Your Ex Girlfriend Just Wants To Be Friends…. Now What?

Welcome to the friend zone…

It’s cold, lonely and depressing.

Hey, lets just be honest here. If you are in the friend zone you have hit rock bottom because the only thing worse than an ex girlfriend who doesn’t want you back is one that has put you in the friend zone.

I am just going to level with you here.

Being in the friend zone really sucks and it is going to take some serious smarts to work your way out of it.

Luckily you have me!

You can look at me like a decorated ex girlfriend expert.

A friend zone rescuer if you will.

In the next 30 minutes I am going to teach you how to get out of the friend zone (if you have been placed there) and what to do to increase your chances of getting your girlfriend back.

Yes, it will literally take you 30 minutes to read this article from top to bottom.

How do I know that?

Because I write a lot and I go into amazing depth. I probably go into greater depth than anyone talking about exes that you can find online.

So, lets get started!

What Is The Friend Zone?

friend zone

You want to hear something hilarious?

If you go to Google right now and type in,

“What is the friend zone?”

An official definition will actually pop up.

Seriously, check it out below,

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The idea of the “friend zone” has become so popular that Google actually has to give an official definition now.

So, I guess the question on your mind at this point is, is the friend zone that we are going to talk about on this site the same as the official definition Google gave above?

Kind of but not exactly.

When most men imagine the friend zone they imagine a guy who has feelings for a girl and the girl doesn’t reciprocate but she is too nice to be mean to him so she keeps him around as a friend. Well, what I am going to be talking about on this page is a little different.

I am going to be specifically gearing towards a situation where the guy (you) and the girl (your ex) dated in the past, broke up and now the ex girlfriend (your ex) only wants to be friends and nothing more.

I want to teach you how to get out of that situation.

So, my definition of the friend zone is slightly different than the normal one but it is very similar in many ways.

The thing that you have to remember is that there is more hope with my scenario because if your ex girlfriend send you a text like this,

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It isn’t the end of the world because you have already proven that you dated her in the past before and if you did it once you can do it again.

The Negatives Of Being Friend Zoned

I don’t really have to explain the negatives of being friend zoned do I?

Eh…

I had better just to be on the safe side.

Ok, being friend zoned is a lot like getting your legs cut off.

I know that is pretty graphic but it perfectly illustrates my point so lay off.

Imagine that you love running more than anything in the world.

You live and breathe it.

When you wake up in the morning running is on your mind.

When you go to bed at night guess what’s on your mind?

Yup, running!

Now, lets also pretend that you were driving one day and you got into a horrible car accident and the only way that doctors could save your life is if they took your legs.

So, now that you have no legs you can no longer experience the thrill of running.

You can no longer experience what it’s like to take stride after stride and feel like you are on top of the world.

You will never get it back…

Do you see where I am going with this here?

If you get friend zoned you will never get your ex girlfriend back or if you get friend zoned you will never get the girl you want.

It is essentially like having your legs cut off emotionally.

So, you really have two options at this point.

Option 1- Admit Defeat And Move On

Option 2- Show Fortitude And Overcome Being Friend Zoned

Most people admit defeat and move on but you are different, I know you are.

The fact that you have read this far shows me that you are interested in overcoming the obstacle you currently face from your ex girlfriend with being friend zoned(or that I am an amazing writer who knows how to capture your attention.)

So, lets go back to our “losing legs” example.

When someone has lost their legs and loves running what do they do to overcome that problem and run again?

Look below,

flex foot

This is what is known as a carbon fiber flex prosthetic and it’s main purpose is to help people who have no legs walk and run similarly to other people who have their legs.

In other words, someone who loves running but has no legs is going to find a way to overcome the obstacle of having no legs to get the love of their life back, running.

This guide is going to do that for you.

It’s going to map out a game plan for you to get the love of your life back if you have been friend zoned.

I would first like to start by talking about what NOT to do,

Do NOT Be Your Ex Girlfriends Friend

friend zoning

Many guys fall into this trap of being friends with their ex after a breakup.

Here is their thought process,

“Maybe if we are friends she will realize she made a mistake and we can get back together.”

Men who are in this position have to learn the hard way that their ex isn’t going to take them back when they watch her date someone new and they become that friend she relies on for emotional support. Look, there is nothing wrong with relying on each other for emotional support but if you are always wanting more with your ex and she knows that then she is going to take advantage of your feelings so she can feel better about herself.

Let me give you an example.

Lets say that after a breakup with your girlfriend she is constantly calling you to get your opinion on things and you give it to her.

She calls you about problems at work…

Problems at home with her parents…

Problems at school…

I mean, it seems like any time she has a problem you are the first call she makes and you kind of like it that way. It makes you feel like you are an important part of her life but you really aren’t. If you really think about it she is using you for support.

The more you give it the more she craves it.

That’s a good thing, right?

Well, if you are in a relationship with her then yes, it is a good thing.

But you aren’t in a relationship with you.

She is getting more out of it than you are.

Let me put it like this, you are giving her this emotional support right now and you aren’t any closer to getting her back are you?

So, why keep giving her emotional support?

You need to change your approach.

The No Contact Rule Is A Must

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Lets assume that you are friend zoned by your ex girlfriend.

In my opinion, you have two options at this point.

Option 1- Do nothing and stay friend zoned forever.

Option 2- Try the no contact rule and attempt to work your way out of the friend zone.

I took the liberty of italicizing the correct option for you going forward.

Look, I know it may go against every fiber of your being to do a no contact rule on your “friend” but you are going to have to do something drastic to catch her attention and flat out ignoring her for 21 – 45 days is a pretty drastic action.

Why You HAVE To Use The No Contact Rule On Your Ex

You are friend zoned and a great first step to not only get your ex girlfriend back but to get out of the friend zone is by using the no contact rule to your advantage.

Now, you may be asking yourself,

“Why would I ignore my ex out of the blue like that?”

Do you remember what I said above about her using you for emotional support while you don’t get anything in return?

Well, if you continue to let her use you for emotional support then she is just going to continue taking you for granted. In other words, her behavior isn’t going to change.

Hypothetically if you use the no contact rule on her then you are going to make her realize how much she relied on you and you are going to create this feeling of longing for emotional support from you again with her.

For example, lets say that your ex has friend zoned you and you decide to use the 21 day no contact rule on her and around day 7 of this no contact period she reaches out to you because she is very stressed at work and she needs someone to talk to .

Now, before the no contact rule you would have been her knight in shining armor when it came to listening to her problems but now when she reaches out to you there is no response…

You ignore her.

While she may be a little upset at first that feeling of anger is going to be replaced with the felling of loneliness as she now has no one to listen to her problems.

You may worry that she will find someone else to “replace you” if you ignore her.

I hear that one a lot from readers of this site.

Here is what I would like to say to that.

Why would you be upset about being replaced?

That’s a good thing!

Let her friend zone some other guy while you position yourself as a guy who has a legitimate chance to date her.

What Is The No Contact Rule?

Oh, I am sorry.

I may have gotten a little too excited and just told you about the no contact rule without actually explaining what it is.

The no contact rule is an idea that I feature in my book, Ex Girlfriend Recovery PRO, that basically means that you ignore your ex in every form imaginable.

If you start ignoring her and she sends you a message like this,

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Do you continue ignoring her?

Absolutely.

You ignore her calls, her Facebook messages, her texts messages.

This is a complete freeze out and you can’t slip up and respond to her once.

This obviously means you can’t see her in person.

Now, at this point you are probably wondering,

“How long do I have to stay in this no contact period?”

Good question!

FOREVER!

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No I am just kidding…

God, can you imagine a NC that lasts forever? You would actually do that if you wanted to completely get rid of your ex which you clearly don’t want to do.

I usually have three time frames that I recommend for the no contact rule.

  • A 21 day time frame.
  • A 30 day time frame.
  • A 45 day time frame.

Can you guess which one I like recommending to men?

What To Do After The No Contact Rule To Get Out Of The Friend Zone

You have already taken a massive step to getting out of the friend zone if you have done the no contact rule but doing that alone isn’t going to completely pull you out. No, you need to do a lot more.

Below I have created a graphic illustrating everything that you need to be doing after the no contact rule is implemented on your ex girlfriend,

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As you can see there are three main things that I want you to be doing after the no contact rule and they are all an attempt to force your ex girlfriend to look at you like a man of higher value, a man worth dating.

  1. Reverse Friend Zone Her
  2. Give Her Mixed Signals
  3. Be Willing To Walk Away

Do you know what any of this means?

I’d be shocked if you did because I haven’t explained it yet.

What I would like to do for you now is give an in-depth explanation on each of the three main things that you are supposed to be doing after the no contact rule to get out of being in the friend zone with your ex girlfriend.

Lets start with the reverse friend zone.

Reverse Friend Zone Her

Take a look at the woman below,

pretty woman

She’s pretty, right?

What if I told you that you hold the power to dating her in your hands right now?

Would you believe me?

Most of you probably don’t but that’s ok. I am going to make believers out of you today so pay attention.

Lets imagine that the girl above throws herself at you and showers you with all kinds of compliments and asks you out on a date (dinner and a movie.)

Would you say yes?

99% of you probably would.

Well, 99% of you just failed at getting into a relationship with her.

Why?

Because that is what she is used to. She is used to wrapping men around her tiny little fingers. She is used to men saying yes to her every request.

(Hey, with great looks comes great power.)

It’s the 1%  that did the opposite of what the 99% did that actually get to opportunity to be in a relationship with the girl above.

Why?

What did the 1% do that the 99% did not?

Well, the 1% had the power to put the girl above in the friend zone.

The idea of the reverse friend zone is predicated on the idea that humans want what they can’t have. So, by reverse friend zoning your ex girlfriend you are putting yourself in a position where SHE is being friendzoned by you rather than the other way around.

I guess the question you have on your mind now is, how?

How can you implement a reverse friend zone?

How To “Reverse Friend Zone” Your Ex Girlfriend

What do women who have friend zoned you do once they have you in the friend zone?

Well, for starters they walk all over you…

bridge

They talk to you about the men they want to date…

super friends

They make you do ridiculous things for them…

friend zone 9000

Oh, and my personal favorite…

They make you get these awesome rings!

epic friend zone

Ok, all kidding aside women have given you a gift by friend zoning you.

(I am a glass half full kind of guy and try to turn negatives into positives so bear with me here.)

What is the gift that women have given you?

They’ve given you a complete game plan for how to reverse friend zone them.

Seriously, just do exactly what they did to you, to them.

For example, lets pretend that you are moving into a new apartment and you need help moving. Well, in that case the thing that you want to do is call up your ex girlfriend and ask her to help you move (just like she would call you up and ask you to help her move.)

Assuming she says yes (which we will for this example) make her help you for hours with the move.

After all the heavy lifting and work is done walk over to her and say this exact phrase to her,

“Thank you so much (insert exes name) I couldn’t have done this without you. You are a great FRIEND.”

Another popular way that you can reverse friend zone your ex is talk to her about your relationship troubles.

For example, talk to her about a cute girl you saw on the job the other day and how you are thinking of asking her out. Ask for her advice on how to do that. You want your ex to feel like she isn’t a top priority to you anymore. In fact, if you do this right you can incite some jealousy.

One last thing before we move on.

Friend zoning an ex girlfriend isn’t going to be an overnight process. It is going to take time and you are going to have to stick with it but if you do it correctly your ex is going to be the one that where you are right now and you are going to be where she is.

Do you see how the roles completely reversed there?

Pretty cool, huh?

Ok, lets move on to sending mixed signals.

Sending Mixed Signals To Your Ex Girlfriend

mixed signals

Another way you can really mess with your ex girlfriends mind and get her to classify you outside of the friend zone is to send her mixed signals.

Now, what do I mean when I say,

“Send your ex girlfriend mixed signals?”

Well, I don’t mean ask her out on a date one day and stand her up the next.

While technically that is a “mixed signal” that isn’t the type of mixed signal I want you to send.

Remember, your goal here isn’t just to get out of the friend zone it is to actually get her back. So, don’t alienate her to the point where she never wants to see you again because you stood her up on a date.

We are looking for “light” mixed signals.

A few examples spring to mind.

The first one is an actual story that happened to me.

So, get your popcorn out and get ready to laugh.

My Mixed Signal Story

A very long time ago I liked a girl and I was under the assumption that she liked me too.

(You know that any time a story starts off that way it’s going to be bad.)

We went on a date and I remember thinking after the date ended that it went extremely well.

I was on!

She laughed at all my jokes.

We talked for a good hour or two about family values and all that good stuff.

I literally thought I was a shoe in for a second date.

Boy was I wrong.

After the date was over I remember telling her,

“We should do this again, that was really fun”

Her response,

“Absolutely, I had a great time!”

Now, I am the type of guy that likes to lock down plans ahead of time so I immediately went to work on the second date a few days after the first date.

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Great!

Second date locked up.

Except a few days later I get this text,

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Could she be standing me up?

Nah… I am sure she is telling the truth.

So, like any great man I tried to adapt to the change and ask her out again which she accepted and then promptly stood me up again.

This happened three times before I finally got the hint.

And then one day out of the blue she texts me this,

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Just to clarify I haven’t kissed this girl or even come close to it.

I am a bit of a prude that way.

So, I was a little taken aback when she texted me that one day.

I mean, when a girl texts you that she misses you and wants to kiss you, you begin to think she may like you.

Well, that was the last I heard from her for a couple of weeks and then when I brought the kissing text up to her she said that she was in the hospital and was delirious when she sent it…

Hmm… I seem to be getting a lot of mixed signals from this girl and I didn’t like it.

Nevertheless, the mixed signals from her made me think she might want to date me for the stretch of six months.

Yes, I was on the hook for six months.

Now, imagine if you can do this to your ex girlfriend and get her on your hook for six months.

Pretty powerful stuff, huh?

I mean, not only will you friend zone her but by sending her mixed signals she will constantly think she has a chance to get you and then think she won’t and then think she will.

Mixed Signals Creates A Roller Coaster Effect

What is the one thing roller coasters and mixed signals have in common?

They take you up and down and all around!

roller

A roller coaster takes you on a big climb and then a big drop and then on another climb again and then on another drop again.

Heck, sometimes a roller coaster spins you for a loop…

Take a look at the graphic above for a visual reference point if you need it.

Everyone loves roller coasters, right?

We are addicted to them.

They excite us.

They make us want to ride them again and again.

Mixed signals in a relationship kind of do the same thing that a roller coaster does.

They make us think that we are going to get into a relationship with someone and then they take that hope away right when we think we have it in the bag and then at the very last moment they restore the hope again.

You need to do this to your ex girlfriend and create a roller coaster effect that will cause her to continually chase you.

Now, you may be wondering if women even like this.

YES but they won’t ever admit it.

On my other site, Ex Boyfriend Recovery, the number one question I get asked from women besides,

“Should I do the no contact rule?”

Is

“Why does he keep sending me mixed signals?”

These are women are are actively looking to try to get their ex boyfriends back. Heck, these women could be your ex girlfriend if you do this tactic correctly and then everyone wins. Your ex works to get you back and she visits my other site 😉 .

Thanks!

Lets move on and talk about the walking away portion of getting out of the friend zone.

Sometimes You Have To Be Willing To Walk Away To Get The Girl

walk away

I am just going to level with you.

Sometimes the guy that is willing to walk away is the guy that gets the girl.

What do I mean by that?

Lets say that you try all of the methods above.

You friend zone your ex…

You implement the roller coaster method I talked about…

You try the no contact rule…

Essentially you do everything right and despite all of your efforts she still won’t look at you as a potential love interest.

Sometimes the smartest thing that you can do to win her back is to just walk away and end your relationship with her entirely.

What I mean by that is to just flat out end your association with her entirely.

Move on!

Is it extreme?

Yes.

Can it be effective?

Absolutely!

But why?

Well, sometimes women get a bit of the grass is greener syndrome in that as they go out and experience other things they begin to realize how good they had it with you and begin to want you back.

I would like to tell you a story that I have dealt with recently where this very thing happened.

Last month with my other site, Ex Boyfriend Recovery, I began a podcast where I allowed women to record a voicebmail and I would answer their questions on air. One of the first women to call in had the following question,

Should I take my ex boyfriend back?

What had happened in her situation is that he broke up with her and then as she moved on and improved her life he took notice and began to want to be a part of her life again. It made me think that sometimes the best thing anyone can do to re-attract their ex is to completely press the reset button and revisit the situation later after they have significantly improved her life.

Imagine the following scenario.

Your ex girlfriend friend zones you.

You try to combat this by using my advice above but nothing works.

So, after coming to this realization you decide to just move on with your life.

You work on improving your life and finding inner peace, happiness, success and all that good stuff.

After a year passes your ex girlfriend calls you out of the blue and seems to be interested in you again. After you try some very basic “get your ex back” techniques you find yourself on a date with her…

All of a sudden you appear to be out of the friend zone and it was all made possible because you walked away.

I can’t tell you how many situations I have seen that turn out this way exactly…

Food for thought.

		

Written by EGR team mate

Chris Seiter

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Karl
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Hello Chris, Amor, I was in a long distance relationship, we were very passionate when she broke up 1 year ago and got back with her ex. I did not beg and started NC for 2 months. I had improved A LOT when she reached out to me. I was able to successfully rebuild rapport and trust, and now we are texting very often (because distance). She was always and is still kind of my best friend. When she finally left her ex two weeks ago, it drove all my hopes back up again. Except that she started a dating… Read more »
Dillon
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I broke up with my girlfriend about 2 months ago now but we have not stopped talking since we started dating. This is the second time in the last couple months we’ve broken up, but the first time was for only a few weeks before we jumped right back into the relationship. I realize now more than ever that I have made a gigantic mistake thinking we needed to work on our issues apart rather than together/ I have since told her how I’ve felt but she says she only wants to be friends right now. Like I said, we… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Dillon,

do you want to try the nc rule? If yes, then you have to cut contact her.. tell her being friends is not working for you but don’t tell her about the nc rule.

Louis
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My girlfriend and i just broke up last night.. She called me and said i should drive home to her because she wanted to talk about our relationship. We have been together since the 1st day of University the 1st of september, where we really matched together. Så we have been together for 6 months now. We go in different classes. So last night she was crying and told me that the “sparkle” she had for me had gone. And it got away 2 weeks ago. She has been thinking about our relationship since and it had troubled her mind.… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Louis,

Do nc because if you don’t you’re more likely to be friendzoned.

Rich
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So my girlfriend moved out about 11 months ago. Since then, nothing changed much we remained best friends and hung out multiple times a week. after about 7 more months of realizing we are just friends we took the relationship off of social media. We continued to hang out as nothing changed. I just recently found out a week or two ago she has been talking/hanging with someone new, way below what deserves. Even though we had been broken up, not much changed so I was very surprised. She said he likes him and she is just going with the… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Rich,

You’re already friendzoned.. So, it’s better to try nc instead of continuing what you did these past few months.. Do at least 30 days..

Thomas Murphy
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So my girlfriend broke up with me in April she said it was some personal stuff and I didn’t really believe her I just thought she got bored and wanted to move on. She said then that she wanted to be friends but I just couldn’t be because it was too stressing for me to talk to her. Anyway after school started again, around October I had met another girl and started to talk to her. Then a week or two of talking to this new girl my ex stops me and says that she is leaving next year and… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Thomas,

do you want to try to get back with her or continue on with the new girl? Because if you want to continue on with the new girl, then it doesn’t matter if your ex wants to be friends or not.. but if it’s just about the reason why she wants to be friends, it’s either it’s really just for the sake of not burning bridges or she still has feelings for you.

Kurtis Shephard
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Well me and my girlfriend just broke 2 weeks ago but nothing bad happened we just had a misunderstanding and she’s saying stuff like she doesn’t want to hurt me and we’ve only been dating for 2 months but I’ve known her all my life because our parents worked together so I grew up with her and I’ve falling in love with her and we also had feelings on and off for each other since grade 7 but never decided to tell each other till like 5 months back she pretty much just hurt her self because she’s scared of… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Kurtis,

Try the nc rule and the advice above first.. if it doesn’t work, then move on..

xsoe
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Native english speaker here. Hi, my ex girlfriend of 6 months brokeup with me one week ago, and it getting worse and worse for me everyday. I didnt cheat on her or anything, but i have written with a girl who i used to date but, and i didnt tell her that, which i shouldn’t have. Before she broke up with me, she checked my phone and found the messages between the girl and i. I apologized to her og regretted everything, but it was too late. She said that she doesnt want to be in a relationship with me… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi,

Yes, restart nc and follow the advice on what to do if you cheated..even though you think you didn’t..for her you did..

wew
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Native english speaker here. Hi, my ex girlfriend of 6 months brokeup with me one week ago, and it getting worse and worse for me everyday. I didnt cheat on her or anything, but i have written with a girl who i used to date but, and i didnt tell her that, which i shouldn’t have. Before she broke up with me, she checked my phone and found the messages between the girl and i. I apologized to her og regretted everything, but it was too late. She said that she doesnt want to be in a relationship with me… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi,

Yes, restart nc and follow the advice on what to do if you cheated..even though you think you didn’t..for her you did..

Patrick Melia
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My ex girlfriend reached out to me after three months of NC (she dunped me by text in May via text). She still wants us to be friends because I’m a nice guy. I asked her does she even see us working again and she said I’m not sure, who know what life brings. She asked me and I said yes I’d like to.

She said I can’t promise anything, need to be friends first. Is she using me as her backup plan?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

It’s too early to say that…

Shane
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My situation seems textbook but just a little different. We have a child together. So the no contact rule can’t work. As I’m writing this message she is laying on the couch sleeping and I am laying on the other end with out heads almost touching. She says she loves being friends with me. She has me stay the night 3-4 times a week. Never sexual. But she has me rub her back, legs and butt. When we did date we were young. Both were in the wrong but I did hurt her. She holds onto that. She sees that… Read more »
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Tommie
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Hi, I read your article it’s pretty damn good but check this scenario… so my ex got into this drama with her ex husband abuse but we was together during this time so she planned will to move out of state with her kids to get away from the drama so happens next willing to come with her but she wasn’t sure she was actually going to do it or not so one night she decided she was going to take off and I asked to can I come to the airport to see her off but we wasn’t breaking… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Tommie,

Looks like you are being played
And I think you know it.. It would be better to move on

Zack
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Hey, just finished reading the article and I realised that some of the methods didn’t work (i’d tried them just over a month ago) our relationship was pretty good at the start and lasted for about 11 months, I had left her intentionally as I was upset with her behavior with other guys (she went up to a guy almost immediately after I broke up with her and got rejected) I had asked her about her feelings towards other guys as she got way too sticky to some guys and almost ignored me and she told me that there was… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Zack,

There’s no guaranteed method. The no contact rule only helps in increasing your chances

murph
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So my ex girlfriend jus told me we should be friends after I asked her if she was canceling our weekend plans to see someone else-She got very angry with em and did not talk to me for a day or 2-but now wants to friendzone me-She always accuses me of being promiscious asking me if I like her friend-but when I asked that one question all hell breaks loose-why did she breakup with me and friendzone me after saying that

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Murph,

When did you break up?

murph
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OCT 1-maybe its because she is Cancer sign-I kept texting her that I’m sorry and taht it was subconscious because of my past relationships-now she tells me to leave her alone stop messagin her and that it is not going to work out-should i give her space then try to re enter-or stop completely-she is the love of my life-when i said that she says now I look at her as if shes a promiscious grl

murph
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I’m sorry Oct 6 so like 4 days ago i havent stopped txtin her..but i might now for at least 2 weeks

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Make it 30 days no contact period.. Be active in improving yourself and in posting in social media.

murph
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ok so she called me to hangout as friends-and we hungout at the hot tub being pretty physical with eachother-what does this mean-when i asked her if she misses me she said “no you wish” . what do you think she is trying to do now

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

She’s friendzoning you

Tony
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Hi. My case is quite tough. The highlights – I had a relationship for many years with my ex girlfriend. Both of us were married, having 2 kids each. So it was a parallel relationship for both of us. Great time. Building plans for the future…. She was pregnant with her second kid when we met and she wanted to be with me and she was seeing the kid as an obstacle. I managed to convince her to keep the child and now she is very proud of his son. Back then she was pushing me to merry her. I… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Tony,

Sorry, I need to ask to be clear. In those years, you were both cheating with your spouses? But now you”re on the process of divorce but she’s still with her husband? If she doesn’t have plans of divorcing him, move on.

Darrious
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Me and my ex broke up 4 months ago. And we’ve had a LOT of problems since. I lost my bestfriend a month later and said some very nasty things to her during my grieving process that I wish I could take back. I never truly implemented the NC rule. She just unblocked me after putting me in a full out block (phone, fb, even POF) We just started talking again but she literally just told me she loves me as a friend. I just sent her a message saying I give up. But I really want her back. I… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Darrious,

Start the nc rule now, do at least 30 days.. Focus in yourself first..heal and improve first..if you want to try with your ex initiate contact after nc, continue improving yourself while slowly rebuilding rapport

kelvin
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I’ll try this again, my ex broke up with me a week ago because shes moving for school shed be there for 5 years. We’ve talked about the breakup and it looks like its hitting me harder than it hit her. I love her and she says she still loves me and that after she finishes school we could try again. Today i said goodbye and im starting no contact. I finish school in 2 years and I would move to her after that. I would just like some input because im lost right now.

kelvin
Guest
my ex girlfriend of a year and 2 months just broke up with me because shes leaving to new york for 4 ish years for school, over the months leading into it ive asked her did she want to break up ,see other people or whatever else but she said no and that she wanted to do long distance. Well a few days ago that changed and she said she thought she could manage but thinks now that she can’t. She says when she moves back after school we can date then . I love her and im so lost… Read more »
travis patterson
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My girlfriend broke up with me two months ago. We have been on again and off again for the last 4 years. We have a daughter that will turn 3 in October. We have went time with out contacting each other and she even told me she had feelings for another man. I have done all the wrong things in this relationship. I was clingy, hurtful, damaged her emotionally, and by the end we fought alot. Most of this was pure ignorance by my part and some of it was just being clueless on my part. All of this has… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Tell her You’re not going to stop being a great father to your child but you hope she understands but, that’s not workable for you right now and that you would continue to co-parent as the way you’ve been doing it for the meantime. And then later on, don’t say, hey I’m ready to do thing with both of you now. Just start inviting her later on.. that would be like your meeting up phase after the texting and calling phase.

Jim
Guest
Hi, after my ex broke up with me she said she wanted to be friends, I said I couldn’t and have been in no contact for 13 days now, I am thinking the best approach is to message her after 21 days and say something along the lines of “Hey (ex’s name) just want you to know i’m perfectly fine with just being friends :)” After saying this I would then start giving mixed signals (sometimes having lengthy text conversations and then other times ignoring them for a day or so, or giving one word responses) Are there any flaws… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Jim,

How much are you improving yourself and how active are you in posting? It would be better to just be friendly than to inform her because it sounds like you’re asking permission

liam
Guest

hey i sent an email then saw it said i would get a quicker response if i post on here.. just a quick question. after the no contact period is done how do i start messaging again to then start the next stage? and what do i say if she asks why i stopped talking for so long? also is it impossible for me to get out of the friendzone if i have now been in it for roughly 8 months??

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Liam,

check the links below. ANd yeah, it’s still possible to get out of the friendzoned. It will depend on how much you improved yourself.
How To Use Text Messages To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back
How To Reconnect With Your Ex Girlfriend

Josh
Guest
My story: So me and my ex dated for a little more than 2 years. I was in deep love with her and I felt like she was too. She was my best friend and we did so much together. About 3 weeks ago she broke my heart and told me she wasn’t feeling the same anymore and does not want to be in a relationship with me anymore. She also cried saying that she didn’t want to lose having me in her life and still wanted to be friends. That happened on a Friday and Sunday we spoke again… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Unblock her and post in social media sites where posts lasts and be active in improving yourself and follow the advice above

Aaron
Guest
I recently parted ways with a girl who I dated for about 6 weeks. She said she broke up with me because she had a gut feeling things wouldn’t work out. That gut feeling arose very suddenly, she claimed, not even a week before she gave me the axe. After talking through it for a bit, I politely accepted her breakup. She didn’t provide any details, but I think the reason why she broke up with me was because I was getting a little clingy. I’ve read a few of your articles since then, and I’ve been spending a lot… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

You can stay the same way with your friends.. When you’re all together, pay more attention to them

David
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Hello, my girlfriend and I broke up a week ago and she said we needed to be friends before we tried to get back together, so I agreed and have already hung out with her, but i realize nkw that this was a mistake. what should I do i don’t want to be friendzoned? I started the no contact period yesterday, but should I tell her we can’t be friends, I want to win her back but I don’t want to be pushy either please help!!

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

You can tell her being friends is not workable for now

aman
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i m talking to my ex and she just behave like she don’t care about me i m also showing i don’t care about her but we tlk like we r strangers i m miss our old conversation what should i do so that she take me back and start doing that old conversation

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Are you going to do the no contact rule?

aman
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hii i have dated my childhood crush for 6 months and it was a grat date i have done in my life and she always tolds me that i m the best boyfriend she ever get she told me that never leave me she loves me alot and in reality she cares alot but some day her mom get to know about our relation and told her not to be with me so to find a way how to convience her mother i contacted my ex to get her help to know how to convince her mom than she told… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

do you want to try the advice above? and why does her mother hate you?

aman
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she don’t hate me for a specific reason she is just concern about her daughter and i m from different cast

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Are you going to do the no contact rule?

Houston chapman
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My girlfriend and I of 5 years broke up because she said she didn’t see herself marrying me and we’re are both 22 but we still had sex on a weekly basis even though she said that she saw me more as a friend than a boyfriend. She wanted to marry me two years ago and I said I wasn’t ready and now she said she doesn’t want to because I didn’t want to two years ago. I didn’t talk to her for a week at a time and it’s only been 2 weeks and we talked a little on… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

aside from no contact, you have to improve yourself and be active in posting and then slowly rebuild rapport after while continuing to improve yourself before proceeding to the dating phase

Xavier
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Hello,

My girlfriend and I have been broken up for 4 months now, and we have been texting maybe twice a week since the 3 month mark after no contact the first month. I have been trying to meet up with her but she been “busy” so we never have, finally she told me she “doesn’t want to start up anything again”.

Should I just do no contact because she just wants me to be persistent to build her ego up? I’m leaning towards no contact.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Yeah, you should restart nc and really make it like you’re moving on and continue improving yourself

Bruce
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Hi, my gf broke up with me 1 month ago. She told me she can’t love me the way I love her and can’t treat me good enough which was true. I didnt contact her for a week after the break up and then I tried to get back with text every 3 days or so. She told me she wanted to remain friends but I said no. Yesterday I told her we can be friends just to apply the no contact rule. Today she texted me to ask how I am doing and I replied shortly. My question is… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Send a clean slate text.. Tell her it’s not working for you to be friends for now.. And then stick to nc and follow the advice above

Bruce
Guest

Hi, we just met yesterday as 2 friends. The only subject about relationship we talked was that she asked if I am flirting with someone. I lied and said yes. She also told me she is flirting with someone but she doesnt want to be in a relationship with him. What do I do now? By the way I’m 35 and she is 29. Thank you…

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

are you continually building rapport now?

Bruce
Guest
I’m not sure about the rapport. We met last week and she got super drunk and she told me she might be in love with someone else. Then I asked “why are you here with me then?” she said “because I love you (as a person) and I feel safe next to you. 2 days later I texted her asking if remembers the things she said that night. She said no and I reminded her. She said that she is not in love with someone and she thinks the same way about me(referring to the statements she made when she… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Just keep being active in your own life while you’re slowly building rapport with her so that you will be more rational and to avoid worrying too much

Abhilash
Guest
Hi… I was in a relationship with a girl when I was 11. We both loved each other very much, and she always used to chase me. She was sending me desperate messages, and calling me daily.. She was madly in love with me. In fact, we were both madly in love with each other. We were in a relationship for 5 years. Then, after my high school period ended, my parents got to know about her and they warned me not to date her. I was afraid, and so I didn’t call or text her. We got separated and… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Why not ask her to be official with you? If you already did it, why did she decline?

Sam
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currently on an iffy relationship with gf. She broke up with me 2 years ago and got back together with her ex and went to be friends with me. I said fuck that and stopped talking to her. I worked on improving myself which i did. Now about 3-4 months ago we got back together because things didnt work out with her ex. Now we are having problems because of a few issues she is having with my family due to her leaving for her ex bf in the first place. Right now she is saying we arent together and… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Sam,

do you want to try the advice above?

Irfan
Guest
Hey. I hope you are going great. My story: I met thia girl over fb. She is divorced with 2kids and 32 years of age. Im 26. We talked a lot and went to video calls. We never met in person. She treated me awesome and we planned about our mariage amd all. We dated for 6 weeks. Then after i pushed her out of my nonsense to her husband saying its better for her and kids to be with their dad. She refused and refused and i pushed and pushed. At the end she talked him and are now… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Irfan,

you should move on from her.. I understand it really hurts, that’s because it ended in the honeymoon period.

Irfan
Guest

Ah!!!! Her husband had left her in past 3 times and 4th time divorce occured. I hope he leaves her again then maybe i have a chance. Is it like this? She used to tell me that she never felt so much love for anyone in her life like she felt for me. Was i just a rebound guy? I love her. I die for her every second.

Rajan
Guest
Hi, me and my ex were dating online for almost 2 years. the 26th would have been 2 years. we never once met each other in real life, she lives in Indiana and I live in Georgia. The annoying part of this relationship was the fact that her parents did not want her to date online but she did it anyways and kept me a secret, otherwise she would have gotten all of her stuff taken away. She also did not have a car the whole time and does not have a license. She would leave with her mom to… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

hmmm..do you have a plan on meeting each other?

Rajan
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We did when we were together. I was going to move up to indiana when i had enough money. But moving up there now would be weird and stalker like. and we all know how that’ll go…..shes still on her family trip at the moment and we are still in no contact since she has no phone, but before she left she said we could be friends. sooooo im basically just waiting until she comes back and see what shes going to text me on kik.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

at least you had a plan.. right now, initiate at least 30 days of no contact period, be active in improving yourself and be active in posting in social media..also, how old are you both?

Rajan
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I am 22 and she is 23. Well now she texted me saying that they came back early today and shes now back home. Yes i am have already started to focus on myself and i am starting to feel like my old self again. not the mean controlling and clingy guy i was at the end of the relationship. But yeah she texted me ok kik saying that they came home early because everyone else was leaving to go back to work on monday. and then she woke up early randomly at like 7 in the morning and installed… Read more »
Rajan
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Ok so after her texting me at 1 yesterday. she texted me again at 5 on skype and on kik saying only “hey”. so it is now the next morning and i completely ignored her yesterday for her first day back home. not sure exactly what to do at this point.

Rajan
Guest

ok.. so i ended up replying 24 hours later saying: “HEY! I was busy. I was out with a friend! But I got your message. Wassup? Hope all is well with you!! :)” and she replied around 9:40 tonight saying: “Hey, Yes all is well with me 🙂 thanks!” thats all for now. im just not sure what to do from here?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

that means you didn’t proceed in nc right? I still advise doing it and finishing at least 30 days because keeping on talking to her will more likely make youn friedzoned..

Rajan
Guest

Yeah, but today so far makes 4 days nc. so its going now so far, but what if she contacts me?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

that means you will not reply

Rajan
Guest

Ok. well so far we’ve had no contact for 12 days and she hasnt been on skype and hasnt tried contacting me at all. has she fully forgotten me. im afraid this is a bad sign

Rajan
Guest

UPDATE:

She texts me now and she always tells me what shes doing. She texts me whenever she can and lets me know what shes up to. I just dont understand how to read this and how to go about it

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

don’t always reply.. and if you do, be the one to end the conversations.

shatsang
Guest
Hi…. Just a few months back i broke up with my girlfriend. After that she said she’s in no mood to be in another relationship anymore. I begged her to forgive me for a mistake i committed n just stay with me, cos i loved her just so much. But she turned me down saying ‘ u n i are never happening ever again..don’t even try anymore’. It really broke my heart so bad. THEN, right after we broke up, she hooked up with a new guy who’s her bf now. It kills me to know that she so easily… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

do you want to try the no contact rule and be very active in chaging to increase your chances?

Luke
Guest
Hi. I was dating this girl for 4 months (she is in my class). Then I messed things up pretty bad and we stopped talking for two weeks. After those two weeks I apologised to her and asked for a second chance, but she said that she doesnt trust me anymore and she cant be more than friends with me. Then we were friends for about a month and then she started to send me mixed signals and I asked her if she is ready to give me another chance. She got mad, we had a fight and didnt talk… Read more »
Luke
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P.S.: I forgot to mention that she is not seeing anyone at the moment.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Luke,
Try to build more rapport slowly by talking to her more through texts and calls and if you didn’t improve yourself before, start now.

Pearson
Guest
Hey, so myou gf of 2 years just broke up with me because I found a message of her talking to a guy I had previously asked her not to and she’s saying it was a breach of her privacy which I totally get. However, since the breakup we have been talking as if nothing happened and we’re planning on getting together this week. But I couldn’t go into it with the wrong intentions so I called her. She told me that she wants sometime to breathe from this relationship and to heal. She said right now she only wants… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Pearson,

You’re probably right. Start the no contact rule.. Stick to at least 30 days and make her regret through your improvements..

Hyo
Guest
Hey, my story is: We have met in Decemeber and from the start she told she would move to other country at mid of January, that didnt matter at the time, we started dating and doing everything possible a couple would do, we were in love totally. After she moved out everything was good until at some point unconscious i put pressure on her and she started losing interest in me and everything felt apart. she said we should never had started this since we had no time almost ( 1month and half together before she move out) and that… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Hyo,

if you broke up and now you’re friendzoned, try at least 21 days of no contact

Kyle
Guest
Hey so recently my girlfriend of about 2 years broke up with me. We had a really good relationship never really fought where intimate and then out of the blue she dumped me. She said that her feelings have changed and that she will always love me but she just isn’t in love with me anymore. But she still wants to be friends and hangout as friends and talk to each other but just as friends. So being who I am I wanted to fix things and work them out cause after 2 years I found it mind boggling how… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Kyle,

just be civil and polite when you meet. It’s ok to go on dates just dont outright get into another relationship too soon

Andrew
Guest
So here is my story. I had been dating this woman for close to 10 months (although she wouldn’t say dating for a while even though her own close friend told her in July we were not casually dating). I have been around her daughter and watched her while she was out of town. Everything felt like a relationship. She is still legally married (they have been separated for almost a year and a half). Early on she was back and forth with I need space and then come right back. She talked about marriage again and kids but I… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Andrew,

that may be right but the more important matter is if you improved and how much did you improve?

Ronnie
Guest
So my ex and i broke up at the end of December. Her idea of course throughout January was nice she said she needed soace and occasionally we would go out on dates. February came around and i noticed she started going out with friends and make friends and i got jealous cuz she would cancel to hang with her friends. We got into an arguement and said we could never get back together but she still wants to hopefully one day remain friends. Do i still have a chance? That was a week ago. We havent talked since. Obviously… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Ronnie,

Try the no contact first. If it doesn’t work, then move on.

Tam G
Guest
Me and my ex broke up last week sunday. She said that she just wants to be friends, so I made the mistake by going with her to a place for a coffee and I could feel being friend zoned so hard. The worst was that I couldnt even hold her hand whilst walking in the streets that we loved. I decided to start the NC rule and its quite hard. She is studying in a student town and I constantly hear from my friends that also study there that they see her walking with other guys and meeting up… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Tam G,

go for the last time and then start the count of nc after that.

Heartbroken
Guest
Hi. So my girlfriend of just over a year broke up with me the day after Valentine’s for lying to her about something somewhat insignificant. After begging and pleading for an hour or so she agrees to be friends with a possibility of us getting back together IF I can change my ways. Spent all weekend together as friends which kills me as I love this girl to death and she could be the one. I spent all day on Monday coming up with a letter which I read to her in person that night saying how much I will… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Heartbroken,

You’re now friendzoned, so do you want to try the advice above?

Jandre
Guest
The NC rule worked like a charm! (im 24 now and she will be 20 in a few months.we dated for 2 years and she left me with wanting space excuse.) My ex girlfriend and i started talking regularly and everything was going well, but there was another guy in the picture (long distance for her). but she was all over me an it felt like a relationship again but with no commitment.there was a lot of ups and downs with feelings and she always said she loves me still and never wanted me to even look at other girls… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Jandre,

The thing is, she knows how long you two would be silent, so, it’s not really a no contact rule. I think you have a chance but let’s wait what happens after that meet up before deciding what the next step is.

Jandre
Guest

Okey so i told her 14 days but i decided 30 days cause i have to flip the power to me if she wonders where i am now. so should i take it this far for her to actualy heal or hope that she will “chase” me again? As i should state she is very stubborn. should i also start friendzoning her with the advice above.(she tends to be very jealouse of every girl i just look at so this would be easy for me.)

Jandre
Guest

I also wanted to say that i appreciate the feedback very much thank you.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

You’re welcome! I just want to make it clear, you’re not going to meet her after 2 weeks, you’re just going to stick to 30 days no contact rule? If yes, make it count. Be very active in improving yourself and be active in posting in social media.

Jandre
Guest

hey yes im sticking to the 30 day NC for her to realise that i will “move on” from her. not sure if she will ever check my profiles on social media again but im not blocked from anything.noticed she is still following me on instagaram even though i am not.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

she’ll probably check it. It’s human nature to be curious when something that’s routine, (like you talking to her)stopped happening.

Jandre
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Hi Amor. okey so she reached out to me on facebook through inbox yesterday (wednesday 1 march). She sent me a funny GIF saying hi. I did not respond cause the NC is still on until the 15th this month. should i continue th NC or answer her?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

continue nc..

Jandre
Guest
(UPDATE) Hi amor. (sorry for all the questions)first of all ive been working on myself alot like hitting the gym an doing stuff i never did before to figure out what i actualy like in life. So last friday (3rd of March) she inbox me on FB again politely asking me her stuff back (she never cared about it till now and its just a face towel and eyebrow trimmer.) and saying that she hopes that i have a great weekend. (didnt answer at all of course NC.) 2 days after i posted a picture of myself on instagram and… Read more »
Jandre
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hi Amor. Dont know if i can ever trust her if i reconnect with her again. She sent me a funny pic we used to laugh at together on watsapp last friday (the 10 march) but what i saw on her profile pic them crushed me.(another guy) as hard as it was i searched him and yeah within 4 days of our last “talk” she started reeling this guy in after stating she was going to be single for a while. So to my conclution there wasnt just the one guy at the time we were trying to fix things… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

you mean she cheated on you? If she talked to him after the break up, he’s more likely a rebound.. If he’s just a rebound, initiate after nc..

Jandre
Guest
Hi Amor I wouldnt concider it cheating cause we werent officialy back together, but after the first NC she came back and pulled me closer everyday whilst having two other “admirers” on the side line. (basically “dating” them both. I knew cause a friend of her’s told me she has someone else).Their both long distance. I knew only about the one guy which she said she dumped at he last minute. So where im getting at is that this guy she is with now , she starting dating as soon as i started no contact again. (so he was already… Read more »
Jandre
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Oh yes wanted to ask…does this mean she is capable of cheating if she could hide al this from me?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

everybody is capable but if she is hiding it, that can also mean she doesn’t want you to get hurt because she’s still hoping

Evan
Guest
Hey so me and my ex girlfriend broke up at the end of November. She was the one that broke up with me and I didn’t see it coming at all. I begged for her for about a week and a half regretfully, and then decided to try no contact. I did no contact for about 35 days and she didn’t contact me at all during this period. Then I texted her and things seemed to be going great until about four days later when she texted me telling me she appreciates me trying to be friends with her but… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Evan,

you have to get rid of her impression of you now that you’re still hung up on her.. I admit the more you do nc the less it’s effect but her knowing that you still have feelings just puts you in the chaser position. So, I think you should do one last nc just for 21 days but, make the most of it. Improve massively, go out more

Jay
Guest
Hi Amor, I have a situation I really need your advise on please I been watching a lot of chris videos. I recently been dumped by my ex because she went back to her ex and we were engaged. I done a 14 no contact and she reached out and we met etc.. We met for drinks and we kissed etc, however I always had on my mind the ring and stuff so 4 days ago after seeing a pic of them on FB pic profile It drove me to get my ring back, we spoke on the phone and… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

HI Jay,

she went back to her abusive boyfriend, being friends with her after doing that is like saying you don’t value yourself. Do at least 45 days.. Be very active in improving yourself because if the guy is really abusive she would miss a person like you, and even more if she sees you’re improving. After that, it would be easier to be friendly.

Jay
Guest

Hi Amor,

Thanks for getting back to on the 15th of feb email feed. Think it’s too long to copy and paste. It’s been about 3 months since she’s gone back with him. What do I do if she contacts me via text because she needs to give my stuff back, do I respond? My ex wants to meet up, should I do this? Thanks, jay

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

If you want, meet up first and then decide if you’re going to do the no contact period. You can talk about giving stuff back but only about that during nc period.

DX
Guest
hey; a year ago i was use this rule for 33 days and she texte me many times , in the last she texte me and i reply to cause i miss her alot , she say i love u but i didn’t bilieve that(i knowing in this period she got a metting with my bestfriend and go with him out ;and they kissed i see that in my bestfriend snapchat story ) , even that i speake to her and ask to go out toghter 3 times but she won’t ,after we broke up again and i use the… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Dx,

you talked for a year? Do you want to try the advice above and do no contact again?

DX
Guest

i wan’t to try it again but i’m not sure if it will working or no 🙁

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

well, it’s better than chasing her..

Shiv
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Hi, I broke up with my gf 3 months ago. I had my reasons but later just after 3-4 days i realized that i made a mistake so i tried to get her back. I apologised and created some false stories so as to get her back but she was never ready to patch up instead wanted me to stay as good friends.According to her, she lost faith in me because i suddenly broke up with her without any valid reasons. I tried my best but she was adamant . In the month of November i wished her on b’day,… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

hi Shiv,

do you want to try the advice above? are you going to do the no contact rule?

josh
Guest
Hi, my ex and I broke up 3 months ago and the first two weeks i begged, but after started no contact and messaged her after two weeks and things were still the same. She would say things like how she doesnt want to get back together with me right now, how she doesnt see anything with me right now, etc. For the rest of the two months i went on and off again no contact. She would look at my social medias and check on what i was doing but would rarely reach out to me. I would always… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Josh,

so right now, you’re friendzoned. What do you think about the advice above?

Jim
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Hi, EGR Team Member, My girlfriend and I broke up about a month ago. I wasn’t the best boyfriend by any stretch of the imagination, so I suppose this was inevitable. However, the breakup was a wakeup call for me, and I finally realized my selfishness and failure to appreciate how lucky I was. I’m really confident that things would be vastly different–and better–if we gave it another shot; we never lost our chemistry. She broke up with me because I wasn’t a good boyfriend, which caused her feelings to fade but not completely disappear. Since the breakup, I made… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi,

For us, it’s better to do the no contact rule, than to be friendzoned. But if it’s working for you, go ahead.

Ben
Guest
Hi, EGR Team Member, My girlfriend and I broke up about a month ago. I wasn’t the best boyfriend by any stretch of the imagination, so I suppose this was inevitable. However, the breakup was a wakeup call for me, and I finally realized my selfishness and failure to appreciate how lucky I was. I’m really confident that things would be vastly different–and better–if we gave it another shot; we never lost our chemistry. She broke up with me because I wasn’t a good boyfriend, which caused her feelings to fade but not completely disappear. Since the breakup, I made… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi,

For us, it’s better to do the no contact rule, than to be friendzoned. But if it’s working for you, go ahead.

erick
Guest
hey,my girlfriend broke up with me for two reasons 1.i made her angry by telling her by text that she is not trustworthy and also i gave her a lot of pressure when chatting 2.her ex boyfriend wanted her back and now she was confused who to be with.. finally she came to my house to take her clothes and that is when she told me she has decided to be alone but she insisted to be friends. i want her back because i love her so much and she said that she loves me to but she wanted to… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Erick,

What do you think about the advice above? do you want to try the no contact rule?

Aaron
Guest
So I followed the articles advice to not accept my ex-girlfriends role of being friends. Less than a week later that she offered being my friend, she texted me and asked me if she could pay me to help her move (because she knows I’ve always helped and supported her when she was in a bind with everything in the past), and I replied to her, “I’m sorry but I’m not available. Honestly I’m don’t think I’m emotionally ready to be friends right now.” Meanwhile, she is still using my netflix account which I pay for. I didn’t mind it… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Aaron,
Kindly inform her.. Explain why you need to change the password, explain that it’s to help you cope with the situation

Rohit
Guest
PLEASE REPLY TO THIS I HAVE NO OTHER OPTION LEFT I’M DESPERATE FOR SOME HELP. So I dated this girl for close to two months.Everything was perfect and the mere reason she wanted to go back to being friends was because I liked her a lot and she din’t like me as much as I liked her and that made her feel guilty and unfair.So for my own good(apparently) she said lets go back to being friends.I kinda made it hard by being a little emotional about it then acting off for like a week and having couple fights as… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Rohit,

well, you’re probably right. She keeps talking to you because she’s used to talking to you so, basically you’re friendzoned. There’s no guarantee that the no contact rule will work but there’s a higher chance that you’re just going to stay friends if you keep talking.
So try doing 30 days. Be independent. Improve yourself and make new friends