about on her birthday? Is she having a party?

ang
Guest

Hi Amor,
I don’t think she is having a bday party but my guess is she might go out with friends for dinner. I know she was making plans to go to a music festival. I want to ask her pressure free. This week even if it has been a few text exchanges we kept in contact since Sunday. I just don’t know how to ask her maybe i just dont want to be rejected loll

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Maybe ask her on the day itself. So, that it’s less pressure for you. It’s ok to be rejected. It’s better than to feel regret.

ang
Guest

Hey Amor,
So I been trying to stay in contact to get to the point to ask her out for coffee or drinks for her bday. Her bday is this Friday. The only thing is she seems distant and now only replies once and ends the conversation. I think she is becoming distant. What should I do? go back into no contact? should I still wish her a Happy Bday?

ang
Guest
Hey Amor, So I wanted to update you, I took the risk and asked her out for drinks. We met up at this cuban restaurant for mojitos. She never had cuban food so she seemed excited to try something new. We caught up and she even flirted with me. I made her laugh and avoided any talk about the relationship. It seemed like she didn’t want it to end because when I walked her to her car she suggested we should go get ice cream. Before leaving she would lean her head against my chest and I rubbed her neck.… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

that’s very good to hear!!! Try again after a week or two 🙂

nic
Guest
Hi. I have recently broke up with my girlfriend. It was a 2 and a half years relationship and we were in a long distance relationship for the past 1 year. Some of the problems which led to this were because we often have communication breakdowns and she gets frustrated by this, she feels i am lazy as a person and spends too much time on games even though i have a full time job and because of this she feels i am someone she cannot depend on. We were alright until 2 weeks ago when she hung out with… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Nic,

dont make decisions that are too life altering that’s only based on getting her back. What happens if you get accepted for permanent residency but you didn’t get her back? Do things for your self and your growth.. Show your improvements by actively posting your activities in social media..Check this one:
My Ex Girlfriend Dumped Me For Another Guy…

Jay
Guest
Hi and thank you guys for your awesome support wish I found this ealier. I will try to be brief. Basically I dated this girl who was chasing me last year December, she’s from a Eastern European background and a young single mother, which she only revealed after month month of dating. However I am a single father too and thought this would workout. Until some drama unfolded that she lives with the ex still but he’s abuses her. I adviced her to leave her home and get some space. She did do this, but in my mind I was… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Jay,

after 14 days, she’ll move out of her ex’s home?

Gabriel
Guest

Hi there, just have one question, according to your” no contact rule” I didn’t have contact with her for five days, but she send me a text, should I reply?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Gabriel,

nope..

Joey
Guest
So my ex girlfriend broke up with me a couple months ago cus she caught me goin somewhere with another girl, but no hooking up or anything just hangin. She told me stuff like I didn’t appreciate. But I do and I truly love her.. So after that we kept goin on and off with each other cause of those situations. And we did this for about two months or so and now it’s more for real cause she’s telling me there’s not goin to be an “US” anymore, she says her feelings are not there anymore, she doesn’t see… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Joey,

so what’s your plan? Keep talking?

Akin
Guest

I really do like this girl and I know she does but she is the type that easily gets tired of stuffs easily, so she complained about me thinking o understand her and all. Long story cut short, she broke up with me and asked if I was willing to be friends indirectly and said she is only bothered I might not want to talk to her again. And I really do like her. Asides the NC, what else can I do to get her cause yeah.,,! She is my ex already as funny as it sounds

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Akin,

there’s no guarantee that the no contact rule will work but it’s recommended because it helps you avoid being friendzoned and it gives you time and space to improve yourself and increase your value

Jay
Guest

Hi EGR, how do I leave a comment to you please?

Many thanks,

Jay

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

jist like what you did in this one..or if you want scroll down to the bottom of the comments in this page..you’ll see a button for comment

steve
Guest
Hi there, I posted a while ago – I took 21 days improved myself and I texted the girl. She’s responding and she seems happy to respond but her text messages are not indicative of someone excited or interested in texting back… she won’t ask me any questions or start a conversation herself. I don’t know how to organically push to a phone call but at the same time, I’m not sure I know how to carry on this text message game. I’ve been trying to end the conversation first, texting her intermittently – but I don’t get a vibe… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Steve,

what topics were you using? How long have you been texting and did you continue improving yourself?

Steve
Guest
I made a list of all the things I know make her tick, all the things she confided in me that she finds interesting or exciting – and I occasionally would bring up a good text and she’d respond. She would take a long time to respond, and when she did respond it would be excited but would be more of a friendly gesture than anything else. Imagine a really good friend rather than someone who you’re pining for. I started texting her exactly on day 21 – very casually and its been about 12 days since. On occasion, in… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

if that’s the case rest for a week or two before trying again and continue being active in social media in those days to show you’re moving on..if after that she’s still unresponsive, then you have to move on

Carlos
Guest

Hello, Just one question, what do you do if she keeps sending you emails and you don’t answer them?
My situation is a bit more complicated there is a gap from about nearly 4 years but we stayed in touch after a year.
Interesting texture by the way, friend.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

hi carlos,
I think it would be better to tell her you need space because you’re moving on and then do the no contact period

Uli
Guest

Great. Now I don’t care about exes, but the details you point out are spot on in what I know to be true in my life. And they can be translated into finding new and better woman.

Peter
Guest
I broke up with my ex girlfriend three months ago. I met her at my school, she was a student who came in later from another school. I was her buddy on her introduction day, it all went really great, and she gave me her number. A few days later, after a lot of texting and all that she invited me to cycle to a nearby town, we did, and it was a lot of fun. We continued to meet for cycling trips, longer and further. It was a lot of fun, we made lots of pictures and we experienced… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi PEter,

if you like her, why would you stay away from her?

David
Guest
I’ve been in a long distance relationship for two years. She was my soulmate. We either texted, spoke, Skyped, every day. But then after 6 months, she ghosted me. That is, she just disappeared without a word, without warning. I eventually found out where she was through a friend, but was still unable to contact her. The thing is, she sees herself as very spiritual. She often goes to a kind of spiritual retreat for…….spiritual stuff…??? Anyway, she eventually called me and tells me that she almost died because my ex wife had put a curse on her and she… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

HI David,

Was the fortune teller right? You don’t have to answer that! 😉 But if he/she were right that would really be crazy.. Anyways, as it crazy as it seems, for me if her practices are that wild, I think the only way you could convince her is through her own game.

Do you know who’s her spiritual advisor?

Jaffe
Guest
2 months ago, my girlfriend and I broke up. I know I wasn’t doing enough to make her feel loved, and now I lost the chance to show her that. I have been thinking about it, and I believe she’s still the one for me cause I still love her to death till this moment. I read that we should establish No Contact in this website, but we work in the same company. Company has 2 levels, she works at level 2, and my place of work is at level 1. We still bump into each other every now and… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

HI Jaffe,

that means you’re going to do limited no contact.. are you in now?