What To Do If You Begged For Your Ex Girlfriend Back (And She Said NO…)

What’s the first thing that pops into your head when you think of someone who begs for something?

Personally, I get one image that constantly pops into my head,

begging

Yup, its the pathetic image of a guy who is on his hands and knees crying.

Ok, here is another fun little question.

If I got on my hands and knees right now and begged you to buy my book would you?

Hey, I am like the coolest guy ever and I could really use the money!

PLEASE…

PRETTY PLEASE WITH A CHERRY ON TOP…

Look, I am on my knees begging,

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Oh, and in case you are wondering if this is one of my classic jokes, it’s not.

I am dead serious.

You can purchase PRO by clicking this link,

Ex Girlfriend Recovery PRO

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Ok, I was joking.

And since I haven’t seen an influx of sales in the last five seconds I am guessing that my sales pitch which consisted of,

  • Begging
  • Not offering any value
  • And ordering you around

Didn’t work.

Now, I have a feeling I know what you are thinking.

“What the heck was the point of all that?”

It’s my passive aggressive way of showing you that begging for an ex girlfriend to be in a relationship with you is NOT the way to go.

In fact, I would go as far as saying it’s one of the most common and most treacherous mistakes that I see here at Ex Girlfriend Recovery.

My Vision For This Page

vision

No not that vision…

I am trying to create the best website on earth for men looking to,

A. Get back with their ex girlfriends

or

B. Get over their ex girlfriends

Since most of the men who visit this site are interested in learning how they can get their ex girlfriends back that’s where most of my focus has remained and since this is an article about how to overcome your pathetic begging that’s what we are going to focus on.

In other words, if you are looking to get over your ex girlfriend then this is not the page for you.

Now, I am a big believer of going above and beyond for you so this page isn’t going to just teach you about what your ex girlfriend is thinking when you beg for her back (SPOILER ALERT: It’s not good) but it’s going to give you an actionable game plan that you can use to get her back since I already have a feeling that you begged for her back.

I suppose the first thing that the ideal place to start is to let you in on what I like to call “the GNAT’s of the world.”

What Is A GNAT?

Oh come on, you know what a gnat is, right?

Those super annoying bugs that never seem to go away no matter how many times you swat at them.

Here is a picture,

gnats

I thought you would get a kick out of the fact that I put a little arrow and heading showing where a gnat was in this picture.

I don’t know what it is about stuff like that but it always makes me giggle like a little kid who knows he is doing something wrong but absolutely loves it.

Anyways, what if I told you that a man who begs for his ex girlfriend back is the equivalent of a gnat to her.

Do you need me to expand on this?

(I actually talk a lot about this idea in my book, The Texting Bible.)

Ok, first things first, for this little example to work I am banking on the fact that you have had experience with gnats in your own life before.

So, if you don’t have any experience with gnats consider yourself lucky because they are super annoying.

Here goes my example,

You want your ex girlfriend back after the breakup and you decide that the best way to go about accomplishing this goal is to beg for her back.

Your weapon of choice?

Text messages,

gnat example

*For more texting examples like this visit this page.

Now, lets consider your ex girlfriends perspective based on these begging text messages that you sent.

I am guessing that when your ex girlfriend receives the first text message from you,

gnat example

She is going to be amused.

As a general rule, human beings love flattery and there is nothing more flattering than someone trying to beg for you back.

Of course, things start to change when she receives the second message,

gnat example copy

This message is the moment she realizes that you aren’t going to give this chase up.

Your like a dog with a bone who isn’t going to let go until he gets the response he wants.

Maybe she ignores you or maybe she responds to you to tell you that she doesn’t want to see you.

(Though in the message above I clearly showed that your ex girlfriend doesn’t respond to you.)

Whatever the case you haven’t become entirely annoying to her… yet.

gnat example copy 2

That’s where the third message comes into play.

It is at this point that you are considered a full fledged GNAT.

And she is about to take her first “swat” at you by ignoring this message.

Of course, just like when a gnat is swatted at you come back for more,

gnat example copy 3

Welcome to the GNAT town.

Population – YOU.

I want to tell you a funny story but in order for this story to make sense I need to give you some context.

Some of my more “in tune” readers are aware that in addition to Ex Girlfriend Recovery I also own a “sister site” to this one called Ex Boyfriend Recovery.

Ex Boyfriend Recovery is like the women’s version of this site.

About a year ago a reader on my other site, Ex Boyfriend Recovery contacted me and started praising me for my ideas on the GNAT.

She then said something that I knew was going to change the way I forever viewed the GNAT.

Her: “Does GNAT stand for something?”

Me: “Nope, it just is an analogy for the annoying bug that constantly flies around your head.”

Her: “Oh, I thought it stood for Going Nuts At Texting…”

G: Going

N: Nuts

A: At

T: Texting

How perfect is that?

It’s so true too!

It pretty much encompasses everything that a GNAT is.

What was the point of telling you that story?

To really hammer the point home that a GNAT is not a good thing.

Does Begging Ever Work?

beg

Hmm…

I suppose the answer to that question depends on what you are begging for.

Let me give you an example.

If you have a child and you take that child to a toy store and the child sees something that he/she wants and begs you for it then you might give in just to keep them quiet. In fact, I have seen this happen first hand.

However, when you are talking about something huge like who you are going to date then begging rarely works.

Now, I am not one of those people who is going to tell you with 100% certainty that begging won’t work.

I am sure there is some rare case that I am not thinking of where it would work but do I recommend it?

NO WAY.

Why?

I think it all has to do with the way we perceive people who beg.

This is particularly true for women.

Lets jump in my handy dandy time machine,

handy dandy time machine

And go back to the caveman times where things were very simple.

Now, lets pretend that you are a part of a caveman tribe and the most beautiful woman in the tribe just lost her husband (who was the leader of the tribe.) He was trampled by a dinosaur,

dinosaur

Tradition dictates that the leader of your tribe gets to marry this beautiful girl and since you are in love with this beautiful girl you want to try to win her heart.

What is the best way to do so?

Should you go up to her and grunt (since language hasn’t been invented yet) in a way that resembles begging?

Or should you try to win her through strength?

That’s what gets my vote.

strenth

Well, as weird as this is going to sound not much has really changed from caveman times when it comes to what women find attractive.

They still prefer a strong man over a man who is weak or begs.

The only difference is that back in caveman times strength actually meant strength.

In other words, it was the biggest burliest dude that got all the women.

Not anymore…

Humans have become much more sophisticated and as a result of that sophistication what we find attractive in mates has slightly changed.

In other words, looking like this is no longer going to cut it,

body builder

(Freaky picture, huh? I am pretty sure it’s photoshopped though.)

Anyways, I think I got a bit off topic since I was supposed to be explaining why women don’t find begging attractive.

Why Women Don’t Find Begging Attractive

eww

Think about the actual action of begging.

With begging you have a beggar and a receiver.

The Beggar- Is the one who does the begging (aka: YOU.)

The Receiver- Is the one who receives the begging (aka: Your Ex)

Hmm… perhaps I should paint a picture to make this a little more clear since I think these things pop a lot when I add fun little pictures into the fray.

Screen Shot 2015-10-11 at 8.48.46 PM

Ok, so in this picture the receiver clearly doesn’t find the begging attractive, why?

Well, in order to understand this we are going to have to turn to a concept that I teach a lot in my book, Ex Girlfriend Recovery PRO and on this site.

The concept?

People are attracted to the things they can’t have.

It’s funny, I talked a lot about this in my last article for EGR.

So, the premise of this is actually quite simple.

Lets pretend that you have two men going after the same girl. Now, everything about these men is identical. They look the same, they have the same job, they even act the same. It’s almost like someone cloned one of them.

Anyways, like I said above they are going after the same girl and that’s where their one difference comes into play.

Man #1 – Does Not Beg During The Courtship

Man #2 – DOES Beg During The Courtship

Out of the two men which do you think the girl will pick?

The one that doesn’t beg (Man #1)

Why?

Because she already knows that she can get (Man #2) and she doesn’t know if she can get (Man #1) and that makes him more attractive.

Women want the guy they can’t have.

Plain and simple.

Are you getting it yet?

Begging is a very BOLD statement saying that your ex girlfriend CAN have you.

It is basically creating this headwind that is going to make your attempt at getting her back ten times harder than it needs to be.

The Sales Pitch Analogy (Another Reason Begging Doesn’t Work)

sales

Think back to the beginning of this article.

Specifically the part where I begged you to buy my book, Ex Girlfriend Recovery PRO. 

Did it work?

Probably not.

Why?

Because begging doesn’t work in sales.

Let me give you an example.

If you were to go to Best Buy right now to buy a TV I am pretty sure the sales person there isn’t going to get on his or her hands and knees and beg you to buy a TV.

No, what they are going to try to (if they are a good sales person) is provide value to you so you get excited about purchasing a TV.

Providing that value is super important because often times it’s what makes the sale.

Consider my business model for a moment.

I am just a guy.

I don’t have any special credentials like a doctorate in psychology (though I will say I spend as much time as a doctorate candidate researching and learning things for you guys.) Anyways, at my core I am just a guy who knows a thing or two about relationships.

My medium for sharing how I can help you is this website.

So, when you found this website do you notice me immediately spamming you with sales pitches to buy my products?

No…

Well, except in this post but that was to make a point.

Usually what I do is let my advice speak for itself.

I provide as much value as I possibly can to you and let you make your own decision on whether or not to buy my products. Sure, I do pitch them here and there but it’s never too in your face to the point where I am begging.

My theory is that me providing value to you will translate to sales.

The same can be said of relationships.

Look, I think by now you already know that I have a very eccentric view of the relationships. And when it comes to getting an ex girlfriend back I like to think that it’s nothing more than one massive sales pitch where you are selling yourself.

That’s how we need to approach this if you are going to have any chance of success.

So, guess what I am going to do now?

I am going to teach you how to sell yourself to your ex girlfriend so that she will want you back.

Selling Yourself To Your Ex Girlfriend

let the sales flow through you

You are going to be attempting to do something that is very difficult.

You are going to be trying to sell yourself to someone who has already “bought” you in the past.

Now, lets hit the pause button right here since I can sense that your confusion.

You and your ex girlfriend dated in the past.

The mere fact that you dated in the past means that you already got your girlfriend to invest some time and emotional capital in you (which is like the equivalent to money) in the real world.

Hmm…

Perhaps I should create another cool little graphic for you so that I can really drive this point here.

buying

Ok, in this analogy your ex girlfriend is buying some goods (which you can see pictured in the pink bag above.)

The girl in the picture is your ex girlfriend

And the credit card she is paying for the goods with is like her investing time and emotional capital into a relationship with you.

Oh, and the goods are the equivalent to YOU.

Get it?

Now, the reason why getting an ex girlfriend back is so difficult is because the two of you had a breakup which is like having her return the goods she bought to the store she bought it at,

returns

So, essentially what you are trying to do is re-pitch the same “product” to your ex girlfriend and get her to buy it again (when she returned it.)

Do you see how difficult that is?

Oh, and when you add in the fact that you have probably already begged her to “buy you.” Well, that is really difficult.

So, what’s the best way that you can get her to buy you?

Well, you are going to have to repackage the same product and present it in a different way.

Hmm…

How can I put this in a way that will make you understand.

Ok, lets pretend that when your ex girlfriend bought you, you were a beer,

beer before the breakup

However, she took a sip, hated it and returned it.

Well, after working with me you are going to represent yourself to her as a wine,

wine

Much more refined…

Sophisticated…

And what she can picture herself with.

But how can you achieve this type of transformation?

Especially when you already begged her to take the beer back.

Well, lets talk about that.

The Selling Yourself Strategy (If You Begged)

So I think I have come up with a pretty good strategy that you can implement if you have ended up begging for your ex girlfriend back and it all revolves around selling yourself and this idea of repackaging.

Are you ready?

Ok, here it goes!

selling yourself

So, I bet you are wondering what the heck all of this means.

Well, don’t worry.

Just like always I am going to be going down the list one by one explaining what everything needs. So, sit back and relax because I am going to take it from here.

I supposed I should just jump right in, huh?

Ok, lets start with “erasing the begging.”

STEP ONE: Erase The Begging

I feel like calling on the Men In Black here.

You know how they have that special tool that can erase your memory?

men in black

Yup, if we could just use that tool on your ex girlfriend we would be golden, huh?

Well, what if I told you that there was a tool that you could use on your ex girlfriend that can “kind of” erase her memory of your pathetic begging?

That tool is called the no contact rule,

men in black

If you don’t know what the no contact rule is then I suggest you pick up a copy of PRO and learn.

Here is a quick crash course on what it is though,

The No Contact Rule– A specific period of time (between 21 to 45 days) where you ignore your ex girlfriend no matter what (except in a few instances.)

So, I know the question you are wondering at this point.

“How does the no contact rule make my ex forget about my begging.”

Well, it accomplishes this on two levels.

Level One- It’s The Opposite Of What She Expects

You have already begged for your ex girlfriend back.

No matter what she is going to expect you to continue begging for her.

So, when this doesn’t happen she is going to have this subconscious thought that goes,

“Wait, why did he stop? He’s not supposed to stop.”

This is going to lead brilliantly into repackaging yourself which is the next rung of the ladder on our strategy but more on that later.

Lets move on to level two.

Level Two- The Attachment Of Bad Memories

Right now what is the first thing that your ex girlfriend thinks of when she thinks of you?

She probably thinks of the fact that you begged for her back.

In other words, this is her memory of you.

Every single time that you message her (right now) this is probably going to be the first thought that is going to pop into her mind.

“Oh, he is trying to beg for me back…”

“UGH… not this again…”

“OMG this guy is relentless…”

I imagine thoughts like that are quite common from her side.

So, here is something that I didn’t talk about yet.

Every single time you talk to your ex girlfriend after begging for her back she is going to to think of you actually begging for her back. In other words, those bad memories are going to attach themselves to every interaction you have with her.

So, in essence even trying to contact her forces her to remember that pathetic begging.

That’s where the no contact rule comes into play.

By using the no contact rule and NOT contacting your ex instead of constantly forcing her to remember the begging you are going to let some time go by and there is definitely a correlation between time going by and forgetting.

Just saying…

STEP TWO: Repackaging Yourself

repackaging

So, the way other people teach the no contact rule is a lot different than I do.

You see, most people will tell you to use the no contact rule and then somehow magically your ex girlfriend is going to contact you and all will be right with the world. And while I would be lying if I told you that I have never actually seen that happen firsthand (I definitely have) I will admit that it is rare.

People who recommend doing the no contact rule in this way are missing the boat on two huge opportunities.

These two opportunities are basically steps two and three of the process I am teaching you here.

Lets talk about repackaging yourself.

The no contact rule is a strict rule where you get between 21 to 45 days of free time away from your ex.

That means that you won’t see her or talk to her in any way, shape or form.

Now, I have a question for you.

What are you supposed to do during this time?

Do you just sit on your hands and pick flowers?

Well, that’s how other people teach the no contact rule.

Not me though…

I like to take the Pete Rose approach,

pete rose

I like teaching men to hustle.

I want you to work hard during the no contact rule and you are definitely going to have to if you want to have any chance of repackaging yourself.

So how do you do that?

How do you hustle and work hard during the no contact rule?

Well, you focus on the holy trinity during the no contact rule.

If you want a full explanation of the holy trinity I recommend checking out Ex Girlfriend Recovery PRO.

Here is the quick lowdown though,

holy trinity

In the graphic above I talk about the three main areas of life that I want you to focus on.

These three levels,

  1. Health
  2. Wealth
  3. Relationships

Make up the holy trinity.

Now, you will also notice that in the graphic above there is an arrow.

This arrow is super important as it is pointing towards the intersect that happens between the three legs of the holy trinity.

Finding out how to balance all three of these things perfectly is extremely difficult.

I know it seems really easy at a glance but when you actually get in and try to balance these three things you will find that it’s very rare.

But that’s what I want you to do.

During the no contact rule I want you to attempt to get these three aspects in your life to balance.

STEP THREE: Using The Value Chain

What I am about to teach you isn’t necessarily revolutionary as I have taught it on this site and in my books,

The PRO System

&

The Texting Bible

But after you have utilized the no contact rule and have “repackaged yourself” I want you to try using something that I like to call “the value chain.” Now, if all this technical mumbo jumbo wording is confusing you don’t sweat it too much.

The value chain is actually quite easy to understand.

It’s basically my way of transitioning from method of communication to method of communication. Oh, and I haven’t even gotten to the best part.

The value chain is utilized by many Fortune 500 companies in their sales process so it kind of fits perfectly into what we are talking about here.

Here is how it works.

We take the lowest risk of communication with an ex, texting, and slowly but surely move our way up to the riskiest form of communication, seeing her in person.

Here is a graphic outlining exactly how this works,

value chain

Notice how the mediums of communication with your ex slowly but surely increase as you move to the value chain until you finally get to the end where you go on a romantic date.

By the romantic date point you should have built up enough value to make your final pitch to her to get her to “buy you.”

Now, I bet you are dying for me to thoroughly dissect the value chain, huh?

I am not going to do that because it’s my way of building value to you so that I can get you to buy 😉 .

(Hey, I have to leave you wanting more somehow.)

Ok, I will just dissect one tiny little thing.

Do you notice how under the value chain I have arrows pointing to each little section with the title saying,

“Attraction Built?”

Well, that’s because you cannot transition into the next phase of the value chain until enough attraction has been built in each individual section.

Get it?

No?

Well, you’ll just have to pick up PRO if you want more of an explanation :p .

LEVEL FOUR: Persistence

What I am going to say here is not going to be overly revolutionary.

In fact, you will probably get more from the past three levels as this is going to be more motivational than anything else.

I am going to let you in on a little secret that I have seen due to my time here at Ex Girlfriend Recovery.

When you answer over 50,000 comments about exes you learn a thing or two.

Want me to teach you what I have learned.

There is a difference between the men who succeed and the men who fail.

In fact, recently a man contacted me on Facebook as he was desperate to get his ex back.

Now, his situation didn’t really blow me away since I have seen a lot like it in the past. However, for some reason I was compelled to help him.

(Side Note: I try to do my best with answering comments on the site but that’s usually it. I am spread too thin for everything else but something about this guy made me want to help him.)

So I did.

I’ll admit that I could have done a better job of offering advice but I did the best I could with the little time that I had.

Well, he got his ex back!

texting-testimonial-2

And you want to know what I think really won him his ex back?

It wasn’t anything special one liner or tactic.

It was his persistence.

Seriously, too many men give up before they even have a chance. In fact, it drives me nuts.

It’s the persistent man that wins out the end.

Just ask my buddy Keith!

Besides, what’s the mark of a great salesman?

Persistence!

		

Written by EGR team mate

Chris Seiter

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176 Comments on "What To Do If You Begged For Your Ex Girlfriend Back (And She Said NO…)"

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Andy
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Hi. I really need to know if nc is the right thing for my situation? My gf ended things 2 weeks ago after 3 years together. The reason she did this was my own fault. I took her for granted and didnt spend enough time with her. She gave me the warning signs, told me it was making her ill not seeing me and that she felt lonely without me. She wasnt needy. I honestly didnt pay her enough attention. These were my issues and now ive lost her ive been having counselling and understand myself much better. I realise… Read more »
David
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Hi Chris and team, my situation is as close to impossible as it gets. My ex gf and I have broken up 4 times over the last 4 years and this time it was more serious. I did no contact for 5 weeks and then when I texted got no response. I called and found that I was blocked, but got through to her on another phone. Over the next 2 weeks I totally lost control and kept calling, eventually turning up after work and telling her we need to talk about the relationship and work at it. I took… Read more »
Daniel
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My ex broke up with me almost a year ago after a 2.5 year relationship and there wasn’t a real reason, she just said she didn’t want to be in a relationship because the more she loved me the more any small thing hurt her. We had been fighting a lot for a while but nothing major. We stayed in contact for the next couple of months and continued acting as if we were dating until she found another guy 3 months after we broke up. We I found out I went through all the phases of anger, begging, and… Read more »
Kenneth
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Me and my ex of 3 years have finally broke it off!!! I’m crushed to make a long story as short as possible. Within the first six months of our relationship, she went off and got engaged to her ex fiancé. I had no idea she told me she was going out of the country with some friends but I found out two days before she left that she was going with him came back engaged. I cut off all contact and about three months later she started calling, leaving letters on my door saying she made a mistake. We… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Kenneth,
I think there is if you use the nc rule right. Be active in posting in social media, just make your posts public if you blocked her.

Adam
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Hey, so my ex girl broke up with me at 10th of December after that I beg and be miserable for first week she sad that she need space, I was able to give her only 3 days without contact then I wrote love letter (I know very dumb move). Then she sad that she doesn’t want to try again but she doesn’t want to burn bridges and in some future wants to be in touch. I agreed but since then I only wish her merry Christmas and Happy New Year on 1st January between 2 of this periods I… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Adam,

don’t make the meet up your first agenda after nc because in order to get there you need to build rapport and attraction slowly first.. start with texts, later on calls and then later on meet ups.. be active in improving yourself and in posting.

T
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Can you also post something like My Girlfriend Fell In Love With Another Girl During Break Up? Thanks. And I also want to ask, can I exceed 45 days for no contact rule. I want to have decent income, change how I look, gain confidence and engage in exciting activities, and i think i would need more than 45 days to do that. Thanks in advance

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi T,

I would forward it to Chris. Thank you! That’s good that you want to improve yourself but if she fell in love with woman, do you mean she’s lesbian? if she’s bi you have a chance, but if she really wants a woman, then you should move on.

Henry
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Hi.I broke up with my ex because i hardly saw her,her parents made our life hell because we fell out at work.Asked for more of her or i wouldnt want the relationship anymore.Regreted it the day after.Went to talk to her and she said she didnt want it anymore.All this through facebook (ridiculous).I´m 30shes 23 , this was a month ago.Broke nc today after 2 weeks she says she loves me,misses me but stil thinks its the right decision to stay apart.We´re meeting for a coffee in 5 days?any help tips?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Henry,

If it didn’t go well, restart nc, do 30 days and take this as a restart.. Think as if she has moved and you’re reattracting her.

Jeremy
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My girl broke up with me two months ago this Saturday, after almost 3 years together. She chased me and was very emotionally committed up until the last day, but I was hesitant and slow because she has had at least three long term relationships (two were marriages with a son in each), while I had only had one long term relationship (only 2.5 years) which was less committed. I was the first to say “I love you” and she constantly tried to boost my low self-esteem and self-confidence. But I always held back. I know what I was doing… Read more »
Jeremy
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I am sorry that was so long. There is a lot more concerns that don’t fit the EGR Pro examples (she now lives 3 hours away, she may have a bf, she is in the Army (National Guard), she was hit by a car after my first NC attempt (resulting in my begging and seeing her, though she said she was grateful I did see her as nobody else but parents visited her).
Thanks for any advise.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Jeremy,

Approach it like a long distance relationship..follow this one:
The Ultimate Guide To Getting A Long Distance Relationship Ex Girlfriend Back

Jeremy
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Thank you for the reply, Amor. I read through LDR and will work on moving forward in that fashion. But would you recommend I start NC over, or go back and finish my original 30 days? (PS would you mind deleting my last name from my original Nov 28 post? I did not think about it when I typed my name. Thanks)

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Yup restart nc, and dont unfriend her in social media..if you already did, just make your posts public

Toki
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Fuck. I keep calling her and begging for a weeks. No way I push her too far 🙁

Bob
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Hi, I was dating a girl for four months, we were really kicking it off well. We had one issue and it was that she was holding onto bad experiences with her ex and projecting them onto me. She told me he used to not get in touch for weeks at a time, and it boiled over when I wouldn’t message back after just a few hours while I was busy. I would always make time to call her after I was finished and explained that I had to do something in a short space of time and I was… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Bob,

How much did you improve since September and how active were you in posting?

Bob
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I improved a lot. I got a new job, got my own place from living in a shared house. I’ve been working out, eating healthy, spending time with my friends and have holidays set up over the next couple of months to visit new places. Got my band running well again too. I’ve been on dates, each one good but not as good as her, I can’t really see past that. In terms of posting, I don’t post or really ever post on facebook. If I did start doing that she’d know it’s out of character and just to get… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Your posts are your indirect way of showing your improvements..if you kept doing it even if there are no likes nor comments from her, then it would looks like that’s part of your change, being active in social media..

Ravin
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During the no contact period my ex girlfriend’s birthday is coming? Am I supposed to wish her or not?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Ravin,

it meant being kind after nc or if you can’t help but bump into her during nc.. but during nc you shouldn’t initiate nor reply nor greet her in her birthday.

Sebastien perrin
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Hi amor My ex girlfriend and i struggling for 2 months She kept blocking me for 2 months and unblocked and this what happened me and my girl supposed to get married everything is fine and she asked for opinion to other people because i have a daughter She accepted it before but before we broke up lot of people told her that its not good to get marry a guy who has a daughter and she follows what her friends and parents told her but my daughter isnt with me.i just told her before started our relationship and thats… Read more »
Sebastien perrin
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We are almost 2 years now amor btw and we were like bestfriend and we love each other so so so much.thanks

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

HI Sebastien,

are you in the no contact rule now?

Sebastien perrin
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Yeaah i tried it now after 2 months of struggling this is the first week but she blocked me for 3 weeks now .i dont know if she still care about us and i tried my best and she doesnt care and i think she is doing this things on purpose..last week i tried voicenote her and called her she doesnt replying.i dont know if she is still love me.its really hard because we were really fined and out of nowhere she changed to something that i didnt even think she will.but i want her back because i want to… Read more »
Sebastien perrin
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Yeaaah i tried it for a week but its seems she blocked me now for 3 weeks and im doesnt matter what is the best advise can i do.the problem is the negative people around her.and we were like nothing our 2 years relationship like bestfriend lover.im sending her voicenote every week using our driver cp to voicenote because she blocked me and she didnt even answer and its like really pissed off about it.i think she is doing the no contact rules to move on.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

You can’t control other people.. Focus on what you can control, yourself.. If she is moving on, she would only be willing to start being friendly with you later on if she sees through your actions, which is your posts, that you are moving on and not chasing anymore..

Indian
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hey, my girlfriend and i were together for 4 years. she broke up with me 2 weeks before.i started begged my girl for one week. because of that she started hating me fully because the way i begged. what shall i do now? and also suggest me a NC period…

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Indian,

do at least 30 days and be active in improving yourself and in posting.

Mr Tixos
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Hi Folks I really messed up my 9 year relationship with my fiancee. We were not in the best position the last three months- she was working evenings- I was working morning, not much sex and not going to bed together. I started talking to another girl and she found out about it. I then said I wanted to leave her for this other girl and we broke up and I moved out. I sent a few messages apologising and we had some heated arguments. But then I initiated non-contact for 3 weeks. We have spoken back and forth for… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Have you cut ties with the other girl?

Luffy
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Hello need your advice..my relationship with my girlfriend is not that long .broke up because of silly things yet i admitted its my fault.because of that she ignores all my call and my text as im trying to explain and apoligize..that time i came across with this site & i did ask a question with different name.i did the no contact rules & at the 12th day i broke it as she would be moving out from this country due to her working visa expired on the 18th day of my no contact period. I broke it because i dont… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

try to do the nc again one last time and be really active in improving yourself and in posting.

Luffy
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If this last one doesnt succeed is this means i have to move on.after few days of no contact she message me & call me..i broke it is this mean i failed & no use restarting all over again.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

If you did the nc successfully, that means you have to start building rapport slowly..only then will you know if it’s progressing or you have to move on.. But if you break it, it depends if you will restart it or to just move because the more you restart it, the less it can help you

Max
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It happened all of sudden. I used to talk her the whole day but she was also in touch with my best friend who also is madly in love with her now. I don’t know what happened but she started ignoring me. I asked her several times if everything’s OK ?. “Yes” everytime she replies. I decided to give her a break. After giving a break of 4 days I messaged her and she ignored. And yes I started all that begging stuff, her besties started to ignore me, my best friend is also ignoring me now. She is now… Read more »
Eric
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I’ve been dating my ex for 2.5 years. We’ve broken up officially twice first time because I cheated emotionally, I went out of a date with a girl a couple times. She got back together with me within a week of that but it was pretty painful for her. She eventually got past it but I think it developed insecurity issues. I realized later on that I did so wasn’t because solely of superficiality, (still my fault and mistake) but because she was never ever able to divest all of her issues to me. I know people have their own… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Eric,

you told her you’re going to do nc?

Waqar
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Hey chris, so here’s my situation: My girlfriend broke up with me two months ago because I was very controlling, and had some serious trust issues with her. Which caused me to act like an idiot, being jealous and just not treating her very well in general. So, she did the right thing by kicking me out of her life.. actually the day she broked with me i was pretty angry and said to her that u r a slut first work for me then for anyone else i didn’t realised at first that what i said but when i… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

You should stick to at least 30 days.. Dont just wait.. Be active in improving yourself

Ancheet
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I hope it worked out for him
Im in a similar situation

Jake
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My girlfriend broke up with me about a month ago because of my depression. I asked her in the wrong words if she needed a bit of space, and accidentally asked her if she would like to “untie the knot.” She knows I didn’t mean it like that, but she said I was too negative (I didn’t know I had depression yet, found out recently) and that she was sick of me getting anxious of her leaving me. I begged for a few days afterwards, and she kept saying no until I wrote her a letter. She said yes then… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Get professional help. Restart nc and focus in healing and improving yourself first

Bobby
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Hello. So its been about 2 weeks since she broke up with me. Did all the wrong things by begging and pleading initially. I know we love each other and dont hate each other I think she is just still to angry to really see a second chance in the future. I acknowledged all that I was responsible for and really didnt point any fingers and blame her for anything. I didnt really flip out and say hurtful things. I was going through emotional hardship during our relationship (my best friend almost died in front of me last summer) and… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

She’s probably just really angry.. That’s good that you’re in therapy.. Yes, keep improving yourself because that will help increase your chances

John
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Hi, I was with my girlfriend 7 months and I was upset about how she never seemed to buy me any presents and that I paid for stuff and it became a big thing in my mind so I started to contact her less and eventually it all came out. I apologised after as she has done a lot for me but she came round to try and sort things and I was a little flippant and she basically broke up with me few days after. I sent about 22 texts tried to ring but nothing, sent her some presents… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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Hi John,

do it properly one last time, if it doesn’t work, then move on..

Harry
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me and my girlfriend were going out for 3 years and in the last month or so she really started to distance herself from me. 3 days after our 3 year anniversary she dumped me because she said she needed time to work on herself and become the best person possible and hopes I do the same. Initially i reacted badly and was pissed then we didn’t talk for a couple weeks besides me trying to send her stuff but getting no answer. Finally she got really annoyed, but I ended up apologizing and she was appreciative i understood where… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Harry,

try at least 30 days, if you need to do 45 that’s ok..

Andrew
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10 month relationship, we lived together twice. First break up was after two months i took my things and left one night while she was at work i wasnt ready. We talked off and on over the next three months and i decided she really was worth it and convinced her to go on a date. Date was incredible i was on point we got back together that night and i moved back in. Fast forward 4 months to november and things arent going so well.. I start getting complacent and clingy she breaks up and stays at a friends.… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Andrew,
there’s no guarantee that it will work but it’s your only option other than moving on. So, why not just try it?

Josh
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I had a girlfriend for over a year and a half and she broke up with me about two months ago. The breakup ended okay with no begging or whining. We go to the same small school and have the same friends and everything was very difficult for me at first, so I decided to go on no contact. In that time, she had contacted me saying she wasn’t out forgetting about me and she wanted to talk to me but wasn’t sure how I felt and that after seeing me at a party talking to her made her really… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Josh,

even if it has been two months since the break up, I think it’s not yet too late to start the no contact period. I think she was trying to friendzone you but you misinterpreted it. Maybe she still has some feelings, but it’s too early for her to go back to you. So, in this no contact, try to establish that you’ve accepted her decision and be active in improving yourself.. like you’re moving on..

Tyrone
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Hi, I am happy to have find your site as there very good advices about relationships. I really need your help to get my ex back. I will try to make as short as possible. So, I was dating this wonderful girl for a year, but during our last months together we were having some arguments but not enough for a break up. All of a sudden, she decided to break up cause she said that the relation was not healthy. Since the breakup I have been begging her to come back for 8 months, she keeps telling me that… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

hi Tyrone,

even if you didnt contact her 50 days, did you improve yourself? How much? Did you do new things? Did you make new friends?

Tyrone
Guest

Yes, I did. I made new friends, started going to the gym, stopped being desperate and sending her tons of texts and I am also now working for a multinacional company. But I still want her back!

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

That’s good.. take it slow.. just be friendly.. check this one:
How To Use Text Messages To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back

Alex
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Hi Chris, hi everyone, thank you very much for your useful and brilliant tips that I’ve found on your site. . Here’s in brief my story. I had this short term relationship for less than one month that was very intense and passional with a colleague. She told me a lot of things such as: “you are perfect, your will be my husband, I would like to start living with you, etc etc”. I was so blind and in love to forget every little signal that she sent me during this short amount of time, like that she often talked… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Alex,

Try doing a full 21 days no contact.. just focus in improving yourself.. and then after thay slowly build rapport.. dont ask her out in the first text

Troubled Waters
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I won’t go through the long crap that transpired after our breakup. I didn’t cheat, but I was neglectful a lot at times. However, when I started really prioritizing her, her interest kind of went out the window. I also let my career go limp also, however, although I didn’t totally rely on her either. Plus she hit menopause, so our sex life took a massive dive. Anyway, I have done a week of no contact, and then she contacts me, and I answer, and she acts all friendly, but I can never escalate anything. She is committed to being… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Troubled waters,

the question is what do you really want to happen? Do you want her to change? Have you talked about it? What did she say? Because if it looks like she’s just stringing you along.. shirt nca wont really help.. There’s no guarantee that that a full nc will help your relationship with her but it can help you heal, improve and reflect..

Pat
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Hi, My ex of 5 years broke up with me 8 months ago. As it caught me by surprise I couldnt get over the fact of losing her so I made the fatal error of begging, pleading, and being a GNAT to her for last 8 months, more so because I was emotional wreck. At first she was ok with it all but it got to the point where she was so annoyed by it all she blocked me on facebook and ignore my attempts of contact. I done a few no contacts here and there during the 8 months… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

still in no contact?

James
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Can you help I have brought the pro but don’t feel any of the situations fit my criteria I’m a “nice guy” and need your help

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi James,

what’s your story? how long were together, when and why did you break up, how old are you both?

W
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Hey, i was dating with my ex for more than 4 years( for last 1,5 – 2 years i was pushing her away because im STUPID), i’ve break up with her at beggining of february 2016 because we was arguing a lot (mostly because she wanted to move in together and i wasnt so enthusiastic about it), and from this there was more arguing about other shit that really doesn’t matter. After 2 months (beggining of april/end of march) i said her that i miss her like no one in the world, ive begged and do some other stupid things.… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi W,

your English is ok.. Hi i think you should tell her that being friends with her and talking to her now is not helping you move on.. so, you’re taking time out for yourself for a while and when you’re ready you’ll reach out.. and then do 45 days no contact.. so you can establish change and really have a restart.. just don’t tell her it’s 45 days..

W
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I said to her that i need time to move on, she was kinda angry about that, and now she’s talking like she dont see any hope. Shit happens. I’ve got now 44 more days for me, we will see if i will change my feelings in this time.

John
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Hi Amor, I hope you can help with my situation. apparently me and ex is currently in the process of divorce. she lives overseas and me and her start having problems since last December 2015, to her we broke up since then and the last i saw her was on feb 2016 and after i came back things started to change around the beginning of march it gotten worst, ive been calling her and she been distant from me since and i believe she have a new guy and i been begging and pleading with her for past last month… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi John,

you have to do at least 45 days and just focus in yourself… give the guy a good competition by being your best self..but after nc you have to continue.improving yourself and you have to go out on dates too.. she has to think that you have stopped chasing her and moved on..so that she will think you’re just being civil and friendly when you talk again and she won’t be protective of her current relationship

Nev
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My ex girlfriend and I broke up a month ago. We had drifted apart quickly within a week. One min it was fine next she was on a dating site, I found out and got angry and she ended our relationship. The week before she was still madly in love with me but was niggling about the house being untidy etc. She suffers from depression also due to losing her son from a previous relationship who died shortly after birth and is still grieving. Straight after our break up she was in hospital for a week after a serious op… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Nev,
nope.. but you should start active no contact and 45 days

Nev
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I was thinking 30 days. I think she shows some some signs of BPD. She has told me I am not her one ( Even though 3 months ago I was the one she wanted for life). I know now I must go complete no contact. Do you def recommend the 45 days ?. After that What approach should I take if I still feel the same and haven’t moved on.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

yes, it’s better of you take 45 days..make the most of it by focusing in yourself and being active… go to the gum, go out out friends, koin classes to or groups online with your same interests and meet up with them..you have to continue that too after nc.. nc is just a way for you so you can start a new routine

Jared
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I begged for her back the initial first two days after breakup and she said she wanted space and that we shouldn’t talk for a month so I’m doing NC FOR thirty days. Will the two days of begging make a big impact on my chances?

EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Jared,

nope and din’t worry about that and whether she contacts you or not..what’s more important is how you focus on yourself only, heal and improve yourself and be active in posting it

Mordechai
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Hi, I feel like I may have gone to the extreme on the begging spectrum. My girlfriend of 10 months (we’ve actually known each other for about two years) broke up towards the end of March. I totally skipped (or at least blew through at neck breaking speeds), all the steps you’ve listed on the site for using the value chain. We had a rocky-road paved for us during our relationship; we had just finished a year of service together which was hard enough as it was to build a relationship coming out of that. We also struggled with work… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Mordechai,

when is she moving? I think you should just do 45 days… how are things now? did you proceed to start no contact?

Harry
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Hi Chris, So me and my ex were together on and off for two years and we were rocky, but we always got through it together. She dumped me initially about a month ago, i begged when i came back home from uni but kinda let her go with the flow, she then went on a date with me and loved it. She said to give her time so i went back up to uni but my paranoia etc got the better of me and i got clingy and worried. Her mum and me ended up having discussions all the… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

HI harry,
sorry for the late reply.. dd you continue to do the no contact rule?

Giovanni
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Hey Amor or whoever can answer this dilemma: I recently rekindled a friend with benefits situation and I am interested in dating her. I told her this today after 30+ days of NC. She is in the process of getting a divorce and is hooking up with exes right now. Should I wait the appropriate time necessary for her to get over her ex-husband and then try to tell her again that I want to be with her? She responded that she thinks that I deserve better than her and that even though I am accommodating to her situation, it… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Giovanni,

Yeah, it’s better if you let her move on from her situation first and then slowly build rapport and attraction over time.

Chris
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so here goes nothing. My ex and I broke up on friday May 6th, 2016. Since the breakup, there has been a mix of emotions. I have been trying to figure out where it went wrong. I think i know through questioning. She told me that i was self-centered, and that i took her for granted. She said that whenever she would be sad i would flip it so that she was comforting me not the other way around. We were together for almost 2 years, but towards the end she became distant. I could tell that she loved me… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Chris,

Try no contact first.. let her cool off and take this time improve yourself, go out and meet new people.. Try 30 days, and then slowly rebuild rapport after that.. if it doesn’t work out, at least you know you tried.

Jordan
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Me and my gf of 4 months had an incredible relationship with no fights and no arguments. That was until the last 2 weeks of it. We had the talk we should have never had. We talked about each other’s sexual history and she had more experience than me. That spurred on my insecurities with me and her as a gf. I eventually got over those but the damage was done in the process. I began to question her and ask her to call me when she got home from the bar and make her feel bad for getting blackout… Read more »
Jordan
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One last thing I forgot to mention, we exchanged a couple emails the morning after we broke up. They were very positive and comforting to each of us. My last email to her was telling her that I would not have a problem waiting and that I would give her time. I then asked what she felt about that and she replied with a thought that I was be controlling and how no business asking her that since we weren’t together. I know she is right but since I told her my intentions i wanted to know hers. She did… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Jordan,

I assume you started no contact.. but start the count on the first day you stopped liking her posts and then be active during no contact to improve yourself.. you have to show you’re moving on..

Alexander
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Hi Chris!
I´m one of the many people who suffers from a breakup. Hope is what keeps me going, but at times I feel like giving up. I sometimes feels that it´s easier to give up than to deal with all the pain that lies ahead. I know it´s worth it, but it´s ridiculously hard.

– “Seriously, too many men give up before they even have a chance. In fact, it drives me nuts.
It’s the persistent man that wins out the end”.

That sentence lit my fire. Simple words can make a great change.
Thank you for this wonderful article!

Logan
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Ok so, me and my ex broke up about 3 months ago, we talked for about a month after that and I just constantly kept annoying her…until she told me she didn’t want to talk anymore..I agreed, we talked for like 5 days after and she was always pissed at me and acted like she hated me..we did no contact again, and then she got asked to prom by someone who I’m good friends with…me and him talked about her and I wanted him to make me a promise to take care of her and stuff..I always talked about her… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor
you have to be serious in no contact.. as you see, chasing her is not doing any good.. nc, is the only other option now that seems like the best choice… stop chasing her and improve yourself for yourself because you have to be emotionally more stable.. I know this will hurt but you have to hear it.. if you’re the chaser, of course you’re not going to be chased.. It has to be a balance between the two of you.. you have to gain self esteem and confidence.. you have to risk losing her.. because that’s how attraction goes..… Read more »
Pearse
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Hi my ex gf of 5 years broke up with me 4 months ago due to loss of attraction. After thinking it was because I became complacent and took relationship for granted and let my own standards slip so it was my own fault. As it came out of nowhere It hit me hard and instead of leaving her be I begged, pleaded with her to get back together for the last 3 months to the point where she said i was to leave her alone for a while. I am 1 week into no contact but I need to… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Pearse,

be productive and improve yourself.. try to build yoir own life while in no contact and be active in posting to show you’re moving on to increase the chance of her missing you

ANTON
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Hi Chris, I really need help getting my ex back. I live in the uk. I had been in a relationship for 4 and a half years until last Friday. We had lived together since last June. Things got stale between us. This is the story. I met my ex in the local shop, and I had been single for about 4 – 5 months. I started talking to her on facebook and we soon got together. Things were great. I have a son from my previous relationship and in the last 4 and a half years he became like… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Anton,
sorry for the late reply.. I hope you’re still being active in nc..

Phil
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Hi I have been on this site a lot since my girlfriend and I broke up. Its been a month i have to admit ‘ve begged and been pretty pitiful a bit. The reason she ended things was that she said she didn’t want a relationship with anyone. I’m starting to believe it finally. However she does get a lot of attention from other guys and is rough. I just don’t want to lose her. The last time we spoke was 3 days ago (I started nc) and I was kinda pathetic and it ended in her saying she didn’t… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Sorry for the late reply phil.. focus on yourself in nc.. go to the gym, do the things you keep putting off, meet new people, and then post it in social media…

Ethan
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Hi Chris, So about a month ago my girlfriend (18) broke up with me (19) after a good run of 2 and half years. We were dating long distance, and she had visited many times while we were together but in the end she said she didn’t see it working out in the future. She said the commute wasn’t affordable, that she felt like I wasn’t doing enough and that she had to focus on her own happiness for a while. She was really calm about it, and said she wanted to stay good friends. And I guess I wasn’t… Read more »
Ethan
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She also said that she is just as hurt about it as I am, and that she knows we had something together. Very mixed messages, but I think this may just be a rebound relationship. Seeing as that’s the case, I bought your e-book and struggled to find very concrete courses of action for situations where my ex was seeing somebody new. I’m getting nervous that time won’t do me much justice to try to get closer to her.

EGR Team Member: Amor
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Hi Ethan,

sorry for the late reply.. that means you have to focus on improving yourself during nc.. don’t think about her much and then you are going to reconnect and appear as friends only because if she sees that you’re still not over her she will protect her current relationship

ryan
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Hi about 2 weeks ago me and my girlfriend separated the reasoning behind why we separated was because she was out with her friends family and I had been out for a couple of drinks with my family, so when I got home she told me she was still out a pub not far away so I told her I was catching a taxi to have a couple of drinks with her. When I eventually got there I went inside and could not find her until I rung her and was told that she had left to go back to… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Ryan,

let’s wait for a week for now if she cools down if not, that’s when you do nc

Xander
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Me and my ex gf of three years split on the 1st Feb. Everything was fine and we were always really lose. We had a future planned together and we had just been away. She always told me how much better I was then all of the other men ect. We had a two week period which I suppose has probably been the only rough patch we’ve ever had. I had a really busy two weeks at uni and work and wasn’t getting in until later so we had gone from seeing and sleeping with each other seven days a… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Xander,

yes, continue with no contact.. I think she realized she can’t move in yet..maybe she’s not emotionally ready yet

Gatlin C
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CHICKEN RAMEN NOODLES!! Hey Chris my name is Gatlin Capra.. Sorry for that bit of randomness but I hope it caught your attention. I am in DESPERATE need of some real advice. So let me explain my situation. I am 19, my ex is about to be 18. We dated for 13 months and then I had to move from Texas (where she lives) to Kentucky. We continued to date for 4 more months in a LDR. We’ll eventually she told me that she felt the distance was becoming too much for her since I couldn’t physically be there for… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor
Hi Gaitlin, She confessed she still likes you right? But she doesn’t want to get back together because of the distance? It’s okay that you told her you need space.. at least you didn’t tell her how long.. it can make her miss you and she would understand if you don’t reply because you said, you needed space.. But if she really begs to talk, talk. Make it clear that if she wants to go back, you can work things out but you’re not rushing her. Tell her you’re not comfortable about her seeing another guy..but your respect her decisions,… Read more »
Erick
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I already commented but I don’t see my comment so I’ll assume it didn’t go through. I’ll start from the beginning. I’ll just copy and paste what I said to someone else. My ex’s name is Corina, just in case I used her name through my giant mass of text. So months ago I told her I lost feelings. I didn’t know what it meant but after a week, I brushed it off and fixed things with her. This wasn’t true, as I was only ignoring the problem and saving it for later because I didn’t get over it. Last… Read more »
Erick
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Hey, I’m new to sites like this, I never pictured I’d need advice from one. I’m 17 years old and a senior in high school, with my now ex girlfriend a 16 year old junior. We were together for 1 year and 9 months perfectly but I basically messed everything up by conveying possible doubt in our relationship. I hear people say things like don’t marry your first love and to look for more that’s out there, so I started to wonder if maybe my love was just me being naive and stupid. I told her this and explained that… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Erick,
It would be tricky to implement no contact in your case because you’re not just classmates, you also sot with each other.The only thing you can do that is close to that is to limit your talk time with her and don’t hang out with her group in the mean time.You can do your idea, just don’t tell her that you’re improving yourself for her or for the relationahip because it’s like you’re making her think the improvement is not for yourself.. It’s better of you just show the improvement.

Bob
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Hi chris me and my girlfriend broke up when i hurt/upset her during texting her we was having are ups and downs breaking up and getting back together but this time i got blocked and i had to use a games console device to messeged them and appoligize to unblock me. They eventually unblocked me but after i wrote a big sorry messege she told me we are finished. Thats when i started begging them for 3 days kept trying my luck till the point were she told me not to text her unless if you need help for work,… Read more »
Bob
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Also i replied back saying “I know we are finished im just saying if you swear at a girl you will never get her back but now i know soo im not gonah make that mistake with my new one in the future ygm” And second messege “You was my first i learnt alot ygm. Im going to move on find somone else cuz we finished like u said for the 100th time” Third messege “I thought we could be friends but u fink im tryna get back with you” She replied back saying ” ah right” And i aint… Read more »
EGR Team Member: Amor
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EGR Team Member: Amor

Hi Bob

Well we can’t recommend it will work 100% but she got annoyed so nc is the most probable next step