The Definitive Guide To Making Your Ex Girlfriend Regret Leaving You

Nothing is going right…

You thought you met someone special…

You thought you had something that would last a long time…

And then, just when you thought things were going great she drops a bombshell on you…

“We need to breakup…”

Ah, its a story I have heard far too often here on Ex Girlfriend Recovery.

Boy meets girl…

Boy gets girl to fall in love with him…

Girl rips out guys heart and stomps on it half a million times…

stomp

(Too graphic?)

Anyways, men who get their hearts stomped on by their ex girlfriends often come to this site trying to make sense of the events that have just turned their lives upside down and that is where I come in.

I have been called a lot of things in my time…

Amazing..

Awesome…

Incredible…

Future world leader…

But without a doubt the thing that I take the most pride in is being called an “EX”- pert.

What is an “EX”- pert?

I am so glad you asked!

An “EX”- pert basically specializes in helping people repair their broken relationships. In other words, I help exes get back together.

And I am going to help you right here right now by teaching you to use one of the most powerful emotions to your advantage, regret!

What This Guide Is Going To Do For You

Those of you who are loyal fans of this site know that when it comes to my “guides” I go above and beyond for you.

Well, this guide is going to be no different.

In this section I am basically going to sum up exactly what this guide is going to cover and how it can help you with your ex girlfriend.

Before I get started here I want to make two big assumptions about you and your ex…

Assumption One = You want your ex girlfriend back.

Assumption Two = SHE broke up with you.

If I am assuming these things then it is pretty much common sense that in order for her to want you back you are going to have to make her regret letting you go.

But how do we do that?

How do we make your ex girlfriend hurt so bad without you that she wants you back?

Well, below I have put together a game plan outlining exactly how we are going to go about this process.

game plan

Does this make sense to you?

If it did I’d be shocked…

(Don’t worry, by the end of this guide I promise this will all make perfect sense.)

Basically this guide is going to be covering the following topics,

  • The NC Rule
  • The Frank Sinatra Effect
  • The GIGS
  • How To Make Her Regret Leaving Through Text Messages
  • How To Approach Seeing Her In Person

Of course, before I really start tackling these subjects one by one lets talk a little about the power of regret.

The Power Of Regret (AKA: Why You Need It)

regret

Have you ever heard someone use this phrase before?

“He was the one that got away…”

or

“She was the one that got away…”

What does someone really mean when they say this?

Well, before I give you the answer to that I want to tell you a little story.

A few years ago I met a fellow who I actually became very good friends with.

Lets call him Caleb… (that is not his real name but bear with me.)

Caleb had a pretty interesting life story.

He was in his early thirties, had been in the army and he was divorced.

One day we got to talking about Caleb’s past…

(I am a nosy person and I know a thing or two about relationships.)

He told me about what went wrong with his ex wife and how she had cheated on him, how he thought he didn’t deserve that and how he hardly ever thinks about her anymore…

Me: “How long ago did you two get divorced?”

Caleb: “It’ll be about five years next Tuesday..”

Me: “Oh, I am really sorry to hear about that… Divorce is really tough…”

Caleb: “You know, it’s funny… I don’t really think about her all that much anymore.”

Me: “Why not?”

Caleb: “I guess I felt I was right to let her go. I don’t really have any regrets with her but with my ex Brittney… I still think about her to this day…”

Me: “Who is Brittney?”

Caleb: “She is my ex girlfriend from College. She was the one that got away. I think she is married and has two kids now but if I could go back in time I would marry her. She was perfect. I really regret letting her go.”

You know, most people when they go through a divorce they really struggle with it.

Many people get caught up in their failed marriage and do everything they can to fix it.

Yet here was Caleb… He was still caught up on an old girlfriend from college.

A girl he dated a DECADE ago!

All because she was the one that got away…

When I first started this section I posed an interesting question.

What does someone mean when they say,

“He/She was the one that got away?”

Simple, it means that if humans had the ability to time travel they would turn back time and NOT break up with that person. Time and experience teaches them that they made a mistake in leaving the relationship with that person.

It is basically an admission that they want to get back together with that person.

For example, lets pretend for a moment that I was dating your ex girlfriend back.

Well, if I was dating your ex and in my mind I dubbed her as the one that got away then given the opportunity I would get back with her.

Now, imagine if you could do this to your own ex girlfriend in your real life situation right now?

Imagine the power of that?

Imagine the power of being dubbed,

“The One That Got Away…”

That is the power of regret.

And this guide is going to teach you all about HOW you can make that happen.

Let’s begin!

Regret & The No Contact Rule

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Have you ever wondered why I constantly go on and on about the no contact rule?

I imagine it must be pretty annoying.

At times I probably sound like a broken record.

“Do NC in this situation..”

“Do NC in that situation…”

“JUST DO NC!!!”

Well, there is a reason for this.

When you look at getting an ex girlfriend back from a birds eye view it makes sense that in order for her to want to take you back she is going to have to regret letting you go. Well, the no contact rule is an excellent way to expedite that process.

How The NC Rule Can Expedite The Process?

I want to tell you two stories.

One is about a man who ended up getting his ex girlfriend back and the other is about a men who didn’t.

Lets start with the man who didn’t succeed.

(For examples sake we are going to call him Joe.)

So, Joe ended up finding my site, Ex Girlfriend Recovery, read through it and thought my advice was brilliant.

(I am brilliant I know ๐Ÿ˜‰ .)

He really wanted his girlfriend back and thought my strategies were his best shot to do that.

There was just one problem…

When it actually came time to implement my strategies he didn’t have the strength of mind to follow through. For example, Joe thought the idea of a no contact rule was brilliant but found that when push came to shove he couldn’t actually cut his ex off.

He was too infatuated with her.

(For those of you who don’t know what the no contact rule is you can learn about it in my book, Ex Girlfriend Recovery PRO.)

I don’t think its too shocking that Joe ended up being a little too clingy with his ex by contacting her and she ended up moving on and finding some other guy.

Ok, now lets turn our attention to Max, the man who got his girlfriend back.

Max and Joe have very similar stories.

Both found my website, Ex Girlfriend Recovery, and both thought my advice was brilliant.

(Again, I am brilliant ๐Ÿ˜‰ .)

Both of them wanted to implement my strategies but the one difference between Joe and Max was the fact that Max actually implemented the no contact rule.

As a result, his ex was the one who became infatuated with HIM and not the other way around.

All of a sudden Max was looked at in a new light.

But perhaps most importantly, she began to regret her decision to let him go.

But why?

Why The No Contact Rule Makes Your Ex Regret

Lets stereotype a breakup for a second here.

When you think of a breakup what do you typically think of?

I’ll tell you what I think of.

  • Arguments
  • Anger
  • Ultimatums
  • Begging
  • Neediness
  • Depression

(Just to name a few things.)

Notice how I bolded “begging.”

Why?

Well, because after a breakup (especially if your girlfriend broke up with you) then on some level she is probably expecting you for her to beg her back.

Seriously, this is probably what she is imagining that you are going to do in her head after the breakup,

come back

So, subconsciously this is what she is expecting out of you.

In other words, its not very shocking when you do this to an ex.

Take a look at our story of Joe above.

All Joe did was reaffirm his exes belief that he was still into her and as a result he did nothing to make her regret her decision in breaking up with him.

The no contact rule is effective because it goes completely against the grain.

Remember, your ex girlfriend is probably expecting you to beg for her back. So, when you do the exact opposite of what she is expecting it kind of catches her by surprise and she doesn’t know how to handle it.

In other words, where other people zig you are going to have to zag.

“But Chris… you still haven’t told us how the no contact rule works to make your ex girlfriend regret the breakup?”

Ok, lets talk about that now.

Before I get started I am going to make a pretty big assumption about you and your girlfriend.

I am going to assume that your girlfriend relies on you for a lot of things emotionally.

After years of relying on you for emotional support it is quite easy to take things for granted.

Have you ever noticed that women have this constant need to remain friends with their exes after a breakup?

Have you ever asked yourself why?

It’s because it leaves the door open for them to rely on their exes emotionally.

So, what we have here (if you remain friends with your ex after the breakup) is a situation where your ex girlfriend has no way of missing you or regretting the breakup.

The no contact rule breaks that barrier.

It takes the ability for her to rely on you emotionally out of the equation and completely reshapes her thinking.

Instead of thinking,

“Oh, he is someone I can rely on for emotional support.”

She is going to think,

“I kind of miss talking to him… maybe I made a mistake.”

Once she thinks that then you have her!

The Frank Sinatra Effect

success

I like Frank Sinatra (as you are about to find out.)

Believe it or not but Frank Sinatra is going to help you in your quest to make your girlfriend regret the breakup with you.

How?

That’s an excellent question.

One of Sinatra’s most famous quotes had to do with revenge.

“The Best Revenge Is Massive Success…”

What does this mean?

Well, it means that improving your situation is often the best way to “get back at someone.”

For example, if I had a girlfriend that broke up with me because I didn’t make enough money and the very next day I created a business that earned me millions a year then that girlfriend would be felling pretty bad about her decision.

In fact, some would say that she would REGRET it…

๐Ÿ˜‰

See what I did there?

This is an example of something I like to call “The Frank Sinatra Effect.”

The idea goes like this.

If you can improve yourself enough to be considered a “massive success” then your ex girlfriend won’t just regret the breakup with you, she will want you back.

But how?

And when?

Lets start with the “when” portion of the FS Effect (Frank Sinatra effect.)

When To Implement The Frank Sinatra Effect

Above I talked about the important of a no contact rule and how it can almost single-handily work to make your ex have feelings of regret.

Well, if you truly want a double whammy of regret (yes, I did just say that) then you should start implementing the FS Effect immediately when you start the no contact rule.

In other words, you are going to working to bring out regret on two fronts.

  • Front One- No Contact
  • Front Two- The FS Effect

The “when” is really the easy question to answer.

The “how” is the hard one…

How To Implement The Frank Sinatra Effect

Massive success and success are two different things.

Lets use money as an example here.

Someone who earns $100,000 a year is considered successful.

On the other hand, someone who earns $500,000 or half a million a year (for those of you can’t count) is considered MASSIVELY successful.

If you really want to have an impact on your ex girlfriend then you need to raise the bar of what you are trying to accomplish in your life. In other words, it’s not enough to be “successful” you have to be “MASSIVELY successful.”

Got it?

Yes?

Ok, lets talk a little bit about how to raise the bar in your life so you are considered massively successful.

Those of you who are avid readers of my site and my book,

Ex Girlfriend Recovery PRO

will know that there are really three major areas of life that I like to focus on.

  1. Health
  2. Wealth
  3. Relationships

These three aspects of life are intimately intertwined and if one aspect of them lags a little bit then the others suffer as well.

For example, when you go through a breakup (the relationships aspect) then the two other legs of the stool start to falter as well as you can’t eat or concentrate at work (health and wealth respectively.)

So, what I am going to do for you here is talk about each one of these aspects of life and what you should be striving for to be “massively successful.”

Lets start with health.

Frank Sinatra Effect Health

The thing I want to focus in on health is your looks.

More specifically the way your body looks.

Here is a fun question.

Now-a-days what is considered a successful physique to have?

Well, America is fat so I would say this would be successful for most people out there,

(It’s sad I have so little faith in America isn’t it?)

average

While I am sure that most girls would find a guy attractive if he had the body above something tells me they would prefer the body below over the body above…

gsp

So, if you are a bit overweight and you know you should be hitting the gym more then don’t just go there with the intent of losing weight. Go there with the intent of looking like a greek god when its all said in done.

That’s how you really make an ex regret leaving you.

Lets turn our attention to wealth.

Frank Sinatra Effect Wealth

Above I gave a pretty interesting example about money and success.

Do you remember the example?

I said that if you earned six figures a year you are considered successful.

If you earned half a million a year you are considered massively successful.

Success isn’t enough.

You need to be massively successful when it comes to wealth.

Heck, be greedy.

Be like Gordon Gekko from Wall Street.

greed

Seriously, I know that may sound a little crazy but here is my mindset.

If the epitome of financial success for you is to make six figures a year then that is all you will ever strive for.

However, if you change your paradigm and shoot for half a million a year then amazing things are going to happen for you.

While you may not reach that half a million mark you are probably going to make more than six figures shooting for half a million…

That’s a win in my book.

Frank Sinatra Effect Relationships

What defines massive success in relationships?

Well, that is completely up to you really.

You want my opinion though?

Getting your ex girlfriend back isn’t enough to be a massive success…

A success, yes.

But a massive success?

No.

Getting her back and ending up together long term (maybe permanently) is what I would call a MASSIVE success.

So, what are you doing to make this a reality?

Well, you are obviously reading this website and you like what I am talking about but do you really buy in to what I am saying?

You need to because I may be your best shot at making this happen for you.

Jealousy Certainly Doesn’t Hurt

jealousy flow

Women are interesting creatures.

Sometimes it takes a little push (from you) for them to realize that they made a mistake in letting you go. And that little push can come in the form of jealousy.

Now, when I first created Ex Girlfriend Recovery I wrote a pretty extensive guide on jealousy here.

So, before you read on in this section I recommend that you take a look at that guide and read on how to properly use jealousy for your situation.

Now, I know what you are saying,

“Chris… This is a cop out. You are just pawning us on to some other article and trying to expedite the learning process.”

Well… Ya.

mwhahaha

No, I am not going to leave you empty handed.

Actually what I would like to do is give you an example of one of my favorite jealousy methods that I think would really work well for your situation.

What is this jealousy method?

I like to call it the “movie text jealousy method.”

Movie Text Jealousy Method

Now, before I really get into the meat of this method I feel I need to give you a few disclaimers.

The movie text jealousy method should ONLY be used AFTER the no contact rule is completed. In other words, you are not allowed to use this during your NC period or when you are working on yourself via the Frank Sinatra Effect.

Also, I would like to do something a little unique with this section.

Instead of just teaching you the method (which I plan on doing) I would like to explain the effect it has on a woman and how it can work to make her regret the breakup.

Lets get to it!

Movie Text

Think of a romantic movie…

A chick flick…

A movie that only a woman would go to.

Off the top of my head, a movie that just came out (and this might date the article a bit for future readers but I don’t care I am trying to make a point here) that meets this criteria is Fifty Shades Of Grey.

A guy would definitely NOT take another guy to that movie.

I am sure there are some exceptions to that but for the sake of making a point here I am stereotyping.

Realistically, a guy would take his girlfriend or two friends who are girls would want to go see that movie.

Subconsciously I think everyone knows this.

This is important because you are going to use this stereotype to your advantage when it comes to your ex girlfriend.

What do I mean by that?

Simple, send her a text message like this,

Screen Shot 2015-05-17 at 9.26.14 AM

This text is effective for a number of reasons.

First off, no two guys are going to see Fifty Shades of Grey together.

That is just common sense.

Oh, and we can’t forget that we have the double whammy of that particular movie being over a pretty sexual topic…

So, when your ex girlfriend receives this text from you she is going to think a couple of things,

  1. “Oh my god… He went on a date with a girl.”
  2. “AND he took her to see THAT movie. I can’t believe him…”

The greatest part of the whole thing is you get to stay in the clear because the text is so general it looks like your not trying to make her jealous.

It’s subtle and that’s why its effective.

It allows your ex to face her own worst enemy, her mind.

Now, you may still be wondering what this has to do with making an ex girlfriend regret letting you go.

Glad you asked!

How Jealousy Makes Your Ex Regret

The whole point of trying to make your ex girlfriend jealous is that you are trying to illicit a reaction from her.

Why?

Because if she is having a reaction like jealousy then that means on some level she still cares about you.

Even if she won’t verbalize the words she will know deep down that she still has feelings for you and that is exactly what you want.

Oftentimes a woman who still has feelings for an ex will regret letting him go.

Now, I am not saying that guarantees you a shot of winning her back but it is a step in the right direction because you will hold sway over her.

The Grass Is Greener Syndrome

greender

I would feel bad if I didn’t at least mention the connection between the GIGS (Grass Is Greener Syndrome) and regret because without a doubt their connection is deeply intertwined.

First though, lets talk a little bit about what the GIGS actually is.

GIGS- The Grass Is Greener Syndrome occurs when a girl breaks up with a guy with the thought that she can do better than him. Of course, over time she determines whether or not her decision was correct. Sometimes she will find that the grass is not greener on the other side (meaning it was a mistake to leave you) and other times she will find that the grass is greener on the other side (meaning it was the right decision to leave you.)

So, where does the regret come in?

Simple, if your ex girlfriend leaves you with the thought that she can do better and she determines that she can’t then she is going to regret her decision to leave you.

I actually have had some personal experience with this.

In fact, my very first girlfriend way back in High School (a long time ago but bear with me) had a bit of the grass is greener syndrome.

Our relationship was pretty tainted with fights and arguments so after we went our separate ways I completely ignored her and didn’t talk to her on purpose.

She of course tried to move on but the new guy she started dating couldn’t live up to the standard I had set with her.

I didn’t know any of this until she called my best friend (who I happened to be standing right next to) looking to see if he could convince me to give her a call.

Regret rears it’s head in many forms…

Re-Shaping Your “Text Game”

what now

Texting…

There is all sorts of interesting things you can do with these little messages that go to your ex partners phone and that is what I am going to talk about right now.

Now, I don’t want to mislead anyone here.

This article is going to talk about the strategies that go behind texting which I imagine is going to prove to be extremely valuable to the readers of this article. What this article will not go over is the actual text messages to send in a situation.

You can pick up my book,

Ex Girlfriend Recovery PRO

If you want to gain access to those messages.

(Hey, I have to have some type of premium content.)

Alright, so with this section I am going to be talking about two BIG ideas that you need to implement if you want your ex to regret the breakup with you.

  1. Finding The High Point Of The Conversation
  2. Ending At The High Point Of The Conversation

Lets start with idea number one.

Finding The High Point Of The Conversation

Forget texting for a moment.

Lets just say that you are talking to one of your good friends about an interesting topic. Well, when you think about this interaction I am betting that you can pinpoint a time in the conversation when you stop and think to yourself,

“Wow, this is actually really interesting. I am so glad I am talking to him/her about this.”

This would be the high point of the conversation.

High Point = The conversation can’t get any better than this.

Believe it or not but it is actually VITALLY important that you learn to pinpoint the high point because it is going to really come in handy when it comes to your ex.

Lets talk a little about that now.

Just like with talking, texting has a high point of a conversation as well.

Let me give you an example.

Lets say that I am texting your ex girlfriend and we are having a really interesting conversation about relationships. Well, this is a topic that both of us find stimulating and we end up talking for two hours. We are both humans and both of us have short attention spans. So, around the one and a half hour mark the conversation quality begins to drop off slowly.

Use the graph below as a reference point,

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Notice how after this point the quality of the conversation begins to dip pretty drastically.

What constitutes a conversation quality dip?

  • Long periods of time for her to respond.
  • Short responses from her.
  • No substance to her responses.

Most men end up wearing out there welcome when it comes to texting.

What do I mean by that?

It’s simple really, they wait until the conversation quality dips before the end the conversation and this leads me to my next point.

Ending At The High Point Of The Conversation

There is nothing memorable about ending a texting conversation after the quality of the conversation drops.

There is nothing for her to regret…

You don’t make an impression on her…

Oh, AND you are going to be just like every other guy out there talking to her.

Don’t live your life as an uninteresting sheep. When the world zigs I want you to zag.

When you are texting your ex girlfriend MAKE SURE you end the conversation right at the high point. Right at the point where things can’t get any better for her (or you for that matter.)

If you are a visual learner then here is a graph illustrating what I am talking about,

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What this will do to your ex is really mess with her mind.

You see, to her, if you are having a good conversation then the conversation will most likely continue. However, if you end the conversation right at the high point it is going to mess with her mind because not only will you leave her wanting more she is going to constantly ask herself,

“Wait, why would he end the conversation there?”

There is a psychological principle that I like to cite a lot called the Ziegnerik Effect.

The ZE (Ziegnerik Effect) basically states that human beings remember uncompleted tasks better than completed ones. Well, a conversation that is cut off right at the high point isn’t technically a “closed” conversation. Thus, your ex girlfriend is going to remember that conversation above anything else.

This works wonders for getting her to respond to your future text messages and it will also raise your value in her eyes.

Oh, and in case you didn’t know, raised value in an ex correlates directly to regret.

Your Mindset When You See Her In Person

Seeing your ex girlfriend in person is always a tricky subject because often times it goes so fast.

What do I mean by that?

Lets say that you are with your ex girlfriend at a Starbucks and she asks you a question.

Well, you are expected to respond to her question in a timely manner and some guys get so caught up with extracurricular things that they really struggle to focus and they stumble with their answers. After all, it is hard to answer in a good manner when you have this staring back at you,

king kong

Ok, I highly doubt you will be faced with that situation but what I am trying to get at here is that you are highly attracted to this woman, you clearly want her back and if she is FINALLY sitting across from you it can be easy to be caught up in the moment and lose track of why you are seeing her in the first place, to make her regret letting you go.

(Your still looking at the picture aren’t you?)

“SNAP OUT OF IT AND CONCENTRATE”

So, what I would like to do now is give you my best tip for seeing your ex girlfriend in person.

Now, I don’t want to overload you with too much so I am just going to give you this one tip.

If you want more then you need to check out my book, Ex Girlfriend Recovery PRO.

My Best Tip For An In Person Encounter

It’s probably the easiest tip you have ever heard.

SMILE!

Seriously, smile a lot when you see your ex in person.

  • Smiling can do a lot for you.
  • It can make you less stressed.
  • It’s a universal sign of happiness (which you really want your ex to think even if your not.)
  • It’s contagious (which can make your ex smile and then your both in good moods.)
  • Women find smiling men more attractive than non-smiling men.

So, SMILE!!!!

smile

Maybe not like that though…

		

Written by EGR team mate

Chris Seiter

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Devon
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My ex which whom I been with for 8years walked out on me and is trying to find a place with this new guy he has 2kids from his last relationship and we have to she cheated and left due to me making her feel alone due to me always being stressed out with bills and kids stop showing her the attention he has been giving her and he is (the bob) you talked about so far itโ€™s been a week shy of a month

Dan
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Hello
I have questions
I still have some stuff left at her house, should i go get that first before the no contact thing..?
I also still have pictures on my social media of me and my ex together, what do i do, delete them?
Also, we broke up for about 2 weeks now, and im really bad at the no contact thing, ive texted her sometimes, is it too late for me to start going in to “no contact”
I hope you can awnser, thanks
Dan

John
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My ex and I of 9 months broke up a little over a month ago. First I broke up with her because I told her that I wasn’t mature enough right now for an emotional relationship. The next day I told her that I think I can work on myself and continue dating her at the same time. She agreed. An hour later she called me and said it wasn’t a good idea for us to be together because she felt that Jesus needed to do some work on both of us. I told her to think about it. A… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi John ,
Yup, stop chasing and trying to convince her. Start the no contact rule, do at least 30 days and don’t try to convince her again after nc.. Approach it like a restart.. Just be friendly and continue improving yourself and being active in posting while slowly rebuilding rapport.

Michael Greg
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We are together with my girlfriend for 5 years. 4 months ago she leave to work in Qatar and I am here in Philippines. First 3 months of LDR was fine. I am opening her facebook without her knowing maybe she already forget that we gave our PW to each other. One time I read a messages about her friend there that they are using this TINDER apps. Knowing that is app for finding MAN/WOMAN apps is get me little angry. I Confronted her telling that one of my friend there working also in Qatar is find her in this… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Michael,

It’s not a no contact period if it’s an agreement between the both of you.. Restart nc this time don’t let her know you’re doing it.. Do at least 30 days.. Be active in improving yourself and slowly build rapport after and don’t beg again..

Michael
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We are together with my girlfriend for 5 years. 4 months ago she leave to work in Qatar and I am here in Philippines. First 3 months of LDR was fine. I am opening her facebook without her knowing maybe she already forget that we gave our PW to each other. One time I read a messages about her friend there that they are using this TINDER apps. Knowing that is app for finding MAN/WOMAN apps is get me little angry. I Confronted her telling that one of my friend there working also in Qatar is find her in this… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Michael,

It’s not a no contact period if it’s an agreement between the both of you.. Restart nc this time don’t let her know you’re doing it.. Do at least 30 days.. Be active in improving yourself and slowly build rapport after and don’t beg again..

Jayson
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Its been 5 days since my gf broke up with me,, she told me she will focus on school, I beg her to not leave me that I will support all her wishes. She told me she will come back when time is right for us.,I work on a family business while shes in her 1st university. Theres a change in her behavior, she dowsnt seem to reply my text and denied my calls. Should I follow nc rule? I want her back and promise her that I would not stress her out while shes in her schooling..

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Jayson,

Yes, you should try the nc rule.

John Foust
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My girlfriend of 18 months went off to college and was there for a week before finally telling me she wanted a “break from us”. Up until this point, things were amazing! We were both very romantic, always surprising each other with gifts and romantic things and we had fewer issues than the average couple. She is 18, and very mature for her age actually, and I’m 27. The few issues we did have, her parents, who openly said they were ok with the relationship, would say things like “you don’t have to stay with him” “he’s not going to… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi John,
You can send a clean slate text before nc.. Tell her being friends is not workable for you right now

Kabousz
Guest

I am also suffering from disaster on my own way. Maybe I drank to much this weekend when we were on holiday. Saturday she decided to leave me all by myself in the town, went back home, not even contacted me to let me know she moved on. She wants nothing to do with me.

Rob
Guest
Understand what you’re feeling I just went through something recently myself but I do know that having alcohol in your system is not going to help so what I suggest is to refrain from any chemical imbalance in your body at this moment because it’s going to mess your perception of what you’re thinking and the purpose is not to backslide what you need to be doing is moving forward now what I suggest is reading some of these articles on the website as I have come to realize that they definitely help now I do realize that all this… Read more »
Mohab
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My name is mohab.. my story is that i met the love of my life 8 years ago i was 14 she was 12 so she is basically my childhood sweetheart . We had break ups in the middle on of them lasted 3 years but there was somehow an ibvisible force that kept bringing us back together .. in the past i used to do drugs and i was a really bad person and she stood beside me until things went too complicated she had to leave.. we got back together 26/1/2016 . I was the happiest person alive… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Mohab,

What do you mean by better? How much did you improve?

blaik
Guest
Hello, i will try to explain my history in a few words. I was in a relationship with a girl 2 and a half years ago till 1 month ago. it all started as a joke and things got serious and we moved in together living 24/7 together. we only had a few fights and moved on but lately i had a feeling things were bad. it is the time we both finish college (24years old) and hope for work in someplace. lately she was not really into me. sex life was down to almost nothing,short conversations,sweetness from both of… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

That means you’re going to do the advice on this link:
EBR 027: WHAT TO DO IF YOU LIVE WITH YOUR EX BOYFRIEND

It’s from the other site,but you can still use the advice

john
Guest

U have the same problem as I do what I can convice you is dat jx leave her alone for jx few days because when yu leave her he wil thnk alot bout yu and in turn u will be back 2 get her dats what I have to tel yu

Paul
Guest
My girlfriend of 5+ years broke up with me because of complications of a long-distance relationship. She really wanted to have kids and she’s blaming me for not doing anything to make it happen. I was trying to tell her to get back and be together but she is saying I am in no capacity to support her financially – honestly, this thing hurts me so much it’s the reality that I am right now. I felt really helpless to realize that I wasn’t worth her love and affection at all. So fast forward I am now applying the NC… Read more »
Usman
Guest
Hi. I was in relationship since January 2017 to march 2017 ( worked for 3 months). Initially i was her crushed and she proposed me and she said that she liked my since she saw me. (We were teachers in a school). She was so loving and she was so attached with me. I was so much clingy. All the time messaging and calling her. But when i talked to my parents about our relationship and marriage, she suddenly got nervous. Then i postponed the talks of marriage with her in my family and she got normal. But after sometime… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Do at least 3 weeks, that means no greeting her on her birthday…be active in improving yourself

Andrew
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My girlfriend Michelle broke up with me about 3 weeks ago, and it had been miserable. I had a long bad things happen to me over the past year and I really let those things gets to me and drag me down and bring out the worst person in me, and she would get the recoil from it. I was a little to clingy always wanting to know where she was, and we would argue like every other day it seemed like. But that person wasn’t me and I want to show her that, but she broke it off after… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Andrew,

why not try the advice above?

Francis
Guest
My ex girlfriend left me 2 months ago for a loss of feelings, we had a deep connection between us until march 2016 when she lost her job and couldn’t find any, gave up school and the gym. Basically she gave up on everything and i was always pushing her to keep going. Anyways, to make it short, we kept talking (sometime about our relationship and what went wrong, she kept saying it was a loss of feelings and she’ll always be there to talk if i need to and that there was no one else (anxiety problems)) we kept… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Francis,

yes you should and be active in improving yourself

DEEG
Guest
i had a problem she dumped me her name is Charisse . the reason behind this story is . i cheated on her ,last march 18,2016 i text my last ex girlfriend . i was tempted to sexual desire but i was wrong and i think that’s bad, I stop because i think 10 time’s . i love Charisse but she caught me ,,and my ex girlfriend (josefa) they see each other and they talk,, josefa ruined me in my ex . she tells that im not a good guy for Charisse then . Charisse dont leave me for almost… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Deeg,

I think you should follow the advice on this one:
How To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back If YOU Cheated On Her

daniel brown
Guest
hey av been reading your articles and they are really helpful. now i have a problem. av been dating with my ex girlfriend for like a year now. We have been having a lot of argument, insecurities and she left me. She always made me feel bad with my friend to whom has always wanted to revenge on me because his ex girlfriend wanted me. She has been using him to make me feel bad. they have been meeting up frequently. Av been begging her to take me back and be with me. I told her that i love her… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Daniel,

how old are you both? did you really cheat on her? Do you want to try the advice above?

John Doe
Guest
So, my girlfriend officially ended things with me this past Thursday. I say officially because she had said we were done the previous Saturday, but I did the typically dumb stuff (i.e. took blame for pretty much everything, told her how sorry I was, told her I wanted a second chance to be the guy that I know I am that I had not shown recently, etc). For informational purposes, we had only dated two and a half months. I had been with a girl for four years, but I had realized my feelings for her were not what they… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi John Doe,

Stick to at least 30 days..if you need to extend, do so.. but make the most of it to change and improve yourself..She has to think you’re moving on or at least starting to for a chance of a restart

Mike
Guest

Hi!
I need to know 1 thing about NC. Let’s say im on a 30 day NC. And she writes me on a day 7 for example. She asks to get something back or she asks something something, but not asking to get things fixed. Do I ignore all that? And I do not answer her until the end of the NC?
Could this leave some kind of a bad mark on our situation?
Im really worried about that…
I’d really appreciate if you’d answer ๐Ÿ™‚

Best

Mike

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Mike,

it’s ok to talk to her about giving things back, as long as it’s only about that..

Anthony Hernandez
Guest
Hi my name is Anthony and I have been in a relationship with my love Stephanie for almost 3 years on and off. The 1st 3 months or so were amazing however ever since then things started to go downhill. I’ll try to make my story as short as possible… It all started when she wanted to go to her ex home with her child of 4 at the time. Stephanie told me she was very close to her ex mother and sister so she wanted to maintain her relationship with them, furthermore she wanted to Keep Alex(her ex) as… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Anthony,

You’re together for three years and in the whole 3 years she went 2-3 times in her ex’s house? Honestly, I don’t buy her reason too.. Does she still go back to that ex now?

Anthony Hernandez
Guest

Thank you for responding and she has went in total 10-15 times before recently getting engaged to another man. Her reasoning is for her son’s sake but I really felt like was caught up in being a rebound and it felt terrible but I ended up falling in love with this woman. Right now I have not been in contact with her for almost 2 weeks. What should I do based on my circumstance?

anthony hernandez
Guest

Thanks again for the reply, she actually went over to her ex home 10-15 times but she slept over 2-3. Now she is engage with another mystery man since I don’t really have any means of contact. I want to know what should I do if she should contact me? So far it’s been almost 2 weeks since I last heard from her and recently she claimed to no longer be in love with me. Any advice would be much apreciated.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Ok..If the other guy is a rebound, Well, the best you can do to increase your chances is to improve yourself..start the count of 45 day nc after this and focus in improving yourself.. Be active in social media too.. Let’s hope that once she sees you’re moving on and improving, she’ll miss you

Pazuzu
Guest
Hello, I have the following complicated situation. So I was in a happy relationship until my ex broke up with me 2 years ago and things went a bit nasty, so that we stopped talking to eachother for 6 months. Then she contacted me again, we talked sometimes again, met sometimes again and well, she yelled at me quiet a lot too lol So it was never very easy and it was more like a toxic “friendship” honestly. She is already in her 3rd relationship since she broke up with me and her current one also doesn’t make her happy.… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

HI Pazuzu,

if you really love your ex, why make things complicated? Just go back together.

Erik
Guest
Hey. I have an issue. About two months i met a girl at the college library, I liked her at once and in short, i reached her, met her and initiated chatting once a week as it was exam period. i always initiated chatting but she replied at once, there was fun in the air etc. then i asked her out, she came, we had a good time and then we continued to the second when we held hands, hugged etc. then she became more open, initiated chats, teased me, was cheerful and after two days she even invited me… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Erik,
That’s good that you started nc.. But don’t add her back yet during no contact.. It would be better to do that once you’re rebuilding rapport. Improve yourself. Be active in doing it.. Check this:
How To Make Your Ex Girlfriend Regret Letting You Go

Ihab fearo
Guest
Well , thanks for your help , its very appreciated , i did really counted till 100 before i comment but i finally decided that i do really need help . I started dating my gf 2 years ago , we were almost perfect for 1 year , after i started to become careless or enjoy some time without her like leaving her alone home and go out for hours .. that time she started to talk with her ex on phone and other friends she know’s that i would never accept . it was not very hard to figure… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Ihab,

nope, it’s not a no contact period because it was not focused in improving yourself.. You know for me, she’s being shallow and immature.. You dont get married for money.. If her only reason is that that’s what her parents want and that the guy has money, then it’s easier to make her regret.. Just be your best self and improve your income..

Brian
Guest
Thank you for the amazing information! My situation is as follows. We met at work, we fell madly in love, had a special understanding of each other. We had a healthy relationship. That changed when she became pregnant. She fell ill due to the pregnancy and simply quit working which put a huge financial strain on us being that it was only me bringing in the money. I had no problem stepping up, but we had our place, a new car and it was too much. We ended up moving in with her parents which made me feel like a… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi brian,

how are you now? do you still live together?

John
Guest
Hello Sir. I am really a fan of your website and your writings are awesome.. I am currently going through one of the worst times of my life. I am basically from India where love marriages are not common. To say about us, Me and my gf are from different castes. Our parents won’t agree to our relationship as we are from different castes.. I have completed studying and currently working and my gf is still in the first year of her college. We know each other for the past 7.5 years and were in a relationship for about 1year..… Read more »
Matt
Guest

How can i implement jealousy if I unfriended her on facebook immediately after the breakup? It was a little impulsive, but I didn’t want to risk seeing her post anything while I work on no contact.

sebastian
Guest
hi, thanks for the advice. but i do still have a problem. me and my girlfriend broke up like a month ago, and within an week she had a new relationship, she said she left me for him. i was heartbroken because is do still love her even when she turnt her back on me and got a new boyfriend. so i started ignoring her and improving myself to win her back. she and her new boyfriend broke up last week. this weekend she called me and asked if i was willing to talk, i said no. she also began… Read more »
Chris
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My ex of 4 1/2 years left me unexpectedly, we have cHildreth together. She says that she loves me but is not in love with me anymore. I feel that a male friend of hers took advantage of the problems that we did have and persuaded her to leave me and now she spends all her free time with this friend and she continues to tell me that that are just friends.

Chris
Guest

How can the NC rule be implemented when you have children with your ex?

Striver
Guest
My ex did not agree with telling her it was not cool to take pictures with other men if she is so close in a committed relationship with me. She agreed, but as soon as she went abroad she changed and began to find herself doing new things and forgetting about me. She stopped answering my calls and texts and left me in the blank. She then decided to take inappropriate pictures with guys and post them online, I got annoyed and decided to block her of most communications and she responded by ending the relationship. As this relationship went… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Striver,

it looks like she’s in a grass is greener case.. how much have you improved?

shubh
Guest

hiii
please help me
m in a long distance relationship she left me coz we fight little much and now she have no feelings for me so what should i do she have blocked me from everywhere . for 2years we were in realtion please help me how to get her back she is with some other guy ritnow

shubh
Guest

2yrs is our relationship time period she brokeup with me last sunday

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Shubh,

do you want to try what Chris advosed above?

Dominic
Guest
A short introduction, we were together 3 years and in long distance still together (but we had a break last summer for the same reasons and at the time she broke up with me again) with plans on moving in together after this summer but not having seen each other in a while the distance got to her and wanted a break! for a month we spoke very little after the break up and i got very depressed. i found your website and initiated the nc rule right after her birthday( my mistake) i have a game plan of moving… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Dominic,

do you think you’re friendzoned?

Tom
Guest
Hi, My girlfriend (ex) family never liked me and it put a strain on our relationship of 9 years, throughout the period we were dating her parents constantly fought her to end the relationship not because of any particular reason but because they are known to be difficult like that, they chose who they wanted her older siblings to get married to, and shes the last child and the only girl so I knew it would be difficult but I just thought she would fight it though. Every 6months throughout the 9 years we were together her parents would start… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Tom,

she could have just got tired of defending and she’s not that strong to stand up for what dhe wants and then it so happens that she find something good with the new guy too.. which is the easier choice also because her parents would finally stop fighting her

MR ABT
Guest
What do you think about my friend’s problem? I told him to maintain no contact for sometime 3 weeks, heal and then try one more time ie one last time All people do mistakes have bad habits or flaws are imperfect We should just let go of that person They were so much in love he still has strong feelings for her Should break up mean end of their awesomeness real stuff together? Please advice in the following problem In April my friend met someone through a common friend in Calcutta. He works in a law firm in Bangalore and… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Mr Abt,

so how long were they really together and how is your friend now?

Marty
Guest
I am currently really depressed. I look unwell to all those around me. Through my research I have seen that some of my prior behaviours had shown insecurity, neediness and couldโ€™ve been construed as slightly controlling. I mentally re-adjusted myself a month ago to change these things for both her and my sakes (80% v 20%), but she has not been here to see it. My girlfriend and I have been together for 10 ยฝ years. She was 19 when we first met. She is now approaching 30 and weโ€™ve hit a hurdle. Apparently milestone birthdays can be bad times.… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Marty,

your doctor is right that you jave to agree with what she suggested but you need to be more independent too.. can you move back in with a family member temporarily or a friend until you find a new job? If you want to prove them wrong, you have to be more independent and focus more in yourself now.. don’t rush things..

if you really want her back, improve yourself becaus whatever they say,.if the results of actions say otherwise, it will not have an effect in her because she can see that whatever they say is not true..

Marty
Guest
Amor, I have only sent her a few polite short messages since the breakup before initiating the NC. However our rent is due this week, so I sent her a message on Whatsapp out of necessity. She had blocked me on Whatsapp so she’ll never receive it and I believe that she may even have a new phone number although she’d still checks the old one. Her father even asked our real estate agent for a copy of our lease (presumably to get her out of it). I feel her parents are leading her. I have almost nothing left of… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

have you started improving yourself? do you have a new place to move to?

Michmi
Guest

what if she texts me during my NC, or tags me on instagram posts, should I not answer or just send a thank you or a smiley?

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Michmi

nope, you shouldn’t react nor reply to her!

Kevin Monsalve
Guest
Hi, my relationship of 2 years just came to an end because I started to change nearly 4 months ago and I become selfish, clingy, and really jealous.. She asked to be best friends afterwards and I couldn’t resist saying yes and then I messed that up by showing her what my friend had to say about the situation and she assumed I lied to him about her and said “I was considering taking you back but since you’re a f-ing liar I’m done with you.” Anyways ever since then I was snooping on her social media and her gay… Read more »
Kevin Monsalve
Guest

Forgot to mention that she thinks it’s good that I realized I changed but doesn’t find it okay that it took us breaking up for me to do so.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Kevin

I actually have a different undertstanding of what she said.. from my perspective, she said she doesn’t want to get back with you because you won’t change if you got back together..

be active in improving yourself during and making it seem that you’re moving on

sammie
Guest

I met a girl and we became friends,gradually she became my gf,after 2 weeks she said its over between us, after that she asked me to 4giv her which I did now she says that she has a new bf and that its over between us and she has been insulting me

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Sammie,

that means it’s better to do nc.. try a week

Phil
Guest

Hey man,

Been following this blog. Improved my wealth by 20k, lost a lot of weight and put on muscle etc..
My ex texted me, “you waited until we broke up to improve yourself. That is proof that we’re better off without each other. I’m sorry I left you for someone else, but I don’t regret it”.

Should I do a longer NC period this time?
(p.s before the first NC I was needy/begging which is uncharacteristic of me)

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Phil,
yes you should extend..it’s not good to reply to that kind of text

Frank
Guest

Hi I’m going through a tough time with this no contact rule thing. She wants to end things because she doesn’t feel the same about me anymore but she said she still wants to be friends and she says she still loves me and cares about me. What should i do?

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Frank,

tell her you’re not ready to be friends right now, and you’ll reconnect once you are.. and then start no contact

Anthony the fool
Guest
Ok so I am dieing inside right now… Absolutely devistated is a word that comes to mind or lower than low. My girlfriend and BEST FRIEND of 14 years started attempting to break up with me about three weeks ago. We have had breaks before and each one hurt bad but not like this particular time. Three weeks ago she told me she wanted to break up but I talked her down and thought I had made it better for about 5 days until she told me she wasn’t happy thus ripping the wound wide open again and starting a… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor
Hi Anthony, thank you for being open to us.. you do have a very long history together and grew up characteristically together.. You didn’t what reason she gave you but assuming from you said, there is somebody new.. It could be a grass is greener case, it could because thr spark was gone, there’s no more variety in your relationship or do you always fight,but it can also be because you got clingy.. From how you wrote and what you said, I think you put too much attention and time on her, you forgot to grow personally and that’s where… Read more »
Justin
Guest

Hey man I’m going through the same thing as you right now. Its the worst feeling ive ever had in my life if you need someone to talk to we might be able to help each other out.

Anthony the fool
Guest
Hey guys, sorry that it took a couple days to get back with everyone but where I have been the last few days, I had no access to internet. Basically the day after I made that post I was in such inner turmoil that I basically had no choice but to implement the no contact rule because I couldnt see her face and not hurt so bad that I wanted to question her about things I would not be prepared to hear the answers to. So while she was at work, with no warning or notification I called my mother… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

you’re doing good Anthony.. just keep that up… don’t rush things.

Anthony the fool
Guest

Wow i just realized how bad my last post was typed. Man im trying hard to stay strong, somedays i feel wonderful and others i feel like she hates me. I will update soon on my situation.

Justin
Guest
Hi my girlfriend of 4 years has decieded that she isn’t happy with our relationship anymore. We had been fighting for about a month and she found some new friends on an online game. One guy in particular that only lived a few hours away. She has gone to stay with him for a few days because she doesn’t have any friends or family in the state. She says they are only friends. She is planning to move back home with her family in another state within 2 weeks. I feel like it is too late for nc at this… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Justine,

if you feel that it’s too late, did you mean that you want to move on? Because if you really want to increase the chance of getting her back, then you should try active no contact.

Justin
Guest

I do want her back but we live together at the moment. I’m staying with my parents for 2 weeks until she leaves. I gave her time to transfer to another store because she is moving out of state. Is it going to be impossible to get her back once she leaves? She says shes convinced that we are done but when i see her i know this is killing her just as much as me. She just doesn’t think it’ll work anymore.

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

If you know it like that, then it means space can help for her to think and reflect

Justin
Guest

What exactly does no contact entail? Just not talking to and seeing her in person? Or completely removing her from my life like places she would see me online too?

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Nope.. no contact means helping yourself to heal emotionally and improving yourself physically, socially and emotionally. You should check this post out:
How To Use The No Contact Rule To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back (Video)
Using The No Contact Rule (Everything You Need To Know)

Justin
Guest

So she is leaving to move out of state in 15 days should i just ignore her until she leaves or what? I doubt she will just move back in 15 more days.. Where i think this wouldve worked had i started it last month.

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

one more thing I have to point out.. you can be nice to her if she initiates a conversation but you have to reply short and direct only but politely.. be busy and go out more so that it doesn’t seem like you’re always ignoring her and that she sees it more as you being busy with something else.

ok, but she will still come back right? Coz you said you doubt she will come back, that means there’s still a reason she will come back, you’re just not sure that it will be after just 15 days?

Justin
Guest

Well i was referring to the 21 day no contact. I started no contact yesterday and ahe caught on pretty quick. I made a fb poat about some big changes coming and she texted me right away asking about the changes so i ignored her then she called ignore. Then she called again later last night ignore. She then said so youvare really ignoring me now. Should i have responded to her? I was under the assumption i wasnt suppose to talk to her at all.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

nope, just ignore her unless it’s an emergency of course.

Justin
Guest

I had a long talk with her last night and she regrets everything. Wishes we would have talked sooner before everything got out of hand. So still thinks its past the point of no return even tho its ejat we both want. She is worried about what everyone else will say. It sucks that ive finally gotten her to open up just a couple days before she leaves. I really hope she comes around. Any suggestions?

Matt
Guest
OK I haven’t gotten a response yet, well kind of, but it was a question, but I’ll tell my story. I asked let’s say Isabel out and she said yes, We were happy, I I was super happy, but I didn’t know about her, but then in school I got moved away from her and then she deleted the only way I could text her outside of school. Then she broke up with me. She said she wasn’t ready for boys, but it was almost our one month anniversary, but I really don’t know if it was she wasn’t ready… Read more »
Gianni
Guest

Ok thank you. Why do you think she did that? Unfollowing me? I didn’t bother her at all. No liking her post. No sending her private messages. Nothing. Just because she suffer to see my stuff? Bothered? Thanks.

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

it can be that. In a way if she’s still affected that’s good.

Gianni
Guest

And by the way the only social network where I was connected to her was Instagram and I just noticed she’s not following me anymore so I have no chance/contact now to show her…????

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

Yes, I meant finish nc first before sending a text.. don’t break nc even when she gets back. just a casual post.. when you’re eating together with your workmates, or eating out with friends.. that way she’ll see you’re improving and going back to being happy again and that you have your own life.. it would be selfish of her to want you to be sad since she rejected you.

compile interesting topics for her and then follow Chris’ tips here:
3 SECRET TEXTS THAT YOUR EX GIRLFRIEND CANT RESIST (VIDEO)
How To Use Text Messages To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back

Gianni
Guest

I’m just concerned she’ll not see it from the moment she unfollowed me on Instagram (I don’t understand why) makes me think she doesn’t want to see me obviously. She’ll not see my post unless she’ll go check my profile. I’m already improving working hard on renewing my life. My question is how to show all those changing. Do you think she’ll check? She’ll be curious to see what’s happening? From your experience and woman perspective? I’m not gonna break NC rules no. And I’ll post anyway stuff as you said. Hopefully she’ll check

EGR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EGR Team Member: Amor

more likely yes, when she wonders why you’re not texting anymore, she can use another account, or a friend’s account to check.

Regret letting her
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I recently ended with someone that i knew was the perfect woman for me all because she was my first serious gf and i was curious about other women. we were also doing long distance. she’s in wa and i’m in hawaii. she was gonna come move down to hawaii in june so we could go from there. but because i was so afraid of taking it to the next step i broke up with her. i regret letting her go because no matter how hard i try i will never be able to replace her. i truly love her,… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Regretting guy,

The only option is to let time pass.. improve yourself and focus on yourself first.. mostly it takes 2-3 weeks for most to unblock. If you’re not unblock by then, set your own time limit on until when you would wait before deciding you should move on or wait longer before checking again.. but while waiting, rebuild your personal life.. improve it, meet new people and focus on growth..

Regret letting her go
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Regret letting her go

It has been over a month now. I also found out she has deleted her Facebook and not blocked me but delete me so j have no way of contacting her.

Treks
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The best is go to her place and find her there and hopefully you can get something their for her can take some changes

Regret letting her go
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Regret letting her go
I recently was able to contact her. Because I am doing worse than she is. I also made the mistake of telling her I slept with a girl who has a boyfriend that my then gf used to be paranoid about. I just wanted to be honest with. I then realized that no one will ever care about me the way this girl I left did. I messed up everything I want to do whatever I can to get her back my ex. She said she doesn’t trust me anymore because I slept with a girl who has a bf… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

It wasn’t wrong but I think no matter what the circumstance is you’ll have to face this.. The best you can do right now is to explain and apologize sincerely then after that to cut all ties with the girl and her boyfriend then start to improve yourself and give her time to heal

Regret letting her
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Hello, i need some serious help. I recently broke up with a girl that deep down i knew was the love of my life…but because we were doing long distance i made a huge mistake of breaking up with her because i was afraid of taking it to the next step(moving in together) and was curious about other women. i knew a made a mistake because i can’t replace her. even though i’m the one who broke up with her…deep down i don’t want her moving on. the idea kills me to think of her with someone else. shes in… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Regretting guy,

The only option is to let time pass.. improve yourself and focus on yourself first.. mostly it takes 2-3 weeks for most to unblock. If you’re not unblock by then, set your own time limit on until when you would wait before deciding you should move on or wait longer before checking again.. but while waiting, rebuild your personal life.. improve it, meet new people and focus on growth..

Matt
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Hi, I need hell, the comments I’m leaving are saying waiting for moderation but idk wt that means, but I need help, I’m in contact with her, I laugh with her, I sit with her, and I still talk to her, is it too late to start the nc thing, plz help, I’m a mess????

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Matt,

why did you break up and how long have you been together?

Matt
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BC she wasnt ready, but now she is ignoring me, but plz help

Matt
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And we were dating for almost a month

Matt
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OK I need help, she broke up w/ me bout month agio and she said she wasn’t ready for boys, my battery is bout to die so short and sweet

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Matt,

sorry for the super late reply.. If she really isn’t ready for a relationship because you guys are still young, then be her friend. If you really love her, you would wait.

Matt
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Idk if you have seen my other things but plz check, I’m a mess

Matt
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Idk what to do, I sent an email I think, idk but I went in contact and filled it out, but I still talk to her, laugh with her, and sit at her table, is it too late to start, please tell me what to do, thanks.????

Gianni
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Thanks very much. I’ll post something on Instagram hoping she’s gonna see it. You think that’s all for now keeping no contact rule still? What else I can do for now? Thank you!!!

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

just keep on focusing on yourself and improve all aspects that you can..

Gianni
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Ok I will! And I’ll wait she comes back to see if she wants to see me so I can show the best version of myself. Just one last thing, I asked but you didn’t tell me about it…in my case do I keep no contact rule still in meanwhile waiting for her to contact me? Or you suggest to text? Thanks again. Appreciate it.

Gianni
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And just to remind you when she flew away I sent her a message saying “I know you’re flying away soon, just want to wish you a safe and beautiful flight, and I hope you’ll enjoy time with family”. But she never responded. And still she has the door shut! Not contacting me at all. Just so you can figure the situation. That was 10 days ago almost.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Yep, you should start count now, and continue it even when she gets back, finish it first before initiating a contact with her.

Gianni
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Hi thanks again for your help. I’m working very hard on improving myself and already I see improvements. I did not get very clear what you mean when you say: “finish it first before initiating a contact with her”. I count from now 2/3 weeks of no contact rule right? And after those weeks of NC and improving myself I can send a text or try even if she didn’t? What do you suggest to approach with, what kind of message after these 2/3 weeks? Just like “how are you doing”? Being very detached? I know i could sound “dumb”… Read more »