I’m Scared my Ex Will Find Someone Else

It’s hard to believe, but eventually, when we look back on our lives, our past relationships are only small chapters in what is, hopefully, a long book. This breakup that you are going through which is so painful is temporary and someday, will only be a distant memory.

That’s not to diminish what you are feeling – I know all too well the pain of heartbreak. But I hope that in some way, it gives you comfort to know that this pain that you are feeling is fleeting.

The fact of the matter is, all relationships that you enter will end. Either you will break up, or one of you will die. It may sound stupid or a little harsh, but if you look at the hard reality of it, that is the truth. Since the majority of your relationships will end with a breakup, that always means getting back out there, meeting new people, and beginning new relationships. That goes for both you and your ex girlfriend.

I know that is the last thing you want to think about right now. In fact, the thought of it people makes you feel sick to your stomach. But it is because it is such a common fear that we are going to talk about the possibility of your ex girlfriend could find somebody else. And, of course, what to do about it.

 

The Fear of Your Ex Finding Another Guy

This is one of the most common fears that people have after a breakup. They worry that their ex is going to move on right away.  Fear can overcome your mind that your ex girlfriend has landed herself in the arms of another man. It is important to keep in mind that while your ex may move on physically right away, it is very unlikely that they will move on emotionally right away.

This is especially true for women.

Unless your ex girlfriend left you for another person, it is very unlikely that she will move on to another person – physically or emotionally.

Some time ago, I wrote an article for Ex Girlfriend Recovery titled “Will My Ex Girlfriend Sleep With Someone Else?”

As mentioned in that article, I polled the women of the Ex Recovery support group to get their thoughts.

The majority of women are picky about who they choose as sexual partners. And from what I know of women, they are even pickier about who they hand their heart to in the context of a relationship.

Could Your Ex Be A Candidate For a Rebound Relationship?

So, as I said before, unless your ex girlfriend began another relationship while with you, or left you to begin another relationship, it is unlikely she will move on so quickly.

Women react to breakups differently than men do: We may feel our emotions much more intensely in the direct aftermath of a breakup, but after some time, we try to channel our sadness into something useful. We indulge in self care, and try to learn how to love ourselves again. We mourn our breakup fully and then work to get over it, so we can move on 100% into our next relationship with out massive amounts of baggage.

I say all this to reassure you that, in general, women tend to move on at a slower pace than men do, both physically and emotionally, of course there are exceptions. This gives you the upper hand when implementing Ex Girlfriend Recovery Pro tactics. It is likely she’ll be trying to heal from the breakup for some time.

But of course, as previously mentioned, there are exceptions to rules. So, as painful as it may be, we are going to delve into the real possibility that your ex does indeed move on to someone else.

 

Know That There are Exceptions – She May Still Love You

Maybe she cheated. Maybe she already had her next boyfriend lined up. Maybe she jumped into dating right away after the breakup. Whatever the reason, she’s with someone else now, and she has left you feeling absolutely heartbroken. So what does this mean, and what can you do about it?

Your ex has moved on, but that doesn’t mean she doesn’t still think about you or miss you. On the contrary, your ex likely thinks about you frequently. It may be because of this that she has jumped into another relationship so quickly. We women are stubborn, and can have a hard time admitting when we’re wrong, or that we’ve made a mistake. Another guy can act as a distraction if we don’t want to face our complicated or conflicting feelings.

First, we are going to talk about the concept of rebound relationships. If your ex wasn’t involved with her new guy before the breakup, I feel like I can say with certainty, that your ex girlfriend is in a rebound relationship.

What does this mean? Your ex may be lonely, or horny, or she may be convinced that the best way to fully get over you is to go out and start dating again. They do say that the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else. I have mixed feelings about this.

And, of course, here comes the Buffy reference.

In season 6 of Buffy, two unlikely characters, Anya and Spike, hook up, both trying to move on from the people who broke their hearts.

“You know I’m only doing this ’cause I’m lonely and I’m drunk and you smell good.” -Anya, “Entropy”

They are hurting, drunk, lonely, and trying to find comfort in another person to dull the pain of their heartbreak. It is not an uncommon response.

When a breakup occurs, the other person leaves a void in your life – no matter who broke up with whom. Loneliness can set in, and the consequences of the choice begin to become more clear. Frequently when a relationship ends, you are not only losing your romantic interest or sex partner, but you are also losing your best friend. That’s a big loss. Sometimes, people are so overwhelmed by that loss that they jump to try to fill the void as quickly as possible – a rebound relationship.

The thing is, people are so desperate to fill that void, that the quality of the person who they choose honestly doesn’t matter all that much.

After such a loss, people aren’t really looking to find their next life partner. Instead, they are looking to find ANY partner.

I also think people tend to overcorrect, which can lead to trouble. My college boyfriend was kind of a loser. Sweet, but not very driven (he ended up dropping out shortly after we broke up). He didn’t know how to communicate his emotions in a logical, effective way, and he sucked at making plans – he didn’t believe in calendars, so when he missed his surgery, it was my fault for not writing it down and remembering. Charming lad, really.

But I digress. After we broke up, I overcorrected. I started dating an extremely goal-oriented guy. He was the most brilliant man I had ever met, and he was ambitious. He had all the things my college ex lacked. But he was also emotionally shut off a lot of the time, not as sweet, and kind of selfish. His goals were so important to him that our relationship frequently took a backseat.

I think this is fairly common. People tend to go for the polar opposite, when really, the right person for you is going to be somewhere in the middle of the spectrum. If your ex’s new guy seems to be the polar opposite of you, it could be an over correction situation.

Don’t fear. If your ex girlfriend is in the midst of a true rebound relationship, there is no way it will last. However, that doesn’t mean that you can just sit back and do nothing. There is still some work that needs to be done on the re-attraction and being there fronts, which brings me to the steps you need to take if your ex is rebounding with someone else.

 

The Steps to Take If You Want Her Back

It doesn’t matter how your ex ended up with another person. What matters is that she is with someone else, and you still want her back. I know it may feel like an absolutely impossible task, but have faith. It isn’t as impossible as it seems.

In the Facebook group, I see ex’s come back to men and women all the time, even after they have had other relationships. In fact, being in other relationships helped their partner to realize how much they loved, missed, and appreciated their ex. So please keep in mind that having an ex who is in a rebound relationship can sometimes work in your favor.

The first step is to take care of yourself first and foremost. Take the necessary time to grieve, and indulge in some sadness. But then pick yourself back up and find the determination that will drive you through the ex recovery process.

The No Contact Rule will be your best friend.

You see, No Contact works in a number of ways:

  • It gives you time and space to cool down and process your feelings regarding the relationship and breakup
  • It gives you time to focus on self improvement..
  • It gives her a chance to miss you.

So during your No Contact period, do things you’ve always wanted to do, but never could find the time. Go back to old hobbies and friendships that got neglected once you entered your relationships. Do things that fulfill you. In addition, No Contact works as a re-attraction period. You can also start addressing some things that maybe your ex didn’t like about you, and post about it INDIRECTLY on social media.

I say indirectly because it’s important that it not be obvious that you are trying to get her attention. It needs to be as much for you as it is for her, if not more so.

Your ex girlfriend isn’t going to come running back if she knows you home crying and lamenting the relationship the two of you had together.

She knows she can have you at that point. No, your ex will want to come running back when she sees how well you are doing without her. It may make her question if you need her at all, which will begin to eat away at her. If she starts seeing all of the little changes you’re making, the re-attraction spark could be ignited, and she may start to wonder why she let you go in the first place.

Embrace the No Contact rule. I know it sounds scary to cut off contact cold turkey, but I promise that every success story has successful implemented the No Contact rule, and made huge personal strides as they moved through their 21,30, or 45 days. Self improvement and gaining emotional clarity are the two essential cornerstones of No Contact.

The other tool that is important to use if your ex is in another relationship is the Being There method. This can be dicey as you do not want to allow yourself to be put too far in the friend-zone. But the best way you can implement being there is to remain in your ex girlfriend’s life in a way that makes her new boyfriend nervous. Emotional intimacy is a huge component of romantic relationships, but also close friendships.

If you can remain in a position with your ex girlfriend where she still trusts you and is emotionally intimate with you, you are in a good position within Being There. This also works because the more present you are in your ex’s life, the more insecure her new guy is going to start getting, and that will slowly begin to impact their relationship. Work on nurturing your relationship with your ex girlfriend and remain in her inner circle of trust so that her trust levels in you rise, and her boyfriend’s decrease.

The Being There method can be very difficult to implement as it requires having a cool head and a lot of patience. That is why completing a successful No Contact period is so essential before getting back into contact with your ex girlfriend.

 

Is Your Ex Girlfriend Moving On Leaving You In the Dark

Yes, it is possible that your ex girlfriend may move on, but do keep in mind that it generally takes women a bit longer to get to that moving on stage, and we tend to be pretty picky about who we sleep with, and even pickier about who we choose to date.

And even if your ex girlfriend does move on, there is a high probability that it is a rebound relationship, and getting her back is not impossible.

The No Contact rule and the Being There Method can be your best friends if your ex girlfriend does enter a new relationship, but please remember that having emotional control is paramount.

And, in closing, I bring you back to the idea that I began this article with. This breakup is but a chapter in your life. Will your ex find someone else? Maybe. But the good news is, so can you. But like I said, that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try and get her back if that is what you truly want.

So, now that you know that it isn’t impossible and you are armed with a few tools to get your ex back, let’s talk about your breakup. Give me a little information in the comments below and we will discuss what you need to do moving forward and what your next steps are to getting your ex back.

I want to know:

  1. The details of your breakup.
  2. What you have done since you and your ex split.
  3. And, after reading this article, what you think your next step should be.

Let’s go!

		

Written by EGR team mate

EBR Team Member: Ashley

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John
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My ex girlfriend and i have been in a on and off again relationship since we were 20 for 10 years. We have lived together twice but had to move because each of us got jobs in different states at different times. We were a normal couple who has had some bad times and good times. I have always known she is the one and even bought an engagement ring (which she knows i have) before our most recent breakup back in November. Are break ups are usually the same as distance is the main issue (Baltimore to Philadelphia) and… Read more »
Chris Seiter
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Hey there John…so I have a couple of thoughts. First of all, while you guys had some ups and downs…having history for about 10 years is meaningful. It creates some traction and a greater possibility that you will both seek to re-write a chapter and try to make this work. It does sound like she is conflicted and that is to be expected. But giving he space and you taking some time away is probably the best thing. Indeed, I am pretty keen on the value of the No Contact Rule. Which leads to my second thought. If you have… Read more »
Jack
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I recently ended with my ex after a year of being together. I didn’t cheat but lied about different things which ultimately broke the trust in our relationship. She kept saying she just wanted some space away from me but I stupidly tried to rush to get her back. It eventually ended and I went out with my friends, got drunk and said some really horrible things to her and she now never wants to hear from me again. I didn’t mean a word that I said but was just angry and upset. I do not know what to do… Read more »
Chris Seiter
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Hi Jack. You are halfway there. Just acknowledging there are some areas you need to clean up about yourself is huge. Now, it becomes a question of how and when you find the right way to tell her these things. There is some rebuilding of the relationship that going to have to take place to even get to that point as she is probably still feeling very hurt. Don’t forget 1 year together creates some traction and you can build on that. Some time ago I created what I think is an awesome resource. It’s called Ex Recovery Pro. Full… Read more »
JJ
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Hey, so its been like 4 months now, been n/c for the last 2 months as the breakup was pretty bad (was kinda out the blue she ended it) i begged acted needy ect ect. pushed her away, she even said she thought wed end up back together (ike a month later this is) but the way i acted ended it. Anyway she had a reboudn straight after which lasted like 2 months and ended. Now shes been seeing her male bestfriend for about 4 weeks and posted pictures saying ‘i love you’ and things like that. Does this mean… Read more »
Chris Seiter
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Hey JJ…4 months is a good period of time for emotions to settle down. That year of being together forms some traction. This may not be over yet! You just need a blueprint of some kind to help you along. Consider my ebook, “Ex Recovery Pro” which you can find in this website’s “Product” section. Just click on my Menu to find your way there! It is chalk full of strategies and tactics!

Jim
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My ex and i met 1 year ago. Right away from the first time we met she wanted to date but i refused. We remained friends with benifits and over the months became best friends. She still wanted me but i chose to stay friends. We had our little fights mostly my fault when i would drink. But wed always make up because of our strong connection.over the months we also slept with other ppl but in the end we would complain about how terrible it was and talk about how comfortable we were with each other. I would always… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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Zacky Ibrahim
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Hey, My situation with my ex is a really confusing one, we broke up 2 months ago since she has told me she has been feeling emotionally numb and has no feelings towards anything, I tried to convince her that night to just stay and we’ll work through it together and she said she can’t do it and think it’s best if we go our separate ways. She said she wants me to be apart of her life and it will kill her if I’m not. So we spoke for about 4 hours about it. We met up a few… Read more »
James
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Till about 3 or 4 weeks ago, me and my girlfriend had been together 4 years. We lived together and both have children from different relationships. When we were together sometimes we would fight about how to handle the kids or my relationship with past girlfriends or women in general. The day we broke up an ex texted my phone that wasn’t suppose to have my number. I didn’t give it out to her and it was clear that I wasn’t messaging her back but my ex feels like I’m letting her hang around. Since the break up I’ve completely… Read more »
James
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helps me financially when she doesn’t have too.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi James,

Talk to her. If she really doesn’t want to get back together then tell her she to stop coming over and you need space. And then do nc but don’t tell her you’re doing nc. Do at least 30 days.

Athena
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Hello, My ex-boyfriend and I broke up about 9 months ago. I read your book and tried to follow the rules, but he’s pulled back even further. We have a mutual friend who is one of my best friends, he’s talked to her multiple times about me; sometimes good and sometimes bad. Sometimes I’m labeled “crazy ex girlfriend” and other times he’s calling me his and slipping and saying I’m his girlfriend. My best friend met some of his friends and even they were talking about me, about how I was the one and how he messed that up. He’s… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Athena,

Why did you break up and how did you do nc?

George M.
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Me and my ex had known eachother that summer before we started our first day of high school, we stated off being friends with benefits i did asked her out but she said no due to her break up but she was stil coming around. I was her first kiss and her first on everything she made it special and it was speacial to me knowing i finally shared a love with someone that loves me back. Anyways we’ve been through so much like she got kicked out her house and i took her in which my parents didnt mind,… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi George,

Currently you’re in California now? When did she broke up with you and check this one:
My Ex Girlfriend Says She Needs Time And Doesn’t Trust Me Anymore

A broken Heart
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I was talking dating a lovely woman. Maybe a year or so. We had a disagreement that led to us not talking for one of the longest times we had not talked since we first connected. A woman from my past came in the picture at that moment. The past woman and I were intimate. After that I had no contact with the woman from my past until I learned she was pregnant. During the time I had no contact with the lady from my past, I regained communication with my lovely lady. After everything going good for a time… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Sort out the situation with the mom of your child first after that, focus in improving yourself and in posting.. Be active in posting even if you’re blocked, just make them public.. After a month, if you’re still blocked, set a limit on until when you would wait to be unblocked before moving on….

DJ
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I was talking(not dating officially) to a lovely woman. Maybe a year or so In this phase we had a disagreement that led to us not talking for one of the longest times we had not talked since we first connected. Someone from my past came in to the picture at that moment. We were intimate. She became pregnant. After I regained communication with my lovely lady, I had to tell her that I gotten someone pregnant. I’m going on almost 2months NC. Please help

DJ
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Ps. She has already blocked me by phone provider

DJ
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She has already blocked me by her phone carrier.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Sort out the situation with the mom of your child first after that, focus in improving yourself and in posting.. Be active in posting even if you’re blocked, just make them public.. After a month, if you’re still blocked, set a limit on until when you would wait to be unblocked before moving on….

Complicated guy
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Hello team. I am obviously here due to my breakup. First lets go to the details (1): We had 2,5 years relationship and it ended 9 days ago. I made the decision to brake up with her. We were truly in love, but she made me, day by day, stressed out the fact that she was so jealous at the point that she texted an old classmate of mine because she just said hi to me. When I was at the college we used to talk on the phone. For every random girl that passed next to me and she… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Complicated guy,

Finish nc first.. Just focus in yourself and in your life.. Do at least 30 days..if in the end you still want to try, then initiate contact

Kyle
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My girlfriend and I met on a dating app 7 months ago. At the time I met her, she was just getting out a 4 year relationship with her previous boyfriend. We started texting literally 24/7 and had a mutual connection when we first met. A month later, we move into a house together. In the beginning everything was perfect and we discussed kids and marriage. Soon after that, we had our first fight. She got a text from some guy she knew awhile ago and I flipped out and put my hands on her. I jumped to conclusions too… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Kyle,

is she still pregnant?

Chris
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Me and my ex broke up in October. Some pressure had been building up between us with her losing her job and my job adding some additional stress. She finally lost it and broke up. Moved out and then tried to make my life a living hell for about 3 weeks. Then she apologized for all but I was weary I could trust she wouldn’t act this way again. I slowly started talking to her again and reconnecting. She wanted me to go to church with her and counselling but I wasn’t there yet. We stopped talking as much and… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Chris,
try the 14 day nc first..

Chris
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Yesterday was the 14th day so I sent her a text and she responded but with very short responses. This morning I sent her an interesting article that I told her reminded me of her. She hasn’t responded yet. I’ve been posting on Facebook and Instagram selfies and other positive things the past 2-3 weeks. Even though we aren’t friends, I post them public and keep instagram public, and I know she is looking. Today I have a lunch date with another women and am considering posting a selfie of us on social media. Good idea or no?
Chris
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First contact after 14 days went good. Second contact went terrible. She responded to an article I shared with her 3 hours later and basically said she had a BF and she didn’t lie or cheat and many other mean things including to leave her alone. I apologized for upsetting her and then she called me a selfish narcisist asshole lunatic. I apologized again, so I guess I move to 45 day no contact as she’s still angry. Doesn’t sound like I really have a chance honestly, so giving up getting her back is what I want to do.
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

If you’re moving on, no need to count 45 days. Just continue on the new routine you started in nc

ShadowReaver
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Me and my Girlfriend broke up on the 30th of December, day before NYE. It was a very peaceful breakup, I was heartbroken but I kept level headed and asked important questions, there was no begging, no pleading or anything after we broke up, we remained friends on social media and everything like that. She said she wanted to be selfish, and that relationships wasn’t for her at the time, and her feelings have changed. Yet, I am her first love and she still shows signs of being in love. She also has severe anxiety with a lot of things… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Shadow reaper,

You mean you started nc jan 3? how many times have you broken up and how long was your relationship?

ShadowReaver
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Yeah, around that time. We have broken up once before, but we got together the next day and we classed it as just a fluke. The relationship was around 8 months. Since I wrote that comment, she has approached me when I had my back to her in public, and has attempted to find comfort in me through difficult times. I ignored her for a few days, and she just kept messaging creating conversation and taking a lot of interest in my life and views on what we’re talking about also. She seems to be conflicted.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

ok be indifferent and spend more time in other activities.

Retx
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I would highly recommend this website and the book ; Although I’ve not found my success story from here (still trying , following everything the book and website states) . I would really like to thank the whole EGR Team for putting in the effort , it provides me with comfort . It’s like knowing that someone is always there for you , be it chasing your ex or moving in . They’re like your true friends supporting every decision you make and helping you accomplish it.Thank you so much EGR Team , I truly owe being able to pass… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Thank you Retx! Happy 2018!

John
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Hello me and my ex have been for 2,5 year together she dumped me hmm on 10th of December I made some mistakes like all of us I mean I beg apologize etc I try nc but yesterday I wrote to her about some meeting at the end of the year just to talk, she was like I don’t want see you yet I don’t have anything to you but I need time please leave me right now alone (something like this) and right now I’m counfused because after we spoke after break up she told me she don’t won’t… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi John,

the more you chase her, the more you’re pushing her away.

Nadav Ascione
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My girl broke up with me, the reason behind was because she wanted to find herself. Understandable but the problem is that at first she didn’t want to lose me and now she is telling me to move on and she wants to be friends. I know she is the one and i’m stuck between “If its meant to be, its meant to be” and if you REALLY want it, go get it.” What can i do to get her back?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Nadav,

Try the nc rule first..if it doesn’t work, continue moving on

Swayam
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Hello there…. So me and my ex girlfriend broke up 2 months ago and from that day onwards, I’ve been continuously begging and pleading her to come back(even though I knew it was wrong) and I failed every time. She said that she didn’t have any feelings left. After that, I started no contact a month ago and in a weeks time, my ex broke down and came to talk and I also know that she always cried in school as she missed me. I gave her a love letter and she was quite excited and wanted to surprise me… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Swayam,

Stick to at least 30 days of nc.. And continue being active in improving yourself and in posting..

Chris
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My ex and I have been broken up for about two months now, though we still text and talk everyday. To make matters worse we still say I love you to each other. My ex had made it clear to me that she wants to see other people. I attempted to do no contact after she told me that and didn’t make it past three days before I cracked. I’ve told her plenty of times how I will never give up on earning her love back and she hopes that I can do it as well. I told her I… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Chris,

Yup, if you don’t, there’s a higher chance she’ll keep stringing you along..

Chris
Guest

Update: I kept no contact going and started getting angry messages from her. Then she blocked me on social media, except on Facebook where it still says we are in relationship. It seems like she might still be seeing the other guy. I’m not sure if I messed up by sending her a New Years text during no contact. She didn’t reply to me. Afterwards I’ve continued my no contact.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

that’s her form of control by being angry and not responding when you texted her.. you need to restart the count from the last time you texted her.

Chris
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Update x2: I have restarted NC after she sent me a long text message on how she is not ready to be friends with me and would like it if I didn’t contact her. It has only been a week, but I have been keeping myself extremely physically active, and active on social media showing how I’m working on myself. I also started going on dates again, and I can honestly say after almost three months that I can see the light at the end of the tunnel. I don’t feel the depressed hurt feelings anymore, and I know that… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

That’s good.. Yeah, I think it’s safe to initiate in her birthday since this is not your first nc.

Chris
Guest
Day 16 into NC and my ex texted me randomly asking about how our dog is doing, which I replied to by just saying he is doing well with a close ended response. Then she asked me how I was doing, to which I replied “2018 has been amazing for me, I’m achieving a lot of the goals I’ve been wanting to. This is my year who would of thought”, I then told her I was busy and it was good hearing from her and hope she has a good day. She replied back with “I see that! I knew… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

that’s ok.. at least it would be easier for you to initiate because she already did

Chris
Guest

So my ex and I have been texting back and forth. Today is day 4 since breaking no contact. Though some ground breaking borderline deterring news was brought up to me by my friends. My ex and the guy she is dating apparently got each other’s name tattooed on their wrist, and to make matters worse, the guy she is back together with is apparently a former ex of hers. I kind of have to question my own self-respect at this point? Can you offer any sound advice?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

If you want to move on, do so.. It’s better to choose yourself than to keep pushing

Andries
Guest
It all started in July when I was out of the country for a month for cycling. She said that at that stage she decided to become less reliable of me because she felt lonely and missed me terribly (I suspect she then also started to chat/flirt with another guy completely opposite of me) as time progressed she showed her feelings less and less until she dropped me end of October. She then also told me she is talking to another guy(the opposite of me) which she finds attractive and he her. We still talked for two months while I… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Andries,

Stick to the nc rule. Do at least 30 days and be active in posting

Tyler
Guest
Hey there! I just recently went through a break up. During our relationship my girlfriend slowly started to diminish in her actions for the relationship. She wouldn’t show much affection or anything while we were together. I found out two weeks in that she hooked up with a guy about 2 weeks before we dated and they messed around as she stayed at his house for a whole week. She said the thought of him hit her like a brick wall. She said she’d have to keep herself from texting him and such. Said he was just in the fight… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor
Sean
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She dumped me 2.5 months ago she started no contact since then we were in contact then she shut me completely out again she moved on with a guy 5 days after we split they were together two weeks and he went off to prison she’s living in fairy tale land with this man we were together 5 years we had breakups in the past that she always inneated but she always worked it out and came back I was needy begged her threatened suicide the whole 9 she was recently told me that she wants me to love my… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor
she didn’t start nc.. she just didn’t talk to you.. because nc period means, you’re not going to initiate nor reply, unless for really important things like kids, and you only talk about that, and then you focus in improving yourself and be active in doing posts in social media that doesn’t disappear after 24 hours and then after nc, you’re going to slowly build rapport while you continue the new routine you started during nc.. she has to think you’re just being friendly because you’ve either already moved on or are moving on because she can see in your… Read more »